- Video by Malawi WathuZizolowezi zolimbana ndi zolaula sizitengera kugonana: SASH Conference, 2015
- ZOCHITIKA (2018): Phunziro limapeza Kusiyanasiyana pakati pa kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula ndi mitundu ina ya zovuta zogonana, ndipo ofufuza amafunsa ngati kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kuyenera kugawidwa padera ndi chiwerewere ("chizolowezi chogonana"): Magazini imodzi ndi yakuti zolaula zogwiritsidwa ntchito zingaganizedwe kukhala magulu a chiwerewere ngati chiyanjano ndi kukhudzidwa ndi kukhudzidwa sizowoneka ngati zowonongeka kale [monga momwe ziliri mu phunziro lino]. Nkhani yachiwiri-yomwe ingagwirizane ndi kugawidwa kwa zolaula zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pansi pa ambulera ya chiwerewere-ndi momwe zolaula zimagwiritsira ntchito (makamaka zovuta zolaula pa Intaneti) zingakhale bwino.
- ZOCHITIKA (2018) Akatswiri amanena lingaliro lokhazikitsidwa ndi physiology kusiyanitsa "omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula" ndi "osokoneza bongo": Tikukonzekera kuti tiyambe kufufuza pazokambirana ngati tsogolo lofotokozedwa ndi khalidwe lachiwerewere lingathe kudziwika ndi chikhalidwe chapamwamba chofunafuna ndi chisokonezo chodziwika bwino monga momwe bungwe la RDS linakhalira, pamene chigawo chokhala ndi zovuta zowononga zolaula komanso zochitika zogonana zimatha kudziwika mmalo mwa kuwonjezeka kwachidziwitso chogonjetsa chidziwitso cha zochitika zowonongeka ndi zopindulitsa popanda kusokoneza kwa madera a mphoto.
- ZOCHITIKA (2022) Phunziro limapeza kusiyana pakati pa omwerekera ndi zolaula: "Poyerekeza OCSB [okonda zolaula] ndi odwala omwe si a OCSB [okonda kugonana], zotsatira zasonyeza kuti odwala omwe si a OCSB amawonetsa kuchuluka kwa matenda opatsirana pogonana, chiwerengero chachikulu cha kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kukhala ndi nkhawa zambiri komanso kulephera kudziletsa.
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CHIKHALIDWE: Kugonana kwa kugonana kumafuna anthu enieni; Kuchita zachiwerewere kumafuna chinsalu
Kugawana 'zolaula pa intaneti' komanso 'chizolowezi chogonana' pansi pa Ambulera Yokonda Kugonana kumapangitsa kuti zomwe zimawoneka kuti zisawonekere chifukwa chizolowezi chogonana ndichosowa kwambiri. Zotsatira zake, othandizira azaumoyo amakonda kusazindikira omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zolaula, zomwe zimabweretsa chithandizo chosagwira ntchito. Mwachitsanzo, achichepere, omwe amakhala ndi zolaula amakhala ndi vuto la erectile amapatsidwa mankhwala m'malo mwa uphungu kuti athetse zolaula. Ena amachiritsidwa chifukwa chovutika maganizo, kusungulumwa kapena kusokoneza maganizo m'malo moledzera omwe angayambitse zizindikiro zawo.
Kusiyanitsa pakati pa zizoloŵezi zolaula ndi kuledzera kwakukulu kumakhala kwakukulu, monga momwe zikuwonetsedwera mwazidziwitso izi:
Wogonana (wazaka 35): Ndimakhala wotopa komanso wotsika chifukwa usiku wapitawu ndimafuna kugonana osadziwika. Chifukwa chake ndimabwerera pa intaneti. Mkazi akuyang'ana kuti agwirizane mosadziwika. Amandiuza kuti ndibwere, ndiye ndimatenga makondomu. Ndikupita, amandilembera mameseji ndikundiuza kuti ndikatenge pizza. WTF? Izi ndizodabwitsa, koma chiyembekezo chofuna kudziwika ndi kugonana kwachilendo sichingafanane pano. Komabe, poopa kuti andibera, ndimamuuza kuti ndikufuna ndikumane naye kaye. Chitseko chimatseguka ndipo mkati mwake muli mdima wambiri kupatula kuwala kwa kompyuta. Sindingamuone kwenikweni, koma ndimayenda m'njira iliyonse. Akuti, "Tawonani zomwe ndavala. Zosangalatsa eti? ” Koma ndi liwu lakuya ... ndi wachinyamata! Ndipo SHE akuti, "Izi sizabwino sichoncho?" Ndikuganiza kuti ndingomugulira pizza chifukwa chokoma mtima ndikutuluka kumeneko. Kenako ndimamva wina akusuntha m'chipinda chakumbuyo. Ndimakhala wamantha kwambiri ndikunyamuka kunyumba, ndikusangalala kuti sindikuchita nawo seweroli ndikukhala ndi ndalama. Ndimangogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndikugona.
