Uropi hwehupombwe hunodzidzisa-kunyanya munguva yekuyaruka
(Cherekedza: Tarisa akawanda maoni pasi pechinyorwa ichi)
Zvakajairika kuti vana vade kudzidza zvese nezve bonde, kunyanya panguva yekuyaruka uye kuyaruka. Apa ndipo apo kubereka kunova kukoshesa kwehuropi. Kune izvi tinogona kutenda izvo zvakasarudzika zvekuyaruka-huropi kukura.
Funga nezvejongwe remusango riri kuyaruka richiona rimwe bhendi nekunakidzwa zvekuti iye (kana iye, mune mamwe marudzi) anosiya vamwe vake, uye anotsungirira zvipfuramabwe nemiseve yekusave nevabatsiri pazasi peimwe hurongwa hwevarwi - zvese izvi mukana kuti uzviite nehutsva hunoshamisa mune ramangwana. Zvinhu zvipenyu zvedu zvinoita kuti tive nechokwadi chezvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana.
Iye zvino, kutsanya-mberi kune mukomana wechidiki anoziva pfungwa-inotyisa yeInternet erotica:
Ndakatanga kutarisa paInternet porn pandanga ndiine gumi nemaviri. Kungoona mbichana yemazamu akafukunurwa zvaive zvakakwana kuti ndibvise. Asi kuzvishingisa kwakakurumidza kupinda mukati, uye ini ndakatanga kukudziridza mabanana kuti ndiwane kutorwa kubva pabonde. Yakatanga nemadzinza akasiyana, kozoti vakadzi vechisimba, zvobva zvazoita mapopoma emvura, ndokuzopararira / kushayisa / BDSM / tranny. Uyezve kusanganiswa chero kupi kweye pamusoro kugadzira anorwara zvinonyadzisira zvinofungidzira. Ini ndinogona kuyeuka ndakagara kuchikoro ndichifungidzira nezvekurwara porn iyo yandaigona kutsvaga husiku ihwohwo.
Chii chiri nezve huropi hwevechiri kuyaruka hunoita kuti chiitiko chemurume uyu chive chisina kujairika? Mhinduro: Munguva yekuyaruka kusagadzikana kwenguva pfupi kwehunhu kunoitika. Iyo "bonde, zvinodhaka uye dombo & roll" chikamu chehuropi chiri mukunyanyisa. Chikamu che "ngatipei ichi pfungwa" chichiri kuvakwa, uye hachizosvika pakukura kusvika munhu mukuru.
Iyi nzira yekuita zvisina kufanira uye ine njodzi maitiro inogadzirisazve humwe hunyanzvi hwevechiri kuyaruka-hwechipfuwo zvakare. Iyo inzira yeshanduko yekutyaira rusununguko rusununguko mazhinji madiki emhuka dzinodiwa pavanotsvaga varoora uye nekuveza matunhu. Muhuropi-mutengo-bhenefiti ongororo, chiyero chiri kutetepa zvakanyanya munzira ye zvipo zvinogoneka.
Iko kune kicker zvakadaro. Iko kugona kwevechidiki vedu kuisa waya nyowani dzekusangana pabonde howa wakakomberedza 11 kana 12. Panguva ino mabhiriyoni matsva emagetsi ekubatana (ma-synapses) anogadzira mikana isingaperi. Nekudaro, nekukura huropi hwake hunofanira kucheketesa mairiyuru wedunhu kuti amusiye aine chinogadzikana assortment yesarudzo. Nemakore makumi maviri, anogona kunge asiri iye rakanamatira pamwe nehutano hwepabonde anowira munguva yekuyaruka, asi anogona kunge akaita semakumbo akadzika muuropi yake-kwete nyore kuregeredza kana kuchinja zvakare.
Zvirwere zvepabonde-cue exposure zvakawanda panguva yekuyaruka kupfuura chero imwe nguva muhupenyu. Zvino, wedzera kune ichi chinopisa chaicho chakareruka mvura yemazuva ano kubva-iyo-madziro erotica inowanikwa pombi yemunwe. Zvinoshamisika here kuti vamwe vechidiki waya semi-zvachose kune anogara ari cyber hutsva panzvimbo pevangangodaro vakaroora? Kana kuisa tambo yekuita kwavo pabonde kune zvinhu zvisina hukama nehukama hwavo hwepabonde? Kana kudzora kushushikana kwehuropi hwavo-uye kutenderera mukati porn addiction?
Sezvineiwo, uri mukomana ari kurangarira yako wega kuyaruka-uye kuti haungatombo kwanisa kusvika zvakakwana mukati memakore iwayo? Zvichida urikufungidzira kuti yeInternet porn ingadai yakave yakanakisa hunyanzvi. Kana zvirizvo, verenga izvi zvinyorwa zviviri: Zvinonyadzisira, Ruzivo uye Chiitiko cheColid uye Zvinonyadzisira Zvino uye Zvino: Kugamuchirwa kuBrain Training. Zvinonyadzisira, zviri mukati maro, nzira yainounzwa nayo, uye mhedzisiro yayo pauropi zvachinja zvakanyanya. Kune vashandisi vanhasi, yakawanda orgasm inogona kutungamira kune kugutsikana kuduku.
Uropi hwevechidiki hunopesana nehukuru hwevanhu
Patakachera mukati uropi hutsvakurudzo pamakore ekuyaruka, isu takashamisika kuti ingano dzisina kunaka dzevechidiki. Kuchinja kwakanyanya muhutano hwepabonde kwakavabata zvakaoma. Pano pane hutambudzi mana hunosiyana nehutano hwevechiri kuyaruka:
1. Yakanyanya kusimba "Enda undoitora!" zviratidzo
Iwo mubairo wedunhu ndiyo musimboti wezvose zvinotyaira (kusanganisira libido), manzwiro, kuda, kusada, kukurudzira ... uye kupindwa muropa. Mukuyaruka, mahormone ebonde anofambisa aya ekare kutenderera kuwindo rekusagadzikana, iro rinodzikira nekutanga makore makumi maviri. Semutori wenhau David Dobbs anotsanangura.
Isu tese tinoda zvinhu zvitsva uye zvinonakidza, asi hatimbozvikoshesa zvakanyanya kupfuura zvatinoita panguva yekuyaruka. Pano tinorova zvakakwirira mune izvo hunhu masayendisiti anodana kutsvaga kwekutsvaga: kuvhima kweiyo neural buzz, iyo jolt yezvisina kujairika kana zvisingatarisirwe. … Urwu rudo rwekunakidza runokwira pazera rekupfuura zera gumi neshanu.
Kunzwisisa kwehuropi kune dopamine, iyo "Wazvitora!" neurochemical crests, iyo inotsvagisa kutsvaga kutsva, inodarika kutonga kwevakuru, uye inobatsira kusimbisa kudzidza uye tsika.
Ichokwadi, ubongo hwemakore hunopindura kune chero chinhu chingaonekwa sechinonakidza nacho kaviri kusvika kane mubairo-kutenderera kushandiswa kwevanhu vakuru vanovonga kuwedzera kwekuita dopamine senitivity uye zvipuka zvakakura zve dopamine. Zvose zvitsva uye kutsvaga / kutsvaga spike dopamine in zvose huropi hwevanhu, asi cyber erotica mikana isingaperi inoratidza hunhu husingadzivisike kune vechidiki vazhinji.
Nguva yokutanga ndakatarisa kune vaya vaipisa mifananidzo iyo manzwiro akaita seasingabvi munyika ino, zvisingakanganisiki. Nenguva isipi ndakaziva kuti pane chimwe chinhu chakanakira kuraramira, chimwe chinhu chose chaingova chinotyisa, hupenyu hwezuva nezuva. Ndakatizira kune izvi zvinodhaka: zvinonyadzisira uye bonhora. Zvaisava zvisingaiti kutarisa zvinonyadzisira kwamaawa masikati.
"Hazvina musoro?" Ehe. Vechidiki vanowanzo kunyoresa kumutsa zvepabonde, uye kumwe kukwirira, se kutenderera, zviitiko zvisingakanganwiki. kuti ndosaka iwe uchiri kugona kuyeuka iyo inopenya ruzivo rweiyo yekutanga nzvimbo yepakati. Asi pane humwe humbowo hwe hypersensitivity kune zvinofadza. (Dzvanya chati kuti uwedzere.)
Maiwe, kusaziva kwavo kwakakura kwekupa mubairo kunobva kwaita vechidiki zvakanyanya kukurumidza kupindwa muropa kupfuura kana vakasangana nekunakidzwa kwakadai gare gare muhupenyu.
