Saamaynta Coolidge waxay naga caawin kartaa niyaddeenna ugu fiican.
Dhawr sano ka hor Cilmi-baarayaasha Jarmalka ayaa sheegay in kolba muddada wada-noolaanshuhu sii kordhayo, rabitaanka galmada uu guud ahaan hoos ugu dhaco dumarka — halka damacnimada jilicsanaanta guud ahaan hoos u dhacdo ragga. Caadi ahaan lamaanaha aadka u jahwareersan (lab iyo dhedig) ayaa si macquul ah u maleynaya inuu si fiican ugu farxi lahaa haddii kaliya uu sameyn karo galmo inta uu doono. Maxaa iyada ku ridi kara niyadda?
Dhab ahaantii, xaaladdu way ka yartahay taas. Mates ayaa dhab ahaantii ka soo horjeeda barnaamijka hiddaha oo aad u xun, taas oo inta badan ku riixda sinjiga-iyo xitaa dhinaca dambe ee lamaanayaasha cusub.
Tixgeli wixii dhacay markii dukaanka labka ah la isku celceliyay iyada oo ay ku jiraan dumarka isla (kuwaas oo had iyo jeer ku jiray niyadda, oo ay uga mahadcelisey duritaanka hormoonka maalinlaha ah). Cirifka canabka ah, sax? Nope. Ragga kumbuyuutarku wuu yaraa oo yaraa, iyo xamaasad yaraanta, muddo saddex sano iyo bar ah. Ma aha oo kaliya marka, marka haweenka riyooyinka soo baxaan, kuwan xawliga ah ayaa si dhakhso ah loo geliyey ficil ahaan iyagoo leh roodhi hore.
Maxaa dhacaya haddii qofkale oo waligaa ku jiray niyadda? Fursadaha waa ku fiicantahay in aad si dhakhso ah ma doonaynin noqo… ugu yaraan iyada / asaga. Runta murugada lihi waxay tahay in haddii xaaskaaga / saygaagu uusan galmo kula kicin sida ugu badan ee aad jeceshahay, isaga ama iyadu ay ilaalin karaan midowgaaga iyagoo kaa ilaalinaya inaad naftaada u dheregto galmada si joogto ah. Tani maahan xaalad ku habboon, si kastaba ha noqotee, maxaa yeelay, iyadoo aan la helin xiriir jacayl oo isdaba joog ah, isku xirnaanta shucuurta ka dhexeysa lamaanayaasha way daciifaysaa, nasiib darrose, lamaanayaal badan ayaa u gudba inay ku lug yeeshaan kalgacal miyir qaba oo keliya markaad raadineysid orgaani.
Doorka dopamine
Sidee qanacsanaanta galmada u kala fogeyn kartaa lammaanaha? Markii saynisyahannadu eegeen maskaxda jiirka isugeynaya, waxay ogaadeen in neerfaha kiimikada loo yaqaan 'dopamine' (maadada 'waa inaan heysto!') Ay ka dambeysay ifafaalaha daalka lamaanaha. Maaddaama jiirku si isdabajoog ah u la wadaago isla lammaanaha, dopamine ka yar iyo ka yar ayaa lagu sii daayaa wareegga abaalmarinta maskaxdeeda.
Hase yeeshe markii qof cusub oo lammaane ah uu soo baxo, dopamine mar kale wuu kacaa. Waxaad isla markiiba ku jirtaa niyadda. Waa isla qaabkii kuu keenaya inaad "haa" ku tiraahdo macmacaan sonkor leh, oo dufan badan xitaa markaad ka buuxdo turkey iyo baradho shiidan. Dopamine-ka ku soo kordha wareegga abaalmarintaada ayaa ka takhalusi kara dareenkaaga dheregsan, iyadoon loo eegin waxa maskaxdaada caqliga leh ay uga fekereyso cunista badan ama gaalnimada. Dopamine kor u kacaya waa "haa!" halka dawada hoose ee loo yaqaan 'dopamine' aan badnayn. Sida aan ku arki doonno boostada mustaqbalka, dopamine sidoo kale si dabiici ah ayuu u dhacaa ka dib orgasmka, taas oo si sax ah ugu ciyaareysa dhacdadan. Hidde sideena wuxuu noqon karaa puppeters aan qalbi lahayn.
Cilmi-baadhayaashu waxay ku baaqaan in ay dammaanad-qaadaan qofka is qabta oo qofkisa jinsi ahaan naftiisa u adeegsado, halka farsamada ahaanba ay ku xiran tahay mid cusub, Saamaynta Coolidge. Waxay ku arkeen dhacdadan oo ka mid ah naasaha, oo ay ku jiraan dumarka. Qaar ka mid ah jiirka jinsiga ah, tusaale ahaan, jilicsanaa badan oo qashin badan oo soo jiidanaya bandhigyada-iyadoo la-hawlgalayaasha aan la aqoon marka loo eego kuwa ay hore u soo koobiyeen. Iyada oo la ilaalinayo ifafaalahaan, marka lammaanuhu is furaan sababta oo ah noloshooda jinsiyeed ayaa ka baxday wada noolaansho, xaaska hore ee aan xiisaha u qabin waxaa inta badan ka nixiya libido kacsan markii qof cusub oo jecel uu soo galo sawirka. Naagtan ayaa hada raadineysa ninkeeda saddex iyo labaatanaad.
