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Chechi yeNowa iCNN-year-old-time-time firefighter muPortland, Ore. Paakanga ari 26, akawana zvifananidzo zvisina kuwanikwa paInternet. Akadzidza kutora mavhidhiyo akajeka. Apo paakanga ari 9, kubudiswa mavhidhiyo akasvika, uye akatarisa avo. Kazhinji. Nenguva dzakawanda pazuva, kuita izvo izvo vanhu vanowanzoita pavanotarisa rudzi urwo pachavo.
Pashure penguva yakati, anoti, mavhidhiyo aya haana kumumutsa zvakanyanya, saka akaenderera kune dzimwe nzira dzakasiyana, dzimwe nguva dzinosanganisira vakadzi chete, dzimwe nguva mukadzi mumwechete uye varume vanoverengeka, dzimwe nguva kunyange mukadzi asingadi. "Ndaigona kuwana chero chandaifunga uye zvinhu zvakawanda zvandisingagoni kufunga," anodaro. Mushure mekutsvaga kweavo vakaderera, akaenderera mberi kusvika kune imwe nhanho, yakanyanyisa, kazhinji ane chisimba.
Mumakore ake akare epachikoro chesekondari, akava nemukana wekuita zvepabonde chaiwo, pamwe nemumwe wake chaiye. Akanga akakwezva kwaari uye iye kwaari, sekuratidzwa kwekuti akanga asina kupfeka muimba yake yekurara pamberi pake. Asi muviri wake wakanga usingaratidzi usina kufarira. "Pakanga pane kukanganiswa pakati pezvandaida mupfungwa dzangu uye kuti muviri wangu wakaita sei," anodaro. Akanga asingakwanisi kuwana magetsi anodiwa achienda.
Akaiisa pasi kune yekutanga-nguva tsinga, asi makore matanhatu akapfuura, uye zvisinei kuti aive mukadzi upi, muviri wake waive usisina kubatana. Yakapindura chete pakuona zvinonyadzisira. Chechi yakasvika pakutenda kuti kuyaruka kweInternet kuyaruka kwake kwakakonzeresa matambudziko ake uye kuti aive izvo zvinonzi nevamwe zvinonyadzisa-zvinokonzeresa kusagadzikana (PIED).
Nhamba inokura yevarume vechidiki inogutsikana kuti mhinduro dzavo dzepabonde dzakaparadzwa nekuti ubongo hwavo hwaive hwakanyungudutswa mune zvinonyadzisira pavaive vachiri kuyaruka. Chizvarwa chavo chakadya zvirimo zvakajeka muhuwandu nemhando dzakasiyana zvisati zvamboitika, pamidziyo yakagadzirirwa kuburitsa zvirimo nekukurumidza uye zvakavanzika, zvese pazera iro uropi hwavo hwaive hwakanyanya mapurasitiki - hunowanzo shanduka zvachose - kupfuura muhupenyu hwekupedzisira. Aya majaya madiki anonzwa kunge asingazive Guinea yenguruve mune yakanyanya kusatariswa gumi-refu kuyedza muhutano hwepabonde. Mhedzisiro yekuyedza, ivo vanodaro, ndeyechokwadi pasi.
Saka ivo vari kutanga kusundira kumashure, vachigadzira epamhepo mapoka emapoka, smartphone maapplication uye mavhidhiyo edzidzo kubatsira varume kurega porn. Vakatanga mablog uye mapodcast uye vanotora ese magaigs ekutaura kuruzhinji avanogona kuwana. Zvinonyadzisira zvagara zvichitarisana nekushoropodzwa pakati pevakatendeka nevakadzi. Asi ikozvino, kekutanga, mamwe maalarm ane strident ari kuuya kubva kuhuwandu hwevanhu sevatengi vanofarira.
Ehezve kune zvakawanda zvakakura kunetsekana nezve zvinoitika zvehupombwe munharaunda zvinopfuura zvinokwanisika zvekusagadzikana pabonde, kusanganisira nenyaya yekuti inowanzo kupemberera kudzikisira kwevakadzi uye kugadzirisa hutsinye hwepabonde. Muna Kukadzi, nyaya idzi dzakatungamira hurumende yeBritish Prime Minister David Cameron, iyo yakanga yambokumbira vashandi vepaInternet kusefa zvinyorwa zvevanhu vakuru kunze kwekunge mushandisi apinda, kutanga nzira yekuda nzvimbo dze porn kuti vaone zera revashandisi vavo kana kusangana nefaindi. Nguva pfupi yapfuura, iyo paramende yeUtah yakabvumirana mukubata kurapa zvinonyadzisira sedambudziko reruzhinji. Uye kumanikidza kutsvagurudza kutsva pane zvinoonekwa zvinoonekwa kuri kupa rutsigiro kumafungiro evarume vechidiki, zvichiratidza kusanganiswa kwekuwana komputa, kunakidzwa pabonde uye nzira dzehuropi dzekudzidza dzingaite zvinonyadzisira zvepainternet zvine tsika yekuumba, pamwe nemhedzisiro yepfungwa.
