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  1. După cum a spus un tip:

    How to let go of you harem? Just take your computer, and look at the screen from one side. What do you see? A side of a screen.. there is nothing there, nothing behind it. That is as close as you’ll get to those women on the screen.. when you realize this, and I mean really understand what I mean, you will pop out of that longing for your harem.

  2. Un alt tip a spus:

    It probably is indeed the masturbation in combination with the internet pornography that triggers this addiction to be so powerful. Some people refer to it as visual cocaine, myself I actually call it visual meth :p because I still found that somewhat of an understatement. I believe this IP addiction is top of the class. Sometimes the pull can just be so amazingly strong, and your limbic can just dominate you. I’ve experienced this first hand many times.

  3. Post from MedHelp comparing Internet porn to “old porn”
    Luat de pe acest thread pe ED și Internet porno.


    Ok, deci am avut probleme cu obtinerea unei erectii sau starea erectila revenind la inceputul 2004. Sunt acum 37 ani. Înainte de 2004 mi-aș fi erect pentru sex fără nici o problemă, având erecția și gata să merg nu a fost niciodată o problemă. Aceste zile, ma uit la porno si masturbez la el sau la poze pe profiluri pe site-urile swinger) poate 4-5 zile pe saptamana. Dar stau acolo pentru o oră la un moment dat, 2-3 ore în același timp, între pauze, dar apoi revenind la ea. Invenția Channel Porn Tube nu a ajutat deloc.

    But here is the thing, prior to 2004 when I started having this problem, I was 30, and had been masturbating all the time for 15 years without an issue of erection( I started having sex at 20)……… But here is what I realised. AND GENTLEMAN PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO THIS…… In early 2004 I installed boradband internet at my house. Within weeks I was in front of the monitor trying to find as much porn as I could and masturbating to it, finding pictures online, and masturbating to them. That was a new form of masturbating for me. Prior to that, my masturbating was regulated to watching a hot girl on television, or a steamy scene on a cable movie and masturbating. Running to the bathroom and masturbating. Or right here in the living room, a quick 2 minute pleasure………… But Broadband Internet introduced me to a new form of masturbation….Long drawn out episodes of masturbation. Clicking from one video to the next until one finally turned me on to the point of ejaculation….. At times 4-5 times a day, 4-5 days a week. Going through swinger websites, going through pictures on profiles, until it made me ejaculate…….. Guys, the past 7 years of this type of masturbation has RUINED my sex life………

    I am an attractive guy, good body, work out all the time…….I can not count the number of great looking women I have met the past 7 years that I have not been able to perform with. The latest being last Wednesday (10/26/11)….I met this great Asian girl, she came over. I stayed hard for a little bit, but it was gone within 5 minutes. And as I usually do when this happens, I jerk myself to get hard, but that takes a few minutes, and then when I entered her again, it didnt last 2 minutes. Needles to say, she was nice about it. But I have been texting her since that day, and I get very short non-personal replies………She was obviously disappointed…..

    As of late I have been confiding in friends about masturbation, and they all do it, and some say they do it all the time. But they have no problem getting erections when it comes to sex. It has obvisosly occurred to me that masturbating in front of the monitor to porn, pictures, is what is effecting my sex life and inability to get erections………

    I’m sure masturbating normally, maybe once a day, maybe twice a day, for a minute or two over time would have not affected my sex life and erections at all. But masturbating to internet porn and pictures really does cause you great harm………

    I remember last June. I was going to Dallas for a company outing. I knew a sales girl from a different branch. We exchanged sultry emails and text messages. So I did not masturbate for 3 days. I did Wednesday afternoon, then didn’t do anything until I would see her. Saturday night I went to her hotel. We were naked within 20 minutes, and heres the things. She blew me and got kind of hard, but I jerked myself to get hard. And when I entered her, I could just feel this incredible feeling I had not felt in years guys, years. I was staying hard and maneuvering her all over the place. It was freaking incredible. The only thing I could not control was as soon as she got on top of me I came almost instantly…But that’s when I realised how internet masturbating to porn really ***** you up big time.

    Ace de a spune, până astăzi mă masturbează încă la porno, am făcut-o noaptea trecută pentru aproape ore 2. În căutarea ajutorului profesional. Dar, băieți, veți citi diferite lucruri despre care masturbarea nu este direct legată de disfuncția erectilă, și asta ar putea să nu fie adevărat. Dar nu specifică diferitele tipuri de obiceiuri de masturbare pe care oamenii le au. Acesta este un lucru care nu este studiat.

    I’m 37 years old and have been addicted to masturbating to internet porn since 2004 when I first got Broadband internet, and that’s when my erectile dysfunction started. And I don’t believe the dysfunction come from a psychological block; My brain telling my penis that it can never be as good as the porn when I’m in bed with a girl so there is no point in getting hard. My problem and the problem of a lot of others is the excessive pulling and strain on the penis pretty much just wears your functions out…………..

  4. Bandă largă a condus la dependența pornografică
    De la un alt forum:

    I am 37 years old. I started to masturbate at age 14 in 1988. I masturbated a lot through my teens, late 20’s. I kept a regular sex life. Not a ladies man where I was bedding women all the time. A couple of gf’s, a couple of one night stands a couple of escorts.

    NICI NU am avut o problema, am obtinut o erectie. În mod ocazional aș închiria filme porno la un magazin de cărți pentru adulți, masturbează-le. Nu a avut niciodată o problemă în obținerea unei erecții. În 2004 am instalat internet în bandă largă în casa mea (a fost 30 la acel moment). În curând ma masturbeam la toate tipurile de porno. Site-uri Swinger cu imagini de cupluri swinging. Acestea ar fi adesea sesiuni 45minute-1hr-2hr, 3-4 hr. Luând pauze, apoi revenind la el. De când am avut internet de bandă largă în casa mea și accesul rapid la porno.

    MY SEX LIFE HAS BEEN A COMPLETE DISASTER. It’s very very rare that I have a fulfilling sexual encounter. I did not realize that masturbating to porn was the problem this until a gentleman I e-mailed through a swingers website gave me some advice.

  5. Comentariul membrului forumului:

    I remember halfheartedly attempting to give up porn several times in the past before finding this site, and finding myself right back on the path towards it thanks to the temptation in every media outlet known to man. To think that as a youngster I used to have to make a conscious effort to find pictures of scantily clad women… now it’s difficult NOT to find them.

  6. Un alt comentariu cu privire la evoluția porno

    Cred că am aceeași poveste ca și sute dintre voi.

    A început să citească magie porno cu prietenii mei la vârsta de 12-13, apoi a început să cumpere videoclipuri câteva luni mai târziu. Avea un televizor în camera mea și obișnuia să stau pe timp de noapte vizionând porno pe cablu. Părinții mei nu știau nimic. În același timp, fanteziile mele despre fete au început să se îndepărteze de la întâlnirile romantice la cele sexuale. Când eram 15-16, sa produs explozia de Internet și știm cu toții ce însemna asta. Mai întâi am avut doar dial-up și părinții mei au monitorizat utilizarea mea, deoarece a fost scump. Încă reușisem să descarc sute de imagini pe care le-am păstrat pe discuri. Și acolo mergem, bandă largă, P2P, Torrents, streaming etc etc

  7. Postat în altă parte pe acest site

    Vroiam să menționez că propria mea experiență cu porno online confirmă teoriile tale 100%.

    I first got really hooked on internet porn just about a year ago through a new form of porn called “hypno” videos. These videos are the most powerful of the powerful sex stimuli. They are clips of literally hundreds of the most intense scenes from porn videos, put to a soundtrack of pulsing techno music, sex sounds (moaning ect.), dirty talk, and printed words (usually shocking words – guilt or shame inducing words) flashed onto the screen.

    These sex scenes, shock-words, sex sounds and dirty talk are constantly changing, often at a really high rate of up to 2-3 images a SECOND! You can imagine the dopamine hits that come from this kind of novelty! It’s like 300 vaginas in a minute!

    When I first viewed this particularly pernicious form of porn I was so hooked that I spent the entire weekend masturbating, until I was completelt exhausted. Imagine that rat pressing the bar — that was me! No food, no personal hygene, little sleep….pathetic!

    This frightened me quite a bit, and upon finding YBOP I realized exactly why these hypno videos are so powerful — they are designed to take full advantage of brain chemistry/wiring/behavior. Thay are truly the crack cocaine of porn.

  8. Comentariu de la Reddit

    Am fost dependent de pornografie cu o intensitate crescândă de cel puțin 15 ani, probabil mai mult ca 20. Efectele rele ale lui sunt oribile. În primul rând au fost softcore reviste porno, apoi au fost hardcore, precum și hardcore video benzi. Paralel că au fost ani de descărcare atât imagini moi și hardcore de pe Internet. Odată cu apariția aplicațiilor P2P, am reușit să obțin filme hardcore de pe internet. Mai întâi au fost aplicații mai mici p2p, apoi Bittorrent. După aceea, site-urile de descărcare directă și blogurile / site-urile care le leagă. Am plătit o dată pentru o lună de acces premium pe un site DDL și am bătut pe porno ca niciodată înainte.

    Two things made my porn addiction much worse in 2008. For the first time I got a laptop, and I discovered porn tube sites. First it was [Site 1], then [Site 2], then [Site 3], [Site 4], [Site 5], [Site 6] and finally [Site 7] and [Site 8]. There are probably a few others I’ve forgotten. Porn tube sites, especially the big ones like [Site 8] are the crack cocaine of internet pornography. There is so much of it, and so much conținut nou în fiecare zi, în fiecare oră, în fiecare minut 10, că am reușit să găsesc o nouă stimulare constantă.

    The laptop made things worse because it sits right next to my bed. It’s always there. No longer do I have to go downstairs or avoid housemates. I couldn’t sleep? Fire up some porn; fap. Wake up with a headache? Same. Wake up fără o durere de cap? De ce să nu fap să pornești oricum

  9. Comentariu de la Psihologie Astăzi
    YankieWankie has commented on: “The Sky Is Not Falling”

    Subiect: Escaladarea și desensibilizarea

    For the purposes of this comment, I’ll take issue with just one of Dr. Ley’s theses: “If someone watches porn showing something they find distasteful, it has no impact on their behavior or desires”. I feel fairly confident in positing that most men who have viewed porn over the course of years or decades have seen their tastes (desires) escalate from ordinary to repulsive as they have become habituated to successively higher levels of stimuli. I myself went from looking at centerfolds in the early nineties, to hardcore magazines, to hardcore VHS, and then came the internet and I went back to still images for awhile, then downloadable video, then highspeed streaming video. As I progressed from still images to video, still images just didn’t “work” on my libido anymore. To some extent, having given up porn entirely, still images are still somewhat ineffective at arousing me–and I believe that’s regrettable. I want some of the “innocence” back that I gave up in order to look at shocking material.

    In terms of the content of what I watched, there came a time when I found myself looking at extreme group sex (50 men, one woman), a subject that at the start of my experience with porn would have repulsed me. Yet at the end, I had to feel that revulsion in order to become aroused. I believe it only would have gotten worse if I hadn’t curtailed my use of porn entirely.

  10. Comentariu despre need for novelty

    The interesting thing is that I open several windows in my browser, each one with many, many tabs. The main thing that arouses me is novelty. New faces, new bodies, new “choices”. I very rarely even watch a whole porn scene, and can’t remember when I saw entire movie. It’s too boring. I always want NEW stuff.

  11. postat de reddit.com NoFap
    LINK

    Mințile noastre au evoluat de mii de ani. Apariția porno pe bază de Internet este o tehnologie pe care mințile noastre nu au evoluat să o facă. Bărbații au evoluat pentru a fi atrasi de tinerețe, frumusețe și semne subtile de fertilitate. Înainte de a apărea orașe mari în ultima vreme și crearea de mass-media; televiziune, panouri, reviste, Internet, oamenii ar vedea doar o cantitate limitată de alte persoane. Un om poate vedea doar câteva 7-8 / 10s în viața de zi cu zi.

    Creierul nu este dezvoltat pentru a procesa filele 30 ale femeilor frumoase cu sanii perfecți, care încearcă să arate sănătoși și tineri care sunt goi și care prezintă pentru tine, sau se fut. Brainul a evoluat pentru a găsi femei medii excitante sexual. Porno ia tot ce creierul tău deja găsește excitant, amplifică-l cu 100%, apoi du-te și deschideți filele 30 din ea fără să realizați că acest lucru are consecințe grave.

    Deci da, găsirea atractivului Playboy ar trebui să vină destul de natural. Iar singura conspirație care se joacă aici este că creierele noastre nu au evoluat pentru a trata porno. Stimul lui prea mult.

    Găsirea femeilor medii atractive: Bine.

    30 tabele ale femeilor incredibil de fierbinți:

    Piețele care asigură oferta: Așteptat.

  12. porn is about the hunt – posted on another site

    Porn addiction is not all about the release of sexual energy, for me at least. It was about the hunt. And of course the repressed society adds guilt and this adds more of a “high”, for the lack of a better term, to a porn addict. There were times in my life where I would spend 4 hours stroking my dick, looking for a perfect image starting with artsy stuff like x-art or met-art pics to end up with bestiality or shemale video, then cum, take a nap and repeat the process.

    You may not understand it, and it’s great that you have a good relationship with porn but don’t presume that everyone is like you. Just like we shouldn’t presume to understand people who become so obese that they become grafted to their couches. Porn is my poison, moderation hasn’t worked out for me yet so it’s abstinence for me for a few months, then I’ll try to masturbate without porn just to disassociate the two, then maybe moderation might be the way to go.

     

  13. comentariu de la un forum

    At 45, I’m glad I’m not doing this at 21. I did not have my mind programmed at a young age by Internet porn, which is categorically different from old-school porn due to the endless novelty available.

    În timpul primelor mele experiențe sexuale (masturbare), am fost de multe ori fantezii despre fetele pe care le știam de fapt, nu vizionând videoclipuri explicative ale scenelor porno hardcore tot mai intense.

     Cred ca rebootul meu de la 7 ani de dependenta de pornografie este mai usor pentru mine decat este pentru un an 21 care se reintoarce din 7 ani de dependenta de pornografie la care se adauga hardwiring care a avut loc în timp ce creierul lui încă se forma. Am o amintire distinctă a unui moment în care creierul meu nu credea că sexul = porno. Creierul meu are un loc unde să se întoarcă.

    Regret să-mi pierd ani de viață 7 în dependența pornografică și depresia. Dar știu că unii băieți au o cale mult mai dură din groapa porno decât mine.

  14. Subiect pe file

    GUY A:
    Does anyone else here masturbate with multiple browser windows open? I’ll usually open somewhere between 2-4 with different videos or images. Sometimes I just can’t decide who I want to finish with…

    GUY B:
    Yup, I’m the exact same. Always thinking I’ll find a better video to finish with.

    GUY C:
    La fel și eu!!!
    Intotdeauna imi doresc sa primesc poze sau poze mai bune pentru finisarea mare

  15. Informații importante fiecare

    Important information every NF’er should be aware of – big difference between blowing load and watching porn.

    I had a major porn binge 2 days ago which lasted almost 4 hours… going to all my old favourite sites. Good thing was I didn’t fap so I kept my energy, but by doing that it all the more emphasised how the rush of dopamine affects your system. Looking at the porn I could literally feel it as a trickle of warm fluid being released from the top of my brain. It made me high like a drug. The next day I felt pretty much exactly how one feels after a night of hard drug use. (E, coke) ie wanting to shut myself away from the world. Trust me I know.

    Its insane how the irresponsible manipulation of the brains dopamine levels effects us. I had no idea of this until I read YBOP. I’m very grateful and directly experienced the feeling. Most guys are just totally unconscious of this.

    The day after my porn binge I was almost suicidal… now my dopamine is reset I feel happy again.

    Cât de mulți abuzatori de PMO cronici pun în mod greșit depresia lor asupra factorilor externi din viața lor? În timp ce credeți că fapul zilnic îi ajută să vă relaxați?

    Both Porn and Masturbation have their own unique negative effects every NF’er should clearly distinguish. They’re two separate ball games in fact. Fapping without porn leaves you depleted of energy and motivation for a day, Porn without fapping leaves you desperate for higher stimulation/novelty. Obviously combining the two you get a double dose of suckage.

  16. hentai

    Is anyone here having problems with hentai (anime porn) along with/instead of porn? If so, let’s make a deal. I’ll tell you my story and you tell me yours.

    God bless Hayao Miyazaki for introducing me to anime. But God damn Fakku for introducing me to hentai. I am 15 years old and going to be a junior in high school. In middle school, I was addicted to video games, which led to me being socially awkward. I started fapping around 13 or 14, when I discovered that watching videos of sexy anime girls on YouTube. Being a horny teenager going through puberty, I soon wanted more. I began to look up “insert anime chick’s name here naked” and other stuff like that. Eventually, it led me to this piece-of-shit (although I didn’t know it at the time) website called Fakku. This gave me my first exposure to any kind of porn.

    At first, I thought it was all good. Hentai made me feel good, the “girls” there made me feel less lonely (I wanted a girlfriend around that time), and my parents didn’t have to know a thing about it. Problem was, it escalated. And it escalated at almost the exact same time that I got my first girlfriend. She was (and still is) really nice, and she (I feel like puking saying this now because I never realized it until the relationship was over) almost had the looks of many of the girls in the hentai I read; she just didn’t show it that much. So we went on a few dates. By this time, I had a reputation for being clumsy and overreacting a lot. But she dated me anyway, probably becaus she was in her first relationship as well and didn’t really realize what I was (but neither did I).

    GUY A:

    Hentai has always been a soft spot for me because it broke the boundaries of extremes that normal porn can offer in terms of torture. next to hentai only stories could proceed that far without it becoming just plain murder, which in my view isn’t in any kind sexual even if the death is the result of bdsm. but without death, the limitless and unrealistic torture was one of the few things that could get me to highs of arousal where i’d lose myself completely for as much time as i was able to spend on it.

    bad, bad times…..

    GUY B:

    Am un prieten care este obsedat with hentai. He’s got a 5000+ image collection. It’s sickening. He talks about it in fucking public and to women he’s trying to “flirt” with. He says that because of hentai, he has a unrealistic ideal of women. He’s into everything, even the more creepy stuff.

    GUY C:

    Hentai mi-a provocat multă durere când eram mic.

    We used to “trade” movies (mostly not porn) with friends because the size was just too big for downloading from internet in decent quality. However NOBODY really nobody got hentai so I was forced unwillingly to download them from internet on my own! Omg it sucked so hard, 550MB of endless pain on dial-up.

    GUY D:

     I wish I could help more, but I have the same problem (hentai) and can only say that if you really like anime, hentai is the worst possible thing to pervert how the characters and the stories feel to you. If you’re on hentai sites for novel stories, you know it’s a boredom problem alone, which the community can help you conquer. (Working out and getting away from the computer helps a lot.)

    GUY E:

    Wow this sounds familiar. Shota was how I got off a few years ago. First time I saw hentai was in 5th grade, and after I got home from school I would just go in my room and stare at it. I didn’t know how to do anything like masturbate but all I knew was that I liked watching this stuff. Shit fucked with my head. All through that year, I kept seeing more and more fucked up shit, and I’d take breaks from watching it for like a month when I saw something too bad. It really fucks with a kid’s mind to see Raven from Teen Titans fighting slade on saturday morning and then seeing her get raped by him 4 hours later. That, and I started getting into that bondage shit. Monster rape and needles in obscure places really made me a perverted monster all through middle school. I never really gave it up til about 3 or 4 months ago when I started nofap for the first time. I used to just go on stumbleupon and cycle through every picture fapping. I first realized I had a fapping problem when I noticed I was getting into futanari. That was my porn tastes getting more ridiculous and was my first sign of an addiction.

    But this is the best thing that’s happened to me in a long time. I like being sober from fapping. Remember bro, this isn’t a sprint you run alone. It’s a marathon with all of us right beside you cheering you on. Good luck, and don’t be a slave to impulse.

  17. From another forum – age 38

    I’m probably older than most in here (38).

    I was probably in the ideal/worst situation when porn was transitioning to video tape in the early 80’s. Moving video used to be very tough to get a hold of. My best friend’s dad was the neighborhood guy who distributed porn before it was readily available for renting in the local mom and pop video stores that came along before Block Buster and all the corporate run video chains.

    Am fost nouă ani când mi sa arătat primul meu film porno. În plus, prietenul meu și cu mine aveam acces la stash. A fost echivalent cu a avea acces la porn-ul de Internet înapoi în timpul zilei, fără ca părintele să vă oprească.

    I had seen porn mags before that age between the ages of five – seven.

    30 years later, basically, I don’t think it is a good thing to have the access that we have to porn atunci sau acum. It is probably way worse now because if you have children it is very difficult to shelter them from it. You can do what you can in your own home, but that’s not going to stop anything.

    Cred că fantezii ar trebui lăsate în spatele ușilor închise și în capul tău; oamenii au nevoie să vadă că lucrurile au intervenit. Probabil nu este sănătoasă pentru tine să o vezi.

    Even for my own relationships, I think having all this stuff basically planted in my head hasn’t been a good thing. I’ve never been married (although I could have once) and subconsciously – or even consciously – I’m I am always searching for a girl that is better than the last one in the bedroom. Also, watching this stuff over the years, doesn’t exactly make you want to settle. It would almost be like if you saw a porn chick and you were not allowed to watch any other chick. Maybe that is part of being a guy, but personally, I don’t need the help of the porn industry to act out this stuff that they have planted into my head.

    Most people would praise monogamy, but watching this stuff brainwashes you into not being like that. It’s a case of monkey see, monkey do.

  18. Afectează colegiul

    Consecințe serioase de la porno

    Besides relationship problems, a huge amount of time wasted, and all the other common addict problems, has anyone had any very serious problems in their carreer or at University / College? I’m asking because I’m going to be a college dropout this year and porn has played a great part in it… I didn’t study enough (lack of motivation, depression, so much time wasted on pointless web browsing) that next year I won’t be allowed to enrolle back in college… this is very serious and a life changer for the worst reason. More depressed feelings are in the post and when they arrive… I don’t know what to do!

  19. Cât de des te-ai descurcat înainte de a începe?

    Cât de des te-ai descurcat înainte de a începe?

    Măcar o dată pe zi. În funcție de zi, la fel de mult ca 3 sau 4 ori. O dată sau de două ori era normal.

    The problem is, I did marathon sessions. it was a game to me, to see how long I could go. I’d keep myself on the edge for over an hour, switching porn sites and genres, reading erotic fiction, long vids, etc.

    Ar fi trebuit să fie evident că mă desensibilizam. Bine. 3 zile și numărare.

  20. Părinții mei știau, dar nu mi-au vorbit niciodată despre obiceiurile mele

    Părinții mei știau, dar nu mi-au vorbit niciodată despre obiceiurile mele

    GUY 1) Am fost prins de câteva ori de părinții mei și cred că pornografia și tot ceea ce este greșit. În loc să vorbească despre asta sau să facă ceva, ei mă informează ușor că știu.

    Acest lucru ma învățat că tocmai trebuia să mă strecuram.

     Mi-aș fi dorit să m-au așezat jos sau să mă întinse când eram destul de mare. Am păstrat atât de mult în întuneric pentru că era mai ușor în acest fel. M-am săturat de asta.

    GUY 2 RĂSPUNSURI: Părinții dvs. cred că pornografia este greșită, dar mi-ar fi surprinsă dacă știau că pornografia de mare viteză pe internet poate crea dependență de excitație și că dependența poate provoca multe simptome devastatoare.

    Efectele utilizării pornografice de Internet de mare viteză obișnuite încep abia acum să ajungă în prim plan, deoarece internetul de mare viteză rezidențial a rămas în ultimii 10-12 ani.

    I would guess that many parents view internet porn as just a digital version of Playboy. They may want you to avoid it but figure it’s just a natural phase that a young person will go through.

    So I don’t blame parents for not teaching us (although I respect that your specific circumstances may be different). Most probably don’t know anything about this issue.

  21. Perverted, Horny Bastard Addicted to Porn, Day 3 And Counting…

    Perverted, Horny Bastard Addicted to Porn, Day 3 And Counting…

    I never realized I had a problem until I stumbled upon yourbrainonporn.com. Experiencing all classic symptoms: desensitization, progressively kinkier tastes, soft erections (is this an oxymoron?), plummeting libido, etc. I’ve been on a wild goose chase to resolve sexual issues for years trying all kinds of medication, therapy, self-help, accupuncture, etc. but never attributed it to porn. ATM, DP, FF…the kinkier, the better. In fact, regular porn has become dull. After the battle I’ve been fighting, getting off porn and no fapping almost seems like too simple of a solution. But this all totally resonates with me. I’ve got a long-road and am fighting the cravings. Funny, I don’t know what to do with my computer anymore? Anyway, I’m glad to be here now.

  22. De la reddit - NoFap

    LINK

    I think it is a result of the pendulum swinging too far in the other direction. For a long time in this country, sex before marriage, and any kind of non-procreative sex, was considered sinful and evil. Then along comes the “sexual revolution”, and sexual freedom becomes a way to rebel against the mainstream.

    Flash foward thirty years and those hippies bangin’ in the mud at Woodstock are parents, business owners, politicians, etc. Sexual freedom becomes mainstream, and nothing is considered taboo. Then eventually their children, little Johnny and Lisa start being sexually active at 12, and it burns when Johnny pees and Lisa has warts on her nether regions. (straight/”normal”) People start to freak out about AIDS. Masturbation begins being promoted as a safe alternative to sex. “Pornography” at this time is little more than Playboy, maybe some softcore stuff on cable access, but for the majority of boys the only way to get that excitement is to pause your VCR at JUST THE RIGHT TIME (remember that?? Holy shit!! Just thought of it while typing this).

    Pornography – after a very important Supreme Court ruling – is totally protected by the First Amendment, unless its rape or kiddie porn or something. Now you have people who hate porn, but take the “I don’t like what you say but I’ll defend to the death your right to say it” mentality, seeing any attempt to infringe pornography as “Un-American”/regressive/repressive/reactionary. Hell, even feminists have begun to say that porn can be empowering for women (and even the pornstars).

    However, nobody thinks ahead to the mid to late 2000’s, when Johnny and Lisa can access every disgusting fetish and -philia in High Definition in a nanosecond with high speed internet access (Oh man… remember waiting like 5 minutes for a single PICTURE to download in the late 90’s??? Damn, writing this is taking me BACK!). Hell, today most MIDDLE SCHOOLERS can access every sick twisted fetish that has ever existed in seconds with a device că se pot potrivi în buzunarul lor nenorocit.

    A lot of “good” intentions gone wrong. Principles that exist in a vacuum don’t always make sense in the real world, and technology changes things. People start believing things in a herd, and anyone who questions conventional wisdom is vilified. Doctors hate admitting they are wrong and resist contradictory evidence until dragged kicking and screaming to the truth. Not to mention pornography is one of America’s biggest export and is a multi-billion dollar a year industry (boggles my mind that anyone pays for porn, but to each his own).

    Și acolo aveți. Îmi pare rău că am atârnat atât de mult, dar postul dvs. ma făcut să mă gândesc!

  23. Este uimitor cum ne-a desensibilizat porno-ul

    GUY 1) Este uimitor cum ne-a desensibilizat porno-ul. Dependența mea pornografică extremă a început în jurul lui 19. Dar, între vârstele 14-19, folosesc erecțiile aproape de toate tipurile de femei, slabe, bustoase, medii. Heck, odată ce profesorul meu la școală când eram 17 mi-a arătat o clivaj și am avut o erecție pentru orele 2 și uneori chiar și bătrânii mi-au dat drumul. Nu am fost entuziasmat de o femeie în viața reală de la 19 și acum sunt 23. Sper că pot relua din nou acest sentiment, LINK

    GUY 2) La fel și eu. Hilaritatea lui la lucrurile pe care le obișnuisem. Persoanele cu vârste de peste ani cu vârste de până la vârsta de 40, cu mamifere care arată prin cămașa lor, de exemplu.
    Acum, aș putea să mă atingă de tipul meu preferat de fată cu fundul gol și să nu mă aprind.
    Atât de absurd este tot ce puteți face este să râdeți

    GUY 3) Acest. Nici un porno nu scade standardele, ci contrariul. Vizionarea (prea multă) pornografie crește standardul dvs., rezultând că nici o femeie normală nu este suficient de bună pentru a vă face o mișcare.