Wokonda zachiwerewere: Ndine 23. Ndidayesa koyamba kugonana ndili ndi zaka 18, koma sindinathe. Ndakhala ndikuseweretsa maliseche pafupifupi tsiku lililonse kwa zaka 6, nthawi zambiri ndimagwira mwamphamvu komanso zowonetsa zolaula, kangapo patsiku. Ndinagonana ndi anzanga anayi m'moyo wanga ndipo sindinafikepo pachimake ndi aliyense wa iwo. Mwachidule, moyo wanga wogonana wakhala wokhumudwitsa. Zowonadi, chibwenzi changa chomaliza chidatha chifukwa cha zovuta zakumangirira. Anandinena kuti ndine gay. Ndidadziwa kuti izi sizowona ndipo andikhulupirira bwanji ngati thupi langa silikuwoneka kuti limamukonda?
Wokonda zolaula (wazaka 25): Kodi ndizotheka kukhala osokoneza bongo koma osagonana? Ndikudziwa kuti sindingathe kuwonera zolaula, kapena kuseweretsa maliseche ndi malingaliro. Koma nditatha kugonana ndimakhutitsidwa kwambiri. Nthawi zina ndimakhala ndi moyo wopanda sabata. Inenso sindinachitiridwe nkhanza zaubwana, kotero sindikuganiza kuti ndikuthawa kukumbukira zakale. Ambiri omwe ali ndi vuto logonana lomwe ndimadziwa pamsonkhano wa SLAA nawonso amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Sindinakhalepo ndi chilakolako chomwa mowa kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ngakhale ndimamwa mowa kwambiri kamodzi kanthawi. Sindichita manyazi ndi zolaula zanga ndipo sindinachitepo. Komanso, a Patrick Carnes akuti chikhulupiriro chachikulu cha omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi "Palibe amene angandikonde ngati atandidziwa monga momwe ndilili". Ndikudziwa kuti sizowona chifukwa anzanga komanso anzanga amadziwa za zomwe ndimakonda ndipo sindinakumanepo nazo chifukwa cha izi. Inde ndili ndi mavuto mozungulira anthu ndipo sindine wolimba mtima, koma ndikukhulupirira kuti ndichifukwa chothamangira komanso nthawi yochuluka patsogolo pamakompyuta ndikuyanjana ndi anthu enieni. Zolakalaka zanga ndi njira yokhayo yopulumukira kuzowona ndikuthana ndi kupsinjika-galimoto yothandiza kwambiri komanso yosangalatsa kuthana ndi zenizeni. Kunena zowona sindimaganiza kuti ndine 'wokonda zogonana.'
Nazi njira zina zolaula zosiyana ndi kugonana:
1. Kugonana kumakhudza anthu enieni; Zizolowezi zolaula pa intaneti zimaphatikizapo chinsalu. Anthu osokoneza bongo amakhala ndi mapikiselo / kusaka / zachilendo zowoneka bwino. Mosiyana ndi izi, omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zachiwerewere amakonda anzawo, voyeurism, nyumba zazing'onoting'ono, zachiwerewere, zogonana zowopsa, ndi zina zotero; zolaula zitha kuwonjezera kapena kuwonetsa machitidwe ena.
2. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kumafanana kwambiri ndimasewera amakanema kuposa makonda achiwerewere. Nthawi zambiri sikumangotuluka muzogonana zina. M'malo mwake, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ambiri sangathe kudzutsidwa ndi akazi enieni-ngakhale akazi omwe amawakopa. Kuyerekeza munthu wokonda zolaula ndi chiwerewere kuli ngati kufananiza World wa Warcraft wokonda kwambiri Las Vegas mkulu-roller.
3. Anthu omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti amakonda kunena kuti akufuna bwenzi lokhazikika, kapena, ngati ali ndi wokwatirana naye, akufuna kuti agonane naye pano. Omwe akugonana ndi amuna amafuna kugonana. Amagwiritsidwa ntchito polemba anthu amtundu wina m'malo mojambulira mapepala.
4. Zovuta zakugonana ndizodandaula pakati pa omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti. Sitimamva zovuta zakugonana pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto logonana.