2. Kupera kunzwisisika kune aversion
Takapedza Chishanu manheru tichiridza "World of Warcraft" kusvika 4AM, ndichigeza zvimedu zvisere zve pizza uye bhegi reDorritos ine matanhatu-pack yeMountain Dew, gamba redu rakagadzirira kuzviita zvese zvakare kuuya Mugovera manheru. Kutsvagurudza kunoratidza kuti vechidiki vari zvishoma nezvishoma nezviratidzo zvekuwedzera. Kuvhiringidza mubairo-kutenderera basa, uye vechidiki vanogona kubata mamwe maji vasati vasati vafuratira
Zishamisika kuti nei Slasher + Teens (kurara)2 = Bhokisi rezhizha-Office Hit? Zvose zvinouya kune zvishamiso zve uropi. Ndosaka mifananidzo yezvinonyadzisira iyo vanhu vakuru vanovhunduka, "eeeew," kana mhirizhonga, inonyoresa seinonakidza zvisina kujairika kune vechidiki. Uyewo chengetedza mupfungwa kuti vechidiki havakwanisi kutora mamwe manzwiro evanhu kufunga (kunyange vatambi vezvakaipa).
Pandakanga ndiri 14/15 ndakasangana ne [transexual] porn ndichitarisa paInternet. Ndichiri kurangarira hwakajeka hunhu hwechiziviso. Chimwe chinhu chakangobvaruka muhuropi hwangu hwepascent. Zvese zvakatwasuka uye zvevabonde zvevabonde zvandakanga ndamboona kwemakore akati wandei zvaiita kunge zvakajairika. Hana yangu yakatanga kurova. Musoro wangu wairovera, uye kutya kubatwa… kwete kungoona zvinonyadzisira, asi kutarisa izvo vamwe vangatarise kwete chaizvo 100% yakanangana ne porno… zvakaita kuti zviwedzere kuyeukwa. Nhasi ndarangarira ndichichema ndapedza. Ndakanga ndisingazivi chakauya pandiri. Ndakavhunduka zvekuti ndaida kumonera bhora mubedroom mangu. Asi handina kumira kuitarisa. Ndakanga ndichiri kukwezva vasikana, asi ne [transexual] porn, ndaigona orgasm nekukurumidza.
3. “Usamira!” zviratidzo
Mahormone ebonde anotanga kuyaruka kwevechidiki kumafaro zvinosuwisa havaite chero chinhu kukurumidzira kuvandudza kwenzvimbo yavo yekuzvidzora nzvimbo. Uropi hwevechidiki hwakafanana nemotokari nyowani ine injini yeFerrari uye mabhureki eFord Pinto.
Panguva yekuyaruka, anonyanya kuita "accelerator" anouya online: yehuropi yekunzwa-inokurudzira mashandiro, kana mubairo wedunhu, iri pazasi pemusoro wecortex. It inokunda “mabhureki, ”Uropi" CEO "kana prefrontal cortex muhuma, iyo isingazokure zvakakwana kwemakore gumi. Iyo yekupedzisira inoongorora njodzi, inofunga kumberi, inosarudza zvakakosha, inogovera kutarisisa uye kudzora zvishuwo.
Panguva iyi, vechidiki vanowanzogadzirisa zvisarudzo zvavo pavari mafungiro emweya zvinopesana nekufunga kana kuronga. Gare gare, sezvo prefrontal cortex ichikura, pachave neashoma "Handifunge kuti akazviita" nguva. Vechidiki vanoita kutonga kwakanaka uye vanoteedzera mamiriro, kuronga uye kurangarira zvinobudirira.
Panguva ino, vechidiki vane dambudziko rekuona mhedzisiro "yekuzvienda." Zvakare, iyi haisi tsaona. Daredevil tendencies panguva yekuyaruka shandira mhando dzinofanira kutora njodzi kuti dzizvibudire dzoga kana kuwana vakwanyina. Panyaya yevechiri kuyaruka vanhu, shanduko haina kungova nenguva yekujairira kune njodzi dzekutandara zvinodhaka, mota dzinomhanya, kana kunyanyisa kushandisa chikafu chisina kudya, kutamba pamhepo kana porn yeInternet Ndosaka tiine maDarwin Awards.
4. Kunyanya kuchekerera mukuyaruka
Zvakanaka, pakati pemakore e10 ne13, a nguva inokosha yekukura, isu vanhu tinoratidzirwa kuhutano hwakanaka hwepabonde. Tinodzidza kutamba uye kufambidzana nevanobatsirana. Izvi zvakakosha nokuti munguva yehucheche hupfungwa hwedu hunozviitira ivo pachavo kuita mabasa edu akajairika uye mafungiro anoita zvakanyanya. Kuti tiite izvi, ubongo hwedu hunopedza zvachose kushandiswa kwevashandisi neural, pamwe nekusimbisa vamwe.
Hakushamisi kuti chinjo dzemirangariro chiri chiratidzo chehuduku! Pamwe chete, majini uye nharaunda zvinoratidzira ivhu remukomana wepamberi cortex. Sekushandisa-iyo-kana-kurasikirwa-iko kunoenderera, iyo huropi inozvirongedza zvakare uye yakanaka-tunes pachayo:
Irotex inogadzira kure masuduku maduku akashandiswa, asi ichisimbisa zvakanaka yakazara neural pathways. Nerve cell axons mumigwagwa inofanirwa kuve yakanyatsochengetedzwa ne myelin, kuwedzera kukurumidza kwemaitiro emagunha. Matavi maduku anogamuchira mazita (anonzi dendrites) anokura semiti yemizambiringa kuti vanzwe zviri nani chiratidzo chinouya. Kubatana pakati pexons uye dendrite (synapses) kuwedzera pamatunhu akaoma uye kuparara kune vasina simba. Pakupedzisira Iwe unorangarira, unyanzvi, tsika, zvaunofarira uye nzira dzekutarisana izvo zvinomira muedzo wenguva. (ibid., Dobbs, kusimbiswa kuwedzera)
Mumashoko mashoma anokonzera, tinorega zvatinosarudza-tisingaone kuti zvisarudzo zvedu zvakakosha zvakadini munguva yedu yokupedzisira, yepasescent, neuronal kukura. Maererano nemutsvakurudzi Jay Giedd, (Ona iyi hurukuro - Teenage Brain: Dr. Jay Giedd weNational Institute of Mental Health naJay Giedd)
Kana wechidiki ari kuita mimhanzi kana mitambo kana vadzidzi, iwo maseru uye nekubatana kunozove kwakaomeswa. Kana vakarara pasofa kana vachitamba mitambo yemavhidhiyo kana MTV [kana zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet], ndiwo maseru nekubatana kuri kuzorarama.
Ichi ndicho chimwe chikonzero nei mapurisa achibvunza vechidiki kuti kushandisa zvinonyadzisira zvepaIndaneti kuri kuvakanganisa sei hazvigone kuratidza huwandu hwemhedzisiro. Vana vasina kumbobonyora vasina porn havazive kuti zviri kuvabata sei. (Zvakafanana nekuvabvunza kuti, "Kuva murume kwakakukanganisa sei?") Havana kana chekuenzanisa nacho. Ramba uchifunga kuti vashandisi vekare vezvinonyadzisira havawanzo batanidza zviratidzo zvavo zvine chekuita nezvepabonde nekushandisa zvinonyadzisa - kunyangwe pavanokura Kuita zvinonyadzisira kunokonzerwa nepabonde (PISD). Zvinonyadzisa zvinogara zvichiratidzika se "mushonga," nekuti kunyangwe kana vasingakwanise kuzviwana pabonde, vanowanzozvikwidza kana vakatarisa zvinonyadzisa zvakakwana. Tinogona here kutarisira vechidiki kuti vazvizive?
Dambudziko rakafanana nekuvabvunza nezve zvinokanganisa porn pamood. Vashandisi vanogara "vachinzwa zvirinani" kana vachishandisa, kunyangwe kana vachinyanya kushandisa, iyo zvakanyanya kuipa vanonzwa zvakakwana. Saka nei zvinonyadzisira zvichionekwa sechinetso? Uyezve, kana vashandisi vachiedza kurega, dzimwe nguva vanotarisana nemavhiki ekukurumidza kurega zviratidzo, saka kushandiswa kwekushandisa kunogona kukanganisa dambudziko pane nzvimbo.
Chokwadi ndechekuti, vazhinji vanorema vashandisi vanoenda kunorovera kumadziro kubva pane zvakawandisa, usadaro kusvika makumi maviri-inguva inguva iyo yavo mibairo yedunhu yadzora yayo hypersensitivity. Semuenzaniso, nekukura, dopamine receptors mumubairo wedunhu zvishoma nezvishoma anoderera ne chechitatu kana hafu. Zvino, mafaro haasi sekufadza, uye mhedzisiro yekuwedzeredza iri kunetsa. Kana tsoka yemasikirwo yabva pamubhadharo wekuwedzera, inguva yekuti muvhimi-muunganidzi agare pasi nekurera vamwe vadiki.