    GUY 4) Înainte de repornire, o femeie poate fi fierbinte, dar o caracteristică imperfectă va fi suficientă pentru a o respinge ca „nu este fierbinte”. În timpul repornirii, constat că o femeie poate avea o caracteristică imperfectă, dar un fund drăguț / corp / raft / zâmbet / față / personalitate / etc. este suficient pentru a șterge imperfecțiunea.

    Este cu siguranță partea mea preferată din repornire și să realizez că femeile sunt mai atractive decât înainte. Ciudat, cum nu vă goliți bilele pune un strat dintr-o specie necunoscută de machiaj pe fața femeilor care le provoacă strălucire.

    GUY 5) Nu te uiți la porno te aduce înapoi la realitate.

    Niciunul dintre noi nu este perfect și toți avem greșeli fizice. Mergând fără porno, ne facem mai mult să acceptăm toate aceste imperfecțiuni și mai mult conținut decât oamenii decât să urmărim perfecțiunea care nu există în lumea reală.

    GUY 6) Așadar ... a fost experiența mea că, cu cât merg mai mult fără porno, cu atât mai mult mă văd observând femei pe care nici măcar nu le-aș fi luat în considerare înainte.

    GUY 7) Cred că pornoșii și chiar pozele oferă percepții nerealiste despre femei. Ei pot scăpa de grăsimea suplimentară aici și acolo și peste tot și fetița se termină ca un model bonafide. Femeile reale sunt mult mai bune!

     

  24. Porno și hiperrealitate

    LINK – Porn and hyperreality

    I just thought I’d share some thoughts about why P and M can be so psychologically damaging in the long-term, and why I think that heavy users experience such anxiety in real sexual experiences.

    Of all the possible reasons for me to embark on NoFap, one of the most significant has to do with the way that porn twists my (and probably your) perception and expectations of reality. I found that not only was my body conditioned to be aroused by images and video rather than the real tactile contact of a partner, but that, psychologically, my expectations regarding sex were so skewed that I was seriously disappointed in the real thing. Porn presents an artificial, distilled sexual experience, and encourages us to identify with the subjects thereof, and over time this identification commandeers our libido. Over the course of a long-term addiction, porn use creates a sense of depersonalization regarding sexual experience, which reduces the desire for real partners who do not resemble those found in porn, and creates disappointment when our experience does not compare to that found in porn. This happens unconsciously, and if you’re addicted, chances are that you are not even aware of it. Porn is a substitute for reality, but it’s an effective one: every detail is designed to arouse, tailor-made to feed your sex-related dopamine circuits.

    Moreover, porn is anxiety-free. There is no risk involved in opening up some images or videos. No chance of rejection, no demands on your part to say or do the right thing. I think that this is the reason why so many heavy porn users feel such anxiety when talking to women, or when in a real sexual experience – we are used to simply receiving such rewards with little to no work, and therefore we have built up no tolerance to the risk and anxiety which naturally come with it. P and M are easy and undemanding, and provide us with gratification quickly and efficiently.

    This is their true danger – their ability to twist our perceptions of reality and to make us unsuitable for real partners. Only by leaving porn and masturbation behind can we reclaim our libidos for the real world, and discover the rewards of the possibilities around us.

    GUY 2)

    Another example of hyper reality is being able to skip around. The ability to jump around caused actual sex to be much the same. A short moment here a short moment there, and I am talking about with a partner. Totally made sex feel like a chore. Then instead of being in the moment, in my head I would “pull myself out of my body” and watch myself. Rather have images of porn going through my head of what that position looked like all those countless times I had watched it. So ya, porn fks with reality.

    GUY 3)

    Porn has precisely altered my reality. I think I am lucky that I haven’t gone over excessive, although I stuck with it regularly. Somehow, I think I have a case of oneitis, which has in some way kept me sane and somewhat interested in finding the one partner… But it’s a serious problem which I am tackling now to fix for good.

     GUY 4)

    I remember reading an article which discussed how those who were exposed to porn as their first sexual experience are far worse off than those who had real sexual experiences when they were young. Although porn can be damaging for everyone, it’s worse for those who were first introduced to sex via pornographic videos.

     GUY 5)

    de acord. Cred că cercetătorii și terapeuții au nevoie într-adevăr de pornirea gravă a dependenței de pornografie într-un context social mai larg. rata de întoarcere pentru actrita ar fi trebuit să declanșeze dezbateri, dar știm cu toții că atât actrița, cât și audiența suferă de probleme neurologice induse de porno care distorsionează realitatea și criptează viețile.

     GUY 6)

    Porn makes real sex less enticing, NOT because the girls in the videos are theoretically 10’s and your partner is a theoretical 6. It has more so to do with the sheer amount of content broadband internet can provide.

    Ne permitem să fim pretențioși la infinit și să vedem doar cele mai interesante scene, sărind peste și căutând genuri foarte specifice.

    Chiar credeți că, chiar dacă un dependent de pornografie a avut ocazia să facă sex cu o stea pornografică, experiența ar fi AȘAJAȚIUNE ca și pornografia pe internet? Desigur că nu. În acest scenariu, you wouldn’t be able to click to the next porn star when you’re bored of her.

  25. O poveste de avertizare de la cineva care să-l transforme pe 30

    LINK - O poveste de avertizare de la cineva care să-l transforme pe 30

    Bună,

    Am descoperit NoFap doar câteva zile în urmă, după ce m-am împiedicat să vorbesc despre TedX. Oricine poate fi sigur despre NoFap: Țineți minte povestea lui de avertizare.

    In a few months I’ll be turning 30. I’ve been addicted to PMO for about 10 years. Each year my PMO addiction worsened, my life got suckier.

    From a young age I fapped. I fapped even before I really understood what I was doing. But because I’m old(ish) I didn’t have a high speed internet connection as a teenager. I had dial up until I was about 20. And even when the early high speed connections came along, there wasn’t the vast vast amounts of free, extreme porn that is available today.

    Dar deviez ...

    In a 7th grade I finished with straight A’s in school, and was made dux of my school.

    Până când sa terminat liceul, am eșuat la câteva subiecte și abia am trecut restul.

    When I think back to my life at age ~20, I had a curious confidence about me. Despite the fact that I was very very skinny, I stuttered, I was a bit short, and never had a dollar to my name – I had at least half a dozen girlfriends between the ages of 19 – 23. I had a certain ‘happy-go-lucky’ attitude. I wanted intelligent, creative, nice women. I didn’t really care about cup size.

    Desigur, atunci, dependența de PMO abia începea să vină.

    At age 20 I wrote a novel (being a writer is my life’s dream) – it was shit, but hey I wrote a novel. I also drew, wrote songs, played in bands…

    But things got worse. My PMO increased (although I didn’t realise I had a PMO addiction, or that such a thing existed). Not a single one of those relationships worked out. The sex was usually terrible at first because of ED, then they got OK for maybe a month, and then they always went sour after that.

    But no doubt you’re sensing a pattern of decline here.

    Până când am fost 23 am renunțat la uni. De două ori. Nu aveam nici o prietena, nici o diplomă, o slujbă cu fracțiune de normă, pe care am urât-o, și probabil eram un alcoolic graniță.

    În următorii 7 ani, lucrurile s-au înrăutățit. Am mers trei ani fără sărut. Trei years, not even a kiss from a girl. I never went back to uni. I never found a good job. I hated going out. I would look at girls with a weird kind of anger and hatred. It hurt me that I couldn’t have all of them, whenever I wanted.

    I craved intimacy less, but extreme sex more. I wanted a blonde fake-titted bimbo that’d let me… well, I won’t go into details.

    Am început să fapon la pornografie mai extremă. Lucrurile s-au înrăutățit. Am devenit ciudat și exclusiv. Stuttering-ul meu sa agravat. Viața mea a fost o mizerie absolută. Am fost atât de singuratic, dar niciodată n-am făcut niciodată un efort să-l cunosc pe nimeni nou. Orice oportunitate minoră care a venit cu o fată (foarte rară) am suflat din cauza unei anxietate socială severă.

    All this time I blamed everything I could – my heavy alcohol drinking, the city in which I lived, my insular group of friends. Bad luck. But all that time, ticking along in the background, getting worse and worse, was my PMO addiction.

    Finally things got so bad I just had to get out of there. So at age 26 I went backpacking around Europe for 4 months, on a shoestring budget. I backpacked around Europe for 4 months without so much as a kiss from a girl. Outside of that it was a great experience: but I always felt like the weird reclusive one that didn’t belong. Girls seemed to treat me with a sense of caution. Like something wasn’t quite right about me. Paranoid, perhaps. Or maybe there really was something there.

    After several years of anger, loneliness, backpacking, and PMOing until my arm hurt – I met a girl. We had an awful 18 month relationship while I was living overseas. We virtually never had sex. It took several attempts before we actually successfully had intercourse. I blamed issues with anxiety. Which was in part true. But looking back.. yep, you guessed it: porn induced ED.

    So maybe she wasn’t my soul mate, but it could have at least been an OK relationship. Or something. Instead, I fapped constantly and never had sex with a girl who was there, ready and willing. Basically I made both our lives miserable.

    Now I am 29. I re-enroled in uni last year, and failed about 50% of my subjects. After taking six months off, I begged them to let me back in. I was on anti-depressants for about two years, but recently gave them up in favour of natural remedies. I started exercising, using light therapy, getting Omega 3’s and a bunch of other stuff – all of which helped.

    Dar a lipsit ceva.

    Nu mă îndoiesc că cea mai mare parte din povestea mea tristă de declin este direct corelat to PMO addiction. At 29 years of age, I am in a worse position than when I was 20. I am still stupidly skinny, I still stutter, I am still flunking higher education and I still don’t have a dollar to my name. But to add insult to injury, I’m also old.

    După cum se arată în jur de 90 zile, voi întoarce 30. Doar la timp pentru o reîncărcare a zilei 90.

    Și eu sunt în ziua 5!

    TL;DR — I am three months away from turning 30. I have fapped my life away. I have nothing: no degree, no money, no girlfriend, virtually no happiness.

    Don’t turn out like meDon’t turn out like me

  26. Câteva comentarii.

    Câteva comentarii.

    I’m early 40s, so I started masturbating in middle school before digital porn was readily available. My friends and I would get all excited to just snag a Playboy or Hustler magazine. We shared video porn and our dirty magazine stash with each other. But we didn’t become reliant on porn to masturbate.

    Since you’re in high school, sex is still relatively a new thing so of course you’re likely fapping a lot. What becomes dangerous is PMO and becoming reliant on digital porn, especially when it supersedes real physical relationships. I couldn’t tell from your post if porn is the issue or just heavy fapping.

    My takeaway from your post is that you’re fapping to release stress v. pure horniness. Sure, high school is stressful. College is stressful, A job/career is stressful. Having a family is stressful. The stress doesn’t end, especially in this digital age. But fapping/PMO shouldn’t become a habit for stress release or escaping. I, personally, became reliant on PMO not only as a stress release, but when I am bored. It just became a habit–and my personal relationships have suffered. Everything has an opportunity cost.

    The more time you spend fapping/PMOing, the less time, desire, etc. you have for real human sexual relationships. My advice, fap when you are horny. Don’t use porn. Focus on real sexual relationships with girls and don’t become reliant on fapping to take the place of girls. Everything in moderation. If you are fapping 4-5 times a day, that’s a big time and energy drain. Ask yourself if you are really horny and need to fap…or are you just bored or stressed.

  27. Ați sugerat că
    Înseamnă că oamenii care au spus că au fost în pornografie infantilă?

    I doubt he’s implying that, but even if he is, you’re missing the primary point of his post. Which is basically this: Given enough exposure to porn in combination with time our novelty seeking mechanism will make even the most vanilla heterosexual jerk off to the wierdest, most depraved shit de neimaginat.

    In my case women being strangled. Now, I’m 60 days into reboot with over 20 days since my last relapse (3 in total) and yet I STILL LOVE THAT SHIT. Intellectually I know it’s fucked up but my messed up limbic system does not give a flying fuck. It knows what it likes and what it likes is to watch chicks struggling while being strangled to death. Ideally while being simultaneously raped. I fervently hope that with time my sexual response to such sick stimuli will wane. Right now I still love it.

    Or japanese chicks smearing shit on themselves anyone? Not to my personal tastes but you stumble across that … ah … shit all the time. Clearly the being-fucked-while-covered-in-human-excrement community is a big one.

    Sau vărsături?

    Sau fete anorexice?

    Sau copii?

    Sau nenorociții?

    This is why the alarm is being sounded. The path from sexual normal (i.e. consensual sex between individuals or groups of indivduals) to sexual abnormal (where people are non-consensually hurt or humiliated) is a long one and up until recently – with the rare exception of notorious kings or emperors – it’s generally taken a lifetime of depravity to get there; with the endless flood of internet porn available now however, it can now take a few years, perhaps mere months in some extreme cases.

    That’s what he’s saying.

    Plus, let’s be blunt, it is foarte probabil că unele dintre afișele de aici sunt legate de materiale ilegale. Tot ce am de spus despre asta este bine dracu 'pentru a-ți găsi drumul aici și lucrați la fund pentru a vă depăși dependența. Mulți dintre noi vă invităm.

    LINK la fir: Punctul cel mai de jos? (ROCK-BOTTOM) [PREGĂTIRE AVERTISMENT]

  28.  Prietenul meu nu a menționat

     My boyfriend mentioned not too long ago that he “feels bad” if we do doggie style or some other position that I’m not facing him alot. He feels like it is objectifying me. We have shower sex a lot (it’s our favorite) so we have tried starting off in the bedroom or living room and ending up in the shower so we can use a variety of positions. I would say he has learned a lot from sex through porn, but doesn’t mean he “objectifies” me when we have sex. The problem with him and porn is, he now has a bit of sex “ADD” where he can’t do one position for very long because he will get bored; a result of watching multiplie screens of porn on the computer.

    LINK la fir

  29. Porno ca Hyper-Reality

    Porno ca Hyper-Reality

    Poster original:

    Hyper-reality, the state of social evolution when the image of life holds more importance than life itself. you’ve seen it everywhere – from reality TV and the news media’s constant reporting of reality TV blurring the lines of what social behavior is, to the facebook which we are forced to interact ÎN EXTERIOR facebook cu aceleași imagini de profil inexacte ale propriei noastre vieți și viețile prietenului, familiei și colegilor noștri.

    Dar cel mai mare exemplu de hiper-realitate de departe este pornografia. it’s sexuality, one of life’s most intimate and sensory encompassing actions, being infinitely reduced to a virtual experience devoid of any sense beyond sight and sound. in pornography, you are not having sex with a partner or porn star, and you are not having sex with yourself; you are running a socially-conditioned simulation of an ideal of sex, a knowingly unobtainable object of desire that you virtually become attached to until you are satisfied, after which you are sucked back into the “unsatisfactory” reality of being naked in a room, alone.

    Here’s a crash course in hyper-realism, brought to you by rick Roderick and jean baudrillard, if anyone’s interested. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2U9WMftV40c Sper că acest lucru îi ajută pe cei care sunt implicați în acest proces (cu scopul de a pune în aplicare). noroc tuturor.

    GUY 2)

    Porn was many of our first sexual experiences, and so we have based our sexual expectations on those standards. but porn is an image, a substitute, for the real thing. so when the time came to be intimate with a real person, our sexual expectations were based on a symbol which was fantastical and disconnected from reality. often that’s the point of porn; i.e. achieving multiple orgasms every time, hyper-sexualized female partners, cartoonishly sized sex organs, bizarre toys, etc. This “virtuality” of porn allows you to stay emotionally detached via several degrees of symbolic separation.

    The real thing is much more complicated, and is a much more vulnerable social experience. This realness causes confusion and extreme self-awareness stemming from the shock of dealing with a reality you suddenly realize you have no reliable information on, despite “studying” the symbols. When presented with the real thing, the floor falls out underneath the simulacrum, and you’re left with a case of ED and a profound lack of confidence. Shit sucks man.

    Watched the TEDx lecture last week and decided enough was enough. I’m tired of feeding myself bullshit symbols because its easier. I’m tired of being separated from my sexuality by layers of false symbols and real physical dopamine addiction (this legitimately scares me). I’m just tired of being that person.

    GUY 3)

    M-am gândit recent și la asta. În cluburile de noapte, adesea observ că oamenii petrec mai mult timp luând poze cu ei înșiși și cu prietenii lor decât participă efectiv la această experiență. Aceștia sunt îngroziți de aceste imagini de trofee ca mărfuri existențiale care trebuie schimbate în mediile sociale. Realitatea devine mediată prin prisma experienței fabricate. Lucru interesant.

    GUY 4)

    Yeah, I think that nowadays all our interactions are ‘prefiltered’ through TV and media so our expectations are wildly divergent from reality. Ever been to a party that’s been like the ones on TV? But how much would you rather be at one of those than the shitty ones you mostly end up at?

    But yet there’s probably lots of interesting real people out there. There’s also something like a ‘fetishization’ of lifestyle and enjoyment, so we’re forced to expect that our lives ‘should’ be about enjoyment, and that the way to this is to cultivate our tastes and what we do endlessly – everything has to be carefully planned to provide the maximum enjoyment, which of course doesn’t sound that fun to me if it’s so overwrought.

    GUY 5)

    I think the quality that makes it porn is that its voyeuristic. You aren’t participating in the act, but you’re still getting off on it. You get the sights and sounds, but you don’t get the smells or the touches (your hand doesn’t count). It’s totally impersonal.

    It’s something you desire, and it’s a substitute for a taboo or something you think you can’t readily get, whether it be a more attractive partner, a particular kink, or just sex in general. Porn becomes a symbol of sexual frustration or dissatisfaction, and as long as you cling to it as a source of sexual gratification, you aren’t being healthy.

    Idk, maybe it’s like cigarettes and some people can handle just a few, but I think most people find that just a few leads to an addiction eventually. Your mind forms bonds between those things. Your brain just interprets code, and when you have pleasure, it takes note on how to get there again. It sees the pattern of dissatisfaction-resignation-pleasure-shame, and thinks that that is the typical pattern after enough repetitions. You bring that into the bedroom with a partner and it doesn’t end well.

    It doesn’t matter if your partner is good or not, it’s about how your brain grows into self-defeating thought patterns.

  30. Oricine a observat cât de drastic sa schimbat lumea în ultimele decenii

    Oricine a observat cât de drastic sa schimbat lumea în ultimele decenii?

    I’m wondering, how many PMO addicts were there, before sexual revolution. Before first magazines. How many heart diseases before food modifications. How many depressions before removal our touch 100% wild nature air. And sun. How many lung cancers before cigarettes.

    Lucrul este să realizăm că lumea se schimbă prea repede. În ultimii 100 ani am schimbat probabil mult mai mult decât în ​​ultimii 1000 + ani. Iată schema:

    1) Interesant, dar rău în comportamentul pe termen lung este introdus pentru bani, sau doar pentru rău

    2) Oamenii se îngrămădesc

    3) Cercetarea exactă, susținută științific, a durat decenii de la lansare

    4) Oamenii închiși încep să se perfecționeze

    5) Eliminarea comportării inițiale

    Problema este ca întregul ciclu să dăuneze. Țigările au fost introduse pe scară largă la începutul secolului 20. Ar putea dura câteva decenii pentru a interzice complet. Acum știm că anumite tipuri de alimente sunt dăunătoare. Cu toate acestea, în acest caz suntem încă în faza 2-3. Ghici unde suntem cu pornografia? Sunt multe cercetări științifice doar câțiva ani.

    Lucrul este că, în viitor, ne vom uita la pornografie ca și noi pe țigări — soo good short term (1 minute). Soo bad long term (80 years, or whatever your life expectancy is). So, be early adopter. Do something, that everyone wil do in maybe 80 or 100 years right now. Start abstaining – now.

    iti urez noroc

    P.S: To pussy chasers – since it probably is better than PMO, before contraception (=what we are used to) and 1960 sexual revolution, in advanced/western society sex was largely connected to married couples (social view on children outside marriage was good enough motivation not to fulfill urge with sex). So, sex was also more rare (and therefore precious, and therefore better) than today. Moreover, too much sex can be result of today world ads and media approach

    TL;DR — One day, we will ban pornography same as we will ban cigarettes and junk food (cigarettes ban is real in future – see Scandinavia, Australia,…Few countries (in EU at least) have junk food tax, etc.)

    GUY 2)

    I was always kinda in to computers. I’m sure most of us on nofap are, so I knew how to find porn online and got addicted before facebook, YouTube, social media, webcam,etc. I has taken me 10+ years of social anxiety, ED, and other health issues to see the truth. The Internet in the last couple of years has exploded, and I fear there are/will be millions of new addicts. More depressed and medicated because they don’t know why.

  31. from reddit nofap –

    The thing about porn is that you don’t even need to be horny, you just need to be bored. The porn will make you horny.

    So don’t let yourself be bored! Isn’t there something you’d rather be doing than making yourself feel bad anyway?

  32. erecție ca barometru - de la reddit

    Think back to your PMO days: if you were browsing porn, and for whatever reason your erection starts dying down, what’s your first thought? “I haven’t orgasmed yet! Gotta get it back up!!” Which in turn leads to more hardcore porn and harder rubbing/jackingoff. Why? Because the focus is on the erection. Your mind is clouded with thoughts of your own erection & orgasm. Over time, we feel even an ’embarrassment’ to not be able to get off to softcore porn, so we dig deeper and deeper for the hardcore. In summary: the glow of the moment depends solely on your erection – if the erection goes away, so does the manly feeling.

  33. a realizat acum cât de mult a afectat mass-media și porno-ul

    • I’ve realized now just how much the media and porn has affected people’s self images. It’s pretty funny to see guys complaining on the internet about how they think their 7 inch dicks just won’t get the job done. Or about how everything thinks they need to be a ripped porno style hunk to get chicks. How instead of doing interesting hobbies that they enjoy, people try and get buff to impress other people. (Side note: if you enjoy going to the gym keep doing it, it’ll definitely help a little bit with chicks, but who cares about some ripped guy who isn’t interesting? As long as you’re decently in shape it really shouldn’t matter too much)So get off the internet. Stay away from the media.
    • Think about for a second for just how many people these days are playing video games and constantly jerking off instead of talking to women. All of these people who in previous generations would have had no problems, no social anxiety, nothing. They’d just do it. But instead, escapism has come to the point where no one has to care about it anymore. And a crazy ridiculous number of people seem to have this problem, too. I used to be this kind of person. But I realize now that talking to women isn’t rocket science. It’s meant to be spontaneous, awkward, whatever. There’s meant to be failure at times. That’s life. Just do it.
    • Speaking of the above I remember back to one of my roommates. He played video games(and likely PMO’d) pretty much any time he wasn’t in class and I remember him always asking my other roommate, “Did you find me a cute girlfriend yet?” Now really, what kind of an attitude is that?

    LEGĂTURĂ CU RĂCIRE

  34. Porn Isn’t Natural

    Porn Isn’t Natural

    I always get somewhat frustrated when skeptics of nofap, or porn supporters, will praise porn as part of a healthy sex life. I’ve also had these people tell me, “monogamy isn’t natural” As someone that supports monogamy, being raised around successful monogamous relationships, it hurts me to hear that. I’m not here, however, to preach about monogamy, or tell you how to live, but rather to discuss how porno isn’t natural.

    A spune ca porno-ul este natural este ca a spune ca McDonalds este sanatos pentru trupurile noastre. De fapt, cred că hrana rapidă este un exemplu perfect pentru a se referi la porno. Două dintre cele mai mari dorințe ale trupului nostru sunt iubirea și mâncarea, ambele fiind exploatate pentru profit în societatea coruptă de astăzi; O societate în care suntem în permanență bombardați cu diverse stimuli și materiale adictive. Junk / fast food se face pentru un singur scop, pentru a gusta bine. Când mănânci o masă sărată, bogată în grăsimi și calorii, te rogi mai mult, chiar dacă te lasă să te simți groaznic după consum.

    Porn does the same. We become victims of the corporations who feed our exploited senses more junk food and keep us coming back. It is not natural to to sit in a chair, staring at a bright screen that displays hundreds upon hundreds of females in various fantasies and circumstances. It is not natural to watch a video of woman being paid, and told what to do by producers as she’s forced to be ‘sexy’ in front of a camera with a strange guy, made to constantly keep himself hard, to film perfect angles and edit out the bad parts.

    Îmi văd pornografia și alte materiale extrem de erotice, dependența în același mod în care o persoană obeză se uită după ce se deda constant la fast-food, produse de cofetărie și mâncare nesănătoasă. S-ar putea să nu fiu supraponderal fizic, dar mental, sunt obezi sexual. Unii oameni sunt în măsură să mănânce aceste alimente sau să vizualizeze acest material pe o bază neconformă. Ei conduc o indulgență ne-naturală, dar plăcută, cu moderare. Acest lucru, pentru mine, este ca și cum ai fi jucat cu foc. Un eveniment stresant ți-ar putea spulbera indulgențele din control; Se întâmplă tot timpul cu alcool, droguri etc.

    The healthiest option will always be the hardest, and if there’s one thing that’s not common in today’s society, it’s giving up short-term pleasure for long-term. Eating fruits and vegetables, waking up early and running a few miles, and weight-lifting isn’t very fun at the start. After it becomes habitual, however, you become a stronger, healthier person; Free from addiction and possessing more self-control than the majority around you. The people I see that take the time to meet the right person, truly dedicating themselves to them, giving up selfish desires for intimacy, and constantly working on improving their relationship, tend to be the happiest in the long run.

    There are many things we do that are “not natural” in our current society, but like anything, some of them are healthy options, and others are not. Things like driving a car, wearing shoes, and electricity are not natural, but benefit us more than hurt us. I don’t think pornography would be on the healthy side.

    TLDR: Porn is not natural. Sitting in a chair, staring at a bright screen, viewing hundreds upon hundreds of ‘edited’ women, catered to your liking, is not natural. It’s the equivalent of junk food, and it will make you mentally obese if you continue to consume it in mass amounts.

  35. cumming în interiorul unei femei, este considerat acum un fetiș special

    For me it is less about the looks of the women in porn, but more about the sex acts themselves. People younger than me who got their sex education from porn may think that some of these things are natural. Hell, even though I know that I shouldn’t want them all the time, I find myself thinking about doing these acts. Isn’t it weird that the most natural act of all, cumming inside a woman, is now considered a special fetish of its own?.

  36. Coworker JUST discovered porn at age 37…his life is crumbling
    Coworker JUST discovered porn at age 37…his life is crumbling before him. Masturbating in the company car while driving.

    Submitted by confinement84″ on Fri, 2012-08-31 

    Ya. Credeam că titlul îți va atrage atenția. Un coleg al meu este muncitorul tau de construcții. El avea foarte puține înțelegeri sau cunoștințe despre computerele, astfel încât vizionarea de porno nu a fost pusă la îndoială fără a merge la un magazin porno de modă veche. Cu câteva luni în urmă, compania a înmânat noi telefoane inteligente pentru Navigare către angajații care nu au avut deja unul. A fost doar o chestiune de timp înainte de a descoperi lumea magică a porno. A doua zi, el a fost de conducere în jos pe drum într-o mașină de companie și masturba pe autostrada cu un alt coleg de muncă în mașină. Atunci știți că aveți probleme.