5. Zizolowezi zolaula zimawoneka kuti zikuchulukirachulukira popeza mwayi wopezeka zolaula pazaka zaunyamata ukuwonjezeka, ngakhale anyamata ena achikulire nawonso akuti akuyamba pambuyo kusintha kwa intaneti kwambiri.
Mwachidule, kufunafuna anthu amoyo kumakhala kopambana, pomwe zolaula zimasowa zochita za 3-D. Mwakutero, zolaula zimatsimikizira "kugonana" kwa ogwiritsa ntchito ambiri. Kodi izi zitha kuchitika bwanji?
Zolaula pa intaneti: kwambiri zachilendo zachilengedwe reinforcer
Zaka makumi angapo zapitazi, mphoto zachilengedwe zachilengedwe monga chakudya ndi kugonana zakhala zikugwirizana ndi ena zachilendo wachibale. Amatsengawa amayenda mofanana ndi mausalimo omwe amachititsa kuti ubongo wathu usinthike. Ubongo wathu wamagetsi timakonda iwo-Ndipo amakonda kunyalanyaza zovuta zawo.
Mwachitsanzo, zoperekedwa ndi mitundu yambiri yazakudya zotsika mtengo, zokoma, zopatsa mphamvu kwambiri, 79 peresenti ya achikulire aku America ndi onenepa kwambiri, ndipo ena makumi atatu mwa anthu atatu aliwonse amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito izi (kunenepa kwambiri), ngakhale zovuta zoyipa zathupi, chikhalidwe ndi malingaliro. "Osokoneza" ndi a nthawi yachipatala apa, osati fanizo. Zikutanthauza kuti ubongo wa ogula wasintha mofanana ndi momwe munthu woledzera amachitira.
Zokakamiza zogonana zawonongeka. Kwa zaka zosachepera khumi ndi ziwiri, iwo omwe ali ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri atha kugwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu yaulere, yapaintaneti. Monga zakudya zamasiku ano zopanda pake, ndizolimbikitsa mwapadera m'mabuku a mbiri ya anthu. Zotsatira? Mwa anyamata achichepere, zolaula zimafanana ndikupezeka pa intaneti. Zowonadi kafukufuku deta yasonkhanitsidwa Zaka 5 zapitazo zaulula kale kuti 9 mwa amuna azaka 10 zakukoleji (ndipo pafupifupi theka la azimayi) anali kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti. Mitundu yakale yazowopsa zauchidakwa zimakhazikitsidwa ndi zinthu, osati lero Mabaibulo apamwamba chakudya ndi kugonana, choncho akatswiri ambiri amaphunzitsidwa kuti zovuta zogonana ndizosawerengeka.
Tsoka, ngati mabwalo ochezera pa intaneti akuwonetsa chilichonse, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano akudandaula kwambiri kuti (1) sangathe Imani kuyang'ana, ndi (2) zikulepheretsa chitukuko chawo chachizolowezi chibwenzi ndi luso la kugonana. Ndi angati omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti masiku ano omwe ayamba chizolowezi palibe amene akudziwa, koma kuchuluka kwa omwe ali ndi vuto la intaneti mwa achinyamata akudumpha. A Phunziro lachi Hungary posachedwapa ananena kuti mmodzi mwa achinyamata asanu ali ndi ziwalo kale. (Ubongo wa achinyamata ndi kusonyeza zofanana zokhudzana ndi zoledzeretsa.)
Ndinazindikiranso kuti ndingathe kudzifikitsa pamtunda pokhapokha ndikuwonetsa-popanda kugwiritsa ntchito dzanja langa konse. Malingaliro anga anali atabwereranso kudalira mafano oopsa omwe anadyetsedwa kwa iwo ndi maso anga kuti atulutse.-Wopusa pa Intaneti pa Intaneti
Kodi zolaula za pa intaneti zitha kupitirira kuchuluka kwa kunenepa kwambiri m'magulu ena pano popeza zolaula zapaintaneti zikufalikira kuposa china chilichonse chothandizira kupatula zakudya zopanda pake? Mwina. Kupatula apo, ubongo mwachilengedwe umatulutsa dopamine yochulukirapo kuposa momwe amachitira pakudya. (Kutulutsidwa kwa Dopamine panthawi yogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti sikunayesedwe, pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana ndi zina.) Komanso, pali malire pamankhwala ogwiritsira ntchito, koma palibe owonera zolaula. Komanso, ngakhale palibe amene akufuna kunenepa, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumakhala kovomerezeka pakati pa anthu tsiku lililonse.