Hapana shiri kana nenyuchi, kungova mapikisi chete please
Panguva iyi, uropi hwevechiri kuyaruka yakakora kuti ive dutu rakakwana sekuvhima kunotungamirwa kwemajini kwehutsva uye zvisingatarisirwi zvinowirirana neyakareba eerotica yeInternet. Hypnotic Web-surfing - isingade kuedza asi kutsveta uye kupera - inotsiva kusiya dzinza rako kutsvaga savanna kune vakaroora vakaorera.
Pandakanga ndiri 18, ndakaita bonde kekutanga. Paakati "ave pasi pese", ndakamhanyira kuchitoro chepedyo kunotora makondomu senge ndaive naMudzingiriri achindidzinganisa. Mushure mechiitiko ichi, pfungwa dzangu dzaive, “Hmm… hazvina kumbonzwa zvakanyanya kusiyana nekuita bonhora, uye zvaitoda gehena rebasa rakawanda! Meh, ndichaomerera kune zvinonyadzisira uye handinetse nemusikana. ”
Mumwe mukomana akapindura,
Mifungo yangu ZVAKANAKA. Kungorwadziwa kumashure, kushushikana kwemhasuru, kufema, ziya uye kugadzikana kwekuita. ZVIMWE zvishoma kushushikana kwekungobvarura imwe chete, uyezve iwe une yako 'Iron Fist' iyo inokuita kuti ubve uri nani pane iro chairo nyinyo. Kwete izvozvo chete, iwe unogara uchiwana 'yakanaka kuona' ne 'porn musikana.' Iwe unogona kuona ese akanaka marara emuviri mumwenje wakakwana, mazamu n 'butts n' zvidya zvinotaridzika kubwinya, uye * zvinogara zvichioneka. Muhupenyu chaihwo izvo hazviwanzo kuitika. Kekutanga nguva pandakaita, handina kunyatsonakidzwa nazvo (kunyangwe isu tese takauya zvakawanda). Yangu nguva yekutanga yaifanira kunge yakanzwa seKUKUNDA, kupihwa kuti 'yakabudirira' yaive, asi zvakanzwa zvikaitika. Yaiva panguva iyo NDAKADYA pane imwe nguva pane chimwe chinhu tad chakaipa. Kuita zvepabonde mupfungwa dzangu * nguva dzose kwaiita sechinhu chakanaka uye chinonakidza. Iko * zvepabonde chaiye zvandakanga ndiine zvikurukuru mune zvemabhizimisi uye zvisingaiti. Kwete zvakanaka.
Vechidiki vemazuva ano dzimwe nguva vanomhanyisa kumutsa kwavo kuona zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet zvisingaenzaniswi, zvekuita kwenguva yakareba semakore gumi vasati vayedza kubatana nevavanobatana navo. (Ona mapeji e kuzvidzora Zvekushandisa zvinonyadzisira zvevechiri kuyaruka.) Mamiriro acho akanyanya kutyisidzira kana wechidiki achitsvaga mhosva dzejollies zvakatungamira kune kwakanyanya huropi shanduko, kureva, kujairira. Zvakare, vechidiki vari zvimwe vanogona kutengesa kudhakwa kupfuura vanhu vakuru, zvichienderana nehuwandu hwemigumisiro yechipatara uye chekuita mutungamiri mukuru.
Dambudziko rekutambudzika
Zvinotonyanya kukosha, kana achisungirirwa kuvharo rake (s), mukomana wechidiki ndiye kwete kudzidza kugona kudanana. Saizvozvo, haasi kushandisa nguva kutarisana nevanozobvira vavakaroorana naye - izvo zvinhu zvakaitikawo kwekuyaruka kweanamai. Uropi hwake kwete wingano yake yepabonde nekudanana, pheromones kana vatatu vatatu vakaroorana vane zviyero zvakaenzana vachiita kuenzanisa. Mumazuva akapfuura, varume vechiduku vane manyawi vakagumburwa kuburikidza ne-ne-ku-one, vanilla zvepabonde kwenguva shomanana vasati vadzidza ku kama sutra. Iye zvino, mhandara yekare yeC17 inotarisa nguva yake yekutanga nerudo rwake rwekutanga sekubatanidza shamwari dzake mbiri, zvishongo zvepamberi, gumbo-gear uye yakawanda yehube.
Uyewo hero yedu isingakwanisi kutsanangurira munhu anonakidza mune ramangwana rake rinoratidzika kusashaya kwake, fading wake erection uye kondomu inokanganisa, kana kukanganisa kwake kuedza kuramba akaoma nekufungidzira pamusoro kutarisa mumwe munhu pabonde. Haana zano rekuti sei asiri kupindura, kana maitiro ekugadzirisa izvo zvakakanganisika. Kana vezera rakewo.
Ndinotya chaizvo kuti sezvo huropi hwangu hwese hwunoona kutarisa zvinonyadzisira (izvi ndizvo chete kusangana kwepabonde kwandakamboita, uye ese ari maviri akakundikana kuzere) kuti ndakanganisa huropi hwangu soooooo zvakanyanya zvekuti handimbofi ndakava nani. Ndiri kureva, zvese zvandinosangana nazvo pabonde kubva pahudiki hwangu zvinobva pa porn. Kwemakore akaomarara kupfuura ese ehupenyu hwangu, ini ndangove ndakasangana ne porn. Ndihwo chete huropi hwangu hunoziva. Ndichazombokwanisa kuzvikwidza nemukadzi akajairika? Ndichazombokwezva kune mukadzi chaiye sezvandiri kune iwo mapikisheni pakombuta? Ndiri kutya chaizvo kuti ndakazvikanganisa pachangu zvachose. Ndinogona kuchinja here?
Maiwe, vazhinji vavakaroorana vakavhiringidzika kana kukuvadzwa zvekutenderera munzvimbo dzakadai dzinoodza moyo. Kukonzera kuita kunetsekana kunoita kuti mamiriro egamba redu awedzere. Izvi zvinogona kutsanangura kuti nei makumi matatu neshanu muzana evadiki vechidiki vechiJapan uye makumi maviri muzana evadiki vechiFrench vane hapana chido kune vechokwadi? Kana kuti nei kuzvidzora kuri muZimbabwe iri kuwedzera?
Nhasi, ane makore gumi nematatu ezvepabonde nzira dzakarongedzwa ne hardcore porn, akawanda windows, uye kugara uchingobaya. Mukupesana, baba vakakura kuna Sally panext door uye nekufungidzira kwavo kwakaorera. Pakutanga, isu takashamisika kuona vamwe vakura vepabonde vakapindwa muropa vachipora kubva kuPISD (porn-inosimudzira kusagadzikana pabonde) nekukurumidza kupfuura vadiki. Imhaka here yekuti makumi matatu- nemakumi mana-mamwe mazuva akange akasimbisa nzira dzehuropi zvine chekuita nekubatana nevadikani chaivo kubva pamazuva epamberi peInternet? Ndokumbira utarise ino yaGunyana 13 hurukuro yeTEDx nemurume wechidiki anoda imwe nguva uye kudzidza / rewiring kukurira porn-inosimudzira ED uye anorgasmia:
Nhau dzakanaka ndedzekuti uropi hunochengeta imwe plastiki kunyangwe mushure memakore ekuyaruka. Kana mukomana akamira kushandisa zvekuita zvepabonde (kana kufungidzira kwavari) kwemwedzi 2-3, huropi hwake hwekuwanazve mubairo wedunhu anotanga 'kutarisa-tarisa' kune zvepabonde izvo zvakashanduka kuti zviwane. Mushure mezvose, kukosha kwayo kwepamusoro kuri kupfuudza magene, saka inoda chiito. Zvishoma nezvishoma inowanisa iyo neuronal matunhu echisikigo cues zvakanyanya kusimba kune iyo uropi nzvimbo yekunakidzwa. Musikana wepamba apa anotaridzika kunge anonakidza.
Akati mukomana wemakore 21 wemakore matatu apedza kurega zvinonyadzisira / bonhora:
Ndinoyeuka ndichitaura kumusikana wangu, mukati memazuva angu akaipisisa ekushandisa zvinonyadzisira uye zvine chekuita nezvepabonde zvine chekuita nezvepabonde, izvo zvaisanzwika sekunge ndakaita bonde izvozvi. Iye aisanyatsonzwisisa, uye ini handina kukwanisa kuzvitsanangura. Asi nezuro husiku, OMG yakanzwa yakanaka kwazvo. Ini ndainzwa zvese, uye zvaive zvakanaka. Iko kunzwisisika kwepenile kwakawedzera mitoro. Kwenguva yekutanga muhupenyu hwangu, zvinoita sekunge ndarasikirwa nehumhandara hwangu.
