IAmerican Association of Sexuality Educators, VaKurudzira uye VaArapist (AASECT) yakaburitsa izvo ivo pachavo vari kurumbidza se "nhoroondo chinzvimbo chirevo" pane porn uye zvepabonde kupindwa muropa. Pakati pechirevo ichi chirevo chekuti sangano "hariwani humbowo hwakakwana hwekutsigira kurongeka kwekupindwa muropa nepabonde kana kupindwa muropa nezvinonyadzisira sehutano hwepfungwa" - izvi, padivi peongororo yezvese uye zvese zviripo "kupindwa muropa nepabonde. kurovedza uye nzira dzekurapa uye dzidziso dzekudzidzisa "sekuti" hazvizivikanwe zvakakwana neruzivo rwechokwadi nezvevanhu pabonde. " (Link to full article)
Nokuda kwemashoko ehuwandu hwakadaro, uremu uye simba, iwe unofunga kubvunzisisa, kusasaruri uye kubatanidza kwehuchapupu hwezvesayenzi hwakange hwaitika.
Iwe ungadai wakanyadziswa.
Mukugamuchirwa kunoshamisa uye kuparidzirwa nemurume uyo akatanga chirongwa ichi mushure mekutaura uku, ane musoro unoti "Nzira yeAASECT Sex Addiction Statement Yakasikwa, "Michael Aaron anopa mahwindo yakajeka mukushandiswa kwemashoko ose - nhoroondo yatinofunga kuti inonyanya kutaura pamusoro payo.
Panzvimbo pekunyatsoongorora humbowo hwakapihwa nechikwata chakasiyana, chirevo ichi nekubvuma kwaAroni chaiko chakabuda kubva ku "online advocacy kuedza" naiye uye nesekete diki re "vamwe vatambi vevateereri." Pane iyo AASECT rondedzero, iri boka diki nemaune rakatendeukira kune izvo Aaron zvaakadana kuti "vapanduki, magandanga nzira" dzaakabvuma dzaive nemaune "vane hukasha" uye nechinangwa chekumutsa gakava, rakasimba pakati peavo vari mukati mesangano. Mumashoko ake amene:
- "Kwandiri, mukana wose wekupopotedzana waiva mukana."
- "Ini ndinogadzira yambiro pafoni yangu nguva dzese paive nechinyorwa pachiratidziro nezve kupindwa muropa pabonde uye ndichitsvaga nemaune kugadzira mutauro unodenha uyo waizopa mhinduro zhinji sezvinobvira."
- "Kuwanda kwemasvikiti mumamiriro ezvinhu [zviri nani]."
Zvose izvi, maererano naAroni, zvakanga zvakakosha kuitira "kuchinja nokukurumidza."
Vamwe vanogona kushamisika, hongu, kuti sei Aaron nechikwata chake vakasarudza kusaita shanduko kuburikidza neyakawedzera nzira yeruzhinji uye nerupo ichibvumira nzvimbo chaiyo yemanzwi akasiyana kuti awane kubvumirana? Achitaura nezvenyaya iyi, Aaron akasimbirira kuti rudzi urwu rwekurukurirano kana kutaurirana nevanhu avo vaisabvumirana nezano rake kwaive kutambisa nguva, nekuti vanhu ava vaisarudzika nekusimudzira mari.
Chirevo chakafanana chinogona kunge chakapinda muchikoro cheAASECT chirimo chete vatauri vanovimbiswa varatidziri kupokana nechinhu-kupindwa muropa - David Ley, Joe Kort naNicole Prause.
Izvozvi ndechikonzero nei AASECT iri kutarisa kana kuderedza boka guru rezvidzidzo zvakakosha munzvimbo ino?
Sezvatareva pane imwe nzvimbo, pane 27 neurological studies uye 10 maongorori emabhuku - izvo zvose zvinosimbisa kukanganisa kwehuwandu hwezvinonyadzisira. Zvisingapfuure 17 zvidzidzo kunonganisa zvinonyadzisira kune zvakasiyana-siyana zvepabonde, nezvimwewo 34 zvidzidzo kubatanidza zvinonyadzisira kuti uwedzere ukama uye kugutsikana kwepabonde.
Izvo zvese makumi mapfumbamwe nesere zvezvidzidzo izvi zvinongova "pseudo-science"? Vari izvi kutsvakurudza kwakaitwa AASECT kusimbisa haisi "kukwana" kusimbisa kuvapo kwedambudziko rakakomba?
Pasi pepamusoro: zvakaoma kuramba dambudziko rechokwadi ririko, pasina kunyora zvinyorwa zvinoshamisa zve (zvinogara) uchapupu hunoshamisa.
Ichi hachisi chinhu chimwe chete, hongu, sekuedza "kutadza zvisina kufanira zvinetso zvepabonde" se yakataurwa neAASECT - chimwe chinhu chinonyanya kushandiswa kwemishonga inoshingaira kuti udzivise zvakare. Zvechokwadi, kuti kana kwete kuora zvepabonde kunonzi "chaiye" mubvunzo wakasiyana pane kuti uri chirwere chepfungwa. [2]
Zvose zvakasiyana-siyana, zvisinei, zvinoregererwa mune zvinyorwa zvinomiririra pakuratidza chero upi zvake hwekutengesa-kutaridzika nenzira inoenderana nehutachiona hwehutano.