Chifukwa chiyani kuzolowera zolaula sikungokhala "chizolowezi chogonana?"
"Chizolowezi chogonana" chikuwoneka chachilendo. Dr. Carnes adaziwerenga kwazaka zambiri. Ntchito yake ikuwulula kuti iwo omwe, monga ana, adanyalanyazidwa, kuzunzidwa, kuzunzidwa, kugwiriridwa, kapena kuchitiridwa nkhanza kapena / kapena chiwerewere ali achichepere ali pachiwopsezo chokhala ndi chizolowezi chogonana (chomwe ndi chizolowezi chogonana mosasamala / kuwotcha / voyeurism ). Amagwiritsa ntchito kugonana ngati njira yodzipangira mankhwala kuti athawe, kuti athetse ululu wawo wamaganizidwe akumva kukhala osatetezeka komanso okondedwa osakwanira.
Ogwiritsa ntchito zithunzi omwe amayendera Webusaiti yathu nthawi zambiri sizigwirizana ndi mbiriyi, ngakhale amadzizindikira kuti ndi osokoneza. Mwa mtundu wa Carnes, omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo omwe akuchira amafunikira zaka zitatu kapena zisanu, komanso chithandizo chochuluka kuti abwezeretse ubale wathanzi m'miyoyo yawo. Mosiyana ndi izi, alendo athu ambiri amachira, ngakhale atakhala ndi zowawa monga zolaula, zomwe zimachitika miyezi iwiri kapena inayi. Zizindikiro zobwerera mmbuyo zimatha kukhala zovuta, koma pamapeto pake anyamata ambiri amabwerera kumakhalidwe awo azolaula asanachitike.
Omwe akugonjetsa kugonana amayenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama ndipo nthawi zambiri amaika chiopsezo kapena matenda oti athe kuchita. Owerenga zithunzi amangogwiritsa ntchito zojambula zawo zonse kuti athe kukonzekera. N'zosadabwitsa kuti, kwambiri anyamata pansi pa zaka zina akugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, ambiri mochulukirapo, mosasamala kanthu za ubwana-mawonekedwe achisokonezo. Ubongo wangwiro wathanzi (ndi wokalamba) ndi mwachibadwa Kuonera zolaula zapaintaneti zosokoneza, zachilendo, kugonana, komanso kupezeka kwaulere.
Ngakhale kuti wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwambiri sagwiritsanso ntchito malongosoledwe achizolowezi ogonana a Carnes, zolaula zimapitilizabe kukhala ndi chizolowezi chogonana ndi akatswiri komanso atolankhani omwe amadalira. Kuganizira zakumwa zolaula pa intaneti ngati "gawo" lachiwerewere (chosowa kwambiri) kumachepetsa kuwoneka kwake. Katswiri wina anatitsimikizira kuti popeza chizolowezi chogonana sichichitika kawirikawiri, kuchuluka kwa anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, "ndikuchepa". Ah?
Tidamvanso akatswiri akunena kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti omwe sagwirizane ndi mbiri yakukula kwaubwana wa omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula sangathe khalani osokonezeka, ngakhale ngati ogwiritsa ntchito omwe amakhulupirira kuti ali. Akatswiriwa amaumirira kuti zolaula zimangokhalapo chifukwa cha ena ena matenda (monga chizolowezi chogonana, ADHD, kukhumudwa kapena nkhawa zamagulu). Zili ngati kuyesa kupanikizika ndi masewera amakanema mukamachita masewera osokoneza bongo, kapena kusuta fodya mukamamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Izi zimabisa zenizeni ndipo zimasiya anthu omwe ndi "olungama" zolaula amakonda kuzizira.
Kodi "zovuta zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi" zitha kufotokozera bwanji zolaula pakati pa achinyamata omwe sadziwa zambiri? Ambiri mwa achinyamata ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amakopa okoma mtima. Amangodabwitsidwa ndi kuti ma penise awo amangoyankha zolaula osati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mwachidule, sagwirizana ndi 'zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana'.
Mwinanso chifukwa cha malingaliro opanda ungwiro oterewa, kafukufuku wazotsatira zakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti akucheperachepera chifukwa cha zomwe zikuchitikazo. Komabe, "kuledzera" kuli kofala mokwanira kuti ayenerere kuyankhula kwa TED ndi Katswiri wa zamaganizidwe a Philip Zimbardo: "Kufunsira kwa Atsikana. "
Mwamwayi chifukwa cha tsogolo labwino la anthu, a American Society of Addiction Medicine posachedwapa anatsimikizira kuti kuledzera kungakhale zoyambirira matenda. Ndi ntchito ya ubongo amasintha-mosasamala kanthu za kukula kwa ubwana, komanso ngati mankhwalawa amatha kukhala ndi makhalidwe omwe anthu amavomereza kuti ndi ovomerezeka / osavomerezeka.