Mumwe mukomana:
[Makumi makumi maviri okutanga] Zuva 43 ikozvino, ndiri kunyatsoona musikana sechikonzero chekumutsa kwangu zvino, pane kumuona semufananidzo wandinogona kuchengeta yekushandiswa kwekupedzisira. Ndiri kuona musikana anopisa izvozvi uye ndofunga 'Ndo zvandiri kuda', uye edza kutora matanho ekusangana naye. Kwave kuri kupota zvishoma nezvishoma kweswitch. Ini ndingangoita 90% ipapo, asi ndinogona kurangarira ndiri 10%, 20% nezvimwe.
nhasi, muvhareji vaduku vekuMadokero vane feverishly kurima neuronal connections pakati pemarudzi ese einternet porn uye yavo yekuita zvepabonde. Hatichakwanise kutora sezvisina basa kuti kuyaruka kwevechidiki kunomuka kubva kune chimwe chisingazivikanwe, chega, chisingachinjiki, chepamoyo kuzivikanwa. Kutenda kuhuropi hwevechiri kuyaruka kutsvaga kusingaperi kweanodzora muridzi wayo anogara aripo kufinhwa, vamwe vechidiki vanokwanisa kuita tambo mune zvido zvepabonde izvo zvinoita kuti vasave nechokwadi zvakakosha zvepabonde.
A few caveats
Kuyaruka inguva yakasarudzika yekukura kwehuropi. Munzvimbo chaiyo, inoshanda zvakanyanya uye inochinja. Hazvina mhosva kuti vavhimi-vanounganidza vechidiki vanga vachitsvaga mafaro, ivo vaivewo sevano tyaira mota. Vakanga vaine mikana mishoma yekutaurisa kupindura kwavo pabonde kune chero chinhu chinopfuura hotti dzepedyo.
Uropi hwevana vanhasi vanodawo zvakaenzana, asi ivo vanofadzwa neasina kusimba erotica inosundira mabhatani avo ese: kuda kwechinhu chitsva, kunakidzwa nezvinhu zvinovhundutsa, mukana wekukunda kugarika kwese, uye kuda kurairwa kwepabonde ne "mukuru" cachet.
Vakuru vanowanzo funga kuti kushandisa zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet hakukuvadze nekuti "porn yanga iriko kwenguva yakareba." Asi vangani varume vakaberekwa, taura, mu1960 vakatanga zuva nezuva porn vanoshandisa circa 1973? Kunyanya iyo yakaoma-musimboti, isingaperi rungano zvinonyadzisira zviripo iye zvino?
Vana vanhasi havagone kuzvimisa pachavo:
Kwemakore, kunge kubvira ini ndaive nemakore 11-makore, ndanga ndichitarisa pazvinonyadzisira nekuita bonhora. Ini handikwanise kuramba uye ndinozviita zvakawandisa izvozvi. Ndinoda kuzvimisa izvozvi. Ndine makore gumi nemashanu uye ndinoda kuzvimisa nekuti ndinofunga zviri kukanganisa hupenyu hwangu hwemagariro, hukama, uye mamakisi echikoro. Ndomira sei?
Vakuru zvakare vanowanzo funga kuti vana vanozozvisiya zvavo zvisingaite maitiro mushure mekukura. Chokwadi, zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti vekoreji-zera vana vanoita kunge vanodarika kunwa doro, kushandisa hari, nezvimwe. Zvisinei, zvepaInternet tsika dzinogona kuratidza kunge dzakasiyana. Vechidiki vechidiki vanobuda mukushandisa zvinodhaka vakatanga zvavo kunwa / poto kushandiswa kwezuva pazera remakore gumi nerimwe.
[Zera 35] Pandaive mumakore ekuyaruka uye amai vangu vaienda nesu kuraibhurari, ndaienda kunotsvaga inovaraidza. Kungotaura / kurondedzerwa kwemukadzi kwaizoita kuti ndiende. Mwari, ndinoshuva sei mazuva iwayo zvakare LOL. Nhasi, iwe unogona kuwana 'maxed kunze' pane porn. Mumatanho ekutanga zvaive zvitsva uye zvakaoma kubata. Kwemakore mashoma apfuura, porn inogara iri papombi. Iye zvino chave kudikanwa pane kungofadza / mubairo. Zvinosuruvarisa sei izvozvo? Handina hunhu hunopesana nehupombwe. Muchokwadi zvakapesana chaizvo, asi kana iwe wasvika kudunhu rangu, haisisiri yakanaka, ingori hombe yakaipa. Hombe huru, yakakora yakakomberedza mutsipa wangu.
Rangarira, kudzidza kunwa doro kana kukwirisa hakusi iko kwekufunga kwekushanduka kwekukosha kwehuropi; kubereka ndiko. Maitiro echikafu anogona kunge ari fananidzo iri nani. Vane makore makumi maviri nemaviri vane makore vanongoerekana vachinja avo avanogara echikafu? Zvino izvo zvisingavaki zvekudya zviri kwese kwese, 22 kubva pavanhu vakuru vashanu vekuAmerican vakafuta. Inenge hafu yeavo vakafutisa (kureva., Yakasungirirwa pachikafu). Ivo vanochinja zvavanofarira zvebonde zvakadzika? Pamwe kwete kunze kwekunge varova madziro ePISD.
Yenguva refu-yakaitika
Zviripachena, kutarisa Internet zvinonyadzisira kubva paudiki hazvireve kuti mushandisi anozopedzisira atsauka. Kana kuita zvepabonde zvakanyanya, kana kuita zvechisimba kune vamwe vako. Kunyangwe vamwe vangatenda kuti zvakajairika kune vepabonde kunakidzwa ne "kumeso" ivo vachinge vaine chidimbu chese chakazadzwa nezvinhu. Zvinosuruvarisa, zvakadaro, muzana revashandisi vanozopedzisira vapindwa muropa. Uye iyo muzana inogona kunge iri yepamusoro kupfuura isu tichifunga, kupihwa mwero weInternet kupindwa muropa kuri kutokanganisa vechidiki. Iwo mareti ari 6-18%, zvinoenderana nekuti Italy, China kana Hungary vakaita ongororo.
Kune vakawanda, kukanganisa kunokonzerwa nekuremara kweIndaneti kushandiswa kwepabonde kunogona kuenzaniswa nemigumisiro painternet gamers. Kushandiswa kwemashoko kunokanganisa uropi ne chido chekukurudzira zvikuru (kunze kwekuti inonzwisisika inodzorerwa kunzwiro yakakwana). Mamwe mabasa anoita seanosemesa kana achienzanisa. Muhurukuro iyi shoma yeTED, Dhemise yeVakomana? nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Philip Zimbardo anorondedzera migumisiro yakaipa ye "kupindwa muropa" kwakapararira.
Izvozvo zvinokanganisa ukama. Constant novelty ndechimwe chezvikonzero zvinokosha zveIndaneti zvinonyadzisira zvepfungwa. Kudzidzisa kwakanaka kunovimbiswa novelty se aphrodisiac inogona kutarisa vashandisi zvakadai kuti shamwari dzinowanzokurumidze kurasikirwa nekunaka-kuvhara vashandisi vanobatwa kusvika zvisina kufanira-kutengesa. Uyewo, izvo zvisingagumi pakuona zvepabonde (ganda-ku-ganda kumeso, kutsvoda, kunyaradza kunonyaradza, kutamba mitambo, nezvimwewo) zvingave zvakare zvisingazivikanwi uye zvisinganzwisisiki kuti zvinyore sezvakanaka zvinopa mubayiro. Zvinosuruvarisa, izvi ndizvo zviito zvakanyanya zvinoderedza uropi uye rubatsiro vakaroorana vanosimbisa zvisungo zvavo.
Mukomana wekutanga - Zvichida ndiko kusununguka uye kunyaradzwa kwekungogara pamberi pekombuta yangu ndichirovera kumifananidzo yandisingafanire kufadza. Ini ndinogona kuenda neangu matanho uye ndisingafanire kunetseka nezvawo. Kuva nemusikana chaiye pamubhedha wangu kunoita kundivhiringidza.
Mukomana wechipiri - ini handishandise zvinonyadzisira, asi ndichifamba nenhoroondo yangu yemifananidzo, ndinoona kuti dzimwe nguva ndinotarisa zviuru zvemifananidzo muawa. Ndiri kutsvaga musikana chaiye kana mufananidzo uyo [unondiendesa kumagumo]. Zvinonyadzisira hazvisi izvo zvinokanganisa kupindura kwangu kwepabonde; Ini ndinofunga yangu hombe Internet harem iri.