    The life of porn is already destroying his relationship with his wife. He was in a screaming match with his wife over the phone at the job site talking about kicking her out of their house. One coworker chimed in and said ” go home make up with her and stick it in her butt” (sorry for the graphic wording.) My coworker responds with … ” I don’t even want to. I am bored of her. I rather go home and jack-off to porn.” LOL.

    He was 100% serious when he made that statement, you could see it in his face. When he said that I was immediately thinking that his porn addiction was killing his relationship. If only he knew. I wouldn’t dare preach to him about porn or reuniting.info as he would probably laugh in my face. I guess some people have to learn the hard way right? If at all.

  37. Mulți dintre noi se ocupă de acest lucru

    Many of us deal with this addiction. Its a huge time waster, and yes…like alcohol. Some people can get to a normal use of porn..ie 15-20 minutes, get off ,and go to bed. Others have to cut it off completely. The 15 minutes quickly turns into 4 hours just like the “only one” drink inevitiably turns into a binge. Find out where you are and act accordingly.

    (LEGĂTURĂ)

  38. I’d say porn is “worse” than fapping

    Faptă într-adevăr problema sau este porno?

    I’d say porn is “worse” than fapping. Fapping is bad in many cicumstances too, but not almost exclusively as porn. Porn makes you not work for things in real life, or makes you work for disturbed things like constant new sexual kicks. Porn can make you feel like a passive on-looker to sex rather than an active participant. Porn makes you forget the beauty of normal female bodies. Porn makes every sexual field feel “done” and leads to sexual boredom etc.

  39. Prietenul meu se masturbeaza ca 10-15 ori pe zi.
    Faptă într-adevăr problema sau este porno?

    My friend masturbates like 10-15 times a day. Not even exaggerating. He seriously has an addiction, but he thinks its normal. He also doesnt have internet access, so he never really gets to watch porn either. And he’s never had a problem keeping it up in bed. On the other hand, I can’t remember the last time I masturbated without looking at porn. But I might masturbate only 4-5 times a week on average. And I have tremendous issues staying hard. At first I thought it was nerves, but after getting more acclamated with sex, I actually found sex to be tiring and boring. Unless the girl was deepthroating me and telling me to choke her, I don’t really find sex to be all that great. I’m very desensitized to the female anatomy.

    Deci, știu anecdoticul său, dar cele două diferențe infailibile ale vieții sexuale mă fac să cred că pornografia este mai dăunătoare decât masturbarea însăși. Am incercat sa nu fapp pentru 10 cateva zile inainte si asta a facut deja o mare diferenta in privinta modului in care am vazut femeile, deci cred ca masturbarea in sine trebuie minimizata. Dar pornografia chiar opreste partea psihologica a libidoului.

  40. Nu am avut niciodată o problemă până când nu am primit prima mea conexiune la Internet

    Faptă într-adevăr problema sau este porno?

    I can really only speak for me personally, but my problem is porn. Or, to be more specific, internet porn is my problem. I turn 32 this year and have been fapping since I was 12 or 13. I never had a problem until I lived alone and got my first high-speed internet connection around the time I was 22. Yeah the internet was around back in the early and mid 90s, but not many people I know had it. Porn use was self-limiting. You had to hope someone’s dad or older brother left out a magazine or movie. When I went to college, the dorms had a T3 line, but those who lived in apartments had dial-up. Good luck downloading a video clip on that. You could go to an adult store and buy one, but even if you could get over the fact that someone might see you there, those tapes were expensive.

    Deci, utilizarea mea pornografică a fost limitată de banii, de timpul și de rușinea mea. Dar când am ajuns în bandă largă, puteam să obțin nelimitat cantități de pornografii noi în fiecare zi, în mod anonim, gratuit. Și asta a fost.

    Nu intenționez niciodată să vizionez porno din nou. S-ar putea să mă întorc din nou o zi dacă pot să deconectez pornografia și să fapp. Dacă aș fi faptat acum, știu că voi purta doar scenarii porno în capul meu.

  41. It’s the faulty connections

    It’s the faulty connections and associations that are the problem, in one sense. What the dopamine does is give a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. That’s not a problem in and of itself, but what happens is that this sense also takes away the desire, and more importantly, the drive to improve your situation.

    Porno diminuează dorința dvs. și conduce pentru a vedea partenerii sexuali goi și angajarea în acte erotice, în timp ce masturbarea diminuează dorința de orgasm. Problema apare deoarece creierul dvs. face asocierea dintre PMO și satisfacerea acelor dorințe, mai degrabă decât asocierea realizării unor lucruri tangibile și găsirea de parteneri sexuali cu simțul satisfacției. Problema este aceea de a cădea într-un model de exploatație în loc să caute satisfacție în lumea exterioară.

    Faptă într-adevăr problema sau este porno?

  42. Am încercat amândouă și am venit

    Am încercat amândouă și am ajuns la concluzia că pornografia a fost problema mea. Încă mai trăiesc cel puțin o dată pe săptămână, pur și simplu nu cu porno. Mi se pare că rezultatele mele sunt la fel, iar eu sunt fericit cu ei. Nici un ed, încă excitat tot timpul, vocea mea este diferită, mai puțin îngrijorătoare în jurul potențialilor colegi, mai încrezători, etc

    Faptă într-adevăr problema sau este porno?

  43. Porcul este mai rău și cred

    Porn is worse, and I think fapping is fine except when porn is included. What I’m saying is our ancestors fapped, no doubt, but they probably did it much less then we do now with porn. With porn you can fap like crazy everyday if you want to! Without it, most guys hit a limit.

    So what I’m saying is 100 years ago, fapping was probably fine. Now, because of porn, its also become a problem.

    Faptă într-adevăr problema sau este porno?

  44. Hei baieti, un nou membru la
    Hei baieti, noul membru al forumurilor aici. 

    I recently started up my reboot (day 20!) and plan on making a journal soon but I am wondering what are people’s thoughts on the extent of the problems caused by PMO.  For instance, I know for me it has caused real issues (ED, PE, loss of time doing better things, etc) but on average how bad do you think the affects of PMO are? 

    I am in my mid 20s and know for sure that nearly every single friend I have is a PMOer.. these things just come up in guy talk sometimes and I would say its weird to hear someone who doesn’t like porn.  So for the “non-addict” so to speak, do you think they too are experiencing problems?  Or if not, are they “destined” to face problems one day?

    GUY 2)

    It really is too early to tell the full extent of this problem. The birth of high speed internet is making this problem more widespread that would have ever been possible in the past. I myself am 21 and I didn’t have high speed internet until I was about 15-16. Kids today will have it from day 1 and will quickly become more technology savvy than their parents (I plan to hide porn from my children with the same vigour that I used to show when searching for my own porn 😉 I would say that these changes are only just starting to have a real affect and it will be years until we know the extent of the damage – or atleast have a better idea of it.

    The other significant point is that many people are addicted without having a clue that they have a problem. I will use myself as an example again – I was addicted to porn for years without knowing that I had a problem. I then spent about 6 months knowing i had a problem but not quite knowing what it was. I then disovered YBOP and everything clicked. This seems to be a similar theme amongst members and would suggest that there could be an untold number of sufferers who dont even know it yet.

    S-ar putea să fie că suntem puțini exclusivi. Probabil că problema este foarte mică și doar un procent foarte mic al utilizatorilor suferă de problemele pe care le-am avut. În opinia mea, este mult mai probabil ca această problemă să fie larg răspândită și să crească rapid. Lipsa de cunoștințe și de cercetare, abilitatea de a ascunde dependența nu numai de oamenii care te cunosc, ci și de tine și de nașterea relativ nouă a internetului de mare viteză îmi sugerează că aceasta este o problemă care va crește până la punctul în care publicul, în general, devine conștient de dependența de PMO. Numai atunci vom începe să avem o idee despre imaginea mai mare.

    OP)

    I am wondering if anyone else has noticed possible symptoms in their friends after having learned about YBOP?  I’m not saying this as in witch hunt style speculation but I can think of things my buddies have mentioned that now scream of possible PMO addiction.  A few I’ve noticed (and when I say friends I am not just coding for myself, though I can include myself in some of these for sure!):

    1)  I have buddies that brag about how long they last.  I can think of at least a couple very good friends of mine who say they cannot orgasm at all during intercourse.  they laugh about it and suggest women love it because they can go so long… but they aren’t getting off at all..  seems like pretty shitty sex to me..

    2)  I know I have been guilty of PE a bunch of times and while I would never admit it to my friends, we have all joked about it and it seems that many guys can relate to this problem when its being laughed about.

    3)  I know a couple of guys who cannot use public stalls… WTF??  Not saying this is from PMO by any means, but I have seen people on this forum and similar ones talk about this..  strange if you ask me.

    4)  And for me THE NUMBNER ONE THING: Not trying hard to seek out girls!  Back in high school and early college it seems like every night was devoted to figuring out where girls would be and working to talk to them, hooking up with them, etc.  I cannot tell you how complacent sooooo many of my friends have become with not going after girls.  I am extremely guilty of this myself too.  My friends and I are in general pretty eligible guys (educated, jobs, good shape…) but it seems like many have just given up the thrill of seeking out chicks.  I have many friends who have not even so much as made out with a girl in the past year or two.

    I know there is a real danger in speculating too much on casual observations.  I am not saying any of the things I mentioned are because of PMO but it definitely has me wondering if others have noticed any of this type of behavior in people they know well.

    GUY 3)

    We can’t possibly know unless a random sample group is willing to share their intimate details. I think it’s obvious that a lot of men watch porn, but how often do they watch porn? Do they binge? Do they use fantasy instead? Do they just masturbate to touch alone? Perhaps they can still have relatively ok sex, but it’s not as good as it could be?

    Within my group of friends I would say that a lot of the sex talk is simply just that… talk. Those who don’t have girlfriends don’t appear to have sex very often – sometimes months and months apart.

    In my opinion, those who had a girlfriend, and had sex at an early age are probably better off. If they were able to have sex before any addiction took hold then they’ve probably reduced, or even stopped, looking at porn because they can be satisfied with real sex. But with every new generation comes a new danger. As internet is so fast and cheap these days, it’s far more likely that kids will get addicted long before they get into a sexual relationship.

    GUY 4)

    On one hand, I feel like it has to be incredibly widespread. Reason being internet porn is everywhere and it’s quite addicting.

    On the other hand, I’ve been on different forums or had real life discussions among friends & the consensus seems to be their porn use is controlled and they have a healthy sex life. Sure, I know most wouldn’t admit to excessive porn use. But since most of my friends legitimately have sex on a regular basis perhaps the urges aren’t as strong.

    And it’s probably widespread with certain groups and not others. I suspect it’s rampant among males under the age of 20, or individuals who are sexually inexperienced/ perpetually single (ie myself). Ironworld mentioned this in the post above and I believe he nailed it.

    So to answer OP’s question: realistically it probably falls somewhere in the middle. Porn addiction is out there and many are falling victim to it BUT there’s also a decent chunk of the population that either doesn’t find it appealing or is busy getting the real thing.

  45. Pericolul probabil este aici

    The danger likely here is that the porn will become more exciting than your girlfriend. She’s human and has self respect after all. Pornographic pixels have neither of these limitations. You’ll eventually expand your pornographic tastes since your sex will be based on the porn, and not her. If It’s based on porn, it will be subject to neverending novelty, always. So your girlfriend will get fed up with you asking her to do things she’s not comfortable with, since the damn abused pixels will do it for you, but she will not. You should find satisfaction with your girlfriend, enjoy every aspect about her, love her, seek out ways to work with her, and leave porn out of it

  46. aceasta este prima generație în care debutul internetului

     În realitate, bărbații (sau oamenii, mai degrabă) s-au luptat și au luptat împotriva conflictului interior al perversiunii sexuale (defined as a distortion of what’s healthy) de milenii.

    "Dar daca acest este prima generație în care instalarea internetului a stimulat producția și distribuția de pornografie pe o scară care nu a mai fost niciodată cunoscută în istoria omului. Mai rău este că un astfel de material este imediat disponibil copiilor și adolescenților care încă nu au intrat sau nu au terminat pubertatea și au descoperit în mod corespunzător sexualitatea. Mințile noastre sunt modelate de această expunere precoce, iar masturbarea creează căi chimice și neurologice puternice în creier care ne determină să gravitați spre pornografie în loc de relații.

    What truly makes the NoFap community so unique is not that we’re standing up against addiction to pornography and masturbation, but that we’re taking this stand for ne. Nimeni nu ne obligă să facem acest lucru; Nu familia noastră, nu bisericile noastre, nu guvernul nostru. We are choosing to make this change. We’re doing it for our loved ones, for our communities, for the next generation.

    Vom întoarce valul împotriva pierderii sexualității. Ne reaprindem flăcările pasiunii și dorinței partenerilor noștri. Ne întoarcem la un stil de viață demn de bărbați și femei care trăiesc fără regrete.

    Forță pentru tine, pionierii! – LINK TO THREAD

  47. I’ll start by saying that I

    I’ll start by saying that I am 20 years old, in college, and writing this at 5:30 in the morning after staying up most of the night deciding to end this addiction for. Here is some background on me: During middle school, when I first started puberty, I was one of the most popular kids in school. I was tall, athletic, probably the smartest guy in my class, and good looking. I was very confident around the prettiest girls in my grade, routinely flirting with them and grabbing asses in the hallway. I was even able to hang out with the girls in the grade above me outside of school. I never had sex with any of them, but I was perfectly ready. I dated the middle school cheer captain for a little bit in the 8th grade. The only porn I had been exposed to at the time was with friends watching HBO, magazines, or some Pay-per-view, all of which I did not have access to at my own house. I masturbated on a fairly regular basis from what I recall, probably no more than once a day or once every two or three days, beginning around the 5th or 6th grade. I masturbated to music videos on television during the day time, and BET uncut if I stayed up late enough on weekends. I would frequently use my Sports Illustrated Swimsuit magazine, a Victoria’s Secret, or my imagination as well. Throughout this, my behavior and social performance stayed at a desirable level.

    In high school as a freshman, I played football and remained popular, despite only being in 9th grade. I had the highest GPA in my class, and I was able to do things like attend a dance where only female members of a country club were allowed to invite dates. I was asked by one of the hottest girls in my class, I blonde cheerleader with big tits, and I don’t recall having any anxiety at any point during the event. This girl obviously liked me and wanted to be my girlfriend, but I was not interested in having a girlfriend at the time. The point is, I had options. I enjoyed being single and was open to sex at any time with girls. I quit playing football after 9th grade, but remained popular in 10th grade, asking the consensus hottest girl (cheerleader) in my class to the homecoming dance. My friends that I hungout with after school and on weekends were the most popular kids in the school. I would go to parties, but I would never drink and it was awkward sometimes, and I was still a virgin. Hell, I hadn’t kissed a girl since 8th grade.

    In 11th grade, I began to change my feelings toward people I hungout with. My best friend (who was also a virgin) and I were able to realize that the group we were hanging out with was dull and only cared about doing stereotypically popular kid things. We gradually stopped hanging out with the group of popular students, and we found a new group of friends. My best friend found a girl friend that he kept throughout the duration of high school. He was no longer a virgin. I never really cared about being a virgin. If somebody asked, I simply lied, and I was ready for sex at any point.  It was at this time that I began masturbating to internet porn on the family computer when no one was home.  Around the 2nd half of 11th grade that I began to resent my old group of friends. I allowed myself to get way to pissed off when around them. I would deliberated shoulder bump them in the halls at school, hoping to trigger a fight (I’ve always been confident in my fighting ability). I guess that was fueled by jealousy and frustration that they were acheiving higher social status than me by doing something I could easily do but chose not to do. Although I did not hang out with the popular kids anymore, I was still viewed as a popular student and attractive to girls, though my confidence and speaking skills with girls was starting to decline. I still asked younger girls to school dances and things, but I was not as confident as I used to be.

    În clasa 12, am primit un laptop ca cadou de la bunicii mei. Acest lucru însemna PMO în fiecare noapte. Abilitățile mele sociale cu fetele au scăzut mai mult și am avut o anxietate socială destul de proastă. Am rămas în continuare popular și atractiv, dar nu aveam nici o atitudine agresivă față de femei. Săptămâna trecutului meu de liceu consta în a petrece împreună cu noul meu grup de prieteni (toți tipii). Cu toate acestea, am fost mulțumit de acest lucru, deoarece încă nu eram conștient de situația mea socială. Am alunecat puțin din punct de vedere academic și nu am terminat clasa mea, dar încă în topul 10. Am primit o bursă într-o bună universitate de ani 4.

    While at the university, I continued to PMO every night. I met a girl the first week I was there that I fell madly in love with. I went on one date with her, but my worsening social anxiety crippled me from taking any more steps to further our relationship. I stopped attending the class she was in, and we stopped talking to each other. I remained in love with her for the remainder of the school year. Around the 2nd half of my first year at college, my internet porn tastes took a turn toward masturbation instruction videos. This led to a general femdom fetish. I would PMO to this type of shit for the rest of the year. This fetish began to fuck with my mind, raising doubts about things like my penis size. My penis size would be considered big by most people at over 7 inches and average to above average girth. It still bothers me now. I began jelqing exercises, which I’m not totally against, but I was doing it with a self-conscious attitude. I was still a virgin and had not kissed a girl since the 8th grade. It was starting to get to me. I maintained over a 3.0 GPA for the year, but my academic performance had dropped.

    As a sophomore in college, I continued PMO every night. My porn tastes had evolved into genres like femdom, humiliation, cuckold crap, and shit like sissy brainwashing(the me from a few years ago would be disgusted). I was tired of being a virgin. I called up an escort I found online one night, and I lost my virginity. I had trouble getting it up, but I was able to peform. I called another escort a few weeks later and had a better performance. She asked what a cute college guy like me was doing with an escort. I couldn’t tell her that the anxiety I had prevented me from approaching any girls I found attractive. By the end of my sophomore year, my grades had declined and I decided to transfer to another 4 year university. My porn habbits became more frequent and more fucked up.

    Și asta am fost astăzi. O lună la noua universitate cu un nou om major. Ar trebui să merg la curs în această dimineață, dar am stat toată noaptea scriind asta. Asta am fost chiar acum. Am găsit-o pe yourbrainonporn.com acum câteva luni și a fost încurajatoare. Am eșuat la câteva repornări repetate. Am instalat software-ul pentru protecția web K9, dar este ușor să te apropii. Acum câteva zile am recidivat după ce am parcurs 7 zile fără să mă uit la pornografie sau masturbare. M-am simțit minunat în ziua 7, iar erecția mea a fost cea mai puternică pe care o văzusem vreodată. Am de gând să fac următoarea încercare de repornire incredibil de serios, începând acum. M-am gândit că am nevoie de toate instrumentele pe care le pot ajuta să mă ajute, pentru că este o cățea de dependență. Știu că sunt vremuri grele înainte. Vreau ca voi să vă mențineți acuzați. Urează-mi noroc.

  48. Am Ithere? No, it’s just the beginning.

    Am Ithere? No, it’s just the beginning.

    First of all, my addiction. I started watching porn when I was young, too young. It was a huge mistake and I blame it on society and on the pressure it puts on young men who are inexperienced about sex. When you are a teenager (or even a kid these days), if you don’t watch porn you are not cool, an outsider. Porn is easily accessible and there are really no restrictions to what content can be seen. I wish I would have played more games as a kid, instead of wasting my time with porn. Now I’m too old, tired and worn out to have fun, things have gotten difficult. I wish I could have my childhood back, I feel like I’ve been molested in a way. Porn has taken everything from me – I have little memory of my adolescence, all I remember doing was looking at porn.

    Porn is not realistic, it promotes misogyny and the idea that money can buy you anything. It gives you a false sense of fullfilment. I agree with people when they say that masturbation is natural and healthy, I wholly agree, but porn? No it is not. It’s true that not everyone ends up being addicted but in my opinion there’s no “right” dosage for porn. Sex is an important part of life and shouldn’t be lived through a screen.

  49. Pornire mult mai greu decât nofap

    Pornire mult mai greu decât nofap

    I’ve been doing fairly well in nofap, but I have looked at porn probably once per week in my 70-day streak of nofap. I don’t know what it is about porn that draws me back. I want to keep watching my favorite girls and explore the endless hours of porn that are out there. When I think about giving up porn for life, I have to fight against feeling like I’m missing something in my life. I am trying to rededicate myself in the fight against porn.

    Wish me luck…

    GUY 2)

    I can attest to that. Doing nofap brought me here. After a 38 day streak I failed, willingly, without porn. But that set into motion some old habits. 4 days later I pmo’d. Now im 6 days of nofap, only 1 of noporn and im fighting the most intense urges. Noporn is definitely harder.

    GUY 3)

    NoFap este o briza în comparație cu PornFree!

    Încă nu sunt sigur dacă porno-ul este într-adevăr tot rău dacă nu te descurci la el, mai ales dacă pur și simplu porno vanilie?

    GUY 4)

    Tot ce știu sigur este că pentru mine, chiar acum, orice fel de pornografie este nesănătoasă și cauzează unele afecțiuni grave

    GUY 5)

    Aceeași barcă aici. Aproape o lună în nofap și ceva mai puțin pe pornfree.

    Cu toate acestea, este încă o îmbunătățire majoră față de a face aproape zilnic, așa că mă concentrez asupra acestui lucru.

    GUY 6)

    I agree. It’s been 14 months since I’ve fapped but only 2 months since I last watched porn. For me I find that 90% of my porn urges come while I’m on my home computer, so lately I have been choosing to keep it off for most of the day to stop myself from casually sitting down and farting around online. Even if I’m not horny, 20 years of habitually searching for exciting sexual content does not go away very quickly.

    Instead I’ve been spending my free time with my family/friends and reading more, particularly books that challenge me to be a better person.

    GUY 7)

    Couldn’t agree more. I’ve got 11 days of nofap, but I still pull up a porn pic every other day or so. I don’t know why, bc it just frustrates the fuck out of me. I haven’t watched any vids since starting nofap, and I’ve only spent a total of about 3 minutes looking at pics. It’s a colossal improvement over my pre-nofap binges, but I know I’ll just slip more and more if I’m complacent. Pornfree is a must. There’s just no other way for me.

  50. can’t actually watch more than 30 seconds of anyone clip

    TED talk really opened my mind. Watching porn has become a habit. I can’t actually watch more than 30seconds of anyone clip, I was always searching for the next thrill. My energy has been feeling low recently and I have symptoms described in the TED talk.

    Deveniți un obicei, aici de la TED vorbesc

  51. Câte vagine ați văzut?

    Câte vagine ați văzut?

    Seriously. Let’s do some mathematics.

    I started NoFap when I was 22. Before then, since the age of approximately 14 or 15, I was watching porn at least once a day. Each porn session would result in me maybe viewing 4 or 5 videos on average (I’m ballparking here since in the earlier days it took me less to get off, and in the later days my sessions became longer and more varied). I had holidays and stuff, but lets just say the average amount I actively watched (lets not even try and work out how many I saw by proxy when browsing for that perfect scene) per day was 2.

    Lets say I started at 15. That’s 7 years of 2 per day…

    Asta e 5110. (macar). Acest număr mă face să mă simt puțin bolnav.

    Nu-i de mirare cum poți să-ți dai în minte pornografia.

    (oh and, that means I’ve also watched over 5000 men cum). That’s kind of sad.

    Deci, care este numărul dvs. magic?

  52. Cum fapping a ruinat un copil 16 ani de viață socială

    Cum fapping a ruinat un copil 16 ani de viață socială

    I remember more then a year ago, before my brother moved out I had no problems with masturbation. I could go days without porn and still didn’t feel the urge. Despite having some social anxiety I was considered the funniest kid in class, I was the one who loved making speeches without feeling a shred of nervousness and things went great with the girl I loved. My god she was beautiful…

    But once my brother moved out the house was free all for myself (my mom works late shifts every two weeks) and just out of loneliness I started fapping. I downloaded a porn video in full HD last summer and was blown away by the clarity the video had… And thats when things escalated. Almost everyday for a year up to this point I jerked of.

    Astăzi, anxietatea mea socială sa înrăutățit. Sunt în liceu chiar acum și am pierdut contactul cu fata pe care o iubesc pentru că am început să am aceleași șmecheri ciudate atunci când am avut o conversație cu ea sau cu cineva de fapt. Abia mă pot face o propoziție fără să mă bat în fața oamenilor. Simt că mori în fiecare zi la clasă pentru că sunt întotdeauna atât de nervos și de nesigur.

    Sunt la cel mai înalt punct al dependențelor: am ED, nu pot să țin o conversație fără atacuri de panică și m-am speriat de penisul meu pentru că mi-a dat greș.

    Cu toate acestea, mă bucur încă de câteva lucruri: a face o plimbare, a explora natura și de a lucra în sala de gimnastică (am un corp minunat caută). Dar eu fac toate aceste lucruri singur, singur.

    În ultimele două luni am încercat să renunț. Și înregistrările mele țin de o săptămână. Dar astăzi mi-am stîrnit fără rușine și din nou stăteam aici singură, simțindu-mă rahat.

    Dați-mi sprijinul de care am nevoie. Aceasta îmi distruge viața.

  53. Am citit post despre a avea leziuni pe pula ta și, de fapt, chu

    If you have a huge porn collection on your hard drives from the past few years that you feel emotionally attached to… you may have a problem.
     
    GUY 2)

    Dacă lucrurile despre care te simți cel mai pasionat sunt porno.

    GUY 3)
     
    Când pula ta a fost literalmente inflamat de prea multă M și aderență la moarte.

    GUY 4)
     
    Dacă ați fost fapping pentru 20 ani, locuiți singuri și sunt încă o fecioară la 38.

    Dacă vă gândiți să obțineți una din acea viață reală caută păpuși sexuale, astfel încât să nu vă simțiți atât de singuri pe măsură ce vă distrați viața

    Dacă toți prietenii tăi sunt deja căsătoriți și au copii și încă ești singur, pentru că ești foarte antisocială și preferi să faci porno în loc să întâlnești femei adevărate

    GUY 5)

    Dacă luați pauze în timpul muncii sau în școală, puteți merge în baie pentru a vă concentra.

    If you get headaches when you try to abstain, start shaking, feel intense depression, and feel like you’re completely lost without porn and masturbation…. Then you definitely have a problem.

    GUY 6)

    If ruining your life because of PMO doesn’t make you change your habits, you may have a problem.

    GUY 7)

    • Dacă vă răniți pe pula dvs. de la masturbare nu vă împiedică să vă masturbezi.
    • Dacă doriți să cum atât de rău, că nici măcar cumming ajută la relieve tensiunea.
    • Dacă anulați o întâlnire cu prietenii sau cu familia, puteți să vă așezați și să vă distrați pentru o zi întreagă, în loc de pornografie.
    • Dacă ați spus nu la sex, pentru că aveți ED și preferați cinstit porno împotriva femeilor reale.
    • If PMO’ing is no longer something you want, but it has become something you need to function.
    • Dacă luați pauze în timpul muncii sau în școală, puteți merge în baie pentru a vă concentra.
    • If you get headaches when you try to abstain, start shaking, feel intense depression, and feel like you’re completely lost without porn and masturbation…. Then you definitely have a problem.

    GUY 8)

    If you spend longer and longer edging while you prepare for the perfect moment to cum… you may have a problem.