Mfundo yofunika kwambiri: Kusowa kwa chiwerewere cha kugonana sikunagwirizane ndi kafukufuku wamatenda ambiri a pa Intaneti (ngakhale kuti anthu ena omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso, ndipo ena omwe amadwala zolaula amakhala ndi vuto lachinyamata). Zizoloŵezi zazing'ono zingathe kukhala ndi zifukwa zofanana ndizo zomwe zimayambitsa zakudya: (1) mowa mopitirira muyeso wa ubongo, (2) ubongo zomwe mwachibadwa zimawona zovuta zowonjezereka, ndi / kapena 3 paunyamata, pamene ubongo uli makamaka pulasitiki ndipo ambiri amayesetsa kufunafuna zosangalatsa ndi zachilendo.
Kutsutsana "maliseche" komanso "zolaula" kumabisa zolaula
Akatswiri onse komanso achinyamata omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula amalephera kusiyanitsa "zolaula pa intaneti" ndi "maliseche." Akatswiri (mibadwo yakale) amaganiza zolaula pa intaneti ngati njira ina yothandizira kuseweretsa maliseche. Mosiyana ndi izi, mibadwo yaying'ono sadziwa kuti kuseweretsa maliseche ndizotheka. Amalumikizidwa ndi zachilendo kwambiri pawebusayiti ndipo zowoneka zowopsa nthawi zambiri. Ambiri sanachitepo maliseche mwanjira ina iliyonse. Talingalirani zoyesayesa zodabwitsa za mnyamatayu:
Patatha milungu iwiri nditasiya zolaula, ndinayesa chinthu china chosiyana kwambiri ndi maliseche osachita zolaula zomwe sindinaganizepo (ndimakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti). Patatha masiku awiri, ndinawonjezera zolaula ndikubwerera.
Zochitika ziwirizi zinali zosiyana kwambiri. Kugonana kokha kumasoko kunali pafupi kudabwitsa pamapeto, chifukwa ndinalibe chibwibwi, palibe kusintha kwa maganizo. Icho chinakhala kukhala kumverera kokoma, kokondweretsa.
Koma mwina zidayambitsa zolaula / maliseche, zomwe zimamveka ngati ndili pa DRUG. Chithunzi chilichonse chimasandutsa thupi langa kuphulika, chilichonse chatsopano champhamvu kuposa chomaliza. Ndimamva kuti "dope surge" yodziwika imayenda kuchokera muubongo wanga kudutsa mthupi langa. Ndimamva ndikumva ZONSE mwamphamvu kwambiri. Pazosangalatsa, zinali ngati mtambo wonyenga udandigwera, ndipo chilichonse chidachita dzanzi. Kumverera kofooka kumeneku kunatenga masiku osachepera awiri.
Kuthetsa maliseche komanso kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kumapangitsa kuti pakhale kulumikizana kowopsa. Timamva zochitika zotsatirazi mobwerezabwereza pamsonkhano wathu: Mnyamata yemwe akuvutika kuti sangakhale ndi zovuta zofananira amafunsira kwa urologist. Ngati angaganize kufunsa ngati kuseweretsa maliseche (mawu akuti "maola ogwiritsira ntchito zolaula tsiku lililonse pa intaneti") kumayambitsa vutoli, urologist amayankha, "kuseweretsa maliseche (mawu oti" kugonana kwachikale ") sikungayambitse ED (kapena chizolowezi chanu china -ngati zizindikiro), kotero china chake chikuyambitsa mavuto anu. Nawa mapiritsi oyeserera a Cialis ndikuwatumizira azachipatala. ” Mnyamatayo achoka, akukhulupirira kuti mavuto ake alibe mankhwala, ndikupitiliza kukulitsa vuto lake kuwopa kuti akapanda kuzigwiritsa ntchito ataya.
Akatswiriwo akunena zoona m'njira imodzi: Kugwiritsa ntchito maliseche kumakhala kosowa popanda zolaula pa intaneti. Zolaula zamasiku ano sizongothandiza chabe maliseche. Imasintha malingaliro ndi ma tabu angapo, kusaka mosalekeza, kutumiza mwachangu kumalo abwino, momwe owonera ndi zina zotero. Ndizosiyana, komanso zina zambiri neurochemically seductive, kulimbitsa mtima kuposa kungogonana ndi azimayi okhaokha.
Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwamasiku ano kumapitilira mphotho yamankhwalawa. Anyamata samachita maliseche kuti afike pachimake pakuwonera kuntchito, kugawana matelefoni awo, akuuluka mu ndege, kapena pakapita maola ambiri pamene mukusambira.
Chisokonezo chachikulu chokhudza zolaula chikuwoneka kuti chimachokera pamalingaliro olakwika, omwe amanyalanyaza mfundo yayikulu. Zimayamba ndikulingalira koyenera kuti maliseche ndi achilengedwe ndipo anthu samakonda kuzolowera. Zimapitilira poganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti sikungapangitse chilichonse kukhala ndi nkhonya zambiri zamagulu kuposa ziwalo zina. Amaliza kunena kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula sikungakhale kosokoneza bongo.
Nayi vuto: Chizolowezi chake ndichachidziwikire osati womangidwa ndi kukula kwa mphamvu ya dopamine. Ndudu, mwachitsanzo, zimakola pafupifupi 80% ya omwe amaziyesa, pomwe ma heroin amangogwiritsa ntchito ogwiritsa ntchito ochepa. Mwachiwonekere, mphamvu ya dopamine ya ndudu ndiyochepa poyerekeza ndi mphamvu ya dopamine ya heroin yowombera. Kukopa kwa ndudu kumadalira kuthekera kwawo kuphunzitsa ubongo ndi kuwomba kulikonse (kugunda kwa dopamine). Chifukwa chaichi, mphamvu zawo zogwiritsanso ntchito ubongo kuti zikhale zosokoneza bongo sizingayesedwe ndi mphamvu yawo yokhudzana ndi ubongo. Mfundo iyi yapangidwa m'buku la David Linden Compass of Pleasure.
Kugonana kumatha kukhala kofanana ndi chizolowezi cha heroin popeza pali malire oti munthu amatha kukonza kangati, ndipo munthu amene amakonda kumwa mankhwalawa nthawi zambiri amafunika kukonzekera. Komabe, zolaula pa intaneti zimawoneka ngati zogwirizana ndi kusuta. Chithunzi chilichonse chopezeka mosavuta, chimapereka phokoso laling'ono, lopindulitsa la dopamine, lomwe limaphunzitsa ubongo kubwereza zomwe amachita, osati mosiyana ndi kuwomba kulikonse.
Mwachidule, sikuti kuphulika kwamankhwala osokoneza bongo komwe kumapangitsa kuti anthu azigwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, ngakhale zili choncho zimalimbikitsanso kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula. Chikopa cholimba kwambiri ndi zokhalapo zatsopano zolaula pa intaneti. N'zosadabwitsa kuti pamene munthu ayesa "kuyambiranso" ubongo wake, izi zimachitika kawirikawiri:
Ngakhale kuti ndakhala ndikulimbikitsidwa kwambiri pa zolaula panthawiyi, sindinakhale ndi chilakolako champhamvu chodzisangalatsa. Mwinamwake izi ndizofunika kwambiri, kuti ubongo wanga umasowa zolaula kusiyana ndi momwe amachitira ndi maliseche / orgasm.
Anthu omwe ali ndi zolaula masiku ano amafanana kwambiri ndi omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito makanema apaintaneti, chifukwa (kapena iye) amadalira ma mini-dopamine omwe amawoneka pafupipafupi kuchokera pazowoneka zosangalatsa. Monga masewera apakanema, zolaula pa intaneti ndizosangalatsa. Palibe chifukwa chofunira mnzanu weniweni. Amakhalanso ngati wokonda kudya chifukwa zolaula pa intaneti zimasokoneza chilimbikitso chathu chachilengedwe (kuberekana) pogwiritsa ntchito njira yolimbikitsira yomwe imagwiritsanso ntchito pazinthu zomwe timapanga mwatsopano ndi kufunafuna.
Wokongola kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi
Omwe amamwa zolaula samakonda kugonana; ali ndi zizolowezi zolaula pa intaneti. Sanaphunzitsidwe zogonana, koma zolimbikitsa. Nawa ndemanga za atatu:
Ndinadziŵa kuti ndinali muvuto pamene moyo weniweni atsikana ataima wamaliseche patsogolo panga sankandimenya, koma posachedwa ndinalumphira pa kompyuta ndipo ndinayang'ana zolaula ndinasangalala ndikugwedezeka mwamphamvu.