Brain plasticity education
Pamwe hapana munhu anofanirwa kusunungurwa papuraneti nhasi asina dzidzo yakakwana nezve iyo muropi mubairo wedunhu uye ayo rakasiyana nehutachiwana munguva yehucheche. Ndipo painoputirwa nechikafu chisina kudya, zvinodhaka, mitambo yemavhidhiyo, ma-Phones uye online eerotica. Wadii kudzidzisa vana sainzi yakareruka kuseri kwezviitiko zvinokonzeresa zvakanyanya pahuropi? (Tarisai Zvinhu Zvawaisaziva Nezve Zvinonyadzisira, nokuda kwezvinogona kugadzirisa mazano akakodzera kuZ10-13 ane makore emakore.)
Nhasi, vechidiki vanogona (uye kuita) waya kukwiridzira uropi hwavo kune zvisina kujairika eicotic caricature izvo madzitateguru avo vasina kumbofungidzira, ndoda kutariswa zvakaringana kwemakore vasati varoora. Vashandisi vanogona kuziva kuti porno yekatuni 2-D zvinokatyamadza zvinoita kunge zvisiri zvechokwadi saSanta. Asi avo vasingazive tambo kugona kwavo kusvika kumagumo kune gonzo porn madingindira dzimwe nguva vanotyiswa. Vazhinji vanotya kukumbira rubatsiro nekuti vanofunga kuti ndevatsauki vasina tariro. Vamwe vanotozviuraya.
Vanopa mazano vasinganzwisise musiyano uripo pakati peakakosha maitiro ezvepabonde uye zvakajairika kuwanikwa, mapurasitiki kuravira kunogona kuwedzera angst yevechiri kuyaruka. Zvinosuruvarisa, vashoma nyanzvi vachiri kuziva zvakakwana nezve huropi hwepurasitiki kubatsira vana rewire, izvo zvinoguma mune zvimwe sorry zano. (ona - Vechiduku Vanoshushikana Vanoshanda Vanoda Nguva Yakakura Kuti Vapezve Mojo yavo)
Sezvo uhu hunopararira huchazotanga kutangira wiring upano hwepabonde chero zvakadaro, kupa vana chokwadi nehuwandu hwemashoko arikutsvaga-pasina zviitiko zvisingaoneki vanoita zvevhisi vanofanirwa kuvimba kuti vaseke vatariri vane uropi akakura zvishoma kuti vanyengere zvepabonde. Dzidzisai vana musiyano pakati pepabonde nekuda zvepabonde, uye kuti vaviri vacho vanogona sei kubvumirana nekugadzirisa kushandiswa kwakanyanya. Uyewo, vadzidzise maitiro-zvinodhaka zviratidzo kutarisa, uye nzira yekudzosera izvo zvinoshanduka.
[Zera 17 rakasvika nemasimba asina kusimba, uye richiri kuratidza mashoma zviratidzo zvehutano hweErectile paZuva 50 risina porn / bonhora] Zuva 76: Kunzwa wakakura, uchifara uye uine simba uye nzira yakawanda libido. Muti wangu wemangwanani mangwanani ano wainge usina musoro-zvaisazoenda pasi semaminetsi makumi maviri kunyangwe kusimuka! Ndiri kuzopa mazuva makumi mapfumbamwe saka ndazoita mwedzi mitatu izere uye ndinofanira kunge ndadzoka zvachose uye ndagadzirira kuedza kutsvaga mumwe wako. Saka kurerukirwa izvi zvinoshanda.
Ndiri 27 uye ini ndine sainzi uye dzidzo yezvokurapa, uye ndinotenda zvakasimba kuti huropi-hwepurasitiki hwekuona nezve porno dzepaInternet zvinoda kubuda kunze uko. Tiri kurasikirwa nemukana wekudzidzisa varume vechidiki vari kutambura nezvinetso zvemuviri mukati mehuropi hwavo. Chaizvoizvo, ndinoshuva dai ndakanga ndadzidza nezve izvi makore gumi nemashanu apfuura.
PAMUSORO YEMAGWARO
Iyi posvo inotora kukosha kwekuti nei Johnny asingafanire kushandisa porn panguva yekuyaruka
Ndakatanga kubatikana pa15 uye ini ndakatanga kuona zvinonyadzisira kuma 16.
Ndanga ndichizviona uye ndichizvimhanyisa kubva kwazviri kana zvishoma zvishoma kubva ipapo, kweanopfuura makore manomwe.
Makore mashoma akapfuura ndakaedza / r / nofap rakanaka obsessively, ipapo ndakawana / r / pornfree ndikaona kuti ndiyo yaive yakanyanya kukosha nyaya; mushure meizvozvo, ndakave anopesana nekuona zvinonyadzisira, ndichiri kutadza kubvongodza tsika iyi - kunyangwe yakachena yakatambanuka yemwedzi mitanhatu, ini nguva dzose, zvisingaite, ndakaguma kudzoka.
Kwenguva refu, kusvika kure muhupenyu hwangu hwevanhu vakuru, ini ndaiona se / r / foreveralone, uye inenge i / r / incel, asi kwete kune ayo akanyanya. Kusanganiswa kwekushushikana munharaunda, kushungurudzika uye kwakanyanya kuzvishingisa uye kuzvishingisa nyaya zvakaguma mukati mangu ndiri mumwe akasurukirwa kwazvo, kutya, kuzvinyudza, kugumbuka, godo, uye dzimwe nguva kuzvikuvadza wechidiki mukuru.
Icho chaive hupenyu hwangu, icho chaiva chimiro changu, uye ndicho chaicho chandaizova kusvikira zuva randakafa, zvichida mukati memakore mashanu kana mashanu akatevera apo ini pakupedzisira ndaizoshinga ushingi hwekuzviuraya ini nekukurumidza kukurumidza kwechigamba, panzvimbo yenzira inononoka yekunwa uye kuzvidzora uye nekuramba kuzvitarisira ini.
Zvadaro mwedzi mitatu yapfuura, pasina kana, musikana uyu akaratidza muupenyu hwangu uyo akachinja zvinhu zvose.
Ini zvino ndirapwa kaviri pasvondo, ndiri kudzidza kuda uye kuzvigamuchira, ndine hupenyu hwemagariro, uye ndine chokwadi chekuti ndiri kudanana nemukadzi uyu. Ane makore gumi nemaviri kupfuura ini asi haaratidzike sezvaari. Anoita mudiki, anotaridzika kunge mudiki. Uye iye akandiudza ini ndinotarisa uye ndinoita sekure kupfuura vakomana vazhinji vezera rangu. Isu takava shamwari nekukasira uye nekukasira takava vanobatana neakadzika kwazvo pamoyo chisungo. Isu tese tanga tiri kuburikidza neimwe shit uye isu tese takadzidza kubata nayo nenzira dzakasiyana. Akandiratidza kuti ndanga ndichiita hupenyu zvisirizvo uye kuti kurarama KUNOGONA kuve chiitiko chakazara chizere nemufaro, kushamisika, kuvhiringidzika, mufaro, uye dzimwe nguva asi zvinodzivirirwa kurwadziwa uye kutambura. Handichadi kufa. Ini ndoda kurarama, uye ndinoda kuona hupenyu naye.
Asi hunhu hwekare uhwo hwandakazvivakira pamusoro pemakore… hazvina kuenda. Ichiripo, uye iri kundidya. Handidi kutsanangurira imi vakomana kuti porn yakakwidza sei huropi hwangu, mushure mekunyimwa hukama hwepedyo uye kusangana panyama kwemakore ekutanga e23 ehupenyu hwangu, nekuti mese munoziva mashandiro ainoita. Ini ndaiziva, zvakadzika pasi, kuti zvaivhiringidza nemaonero angu, ndichizvikanganisa uye ndichizvimonyanisa zvakatenderedza kuita zvimiro zvisingazivikanwe, asi zvakatora pakupedzisira kurasikirwa noumhandara hwangu, kumunhu uyu ini ndinonyanya kufarira uye ndakwezva kwete kwete mumuviri chete, asi mupfungwa, kuti ndive nekuziva zvakakwana kuti hana yangu yakanganisa sei nemakore einternet porn.
Kunetseka kwangu kukuru pamusoro pokurasa v-kadhi yaive yekuti ndaizopedza nekukurumidza. Zvakapesana zvaive zvechokwadi. Ini handina kukwanisa kupedzisa, zvachose. Ndaifanira kuzviita ini pachangu. Aive akatonhorera nazvo, uye ainzwisisa, nekuti aiziva kuti kuenda wega ndokwandaive ndajaira, asi haazive kuti zvakadzika zvakadii. Ndiri kukwezva kwaari zvakajairika, kana akapfeka, asi kana mbatya dzabuda, chimwe chinhu chinoshanduka mumusoro mangu. Pakarepo ndinongoona kuti haasi mumwe wezviuru zvevasikana mune zvinonyadzisira vane miviri isingaite yakakwana, iye munhu chaiye. Uye ndinomuda. Ndinoda hunhu hwake, ndinomuda kunyemwerera, uye ndinoda mweya wake. Iye ane hanya zvakadzama nezvangu uye anogara achiti sei murudo neni iye ari, uye neniwo, kunze kwekukwezva kwomuviri chikamu.