Mukushaikwa kwekurangarira kwemhando yepamusoro, hazvishamise kuti misiyano iyi ingatariswe pasi. Sezvakaratidzwa pakutanga, vanyori veAASECT chirevo vakanyatso tsvaga rumwe rudzi rwehurukuro iyo yaigona kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvavo.
Izvi zvaiva zvechokwadi mune zvavakaita pakugadziridzwa kwekupedzisira kwemashoko pamwe chete.
Sezvakabvumirwamo Aroni anyore, chirevo chekare cheAASECT chekubvumirana chakange chabva kure nenzvimbo yavo yavanoda nekuda kwekubatanidzwa kwemazwi mazhinji akasiyana. [3] Aaron nevamwe vake vaive vakatsunga kusaita chikanganiso chimwe chete zvakare. Saka panguva ino, ivo vakaisa a kunyatsodzorwa nzira yemhinduro isina kumbovhiringidza zvido zvavo: "Ndakakurudzira boka redu kutumira chirevo kune boka duku revanhu vakasarudzwa, vatatu pamunhu, uye kunyatsorondedzera zviyero zvekubatanidzwa."
Uye ikoko iwe unazvo! Izwi rokuti "kubvumirana" rinoberekwa.
Kuzvikwereti zvavo, Aroni nevamwewo vatori vechikamu vakabvuma kuti kuvapo kwekakavhiringidza kwakasimba kuchiri kuenderera mberi. Aaron akanyora "Kudhakwa kwepabonde chinhu chinokakavhiringidza zvikuru, uye inyaya yekukakavadzana kukuru mune zvose zvepabonde uye zvekuita zvepabonde munharaunda." Mumwe munyori, Ian Kerner, thanked avo "vakasimba, manzwi avo vaiva nechivimbo chekutaura kwavo kupesana neshoko rakadaro."
Pasina Aroni pachake "Hutsinye" uye "guerrilla" maitiro anoshandiswa kupfuurira kushorwa, kusundira gakava rinopesana, kutsvaga chikwata chiri kukura chekutsvakurudza chinopesana nemafungiro ake uye chirongwa chichiratidzika chekubvumirana kusingabvumirwi, mamwe mazwi angangodaro akamboratidzwa mumashoko ekupedzisira!
Zvechokwadi, mumwe anofanirwa kushamisika kuti unoive sei uye anobatsira chirevo cheAASECT simba vave vakave neupfumi hwemazwi ose nemafungiro akave akatenderwa kutamba zvakaenzana.
[1] Kunyanya, Michael Aaron akati, "Indasitiri inodhakwa nebonde indasitiri inobhadhara mari, izere nenzvimbo dzinodhura dzinorapa vanorwara uye nezvimwe - munhu ariko zvechokwadi anofungidzira here kuti munhu anoda zvekusangana pabonde anokurudzirwa kukanganisa modhi iyi?" Akaenderera mberi achiti, "Mutauro wekushandira pamwe hauna zvibereko nechikwata chiri kutyisidzirwa nezvinangwa zvako." Shanduro: Vanachiremba vanobatsira vanhu vane hupombwe hwepabonde havanyatsofungidzirwi nemari yavo iyo inenge isingabatsiri kuedza kuita zvevanhu uye kushanda pamwe chete!
Kana zvirizvo, hazvo zvimwe zvinokurudzira zvemari zvingatungamira mukusafanirwa kumwechete? Nekubvuma kwake, pane mari zhinji inobatanidzwa mukugadzirira kuve murapi wezvepabonde zvakare: "SeCST ndakafamba nenzira yekudzidzira yakasimba iyo yaidhura mari diki uye ini ndinobhadhara zvakati wandei kuAASECT pagore chengeta chitupa changu. ” Kubhadharwa kwemasevhisi avo kunoreva kuti varapi vezvepabonde havagone kuvimbwa sevadyidzani nekuda kwekurapwa kwavo?
Nyaya yakakura ndeyekuti izvi zvinonzi "zvakakosha" zvepabonde zvinodhaka zvepabonde zvinokanganisa pane zvisingambofungidziki zvakakosha pakukurukurirana kwevanhu vose: mamiriyoni emadhora emadhora ekuona zvinonyadzisira uye huwandu hwayo hune huwandu hunoita kuti vanhu veAmerica vafunge uye vataure sei pamusoro pebonde.
[2] Zvichida nemhaka yekusanzwisisa pane izvozvi mukati mekutaura kweAASECT, musiyano pakati pevaya vaviri hausi kuratidza zvachose mukukurukurirana kwevanhu pamusoro pezvinyorwa. Mune imwe isina terevhizheni nhau report pane zvinyorwa, izvi ndizvo zvavakapfupikisa:
·"Hapana chimwe chinhu chakadai sokupindwa muropa kwepabonde kana zvinonyadzisira."
·"Iwe unogona here kubatwa nemishonga yekuona zvinonyadzisira kana kuti zvepabonde?"
·"Haisi dambudziko rehutano hwevanhu. Haisi kudhakwa. "
Kubva pakuona kwevanhu vose, saka, kuramba urwere hwekuona zvinonyadzisira "chirwere chepfungwa" chiri kuramba kuti chiripo.
[3] SeMichael Aaron yakatsanangurwa icho, chiitiko chekare chakatarisana ne "mhirizhonga inokonzerwa nehuwandu hwehuwandu hwemashoko akaparadzana achida kugadzira chirevo chacho, uye pasina hurongwa huripo panzvimbo yekuchengetedza timu panzira."
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