[Masabata nditasiya zolaula] Ndakhala ndikulakalaka akazi enieni kwanthawi yoyamba. Ndizachilendo, koma ndimakonda zolaula pomwe ndimakhala zolaula.
Ndikuyembekeza kuswa zolaula zaka 30 zomwe, mwa zina, zandipangitsa kukhala namwali wazaka 40. Ndinayamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndili ndi zaka 12-13, ndimakonda kujambula zithunzi zongopeka za akazi okhaokha (azimayi oyenerera / athanzi ndi / kapena ma boobs akulu), osatulutsidwa popanda zolaula, ndipo ndimazigwiritsa ntchito pafupipafupi. Ndakhala ndi mwayi ndi akazi angapo, koma ndinali dud wathunthu. Kumayambiriro kwa chaka chino, ndinali ndi vuto lina lochita ndi mayi yemwe ndimamukonda pang'ono, ndipo nditatha zaka 30 ndidaganiza zochitapo kanthu. Vuto ndilakuti, ndikuganiza sindinakhalepo ndi njira "zoyenera" zamaubongo azomwe zimakhalira kwenikweni kugona ndi mnzanu. Palibe ngakhale njira yakale, yodutsidwayo yoti mubwererenso; silinakhaleko. Ndine masiku 33 zolaula / maliseche kwaulere. Koma nditatseka msewu wanga wapano, ndimamva ngati ndazunguliridwa ndi nkhalango zowirira pomwe phazi silinapikepopo. Ndipo ine wopanda ngakhale chikwanje, ndikawona ngati ndikufunikiradi unyolo wa unyolo ndi bulldozer.
Malingana ngati zolaula sizikhala zosaoneka, ogwiritsa ntchito omwe amakhala ndi zizindikilo ali pangozi. Ayenera kudzipangira okha, ndipo sikophweka kulumikiza madontho pakati pa zolaula mavuto osagonana (kapena nkhawa zokhudzana ndi zolaula, kuvutika maganizo kapena mavuto a msinkhu) ndi kuona zolaula. Ndipotu, zolaula pa intaneti ndizovuta kwambiri. Zimapangitsanso wogwiritsa ntchito kumverera bwino pamene mukuwonera. N'zosadabwitsa kuti ogwiritsa ntchito mwachidwi amati zizindikiro zawo zimaperekedwa chifukwa china chilichonse, kapena amangonena kuti, "Izi ndi zomwe ine ndili."
Pakadali pano, ndondomeko za akatswiri komanso atolankhani otsogola akupanga maulendo a ambiri omwe ali pachiwopsezo chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kwanthawi yayitali. Kuphatikiza apo, iwo omwe amafunikira thandizo lochulukirapo, chifukwa amadzichiritsa okha chifukwa cha zovuta zaubwana nawonso akugwidwa muukonde wa "zolaula zilibe vuto". Kuphatikiza apo, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mapikiselo, osati anthu — ndipo ena amadzutsidwa mwankhanza pamene sangakwanitse, kapena kusangalala ndi kugonana kwenikweni. Kodi ogwiritsa awa akuyenera kudikirira mpaka atakhala osokoneza bongo kuti ayambirenso ubongo wawo?
Ndakhala ndikuvutika ndi nkhawa komanso kudzidalira kwazaka zambiri. Ndinkaganiza kuti zina zake zinali chifukwa cha PMO koma nthawi zonse ndimamva kuti zinali zovuta kusiya. Zaka zingapo zapitazo ndidasiya pafupifupi miyezi 3 ndikusangalala kuposa momwe ndidakhalira moyo wanga wonse. Ndinkacheza ndi anthu, ndinkacheza ndi akazi, ndipo ndinali wolimba mtima kuposa kale lonse. Komabe… pazifukwa zilizonse zosungulumwa… kapena chizolowezi… ndinabwereranso. Ndinayamba kuvutika maganizo kwambiri ndipo mpaka ndinaganiza zodzipha. Kuyambira pamenepo zakhala zovuta ... mpaka pano! Ndili tsiku la 21 kukhala PMO mfulu ndipo sindikuyang'ana kumbuyo!