Ini chaiko ndaisakwanisa kugara ndakamutswa panguva yebonde. Ndakagara ndakaomarara pasina dambudziko rakawanda, asi ini ndakanga ndisiri mazviri. Uye ini handina kunzwa chero chinhu. Kwete panguva yepabonde, kwete panguva yekubata maoko, kwete panguva yekutaura, asi panguva uye CHETE panguva yekuita bonhora. Yaifanirwa kuve INI, uye ruoko RWANGU, uye chii chakanyanya, kufunga KWANGU ndichiita basa rese. Kunyangwe zvaakaita kana kutaura, kunyangwe ndaimutarisa zvakadii uye ndichiedza kufunga neni, hapana chandaigona kunzwa. Ini ndanga ndichingo pfuura nemabatiro, ndisina kana kunzwa.
Ini ndakazopedzisa kupedzisa, kaviri, uye nguva mbiri idzi dzaive dzekuzvikurudzira, uye nguva dzese dzandakanga ndisiri naye nepfungwa, ndaive ndaenda kumwe kunhu, ndichichinja pakati pematebhu akavhurwa kubva kubhukumaka ndangariro, mifananidzo uye kuteedzana uye kurira kubva zvinotyisa hombe dhatabhesi yemapikisheni akapiswa muuropi hwangu. Ndiwo mabudiro andakaita. Ndaifanira kutarisa zvinonyadzisira mumusoro mangu.
Izvo zvinosvotwa.
Kune uyu mukadzi anoshamisa anoreva zvakawanda kwandiri kupfuura chero munhu kana chero chinhu chipi zvacho pasi rino, uyo akaponesa hupenyu hwangu nekuve chikamu chayo, uyo wandinoda pane yakadzika, ingangoita cosmic level, ndiko kusimba kwazvo. Ndiye shamwari yangu yepamwoyo uye ndinomuda uye ndinomusuwa sekondi yega yega ini handinaye. Asi pane ichi chisina kugadzikana chikamu chepamusoro chemusoro wangu chingangoda kubaya vamwe 100 vasikana pamusoro pake, vasikana vadiki uye vanoyevedza, vasikana vasina hanya neni, vasikana vandisina hanya navo. Zvichida imhaka yekuti ini handina kuwana mukana wekuti ndive nemumwe munhu, kana kuti ndiwane chero cheizvozvo, asi ndinochiva.
Ndicho chinhu chimwe chinoita kuti ndive nechokwadi chekuva naye, kuzvitsaurira kwaari uye iye chete. Ndichiri kunzwa senge mudiki ane horny ane mahomoni ane hasha anomedzera mate pamusoro pemukadzi wese anopisa waanoona, uye achida kuvaitira zvinhu zvese izvi, kinky uye dzimwe nguva zvinhu zvinoshoreka zvichibva pane zvandakaona- zvandakaona, ndisina kunzwa- mumakore nemakore makore ekuona porn. Zvese zvinoonekwa. Zvese izvi zvinhu zvinonditenderedza uye zvinoita kuti ndiende, izvi zvido chaizvo uye zvinokonzeresa zvinondiomesera uye kundibvisa, zvese zvinoratidzira zvinoonekwa. Hapana manzwiro akabatanidzwa, hapana kubata, hapana kunhuwa, hapana kuravira, hapana manzwiro. Kungoonekwa uye kurira, asi zvakanyanya zvinoonekwa Uye ndiyo nzira iyo huropi hwangu hwazvimonera pachahwo izvozvi.
Haisi zvachose maitiro andaifungidzira, pandinenge ndiri panguva yacho, ndichizviona zvechokwadi, hapana mufaro, hapana kumuka, hapana mufaro, kungo… kushaya basa, kushaya basa panofanirwa kunge paine chinhu chakakosha. Ndinonzwa ndakabatana uye ndinonyara neni pari zvino apo ini ndiri pakupedzisira kushandisa muviri wangu kuwana izvo zvandaida kwemakore, uye nzira chete yandinogona kugutsa zvido zvangu, senge ndanga ndiri kune apfuura 8 makore, kuzviita ku ini pachangu. Uye kana ndiri kure naye uye ndotanga kuchida, ndinoziva kwekuenda. Zvese ini zvandinofanira kuita kuvhura yangu laputopu, mumwe mudiwa anogara aripo kwandiri.
Kunyangwe kana pasina skrini pamberi pangu, mifananidzo yacho ichiripo. Ini ndinogona kuvasheedza uye kuvanyengedza pamadiro uye ndovashandisa kuzviitira cum, apo ini ndiri kutarisa musikana wangu mumaziso, paanenge achingova neni panguva iyoyo, uye ini ndaenda mune imwe isingazivikanwe imba yekurara yekurara kana kicheni kana chimbuzi nemumwe mukadzi wandisingazombosangana naye. Inonzwa kurwara kwandiri. Icho chaicho chinonzwa sekubiridzira. Ndakatarisa zvinonyadzisira maminitsi makumi matatu apfuura uye ndakabuda uye ndakasangana uye zvakanzwa zvinoshamisa uye zvisingabatsiri uye kushungurudzika mupfungwa nenzira yainoita nguva dzose, uye musikana wangu ari kunze kweguta kwemazuva mashoma anotevera, uye ndinopika kuna mwari, ndinonzwa se Ndave ndisina kutendeka kwaari. Ndinomuda nemoyo wangu wese, asi huropi hwangu hune chete maziso kune vamwe vese. Ndiri chidimbu cheshit munhu.
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Chechipiri, zvidzidzo zvishoma (zvisina kugadzirwa zvakanaka) zvinoratidza kuti zvinonyadzisira hazviite izvo zvaunotsanangura. Kana isu tikakwidza ako akakosha mapoinzi, vapikisi vanongonyora mashoma mashoma vezera-akaongororwa zvidzidzo kuramba aya mapoinzi.
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Mushure mekuverenga yako mhinduro, ini ndakaenda kune "psychology imprinting porn" uye kutanga kuverenga zvese kutsvagisa. Ini ndakafadzwa kuti ndivawane vachitaura izvo chaizvo zvinhu zvandataura, dzimwe nguva kunyangwe nemutauro mumwe chete. Handina chokwadi chekuparadzanisa mhedzisiro ye porn kubva pahunhu hwangu chaihwo kana mahormone. Ndiri kureva, munhu wese anoita zvakasiyana. Pandakatanga kuona zvinonyadzisira, zvaive zvakajeka kwandiri kuti izvo zvandanga ndichiona zvaive zvakaiswa. Asi zvinhu zvikafambira mberi, mutsetse uripakati pekuvakwa uye kwechokwadi bonde patepi wakatanga kusviba. Mamwe mavhidhiyo airatidzira vanhu vaive vakanyatsojeka kwete vatambi, asi zviri pachena kuti vaiziva kuti ivo vakanyorwa nemumwe munhu mumba.
Chikonzero nei zvinonyadzisira zvakandibata nenzira yakasiyana zvakasiyana nevamwe zvinoramba zvisingazivikanwi. Zvingave here zvine chekuita nenyaya yekuti vamwe vakomana vanotanga kuwira vasikana panguva imwe chete yavakatanga kuona porn? Izvi zvinopesana chero zvisizvo zvisirizvo zvavanazvo nezvebonde chairo. Zvichida vane hushoma hunhu, kana pamwe haufunge zvakadzama. Nei porn ichikochekera vamwe vakomana kwete ini? Mushure megore rangu rekupedzisira kukoreji, ini ndakangomira ndichitarisa pasina matambudziko. Handina kumbofanira kurega nesimba; Ini ndakangokura kubva pazviri.
Zvinosemesa ndezvekuti kana vana vachinyatsoda kuziva zvavanofanirwa "kunzwa" pavanenge vachida kudanana nemumwe munhu, vangave zvirinani pakuona mafirimu akaita se "Titanic," "Zvakanaka Kuda Kuvhima," kana "Forrest Svetuka. ” Zvinonyadzisa zvinokanganisa uye neimwe nzira zvinobvisa rudo rwusina kukodzera kusungirirwa nehupenyu chaihwo hwepabonde, hunowanikwa kana kwete.