    GUY 9)

    I read the post about having sores on your dick and actually chuckled – been there, done that. I hope the following true stories can provide a giggle, but also show how pathetic PMO addiction can get. I’m not proud of any of these, but strap in cos this is probably going to get out of hand… (no pun intended)

    • If you’ve jerked off to porn on your first colour screen phone while your SO is asleep in the next room (your bedroom with your computer), you may have a problem.
    • If you’ve jammed your phone into the gap in your steering wheel so you can watch porn and jack it while driving, you may have a problem.
    • If you’ve tried to jerk off in a petrol station toilet but failed to cum cos you didn’t have any porn, you may have a problem.
    • If you have jerked off in your brother’s house while he was getting his grocery shopping, you may have a problem.
    • If you’ve done all your internet banking on the first day of the month cos you know your bandwidth will be gone by the second day, you may have a problem.
    • Dacă, după 2 de ani de la aceasta, veți realiza că vă puteți actualiza limita de descărcare online în cursul lunii și apoi ați continuat să o faceți o dată, dar de două ori, până când ați triplat costul inițial și limita maximă de descărcare pentru că ISP, poate aveți o problemă.
    • If you then exceeded that bandwidth limit before the month’s end, you definitely have a problem.
    • If you have found a new starlet, and signed up to multiple sites because you don’t like jerking it to preview clips and the torrents were just taking too damn long, you may have a problem.
    • If your brother asks for you to copy him some porn and you give him the first 100Gb or so of your collection, but it all starts with the letter “A”, you may have a problem.
    • If you’re drunk and staying over at a mates house and jerked off to porn at the family computer in the lounge room while your mate is passed out drunk on the couch, you may have a problem.
    • If you then have your mate’s dad walk in on you and nu te busta datorita reflexelor tigrului de alt + tab, poate ai o problema.
    • Dacă l-ai așteptat să plece și apoi te-ai întoarce la el, ai cu siguranță o problemă.
    • Dacă ați început să vă jerking în timp ce beți, a trecut și apoi a trezit în dimineața următoare, cu mâna încă pe junk și porno bandă suspendate din VCR, s-ar putea să aveți o problemă.
    • Dacă observați că cineva ți-a pus spălatul la capătul patului în timp ce ai fost eliberat, poate ai o problemă.
    • If you push the tape back in anyway and go back to jerking it cos you figure last night didn’t count if you didn’t cum, you definitely have a problem.

    Voi actualiza acest lucru după cum îmi vine mai mult în minte. După cum puteți vedea, nofapul este bine așteptat în cazul meu.

  54. Cine mai simte emoții mai puțin din cauza porno?

    Cine mai simte emoții mai puțin din cauza porno?

    It’s not even just the good things, sometimes you don’t even feel pain when you should which actually sucks. I’ve seen a few people mention this, but not that many and for me this is one of the worst things I’ve had to go through and was just wondering how many other people experienced it or if it’s just an extreme thing?

    GUY 2)

    Am simtit mult mai multa emotie atunci cand am avut Dialup in comparatie cu a avea broadband.

    GUY 3)

    No, it’s common. The numbing effect of porn & masturbation is real, and it’s why many go through some pretty unexpected and extreme emotional mood swings during the NoFap reboot. You’re suddenly not using fapping to cope and escape from feelings, so you have to face reality head on.

    GUY 4)

    It’s like, the pain life might throw at you isn’t as bad as not being able to feel it. You need to feel something rather than nothing, even if sometimes it hurts.

    GUY 5)

    Drumul lung înapoi spre a fi uman.

  55. porno a făcut-o ca sexul să fie mai mult despre teatru

    Think about it – porn, which used to be a good thing – a marital aide – is now an industry bigger than the NFL (and has been for some time).

    It’s piped into our homes.

    Și pentru a rămâne competitiv și profitabil, el împinge tot timpul granițele.

    But take a trip in a time machine – let’s go 1992.

    Poll 1000 adults. Ask them ‘What is a facial?’

    O mare parte dintre ei se vor referi la practica de frumusețe.

    Repede până astăzi. Ce se va întâmpla atunci când întrebați aceeași întrebare?

    My buddy from India was in America for about a month when we passed a salon that said “Facials.” He gave me a look, and said “I can’t believe you can do that here!” I clued into what he meant really quickly and laughed.

    El obișnuia să privească foarte mult porno în India, iar sensul unui cuvânt sa schimbat atât de mult.


    We don’t focus on the spiritual parts of sex so much as we do the physical parts now. Every. Girl. I’ve been with has had a load of semen shot in her face or chest by me. Why? Because it looks like you’re supposed to do it. Why do they let me? Because it looks like I’m supposed to do it.

    Cumming in her vagina (with a condom) or in her mouth would be enough – it even feels better – but porn has given us the thirst for theatrics – all unhealthy. In fact, the theatrics are bigger than the experience now! Cum in her mouth? She better swallow, because it’s hot! (why can’t she just discreetly spit?)

    Anal sex – I never would have explored it unless a girl was in touch with her body enough to ask for it because she liked it. I’ve given girls anal because of the theatrics, even though it wasn’t pleasurable to ANY of us.


  56. real sex didn’t live up to my experiences as the guy in the porn

    The thing I noticed when looking at porn was I associated with the guy in the scene and when real sex didn’t live up to my experiences as the guy in the porn I felt let down and resentful. Like I wasn’t getting what was due me and this other guy (porn star) was. So sex became a let down because ‘other guys’ were getting all this crazy shit from beautiful women who were enjoying it and I was getting (and giving) lame sex with my wife if I was lucky enough to convince to have sex with me instead of watching TV.

    I actually had myself convinced that I had no choice but to look at porn and more because I would never have the fun sex that all the other guys (porn stars) had. I deserved something, didn’t I? It wasn’t fair that I wouldn’t experience that stuff. LINK

     

  57. NoFap mă face să mă gândesc la cât de trist este să trăim în vremurile noastre.

    LINK – The Problem

    NoFap makes me think of how sad it is to live in our times. We live in a time where staying inside doped up on SSRIs, alone, watching incessant amounts of lonely TV, and having tons of imaginary fairy sex with your primal dexterity is acceptable. People just label these people “shy” or “introverted”, but I think we have an epidemic. It’s sad that, to avoid the effects of unbalanced chemicals in the brain, we have to exert so much physical and mental energy. With diet becoming such a chore to keep up, people flooding themselves with cesspools of anti-real social values by pushing each others’ human forms into a texting game of misconstrued interpretation and finding empathy in technology rather then the actual “Him” or “Her”, and exercise not being seen an important aspect to our daily lives. This shouldn’t become normală..

    And NoFap has become taboo! Everyone is starting to accept that masturbating your problems away is just evolution or some shit. I know some people that think I’m stupid for doing NoFap, but these are also the same people that sit at home playing hours upon hours of League of Legends whining about how they need a girlfriend, or that come home from work and do nothing but lay on the couch watching TV and indulging in a binge savory and saccharine delicacies wondering “why is my life shit?” and answering it with a fist full of anti-depressants. I would hate to see this become the norm, but I feel like that’s where this is all headed if we don’t do something about it.

    So as much as I want to procrastinate, stay at home, and do my lonely activities, I will fight this. We’re the type of people that will end up on top in life, the ones that take our aspirations and turn them into sweet, sweet, tangible reality. The ones that have a chance at seeing the view from the top of a mountain rather than from a camera from a plane on a synthetic screen. The ones that will taste something much more satisfying than a Big Mac and fries or fucking your fake internet girlfriend through Pornhub. We’ll taste, touch, smell, see, hear, and feel life coursing through our veins.

    “You know what I’ve noticed? Nobody panics when things go “according to plan.” Even if the plan is horrifying! If, tomorrow, I tell the press that, like, men spend hours on pornsites instead of being productive, or more and more men experience ED, nobody panics, because it’s all “part of the plan.” But when I say that one little community starts NoFap, well then everyone loses their minds!”

    Hawkeye5

    Nici măcar nu am auzit de internet până la cel de-al doilea an al colegiului meu, și aici sunt la vârsta mea, depășind această dependență. Sunt cu adevărat simpatic pentru tinerii care au fost expuși la aceste prostii de la prima pubertate.

    petef92

    the only reason i decided to take action and stop is because i got drawn into camsites that charge extortionate amounts of money, the ‘shame’ aspect of that was very addictive.

    This makes me wonder how many people view porn on a daily basis and think nothing of it, constantly angry about how they’re socially awkward etc. i swear i spot these people sometimes; the downcast eyes, not knowing what to do with their hands or where to stand.

    ForesterNL

    Cum spui tu, o epidemie de oameni cu bariere mentale.

    Există un timp și un loc pentru cele mai multe lucruri și niciodată în exces (care este de obicei cuvântul cheie). Cred că obiceiurile se stabilesc atunci când sunteți tineri (dietă, tendințe etc.). Chiar dacă sunt doar 28 îmi amintesc doar că sunt înăuntru când vremea a fost oribilă. Actuala generație tinde să nu fie cea activă ceea ce mă face să cred că unii ar putea avea nevoie să lucreze la ea mai greu mai târziu în viață.

    kikstartkid

    I agree. It’s crazy when you realize that modern technology has both significantly advanced our civilization and significantly damaged the minds of men. But, we are still so early in the ‘internet age’. Empirically proven knowledge about our minds/bodies and the impact the internet/technology has on it is only growing and becoming more widely distributed. This community is testament to that growth.

     

  58. A obținut o viață minunată și

    A obținut o viață mare și pornografia începe să o distrugă. Te rog ajuta-ma? (repost din r / pornfree) 


    So this is somewhat hard to write – but I thought I would give it a try. I have no where else to turn with this as this is such a shameful part of my life. It is a rather long post, apologies, but I need help from those who have gone through similar problems.

    I’m a young man in my mid-twenties, living in London, not originally from the UK. I moved here almost two years ago for my dream job – working in development economics. My work environment and home is breathtakingly affluent (have to pause every now and take it all in) -not trying to show off, just got very lucky! I get to interact with politicians, academics, journalists from around the world- and more or less get to be a political and economic nerd all day long, get paid for it, and actually be surrounded by some of my intellectual idols.

    I have a wonderful social life, I row for a competitive rowing club, so I have a hobby, and I’m even learning a new language. I’m young and healthy. In the office I am considered the really nice guy, who is a gentleman, kind, and I’m generally liked by all. I’m constantly flattered with compliments on my charm and looks, even told by my CEO at meetings, “that I come straight out of Tommy Hilfiger ad” (although I guarantee you I do not have an ego, and actually I have rather low self-esteem).

    Objectively speaking, my life is amazingly wonderful – and yet I am not enjoying it the way I should be, because I recognise now that I am terribly addicted to pornography.

    In part this steams from a relationship that I left almost a year ago. It was a sexless relationship. She was a virgin, I naturally respected her wishes to hold off on sex until she was comfortable and ready for it. I fell madly in love with this girl, it was wonderful, until the day I found out that she had another boyfriend (who I thought was her ex-boyfriend, turned out she never broke up with him). She had been lying and manipulating me for over half a year – it was terribly devastating, to the point that i want into a solitary depression for a couple of months (the clincher – we also work at the same place, which makes life terrible at times).

    I’m not saying that this failed relationship lead me to over-excessive porn use. I know that I had already passed that point years earlier. I was fapping to porn on a daily bases. A good day was when I only fapped once. On most days it would be a least 3-5 times. I also started to watch increasingly more perverted porn – clearly the need to find something new and stimulating. I even end-ed up reading incest hentai doujin comics (don’t have a sister, but still, sick shit like that started to turn me on). I would search the main porn producers, to see if they had new girls – constantly needing to find new stimulation. I realised it was getting bad, when I would be getting ready for work, and I would just fap to some porn – I was fapping, sitting in my suit at home, at the exact time that I should have been entering the office. I still got all my work done, and to a high caliber- but the fact that I was making porn a priority started to genuinely make me feel sick (in fact I am sick to my stomach just writing this right now). I finally broke down – when I was searching for porn that resembled my ex (who I never had sex with) as a need to find a virtual substitute. I can not tell you, how sad and lonely I feel at those moments.

    Since the end of my destructive relationship, I also noticed that my ability to sexually interact with girls was not… ideal. I could not flirt with girls, even though it was clear that they were interested in me, found me funny and enjoyable to be around. I felt like I was not living my life like I should be, because I was so ashamed of the person I am in private. On the exterior is this ostensibly nice, charming, and handsome young man – but who could barely keep eye contact with a girl (it requires all my strength to keep eye contact and not shy away when a cute girl looks at me). As a result, I do not see myself as a man, but as this little boy – who is still fapping like he was as a thirteen year old.

    I did have a sexual encounter with a beautiful girl a couple months back. She was absolutely stunning. I was fine and erect during kissing and touching. Even during fellatio I was erect – but the feeling I had was for the most part numbness as she was down there. The only sensation I could feel was the pressure – none of the other wonderful things that come with it. When we started to have sex – I was numb beyond belief – I could not feel anything and eventually it became so difficult that I became flaccid. It was a depressingly terrible moment for me.

    I realise that porn is taking over my life. I never thought it would get to this point -that I would be addicted to something like this. The thing is, I don’t want to “recover” just so I can have wild sex with as many girls as possible. I just want my self-esteem back to a higher level, I want to find a nice girl, and to be able to have intimate moments with her as we develop together. It may sound cheesy, but I am romantic at heart – and I want to be able to feel that, and not to disappoint someone because of an addiction.

    I genuinely believe that porn is leading me to a life where I will not be able to have a healthy relationship with anyone. Moreover, I am so ashamed of the person I’ve become. My family, friends, and co-workers have this image of a good wholesome boy and I just can’t bare the darkness that I seem to be in. Right… so I know I’ve been writing a great deal. I NEED HELP!. I don’t know what to do about it. I’ve added a “porn blocker” on Firefox which works fine – I’ve deleted Internet explorer (not like I ever use it anyway). But I primarily use Chrome, and I seem to always be able to disable the porn -blocker extensions that I install (any help on this?).

    Dar, tuturor celor care au trecut prin nevoia de a tăia complet porno din viața ta. Ce măsuri ați întreprins? Ce ar trebuii să fac? Am nevoie de ajutor și nu am nici o idee cum să avansez.

    Am o viata minunata si sunt foarte deprimata ca nu ma bucur de ea pe deplin din cauza unor site-uri porno stupide.

  59. Am renuntat la pornografie 2 saptamani in urma si ma simt minunat.

    Am renuntat la pornografie 2 saptamani in urma si ma simt minunat.

    I have been addicted to porn for about 6 years. I always thought it wasn’t an addiction. I was always in to having the rush of it all. Bangbros is where it all started. Thinking back, If only I knew how weird and addiciting this was, I would have never done it. I was always talking to my friends in my class and thought it was normal to look up porn daily. Then it became twice a day. Then I’d start doing it THREE times a day. The weird thing is, I didn’t even own my own computer. But, anyways. Up until I got a girlfriend, I never realized how truly addicted I was. After I told her that I always watched porn, I really started to take a toll on her. By this point, I really didn’t notice how getting off to porn would hurt anyone else. 2 weeks ago, she told me how much pain she was in from me trying to get pleasure somewhere else. Then it really hit me. Ive tried to quit all summer. I’d relapse so fast. I technically wouldn’t even call it quitting. But, Porn is definitely like a drug. Softcore is the gateway. Then you need a little bit stronger stuff, then stronger. The only tough thing is the super strong urge, but I’m proud to say that I’m done with pornography.

  60. Raportul Zilei 75: dependența de porno

    Context: 29 y/o male, single, not religious, addicted to extreme porn, PMO’ed 2-3 times in most days with few hours of porn. Now doing NoFap in hard mode.

    Raport: It has been 75 days since last masturbation. Only thing that i can say that after day 60 urges have exploded to the new record. Really positive thing is that now i’m horny for the first time in my life. When i was on PMO i was never horny without stimulation. I always wondered how it feels when guys told that they are horny and they need to get laid.. now i know how it feels. It has been really hard to get any sleep when i’m this horny.

    I was expecting and hoping that horniness would happen but i didn’t know that it would take over 70 days.

    În caz contrar, a fost o plimbare stabilă.

    Pentru cei care nu sunt încă interesați de vise umede de la NoFap.

    Despre dependenta mea pornografica: Vroiam să scriu despre dependența mea de pornografie. Cei mai mulți oameni din NoFap știu ce înseamnă să fii dependent de pornografie, dar vreau să împărtășesc lumină în acest subiect. Cred că oamenii scriu rar ceea ce înseamnă dependență pornografică pentru ei.

    S-ar putea să fie declanșatori dacă aveți o dispoziție sensibilă.

    I believe that many non addicted people will think that porn addiction means that i’m obsessed by watching any type of porn. This is not true at all. I’m sure that people think that because i’m porn addict it means that i have seen many “famous big money porn movies”. This again is not true at all. I have seen probably only 15 movies like that.

    I would say that there is two parts in my porn addiction: Searching and watching. Actually i’m more addicted to searching of porn than watching it. I have become extremely selective about porn that i watch and search. When searching something that is very hard to find it starts to take a long time. I estimate that searching takes 80-90% of the time and watching 10-20%. When i find something that is hard to find i get more pleasure.

    When people talk about escalation of porn, for me it means this: First i was happy to see some non nude or very soft-core pictures, then i needed more hardcore porn, then something new and more shocking. I was curious to see more and something new. In a same time i wanted to see more specific type of women, specific positions, camera angles, acts… Amount of material that was OK for me was going down a lot. Many times i just couldn’t find anything new and good so i needed more genres of porn.. Even more shocking than previous. When i did this searching i was always edging at the same time.

    Au fost momente când am încercat să nu mai folosesc pornografie extremă, dar nu aveam control pentru utilizarea mea și am recidivat chiar mai adânc decât unde eram.

    I used many tabs simultaneously and when i found something good i opened it to another tab to wait. When i had enough of good material, i selected best scene and masturbated to ejaculation. Material that i found during searching process was zero value after ejaculation. I don’t watch same video for twice, i always need something new to watch and search.

    For me this process of searching and watching became something that nothing else compares. Build up and release from this is something that even normal sex doesn’t compare. I remember that years ago i was thinking that sex isn’t that good as porn is and it’s true. Real women can’t compete with porn at least when you are addicted to porn.

    Cred că, în același timp, atunci când te-ai uitat la pornografie sa simțit grozav, alte lucruri au început să se simtă ... Nimic. Am preferat porno peste multe alte lucruri în viață. Porno a avut efecte negative asupra vieții mele și probabil mai mult decât știu.

    Am folosit pornografia pentru a scăpa de stres, insomnie, sentimente negative, probleme de relații, alte probleme, când eram singură sau plictisit. Folosirea porno-ului a fost puternic înrădăcinată în viața mea de zi cu zi. Sper că pot trăi într-o zi fără să mă gândesc zilnic la pornografie.

    Viitorul porno? I wanted to bring this up because when i started using Internet porn about 12-13 years ago. It was hard to find any extreme pictures. I’m sure that material was there but it was more underground and very hard to find. Now it’s easy to find full videos of same type of porn. I think that in a big picture, people using porn are becoming more desensitized for what they watch and extreme is considered more normal. I’m not saying that porn should be banned but it’s something that i have noticed.

    Vă mulțumim pentru citirea!

    LINK - 75 Days report și despre dependența mea de pornografie

  61. Pentru dependenții (ca mine) fără P

    Pentru dependenti (ca mine), faptarea fara P devine o sarcina. Ca să mănânci un tort de orez când vrei o cremă brulee.

  62. Mă gândeam la acest subiect (progresul tehnologic

    I’ve been thinking about this subject (the technological advancement of porn) over the years and in my opinion, it’s only going to get worse, not better.

    From the Venus of Willendorf, to the printing press, to home video, to the internet, porn has always been early adopters of communicative technology. Once something akin to Star Trek’s holo-deck is invented, the porn industry will be quick to make holo-porn where you can bed your favorite porn stars night after night, whether she be human, alien, or just a physically impossible mess of nipples, tentacles, & holes.

    Of course, then there is robots of the future, also made to look like your dream gal. We sort of have this now, what with Real Dolls & the like. But Real Dolls are prohibitively expensive and they don’t move or talk. But I’m sure with technology advancing further, that we’ll have the ancestors of the Asimo with silicone skin. She’ll be able to talk dirty in a dry robotic voice with bad lip flapping. Sexy.

    We’re already seeing signs of a porn dominated future in Japan. The young men there are inundated with lots & lots of hyper-sexual imagery, thanks to the aggressive marketing of 100% fictional “moe” anime idols. Hastune Miku, a chip generated singing voice program (AKA a Vocaloid) is a chart busting singer with hit albums, concerts, and games. But she doesn’t exist in the real world. That doesn’t stop the otakus from pining over her assumed “image” and buying anything with her imaginary face. Meanwhile, plenty of real, talented girls & guys in Japan & over the world are struggling to break into the music industry. Japan’s birthrate is at an all time low, and a large population of men 15~40 are turning into “herbivores”, who shun the outside world and prefer their “2D” girls over “3D” girls.

    So yeah, if porn does continue at this pace, humanity is boned. We’ll die out with a whimper when the last male collapses of a heart attack over his robot waifu that he just boned.

    http://www.reddit.com/r/pornfree/comments/12801i/how_porn_rewires_your_brain_in_mens_health/

  63. Owner of ‘porn cartel’ has been using porn since age 10. Aged 19

    Owner of ‘porn cartel’ has been using porn since age 10. Aged 19 now and I want to quit.

    Salut. Ieri a fost prima mea zi în fața propriului computer unde nu am folosit porno.

    I have used porn before the internet became mainstream- I used to steal adult DVDs from my friend’s house and burn them onto the family computer (encrypting the files, of course) and then make copies to sell them on to friends in my primary school. It was my first real money maker; I must’ve made >£30 in my first week just from selling these DVDs to kids as young as eight when I was ten years old. £30ish was a crap load of money to the ten year old me and I had no idea what to do with it so I kept my stash in a shoebox under my bed and never touched a £5 note of it.

    The adrenaline rush of bringing something like ten hardcore porn DVDs into school every day to sell in the playground was almost as good as the content itself. I had my regular customers, mainly eleven year olds, who were always the first to buy the DVDs and as a result I became very popular. It was brilliant knowing that I was the one at the centre of all of this. That I was the mastermind of my own little ‘DVD cartel’. It was a cartel. I ended up with people working for me selling my ‘product’.

    I reckon I earned a good average of £10-15 a week from this over the course of around six months (before I got caught…)

    Before I divulge into how I got caught I must first tell you what led up to that miserable event. I have two schools in the town I live in- a primary school and a secondary school. At the time I was in primary school, my older cousin was in the secondary school. I told him about my mini ‘cartel’ and he was interested, very interested. Being the naturally sexually inquisitive 13 year old (with all his friends and their friends) he decided he would “extend” my business to the far larger market of horny teenagers.

    It was amazing. The first week I must’ve sold thirty or so DVDs at £3 each. That’s £90. My cousin and I worked under a 50:50 split. It was like exponential growth. My cousin ’employed’ his friends to sell DVDs to the neighbouring town’s schools and the ‘market’ exploded. I must’ve been earning an average of £30 a week and it was brilliant- up until the point where the computer shop I was buying from started asking questions.

    Looking back on it, it was highly suspicious that a ten year old was buying a pack of 50 DVDs a week with paper money on a very regular basis however it wasn’t that which got me caught. The computer store’s owner caught his son with one of MY porn DVDs and now I, and anyone who was of ‘questionable age’ was barred from buying optical media from the one and only shop.

    This is where the ‘cartel’ began to crumble. Since my cousin’s dad owned a computer (with a porn blocker on) he was able to go online and buy DVDs in bulk with what he didn’t tell me was his dad’s stolen credit card. This was fantastic; we got the DVDs cheaper than in store and in greater volumes! It was fantastic until my cousin’s dad noticed the strange cash withdrawals and what made it even worse was the fact my cousin confronted his dad with about £100 to pay for the DVDs to which point my cousin was asked “Where the hell he got that type of money from!?”.

    Camera lui a fost căutată și despre DVD-urile pornografice 50 au fost găsite acolo, alături de aproximativ £ 200. Am fost prinși.

    I received a desperate phone call from my cousin who was in tears. In the background was vicious shouting and blaming of both parents by one another. He told me “My Dad found the DVDs and the money and they’re going to call your parents” before abruptly hanging up. I was in utter shock and I curled into a ball and started crying. I had like £400 saved from the ‘DVD cartel’ and other earned money in that shoebox and I knew my parents would find it, alongside the DVDs.

    Am alergat la parter și am recuperat o geantă de gunoi și cât de repede puteam să-mi arunc toate DVD-urile acolo. I-am îngropat apoi în grădină sub un copac de Crăciun.

    Of course my room was raided and the DVDs were never found but I was grounded for about four months and my money was confiscated and put into a secure 18+ childs saving bank account by my parents. They contacted the schools in the area and asked if anyone had been caught with ‘adult’ material recently and my parents were told people had been. My parents watched my disgustingly hardcore DVDs from my cousin (which made my mother cry) and the ones confiscated by the school and they were obviously identical. My parents have never looked at me in the same way since that.

    Deci ce ma făcut să aduc toate astea? Mi-am amintit sacul DVD-urilor pe care le-am îngropat. Copacul de Crăciun a fost îndepărtat de mult timp din grădină, așa că am găsit o lopată din garaj și am început să săpat în jurul cotului de copac. Mă simțeam că am săpat un cadavru de mult trecut din trecutul meu. Am continuat să săd criza, Am lovit punga DVD.

    Am numărat DVD-urile 46 acolo și am găsit unul care a funcționat. Am fost șocat de cât de greu a fost conținutul și m-am simțit profund rușinând știind că am împins acest gen de lucruri la vârsta de opt ani.

    Această rușine este ceea ce mă face să vreau să renunț complet la porno și prin urmare să reduc la masturbare.

    În ceea ce privește banii, voi încerca să accesez asta pentru a-mi cumpăra primul meu motoretă.

  64. Pornirile de pornire de mare viteză sunt mai stimulative decât sexul

    As someone who wanted to quit 6 years ago, then became ambivalent for the past few years, then as of this year determined to quit, I feel more than qualified to answer the question: “why stop?”

    The simple answer is that the negatives far outweigh the ”positives”.

    Când tocmai am trecut prin pubertate, am vrut să fac sex atât de rău. Vroiam să am distracție sexuală intimă. Am vrut să am o prietena sau să mă căsătoresc (am fost, de asemenea, foarte religioasă, așa că am crezut în abstinență până la căsătorie, asta ma deranjat din păcate mai mult).

    Când m-am masturbat, a fost minunat. De obicei, eram mai întâi excitat, apoi masturbeam folosind fantezii simple sau imagini de la fete din viața reală pe care le-am văzut pe tot parcursul zilei, cioplire, curele, lucruri simple. M-aș plânge pentru că minutele 15 au un orgasm grozav și merg mai departe. Erecțiile mele au fost mereu fantastice și mi-a plăcut foarte mult corpul.

    Apoi a venit porno, începând cu imagini statice. M-aș strecura câteva momente pe computerul de familie la un moment dat și apoi masturbez în baie sau în camera mea.

    A fost oarecum dependentă pentru că m-am întors înapoi, dar nu am simțit alte simptome decât vina și frustrarea.

    Apoi s-au streaming video. Am găsit jackpot-ul nenorocit. Curățând prin pagină după o pagină de videoclipuri, apărând pe cele pe care le-am plăcut în tab-uri noi, apoi trecând unul câte unul, urmărind fiecare până când am simțit că nu mai rămâne nimic interesant, apoi se mișcă repede pe următoarea. Omule, a fost distractiv. Nimic din viață nu a fost interesant ca acesta, jocuri video, filme, muzică, mâncare, orice. Îmi amintesc totuși entuziasmul de a găsi un clip care mi-a bătut creierul în locul potrivit.

    Ce sa întâmplat dacă un clip a fost atât de bun, știam că trebuie să fie un altul la doar câteva pagini distanță. Deci nu mi-aș ejacula niciodată pe primul videoclip, m-aș mișca și aș fi folosit kegels pentru a menține o erecție în timp ce ținea mai multe videoclipuri.