Kuna Gabe Deem, 28, porn yaive yakawanda chikamu chekuyaruka sebasa rechikoro kana acne. "Zvaive zvakajairika uye zvaive kwese kwese," anodaro. Akakurira panguva iyo yaimboonekwa se X-yakarongwa yaive ichinyanya kuitika, uye iye neshamwari dzake vaigara vachiona mavhidhiyo akajeka nguva dzose, anodaro, kunyangwe panguva yekirasi, pama laptops avo akaburitswa kuchikoro. "Chakanga chisiri chimwe chinhu chatainyara nacho." Deem, anogara kuIrving, Texas, ndiye muvambi weReboot Nation, foramu uye yepamhepo vhidhiyo chiteshi iyo inopa rairo nerutsigiro kune vechidiki vanotenda kuti vakapindwa muropa nekuona zvinonyadzisira, vane zvinokonzeresa pabonde semhedzisiro uye vanoshuva kurega.
Akatosiyana zvishoma nevazhinji vevanoona zvinonyadzisira, nekuti aiita zvepabonde achiri mudiki uye aipedzera porn chete sedivi dhishi. Asi zvakauya kuzotonga kudya kwake, uye mamwe makore apedza chikoro chesekondari, "Ndakawana nemusikana akanaka uye takaenda pabonde uye muviri wangu wakashaya mhinduro zvachose," anodaro. "Ndakasununguka nekuti ndaive mudiki uye ndakagwinya uye ndainakidzwa nemusikana uyu." Akaenda kuna chiremba wake. "Ndakati, ndinogona kunge ndine yakaderera T," Deem anodaro, achishandisa slang yekushomeka kwe testosterone. "Akaseka."
Zvakawanda zveruzivo rwenyaya yake zvinosimbiswa nemusikana wake panguva iyoyo, uyo angangoda kuramba asingazivikanwe. "Aizoedza kutanga chimwe chinhu, uye ipapo pakati aiti, 'Ndinofunga tinofanira kumirira," anoyeuka. "Ndakanga ndangovhiringidzika chaizvo uye ndaizofunga, Haandifarire here? Chii chiri kuitika?" Zvakatora mwedzi mipfumbamwe mushure mekunge amuudza nezvedambudziko rake kuti akwanise kuita naye.
Kuva nemumwe wako neED haisi iro dambudziko rekutanga vakadzi vazhinji vechidiki vanosangana nehupombwe, uye chikamu chidiki chevakadzi vanotaura vachinzwa kupindwa muropa, zvakadaro havasi ivo vanodzivirirwa nemhedzisiro yekukura mutsika izere nezvirimo izvi. Vasikana vechidiki vari kuramba vachitaura kuti vakomana vari kuvatarisira kuti vazvibate sevanyowani vezvinonyadzisira, zvakakomberedzwa nevhudzi remuviri kana zvido zvepabonde zvavo.
Muna Kubvumbi 2015, Alexander Rhode akasiya basa rakanaka neGoogle kuti akudziridze mazano uye nzvimbo dzekutsigira munharaunda kune avo vari kunetsekana netsika yekuona zvinonyadzisira. Akange atanga iyo NoFap subreddit - runyorwa rwezvinyorwa pane imwe nyaya - pane yakakurumbira webhusaiti Reddit uye webhusaiti webhusaiti inonzi NoFap.com muna 2011, asi ikozvino yave yakazara-nguva yekuyedza. (Zita racho rinobva ku fap, Internet-taura nezve bonhora.) Uyu ane makore makumi maviri nemana anoti kutanga kwake kuona zvinonyadzisira kwaive kushambadzira- aiwa, chaizvo, anopika! - apo aive aine makore gumi nerimwe. mainjiniya esoftware muPennsylvania, uye anga akurudzirwa kutamba nemakomputa sezvo anga aine makore matatu. "Kubvira pakanga paine Indaneti, ndakanga ndisina mukana wekushandisa," anodaro Rhodes. Chirevo ichi chaive chesaiti chairatidza kubatwa chibharo, asi iye anoti aingonzwisisa kuti kune mukadzi asina kupfeka. Nenguva isipi akanga achidhinda zvidhori zvake zvemifananidzo yekutsvaga-zvidhori zve "matumbu evakadzi" kana "mabhuru evasikana vakanaka." Panguva yaakange ari 26, anodaro, aizvifadza pabonde kanomwe pazuva. "Hakusi kuwedzeredza," anoomerera. "Izvo, uye kutamba mitambo yemavhidhiyo, ndizvo chete zvandakaita."