Chimwe chinokonzeresa chinokonzera matambudziko ese aya nevanhurume vanoona zvinonyadzisira ndechekuti pane nguva yenguva muhupenyu hwemurume kana bonde RISIRI nezverudo, uko kumutswa kwaanonzwa hakuna rudo chero. Kunyangwe iye achifunga zvakadii nezve "rudo" haakwanise kumutswa. Iye anofanirwa kufungidzira chimwe chinhu chakatarwa uye visceral kuti amuke. Izvi zvinopokana pakati perudo nebonde hachisi chinhu chinotarisana nevakadzi, handifunge. Izvi zvinonditsanangurira kuti sei vakomana vasingawanzo kukura "kupwanya" zvakanyanya sezvinoita vasikana. Izvi zvinotsanangurawo kuti sei vakomana vachikwanisa kuita bonde zvisina kujairika kupfuura vakadzi, kana kuti nei vakomana vachigona kumutswa zviri nyore chete kubva pane zvinoonekwa, nepo vakadzi vachida rumwe rudzi rwekunzwa bepa nzira kusvika kumagumo.
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Ndangariro dzakanakisa? Iwe unogona kusarudza semuyaruka
Comments: Isu tinoumba zviyeuchidzo zvakasimba munguva yedu yekuyaruka
Chikunguru 20th, 2012 mu Psychology & Psychiatry
“Ndangariro yakanaka? Unogona kusarudza kunge uri kuyaruka. ” Chikunguru 20th, 2012. http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-07-memory-youre-teen.html
Kukurukurirana kwakazonzwa pabhazi kwakaita kuti ndikunetsere iwe
"Sexting" zvakare yakabatana kune njodzi pabonde pakati pevechidiki
"Sexting" zvakare yakabatana kune njodzi pabonde pakati pevechidiki
By Genevra Pittman
NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Mumwe wevanomwe vekuchikoro chesekondari cheLos Angeles ane nharembozha atumira meseji kana pikicha inotsanangurana nezvebonde, zvinoenderana nezvakabuda muongororo yakaitwa muna2011 yakawanawo "sexters" vangangoita zvine njodzi maitiro ebonde.
Muchidzidzo chitsva, vechidiki LA avo vakatumira mameseji eracy vaive nemikana yakapetwa kanomwe yekuita zvepabonde pane avo vakati havaizotumira mameseji
"Hapana munhu achazobatwa nechirwere chepabonde nekuti vari kutumira mameseji," akadaro Eric Rice, mutsvagurudzi webhusaiti kubva kuYunivhesiti yeSouthern California muLos Angeles, akatungamira chidzidzo chitsva ichi.
“Chataida kunyatsoziva ndechekuti, pane here hukama uripo pakati pekutumira mameseji ezvepabonde nekutora njodzi nemuviri wako? Uye mhinduro yacho inonzwisisika 'hongu,' ”akadaro Reuters Health.
Chidzidzo cheHouston, Texas, vanodzidza kuchikoro chesekondari muzhizha iyi yakawana imwe yevana vechidiki yakanga yatumira mufananidzo usina kupfeka ivo pachavo kuburikidza nemeseji yemeseji kana email, uye ivo vana vainyanyawo kuva nehupombwe hunotyisa. (Ona Reuters Health nhau yeJuly 2, 2012).
Zvakawanikwa nemupunga, zvakaburitswa Muvhuro mumagazini Pediatrics, zvakavakirwa pavadzidzi chiuru nemakumi mapfumbamwe nemakumi matatu nevapfumbamwe nevadzidzi vemuLos Angeles zvikoro zvepamusoro, vazhinji vacho vaive maLatino. Matatu-mana avo vaive nenharembozha yavaishandisa nguva zhinji.
Pane ongororo yakatsigirwa neCenters for Disease Control and Prevention, vangodarika makumi mana muzana vechidiki vane nhare mbozha vakati vakaita zvepabonde, uye zvikamu zviviri kubva muzvitatu vakashandisa kondomu kekupedzisira pavakaita.
Rice yakati mwero wekutumira mameseji evechidiki muHouston ungangodaro wakange wakakwirira zvishoma pane kuLos Angeles nekuda kwekusiyana kwehuwandu hwevanhu - asi izvi zvese mishumo miviri inopindirana.
"Imwe nzvimbo iri pakati ingangove fungidziro yakanaka yezviri kuitika munyika," akadaro Jeff Temple, chiremba wezvepfungwa uye muongorori wehutano hwevakadzi kubva kuYunivhesiti yeTexas Medical Branch kuGalveston uyo akashanda paongororo yeHouston.
Tsvagurudzo yake yakawana kuti vasikana kunyanya avo vakatumira vasina kupfeka mafoto vaive nemikana yakawanda yekuita bonde rine njodzi, kuve nevazhinji vavakaroorana navo pabonde kana kushandisa doro nezvinodhaka vasati vaenda pabonde.
"Sexting inoita kunge chiratidzo kana chiratidzo chehunhu chaihwo hwepabonde," Temberi akaudza Reuters Health.
"Zvavari kuita muhupenyu hwavo hwepamhepo ndizvo zvavari kuita muhupenyu hwavo hwepamhepo."
Mupunga wakabvuma kuti ndiko kutsvaga kwakanyanya kubvisa muzvidzidzo zvese izvi. "Izvo zvinogona kunge zvisingaite kune vamwe vabereki, asi zvinogona kuvhundutsa vamwe," akadaro.
"Aya hunhu huri kuitwa nevashoma vari kuyaruka, asi vashoma vacho vari kupinda muboka rehunhu hwepabonde hune njodzi ... kwete kungotumira mameseji."
Nekutumira mameseji ekutumira mameseji, pane zvekare kunetsekana kuti mapikicha asina kupfeka anozopedzisira ave paInternet uye vechidiki vachashungurudzwa online, kana kuti vadzidzi vanogashira magwaro akajeka vanogona kupomerwa mhosva yekuona zvinonyadzisira zvevana.
Vatsvagiri vachiri nemibvunzo yakawanda nezve kutumira mameseji, kusanganisira kuti ndevapi vadzidzi vangangotumira meseji uye ndeapi mamwe maitiro kana hunhu hunogona kuve hwakajairika pakati pevatengesi. Temple nevamwe vake parizvino vari kushanda pachidzidzo kuti vaone izvo zvinowanzouya pakutanga pakati pevechidiki - kutumira mameseji ekutengesa kana bonde.
Parizvino, Rice akati vabereki nevadzidzisi vanogona kushandisa nhepfenyuro yevanonyanya kufarira kana vezvematongerwo enyika kutumira mameseji kukakavara sekuti vataure nevechidiki nezve kutumira mameseji ezvepabonde - kunyanya nekuti vaviri ava vane hukama hwakanyanya.
"Kutumira mameseji anonyadzisira kungave kukurukurirana kuri nyore kune vadzidzisi kutanga kuve nevechidiki pane hurukuro yakazara inotanga, 'Ngatitaurei nezvebonde," akadaro.
SOURCE: bit.ly/jsoh2P Pediatrics, online September 17, 2012.
Izvo zvese zvatinoziva, kubva isu
haana kumbobvira atonzwa nezvekambani kusvikira gore rangu rekutsvaga
CHIDZIDZO; Kuchinja kwe digital nekuropi hwehutano hwekuyaruka.
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Kufambira mberi kunoshamisa mumatekinoroji ayo anogonesa kugoverwa uye kushandiswa kweruzivo rwakakomberedzwa sekuteedzana kwedhijitari kwema1 kana ma0 zvakachinja zvakanyanya mararamiro edu. Vachiri kuyaruka, vakura zvakakwana kugona michina uye vadiki zvakakwana kuti vagamuchire hunyanzvi hwavo, ndivo vari pamberi peiyi "shanduko yedhijitari." Pasi pechido chemwana ari kuyaruka kukumbundira shanduko dzakatsvaira iyi neurobiology inogadzirwa nemoto wekushanduka kuita hunyanzvi mukugadzirisa. Mhedzisiro yekuchinjika kwehuropi kune izvo zvinodiwa uye mikana yezera redhijitari zvine zvirevo zvakakura kune vehutano vechidiki.
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Haasisirizve kuziva nezvekukura kwepenise
Kuita bonhora nemudhimoni pazera rekutanga kunokonzera kusingaperi ED
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Gabe anoyeuka hurukuro naChnUMX wekare
Re: Gabe (ane makore 25) naGary vanotaura nezvekutsvaga kubva kune-porn-induced ED
Izvi zvakanyorwa naGabe kubva Reboot Nation. Gabe anowanzotaura nevechiri kuyaruka, uye ichi ndicho chiyeuchidzo chekukurukurirana nezera remakore re15.
Ndiyo mhinduro kumubvunzo uyu:
-Hungu, vamwe vavo vanoziva zvaari kuita. Haana kupinda mune zvavanoita, asi akati mukomana haana basa nazvo.
