NoFappers vanoti uropi hwavo hwave hwakarwiswa nehupenzi, pamusana pehukama hwechokwadi.
Zvinowanzotaurwa izvozvo Zvinonyadzisira zvinobatsira kutengesa teknolojia. Apo maPortura Super 8 akabuda, zvinonyadzisira zvinoputika zviri pakati pekutanga kuratidzwa. VHS yakakwanisa kugadzirisa kunze kwekukwikwidza kwenheyo dzakadai seBetamax zvikuru nekuti yakabvumidza kubvumidza zvifananidzo zvinonyadzisira. Uye maDVD akaita kuti zvive nyore kumhanyira kune zvikamu zvakashata zvemafirimu edu aidiwa.
Zvinhu zviri kuenderera mberi nenzira iyoyo. Iye zvino tinokwanisa kutumira tsvina zvifananidzo izvo zvinoparadza mu 10 seconds kana zvishoma. Kutarisa vanhu vakazvinyima pa webcam yakachinja mabhiriyoni-dollar indasitiri. Uye kinky kuratidzwa kweanamato uye kaviri, kubata uye kubhururuka kaviri kunongobva kuvharidza kure. Zvinoshamisa kuti zvinhu zvakadini vese vanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira vane mavoti avo.
Zvechokwadi, kutsvakurudza kupinda mune zvinonyadzisira zvekare zveIndaneti. Zvimwe zvevaravara zvinogona kuwanikwa mumabasa eMarquis de Sade. Saka chii chinoshanduka apo mamiriro ezvinhu aya achikwira kubva peji kusvika kune skrini?
Vamwe vangave vanoziva nevephemism itsva kune zvinonyadzisira-kubatsiridzira kuita bonyora: Fapping. Izwi kutanga kuonekwa kwakapoteredza 1999, apo yakashandiswa mu web comic yakadanwa Sexy Losers. Kwemakore gumi gare gare, izwi racho rakapararira mune a Reddit shinda uko vashandisi vakakurukura kubatsira kwekudzivisa zvinonyadzisira uye kurega kuita bonyora. Kubva ipapo, "Fap" yakava "NoFap" uye sangano rakazvarwa. Nharaunda yaro ikozvino inosvika kusvika mamiriyoni imwechete kunyanya nhengo dzevarume.
Maererano nebato racho pamutemo Website, "HapanaFap inosangana nematambudziko umo vatori vechikamu vanoita zvekuona zvinonyadzisira kana kuita bonhora kwenguva yakati." Inobatsira kune avo vanofunga kuti vakapindira mune zvepabonde zvakakonzera zvinetso zvakakomba muupenyu hwavo hwega.
Rimwe remazita anonyanya kutaurwa pane faira yaNoFap ndiGary Wilson, mutungamiri mukurwisana kwepabonde. Akaongorora dambudziko rekusvuta kwepabonde muTed Talk yake, "The Great Porn Experiment. "Anomhanyirawo nzvimbo yacho yourbrainonporn.com uye munguva pfupi yakanyorera a Kindle e-book yakanyorwa Uropi Hwako Pamusoro Petsvina: Indaneti Inonyadzisira uye Inoshandiswa Sayenzi Yezvakaipa.
Nharo yaWilson yakanyanya kuderera, asi ivai nemoyo mangu: anotsigira kuti tsvimbo yedu-hunounger brains haazive nzira yekugadzirisa kuwandisa kwezvinhu zvinonyadzisira zviripo paIndaneti nhasi. Anobatanidza pfungwa yezvitsva nechisarudzo chepabonde. Munyika yechisikigo, anotsanangura, yese yevakadzi inoshanda sechinhu chinogona kuva chibereko. Saka kana munhu akaisa meso ake pane mukadzi, uropi hwake hunomuudza kuti amuwane, amutevere uye ave nemimba. Uropi hunobudisa kuwedzera kwe dopamine kubatsira kubatsira chinangwa ichocho.
Maitiro matsva anozviratidza online ari kuburikidza nekukenya. Wilson anoti zvinonyadzisira zvinokanganisa uropi hwechirume kuti vafunge kuti "varova jackpot yekushanduka-shanduka." Kubaya kwese kunovaunza kumusikana mutsva, uye nekudaro "mukana" mutsva. Inyika isina muganho. Saka varume vanoramba vachitsvaga. Munguva pfupi, uropi hwavo hunobva hwanyatso kushushikana kune zvakajairika zvekusangana pabonde ivo vanoda zvimwe zvinokatyamadza uye zvinyorwa zvemanyowani kuti vachengetedze zvakajairika bonde kutyaira.