Mumakore ake ekupedzisira, paakawana musikana, zvinhu hazvina kufamba zvakanaka. "Ndakamurwadzisa chaizvo [pamoyo]," anodaro Rhodes. "Ndakafunga kuti zvakajairika kufungidzira nezve porn uchiita bonde nemumwe munhu." Kana akarega kufunga nezve porn kuti atarise pamusikana, muviri wake wakarasikirwa nechido, anodaro. Akasiya zvinonyadzisira kanoverengeka asati azvipupurira zvakanaka mukupera kwegore ra2013.Masaiti ake maviri ane nhengo dzinosvika mazana maviri ezviuru, uye anoti vanowana vangangosvika miriyoni vashandisi pamwedzi.
Varume ava, nezviuru zvevamwe vanozadza mawebhusaiti avo nenyaya dzekusagadzikana pabonde, vese vari pamarwadzo ekujekesa kuti havasi antisex. "Chikonzero chandakarega kutarisa zvinonyadzisira ndechekuita zvepabonde zvakawanda," anodaro Deem. "Kurega zvinonyadzisira ndechimwe chezvinhu zvakanyanya kuita bonde zvinogona kuitwa nevanhu," anodaro Rhodes. Mumwe anotaurisa online, sirrifo, akaisa zviri nyore: "Ndiri kungoda kunakidzwa nebonde zvakare uye ndinzwe kuda kune mumwe munhu."
Ita zvavanotaura pamusoro pezvinonyadzisira-zvinoita kuti ED ive yakakosha here? Nhamba dzemazuva ano dzinoratidza mamwe maitiro. Muna 1992, nezve 5% yevarume vakawana ED pazera remakore 40, maererano neU.S. National Institutes of Health (NIH). Chidzidzo muJuly 2013 Journal of Sexual Medicine chakawana kuti 26% yevarume vakuru vakatsvaga rubatsiro kune ED vakanga vari pasi pe40. Mune chikwata cheC2014 chevasungwa veChina veChnUMX vaduku kupfuura 367, chechitatu cheEED. Uye imwe 40 Swiss kudzidza yakawana mamiriro mukati mechitatu chevarume vaduku: 2012 ku18.
Ehezve, panogona kuve nechero nhamba yezvikonzero zvezviwanikwa izvi. Kubva pakauya Viagra nemimwe mishonga yakafanana, kuziva uye kugamuchirwa kwekusagadzikana kwe erectile kwakakwirira zvakanyanya, uye nekutenda kune ese iwo maTV kushambadzira, kunyadzisa kwakaderera zvakaringana, saka vanhu vazhinji vanogona kunge vachibvuma kwazviri. Chirwere cheshuga, kufutisa, kushungurudzika munharaunda kana kushushikana kunogona kukonzera mamiriro acho, sezvinoita zvinodhaka kana doro. Sezvo izvi zvasimuka pakati pevechidiki, saka zvinogona kunge zviine zviitiko zveED. Asi maurologist havadi kutonga kunze kwekuti zvinonyadzisira zvinogona kunge zvine mhosva. "Ndinofunga zvinogoneka," anodaro Dr. Ajay Nangia, aimbova purezidhendi weSosaiti yeMurume Kubereka uye Urology. "Pane kushomeka kwevarume ava, uye vanongosvika padanho rekusimudzirwa kana bonde rakaita sekunge riri mufirimu."
Kana zvikonzero zve spike muED zviri zvekupokana, iko kusati kwamboitika kuwana zvinonyadzisira kuburikidza nekushambadzira vhidhiyo mumakore gumi apfuura haisi. Kuuya kwemavhidhiyo masaiti ayo, seYouTube (ayo akatanga mu2005), anotendera vashandisi kuisa, kuunganidza uye kuronga mavhidhiyo kwakashandura nzira iyo vanhu vanosangana ne porn. Pane akasiyana siyana akasununguka ezvinyorwa zviri pachena izvo zvinogara zvichikura nekuti chero munhu, kubva kumamateurs kusvika kune nyanzvi, anogona kuisa vhidhiyo online. Imwe kambani yakazvimirira yekutevera padandemutande yakavharira 58 mamirioni emwedzi vashanyi veUS kunzvimbo dzevakuru muna Kukadzi 2006. Makore gumi gare gare nhamba iyi yaive mamirioni 107. Imwe yenzvimbo dzepasirese dzevakuru, Pornhub, yakajeka-vhidhiyo-yekugovana saiti, inoti inowana mamirioni 2.4 vashanyi paawa uye kuti muna2015 chete, vanhu kupote pasi vakatarisa maawa makumi mana nemazana mana nemakumi mana nemakumi mana nemazana masere ezviuru zvemukati wayo, inopetwa kanopfuura kaviri chero Homo sapiens apedza panyika. Zvinonyadzisira zviri kwese kwese, zvakatangisa memes, kusanganisira Mutemo 4,392,486,580, uyo unoti, "Kana iripo, pane zvinonyadzisira zvacho." (Leprechauns? Tarisa. Pterodactyls? Tarisa. Pandas? Tarisa.) Iyo Internet yakafanana neyemaawa makumi maviri nesere-iwe-unogona-kudya buffet yekudyira iyo inoshambadza mhando dzese dzebonde tudyo.