Heino chikamu chehurukuro yedu chaiyo inobata ichi:
Ini: "Saka munhu wose pachikoro chako anowana podhiyo yake chaiyo?"
Teen: "hongu"
Ini: “vanovharira facebook netwitter kuchengetedza yall kubva pakuve uripo zuva rese, kutumira nezve kuti chikoro chinofinha sei, kana kuti wakashata sei iwe dai wanga uri kumba uchitamba kudaidzira? (mutambo wevhidhiyo) ”
Vechidiki: "haha vanoedzawo, asi munhu wese anoziva kuti angapoteredza seiko, vanoti kana tikasungwa (pane facebook) iwe unotumirwa kuhofisi, asi havatombogoni kudzoka zvakare. Ivo vakati vachashandisa nhoroondo yeumwe munhu uyo anofambidzana neboka revadzidzi uye oona kuti vose vari paIndaneti vanovakuvadza, asi havazviiti. "
Ini: "Ya ndiyo iyo yaive iyo kwatiriwo apo Xanga ne MySpace vakatanga kukura. Takafunga kuti tingapoteredza sei mabheji mukati mezuva re2. Zvakadini nefoni, ndinoziva kuti munhu wese ari pafoni yavo zuva rose uye anogona kuwanyorera paIndaneti pavari? "
Vechidiki: "o nokuti zvirokwazvo haha, ndinoreva vamwe vana vanotora foni yavo, asi kakawanda nguva dzavanongotikumbira kuti tizviise. Tinotaura hongu mam uye 5 seconds seconds post tweet pamusoro pekuvhara kuti haha "
Ini: "saka rega ndikubvunze izvi ... vangani vevakomana kuchikoro vanoona zvinonyadzisira pama iphone avo, kana malaptop?"
Teen: "O man, toni. Haisi yose yakawanda pamapttops asi anenge anenge munhu wese pafoni dzavo. "
Ini: "hongu ndizvo zvandakafunga kuti iwe ungati, Ndinokutengesa kuti vanozviita zvakanaka pakati pekirasi?"
Teen: "yose ... iyo ... nguva. Hapana kuseka uyu mumwe munhu agere shure kwangu uye kungotarisa pafoni yake muchikwata chake kirasi yose inotarisa mavhidhiyo. Haana hanya nevanoona. "
Ini: "kumirira, kunyange kana vasikana vachimuona?"
Vechidiki: "hongu iye aigona kutarisira zvishoma kana musikana achimuona, iye neshamwari dzake vanofunga kuti zvinonakidza."
Ini: "zvinofanira kunge zvakaoma kuti kirasi iiteerere kana iwe uchiziva kuti zviri kuitika kunze kwako."
Teen: "Zvechokwadi! Ndakaita somukomana, iwe une vasikana vanogara vakakupoteredza iwe, uye iwe ugere ipapo pafoni yako inotarisa pachikanda, hazvirevi. "
Ini: "haha hazviiti, zvakanaka sei iwe pawakatanga kuona zvinonyadzisira?"
Teen: "Eh, yakanga iri yezhizha mushure meC5th grade apo ndaienda kune imwe shamwari; iye aiva neboka rayo pa Xbox yake. "
Ini: "hongu muvhareji wemakore ari kumakore e-10 iye zvino kune varume, zvinopenga. Chii chaive chikoro chesekondari chakafanana, nokuti apones ave aripo kwenguva pfupi zvino. "
Vechidiki: "Chikoro chesekondari chaive chakafanana, zvichida zvakanyanya. Pakanga pane zvishoma muchikwata che7th apo varume vaizoisa foni yavo mukati mefurafura yezvokudya zvemasikati uye munhu wose aizotenderera ndokutarisa. "
Isu tiri pakati pehosha iyo iri kuparadza mamiriyoni ehupenyu, chinangwa changu ndechokuita neuroscience shure kwekuona zvinonyadzisira zvinowanzozivikanwa.
ndichiri muduku zvikuru kuti ndiite zvepabonde, asi ndakawana internet yebonde
Zvinoita sekunge handife ndakagutsikana kudzamara ndaedza izvo zvinhu mukati
ndakadzorera pfungwa dzangu zvishoma, kuderedza kusagadzikana kwemavara
Mushure memazana e6 ekuita zvepabonde kusazadza zvinonyadzisira,
Hazvina kumbodikanwa kugoverana chero chinhu chandanyora, asi zvichida izvi zvichabatsira mumwe munhu.
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Pazera remakore 10 Ndakatanga kutanga internet kushanyira, kutarisa kumusoro mazwi
Zvinonyadzisa zvakandidzidzisa kuti kuva murume kwaiva pamusoro pehupenzi.
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P haisi yechokwadi.
Ndanga ndichiedza kurega zvinonyadzisira
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Re: Ko zvinonyadzisira zvakashandura unhu hwako here?
Re: Ko zvinonyadzisira zvakashandura unhu hwako here?
Izvi, izvi uye izvi.
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Handina kufunga kuti ndakanga ndapindwa muropa
asi ivo vose vakanga vakapindwa muropa, uye vaiziva kuti vaifanira kumira.
Zvandakadzidza kubva kune zvinonyadzisira
Zvandakadzidza kubva kune zvinonyadzisira
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Usakanganwa "imwe" yakaipa mhedzisiro ye porn.
Chero chero gumi nevaviri redditors vanotanga nofap? Hausi wega
anga asiri muropa, asi zvakandibata neimwe nzira
Ndiri mukadzi wemakore ekuchina we26 (rondedzerai vaduku, zvinonyadzisira uye zvepabonde)
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/reader-comments/p/comment/link/43647381
Ini ndine makore gumi nemashanu & rangu bonde dhiraivha rakadzikira
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1vlk0o/kids_access_to_porn/
Update. Izvo zvinonyadzisira zvinowedzera kuhupi hwedu.
Zera 16 - Zvinonyadzisa Haisi Chikamu Cheupenyu Hwangu Zvakare
Matabhi uye zvinyorwa uye mitsinje uye nezvimwewo nezvimwewo nezvakadaro uye zvakadaro
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Nei ndakamira (17 yo)
Nei ndakamira (17 yo)
Ichi shit chave chachinja chaizvo ubongo hwedu uye zvose zvinonzwisisika
Kuita zvepabonde kunotora mukana wepabonde mumba
Kuita zvepabonde kunotora mukana wepabonde mumba
Mushure mechinguva chekurega, iwe unoona kukuvara kunokonzera Zvinonyadzisira
Kukanganisa kweP kwandinoona ikozvino
Mazuva 40 mukati, ndinofunga kuti zvepabonde zvakaparadzwa kwandiri ne PMO
Mazuva 40 mukati, ndinofunga kuti zvepabonde zvakaparadzwa kwandiri ne PMO
Zvinonyadzisira zvinowanzoitika nhasi
… Hapana nguva yandakamboudzwa kuti porn yaive yakaipa- yaive / inogamuchirwa munharaunda, kunyangwe ZVINOTARISIRWA, kune PMO. majee anogara aripo munhepfenyuro huru akasimbisa pfungwa yekuti zvese zvaive zvakajairika. uye semunhu akakurira muchizvarwa chekutanga chevashandisi veinternet, ini handina kuziva chero chakasiyana. Zvinonyadzisira zvakajairika.
ndinofunga ini ndisingazive ndaiziva kuti zvinonyadzisira zvaiparadza sei kwenguva yakareba. ndaizozvitarisa ini mushure memaawa ekugadzirisa kuti ndiwedzere kushamisa zvinonyadzisira, uye ndinonzwa pfungwa inonyadzisa. ndaizozviwana ndiri pamubhedha nevasikana vakabata mbichana mbichana muruoko rwangu, ndichikumbira ruregerero- nguva dzose nechikonzero (kunyanyisa kunwa, kusarara zvakakwana, dumbu risina chinhu.) ndakaguma sei pano? ndinoenda kupi kubva pano? ndaingova nemibvunzo chete ndisina mhinduro….
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2hpqo3/90_days/
Vanhu vari kunyanya kufunganya nezvidhori!
Vanhu vari kunyanya kufunganya nezvidhori!
Vane makore gumi nematanhatu vezera havafanirwe kuita bonde sevanhu vari mune zvinonyadzisira.
Chinhu CHINONYANYA kwazvo chandakambonyora. (Ichakukurudzira)
Penis size yakashandiswa kuva chinhu changu chikuru
Penis size yakashandiswa kuva chinhu changu chikuru
Ndaifunga kuti ndakanga ndavaxual.
Ndaifunga kuti ndakanga ndavaxual.
Chechi yechipiri yepabonde inodhakwa
Chechi yechipiri yepabonde inodhakwa
PMO anodzorera hutano hwako hwemagariro evanhu
PMO anodzorera hutano hwako hwemagariro evanhu