Wilson anoti rudzi urwu rwe "rewired circuitry" rwakafanana nezvakawanikwa mune vamwe vakarovedzwa sevanodhaka zvinodhaka kana doro. "Nguva dzose ruzivo pakunokonzera kunogona kukonzera kusvuta," anodaro. Nenzira yakanaka, anoti, zvinogona kugadzirisa pachavo, chero bedzi avo vanobatanidzwa vanobvumirana kusiya zvakanyanya kufanirwa kwezvinhu zvose zvakaipa: zvinonyadzisira.
Avo vari munharaunda yeNoFap - avo dzimwe nguva vanozvidaidza kuti "fapstronauts" - vanopokana kuti kurega kuona zvinonyadzisira nekuita bonhora zvinoita kuti huropi "hutangezve" uye hudzokere mukuita kwese kushanda. Vanoti kana murume akamira kuita izvo zviitiko, iye anowana mubairo nekuwedzera kuvimba, kuisa pfungwa uye libido, uyezve anogona kudzidza hunyanzvi hunodiwa kuti urambe uine hukama, hukama hwakanaka.
Mumwe wevakanyanya kutaurirana pamusoro pehupfumi munharaunda yeNoFap, asingatauriki, ane hutano hwakabatana. Vazhinji vaimbova fappers vanoti kudhakwa kwavo kwakavadzivirira kuti vasagadziriswa mukati memunhu; kuoma zvakaoma kubva pakuswedera kwavo kune zvinonyadzisira. Vanodana izvi "zvinonyadzisira zvinokonzera erectile kudzvinyirira," kana kuti PIED. User ObjectionYourHonor akanyora, "Kusakwanisa kuita bonde kubva pakukura zvakanyanya mumakore angu madiki kusvika zvino (ini ndiri 23) kwakonzera kuti ndikundikane nehukama hwakakura sezvo ini ndaisakwanisa kudhira mukati panguva yehukama. Ndainzwa kunge shit uyezve fap, iyo yakazoita kuti ndirware. Ndakafunga kutora kutonga uye kuona hukama hunotevera hwandiri, ndinogona kuzvipa zvizere kumukadzi iyeye. Ndichiri mudiki zvekutoda Viagra. ”
Nharo yacho inonzwisisika. A plus B nyika iwe C, iyo inoshandura kugadzikana kwepabonde. Asi, sevamwe vafudzi vanozobvuma, pane zvipembenene mune sayenzi. Uye vamwe havadi kukanganwa izvozvi.
Dr. David LeyMuvambi The Myth Of Sex Addiction, anonditaurira, "Kukurudzira zvepabonde kunoshandisa maitiro ehupo hwehuropi, asi zvinopesana nezvinonyadzisira zvinoenderana nemafungiro ezvinyorwa zvishoma uye zvisinganzwisisiki ekushanda kwehuropi, kuti zvepabonde zvinoshanda sei, uye ndezvipi zvinonyadzisira, zvakadai sevhidhiyo nemifananidzo, kunyorwa kunopesana nefirimu, hardcore versus softcore, nezvimwe. Pane zvakawanda zvatisingazivi pamusoro pezvinhu izvi uye zvakawanda zvakajeka zvitsanangudzo, kuti vanhu vose ava vari kukakavara kure, kure mberi kwedata. Nemhaka yokuti vari kupinda mukukakavara nemafungiro emitemo, ivo vari pasi pekutarisira, uye vanoona zvavari kuda kuona, mukutsvakurudza izvo, kana, zvakanakisisa, zvisinganzwisisiki. "
Anonyevera kuti, "Dambudziko rakaipa, kusaziva ruzivo uye kuwedzera kwehutsika tsika ndiko kwakatungamirira kune vanhu vakaita sa [John] Kellogg vachikakavadzana nezvekuvhiya zvakadai sezvibvumirano, uye kushandiswa kwepanyama, kudzivirira bonhora. Aya maitiro akafanana akaita kuti ungochani huve chirwere, uye vakadzi vepabonde vanonzi nymphomaniacs. "
Zvakachengeteka kutaura kuti kukanganisa kwevanhu kunowedzera zvakanaka kupfuura zvinonyadzisira. Izvozvo hazvirevi kuti zvinonyadzisira hazvipi zvinetso zvaro. Zviratidzo zvevakadzi zvinosiya zvakawanda zvingadikanwa, uye avo vanopikisa dhizimusi pamusoro pemasimba echikadzi havasi pasina chikonzero. Mune zvimwe zviitiko zvakanyanyisa, vanhu vakabatanidza zvikwata zvebhizimisi kusvika kubata zvepabonde uye kunyange uranda hwehupombwe. Asi hurukuro idzi dzinowanzotora chikamu chekudzokera kumamiriro ehutano-ehurume se erectile kusagadzikana paNoFapping platforms. Nharaunda yacho inowanzoronga "dambudziko rehupenzi" semunhu anorondedzera hutano hwevanhu. Ndeipi shoko iro rinotumira, saka, apo nyaya dzehupfumi dzine chokuita nevakadzi dzinouya yechipiri kumunhu kukwanisa kugadziriswa?