Uye vechidiki vari kuidya. Vanenge makumi mana muzana muzana yevakomana veBritish vane makore gumi nemana kusvika gumi nemanomwe vakati vanogara vachiona, sekureva kweKukadzi 40 kudzidza neUniversity yeBristol. Chyng Sun, purofesa wevadzidzi vezvenhau kuNew York University, anoti vangangoita hafu yevarume ve14 vaakaongorora mune kumwe kuongorora vakambosangana nehupombwe vasati vasvitsa makore gumi nemashanu. , paavhareji, makore gumi nemaviri evarume vechidiki.
Shanduko huru yemagariro inosanganisira hutano hwevechidiki inowanzo kukurudzira kutenderera kwakasimba kwekutarisa kuti zvinyatso kuitika. Asi mune iyi kesi, kwete zvakanyanya. Zvakaoma kunyangwe kuwana mari yekufunda mashandisiro anoita zvinonyadzisira, anodaro Janis Whitlock, aimbove mudzidzisi wezvebonde iye zvino ave muongorori wehutano hwepfungwa kuCornell University. Vashandi veNIH vanonzi vanopa zano kune vaongorori kuti vasashandise izwi rekuti bonde mune avo ekushandisa mari kana zvichibvira. Neuroscientist Simone Kühn, ane chidzidzo chekuona zvinonyadzisira uye chimiro chehuropi chakaburitswa mune anoremekedzwa JAMA Psychiatry, anoti vashandirwi vake paMax Planck Institute havana kufara kuve nehukama nazvo.
Kushaikwa kwekutsvaga kuri kuwedzera kurwa kunorwadza munharaunda yevadzidzi nezve mhedzisiro yekushandisa zvakanyanya porn. Uye hapana yakawanda yakaoma sainzi kusarudza mhedzisiro.
Vana vaduku vanonyadzisira vanoita guru risina mubvunzo guru: Gary Wilson, 59, aimbova purofesa wezvidzidzo zvebiology panguva imwe chete Southern Oregon University uye zvikoro zvakasiyana-siyana zvevashandi uye munyori weBras Your pa Porn: Inonyadzisira paIndaneti uye Emerging Science yeAddiction. Iwe webhusaiti yako, thybrainonporn.com, kana zvakanyanya kuwanda YBOP, inzvimbo yekuchenesa kwemashoko anotsigira kuwirirana pakati pezvinorema zvekuona zvinonyadzisira zvinoshandisa uye kusagadzikana kwepabonde. Vanhu vazhinji vanomuwana kuburikidza nehurukuro yake ye2012 TEDx, iyo inopfuura mamiriyoni e6 maonero.
YBOP inopokana kuti kutarisa zvakawandisa zvinhu zvekuyaruka zvinokanganisa huropi munzira dzakawanda. "Porn inodzidzisa huropi hwako kuda zvese zvine chekuita ne porn kuti umuke," anodaro Wilson. Izvo zvinosanganisira kwete chete zvirimo asiwo nzira yekuendesa. Nekuti mavhidhiyo ezvinonyadzisira haana muganho, akasununguka uye anokurumidza, vashandisi vanogona kudzvanya kune imwe nyowani nyowani kana genre nekukurumidza kana kwavo kukwira kwadzikira uye nekudaro, anodaro Wilson, "vanogadzirisa maitiro avo ekumutsa kune anoenderera, anogara achichinja."
Iyo inorema porn purogiramu uye iyo inoguma yakatsiga yakakwira mazinga edopamine inosimbisa aya maitiro. "Mhedzisiro kune vamwe vashandisi veInternet vanoshandisa huropi hwekuita kumusoro kune porn internet, uye zvishoma kumutsa kurara nemunhu chaiye," anodaro Wilson. Uyezve pane kujairira: kudiwa kwevamwe kuti vawane zvakafanana hit. "Kunyanya kutsva, zvimwe fetusi, kuvhunduka uye kushamisika uye kunetsekana- izvi zvese zvinokwidziridza dopamine," anodaro. "Saka vanoda avo vanomutswa pabonde."
