Rudzi rutsva rwevapombwe - avo vasina bonde
Kukura kwehuwandu hwevechidiki vakapindwa muropa neInternet online, asi vachitya kuita chaiyo yemuviri kubatana. Andy Jones anoti
By Andy Jones 9 February 2020
Rudzi rutsva rwevapombwe vakapindwa muropa nehupombwe uye bonhora - asi haunzwi wakasununguka pabonde panyama
Kabir *, makumi maviri nemasere, ari kutsvaga zvinonyadzisira pa internet achimanikidzwa, sezvaakamboita zuva nezuva asati apedza uye apedza basa kubva paakatanga basa renguva yakazara.
Panzvimbo yekushamwaridzana kana kushanda, Kabir anoshandisa anosvika $ 400 pamwedzi kutaura nevasikana vanoita zvepabonde cam, vanomupa mukana wekuvaraira nzira yekudzikisa kana kuzvifadza pane kamera. Anonwa Red Bull uye dema kofi kuti agare akasvinura. Akapererwa uye achinyara, iye zvino ave kuda kumira.
Ini ndinomuwana ari pabonde cam kureurura tambo yehurukuro "NoFap" - nzvimbo yekudzivirira-bonde inoshandisa apo varume, vanoshuvira kumira kutarisa porn, kurudzirana.
Vazhinji vevashandisi veNoFap zvakare vasiri-vatengesi vezvinonyadzisira: vakadzi vevachapindwa muropa; vanamai kuyedza kuyamwisa vanakomana vavo kana dzimwe nguva vanasikana kubva pamavara, uye kunyangwe hama dzemurume dziri kutarisa kupindira.
"Ndinorega kuronga kugara uye kutaura nebonde cams uye zvinoparadza hupenyu hwangu hwemagariro," anodaro Kabir. "Ndiri panjodzi yekubatirwa kubasa nekuti ini ndinotarisa pamapeji avo ewebhu pafoni yangu panguva yekushanda." Pakutanga ndaifarira mabonde echirume nekuti aibatanidzwa kwete kungoona porn, iwe waizotaurirana nemusikana akanaka uye ipapo unowana chiitiko chebonde. Asi iye zvino ndanyanyofungisisa nezvazvo kufunga nezvekupfimbana kana kumira kunondiita kuti ndive neshungu. ”
Kune zvese zvinangwa nezvinangwa, Kabir akapindwa muropa nebonde - sevanhu vanozivikanwa saRussel Brand kana David Duchovny - asingakwanise kusiya maitiro anoparadza ekumanikidza kuita zvepabonde. Asi, kusiyana nevamwe vakapindwa muropa nebonde, iye haasi kunyatsoita zvepabonde.
Kabir chikamu chechizvarwa chitsva chevatengi vari kutyaira kuputika kweInternet zvinonyadzisira. Muna 2018 mutungamiri wezvemukati mekutengesa Pornhub akazivisa mavhidhiyo ake akatariswa zviuru makumi matatu nezvitatu emabhiriyoni nguva iyo, nemamiriyoni mazana maviri nemaviri vashanyi zuva nezuva (kubva pamamirioni makumi mana nemasere muna 33.5.)
Gore rapfuura, ongororo yakaitwa neBritish vatatu vevanopfuura chiuru Brits yakaratidza makumi manomwe neshanu muzana evarume vakati porn yaive yavo huru yedzidzo yebonde, ukuwo kudzidza kwakaitwa naNatsal (Kuongororwa kwenyaya yehupenyu hwepabonde) kwevane zviuru makumi matatu nevaviri vakabvunzwa vakaratidza avo vasina kurara nemwedzi wapfuura yakanga yakwira kusvika makumi matatu neshanu muzana.
Ichi chitsva chemhando mudiki pabonde akapindwa muropa - mumwe asingakwanise kurarama nenyama neropa - zvino ave kuwedzera nzvimbo yekupindwa muropa nedzimba dzekumirira mhiri kweUK, anodaro Paula Hall weLaurel Center uyo anga ari nyanzvi mune zvebonde uye kupindwa muropa nezvinonyadzisira kwemakore gumi nemashanu.
Anoti vatengi vanosvika kukiriniki yake yeLeamington Spa kiriniki, vakapatsanurwa kuita mitsara yemazera - vakuru vakuru vanomanikidzwa kupinda mukukuvara kwepanyama - uye vakuru vechidiki vakagadzirirwa zvakanyanya nezvinhu zvepamhepo ivo havachadi bonde zvachose. kana kuti wawana chaizvo zvepabonde haigoni kuenderana nezvavanoita online.