Ichokwadi zvakare kuti mapoka akawanda eNoFap anoshandiswa pamagariro. Sangano reChechi yeChishanu yakatanga kutora maBhaibheri pazvioni zvinoratidzira zvakare mu 2006. Chinangwa chavo ndechekubuda kunze Bhaibheri re100,000 paSexpos pasirese. Vanoti vakapa maBhaibheri zviuru makumi manomwe nezvishanu kusvika pari zvino. Iyo webhusaiti Dhiyabhorosi Migumisiro anoparidza, "Mukurwisana kwako nekusvibisa, kunyengetera nekutsanya zviri zvombo zvine simba."
Sangano rinoitawo kuti vanhu vakwanise kuita se "nyanzvi." Makumi maviri-chimwe chinhu NoFap anofarira Gabe Deem akagadzira iyo YouTube chiteshi Reboot Nation kugovera nhau yake yezvinotapira zvinodhaka. Mune imwe sarudzo yakagadziriswa Video, Inofamba inotarisa vataridzi kuburikidza ne "uropi nesayenzi yekuti zvinonyadzisira zvichititadzisa sei." Kuziva kwangu, Dheuteronomio hairegi zvidzidzo mune sayenzi yezvokurapa.
Izvi hazvirevi kuderedza zvinetso zvakapoteredza zvinonyadzisira. Muongorori weCanada Simon Lajeunesse akawana kuti vakomana vakawanda vanotsvaka zvinonyadzisira nezera re 10. Uye vazhinji vanonetseka nezve kubatana pakati pekutanga kunwa zvinonyadzisira uye hunhu hwepabonde. Asi zvakakosha kuti uve nedhigirii rekushushikana nezve vanhu vanogona kuyedza kushandisa pane izvi zvinonetsa
Covenant Eyes inokurudzira vashandisi "kuita sarudzo dzakangwara maererano nekushandisa kweInternet" nekunyora ese mawebhusaiti akashanyirwa, mazwi ekutsvaga anoshandiswa uye ese mavhidhiyo akatariswa muInternet Accountability Report. Iyo kambani inotarisira kudzora "muyedzo wekubaya pane zvisina kukodzera uye zvinongedzo zvekuona zvinonyadzisira." Chris Haven, uyo akatanga webhusaiti Rega Porn Wana Vanasikana, achangobva kunyora bhuku Nzira Yokupihwa PaTinder. Jay Anthony ndiye munyori we Zvinonyadzisira Kupindwa muropa: Kuparadza Tsika uye Kuputsa Iyo Cycle, inowanika kuAmazon.
Vaya vari munharaunda yeNoFap vanozopa zano kuti hapana chinhu chakadai sekuona zvinonyadzisira, kuti zvese zvinonyadzisira zvinoshandiswa zvinokuvadza, uye kuti nzanga inofanirwa kushandira kubvisa zvido zve porn. Vanhu vazhinji vanobvuma kuti kusangana chaiko-kwehupenyu kwakasarudzika pane fungidziro dzepachikwereti, asi zvakanyanyoipa here kuti vanhu vafarire zvekupedzisira? Uye kusvika papi tsananguro yekuona zvinonyadzisira inotitadzisa kuita bonde? Zvepabonde pabonde pakati pevane murume nemukadzi vakaroorana, semuenzaniso, zvave zvichiitwa nguva refu kusati kwatanga kweInternet. Saka nei kuitarisa kuri taboo? Vamwe vanonongedzera kune indasitiri ye porno inowedzera kuratidzwa kwechisimba uye inoshoresa vakadzi. Iyo yakakakavadzana nharo, uye imwe inoratidzika zvisingawanzoitika pane iyo NoFap tambo, uko nyaya senge kudzora erections uye kuiswa kuiswa zvinoita sekuwana zvakanyanya kutarisisa.
Sangano Kurwisa Mishonga Mitsva inoshanda pasi pechirevo chokuti "Zvinonyadzisa zvinoparadza rudo." Mumwe wevadzidzisi vekubatanidza akatsanangura kuti vanhu vazhinji vanoziva kusvuta fodya ndezvakaipa kwavari kunyange vasati vavhenekera. Anotarisira kuti rimwe zuva vanhu vachaona zvinonyadzisira nenzira yakafanana.
Zvinonyadzisira zvinokonzera kushungurudza ndeyenyaya yakaoma. Tsvakurudzo yakawanda inoda kuitwa tisati tauya kune chero mhedziso. Asi izvo zvatinogona kubvuma ndezvokuti kusvuta kwepabonde kunowanikwa pane zvinonyadzisira anogona iripo. Zvichida tinofanira kutora nguva kuti tifunge mamiriro ezvinhu anotibvumira kuti tive nekutanga.
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