Vamwe vatsvagiri vanoramba chero hukama pakati pehupombwe uye kusagadzikana kweiyo erectile. "Pasina kutsigira data resainzi, simba re [majaya aya] chitendero chekuti porn inokonzeresa ED haisi humbowo hwechokwadi hwezvavanotenda," anodaro David J. Ley, chiremba wezvepfungwa uye munyori we Nhema dzeBonde Kupindwa muropa. "Ruzhinji rwevashandisi ve porno vanotaura kuti hapana chakaipa. Vashoma, vashoma kwazvo vari kuzivisa izvi pamusoro paED. ”
Ley anonongedzera kuongororo dzichangoburwa dzevarume vechidiki vanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira, kunge bepa ra2015 muRondedzero Yezvepabonde Mishonga, umo vatsvagiri vanobva kuYunivhesiti yeZagreb muCroatia vakaongorora zvidzidzo zvengangoita 4,000 vanoita zvepabonde varume vechidiki vanoita zvepabonde varume vatatu munyika dzeEurope uye vakawana chete kuwirirana kushoma pakati pezvinonyadzisira kushandisa uye matambudziko e erectile. (Uye chete muCroatia.) Mumwe akawana kuti vashandisi vezvinonyadzisira vaive vanamata vaigona kufunga kuti vakapindwa muropa. Nicole Prause, chiremba wezvepfungwa uye neuroscientist, pamwe ne CEO we Liberos, kambani yekutsvagisa huropi, anotendawo PIED ingano: "Chiverengero chakakura cheongororo dzakaratidza kuti vafungidziri vane simba veEED vanoramba vachishungurudzika nekushandisa zvinodhaka."
Kune vechidiki varume vanoratidzira, zvakadaro, Exhibit A inogara iri yavo physiology. "Kana iwe uchikwanisa kuwana boner ne porn uye iwe usingakwanise kuwana boner isina porn, izvo zvakangoomesa seuchapupu hunowanikwa mumaonero angu," anodaro Deem reReboot Nation. Anoyambuka chimwe nechimwe chikonzero chekusagadzikana pabonde. Kusaziva? "Ndave murume ane chivimbo mune zvepabonde uye ane ruzivo kubva pazera remakore gumi nemana," anodaro. Kufutisa? Iye ari akasimbiswa wega mudzidzisi ane, anodaro, pasi pegumi muzana% emuviri mafuta. Kushandisa zvinodhaka? Anoti akange aputa anenge mashanu majoini muhupenyu hwake. Uye wake ED haaigona kunge akave nekuda kwekunetseka kwekuita, nekuti anoti aisakwanisa kumutswa kunyangwe achiita bonhora pasirimwe paSvondo masikati akasununguka. “Ndakamhanya ndichidzokera kukombuta yangu kunoongorora zvekare. Ndakavhura porn na bam! ”
Kunze kwezvinhu zvakatarisana neaya majaya, pane kutsvagurudza kuri kubuda kunofanirwa kupa vese vanoshandisa porn kumbomira. Chidzidzo che2014 fMRI kubva kuMax Planck Institute chakawana kuti kujairira kushandisa zvinonyadzisira kunogona kukanganisa huropi. "Kuwanda kwevanhurume vanodya, vashoma iyo brain striatum, nzvimbo yemubairo yeuropi," anodaro Kühn, munyori. "Uye avo vaiona zvimwe zvinonyadzisira vakaratidza kuderera pamifananidzo yezvinonyadzisira munzvimbo imwechete." Chimwe chidzidzo chakaratidza kuti vazhinji-vanogara vachishandisa zvinonyadzisira vaikurumidza uye vaive nekwaniso shoma yekunonoka kugutsikana. Uye ongororo yehuropi-kuongorora kubva kuYunivhesiti yeCambridge mu2014 yakaratidza kuti varume vane hunhu hwekuita bonde vakapindura kune yakajeka zvikamu nenzira imwecheteyo vashandisi vezvinodhaka vanopindura kumishonga; vakavashuva, kunyangwe dai vaisavada.
Iye anotungamira mutsvagiri mune icho chidzidzo, neuroscientist uye neuropsychiatrist Valerie Voon, anoti mazhinji eake anorema-porn-anoshandisa zvidzidzo zvinoratidzira kuva nenyaya dze erectile. Asi iye naKühn vese vanocherekedza kuti hapana chimwe cheichi chiratidzo chekuti porn inoderedza huropi; zvinogona kuve kuti vanhu vane madiki emubairo nzvimbo vanofanirwa kutarisa zvimwe zvinonyadzisira kuti vawane mufaro mumwe chete. "Ndingave ndakangwarira pamusoro pekushandisa kamwechete imaging kudzidza kuratidza kuti kwave kune 'kukuvara' kuuropi," anodaro Voon. "Tinongoda zvimwe zvidzidzo."
Iyo yekupokana-kupindwa muropa nharo is a rancorous subset yekusawirirana munharaunda dzezvokurapa nedzesainzi nezvekuti zvinokwanisika here kuronga zvinonzi zvinokonzeresa zvehunhu, sevaya vekubhejera nekudya, muchikamu chimwe chete sezvinodhakwa nezvinodhaka, senge idoro kana mishonga yemishonga. Kunyengetedza kunopikisa kuti kushandisa izwi kupindwa muropa nekutsanangura izvo zvingangove zvehukama hwepabonde hazvibatsiri uye kungave kuri kukuvadza dambudziko nekuzvishatisa.
Asi kuna Voon, uyo anodzidza kupindwa muropa, kumanikidza kuona zvinonyadzisira kutaridzika senge, kunyangwe iine zvimiro zvakasiyana, kusanganisira chishuwo chepamusoro chechinhu chitsva kupfuura zvimwe zvinodhaka. "Zvinogoneka kuti kusanganiswa kwezvinonyadzisira zvinova zvinopa mubayiro mukuwedzera kune zvitsva zvingave nemhedzisiro," anodaro.