Saamaynta Coolidge
Xitaa kuwa aan haysan saaxiibo dhab ah waxay dareemaan Cajiibka Coolidge kaddib marka ay u jiheystaan galmada:
Waxaan daawaday documentary ku saabsan ragga oo leh qaali qaali ah oo macquul ah “caruusadaha jacaylka”. Hal nin ayaa lahaa sida toban iyaga ka mid ah. Wax badan buu haystay oo qolka gurigiisa ayaa ka sii baxayay. Inkasta oo kuwani ahaayeen tuugo, mar hore ayuu bilaabay inuu u arko iyaga oo ah gabdho uu waqti ku filan la qaatay oo uu hadda diyaar u ahaa fursado hidde ah oo cusub (been abuur ah). Malaha sababta ay caruurtu u ururiyaan lebbiska badan… waxaan u maleyneynaa inaan helnay lebbiskii ugu weynaa abid laakiin ka dib markaan aragnay dhowr jeer dib uma noqon doonno. Waxaan hayaa tan sawirro jpeg ah oo aan soo uruuriyay, anigoo u maleynaya inaan uruurinayo xog ururin wacan oo farxad leh. Laakiin ma xasuusan karo inaan waligey dib ugu laabto iyaga. Qaybta qasabku waa sawirka CUSUB, sawirka cusub, ama laga yaabee, caruusadda jacaylka sheeko-xariirta ah.
Sababtee bayoolojigu u keeni karaa lamaane joogta ah si uu u ekaado noocyo badan oo ka mid ah caleemaha Brussels iyo mid cusub si uu u ekaado muusikada hodanka ku ah shukulaatada qani ah? Sidaa daraadeed faracyamo badan oo kala duwan ayaa la soo saaraa (celcelis ahaan dadweynaha). Jirkaaga ayaa doorbidaya inuu mustaqbalka u baxo mustaqbalka oo ah doomo badan oo kala duwan sababta oo ah waxay ku xiran karaan gabbaad. Kiriimadu waa mid khatar ah sidii ukumaha oo dhan ku ridaan hal xabo.
Isku xidh xidhka
Ma rabtaa caddayn? Maya naasku waa monogamous (oo ah dareenka joogitaanka jinsi ahaan loogu talagalay), oo kaliya seddex boqolkiiba ayaa xitaa isku-xirxiraya labadaba. Kuwani waxay ku xiran yihiin dadka isku dhafan (oo ay ku jiraan aadanaha) ayaa loo yaqaan bulsho ahaan isku midka ah. Waxay si fudud u sameeyaan lifaaqyo mudo dheer ah waxayna badanaa koriyaan caruurtooda, xitaa haddii ay weli dareemayaan ku dhiirri-galin in ay ku adkaadaan iyagoo ku mahadsanaaya Saamaynta Coolidge.
Hiddo-wadahayagu wuxuu rabaa inaan hordhac u noqono raadinta fursadaha hida-wadaha ee xiisaha leh xittaa haddii aan khatar ugu jirno inaannaan "si farxad ku noolaano weligood kadib." Xitaa haddii jaallayaashu ay sii wadaan inay aamin ahaadaan, qanacsanaan la'aanta neerfaha ayaa ka dhigaysa inay is arkaan mid la mid ah adeeg kale "Hamburger Helper." Xaqiiqdii, cilmi baaris ayaa muujineysa in lammaanaha is jecel inay is helaan inta badan xannibaya inta ay is qabaan. (Saamaynta Coolidge waxay noqoneysaa mid si muuqata u muuqata kadib markii jacaylka 'tallaalka ugu horeeya ee xoojinta malabka neerfaha neerfaha uu xirmo, sidaas darteed kuwa jecel ee cusub ayaa si lama huraan ah u rumeysan inay difaac leeyihiin-sida dadka aan helin jacayl ku filan.)
Kicinta dabiiciga ah
Some couples cope with this sneaky primitive mechanism by cranking up the dopamine using porn or acting out sexual fantasies with their partners to create the ‘right’ mood. In both cases, they attempt to fool the brain that a new mating opportunity has arrived. Others raise their dopamine by artificially generating intense feelings (as with bondage), or swapping mates. However, it can be exhausting to have to orchestrate a dopamine surge every time you want to make love. And what happens when one partner wants a “fix” of sexual excitement and the other is not ready to invest so much effort, or run the proposed risk, to get a thrill?
Miyaynu ku qasban nahay inaanu u oggolaano cilmiga noolaha inuu naga dhigo nasasho la'aan? Qoraallada soo socda waxaan ku eegi doonnaa ikhtiyaar dhaqammada kala duwan ee taariikhda oo dhan adeegsanaya: hab lagu sameeyo jacayl ka caawiya joojinta caado. Waxay ku saleysan tahay fikradda ah in daalista rabitaankeena galmada ay si deg deg ah u dardar geliso Coolidge Saamaynta iyada oo naloo dejinayo raadinta soo noqnoqoshada ee sii kordheysa ee dopamine si looga hortago muddooyinka dopamine-ka hooseeya ee sida dabiiciga ah u dhaca ka dib dhereg galmo. Tani waxay naga joojinaysaa inaan niyadda galno.
Marka heerarka dopamine aysan ku soo boodaynin sarre iyo hoos u kacsan, raaxooyin badan oo xariif ah ayaa isdiiwaangalin kara sida layaabka leh ee raaxada leh-iyo wada-hawlgalayaashu waxay u muuqdaan inay sii hayaan dhalaalkooda. Marka, haddii Coolidge Saamaynta ay ku soo dhex gasho ururkaaga, ha argagixin. Waxaa laga yaabaa inaad haysatid xulashooyin aadan tixgelin siin.
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