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Mhinduro kubva kune varume vaviri:
- Kuwedzera kushungurudzika = kuita bonhora. Frequency inokwira kumusoro ichisvika kumagumo uye bepa risati rasvika. Iyo inoderedza kushushikana uye inojekesa huropi kuti iwe ugone kutarisa.
- Pasina nguva pashure kanagasm (dzimwe nguva kunyange maminitsi gumi gare gare) Ndiri nemafema-mafungiro, misoro yakatsvuka, akavhiringidza, uye anonetseka, kunyange zvazvo nguva uye simba rezviratidzo zvakasiyana zvakasiyana. Orgasm yakanga isiri mhaka yezvinetso izvi chete asi yakaita seCURE. Dzimwe nguva ndaizozviita kaviri kana iya yekutanga isingashande. Asi mushure mechinguva, ndakaona kuti ndinofanira kuzviita kakawanda uye kakawanda kuti ndisunungure zviratidzo. Pakupedzisira ndakange ndava kusvika kashanu pazuva. Izvi zvaishamisa, uye kuderedza shure kwaiva nemigumisiro yakasimba yekurega.
Orgasm inotanga kuzorora-pamwe nekuti panguva yekupedzisira uropi hunoburitsa maopiates, prolactin, serotonin uye dzimwe nguva spritz ye oxytocin. Panguva imwecheteyo dopamine, iyo "Wakaiwana!" neurochemical, inodonha kubva. Seyenyaya yekushanduka-shanduka, aya manzwiro akanaka inzira yechisikirwo yekuti, "Basa rakanaka! kuita hunhu hwehukama. ” Ahhhh… (Sezvineiwo, pane humbowo hwekuti neurochemical migumisiro yepabonde yakasiyana kubva kune avo vanoita zvepabonde nemweya.)
Kana iwe uchiwedzera kunyanya iwe kunyanya?
Asi chii chinoitika kana iwe ukasarudza kushandisa mugumo se "mushonga wemanzwiro" nguva imwe neimwe paunonzwa uchinetseka? Mhinduro yacho inoenderana nezvinhu zvakasiyana, senge: kunzwisisika kwehuropi hwako, kusimba kwekusimudzira kwaunoshandisa (Inzenza yepaIndaneti iri pamucheto wakakwirira), wakasarudzika sei kubva kune imwe mibayiro yechisikigo iyo yakabatsira kuchengetedza huro hwemadzitateguru ako muchiyero (hwepedyo, hushamwari hwakavimbika, kubata kune rudo, kurovedza muviri zvine simba, chikafu chakajairika, nezvimwewo).
Ngatitii hauna yakawanda yemimwe mibairo uye une basa rakawanda rekuita. Saka iwe unoda kusimuka nekukurumidza sezvinobvira kuti uvandudze tarisiro yako uye udzokere kubasa. Nomuzvarirwo, iwe tinya kuInternet porn uye uwane chimwe chinhu chinopisa zvakakwana kuti uwane pakarepo mhedzisiro.
Nehurombo, sekufamba kwenguva, uropi hwako hungangoda kukurudzira nekuwedzera kukurudzira kuti uwane zororo. Kana huropi hwako hungangoda porn kunyangwe iwe uri kwete pasi pekunetseka, kana inogona kuida iyo kurara zvishoma ose husiku. Mukupindwa muropa-taura, iwe uri "kuvaka kuvaka tolerance”Yemakemikari emakemikari europi ari kuburitswa, sekutsanangurwa nachiremba wepfungwa Norman Doidge. Mune mamwe mazwi, kugara uchitsvaga yeInternet "kurapa nekukasira" kunogona wedzera zviratidzo zvako.
Tinotaura izvi nechivimbo nokuti sevanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira vachirega kushandisa zvinonyadzisira kwemavhiki mashoma, vazhinji vanodaro kuchinja kunoshamisa mune mafungiro, kubereka, kurara, uye kunyanya zvinoshamisa, a kuderera mukushungurudzika kwepabonde.
Iko kutenderera kweyegasm kwakanyanya kuomarara kupfuura kunowanzo gamuchirwa. Hazvina magumo pamwe chete nemanzwiro akanaka anogadzirisa dambudziko. Mushure mekukura kwekupedzisira, iyo inotora nguva kuti uropi hwako hudzokere kumbaostasis-pamwe sekureba sevhiki. Zvichakadaro, iyo neurochemistry yehuropi hwako iri kuchinja. Kudzikira kunogona kuratidza sekuwedzera kwekunzwa kusagadzikana, kushushikana, kushungurudzika uye zvichingodaro-zvakazvimiririra pane zviri kuitika muhupenyu hwako. Izvi zvinogona kukuita kuti unzwe kushushikana, kusagadzikana, uye sechinhu chisina kunaka newe.
Zvinotsamwisa sei! Iwe ikozvino wawedzera kushushikana kwako kunzwa nekuedza kunzwa zvirinani. Nekusaziva, iwe wakagadzirisa yako shanduko "binge trigger”Nekukurudzira kwakanyanya. Kana izvi zvikaitika, uropi hwako hunochinja-chinja nepaunogona napo kune mafashama enguva dzose ekusimudzira. Nekudaro, imwe yemhedzisiro mhedzisiro ndeyekuti inova kunyanya kufunga nezvekufara. Izvi, zvakare, zvinopisa kukura kwechiitiko (kushivirira) kunotsanangurwa pamusoro apa.
Saka chii chaunofanira kuita?
Kuita bonhora kunogona kuramba uri chikamu chehupenyu hwako, kunyanya kusvikira iwe uine mumwe wako. Asi pane zvinhu zvinobatsira.
- Dzivisa zvakanyanya kukurudzira. Zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet inogona kunge iri nzira yekukurumidza kubuda, asi zvakare ndeimwe yeakanyanya, nekuda kwekuti iri vhidhiyo; iri ngano; kinky, nezvimwewo. Saka iyo yepamusoro-yepasi kutenderera iyo yaanorovera mukati zvakare inodomwa zvakanyanya. Masturbate pasina Internet porn, uye ona kana iwe uchicherechedza kubatsirwa.
- edza rebooting. Varume vanoona kuti vashoma vanoita bonyora, zvishoma zvavanoda kuita bonyora… kusvika padanho. Tsvaga iyo poenzanisiro poindi izvo zvaunoda zvisingakwire. Zvinotora nguva kuti uzviwane kana uropi hwako parizvino husina kukwana. Zvinoshamisa kuti nguva yako yakanaka inogona kunge yakareba sevhiki kana maviri.
- Edzai kuti muone chimwe chimwe zvakasikwa "mushonga wemanzwiro" inogadzira manzwiro ehupenyu. Nenzira iyo iwe hausi kuzovimba neInternet porn kuti ubvise kusagadzikana.
- Kuti unzwisise zvakawanda nezvehupi uropi hwako huri kurwisana nawo, tarisa Ubongo Hwako paZvinyadzisa: Nzira yeIndaneti inobata sei uropi.
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