Brian Anderson, nyanzvi yekuziva nezveuropi paJohns Hopkins University, ane dzidziso inonakidza. Hunyanzvi hwake kugadzirwa kwetsika; muna Kukadzi timu yake yakaburitsa chidzidzo chinoratidza kuti zvinoonekwa zvinoonekwa zvine hukama nemubairo zvinonetsa kuregeredza kana zvasangana zvekare. Kana iyo uropi ikaona humbowo hweinonakidza kukurudzira, inoteerera zvakanyanya uye ichivhara zvimwe zvinokurudzira. "Uropi hwako hwakanamirwa kugadzira aya mapatani, uye kana iwe ukaasungira kune chimwe chinhu senge zvinonyadzisira zvinogona kuvhiringidza uye kuoma kupaza," anodaro Anderson.
Anofungidzira kuti zvinoonekwa zve porno zvinoita kuti zvinyanye kunakidza kuuropi. "Inozvipa kune yakasimba uye nekukurumidza kutarisisa kukoshesa," anodaro. "Uropi huchadzidza kushamwaridzana ikoko nekukurumidza." Uye nekuti hupenyu hwazvino hwevanhu hwakanyanya-huremu, pane zviyeuchidzo zvehupombwe kwese kwese. "Pamwe panouya nguva nenguva," anodaro, "paunovhura bhurawuza rako uye wotanga kufunga nezve porn." (Uye izvo zvisati zvaitika-chaiyo tech inotora zvinhu kusvika padanho nyowani.)
Sezvo vechidiki vachipusha zvese izvo zvinonyadzisira zviri kuzvidya muhuropi izvo zvichiri kukura, zvinokwanisika kuti ivo vanonyanya kubata. Philip Zimbardo, anobuda purofesa wezvepfungwa kuStanford University (uye mukomana akaita mukurumbira wekuyedza wejeri reStanford), anoti zvinonyadzisa zvinowanzoenderana nemitambo yemavhidhiyo uye zvakafanana zvakagadziriswa kuti zvive tsika yekugadzira sezvinobvira.
"Zvinonyadzisira zvinokukomberedza mune yandinoti nguva yemazuva ano hedonistic," anodaro. "Iwe unotsvaga mafaro uye ruzivo uye urarame kwechinguva." Kunyangwe isiri yemakemikari muropa, anodaro, zvinonyadzisira zvine zvazvinoita pamaitiro sekupindwa muropa nezvinodhaka: vamwe vanhu vanorega kuita zvimwe zvakawanda vachida kuzvitsvaga. "Uye zvino dambudziko nderekuti, sezvaunoita izvi zvakanyanya uye nekuwedzera, nzvimbo dzekupa mubayiro dzehuropi hwako dzinorasikirwa nekwanisi yekumutsa," anodaro. Panguva iyo varume vechidiki vanenge vari panhongonya yavo yemuviri, anodaro, kusashanda kwese kungave kuri kukonzera kusagadzikana kwepabonde kusingatarisirwi.
Chechi yaNoah inopa maawa makumi maviri pavhiki kuyedza kubatsira vamwe kubvisa zvinonyadzisira kubva pahupenyu hwavo, kana kuti vangabvisa tsika inozivikanwa seMDC (porn, bonhora, orgasm). Akanyora bhuku remahara nezvazvo, Wack, anomhanya addictedtointernetporn.com uye anopa vanhu mazano kuburikidza neSkype pamubhadharo we $ 20. Rhodes, zvakadaro, inoedza kubatsira vakomana kudzorera mojo yavo nekuronga "zvinetswa," panguva iyo vechidiki vanoedza kurega PMO kwenguva yakati rebei yenguva. Kune akasiyana matanho ekurega: iyo yakanyanyisa (inozivikanwa, isinganzwisisike, se "maitiro akaoma") iri kuramba kure nechero chinhu chekuita bonde, uye zvakanyanya kunyanyisa kuita kusangana pabonde kunozviratidza, kusanganisira izvo zvinoitika zvega, asi pasina zvinoonekwa. Saiti yedhimoni inopa nzira dzakafanana, pamwe nerutsigiro rwemunharaunda uye zvekudzidzisa. Boka revarume vechidiki kubva kuUtah vatangisa sangano rinonzi Fight the New Drug, iro rine chirongwa chekusununguka kwevechidiki chinonzi Fortify.
