Porn-induced ED - Ok Guys, This works! Seriously!

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sunlight through the cloudsSo, some of you may remember me.  I was here quite a lot and I fretted and worried about my abilities, I gave advice to others, and I learned a lot from this board.  But I want to ensure those that are confused, worried, or unsure. THIS WORKS!  It is NOT easy and relapse WILL happen. But it works.

I was fortunate.  I had a life situation of a job and a woman to help.  The woman ultimately was bad and so was the job, but it proved that EVERYTHING on here is correct.  Abstinence, no porn, no orgasm, and masturbating works! 

I wake up with rock hard daily wood and I have had successful sex numerous times.  My confidence is good.  I am still recovering and still working at it.  It TAKES TIME, like all addictions.  Stick with it!  Things are FAR better than when I was on porn.  Stop Porn!  Stop masturbating!  And stop fantasy! 

Trust me.  This forum and YourBrainOnPorn.com saved me!  It didn't solve WHY I had addictions, but it helped me to enjoy sex and real life again!

Knowing porn addiction can solve your sexual ED issues, but porn addiction hides another problem!  It likely IS NOT your first addiction. What was your first addiction?  Collecting?  Games?  Music?  What was your first obsession and why?  Don't hide your true feelings.     

Enjoy sex again and enjoy life again! 

This works and find out HOW and WHY you turned to porn.  You CAN beat it!  Stay with it!  And know that porn addiction is just a symptom of the true problem!  Why do you use addiction?  Porn, alcohol, drugs?  You can beat this! 

I know now that Porn especially can be beaten!  Stick with it and do not doubt it!  Please! Good luck!

Good luck!

LINK - Ok Guys......This works! Seriously!

by FixItMan - November 27, 2013


QUESTION:

Hey man, that's great news. I'm really happy to hear that :)

I'm unfortunately not familiar with your story and I can see hat you have a somewhat extensive posting history, so I was wondering if you would be so kind as to just type in some bullet points of where you were when you started and where you are today? I.e. libido wise, spontaneous erections, erection strength and so on. Thank you and well done :)

ANSWER:

To be honest, it doesn't matter.  I know you want answers.  I did too, when I first came here.  But the idea is to know that porn IS NOT the answer.  Nor is fantasy.  Embrace REAL LIFE!   I know its hard. I did not suddenly turn into some suave guy that gets all the ladies.  But I at least know that I have a penis that works now! 

Confidence comes in many forms.  And part of the reason I mentioned addictions is that I truly believe this IS NOT the first addiction of most. In hindsight I had more.  If you want to solve PIED, then you can!  If you want to stop self-esteem issues that may go beyond porn and into addiction. 

-Doubt about PIED

-Realization there IS an addiction. 

-Knowing that the addiction is stronger than YOU sometimes.  That IS why it's called an addiction.

-Knowing that you may have to take some extreme ways to stop your addiction. (I put porn blockers on my phone and computer and got a PO Box that contained the passwords.  The only way I could get to them was to drive to a distant PO box to unlock them!)

-Knowing that relapse IS PART of addiction recovery.

-Learning all you can.

-Releasing yourself from the obsession of learning and trying to do what is right. Not coming to this site as much.  Knowing your obsession and worry about PIED is also hurting,

-Living life and enjoying things as they occur naturally.

-Stop the mind.  It takes time. You WILL DOUBT yourself.  It happens.  But You WILL make it.

-Know it takes time.  You are on YOUR OWN pace.  No rules.  Follow YOURSELF!  You will make it.  Stick with it.  Ask questions, obsess for a while. learn and learn more.  But get comfortable with recovery.  It WILL HAPPEN!

But don't stop at porn addiction!  Why do you have this?  What about your world caused you to turn to porn?  Solve your PIED and the solve the rest of your world!  YOU CAN!  YOU ARE ON YOUR WAY!


 

Initial post - June 08, 2012

I found out I have Porn ED....and have questions.

Ok.  So, after much internal debate, I concluded I have porn ED.  I blamed it on everything else at first, but after arriving to yourbrainonporn.com, I have accepted it. 

I always watched porn and masturbated since I was a kid (about 15 years) and certainly at times it would consume me.  At the peak, I would masturbate multiple times a day and watch porn quite a bit(perhaps for hours).  It got to the point that even during porn I couldn't get it up anymore, but would still orgasm.

I had a girlfriend for many years and our sex life was good for awhile...although I was using some Viagra at the time.  Then it failed.  I couldn't keep it up at all anymore.  I went into a depression.  There are other underlying problems in the relationship and my own life, but the one consistency was porn and masturbation.  After our relationship ended, I still had problems keeping it up with new women. 

I have now stopped looking at porn entirely for 4 weeks.  Nor have I masturbated or orgasmed.  I have on occasion looked at some Craigslist ads, but I try to not look very long as I can sense my excitement of the old porn days.  It's not easy.

I now have a new girlfriend, who instantly gets me excited and erect when we kiss, touch and make out.  However as soon as it comes time to actually penetrate...I fail.  Almost as soon as I get inside her or get the condom on, it's over.  It's tough.

I'm convinced it's the porn still.  I just find it odd that I could lay next to a woman in the morning and be rock hard, and then when it's time to penetrate, I just go limp.  Is that possible with porn ED?

Also, what is a relapse?  Was the excitement I felt at glancing at Craigslist Ads a relapse?  I never masturbated nor touched myself.  I was excited mentally though and some fantasies hop in and out of my mind.  I certainly try not to dwell on any fantasy anymore.  But is it ok to fantasize about real women?   

I'm trying to stay away from all on-line stimulation, but its not easy.  Also, I continue to make out with my new girlfriend.  Is this counterproductive?

I don't know.  I just need some sort of support.  My libido has certainly come and gone in the last four weeks, but I just want to enjoy sex again.  I have no desire for porn at all, but sometimes I do get excited by women and I may fantasize a bit.

Just trying to figure out if I am on the right track.

Any help is appreciated.

I'm still fighting.