"Vazhinji vevadiki varwere vatiri kushanda navo - vane makore ari pakati pe18 kusvika 28 - havana kumbobvira vaita zvepabonde vasina zvinonyadzisira kana makamera ezvepabonde," anodaro. “Vanoramba kuti hazviite. Havana ruzivo rwekufungidzira vasina zvinonyadzisira. "
Kunyangwe kana vakawana bonde chairo - vanoona zvichinyadzisa. Hall anoti: “Vamwe vevechidiki ava vanoshamiswa kuti vamwe vavo vane vhudzi remuviri kana ziya kana nyama yavo yakapfava. Kuti ivo havaite orgasm pakubata. Bonde chairo - panzvimbo pechiso - rinonhuwa neimwe nzira yakasiyana neyavanofungidzira - vakajaira chiitiko chebonde chisina kushatisa kana chisina kuchena. ”
Mamwe makiriniki ekuBritain anorondedzera zvakawanikwa. Nuno Albuquerque, boka rekurapa rinotungamira kuUK kupindwa muropa nemishonga anoti maitiro ake anosangana "hapana zvepabonde, vanopindwa muropa nemhombwe" mwedzi wega wega. Anoti, "Varwere ava, nekufamba kwenguva, vanozobatikana nepfungwa, asi kana zvasvika pakubata nevanhu uye nehukama nemumwe munhu, havadi kana kutotadza kuita."
Chidzidzo chegore ra2014 kubva kuCambridge University chakawana kuti vakapindwa muropa vachiona zvinonyadzisira vanoona huropi hwakafanana nevanopindwa muropa nezvinodhaka pavanosangana nemushonga wavo wesarudzo CREDIT: Getty Mupiro
A 2014 kudzidza kubva kuCambridge University vakawana kuti vanopindwa muropa nekuona zvinonyadzisira vanoona zvinoitika zveuropi sevanhu vakapindwa muropa nezvinodhaka pavanosangana nedhiza ravo rekusarudza uye vazhinji vanozoita chero chinhu kuti varambe vachichiona. Pakutanga gore rino, Andrew Barnbrook ane makore makumi matatu nemasere akabiridzira waaishandira we $ 38k kuitira kuti abhadhare tsika yake yekutaura neyepabonde-cam modhi.
Dr Thaddeus Birchard veMarylebone Clinic vakapa varume vanopfuura chiuru mumapoka akapindwa muropa nebonde kubva muna1,000 uye vanoti zvinonyadzisira zvinobata uropi mukuda chimwe chinhu chisingadi. "Ongororo dzakaratidza kuti maburifurasi angakurumidza kukwatirana nechimedu chebhururu yakagadzirwa neinobwinya kwete chinhu chaicho." Hens inosarawo kugara pamazai akakomberedzwa erudzi rwakasviba kupfuura mazai adzo. Vanhu vakangofanana nekuti ivo vatanga kusarudza kutarisa munhu, uye zvakavakwa internet. ”
World Health Organization inozivikanwa zvekuita zvepabonde sehutano hwepfungwa muna 2018, kunyangwe iyoAmerican Association of DzeBonde Vadzidzisi Vanoongorora uye Therapists vakataura makore maviri zvisati zvaitika kuti pakanga pasina humbowo hwakakwana hwekutsigira kuiswa kwekupindwa muropa kwepabonde kana kupindwa muropa nezvinodzvinyirira sehutano hwepfungwa. Vakataurawo kuti kutarisa porn kwaisave kupindwa muropa.
Kuvhiringidzika uye kushaiwa kwekupa kunogona kusiya varwere vega kuti vatsvage rubatsiro. Erica Garza, munyori weKuenda: Mumwe Wevakadzi Rwendo Kupfuura DzeBonde Uye Porn Kupindwa muropa, akaonekwa semusikana wepabonde mumakore ake makumi matatu mushure memakore ekuzvikuvadza maitiro. Iye zvino akaroora anofara apedza chirongwa chegumi nemaviri, Erica anoti kupindwa muropa kwake pabonde kwakakura kubva mukuchengeteka kwakanyanya. Ane makore gumi nemaviri, akanetswa kuchikoro kupfeka brace yekumashure iyo yaimusiya akanzwa kusagadzikana uye ari ega. Panzvimbo pekutaura kune mumwe munhu nezvazvo, porn yakava kusunungurwa.