Ivo varume vechidiki vanoshuvira kudzoreredza huropi hwavo vanotsanangura zvakafanana mhedzisiro sezvavanobvisa patsika. Vamwe vacho vane ekudzora-kunge zviratidzo zvakaita sekutemwa nemusoro uye kushaya hope. Vazhinji vavo vanotaura nezve "kubata kumeso," nguva yekusafara, zero libido uye kunyange yakakwenenzverwa genitalia iyo inogona kutora mavhiki akati wandei. "Ndainzwa kunge zombie," anodaro Deem. Vakwegura vakataura zviratidzo zvakafanana, asi ivo vanowanzo kupora nekukurumidza, pamwe nekuti vaive nezviitiko zvebonde zvakanyanya muhupenyu chaihwo. Mutambi wenhabvu akachinja mutambi Terry Crews nguva pfupi yadarika akatumira nhevedzano ye Facebook mavhidhiyo nezve kukuvadzwa kwetsika yake yehupombwe kumuchato wake, uye nehupenyu hwake, kunyangwe asiri hunyanzvi hwake. Akaenda kunogara patsva. Vamwe vanotaura vachidzoka nekukurumidza. "Ndainzwa kutarisisa, kusvinura, kuvimba nevanhu, kushamwaridzana nevamwe, kufarira mabasa ezuva nezuva uye kunzwa zvakanyanya mupfungwa," anodaro Church. "Ndakatanga kunzwa shanduko idzi ndichangosiya."
Nekuti kupedza zvinonyadzisira kunowanzoitwa nekufungidzira, chigadzirwa chitsva chaNoFap ibhatani repamhepo rechimbichimbi, iro parinodzvanywa rinotora vashandisi kuenda pamufananidzo unokurudzira, vhidhiyo, nyaya kana zano, seizvi: "PMO haisi kunyange sarudzo. Iyo nzira yekudya yero chando haisi sarudzo. "Hazvina kana basa nekutora danho." Iyo Brainbuddy app, iyo yakagadziriswa mushure mekunge wechidiki wekuAustralia anonzi David Endacott aona kuti zvainge zvakamuomera sei kurega zvinonyadzisira, inopa akateedzana dzimwe nzira- chiitiko kana vhidhiyo inokurudzira. Kwete kutarisa zvinonyadzisira ingori hafu yehondo, anodaro. Uropi hunofanira kukudziridza kushamwaridzana kutsva uye kwakasiyana kunonakidza nekombuta. Kunge Fitbit, iyo app zvakare inoteedzera kuti mangani mazuva vashandisi vaenda vasina kushandisa kune iyo tsika. Yakave neanopfuura mazana matatu emazana kurodha pasi kusvika zvino.
Chinhu chimwe chete icho varume vechidiki ava vasiri kuratidza kupera kwehupombwe, kunyangwe dai zvaibvira. "Handifunge kuti zvinonyadzisira zvinofanirwa kuverengerwa mutemo kana kurambidzwa kana kubvumidzwa," anodaro Rhodes. Chero zvazvingaitika, kuburitsa zvinonyadzisira kwagara kuchizadza, uye nhasi izvo hazvisi nekuda kweKutanga Amendment asiwo nekuda kwetekinoroji. Rimwe dambudziko rakatarisana nezano reBritish rekumanikidza nzvimbo dzepabonde kuti dziongorore zera revatengi vavo nderekufunga mashandisiro avanogona kuita basa risinga pinde zvakavanzika zvevanhu vakuru uye kunyangwe neyakareruka iyo vechidiki vazhinji vanogona kukanganisa mafirita epamhepo. (Mishumo yakaratidza kuti mamirioni 1.4 vashanyi vakasarudzika kunzvimbo dzevakuru muBritain vaive vari pasi pemakore gumi nemasere muna Chivabvu 18, mushure mekusefa mafirita evanopa Internet.) Kunyange imwe saiti yeUS-based, Pornhub, yakavimbisa kutevedzera iyo mitsva yeBritish inotonga, iyo indasitiri iri kusahadzika nezve zvirevo zvehutano. "Yangu Nha. 2015 gripe neindasitiri yezvinonyadzisira ndeyekuti vanga vachigara vasingagamuchire iyo yese porn-kupindwa muropa kupora kufamba," anodaro Rhodes. Vanonyatsozvikoshesa. ” (Pornhub akaramba kupindura chero mibvunzo nezvemitemo kana zvinetswa zvehutano zveiyi nyaya.)
"Seindasitiri takaona kuvhunduka kwakawanda pamusoro pehunhu," anodaro Mike Stabile, director director weFree Speech Coalition, mubatanidzwa wezvevatengesi nevaraidzo. “Zvinoita kunge paine sainzi yakawanda ine mukurumbira. Kana chimwe chinhu chikamuka chingamutsa hurukuro. ” Indasitiri iyi haisi kutsigira nzira yeBritish inoita kuti vashandisi veInternet vasarudze zvinhu zvevakuru pane kusarudza kusarudza, anodaro Stabile: "Mafirita iwayo anogona kutadzisa kupinda mumapoka eLGBTQ nenzvimbo dzinodzidzisa nezvebonde." Asi ndiwo chaiwo muenzaniso uyo senator wenyika Todd Weiler ari kutarisira kuti uchashandiswa muUtah. "Takachinja mashandisiro atinoita fodya, kwete nekuirambidza asi nekuisa zvirango zvine musoro," anodaro Weiler. Anoda nzvimbo senge McDonald raMwari uye Starbucks – uye kunyange maraibhurari – kusefa yavo-fi kuitira kuti vasaite zvinonyadzisira.