    I could never decide when to orgasm, because there was always something better out there. I developed extreme ADD-like behavior when searching for porn. I believe this ADD-behavior carried over into my daily life because I couldn’t pay attention to movies or video games very well, much less normal behavior like conversations or everyday tasks.

    After binge sessions I would often resolve to never watch porn again, but deep down still feeling ambivalent. I would clear my history, start marking days on a calendar, only to binge a week later. Eventually doubting whether I really wanted to quit, I stopped trying to quit. I didn’t know about any evidence for the symptoms described on YBOP, though I did start to get suspicious that my sex drive was being affected, because I realized I couldn’t fantasize properly anymore, nor did normal things about women turn me on, like peeks of cleavage or thongs, they could have been a dude for all my brain cared.

    Nu am avut niciodată erecții înainte de pornografie, a trebuit să mă masturbez pentru a mă stimula. Masturbarea a devenit un instrument pentru pornografie, mai degrabă decât porno fiind un instrument de masturbare.

    Când m-am mutat pe cont propriu, am început să încerc să fiu psihic pentru a avea sex real. Dar aproape în fiecare zi se va sfârși cu mine să mă uit la porno. Ar fi hotărât să nu se uite, să șteargă istoria, să clătească repeta în fiecare săptămână.

    When I did force myself to go in social situations like parties or bars, I ended up getting into makeout situations, but it never felt quite right, and didn’t get the stimulation I imagined.

    When I decided to actually initiate a sexual encounter with someone I liked, I felt absolutely nothing in my dick when she took her top off – TRIGGER ALERT – and she was a beautiful smooth-skinned Asian who had fucking incredibly huge tits. This experience sucked as I felt no connection to my dick whatsoever, and I even worried if she might think I’m gay.

    After this I looked up testosterone stuff and got tested, looked into many other things, but it wasn’t until I talked to a friend who had ED and found YBOP that I finally decided to end my ambivalence.

    Now I can’t speak for anyone else’s reasons, but having a dead flaccid dick and dysfunctional libido (wanting sex mentally but not physically) is more than enough reason to quit. Aside from the issues of procrastination and possible ADD symptoms.

    As for this “higher orgasm” you experienced, this can happen from real sex too, in fact it’s more likely to happen I imagine.

    What TheUnderdog says is completely true: Highspeed streaming porn IS more stimulating than sex and that’s the problem!

    A lot of people are ambivalent about quitting porn because the reality is, we’re quitting something that is cea mai placuta activitate din lume! It’s so pleasurable that everything else pales in comparison. However our more rational selves don’t want to spend our lives with nothing to show other than huge amounts of used tissue so we have to give up the most pleasurable activity to be able to do more satisfying things with our lives.

    http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=3427.25

  65. PORN: Cum renunțarea la asta mi-a schimbat viața (Blog)

    PORN: Cum renunțarea la asta mi-a schimbat viața

    I remember the first time I typed in the word ‘sex’ into a search engine as a young boy—back in days of Windows 95, Ask Jeeves, and that irksome cacophony of  a dial-up modem. I remember my eagerness as I sat there waiting, for hours on end sometimes, just for the chance to watch a low-quality three minute clip of naked strangers violating each other for the camera. I looked at the download bar like a heroin junkie burning his spoon. How wicked and wonderful.

    Since the day of my first ejaculation, internet porn was ever-present in my sex life. It was the bow to my arrow.

    Suntem generația XXX. Adevărul surprinzător este că băiatul mediu de vârstă de un an de ani a văzut mai multe femei goale decât toți strămoșii săi combinate. We live in an age where watching internet porn is considered as normal as taking a piss, with  99.9% of guys my age regularly getting their fix of pixelated ******. Hey, if everyone else is doing it, what’s the harm, right?

    POST CONTINUED…….

  66. dorința mea de a masturba este mult mai puternică decât dorința mea de a privi por

    What’s most surprising throughout this whole ordeal is that I don’t have any urges to watch porn. The temptation of new porn videos has always been my biggest cause of relapse, but I really don’t care about porn anymore (I hope this is permanent). I think the longer you go without porn the less of a hold it has over you. As I said in the title, my urge to masturbate is much stronger than my urge to watch porn for the first time since my discovery of internet pornography, which can only be a sign of progress

    Progresul ED: Noaptea trecută a fost pentru prima oară în anii în care dorința mea de a Masturbate a fost mai mare decât cea a vizionării porno (potențial limbaj NSFW)

  67. Mi se pare că masturbează foarte mult plictisitor.

    I find masturbating by itself immensely boring. Getting to the point of orgasm takes lots of effort. Porn reduces the (perceived) effort immensely. I guess for me its similar to watching tv while I’m on an exercise bike.

    So for me, pornfree doesn’t really help. If I’m masturbating I want an orgasm. I will get bored half way through and either give up or turn to porn. Neither of which makes me feel particularly amazing, so I’d rather not even start.

    pornfree vs niciun PMO

  68. Porn Desensitizes & Screws your perception of “normal”

    Porn Desensitizes & Screws your perception of “normal” 

    Seriously, I evolved overtime from normal porn to really nasty, hardcore porn. Stuff that I won’t even mention.

    When I was dating, I objectified my girlfriend and sex ceased to have that special magic. I didn’t realize this then but now I do. I wish I could have given more of me. I acknowledge that being hooked on PMO was the culprit because Once I abstained from it and it was a lot more enjoyable for the both of us. Being selfish ultimately led to us breaking-up. Something that I really regret now because I still have feelings for her but she moved to college and Met new people.

    Porn Desensitizes you and it corrupts relationships. Let it be known! If you’re dating, or married, please benefit from this advice.

    Love is really special. Don’t lose it for a lie!

  69. Revenirea la lumea modernă cu câțiva ani în urmă a fost un șoc

    Nofap începe la vârsta de 52

    Am făcut masturbare de la vârsta de 13. Dar, în 1973 nu exista nici internet, nici pornografie. Uneori o problemă veche a lui Playboy, dar chiar și femelele din cataloage (sau chiar gândirea lor) mă făceau să fiu excitat. Uneori am încercat să scap de fapping, dar nu am reușit niciodată.

    With 30 years, still beeing a virgin, I married my one and only wife. We´ve got five children. I still did masturbate, sometimes to porn or erotic literature. Even my wife red it sometimes for arousal. Then we moved to a very remote area in this world, with no internet or TV or erotic pictures. I masturbated to ads of normal magazins from home (with some goodlooking or sexy women on it, but nothing really naked). Even the women in that country were covered with clothes mostly everywhere, and seeing a “modern” one with trousers made me horny.

    Comming back to the modern world some years ago was like a shock to me. Everything was sexy and tempting. Not long after I discovered sexy images first and then porn movies on the internet. I didn’t try to cheat my wife and never thougt of having sex with those images on the net. I just looked there to get aroused an then I orgasmed for relaxing. First time it was incredible and really arousing, but then I needed longer to get O. And during intercouse with my wife I got no O at all. Even the errection I was missing. Even during watching porn I got weak orgasms with few sperm.

    Căutând motivul pentru ED mea am găsit yourbrainonporn.com și mi-a explicat totul. Fiind în spital de mai multe ori timp de câteva săptămâni (cu puține posibilități de fapping) am experimentat mai multă excitare și spermă, dar după trei zile a fost scăzut ca de obicei.

    Așa că am decis să renunț la 8 zile în urmă și am reușit să trăiesc fără ea până acum. Mă simt mai încrezător, sunt în stare să privesc femeile și să vă uit cu zâmbet în fața lor. Am avut o relație frumoasă și lungă de karezza (fără O) cu soția mea, m-am durut destul de repede și de multă vreme și soția mea a primit un orgasm tare, așa cum nu mi-am mai amintit niciodată.

    So I hope I didn’t go too far with trying. And I hope to keep on with nofap to experience all the advantges of it. I still didn’t talk to my wife, but I like to, because I need to understand her the process of my healing.

    Salutări și putere la toate nofaps!

  70. Perspectiva noua pe porno

    Perspectiva noua pe pornografie

    M-am apucat în seara asta, dar niciodată n-am ajuns aproape de rupere, aș vrea să împărtășesc de ce și să vedem dacă băieți / fete au trecut prin ceva similar. (Desi insigna mea spune ca 7, in ceea ce priveste nu ma uit la pornografie, am intarziat peste o luna sau cam asa ceva. Recentele recente au fost in jos pana la imaginatie, sau chiar doar o poza frumoasa a unui model imbracat.)

    Deci, în seara asta am ajuns pe un site porno pentru prima dată într-o perioadă lungă de timp. În timp ce în acest moment aproape că am prezentat faptul că aceasta va fi o altă recidivă, sentimentele pe care le-am urmărit de data aceasta la pornografie erau complet diferite de înainte de a începe. Intensitatea intensă viscerală a lucrurilor este șocantă, presupunând că conduc o viață fără pornografie, nervii tăi desensibilizați încep să se întoarcă la un nivel standard, așa încât aproape că aș putea să simt un fel de reacție fizică în mintea mea, când mă întorc brusc la ea.

    Mai mult, m-am simțit grosolos să privesc astfel de scene îngrozitoare, de jos-de-baril, degradante de femei și de sex. Deși am simțit acest lucru și în trecut, în mod crucial a fost întotdeauna după ce fapta PMO fusese terminată. Totuși, de această dată, acea conștiință era acolo de la început.

  71. Creșterea gradului de conștientizare a publicului

    Creșterea gradului de conștientizare a publicului

    Since beginning NoFap (it’s been a few months, I relapsed recently) I have identified a minimum of 3 others that definitely have a problem with PMO. I suspect many more guys I know have a problem. Although, it is an awkward subject to bring up with them, kinda like outing myself. The best I can come up with is, “What’s the longest amount of time you’ve gone without masturbating?” I then tell them I have done 170 days and it was a life changing time. Two I have referenced to YBOP. Have any of you encountered others in your everyday lives that could use some NoFap and self-awareness/self-discipline? How did you handle the situation?

  72. most if not all my relapses started with such a kind of “seeking

    I can say that most if not all my relapses started with such a kind of “seeking”, often times over days or weeks starting with images that wouldn’t usually be considered porn, but would always lead to it. It’s helpful to discover that as a big trigger in itself.

  73. I Didn’t Even Think I Was Compulsive Porn-User…

    I Didn’t Even Think I Was Compulsive Porn-User… 

    PhakePhakerson

    After 5 days, I started having porn cravings. I guess the effects of porn on the my brain were significant even though I didn’t watch it much. I’d recommend anyone I know to stay away from porn now seeing that its psychological dependence potential is very high, at least in my case. It’s a good thing that I quit early.

     

  74. Surfing facebook de ani de zile a făcut unele lucruri ciudate

    I’m sorry to report that I will no longer update this thread. I’ve had a change of heart today and decided it’s time to take a few steps back from titsintops and all the other porn related sites on internet.

    I used to be able to look at a simple porn movie, or just a model photoshoot. My love for voyeurism has brought me down to the level where I can only enjoy beautiful women when the picture was posted on their personal profile site. It’s time to go back to the roots. No fapping for a while, no internet porn, no more endless browsing facebook searching for girls’ photos.

    I’m sorry for anyone who can enjoy websites like this casually, but for me it has come to a point where I am no longer comfortable with my own behavior.

    Bucurați-vă de titsintops, toată lumea, știu că am.

    PS Dacă cineva vrea să știe ce să mă aducă la această decizie, verificați această serie video:

    http://yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-on-porn-series

    Destul de deschis un ochi /

  75. Didn’t know I had a problem until I tried to stop….

    Didn’t know I had a problem until I tried to stop….

    Never saw my pmo as a problem. Then I listened to the Ted talk. Found nofap and now I’m struggling. Though it would be easy. Made it 19 day no problem… But after that relapse I can’t even pull together a week. I blocked all porn sites on my computer and deleted the few videos I had. Problem solved right? No. Now I find myself using my neighbors wifi to get porn….I’m almost in tears after this relapse….I want to stop but this is proving to be one of the hardest things of my life. I hope this stumble opens my eyes a bit more.

  76. patru dintre fete au recunoscut că majoritatea experiențelor lor sexuale

    Porno și fapping este o epidemie!

    M-am dus pentru băuturi cu un grup de fete și suntem foarte deschiși și discutăm adesea lucruri personale și lucruri precum sexul.

    Cel puțin patru dintre fete au recunoscut că majoritatea experiențelor lor sexuale cu băieți au inclus bărbați care nu au putut orgasm, nu au putut obține erecție și, în general, foarte egoiști și neinteresați în dormitor.

    Most of these girls are okay with porn and would not mind if their SO watched it because they are open minded. However I think they are too tolerant, I’m not saying you should break up or yell at your partner but you have every right to get upset and discuss the issue.

    Many of these girls gave their SO’s too many chances and the guys would lie about their habits.

    Faptul că băieții sau fetele sunt pe acest subredit sugerează că acceptați problema și nu vă bați-vă că este în regulă.

    În timpul anilor 5-10 pot garanta că, dacă oamenii vor continua să consume porno, vom avea o defalcare masivă a relațiilor, întâlnirea va deveni inexistentă și va exista un conflict masiv de gen.

    Faceți un pas și deveniți una dintre populațiile mici care vor avea relații sănătoase inclusiv sex în 5-10 ani.

    Fiecare pas departe de fapping este un pas înainte, chiar dacă linia plată se simte dificilă sau imposibilă!

    Cuvânt.

  77. cred că în 5-10 ani oamenii vor începe să recunoască faptul că porno ha

    Thevents

    Personally I think in 5-10 years people will start to recognize that porn has effects. Its actually very comparable to smoking – for a long time the medical community would recommend that people smoke saying it was healthy (sound familiar?), then they admitted it had health effects, but insisted its not addictive. Then everyone agreed it was addictive. Finally they realized that this activity which almost everyone did was one of the worst things you can do.

    http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/14jktw/porn_and_fapping_is_an_epidemic/

  78. Age 50, female – hooked after being introduced to Internet Porn

    Sunt văduvă - fericită căsătorită de mai mulți ani de la vârsta de 17. Soțul meu și cu mine am avut o viață mare și l-am pierdut la cancer după o bătălie curajoasă. N-am știut niciodată că existau porno ... Știu că el a jucat în playboy, dar nu am discutat niciodată despre asta. 2 ani mai târziu am descoperit porno online.

    Noul meu bf nu a putut să cred că nu am văzut niciodată (niciodată nu am jucat un joc video, nu m-am uitat la televizor ... foarte adăpostit) și mi-a arătat - am fost imediat cuplat - până în punctul în care mi-a făcut bf incomod (care se bucură de el însuși )

    cu adevărat agățat - dailey - vreau să renunț - Am învățat atât de mult - nu am auzit niciodată de dp, facials tho hubby mea și am făcut lucruri altele decât vanilie-backdoor, de exemplu, - nu știam că această lume a existat și acum nu pot opri - și mi-a grăbit dorința. 1,000% Vă spun acest lucru din punctul de vedere al unei femei 50 y / od fără copii (care nu putea fi) care a fost prezentă la acest lucru la vârsta de 50 și are acum o problemă reală.

    Sunt in forma (dimensiunea 4) si arat 15 ani mai tineri (genele), dar acum mi-e frica de ceea ce s-ar putea sa fiu capabil de asa cum am fost protejat atat de mult ... Voi incerca terapie pentru a opri - interfera in viata mea si Trebuie să-l ascund acum, pentru că mi-a plăcut prea mult simțul bf-ului meu -

    da, din punctul meu de vedere, este periculos și dependență, cred că am aerisire pentru că nu știu unde să mă întorc și nimeni nu știu că ar crede vreodată dacă știau - adolescenți săraci - nici nu-mi pot imagina fiind ridicată cu ...

    http://www.datingloveandsextips.com/the-relationship-between-the-brain-and-porn/

  79. (Porn Now) I use sites that have large selections of videos…..

    I use sites that have large selections of videos. I browse categories and open up any video whose thumbnail and description intrigue me the most. The video is open in a new tab, and I start the video, clear off any pop-ups (whatever adblock misses – goddamnitlivejasmin) and pause the video to left it buffer. I repeat the process for a selection of about two dozen videos. I start watching them in the same order I opened them (because the first one is always done loading by the time I start buffering the last tab). I then skip around a bit if the pace is a little slow. I start to close tabs that aren’t as good as I thought. Then I start to close tabs that aren’t as good as the other open tabs. One by one, the tabs do battle for my penis attention time, until 3 or fewer or left. I then watch the best parts of each of them, switching over to my favorite one of the bunch to finish off.

    http://www.reddit.com/r/AdviceAnimals/comments/14mis7/our_biggest_problem_as_men/

    GUY 2)

    When I find this is becoming an issue, I take a porn break. The internet has made it very easy to find very specific things, and that kind of makes you build up a tolerance, which leads to a need for increasingly shameful pornography (for me, anyway.) Once that happens, I “reset” with a porn fast, then I’m back to being able to fap to whatever.

     

  80. Nici o dorință de a fapa fără porno.

    Nici o dorință de a fapa fără porno.(self.NoFap)

     by nullhypo

    Am vrut doar să împărtășesc experiența mea. Fără pornografie (acum 22 de zile) nu am literalmente nicio dorință de masturbare. De multe ori sunt excitat. Când sunt excitat vreau să mă uit la porno. Din moment ce nu fac nicio aplicație, nu voi viziona porno, dar nu-mi vine niciodată în minte să bat fără porno. Nici nu știu dacă aș putea!

    Uneori, când mă culc, voi fi greu de la o fantezie mentală, dar nu am nicio dorință de a mă masturba. Voi fi greu și voi fantaza. Este ciudat, chiar și atunci când mă uitam la porno, nu am făcut-o vrea to masturbate, masturbation was totally secondary, I just wanted to keep watching porn as long as I could. I was usually trying to avoid orgasming just because I knew once that happened the shame would set in and I would stop watching porn. This would go on for hours with me “nursing” a hardon, trying to stimulate it just enough to stay interested but not enough to cum, so I could just keep watching all day / all night.

    Așa arată dependența de porno și este o nebunie. A nu te masturba este partea ușoară, a nu ceda și a viziona porno este partea cu adevărat grea.

    Falark60 zile

    It was similar for me. Then, after my first 30 days I was so horny I actually made a thread I would fap again (exactly 30 days ago, bother that) and didn’t even get to opening a porn site, I just jerked off to the mental image of a female friend of mine…

    So at some point you’ll be able to again, sooner or later.

    By the way, for reference: I did 30 days of hard mode from scratch, and I didn’t reset my badge because I didn’t look at porn – I just got the pressure away. Since then it has been hard mode again.

    morning_woods

    What I’ve learned over the past couple months of this whole nofap/noporn thing is this:

    1) At first I couldn’t go without either. 1 day felt like a year. Let alone 3, which felt like a lifetime.

    2) Atunci aș putea merge fără să-l deranjez tot timpul, dar mi-ar lua aceste pofte intense / dorințe de a viziona porno A LOT

    3) Ambele se calmeaza si acum pot merge fara nici o perioada mai lunga de timp, sa zic 4-7 zile

    4) Porn becomes easier to quit when I do fap. Not that I don’t have a desire to watch it in some ways, but I am able to FANTASIZE (!!!! for the first time in like years without it)

    5) I’m now on day 12 of no/fap no porn. (No sex either). This is the longest I’ve made it in the past several months. There was one time, 2 or so months ago I made it two weeks w/o the M but with sex, and porn. I find it rather funny how I was still watching porn even though I wasn’t jerking it and I was having sex.

    tl;dr – Everyone’s results are different, and how we experience addictions are different. I would say your recovery may or may not look like my recovery, but, that’s how I progressed and I’d rather assume others may follow a similar trend.

  81. comparând partenerul mediu cu vedetele porno este asemănător

    The thing is porn and masturbation makes for better sex than with a partner. Masturbation has been demonstrated to produce better orgasms since Masters and Johnson first wired people up and measured their responses in the 50’s. This is for both men and women. And comparing the average partner to porn stars is like comparing Lindsey Vonn to an intermediate skier of Serena Williams to an amateur tennis player.

    Moreover, women have been getting off better with vibrators since they became readily available and using the trick to become indifferent to their men. It’s only recently that porn has become so ubiquitous that it rivals real women.

    http://www.reddit.com/r/todayilearned/comments/154jxl/til_there_is_a_growing_number_of_healthy_men_who/

  82. N-am spus nimănui ce-ți voi spune. Te rog, ajutor

    N-am spus nimănui ce-ți voi spune. Te rog ajuta-ma.

     de nofap09

    Este decembrie 25, 2012. Scriu acest lucru și păstrând acest lucru pentru mine - un memento, dacă vreți, pentru referințe viitoare .. despre cum simt când mă masturbez.

    Povestea mea

    Iată-mă aici. E ziua de Crăciun, 2012. Nu simt deloc, deloc. 24 ani. Nu sunt virgina, am avut destule. M-am masturbat. Este 3pm în după-amiaza. Mă simt ca un rahat complet. Nu vina, sau ceva de genul asta - mă simt complet nemotivat. Simt că viața a fost drenată de mine. Acesta este modul în care mă simt de fiecare dată când am post-masturbare. Mă simt ca o bucată de rahat.

    Starea mea curentă de viață

    Masturbarea mi-a preluat viața. Mă duc la lucru, vin acasă, cină și apoi masturbez până la culcare, ceea ce este, de obicei, miezul nopții. Asta e 6 ore pe zi de masturbare. În weekend, mă petrec mai aproape de orele 10 pe zi masturând. Devine mai rău.

    Nu am recunoscut niciodata nimanui in viata mea, este extrem de greu pentru mine sa fac doar pe internet. Nu-mi pot imagina cât de greu ar fi admis-o cuiva în viața reală.

    Ex-ul meu de fapt ma prins în actul de a face-o - m-am oprit pentru un timp, dar, de când sa întors ..

    Din moment ce pornografia normală nu o mai face pentru mine, am de fapt video chat cu femeile pe care le vorbesc pe POF.com, le iau pe o cameră web cu mine și după zece minute, masturbează și eliberează în cam așa a se vedea.

    Acest comportament este extrem de anormal și dezgustător. Sunt dezgustat de mine. Sunt un monstru, iar pe stradă în persoană, nu ai fi ghicit niciodată așa ceva. Porno-ul mă scoate, doar aleg această cale de a ieși. Îmi amintesc că am citit "factorul de șoc" al YBOP. Da, șocuri de femei, și, din anumite motive, mă descurc de fapt.

    Asta e dracu '. Am făcut asta pentru 3 ani acum. Sinele meu mai tânăr și viitorul meu de sine ar fi și vor privi înapoi și vor fi dezgustate de persoana care sunt acum. Am luat-o la un nivel dezgustător, respingător. Sunt de fapt teribilă și paranoică de fiecare dată când una dintre aceste femei mă va raporta la poliție și voi fi trimis în închisoare.

    Trecând peste..

    Nu am fost la sala de gimnastică. De obicei mă duc de patru ori pe săptămână. Am făcut masturbarea în timpul chat-ului video cu femei aleatorii și nevinovate, care se întâlneau cu prietenii. Când plec în bar cu prietenii, devin o păsărică. Nu vorbesc cu femeile. Dacă o fac, e ca și cum nu știu ce să spun. Înainte de aceste obiceiuri ridicole și repulsive de masturbare, aș avea probleme zero.

    În prezent, fac sex în mod constant cu femeile 4. Ne dracu ', plec. Plec, asta contează. E egoist, știu.

    Ce vreau să devin:

    Obiectivele mele pentru această zi înainte, și 2013 sunt după cum urmează:

    • Taie porcul nenorocit și masturbează. Aș face o dată pe lună sau cam asa ceva, dar, până când am lovit acest obișnuit monstruos / înfiorător de a se răzbuna cu femeile care nu se întreabă de webcam-ul, adevăratul sex este (asta este locul în care vrem să fim, oricum). Sau, Doamne Dumnezeule, găsiți o femeie, conectați-o cu ea și întâlniți-o în mod monogam.
    • Meditați zilnic. Am practicat înainte și a ajutat cu siguranță.
    • Apăsați zilnic sala de sport. Am pus ceva greutate, plus că am căzut.
    • Urmăriți ce mănânc. Nimic foarte strict, dar, haideți. Fii sănătos.
    • Du-te la culcare la un moment decent. De obicei, am lovit patul din jurul lui 12: 30 și trebuie să mă trezesc la 7: 30. Nu este suficient pentru mine.
    • Jocuri video. Reduceți cantitățile minime.
    • Leave my room. I literally go to work, and it’s to my room for the rest of the night. I’m addicted to the internet. I can hear the voice in my head. Get.A.Fucking.Life.
    • Începeți să jucați din nou concerte. Eu cânt la chitară și cânt, și eu folosesc pentru a juca concerte tot timpul. Nu-mi mai pasă. Sper că se va schimba.

    Îmi cer scuze dacă această postare a fost ofensatoare pentru oricine, prin comportamentele pe care le-am comis - am avut nevoie să le spun cuiva. Sunt speriat pentru că nu vreau masturbare sau porno să mă mănânce. Sunt speriat pentru că obiceiurile de masturbare și folosirea pornografică au crescut la un nivel atât de ridicat încât acest comportament este dezgustător și vreau să-l opresc. Reputația mea ar fi complet distrusă dacă cineva a aflat că am făcut asta. Sunt literalmente rupte până tastând acest lucru.

    Deci ... iată-l. Voi încerca să mă lupt cu ură și să mă plimb.

    Iată-mă pentru a-mi îmbunătăți viața.

  83. dacă dependența ta pornografică devine atât de extremă încât

    It’s about sexual excitement. After prolonged addiction to pornography, a man’s brain is constantly brimming with dopamine, which produces another chemical (it was mentioned in the video, but the name is too long for me to recount now), that eventually causes desensitization. Men basically become habituated to “normal” sex and it no longer causes arousal because the excitement is stymied. Therefore, porn addicts seek more bizarre and extreme forms of pornography just get excited, but there’s always a point where even the most extreme forms of sexual perversion lose their potency, and the porn addicts even becomes desensitized to THAT.

    Therefore, they start suffering from ED because normal sex with a girl doesn’t excite the porn addict.

    For a while when I was younger, I was curious about pornography so I used to visit this porn site called “pornhub.” It was vile, some of the things featured there. Honestly, I was able to get excited about maybe 10% of the sex videos featured there, but the rest was absolutely grotesque.

    Girls getting double penetrated in their asses, girls taking cum into their mouths and then spitting it into another girl’s mouth, and don’t get me started about the horrific hentai featured, where many of the popular videos featured story lines where young girls that look to be 13 or 14 are raped by their fathers or brothers.

    I stopped after I came across that. In my view, if your porn addiction is getting so extreme that you’re desensitized and disinterested in all forms of normal sex to the point where you need to watch incestuous statutary rape in order to get a boner, then you need to be hospitalized.

  84. du-te pentru câteva ore înainte de a găsi clipul perfect pentru a fap

    I remember only being excited by certain clips.  I would go on those tube sites and go back pages after pages to find that specific scene that turned me on.  Not neccessarilly an extremely graphic video, but always women with a specific body type, skin tone and hair color.  This would go on for sometimes hours before I found the perfect clip to fap to.  All the while edging.

  85. Aș căuta și căuta și căuta fiecare dată pentru a găsi

    I would always start with some google search I didn’t need to make that would lead me to see some hot chick and well everybody knows where that goes. So slowly I would progress from pictures to videos. And the same thing always happened. I would search and search and search every single time to find the video that was perfect.

    Cum am folosit pentru a viziona porno

  86. viața mea plină de viață este destul de mult istoria porno.

    Oh, my fapping life is pretty much the history of porn. I’m turning 50 this year, and I started out before puberty. I distinctly remember my Mom asking me why the Sears catalog was in my toybox. I was looking at the girls my age in the underwear section. I didn’t know why, but I liked the feeling it gave me in my stomach and in my pants.