Anoti, "Zvakandipa chinwiwa chinonakidza chemafaro uye nyadzi. “Izvi zvakazoita kuti ndishushikane mupfungwa. Nepo kushushikana kweupenyu uye zvinokonzeresa zvakazochinja nenzira dzangu dzekugutsikana, kuwedzera kubata bonhora nekuita zvinonyadzisira uye kuita zvepabonde nevanhu vavusingazive. ”
Paaive akabata kupindwa muropa naye pabonde, Erica aive - akasiyana "asina bonde, vakapindwa muropa nebonde" - vachisangana pabonde chaiko, asi kutarisa zvinonyadzisira chaivewo chinhu chakakura pakuzvibata kwake kukuvadza. Anoti, "Paunenge uchitsvaga peji rinotevera peji rezvinonyadzisira uchitsvaga clip nyowani - uyezve imwe clip kumusoro kweyekupedzisira - uye kana iwe uri kufunga nezvekuti ndiani waucharara naye - kana uchangopedza. kurara ne - kana kushambidza muviri wako kuti uve wakagadzirira bonde, nguva inodyiwa, mikana inosuwa. Hupenyu hunongo pfuura newe. ”
Erica akabatanidzwa mukugadzirisa maitiro ake apo shamwari - iyo yakanga ichienda kuAA Misangano - yakaratidza maitiro ake ekumanikidza akazviratidza kune ake doro. Akatanga kuenda kumisangano yeBonde neRudo Vanodzvinyirira Asingazivikanwe uye akatanga chirongwa chekupora nhanho-gumi chakapa yakachengeteka, inogamuchira nzvimbo uye nharaunda yevanhu vane pfungwa dzakafanana vaizoteerera vasina kutonga nezve zviito zvake zvakaipisisa.
Anoti, "Ini ndinokurudzira misangano kune vamwe vanhu sekutanga (yekurapa kupindwa muropa nemhombwe) asi ndakaedza zvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana kubata neavo manzwiro andanga ndichiita kubva kwenguva yakareba. Kufungisisa, Thai kickboxing, mabhuku anozvibatsira, kutaura kwekutaura, kudzoka kwemazuva 7 anonzi Hoffman process, uye kunyora pamusoro pezvakaitika kwandiri zvese zvaive zvombo zvakabatsira nenzira yavo. ”
Dr Rob Weiss, a murapi wepabonde Yakavakirwa mu LA ine makore anopfuura makumi maviri neshanu yazvinoona zviitiko muvakuru vechidiki vakashandisa internet internet zvepabonde.
“Pazera ramakore makumi maviri, vanopindwa muropa nebonde ava havatauri, vari kungouya kumba uye vachiona zvinonyadzisira. Ivo havana kumutswa nebonde, nekuti haikwanise kukwikwidza nemaawa emavhidhiyo akawanda. Ndine vana vemakore makumi maviri nemaviri vasingatombo fungidzira kubata ruoko rweumwe munhu, kutya pamusoro pekubata muviri uye kuwana zvisingaiti kumirira mhinduro yemanyorerwo nekuti havana kumbomirira kugutsa izvi. "
Paula Hall anoti zvinokonzerwa nekuona zvinonyadzisira zvaita kuti nyika "iwedzere kuita zvepabonde." Anoti, "Isu tiri kutsvaga zvekuita zvepabonde kana tisina kana kumutswa, nenzira imwecheteyo munhu akapindwa muropa nechikafu anodya kana asina nzara." Mamwe mhedzisiro inokuvadza yemavhidhiyo ndeyekuti vanhu vazhinji havazivi kuti ndezvipi zvinhu zvavo zvakasarudzika, vari kuzviita nekumanikidzira, setsika, nekuti vane zororo kana kuti nekuti vanoda kuzorora. "
Kupukunyuka chero zvakaipa kunonetsa, asi iyo njodzi yezvinopinda muropa ndezvekuti internet iri kwese, yakavharirwa muhupenyu hwazvino. Iwe unogona kutora imwe nzira yekudzoka kumba kuti udzivise iyo pub kana off rezinesi, iwe unokwanisa kudzikisa shamwari dzako dzinonwa husiku kunze. Asi iyo internet inogara muhomwe yako, inokutevera muhupenyu hwezuva nezuva.
Kune avo mukupora, zviri kutsvaga nzira yekuzvidzora, anodaro Erica. "Ndichiri kuona zvinonyadzisira nguva nenguva, asi mutsauko ndewekuti ini handitsvage kusununguka pabonde nekuti ndiri kuedza kunzvenga chimwe chinhu." Kuziva mutsauko weizvo zvinokurudzira (kwakakosha) kukurira kupindwa muropa, ”anodaro.
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