Kupa zvinopesana nezvevechidiki nezvezvinyadzi zvavanosangana nazvo zvisingaite, kunyangwe paine mafirita anoiswa, ndicho chinangwa chakakosha chevadiki vanoita zvematongerwo enyika. "Vana vane makore gumi nematatu neane gumi nemana vanokwanisa kuwana zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet zvisina ganhuriro uye zvisingaperi vasati vaona kuti zvinogona kuva nemhedzisiro inokuvadza," anodaro Rhodes. Dhiyabhorosi inoratidza kuti akagara kure nekodineine nokuti akadzidziswa zvaizomukuvadza. Anoda kuona porn achibatwa nenzira imwecheteyo, nezvikoro zvichidzidzisa nezve zvingangoitika mhedzisiro yezvinonyadzisira panguva yepabonde ed. "Ndaiudza mwanakomana wangu, ndichave ndakananga newe, zvinhu zvese zvinotyisa, senge zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet, chikafu chisina kudya uye zvinodhaka, zvinogona kunakidza uye kunakidza, kwenguva pfupi," anodaro Deem. "Zvisinei, ivo zvakare vane mukana wekukushungurudza iwe kune zvakajairika, zvakasikwa zvinhu uye pakupedzisira kukutorera iwe chinhu chimwe chete chawaifunga kuti vachakupa, kugona kunakidzwa."
Kuzivisa zvepabonde kune zvepabonde kuchikoro zvingaita sequy quitictic. Dzidzo yepabonde ikozvino ndiyo inokonzera kukakavadzana kukuru, uye zvikoro hazvidi kuti zvipomerwe nekutaurira vana kune zvinonyadzisira, kunyange kana sayenzi yemigumisiro yayo yakagadziriswa. Vaberekiwo vanononoka kuti vashandise nyaya yacho, vachitya kuti ndeipi mibvunzo inogona kubvunzwa. Asi ruzivo runovenga kuvhara; online porn inowanzoita zvekusangana pabonde kune vechidiki vakawanda.
Whitlock, aimbove mudzidzisi wezvebonde, anoti akashamisika nekuzeza kwaaimboita vamwe vake kutaura nezve porn. Iye anotenda kuti nekuti vadzidzisi vebonde vairwira mufananidzo wakashata pabonde kwenguva yakareba mukati memakore ekurega-kudzidza chete, ivo vari allergiki kune chero chinhu chinobvunza zvishuwo zvepabonde. Akaona kuti kunyangwe kukumbira vadzidzi kuti vafungisise pane zvavanoita nemabatiro avo ekuona kuhutano hwavo hwepfungwa zvinosangana nekusundidzirwa. "Hazvina musoro kwandiri," anodaro. "Zvakafanana nekutaura kana ukabvunza kukosha kwekudya Dunkin 'Donuts nguva dzese dzaunenge' usina chikafu. '”
Nzira yakanaka yekuendesa meseji inogona kunge iri online, asi zvinosemesa, mazhinji eaya matanho anotadziswa nevanodzivirira zvinonyadzisira. Ndiro dambudziko reBrainbuddy. Musiki waro anonzwa zvakakosha kuti uiise kune gumi nevaviri-uye-vakuru boka, asi vashandisi vanofanirwa kuve vanopfuura makore gumi nematanhatu kuti vange vachirodha pasi.
Kunyadziswa kwakatenderedza tsika yekumanikidza yekuita zvinonyadzisira kunoita kuti kukumbira rubatsiro kuome, kunyangwe vezvesaurosi vachiti zvinogona kuitika kune chero munhu. Ikozve kune kushomeka kushomeka kwevakomana vechidiki vanotaura vachipesana nemhando iyi mutsika inopemberera zvepabonde. Dhiyabhorosi nevamwe vamiririri vanoziva kuti vari kufamba vachipinda mukusagadzikana, kupokana uye kuseka. Asi ivo havana kudzorwa. "Kana paine chero chinhu chiri kuzoshanduka," anodaro Deem, "ichafanirwa kuuya kuburikidza nevakomana vakapfuura nemumatanho, avo vanga vachinyanya kudzvanya pamatepi uye vachiona hardcore porn pataive 12."
Imwe yenhengo nyowani dzeNoFap (inozivikanwa seFapstronauts), murume makumi matatu-chimwe chinhu ngochani achangotanga dambudziko remazuva makumi matatu, anozvitaura nenzira iyi: "Pandinofunga nezvazvo," anonyora, "Ndatambisa makore hupenyu hunotsvaga komputa kana nharembozha kuti uwane chinhu chaisingakwanise kupa. ”
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