    A few years later I found my Dad’s porn stash. I remember my first orgams, on my bed when I barely had hair one, surrounded by open playboy and penthouse magazine. I also boosted some old school stag films from my great-uncle’s truck stop. 8MM silent black and white flicks.

    When I got busted messing with my Dad’s stash and it got removed from the house, I started shoplifting my own. (I was still a minor at the time, and they wouldn’t sell to me.) I got caught once, but the store owner just banned me; I wasn’t arrested.

    Despre acest moment am creat prima mea identitate falsă. Pentru a merge la magazinele de porno și de a fi în cabine. În acele zile, aveau filme color care rulau continuu în bucle. Nu m-am scufundat niciodată într-un teatru și fapping, deși am văzut că se întâmplă.

    Shortly after that was the “golden age” of porn. Porn came to our town in drive-ins, so I could drive in, park, watch the film, fap in privacy, then drive away.

    Then I started college. I bought a VERY expensive VCR specifically so I could go to the video store and rent porn to fap to, so that I couldn’t have to go to seedy porno stores any more. Around this time was also the birth of the internet. But at speeds so slow that it took 15 minutes to download a decent photo.

    Asa ca fanii de pornografie ca mine au invatat sa automatizeze acest proces si sa ne descarce pozele noaptea. Și acolo a fost un TON de povești porno acolo pentru a citi, toate gratuit. Video, cu toate acestea, a luat ORE pentru a descărca, și a fost granulat și dimensiunea unei ștampile poștale.

    Spre sfârșitul carierei mele de colegiu, videoclipurile live au început să fie difuzate pe internet, precum și înregistrate. Am petrecut o perioadă uimitoare de timp uitându-mă la biroul meu la serviciu, noaptea târziu. Era cu adevărat patetic. Puteam fi aruncat din școală sau ar fi concediat dacă aș fi fost prins, dar în acele zile nimeni nu a monitorizat modul în care a fost folosită lățimea de bandă.

    La scurt timp după ce ISDN a devenit disponibil. Încă am răsturnat videoclipul din grupurile binare pe usenet. Acum câțiva ani am descoperit site-urile cu tuburi, iar acestea sunt cele mai grave, cred, pentru a vă distruge creierul.

    Bottom line, I didn’t use internet porn during my teens, but only because it didn’t really exist as you think of it today. But I have used every kind of porn delivery system you can imagine, and it’s only gotten less realistic and more prolific as time has gone by.

    Here’s the deal – I’ve had Delayed Ejaculation since I became sexually active. I lost my virginity 34 years ago, and I came inside her. That was one of like six times in my life I’ve come inside a woman. Plus twice from getting blown.

    I’ve had a LOT of sex. But I only cum by myself. When I was younger, a lot of guys complained about premature ejaculation – being TOO quick on the draw. I thought I had great control. (And I will admit, DE is a LOT less disappointing to your partner than PE.)

    Mi-a luat un sfert de secol să îmi dau seama că ceea ce credeam că este un bun a fost un PROBLEM. De douăzeci și cinci de ani de sex mai puțin decât minunat. Pornește cu adevărat creierul tău.

    ED a început doar după ce am început să folosesc site-urile cu tuburi. Disponibilitatea constantă a videoclipului roman, plin de mișcare sau comprimat, cu o piesă audio, a fost într-adevăr dezordonat de sentimentul meu de excitare.

    I will NEVER forget having an attractive, attentive, willing partner say to me “you don’t want this.”

    The HELL I didn’t. I’d been chasing that particular experience for TWO YEARS, and then Big Jim and the Twins decided not to come to work. I went to the doctor shortly after that, but he declared that I didn’t have a problem, because I could fap. If everything works fine when you’re by yourself, you don’t have a plumbing problem. The problem is between your ears.

    He gave me viagra. but it didn’t help. It says right on the box: does NOT produce an automatic boner. Sexual arousal must already exist. (I paraphrase.)

    A fost Brainul pe pornografie, pe care l-am găsit, ironic, în timp ce căutam mai multe porno, care m-au pus pe această pistă. M-am dus liber ca experiment 31 de zile în urmă.

    I won’t say my ED is gone, but it’s greatly improved. Over the past two weeks, with two different partners I was able to achieve and sustain functional erections. (I used to be able to hammer a six inch spike through a two inch oak plank with it – THAT level of virility has NOT returned. I suspect because I’m still fapping 3 – 4 times a week.

  87. a râs la creier noaptea trecută, deoarece mi-a dat un motiv absurd

    a râs la creier noaptea trecută, deoarece mi-a dat un motiv absurd să mă uit la porno.

    I’m 28 days in my journey. Last night, I was watching the 7th season of Australia’s Biggest Loser with my wife. (Significantly better than US version, and I’m an American, living in America), when one of the trainers pops onto the screen. Instantly, my brain goes into panic mode at the sight of her. I’ll spare you all the description, just assume hot.

    So, instantly my thoughts shift gears, and this plays out in my head, “holy shit she’s hot. Fuck yeah you want her. Man, you don’t even know what naked breasts look like any more. You should go look at porn RIGHT NOW because you forgot what naked breasts looks like, and this is a SERIOUS problem.”. My heart was racing, and I wanted to jump up and sprint to my office just so I can remind myself what a random naked girl looks like.

    So, instead I sat there and calmed down, then told my wife everything. She laughed and said, “well, if you go on through life not knowing what random naked girls look like, will it kill you?”. That’s when it hit me how ridiculous my brain was being. NO I don’t need to. Fuck you. I am fine. I am not running in my office to stare at 100+ chicks in 30 minutes, NO.

    That was my first big “panic” so far, 28 days in. I hope those don’t hit too often!

  88. Întrebări pentru persoanele care au trecut de la NoFap la PornFree

    Întrebări pentru persoanele care au trecut de la NoFap la PornFree

    Odată ce am trecut de la nofap, lucrurile au devenit mai dificile, dar departe more rewarding. Giving up fapping was pointless, because I don’t fap without porn, ever. Coming over here and truly deciding to give up porn was much, much more difficult, but when I did, hours of my day opened up and my confidence increased greatly. I have started to masturbate a few times without porn, but didn’t really get much from it. This coming from an 18 year old guy who really has never been in a relationship is kind of odd, but I’m not concerned with using pornfree to better my relationship with others (I believe that will heal on its own), I’m doing it to better myself. So, yes, pornfree is a better experience for me, but no, I have not personally found a level of MO that suits me, and probably won’t as long as I refuse to use porn.

    GUY 2)

    Răspuns scurt: Da.

    I believe most of the positive effects I was getting from nofap were do more to dropping porn then not fapping. I don’t have a gf or fwb at the moment, so not fapping meant no release at all. Once I hit day 7 or 8, my balls would literally ache unbearably until I fapped. Now I’ve switched to pornfree and have continued to get the benefits. I fap when I need to, not when I want to, which ends up being once every 9 or 10 days. I do it without porn and just get it overwith. In my opinion, if you have no gf/fwb then not fapping is just not a healthy goal. Everyone’s different, there’s dudes at nofap that are over 150 days and they don’t have a gf but for me it just wasn’t going to happen.

  89. Cred sincer că PMO este una dintre cele mai grele dependențe

    Cred sincer că PMO este una dintre cele mai grele dependențe

    de skeer10 zile

    Fapping and porn is/was a habit so deeply rooted within ourselves because it is accepted. We’ve been doing it for long without even thinking about it. We unknowingly let build a hardcore addiction.

    I’ve tried some pretty addictive drugs the past two years. I could handle that and never really got in the danger of addiction. Now I haven’t used anything for a month, including weed, which was the most addictive for me. And let me tell you that it has been a lot easier than NoFap. Not using any drugs for 3 months? 6 months? Fine by me. Now 3 months of NoFap? That’s really difficult. We were so flooded with dopamine, it’s horrible when you think about it.

    Major respect to all of you. Don’t think this fight is something laughable, don’t think less of yourself; it is really difficult. And all the people who are still unknowingly PMO’ing heavily and joking about it would have the same hard time as you.

    Engleză nu este limba mea maternă, așa că sper că voi înțelegeți totul. Forța la toți fapstronauții de acolo!

  90. Tot ce am urât despre fapping la porno

    Tot ce am urât să fapp

    de DapperNofapper6 zile

    When I think about PMO, usually I’ll think about the pleasurable side of it, and to help myself stop I’ll think about the bad effects it had on my life in general. Today I wanted to change that. I decided to think back and remember the really unpleasant parts of the act itself. This is what I was putting myself through every day. It’s no wonder it had an effect on me!

    • Prea tare. Prea liniste. Ce volum pot să scot cu mine? De ce există o diferență atât de mare între 0 și 1?
    • How do I dispose of this without drawing attention? It stinks when I put it in the trash. People will wonder what I’m doing if I always go into the bathroom from my computer and immediately flush.
    • Oh, nu am facut o mizerie accidentala, asta e gros. Sper că nimeni nu intră chiar acum.
    • Acest pic de scurgere post-scurgeri care face un loc dezgustător umed / rece pe picior.
    • GIRLFRIEND ESTE ACASA INCHEI INCHEI INCHIDE TOATE TABURILE IN CARE STIRUL ESTE CEA MAI BANDA ACT CASUAL
    • These all suck why can’t I find a hot one? Fine I’ll settle for this garbage.
    • Looks like we’re out of paper towels again.
    • Vad vecinii când îmi închid blind-urile în mijlocul zilei?
    • Bine, prietena mea a plecat. Imi plac cel mai mult aceste nopti.
    • Ce se întâmplă dacă cineva intră și browserul meu se blochează atunci când încerc să închid fila porno?
    • I can’t focus on work but if I fap it will clear my head… I just fapped and now I don’t care much about work.
    • Ow, my dick is a little raw, isn’t this the puchline of jokes I used to laugh at? It doesn’t seem so weird now and that scares me.

    Also I’ll add the absolute worst fapping experience I ever had and this is something I’m ashamed to admit even anonymously. I was using an unconventional drug to enhance my PMO session and I passed out. I lived with my girlfriend and this was in the middle of the day so if she came home this would have been really awful for both of us. No idea how long I was out for, but I woke up with my pants half down, hand on dick, porn still playing, and drool down the front of my shirt. It was an awful, sobering realization, and the thought of “What if I die this way?” definitely crossed my mind. Unfortunately I did it again and that happened about 3 or 4 times before I finally stopped with the drug. Also unfortunately that happened 4 years ago and I didn’t make the decision to stop fapping until 5 months ago. I can deal with the fact that it happened, I just hate that I ignored such a glaring red flag that I had a problem.

    I’d love to hear more stuff like this. Fapping isn’t actually fun unless we force ourselves to ignore all this stuff, and I just want to be honest with myself.

    Mai mult de la Comentarii

    • (Being called for dinner) “Fuck, why wouldn’t they leave me alone?”
    • (Edged too much in the evening and at night, wakes up in the morning to find a blood vessel burst under the skin and it’s all purple around it because of blood spills. After some concerned research, finds out it’s not a big deal and will heal in a week or so) Instantly: “Good, this will keep me from fapping for some time. I never thought I’d be so glad to have such a scar on mine”. Ten hours later: “Well, I just need to rub the head a little gently here from now on.”
    • Cumstains: It’s so embarrassing when you notice them later just because other people looked at them.
    • Poșta de transport poștal, de ce trebuie să vii mereu la vremea când tocmai am jizzed peste tot?
    • Întreruperea tot timpul în mijlocul sesiunii mele.
    • freaking out when someone borrows your smart phone because it’s full of porn or porn links and then feeling like a douche because you can’t even let someone innocently touch your phone
    • I’ll fap and then I’ll do some creative stuff. And finally, I spent 2 hours watch porn and it’s time to get to bed.
    • oh god oh god oh god my parents/brother/friend is using the internet on my computer…why didn’t I clear history/autocomplete?
  91. Asta mă îngrijorează despre oameni care urmăresc lucruri ca Henta

    This is what worries me about people who watch things like Hentai… surely once the main character has sprouted six tentacles and banged a whole bus full of japanese cheerleaders with them, how can ‘normal’ sex ever match up???

    On a serious note tho, congrats for kicking the habit and i’m glad everything has worked out.

  92. 17 filele porno în browserul meu.

    17 filele porno în browserul meu. 

     alienscapezi 1

    This has become the usual theme…. What the hell am I even jerking off to anymore. It seems to be that I’m fapping not to the content itself, but merely to the ABUNDANCE of content. This is just insane. It can’t go on or I’m gonna have to call the paddywagon on myself. Starting today, I’m gonna make a most dedicated effort to reach 90 days. I’ve made it 3 weeks once. But I usually fail after about a week. Time to do the damn thing.

  93. N-aș fi supraviețuit niciodată să cresc cu bandă largă / google / fac

    N-aș fi supraviețuit niciodată să crească cu broadband / google / facebook. 

    by effiebies50 zile

    I’m 46 YO, and I would like to convey my admiration for all you younger guys who are coming here to deal with this challenge. When I was growing up, the porn was in magazines, poorly hidden in our basement. It took a while to find “good” pics. Later on, I had a dial-up modem, and it sometimes took a few minutes to download grainy images. And the search engines back then really sucked. I guess I was lucky.

    If I had had a speedy broadband modem, with google search, and facebook, I’d probably be overdosed in a gutter somewhere. I certainly wouldn’t be here, trying to clean up. I’d probably be od’d on porn face down in a gutter somewhere.

    So I wanted to to tell you guys how much admire your willingness to fight this. It can’t be easy, but then again, nothing worth having comes easily.

  94. Vreau să întreb întrebarea despre un astfel de format video ca FullHD

    What I want to ask is question about such video format as FullHD – ultra high quality of video. Personally, I guess I get addicted to it if not physiologically, then psychologically. I recall in one of articles you stated something like it’s not about duration of experience but intensity. So, this very high definition videos were so attracted for me, that even plain HD, standard videos and others not interested my brain so well; even tube sites I stopped to visit so frequently. So, can you say any thoughts about this super stimulation, obviously it seems much better for me than even real deal, maybe how it affected neural pathways etc ?

  95. Pentru toți membrii mai tineri de la un tip mai în vârstă

    Pentru toți membrii mai tineri de la un tip mai în vârstă

     by spurspack 68 zile

    Am citit multe posturi de la tinerii mai tineri aici și vreau să spun ceva. M-am uitat la porno și am încercat-o pentru 25 ani solizi. Ce risipă. Mi se pare greu să cred că dependența mea a trecut atât de mult. Porno a fost întotdeauna ceva pe care tocmai l-am făcut și nu l-am văzut niciodată negativ. Mă pregăteam doar pentru sex? Gresit. După un timp, mi-am dat seama că nu fac sex deloc și mă bat în fiecare zi. Acest lucru este cu mags și benzi. Rahatul de mare viteză este nebun! Porno la cerere. Doamne rahat Nu invid o tipi tineri care au pornit la porno de mare viteza. Mi-a împins adiția la pmo la înălțimi fără precedent. De atunci am avut probleme extreme de ED.

    Im 68 days in to nofap with no porn and no fapping.. Im married and have been able to have great sex with wife so im lucky. I feel like my Dick and brain are in rehab and the outcome looks bright. Fellas…stop the cycle. Excessive porn will ruin you. Please dont be that dude who is with a beautiful naked woman and your Dick is nowhere to be found. Sucks worse than anything outside of a tragic death.

    Voi aveți puterea de a elimina acum această posibilitate. Nu mâine, chiar acum. Spune la revedere tuturor celor săraci de porno pentru totdeauna. În toate realitățile, ele sunt sorta gros și destul de urât. Nu te iubesc și te țin doar de la găsirea unei iubiri reale cu o fată sau o femeie. Îți provoc pe tineri cu asta. Puteți să o faceți cu sprijinul de aici. Doar centii mei 2, dar eu serios dont dorit de tine de a suferi cu aceste probleme legate de pornografie în cel mai mare timp din viețile voastre. Nofap pentru moment vă va porni cel puțin în direcția corectă pentru a reuși. Pune-ți porno-ul și trăiește prietenii mei.


    Conectat la Internet de mare viteza e de rahat. Mi-am făcut asta, ca și tine. Am fost extrem de dependenta 68 de zile in urma si de fapt am fost speriata sa fac sex cu sotia mea. Astăzi pot spune sincer că im este un om mai bun. Dracu 'ce pot face în dormitor, care va veni în mod natural. Mă aflu mai mult despre cum nofap mi-a schimbat perspectiva asupra vieții. Frumusețea forfecată a naturii mamei sau o vedere reală a mâncării bune .. momente de calitate actuale cu copii și soția mea. Eliberarea a devenit noul meu cuvânt preferat.

  96. Comentariul lui Guy pe un forum

    I’m younger than you, and
    probably the OP as well. I’m still old enough to have started PMO with
    reviste softcore și apoi reviste VHS și hardcore. La fel de rău ca și ceilalți
    au fost (și au fost teribile), nimic nu ma pregătit pentru crack
    cocaină de internet wireless, laptopuri și site-uri cu tuburi porno. clipă
    accesul la o varietate de infinit efectiv de porno nu este bun pentru oricine dar este deosebit de rău pentru persoanele care au deja dependență de pornografie / personalitate în general.

    Am primit primul laptop despre 6 cu ani în urmă. Siturile pornografice au fost noi
    idee de atunci. Am fost pornirea porno P2P de ani de zile (de la 1999
    or so, any new technology’s first use is porn). Again, as bad as that
    a fost, a fost încă cartofi mici, comparativ cu site-uri tub porno. Torrents
    faceți timp pentru a descărca, iar fișierele sunt uriașe. Momentul
    mulțumirea și noutatea nesfârșită a site-urilor cu tuburi porno au făcut mai multă pagubă
    sexualitatea mea în anii 5-6 decît tot pornografia făcuse în
    anterioare 20.

    I’ve struggled with my porn addiction for years. I quit cold turkey
    la începutul 2012 și a șters 400 + GB de porno. Am aruncat o grămadă de bani
    ars CD-uri și DVD-uri. M-am dus 90 + zile fără PMO, dar în cele din urmă am căzut
    de pe vagon.

    I’ve made several attempts to get “clean” again, but I’ve failed one
    sau altul de fiecare dată. Invariabil, am terminat înapoi la PMO cel puțin o dată pe
    zi, de obicei înainte de culcare (dar de multe ori și de alte ori).

    This most recent time has been different. First off, I’m doing hard
    mode. It is a lot tougher, moment to moment. Weirdly, it’s easier
    per total. Am niște impulsuri puternice pentru a te uita la porno și / sau
    masturbate, which are more intense than anything like them that I’ve
    simțit în trecut. Totuși, procesul a fost, bine, nu
    easier, but I’ve felt a stronger sense of direction. I have so much
    am construit tensiuni sexuale, eu avea să o direcționez undeva
    else. I’ve begun to exercise again. This is good for a bunch of
    reasons. I’ve gotten quite overweight in my later years but also the
    exercițiile endorfine oferă ajutor de contracarare a nevoii de PMO.

    A fost un post aici cu o lună în urmă, spunând că nu Fap nu este
    cel mai bun raspuns, si asta a lovit cu adevarat un cordon cu mine.
    Oprirea PMO este primul pas în rezolvarea unei mulțimi de probleme. Vizualizați-o ca
    revenind la pătrat, dar de acolo poți începe în sfârșit
    mergi inainte.

    http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1k0x7y/to_all_the_younger_members_from_an_older_dude/cbkgwq6

     

  97. “The Machine Zone: This Is Where You Go When You Just Can’t Stop

    If Facebook and other apps are this addictive, imagine how far into The Machine Zone Internet porn can carry you….

    The Machine Zone: This Is Where You Go When You Just Can’t Stop Looking at Pictures on Facebook – Atlantic Mobile

    “People love Facebook. They really love it,” Biz Stone a scris la începutul acestei luni. “My mother-in-law looks hypnotized when she decides to put in some Facebook time.”

    Nu este singura. ComScore estimează că Facebook mănâncă procentul de 11
    din tot timpul petrecut online în Statele Unite. Utilizatorii săi au fost
    cunoscut pentru a petrece un media de minute 400 pe lună pe site.

    I know the hypnosis, as I’m sure you do, too. You start clicking through
    fotografiile prietenilor tăi de prieteni și următorul lucru pe care îl știi o oră
    gone by. It’s oddly soothing, but unsatisfying. Once the spell is
    broken, I feel like I’ve just wasted a bunch of time. But while it’s
    happening, I’m caught inside the machine, a human animated GIF: I. Just.
    Nu poti. Stop.

    Or maybe it’ll come on when I’m scrolling through tweets at night before
    bed. I’m not even clicking the links or responding to people. I’m just
    derularea în jos sau, mai rău, tragerea în jos cu degetul mare, reîncărcarea,
    reîncărcare.

    Or sometimes, I get caught in the melancholy of Tumblr’s infinite scroll.

    Sunt aceste experiențe, cum ar fi Stone, iubirea? Lumea tehnologiei
    în general măsoară cât de mult îți place un serviciu cu cât timp ai
    cheltuiți pe ea. Deci, o mulțime de timp este egală cu iubirea. 

    My own intuition is that this is not love. It’s something much more technologically specific that MIT anthropologist Natasha Schüll apelează „zona mașinii. "

    “It’s Not About Winning, It’s About Getting Into the Zone”

    Schüll a petrecut mai mult de o decadă mergând la Las Vegas și discutând cu el
    jucători și operatori de cazinouri despre mașinile de slot, care au explodat
    în profitabilitatea în timpul erei digitale, pe măsură ce designerii de jocuri au optimizat
    ei să țină oamenii să se joace.

    Ceea ce a descoperit este cel mai mult
    people playing the machines aren’t there to make money. They know
    they’re not going to hit the jackpot and go home. As Roman Mars put it
    in un episod recent al podcast-ului lui minunat, 99% Invisible, on Schüll’s research: “It’s not about winning; it’s about getting into the zone.”

    Ce
    is the machine zone? It’s a rhythm. It’s a response to a fine-tuned
    feedback loop. It’s a powerful space-time distortion. You hit a button.
    Ceva se întamplă. L-ai lovit din nou. Ceva similar, dar nu exact
    the same happens. Maybe you win, maybe you don’t. Repeat. Repeat.
    Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. It’s the pleasure of the repeat, the security of
    bucla.

    “Everything else falls away,” Schüll says to Mars. “A sense of monetary
    valoare, timp, spațiu, chiar și un sentiment de sine este anihilat în extrem
    form of this zone that you enter.”

    In Schüll’s book, Addiction by Design, a gambler named Lola tells her: “I’m almost hypnotized into fiind that machine. It’s like playing against yourself: You are the machine; the machine is you.”

    There’s that word again: hypnotized, like Stone’s grandmother. Many
    gamblers used variations on the phrase. “To put the zone into words,”
    Schüll writes, “the gamblers I spoke with supplemented an exotic,
    secolul al XIX-lea cu hipnoza și magnetismul
    referințele secolului al XX-lea la televizor, calculator
    processing, and vehicle driving.”

    They said things like, “You’re in a trance, you’re on autopilot. The zone is
    like a magnet, it just pulls you in and holds you there.”

    Why these words, these metaphors? We don’t cognitively grasp the
    state we fall into — we only feel its grip on us — the way we’ve
    circuite fuzionate cu inanimatul. Tu ești mașina; mașina ești tu.
    And it feels … the words fail. In fact, it feels like words failing
    deoarece este la marginea experienței umane, sângerând peste a
    domeniul celui mai bine exprimat în date și cod.

    The machine zone is the dark side of “debit, "
    o stare psihologică propusă de Mihály Csíkszentmihályi. Într-un flux
    stat, există un scop, regulile pentru atingerea obiectivului și feedbackul
    how that’s going. Importantly, the task has to match your skills, so
    there’s a feeling of “simultaneous control and challenge.”

    Într-un interviu 1996 cu fir,
    Csíkszentmihályi described the state like this: “Being completely
    implicat într-o activitate de dragul său. Eul dispar. Timp
    muste. Fiecare acțiune, mișcare și gândire urmează în mod inevitabil din
    previous one, like playing jazz.”

    Schüll vede o întorsătură în acest sens
    fenomen în fața noilor slot machines de la Vegas, care încorporează
    mici striuri de control aparent pentru a-și amplifica buclele de feedback. Dar
    în loc de auto-împlinire și fericire care Csíkszentmihályi
    descrie, mulți jucători se simt dezumflați și trist de timpul lor pe
    sloturi.

    Jocurile exploatează dorința umană de a curge, dar fără
    înțelesul sau stăpânirea atașată statului. Zona mașinii este locul unde se află
    the mind goes as the body loses itself in the task. “You can erase it
    all at the machines,” a gambler tells Schüll. “You can even erase
    yourself.”

    Puteți să vă îndepărtați de tot în zona mașinii, dar numai atâta timp cât rămâneți acolo.

    Zona Facebook

    Când ne ocupăm de o activitate repetitivă pe computerele noastre, cred că noi
    can enter some softer version of the  machine zone. Obviously, if
    you’re engaged in banter with friends or messaging your mom on Facebook,
    you’re not in that zone. If you’re reading actively and writing poems
    on Twitter, you’re not in that zone. If you’re making art on Tumblr,
    you’re not in that zone. The machine zone is anti-social, and it’s
    caracterizată de lipsa conexiunii umane. S-ar putea să te uiți
    oamenii când vă uitați prin fotografii, dar interacțiunile cu dvs.
    prezențele digitale sunt mecanice, repetitive și întărite de
    feedback-ul computerizat. 

    I’m not claiming that people are “addicted” to Facebook. Some of the
    gamblers quoted in Schüll’s research do in fact have serious problems.
    But I am using their stories as Schüll did — as sources of expertise on
    zona, pentru a nu spune experiența lor cu slot machines este exact
    like your average user’s time on Facebook.

    Subliniez acest lucru pentru că există tendința de a arunca în jurul ideii
    addiction to various technologies like it’s no big deal. But it is.

    All of this to say: I’m not making an argument about the totality of
    cum ar fi Facebook. Aceasta este o critică a buclelor comportamentale specifice
    care pot apărea în interiorul lor.

    Cel mai pur exemplu de onramp în zona mașinii este clic
    through photo albums on Facebook. There’s nothing particularly rewarding
    or interesting about it. And yet, show me the Facebook user who hasn’t
    petrecut ore și ore petrecând doar așa. De ce? Puteți găsi zona.
    Clic. Fotografie. Clic. Fotografie. Clic. Fotografie. Și poate, undeva înăuntru
    there, you find something cool (“My friend knows my cousin.”) or cute
    (“Kitten.”). Great. Jackpot! Click. Photo. Click. Photo. Click. Photo.

    Facebook este cel mai mare serviciu de fotografiere cel mai mare din lume. În 2008, atunci când site-ul a avut 10 miliarde de fotografii arhivate, utilizatorii au tras în sus 15 miliarde de imagini pe zi. Procesul a avut loc la 300,000 pe secundă. Clic. Fotografie. Clic.

    În 2010, Facebook a încărcat miliarde de imagini 65 și au fost trimise la o rată de vârf de milioane 1 pe secundă. By 2012, Facebook users were uploading 300 de milioane de fotografii pe zi. Și la începutul acestui an, Facebook a anunțat că utilizatorii le-au încredințat 240 de miliarde de fotografii.

    Dacă presupunem că raportul dintre fotografiile încărcate în fotografiile vizionate nu a scăzut considerabil, utilizatorii se vor retrage probabil miliarde de fotografii Facebook pe zi la o rată de milioane pe secundă. Clic. Fotografie. Clic.