Nditadutsa gawo la masabata a 2 ndidayamba kuwona kuchepa kwa nkhawa, kudzidalira, komanso kutulutsa mawu. Ndikumva ngati kuti ndikukhalanso wabwinobwino-monga momwe ndiyenera kukhalira. Azimayi akundiwonanso ndipo ndimatha kukambirana nawo moona mtima. Ndikumva ngati ndikulumikizana ndi anthu ambiri bwino. Ndikumachita bwino pamasewera. Ndikumva kukhala wamphamvu, wachangu komanso wakuthwa. Zili ngati kuti nkhungu yakwezedwa! Ndili ndi zaka 29 ndipo tsopano ndimamva ngati ndili ndi mphamvu zomwe ndinali nazo ndili wachinyamata. Cholinga changa ndikukhala PMO kwaulere pamoyo wanga wonse. Mphamvu yomwe ndimamva kuti ndiyolimba kuposa chisangalalo chotsika mtengo chomwe PMO imabweretsa. Ndikuyembekezera kukhala ndi moyo ndipo sindidzabisalinso. Kubwezeretsa kuwongolera ndichinthu chomwe chimamasula kwambiri chomwe ndidakhala nacho kwakanthawi.
Mutu: aliyense ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana?
momwe ndimayang'anirako, ngati mukugonjetsa kugonana ndikusangalala ndi zomwe mumachita, bwanji mukuimitsa? osati monga zolaula pamene mukuyang'anitsitsa pakompyuta. akazi anu enieni akutha! chikondi chomwe inu muli!
GUY 2)
Kunena zowona, monga munthu yemwe amakonda kwambiri zolaula kwa zaka zambiri zaunyamata wanga mpaka pano ndipo chifukwa chake, sindinayambe ndagonanapo - sindingathe kulingalira zomwe anthu amakamba pankhani zakugonana . Ndikuganiza kuti sindingathe kuziyerekeza panthawiyi. Sizikumveka kwa ine.
GUY 3)
Lol ine nayenso !!!
Pakalipano ndikuganiza kuti chizolowezi chogonana chingakhale chabwino koma ndichifukwa choti zikutanthauza kuti sindinachite zolaula zomwe zidapangitsa ED. Ndikulingalira komabe kuti zenizeni zitha kukhala zofananira ndi zolaula - kugonana kumatha kulamulira malingaliro anu ndipo nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito pogonana. Ndikulingalira ngati mutakhala pachibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali ndi munthu amene amakonda kugonana komweko ndiye kuti zingakhale bwino. Ngati sichoncho ndiye ndikuganiza kuti zikhoza kukhala ngati gehena.
Kungolingalira - ndizovuta kuti namwali ayankhe.
GUY 4)
zikuwonekeratu kuti zolaula zamasiku ano ndizopambana, ndizokonda kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti:
Ngati anyamata mukufuna kudziwa chinsinsi changa, sizinali zovuta kwenikweni. Laputopu yanga idathyoka. Zovuta, ndizo zonse zomwe zidatenga. M'nthawi yotentha ndimatha kukhala ngati sabata limodzi kapena ziwiri mpaka kubwereranso, koma laputopu itachoka, ndinali womasuka kunyumba. Kupatula ndikumverera zofuna zakale kuti zibwerere. Osanena kuti ndikupeza pc yatsopano m'masabata awiri otsatira. Ndipezereni kukhudzanso.
zosintha
- Kugonana ndi kugonana / kugonana? Tsambali likulemba Zotsatira za 40 za sayansi (MRI, fMRI, EEG, matenda opatsirana pogonana, mahomoni). Amapereka chithandizo cholimba cha mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo pamene zofukufuku zawo zimagwirizanitsa zochitika za m'maganizo zomwe zimafotokozedwa mu maphunziro osokoneza bongo.
- Malingaliro enieni a akatswiri okhudzana ndi zolaula / kugonana? Mndandanda uwu uli Ndemanga za 20 zaposachedwa & ndemanga ndi ena mwa apamwamba a sayansi ya sayansi padziko lapansi. Zonse zothandizira mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
- Zizindikiro za kuledzera ndi kuchuluka kwa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri? Kupitilira maphunziro a 30 omwe amafotokoza zomwe zikugwirizana ndi kuchuluka kwa zolaula (kulolerana), chizolowezi choonera zolaula, komanso zisonyezo zosiya (zizindikiro zonse ndi zizindikiro zosokoneza bongo).
- Kodi munthu amadziwa bwanji? Mankhwala omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri padziko lonse, Mayiko Akumayiko Onse a Matenda (ICD-11), ali ndi matenda atsopano woyenera kuchita zachiwerewere: "Kugonana Kwachiwerewere. "
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LINK KUGWIRITSA NTCHITO PA PORNFREE: Kodi zoipa zanu, zolaula-zinkasokoneza bwanji zosankha zabwino?