    Totul se adaugă la o mulțime de timp petrecut în buclă. Potrivit a
    2011 ComScore raport, utilizatorii petrec 17 procent din timpul lor pe site
    navigarea exclusivă a fotografiilor (care ca În interiorul Facebook note, doesn’t include “time spent reading news feed stories and notifications generated by photo uploads”).

    To put these numbers in perspective, ComScore’s 2013 Digital Focus
    raportul a constatat că Facebook a luat 83 procente din timpul petrecut pe * toate *
    rețele sociale pe web. Asta înseamnă că din tot timpul petrecut
    rețele sociale, procentul 14 din acesta apare în cadrul acestui comportamental
    loop. That’s more than all the time spent on Tumblr, Pinterest, Twitter,
    și LinkedIn combinate!

    timeonsocialnetworks.jpg

    If
    all technological artifacts contain certain “prescriptions” within
    dacă designerii pot înscrie intențiile în lucrurile pe care le construiesc, as in sociologist Bruno Latour’s theory, atunci putem spune că unele mecanisme de angajare sunt mai prescriptive decât altele. 

    Ce
    Facebook și pariurile cu mașini de slot este capacitatea de a oferi rapid
    feedback la acțiuni simple; ei oferă recompense minuscule într-un mod imperfect
    predictable “payout” schedule. These are coercive loops, distorting
    whatever the original intention of the user was. What began as “See a
    picture of person X” becomes “keep seeing more pictures.” The mechanism
    ea însăși devine punctul.

    Jocurile de design de la jocurile de desene animate, la rândul lor, au trebuit să se lupte cu
    problemele etice ridicate de exploatarea zonei mașinii. Și că lupta
    hasn’t been pretty.

    Schüll vorbește despre un designer, Randy Adams. La început, îi spune
    that he’s “morally” opposed to being machines that enable compulsive
    behavior, which is an acknowledgement that it’s possible to do so. “But
    on this point Adams was not consistent,” she writes. “[Adams] began by
    locating addiction within the person, stating that ‘some people can’t
    control the part that turns it from fun into addiction.’ When pressed to
    specify ‘the part that turns it from fun into addiction,’ he replied:
    ‘It’s the design of the game,” and then added that this characteristic
    of design was “not intentional on our part, just the way it happened to
    evolve.'”

    Ce ar însemna pentru proiectul de social media dacă am înțeles
    aceasta pentru a induce stări psihologice similare jocurilor de noroc bazate pe mașini?
    Angajații din Silicon Valley ar lupta cu produsul lor pe drum
    slot-machine designers do? I know a lot of coders and people who’ve
    worked for various social companies; they certainly don’t see themselves
    ca fiind în același domeniu de activitate ca un cazinou. Majoritatea se gândesc
    they’re “a face bine făcând bine. "

    Ca experiment de gândire, imaginați-vă că există o dovadă incontestabilă
    că anumite modele de servicii web au făcut ca oamenii să intre în mașină
    zonă, timp de patru ori pe site pentru un subset de utilizatori. Ar fi designeri
    să-și excludă folosirea sau ar folosi toate trucurile pentru ei
    start-up? 

    Lucrurile ar putea fi diferite. Un site ar putea încuraja a
    etica diferită a consumului. Pentru a fi un pic absurd: De ce nu posta a
    sign after someone has looked through 100 pictures that says, “Why not
    write a friend or family member a note instead?”

    Shouldn’t these things be part of what web companies think about? Not
    doar încurajând utilizatorii să consume mai multe și mai mult, dar ajutându-i să se oprească.

    The Problem of “Giving People What They Want”

    Ai putea argumenta că designerii sunt pur și simplu oferind oamenilor ceea ce doresc. Datele spun că oamenii petrec mult timp privind fotografiile; așa că Facebook servește imaginile. Simplu ca asta.

    Angajamentul este de obicei moneda tarii rețelei sociale. De cand
    it’s much harder to measure whether someone is actually enjoying an
    decât să măsurați numărul de minute petrecute de cineva
    a face acest lucru, angajamentul este de obicei măsurat în funcție de timp. Și așa, Silicon
    Valea a făcut cazul la sine (și la utilizatorii software-ului său)
    că votăm cu clicurile noastre.

    But there’s a problem. A definition of “what people want” got smuggled
    in cu datele. Definiția începe logic: oamenii merg la site-uri
    lor le place. Dar apoi devine mai prost. Ei spun că mai mult timp
    petreceți pe un site sau pe o parte a unui site, cu atât vă place mai mult. Desigur, asta
    elimină complet rolul jucat de companie în modelarea utilizatorului
    comportament pentru creșterea consumului. Și ignoră uneori oamenii
    (often?) do things to themselves that they don’t like. Who “likes”
    spending hours flipping channels — and yet it’s been a core part of the
    Experiența americană de zeci de ani.

    Ce se întâmplă dacă 400-ul pe minut petrecut de oameni pe Facebook este mai mare
    (sau chiar parțial) petrecute în zona mașinii, anunțul hipnotizat și acumulat
    impresii pentru companie?

    Here’s my contention: Thinking about
    zona mașinii și buclele coercitive care o inițiază au o mare valoare
    explanatory power. It explains the “lost time” feeling I’ve had on
    various social networks, and that I’ve heard other people talk about. It
    explică modul în care Facebook-ul și-a reglat serviciile, cu atât mai mulți oameni
    seem to dislike the experiences they have, even as they don’t abandon
    lor. Ajută la explicarea de ce oamenii continuă să se întoarcă la serviciile care suge
    them in, even when they say they don’t want to.

    Mă ajută să înțeleg de ce social media, care a început cu binele
    intenția de a conecta oamenii, a devenit un subiect atât de plin de viață. Printre
    the tech savvy, it is seen as an act of bravery to say, “Îmi place Facebook. " 

    pentru că
    designers and developers interpreted maximizing “time on site,”
    “stickiness,” “engagement,” as giving people what they wanted, they
    a construit un sistem care provoacă răspunsuri compulsive din partea oamenilor că ei
    mai târziu regret. 

    Cel puțin, fenomenul zonei de mașină trebuie să devină a
    o parte din modul în care vorbim despre plăcerile internetului. Poate,
    over the long run, these problems will self-correct. I’m not so sure,
    deși: Forțele economice din inima rețelelor sociale susținute de publicitate
    în principiu, să maximizeze cât de mult timp oamenii cheltuiesc pe un site,
    generând afișări de anunțuri. 

    Se întâmplă așa că utilizatorul
    modele de comportament care sunt cele mai profitabile pentru Facebook și altele
    social networks are precisely the patterns that they’ve interpreted to
    mean that people love them. It’s almost as if they determined what would
    să fie cel mai profitabil și apoi să-și dea seama cum să justifice acest lucru ca servire
    nevoile utilizatorilor. 

    But I actually don’t believe that. You can say many
    lucruri despre antreprenori, designeri și coderi care creează social
    networking companies, but they believe in what they do. They’re more
    ar putea fi ideologi decât triangulatorii financiari craveni. Si ei
    petreceți toată ziua pe Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr și Pinterest,
    too. I bet they know the machine zone, too. And that’s why I have hope
    ar putea înceta de fapt să proiecteze capcanele. 

    In any case, fighting
    marele nulitate din inima acestor bucle coercitive ar trebui să fie unul dintre ele
    obiectivele tehnologiei de proiectare, utilizare și critică. 

    In the great tradition of the Valley, we’ll make a t-shirt: Just Say No To The Machine Zone.

  98. amateu doar lucruri și nu am putut obține greu cu porno înainte

    Re: daune de diferite tipuri de porno?
    Nu am vazut niciodata porno de mare def sau chiar stiu orice nume de porno stele. Obisnuiam sa urmaresc in principal amatori de acasa facut lucruri si nu mai puteam sa ma intorc cu porno inainte de repornire.

     

  99. Re: daune de diferite tipuri de porno?

    Re: daune de diferite tipuri de porno?
    Aș crede că, am escaladat de la imagini mici la imagini full HD până la filme full HD, apoi în cele din urmă porno / fantezie de carte de benzi desenate în rezoluție mare. Vederea mea despre femei a fost / este atât de înrăutățită, dar repornirea îi ajută foarte mult. Pentru prima dată în viața mea, am mai multe gânduri mai pur și mai excitate despre femei.

     

  100. ceva ce vreau să spun despre pornografie

    ceva ce vreau să spun despre pornografie

    de T0nyk1llaz

    It emasculates men. I think back to the generations who lived their lives without it. The guys who fought through the Great Depression, the 2 world wars, the guys who worked their asses off all day and poured their energy into their family. They put all their focus on that family unit. Say what you will about the sexism of that day, but you can’t deny that the men back then were 100% real men that were probably a lot more satisfied with themselves compared to the way a lot of us feel today. I think of the quotes I’ve read in “Fight Club” where it basically said that today we as an entire generation no Great War, no defining moment. We have a spiritual war going on inside, we feel lost. When I look at myself, I see some of the damage that porn has done to my morals. I feel like I’m lacking in pride and I feel lost at times. I also look at the crap that the media puts in females heads. I see Miley Cyrus, who seems to care less about the influence she has over all those little girls that used to watch her on the Disney Channel. Girls are told that you have to meet this image to be fulfilled. While all this is going on, YOUNG guys are getting ED. We’re losing confidence in our ability, and we’re also getting distant from females. Our tastes are changing into things we’re embarrassed about. And we feel shame about it. It’s really been killing us. So congratulations to each of you for taking control. At some point, you’ll be free and you’ll be one of those who has been there before, but survived and came out without any scars. Good luck.

     

  101. EXTREME Addict. Nevoie de ajutor.

    Bună băieți

    I’m 22 years old and I have been exposed to porn since I was 8 I believe. It started with harmless pictures of women on adverts in magazines. It progressed into watching (softcore) porn with a friend who found those in his parents bedroom. We started browsing the web for porn out of curiosity and because it was funny for us as kids(we didn’t understand it ).

    Tatăl meu a observat ce am făcut pe internet și am instalat un filtru porno pentru mai mulți ani până când am fost probabil despre 14 sau ceva. Așa că am faptizat la fotografiile femeilor în reviste și la fetele imaginate din școală și altele asemenea.

    I became older and the filter was gone the internet was pretty much open for me. It started harmless with pictures of naked pornstars(14-15) but my desire grew and porn was just so compelling…. I went to youporn daily by age of 16 and started downloading of complete porn movies because the youporn clips started to get boring.

    Until today I’m browsing the web for hours daily ,maybe 2 hours on average each day to better my porn collection and to fap on the edge to keep this feeling.My tastes are getting extremer and extremer sometimes i watch incest stuff or even animals fucking women,dickgirls/futanari…Because it gets more difficult to excite me , i’ve seen pretty much everything one can see ….

    So a month ago I noticed this page yourbrainonporn.com + NoFap and realised in what deep shit i’ve gotten into. This addiction is ruining my life : it wastes a lot of my time (2h per day on average ! ) My interest in real women is weak since i can have them always on my screen. I makes me tired ,depressed, apathetic ,inactive , socially anxious, and I still don’t have a complete facial hair (this might have something todo with fapping) => I feel like a boy rather than a man. I have an emotional relationship to my porn collection. I can’t delete it (it was alot of work gathering all of it (about 200gb))

    So I started with small steps in my reboot. I tried not to ejaculate for the longest time possible.And 3 days was my max but I couldn’t resist to edge and watch porn though.. Today was my second day in another run and I relapsed bad. I watched porn for about 8 hours… And ejaculated two times. After one day of abstinence I start to feel pressure in my prostate and especially when i have to pee I get really horny and then I get the urge to unload this pressure. It becomes unbearable. I can’t do anything productive in that time.Even if I resist this day will become a useless day where I do nothing else then to resist my urge.And since i’m studying I HAVE to fap to be somewhat productive.

    I’m not an ugly guy or something I had alot of chances to get a girl but porn destroyed my interest in them and I always refused to get into a relationship and now i’m in this viscous cycle and can’t get out.

    At least I have realised that i’ve got a problem .

    Ar trebui să primesc ajutor profesional? Ce spui ? Orice speranță?

    EXTREME Addict. Nevoie de ajutor.

     

  102. Porno nu este arta.

    Porno nu este arta.

    Ori de câte ori mă uitam la un videoclip porno, aș trece mereu în aproximativ o treime, încercând să fac o judecată instantanee înainte de a trece la următorul.

    Foarte recent mi-am dat seama că am început să fac asta cu totul: sărind peste un minut într-un cântec și lăsându-l să se joace câteva secunde înainte de a decide dacă mi-a plăcut sau nu; vizionând doar primele minute ale unui program TV înainte de a se plictisi; chiar și să citesc articole online, spunându-mi că am citit suficient pentru a obține în esență câteva lucruri despre asta.

    I think there are two main points I’ve taken from this:

    • Porno nu este arta. Scopul său este de a oferi satisfacție instantanee, nu un efect de durată, semnificativ.
    • Porno ma oprit să apreciez orice altceva. Acum, când m-am oprit din vizionarea de porno, apreciez lucrurile în întregime. Muzica, filmele, cărțile, toate par mai bune acum, căutând în mod activ acest efect semnificativ și nu doar satisfacția instantanee.
  103. Pe tema desensibilizării. (un pic de subiect)

    Pe tema desensibilizării. (un pic de subiect)

    by asschap83 zileSo since starting nofap i’ve realized how desensitized i had been to sexually explicit images and material. But it also made me think about the other odd things im exposed to on the internet/reddit. I often browse /r/wtf and view videos and pictured of some extreme gore and other fucked up things out there.

    I don’t even bat an eye at some really messed up things.

    Este ceva pe care ar trebui să-l supraveghez?

    It can kind of weird me out than seeing extreme gore doesn’t even make me think twice. When it came to porn I could look at tons and not really get excited much but after my streak little things can really effect me.

    Deci, im curios, văd și alte lucruri de pe Internet, de asemenea, rău pentru creierul meu într-un mod similar porno? Doar ceva ce am observat și am crezut că am putea discuta. Răspundeți cu gândurile voastre!

  104. porn warps your mind. I know because I’m there. I feel isolated

    I want to believe that there is help. That somehow my mind can return to the state it once was in before I basically binged on porn. I want “experts” to stop telling me that it’s healthy. I want people to feel what I feel so they can understand what it’s like.

    I feel like my sexuality has been hijacked and you know what? It’s all my fault. I want help. I just want someone to confirm that it is possible to reclaim yourself and let go of this ugly shit. I would give anything to go back 3 years ago, smash the fuck out of my laptop, and tell myself that porn will change you.

    You guys should have seen me. I defended porn to death! I believed every positive thing an expert said and when people said that they had porn addictions I truly didn’t believe it. I didn’t believe that it could desensitize you, cause ED, or anything of the sort.

    Look at me now, though. That’s how I know this shit fucks you up. Some people it may have no effect, but for me, I noticed slight changes that kept happening over time and they weren’t good. Sex in my dreams went from awesome and amazing to shit in the course of these 3 years. I hate most of my sex dreams and sometimes they don’t even make sense. If there is anyone out there who can help or who has success with no fap, I’d love to hear it.

    I feel like the world, whose side I was once on, is against me now. Psychologists don’t even recognize it in the DSM so that basically eliminates therapy. I’ve seen every type of porn you can think of (minus illegal stuff) and I feel like if I tell a therapist that they’re going to tell me I’m bi or something, or of course the magic psychological-thriller paradox that I’ve been that way the whole time and didn’t know it.

    Știu cine sunt, ceea ce înseamnă că oamenii au nevoie de ani să-și dea seama, și asta nu sunt eu. Mi-e dor de visele mele când aveau sens, mi-e dor de tot ce am fost înainte de a mă strânge greu în asta. Indreptati-ma in directia corecta fapstronauts. Spune-mi că există o adevărată speranță în asta.

    porn warps your mind. I know because I’m there. I feel isolated and alone. (self.NoFap)

    by sos_call

  105. sexologul nostru lider spunând tuturor adolescenților tineri

    Hmm, interesting read and definitely true. This problem is really really serious and very deep. For example me, I’m from Czech Republic and a few years after regime change we had this radio broadcast show “red ears” by one of our leading sexologist telling to the all young adolescent generation that porn and masturbation is healthy and there’s nothing to worry about. Now, 15 years later he’s making money from erection stimulating pills. But still, everybody loves him.

    Victims of the information age…

  106. ED fading, I already know I’m never going back

    Thoughts on 20 day check-in, ED fading, I already know I’m never going back

    Last Saturday night, I met a girl I’ve been messaging with on OKcupid – I hadn’t PMO’ed in over two weeks and was already feeling changes, but imagine my surprise when we were making out in her car and later in my bed – no sex, but I had no problems achieving an erection – not necessarily 100%, but certainly adequate enough. We didn’t have sex (hoping to see her this week) but having a functional penis again in the presence of a real-life beautiful woman was certainly a cause for celebration.

    I’m so embarrassed that I have to type this stuff out, but it just shows how insidious and deeply-entrenched a porn habit can be. For years, it was just a part of my regular routine, like brushing my teeth in the mornings. PMOing was like eating a piece of candy, except instead of hunger, I was indulging anytime I felt anxious or bored or lonely or I had ten minutes to kill, because ejaculating feels better than not ejaculating.

    My emotions are coming back, and I’m finally starting to feel content and satisfied with who I am as a person now that I don’t have this fog of shame borne out of secretiveness. When I see pretty ladies at the bar, I no longer have to think about how they’d react if they saw how I spent so many hours of my life, hunched in front of a computer with glazed over eyes, masturbating to movies of women who don’t even know (or care) I exist.

    I’m 32, so I’m still young, but I can’t imagine how much more I would have loved my life before this if I hadn’t been immersed in porn and the toxic, self-defeating, life-sucking mindset that comes with it. It truly is a cycle of shame – you feel bad, at least on a subconscious level, because you KNOW that people outside your house are enjoying sex and relationships while you’re hiding away from everyone, fucking your fist and not feeling good about it afterwards.

    It’s true – you have to WANT to quit. You have to realise on your own that this habit does nothing positive for you besides a few moments of escape and pleasure in exchange for your self-respect, self-esteem, and self-worth. Imagine being able to walk around with the knowledge that you don’t need to spend hours and hours looking at pictures and movies of 2-D women. It’s like professional wrestling – nobody in their right minds believes that real life is anything like that, so why would people think that porn has any parallels with real sex?

    Another thing we have to understand is that we’re the first generation that has had to solve this problem for ourselves. No other population in history has had unlimited access to this much porn, and more is being produced every day. No previous generation has been brainwashed and programmed so directly with this amount of porn – even the worst perverts of the past had to leave the adult bookstore and peep show after closing time.

    To end this on a positive note, I’m finally being able to envision myself in a long-term relationship, getting married, and doing “couple” things like celebrating anniversaries, taking trips, holding hands in public and all those lovely things I’ve always wanted but could never legitimately envision for myself when I was deep in the porn jungle. With every year that passed when I felt confused and depressed, I was still watching porn, still getting off on surgically-enhanced women participating in cartoonish scenarios that they’d likely never do if they weren’t getting paid. It’s so ridiculous – as a smart person, how did I waste so much of my life on this? I used to make fun of guys who spent four years of their life playing WoW, but porn use is far worse and I have no room to talk.

    Here’s to a new year, a new me, and every new day I don’t spend distracted by fantasy and craving my next fix.
     

  107. Locul ăsta va fi mai mare decât îți dai seama

    I’m in my 40’s. when I was a kid, it took a lot of hunting and a lot if luck to score a penthouse or playboy magazine. And even then,those girls needed to last you an entire month, maybe longer.

    Even with the introduction of VHS tapes, porn still took a lot of effort. The stress of sneaking into an adult store. Dropping $20 per tape. It was pricey and you had to find time to go the tough parts of town for privacy. DVD’s did not change that model.

    Influența accesului la internet de mare viteză a fost profundă. Mai multe fete în 5 minute de surfing decât ar fi conținute în 24 luni de playboy. Videoclipurile nu sunt fotografii.

    Ceea ce nimeni nu putea studia a fost efectele pe termen lung. O bună parte a societății de sex masculin se deconectează din ce în ce mai mult de lumea reală și de femeile reale din jurul lor.

    Două zeci de ani, iar acești bărbați se trezesc la consecințe. Diminuarea libidoului, ED, depresie.

    I think there’ll be a groundswell of people coming here for solace, healing and help. 

    Locul ăsta va fi mai mare decât îți dai seama

     

     

  108. here’s a substantial difference between the printed pornography

    45 year old here. Based on my own experience, I would say there’s a substantial difference between the printed pornography of the first @25 years of my life and what is available now.

    Frecvență

    Când eram copil, am avut ocazional access to things like Playboy, Penthouse, and Hustler. Kids couldn’t buy the magazines, so we had to sneak peaks from male relatives. If we actually got our hands on a magazine, we had to figure out where to hide it. Usually that meant somewhere outside, where other kids could find it or it could be destroyed by the elements. Later, even if your family had a VCR (mine didn’t), you had to find time alone to watch the video. Compare either of those to being able to view thousands of images and scores of videos in a single day. And like sane-ish pointed out, even when I was older there was a shame factor associated with buying it.

    Intensitate

    I can’t stress this enough- there are music videos and commercials today that are more erotic than the things that were available back in the day. And the things that are available for free on the Web today were de neimaginat pentru mine, chiar în vârsta de 20 de ani. Și nu sunt în mod particular adăpostit sau inhibat - exact opusul. Pentru întristarea și rușinea mea, sunt lucruri pe care le-am găsit abominabile chiar și în anii treizeci de ani, care mi-ar plăcea să văd mai mult de astăzi - mai întâi rău, apoi excitant, apoi pur și simplu trezit.

    If I’d had access to the internet and internet porn as a young man your age, I don’t know if I would have graduated from high school and almost certainly not have graduated from college. I don’t know if I would have a wife, a family, or a life worth living. My heart goes out to you guys- you have one hell of a dragon to slay.


     

    I’m 48 years old. In chronological order, I was addicted to 1) soft core magazines like Playboy 2) raunchier magazines like High Society and Hustler 3) hard core magazines and video booths at adult bookstores 4) peep shows 5) strip clubs 6) VHS porn 7) dialup Internet porn 8) broadband Internet porn.

    So yes, people got addicted before high-speed Internet came along. But with high-speed Internet, there is zero barrier to entry (even negative barrier to entry – it shows up when you don’t want it to), it’s completely free as in beer, it’s socially acceptable, and there is so much of it, you can consume it all day every day, without seeing the same thing twice. That makes it way, way more addictive. I am so glad it wasn’t available when I was young – I would have ruined my life with it.

    O treime (33%) dintre bărbații dintre vârstele 18 și 30 fie consideră că sunt dependenți, fie nu sunt siguri dacă sunt dependenți de pornografie

  109. Marea schimbare în vizualizarea pornografică de la 1980es la epoca actuală.

    Am fost uimit ieri de fecioarele care vorbesc despre folosirea lor pornografică. Ma făcut să mă gândesc la copilăria mea. Atunci pornografia a fost ceva pe care oamenii l-au urmărit și au consumat, dar a venit cu un mare stigmat.

    Puțini oameni de familie decente sau chiar bărbați virgini ar merge la un film de închiriere și chirie porno. Ar putea intra în posesia unui magor sau a doi. Dar chiar și asta era ceva de care oamenii se rușinau.

    Acum porno este sărbătorită în mod deschis. Publicat în spații publice. Este disponibil la fiecare dispozitiv.

    Au fost multe discuții despre cum a fost un lucru minunat. Că am fost eliberați de vechile atitudini stricte.

    Dar acum că oamenii încep să aibă probleme din cauza utilizării pornografice, mă face să mă întreb dacă această eliberare a fost bună sau rea.

    The slow degradation of the “moral backbone” that no one seems to have anymore. Including me. Which I am trying to build up again.

    Pentru că sufăr din cauza folosirii porno. Pentru că nu este bine pentru mine.

    Și acum, cu studiile venind. Despre schimbările din creier. Atât de mult din comportamentul meu are sens brusc.

    Știu că inima îmi bate la doar câțiva pixeli într-o publicitate riscă, într-un fel în care câțiva pixeli nu trebuiau.

    Îmi amintesc că computerul a jucat. Lucru. Dar cumva acest ecran a devenit un portal pentru sex. Am o soție. Abia avem sex. Am avut o mulțime de probleme din cauza porno.

    Și încă în zilele 113 afară. Mă uit la acest ecran. Sunt conștienți de faptul că creierul meu este încă blocat în gândul că sexul se află în spatele acestui ecran. Cantități nesfârșite de sex. Și când nu mă las să o fac.

    Sunt în depresie..

    Aș fi vrut să fi fost adult în 1980es. Crezând că pornografia e rău pentru mine.

    Mă simt rău pentru copiii tăi cărora li se spune că pornografia nu este rea.

    Cum te-ai împotrivi? Cu atitudinea curentă. .

    Marea schimbare în vizualizarea pornografică de la 1980es la epoca actuală.

  110. a făcut sex cu o stea pornografică și nu a putut ține pasul

    Acesta este cât de rău este PMO

    this was a while ago, but last February I fucked pornstar (she was pricey prostitute) and i could barely keep it up with her… the same girl I fapped off to in porn.

    M-aș putea întoarce la un pornicar, dar totuși am fost foarte posibil să-i dau o pensie

    that’s how much porn fucked my life up.

    I’ve been struggling with nofap but i have faith ill make it a long term lifestyle. no fap helps a lot. it will work. i will overcome.

    având nevoie doar de puțină încurajare. multumesc baieti

    a făcut sex cu o stea pornografică și nu a putut ține pasul

     

  111. Nu vreau nici măcar să duc la masterbate, vreau doar ca filele să fie deschise,

    Every time i’m dealing with an urge, I tell myself that its fine to masterbate without porn, and that I can if I really feel like I need to release tension, and immediately I feel that I have absolutely no desire to do that… I want to get on my laptop and spend the next 20 minutes finding that perfect picture, then move from that to videos, then the MO just comes with it. Its the chase that gets me. The further I stay away from the chase, the better everything else gets. I think I need to smash my phone and computer with a brick.

    Nu vreau nici măcar să duc la masterbate, vreau doar filele deschise, căutarea, noul conținut, entuziasmul.

  112. Mai mult de trei decenii de hranire a creierului cu P.

    Iată fazele în care am trecut în ultimii 30 + ani. (Aprilie, 2015)

    PHASE 1 – Mainly Fantasies

    Reveniți la 1981. Totul a început destul de simplu. Am gasit cateva poze trezite aici si acolo cand eram in jurul varstei 11. Când eram singur acasă, era suficient să mă bucur, să spun așa. A văzut câteva scene nude din când în când la televizor, destule amintiri pentru a continua ceva timp 🙂

    PHASE 2 – Magazines

    În momentul în care ați considerat o păsărică dacă nu aveați cel puțin câteva reviste Playboy. Am pus chiar niște centrifugi pe peretele meu și tatăl meu a aprobat, văzându-mă ca un băiat sănătos 🙂

    Still wonder how these magz became so :crunchy: – lol

    PHASE 3 – Erotic channels and VCR

    Acum mergeți la 1985. Prima dată când am fost prezentat la filmele porno a fost în celebra epopeea clubului olandez FilmNet Night Club. De la 23: 00 până dimineața, acesta a fost locul care urma să fie dacă vroiai să vezi acțiunea grea. Am avut un abonament la toate canalele. Pentru un băiat de ani 15, acest lucru a fost prea bun pentru a fi adevărat. Multe nopți fără somn și o mulțime de prosoape umede. A devenit chiar mai bine când am primit primul recorder VCR. Acest lucru mi-a permis să înregistrez stelele mele preferate și să le joc în timpul zilei când eram acasă singur. Cred că 50% din toate casetele mele a fost P la momentul respectiv. Cu atenție ascuns într-o cutie sau etichetate "Universul" și lucrurile 🙂

    PHASE 4 – The Internet and DVD

    Apoi 10 ani mai târziu. 1995. Viața era o prietena bună, superbă, o mulțime de sexe. Dar în timpul relației pe care am descoperit-o on-line porno. Început cu imagini statice. Când ea a fost la serviciu și libidoul meu a urcat din nou, aș merge online (a trebuit să formați apoi :)) și a descărcat câteva materiale proaspete. Filmele care sunt încă prea mari pentru descărcări rapide, așa că inițial am păstrat imagini statice. Închiriat câteva lucruri erotice cu prietena, din când în când, dar nu mi-a dat drumul ca lucrurile pe care le-am descărcat de la grupurile de știri.

    PHASE 5 – High Speed Internet

    Redirecționați către 2005. Căsătorie. Libido a început să se sincronizeze cu soția. Nașterea site-urilor P online. Începeți să descărcați filme acum. La naiba, atâtea femei fierbinți, atât de puțin timp. A început să colecteze favorite, a devenit foarte creativ în obținerea ejac-ului perfect, bolnav 🙂

    PHASE 6 – More, newer, novelty, comfort, fantasy world

    It’s 2010. Divorce. Stuck in my tiny world, dropped friends, amped up the P intake 🙂 Gigabytes and Gigabytes of HQ stuff, neatly organized by ”actress”, PMO almost daily, social activities to a minimum. Going from ass-man to boobs-man and back again. Even my brain doesn’t know anymore what my real preference is. If I came home to an empty house, alcohol and PMO made me relax. Next day, all over again.

    PHASE 7 – Too much of anything is not good for you

    Acum este 2014. Chiar și cele mai tari fete din videoclipuri nu mă mai pun pe masă. Ei trebuie să se afle într-o anumită poziție, să aibă anumite proporții și anumite priviri pentru a declanșa excitare. Toate celelalte "materiale" sunt doar acolo pentru a ocupa spațiu în rețeaua mea (crescute în proporții epice).

    PHASE 8 – Why? Stop this downward spiral!

    Jan 2015. Sunt din nou pe o confuzie PMO. De trei ori în două zile. Trupul și creierul meu sunt epuizate. În loc să ieșim afară și să-i urmărim pe femei, trec prin colecția mea curentă pentru a găsi tot ce poate vindeca durerea mea interioară. Când ejaculez pentru timpul i-dont-know-which-1000th, ceva se rupe. De ce? De ce??

    Și apoi, în timp ce caută oameni cu probleme similare, găsesc NoFap. Citeste povesti. Simti durerea si lupta pe care toata lumea o traverseaza. Lurk pentru câteva săptămâni și apoi creez un cont, post unele. Aruncați-l din nou, pentru că mă simt rușinat. Creați alta. Aruncați-o.

    Și apoi prima mea încercare reală. Insigna și toate. Doua saptamani. Și apoi încă două săptămâni. Și apoi o altă săptămână. În prezent, încercați 4, dar obțineți un impuls. La urma urmei, 3 MO în aproximativ 6 săptămâni este destul de frumos pentru un începător NoFap.

    Deci, pentru a face această poveste prea lungă scurtă. Se va face să se înrăutățească de-a lungul timpului și este timpul să renunți odată pentru totdeauna.

    TL; DR: Am escaladat P în ultimii 30 + ani, știu aproape fiecare stea / actriță, dar acum am terminat cu acest rahat 😀

    LINK - Mai mult de trei decenii de hrănire a creierului meu cu P. Aproape preistoric, așa că spune-mi Fapster Erectus 🙂

    de -h2o-

     

  113. 10 Orele din vacanța mea au dispărut din cauza porno.

    “I’ll just spend a few minutes online…” This is what I said to myself at 10:00 pm last night.

    I’m on vacation. I’m broke, so I have nothing else to do, nowhere to go. So the answer was porn. In spite of having shelf after shelf of dvds, books, and not to mention a full tank of gas and beautiful weather.

    10 pm last night I sat down and started down the rabbit-hole of porn. I even remarked to myself that I wasn’t really turned on by any of the images or videos I saw… I was just passing time. Then its teeth sank into me… and deeper down the rabbit-hole I went. It was no longer about eroticism, or ‘getting-off’… it was more about finding the more shocking or novel situation or image. I found myself looking and searching for very oddly specific things that would give me an adrenaline spike.

    In spite of sitting in the same position, my body screaming out for me to get up and move, for me to get something to eat, for me close my eyes and go to sleep, I allowed myself to be held in this extremely powerful grip… I recognized that I was tumbling further and further down the rabbit-hole… I came across images that I had seen before… thinking to myself “Oh I saw this the other day… or was it just a couple of hours ago?” I found myself rationalizing: “I’ve spent 4 hours online looking at porn… so what, I’m on vacation. I don’t have anywhere I need to be tomorrow…” 4 hours became 6… 6 became 8… 8 hours! 8 hours that I could have been sleeping… or at the very least, reading a book, or… something, ANYTHING else… EIGHT HOURS!

    I said to myself OUT LOUD “Holy crap! You’ve just wasted 8 freakin’ hours!” I didn’t get off once… not once… and I realize this is probably too much information, and I apologize, but I physically was not înclinat to do so. EIGHT HOURS! That’s an entire sleep schedule, work schedule… that’s eight hours I could have done something constructive… I’m still stunned! But I wasn’t done yet. It was 6 am, and I had not moved from the spot I sat down in at 10 pm the night before.

    Even after chastising myself and calling myself out, out loud for wasting 8 hours at my computer… I didn’t move… I did not turn off my computer and walk away… The sun came up… my body hurt… I was starving… dehydrated (not why you’d think)… still… I forged on… at 8 am I found the the single video that I had been searching for… or what I thought I wanted to find… something with a very specific set of circumstances… I found it… and I didn’t even find it remotely erotic or interesting… it was just the mere fact that I found it that finally led to me sighing with a kind of relief and self-loathing… I shut my computer… stood up… my legs and back wobbled. I had to take a few moments to steady myself and get the blood circulating back in my body… I walked downstairs… greeted the landscapers as they rolled in to do their work for the day… I lit up a cigarette… stinking from not having showered… body cramped (and chaffed… again, sorry, TMI)… it was time to wake up… but all I could think about was going to sleep… I came back upstairs to find that my sweet little kitty was now awake and wanted to play… I ignored her and rolled myself into bed and fell asleep.

    Am mai rămas zile 3.5 de vacanță.

    10 Orele din vacanța mea au dispărut din cauza porno.

  114. Acesta este motivul pentru stimularea artificiala a creierului tau!

    Ok aici este o scurtă poveste care mi sa întâmplat și mi-am dat seama într-un alt mod cât de cronică a fost folosirea cronică a porno-ului pentru creierul meu:

    Am fost în vacanță cu prietena mea și încă sufeream parțial de PIED și încă dependent de pornografie. Am fost pe puntea unei nave și purta niște pantaloni scurți care îi dezvăluiau cele mai multe picioare. M-am hotărât să fac niște fotografii ale mării și ale ei. Când mi-am arătat telefonul spre ea pentru a face o fotografie cu ea, am văzut-o pe ecran. VIZIUNEA LUI ȘI A PĂRȚILOR ALE CĂRȚII DIN MEA SCREEN SUDDENLY SUNT SĂ MUNTEȘTE ÎN MĂRIME ȘI SĂ VĂ RĂSPUNS SEXUALUL MEA, CÂND VIZUALEA ACTUALĂ A AJUTORULUI A FOST TOTAL INDIFFERENTĂ LA ME ÎN TIMPUL SĂNĂTOSULUI!

    I guess my brain has learned to connect sexual desire and excitement with the view of a screen more than with the view of an actual woman…

    Ce trist.

    Don’t become like this guys..!

    Acesta este motivul pentru stimularea artificiala a creierului tau! EXPERIENŢĂ

     

  115. I Didn’t Realize How Long I’ve Been Influenced by Porn

    Tocmai am privit recent un videoclip YouTube talking about how Porn “tube sites” really got going around 2006. It made me think about how the first time I was showed porn was around 2008. Even though I didn’t really start seeking it until 2009, I realize how I truly had no idea on what effect it would have on me. I was introduced to it at the “perfect” time, I was just entering my adolescence and had not had any sexual contact with a female yet, although my hormones were just beginning to activate. Even though I still got erections from real life girls like crazy, I think over time my brain just acclimated to the screen and my body stopped reacting to things like scent and touch sometime last year. That’s was when I got really scared about not being able to perform with real woman so I quit cold turkey in August 2015. Still have sex and MO but definitely no porn since.

    The point I’m trying to make is that education is key. If I would have known that repeated masturbation to things that are idealized and extreme would cause me to develop health problems in the future, I believe my younger self would have stopped immediately. There is a massive amount of young kids that are going to grow up with immediate and unlimited access to porn anytime and anywhere. Honestly I think we as a society need to do a better job with educating the young on the potential negative effects of porn in the long term, before there is a mass problem of sexual dysfunction issues.

    I think this will be a huge relatively new problem, because the previous generation did not peak/grow up with immediately accessible porn the way (my) the new generation has. Their brains were not “altered” in the way that ours is. The problem that many are going to start to have will not be below he belt–it will be linked directly to the brain, such as PIED and anxiety induced ED. These are problems which are not so easily treatable by pills.

    Tl; dr Trebuie să facem o treabă mai bună cu privire la educarea copiilor cu privire la efectele negative ale pornografiei.

    I Didn’t Realize How Long I’ve Been Influenced by Porn

  116. Cucerirea dezastrului.

    Soția mea și cu mine am fost căsătoriți pentru anii 2 luna trecută. Pentru o vreme, am fost în ideea de a fi cuțit. M-am uitat la porno cu drăgălaș de luni de zile și a fost (și încă este) incredibil de excitant pentru mine. Am vorbit cu mai multe persoane online despre asta. Am terminat curajul să-i cer soției să o facă înainte de aniversarea noastră. Ea a fost reticentă, deoarece ea a crezut că se va termina rău, dar am continuat să împingă pentru că știam că mi-a plăcut și în cele din urmă ea a fost de acord.

    We found a few guys online, and after finding the right one we went through with it last week. He was a very attractive guy – 6′ tall, muscular, big dick – everything every guy wishes they had. When he came over I opened the door and we talked for a little while and then I introduced my wife. We went to the bedroom and I sat on the couch while he started to kiss her neck and undress her. He pushed her onto the bed, took off her panties and started eating her out. They were both loving it and so was I. Then he took his pants off and got on top of her and after kissing her for a little while he pinned her hands over her head and penetrated her; she moaned deeply. It was at this moment that my stomach dropped; hot to cold in a millisecond. I very quickly realized that when I was watching cuckold porn, I wasn’t getting off on being the cuck, I was getting off on being the bull. I felt sick, but I didn’t know what to do; they were already fucking. I sat there, saying nothing. Luckily, after a few minutes, he finished. After it was all done, I rushed him out, told her to get cleaned up and I went to get some Chinese food. I sat in my car crying for 20 minutes until it was ready and then went home and pretended nothing was wrong.

    For the past week I have been doing my best to clench my teeth and try to forget about it, but I can’t. The way she moaned, the way she grabbed him, the way she looked at him. I cannot get it out of my head. Knowing that I actually let another man, let alone a guy who’s much more masculine and attractive than myself, fuck my wife makes me sick to my stomach.. I honestly want to kill myself and it seems like the best solution right now. I genuinely can’t look at myself in the mirror without feeling disgusted. The worst part is that it’s completely my fault. I don’t know what to do. I really într-adevăr need some advice. I’ve never felt this hopeless before.

    - Dezastru.

  117. Cultura noastră se schimbă DRASTIC când vine vorba de pornografie

    It’s amazing how culture changes, and by God did it change DRASTICALLY when it comes to porn.

    Nu cu mult timp în urmă, în unele dintre viețile noastre, pornografia în sine a fost tabu. A fost atribuită fiecărui porecla negativ din carte, la fel și cei care l-au consumat.

    That, however, pretty much did a complete 180. Now, the thing that’s taboo, mai ales amongst young people around my age (19), is pointing out the harms of porn. Saying disparaging things about porn, saying that porn ought not to be watched, sets off explosive reactions in people. Even mentioning that you’re going porn-free will have people getting defensive.

    Why is this the case, and why now? The answer is simple – (nearly) everyone our age consumes it. With the advent of the internet, people have access to such a huge, insurmountable stockpile of porn, and unless you have a porn blocker, porn is at most 5 clicks away at in orice moment. Cuplați acest lucru cu faptul că suntem în mod constant înconjurați de calculatoare, telefoane, ce-ai-tu, porno fără sfârșit este de 15 secunde departe de tine pentru întreaga viață.

    It’s an epidemic – pretty much everyone does it. Cognitive Dissonance is the stress one experiences when they have a belief that contradicts their action – Cognitive Dissonance Theory suggests that the easiest way to resolve this contradiction and hence what people end up doing is to change their beliefs. When someone is addicted to porn, they will more than likely change their beliefs about it. They will insist to themselves and society that it’s ok, but this conviction is ONLY there because of the action that they can’t quit.

    This is why people get explosive when you question porn. They take it as an attack on themselves – “How dare you question my vices!”. When you attack porn you expose the flimsy conviction they arrived at from worshipping their desires. That gets them uber defensive. To concede that porn is bad would mean that they’re back to experiencing cognitive dissonance – this is SO MANY addicts of all vices insist that what they’re doing is not bad.

    Aveți reacții explozive atunci când atacați alcoolul în fața unui alcoolic sau țigări în fața unui fumător sau, mai recent, a unei dependențe de joc video în fața unui jucător. Acest lucru, desigur, este ceea ce vedem cu porno. Încercați să atacați pornografia pe reddit (altul decât subsul ca acest ofc), și veți fi impus în jos în iad.

    When this climate of “porn is normal” arises, people will genuinely be convinced because of the zeitgeist that it’s ok. Everyone else is doing it, everyone’s saying it’s normal, so no harm, right? That’s when people get an addiction that they feel no need quit, until they start seeing the catastrophe of it for themselves.

    Tabu împotriva pornirii porno-gratuit; De ce oamenii sunt atât de supărați atunci când vorbești despre relele de pornografie și despre epidemia pe care o cauzează asta

     

  118. În cele din urmă mi-am pierdut virginitatea și, în timpul ei, mi-am imaginat porno

    Am început să mă duc la 15.

    Am inceput sa ma uit la porno la 16.

    De atunci, în ultimii 7 ani, l-am urmărit și mi-am tras-o mai mult sau mai puțin consecvent.

    Acum câțiva ani am încercat / R / nofap destul de obsesiv, apoi am găsit / R / pornfree și am realizat că aceasta era problema cea mai importantă; după aceea, am devenit foarte anti-pornografic, în timp ce încă nu reușeam să-mi scuture de obicei - în ciuda unei întinderi curate de 6 luni, întotdeauna, inevitabil, am ajuns să revin.

    De mult timp, până acum, în viața mea adultă, am identificat-o ca fiind / R / foreveraloneși aproape un / r / incel, deși nu în acele extreme. O combinație de anxietate socială, depresie și probleme severe de autoimagină și stima de sine au culminat în faptul că sunt unul singur, cu frică, de nepăsare, resentimentar, invidios și, uneori, auto-vătămător.

    Asta a fost viața mea, aceasta a fost identitatea mea și asta aș fi până în ziua în care am murit, probabil în următorii cinci ani, când voi fi în cele din urmă curajul să mă omor cu tragerea rapidă a unui declanșator, în loc de procesul lent de băut și de auto-sabotare și refuzul de a avea grijă de mine.

    Apoi acum trei luni, din nicăieri, această fată a apărut în viața mea care a schimbat totul.

    Acum sunt în terapie de două ori pe săptămână, învăț să mă iubesc și să mă accept, am o viață socială și sunt destul de sigură că sunt îndrăgostită de această femeie. Este cu 12 ani mai în vârstă decât mine, dar nu pare a fi. Se comportă mai tânără, pare mai tânără. Și mi-a spus că arăt și că acționez mai în vârstă decât majoritatea băieților de vârsta mea. Am devenit prieteni instantaneu și destul de repede am devenit parteneri cu o legătură emoțională foarte profundă. Amândoi am trecut prin niște rahaturi și am învățat amândoi să ne descurcăm în moduri diferite. Mi-a arătat că am făcut viața greșit și că trăirea POATE fi o experiență profundă plină de emoție, mirare, confuzie, bucurie și durere și suferință ocazionale, dar inevitabile. Nu mai vreau să mor. Vreau să trăiesc și vreau să experimentez viața cu ea.

    Dar acea identitate veche pe care mi-am construit-o de-a lungul anilor ... nu a dispărut. Este încă acolo și mă mănâncă. Nu trebuie să vă explic cum a pornit porno-ul pe creier, după ce am fost lipsit de intimitate și contact fizic în primii 23 de ani din viața mea, pentru că știți cu toții cum funcționează. Știam, în adâncul sufletului, că se încurcă cu percepția mea, o distorsionează și o răsucește în jur în forme de nerecunoscut, dar a fost nevoie in cele din urma pierzându-mi virginitatea, acelei persoane în care îmi pasă foarte adânc și sunt atrasă nu numai din punct de vedere fizic, ci și din punct de vedere emoțional, pentru a înțelege cât de gravă este conștiința mea prin anii de pornografie pe internet.

    My biggest worry about losing the v-card was that I’d finish too quickly. The opposite was true. I couldn’t finish, at all. I had to do it myself. She was totally cool with it, and understood, because she knew going solo was what I was used to, but she doesn’t know how deep it goes. I’m attracted to her normally, when she’s dressed, but once the clothes come off, something changes in my head. Suddenly I just realize she’s not any of those thousands of girls in porn with impossibly perfect bodies, she’s a real person. And I love her. I love her personality, I love her smile, and I love her soul. She cares so deeply about me and is always saying how in love with me she is, and I am too, except for the physical attraction part. I literally could not stay aroused during sex. I stayed hard without much trouble, but I just wasn’t into it. I didn’t feel anything. Not during intercourse, not during handjobs, not during oral, but during and ONLY during masturbation. It had to be ME, and MY hand, and what’s worse, MY imagination doing all the work. No matter what she did or said, no matter how much I looked at her and tried to reason with myself, I couldn’t feel anything. I was just going through the motions, with no feeling.

    Am ajuns să termin, de două ori, și ambele ori au fost de auto-stimulare, și de ambele ori nu am fost cu ea mental, am fost în altă parte, trecând între filele deschise din amintiri marcate, imagini și secvențe și sunete dintr-un mod terifiant. o bază de date mare de pixeli arși în creierul meu. Așa am coborât. A trebuit să mă uit la porno în capul meu.

    Asta e futut.

    There’s this amazing woman who means more to me than anyone or anything else in this world, who saved my life by becoming a part of it, who I love on a profound, almost cosmic level, that’s how powerful it is. She’s my best friend and I love her and I miss her every second I’m not with her. But there’s this unsettlingly dominant part of my head that would rather fuck 100 other girls over her, girls younger and more attractive, girls who don’t care about me, girls I don’t care about. Maybe it’s because I haven’t gotten the chance yet to be with anyone else, or to experience any of that, but I crave it. That’s the one thing that makes me uncertain about being with her, to dedicating myself to her and only her. I still feel like a horny teenager with raging hormones who salivates over every hot female he sees, and wants to do all this stuff to them, kinky and sometimes degrading stuff based on what I’ve seen–seen, not felt–in years and years of watching porn. It’s all visual. All these things that turn me on and get me going, these specific interests and triggers that get me hard and get me off, they’re all visual stimuli. There’s no feeling involved, no touch, no smell, no taste, no emotion. Just visuals and sounds, but mostly visuals. And that’s how my brain has wired itself now. It’s not at all how I imagined it, when I’m actually in the moment, experiencing it for real, there’s no pleasure, there’s no arousal, no excitement, just…emptiness, emptiness where there should be something special. I feel disconnected and ashamed with myself now that I’m finally using my body to get what I’ve wanted for years, and the only way I can satisfy my desires, like I have been for the past 8 years, to do it to myself. And when I’m away from her and I start wanting it, I know where to go. All I have to do is open my laptop, the one lover who’s always been there for me.

    Chiar și atunci când nu există ecran în fața mea, imaginile sunt încă acolo. Îi pot convoca și le pot convoca după bunul plac și le pot folosi ca să mă fac spermă, în timp ce o privesc pe prietena mea în ochi, în timp ce ea este cu mine în acel moment și sunt plecată într-un dormitor sau bucătărie de hotel baie cu o altă femeie pe care nu o voi întâlni niciodată. Mie mi se face rău. Se pare că înșeală. M-am uitat la porno cu doar 30 de minute în urmă și mi-am smuls și am fost orgasm și mi s-a părut uimitor, golit și emoționant emoțional, așa cum se întâmplă întotdeauna, iar prietena mea este în afara orașului pentru următoarele câteva zile, și îmi jur că, I-am fost infidel. O iubesc din tot sufletul, dar creierul meu are ochi doar pentru toți ceilalți. Sunt o ființă umană de rahat.

    În cele din urmă mi-am pierdut virginitatea și în timpul ei m-am uitat la porno în capul meu

  119. Think about it, if you were horny in the 90’s, you’d have to go to the shops and buy a playboy magazine or a VCR tape, or you’d just jack of to models in catalogues.

    But now, with the advent of the internet, you can view literally 1000’s of different naked girls and 100’s of sex acts across 100’s of genres in a single session. EXTREMELY EASILY AND PRIVATELY

    În viața mea, nu am văzut exagerări milioane de fete goale și zeci de mii de videoclipuri sexuale.

    I am ashamed of myself for this perverted behaviour. I have tricked my brain into thinking I’ve had sex with a million women. And now my brain is telling me “why have sex this real girl, when we can have sex with 100 girls all at the same time on the internet”.

    The reason why porn is pleasurable is because your brain is rewarding you for spreading your genes. You are trying to impregnate a bunch of pixels. Your brain can’t tell the difference between real women and pixels on a screen, because we didn’t evolve as apes with the internet.

    Porno în ultimii ani a devenit mult, mult mai puternic, invaziv și dependent.

  120. I have been having a decent run porn free by having sex and not trying to count days. Right now i was thinking how it would be enjoyable to go watch some. I know its just a pleasure so to have some self control is helping. I have started this porn reduction about 8 months ago. Within that time and with sexual partners im learning to appreciate the body and feelings. I can be selfish sometimes and try to be like a pornstar, fucking hard and what not but i see most girls don’t like that. Its nice being able to be intimate and not all self conscious about how am i performing? Is my dick big enough? Does she like kinky stuff? Stuff im only concerned about because of porn. Funny really. I’m writing this mainly for me to look back on. More of journal entry really.

    https://www.reddit.com/r/pornfree/comments/9oabha/sex_helps/

  121. O lungă citire, dar vă încurajez să vă dați ceva timp să citiți despre ceea ce face porno-ul CREȘTERII TALE.

    Cea mai mică vârstă medie pe care porno-ul este vizionată este de 10 ani. Imaginați-vă că sunteți virgina și învățați totul despre sex din pornografie, creând fanteziile false despre cum va fi. Porcul este un profesor puternic și provoacă o schimbare mentală care face consumatorii mai mult să accepte și mai dispuși să încerce ce acțiuni extreme le văd. Iată câteva modalități 6 pe care pornografia le schimbă modul în care vă gândiți la sex.

    1. Sexul are doar un orgasm.

    Nu este adevărat, sexul se referă la relații, precum și la bunăstarea fizică, mentală și socială. Oamenii sunt conectați prin cablu. Nu doar o conexiune. Legătura cu alte persoane. Și natura noastră sexuală face parte din asta. Creierele noastre sunt programate pentru a obține cea mai mare satisfacție din relaționarea pe care comunicarea, relațiile și dragostea le oferă. Porcul lasă consumatorii singuri și nemulțumiți, dar dragostea îi poate ajuta să prospere. Nu vă mulțumiți pentru sexul digital sintetic.

    1. Atracția se referă la aspectul fizic, și asta este.

    Cât de superficial și rău ar fi dacă cineva ar vrea doar să fie cu tine, pentru că ei credeau că arăți bine și că așa a fost? Există o mulțime de calități diferite pe care oamenii le pot căuta într-un partener, inclusiv dacă sunt prietenoși, cinstiți, amabili, înțelegători, sociali etc. Porno le învață pe consumatori că corpurile altor persoane sunt mai importante decât gândurile, sentimentele, emoțiile și credințe. Dragostea și adevărata atracție spun altfel.

    1. Comportamentele nu au consecințe.

    Gândiți-vă în acest fel: de ce cele mai populare genuri de porno sunt unele dintre cele mai deranjante acte din viața reală? Este ușor de văzut când te gândești la asta în termenii a ceea ce s-ar întâmpla în continuare dacă ai fi făcut asta cuiva care ți-a păsat cu adevărat sau cum i-ar face să se simtă. Porcul nu arată că oamenii sunt urmăriți penală pentru crime grave cum ar fi violul, asaltul sexual sau rănile fizice cu care trăiesc porneii din cauza a ceea ce fac pe set.

    1. Fiecare experiență sexuală este absolut satisfăcătoare. Sexul în viața reală nu este întotdeauna perfect și perfect pentru cei implicați. Și asta e bine, atâta timp cât există consimțământul total, comunicarea și intimitatea implicate. Multe experiențe sexuale se simt bine, dar există și multe modalități de rănire a partenerului fizic sau emoțional.
    2. Oamenii pot fi înlocuiți, disponibili și consumabili.

    Porno nu este despre umanitatea oamenilor pe ecran, ci despre performanța lor exagerată. Dragostea înseamnă a avea un partener care să aibă grijă de tine ca și tine, ca o parte neînlocuibilă și unică a vieții, personalitatea și trăsăturile tale sunt ceea ce ei iubesc. Porno nu arată niciunul din acestea. Îndepărtează umanitatea de la oameni și le prezintă ca obiecte care trebuie folosite.

    1. "Nu" se poate transforma în "da"

    Numai în lumea porno este lipsa de consimțământ considerată "sexy". Porno vinde ideea că abuzul poate fi sexy, iar consimțământul este doar opțional într-o întâlnire sexuală. Porno-ul de astăzi vinde ideea că plăcerea ta este mai importantă decât durerea și abuzul oricui altcineva.

    Acestea sunt doar câteva din motivele pe care pornea este superficială, nerealistă, nesănătoasă și vă schimbă punctul de vedere al sexului. Dacă vă interesează ce se întâmplă cu creierul dvs. și felul în care vă tratați partenerul, veți tăia pornografia și vă veți conecta din nou la normal. CUT PORNUL ȘI MASURAREA PENTRU BINE.

    6 a stârnit idei despre sexul pe care pornește normalizarea

  122. Nu faceți nici o greșeală că pornografia sa agravat de-a lungul timpului

    A doua zi am dat peste o portie de porumbei 80s pornind de pe un site torrent de film general (mult spre surprinderea mea)

    Am descarcat-o si am inceput sa ma uit la ea pentru a intelege ca nu numai ca a existat un complot real (admirabil subtire), dar si ca in acea zi un mucegai senzual si sub o masa era considerat destul de fierbinte.

    Then yesterday I came across (ok fine I admit I was half-assedly looking for it) a clip from current porn, it was a “blowjob”… not only there was not plot, it was straight in your face (pun intended) stuff. Any sense of sensuality and context was gone…

    Now you have guys (and girls, remember the girl with the colostomy bag because she wanted to reenact an anal gangbang?) are copying recent porn as “sex education”…

    Ca un vechi de 39, îți pot spune că viața sexuală reală a fost până acum mai aproape de evenimentele din pornografia 80 decât în ​​porno-ul modern.
    Porno în zilele noastre este o valoare curată a șocului; este ca un blockbusters de la Hollywood, toate bang, nici o substanță.

    Ceva de ținut minte.

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