Kamora lilemo tse 30 tsa PMO - Ke ile ka lula ke ts'oara nakong ea thobalano ka lekhetlo la pele bophelong ba ka

Matsatsi a 82 ke nomoro e makatsang eo u ka e ngolang, empa ke fihlile mohato o moholo kajeno. Semelo se potlakileng. Ke hlalane mme ke nyetse kharebe ea ka ea pele (le molekane oa pele oa thobalano). Seo se nkile lilemo tse fetang tse leshome mme ke lihlong ho lumela hore PMO e entse hore ke se ke ka ba le bophelo ba thobalano.

Tlhalo e ne e se feela ka lebaka la PMO empa kea u joetsa hore kamano e se nang bophelo ba thobalano ke kamano e mpe, nako.

Kamora hore tlhalo e rarolloe ke ile ka ba le liphetoho tse ngata, ho kenyelletsa ho theola boima ba 'mele, ho fetola mosebetsi, koloi, maikutlo, tsohle. Empa ha ke a ka ka fetola PMO, leha moeletsi oa lenyalo a mpoleletse ka nepo hore ke lemaletse litšoantšo tsa bootsoa (ke ne ke sa bone lebaka la ho tlohela - ke ne ke sena GF ebile ho ne ho tšelisa haholo).

Re potlaketse selemo kamora tlhalo mme re kopane le ngoanana e motle ea tsotellang mme o se o ka hakanya pale - ha ke a ka ka e fumana. Mme joalo ka nakong ea lenyalo la ka ke ile ka qala ho nahana hore ke, ke robehile feela mme ngoanana enoa o tla tlameha ho phela le taba ea hore ke mohlankana e moholo ntle le thobalano.

O ne a ntšehetsa haholo mme a re re tla sebetsana le mathata a ka - mme seo se entse hore ke nahane hantle hore na bothata ba ka ke bofe. Kaha ke ne ke filoe ponelopele ea hore na bothata bo ne bo le kae selemo se fetileng, ke ile ka qala ho bala ka eona, ka fumana foramo ena, YBOP le libaka tse ling tsa marang-rang. Ka letsatsi le leng ha ke ne ke le phomolong mme ho fapana le ho tsoela kantle ke ne ke il'o sheba litšoantšo tsa bootsoa ho laptop ea ka ebe ke ithabisa, e ile ea nkotla - ena e ne e le bothata. Ke ne ke hloka ho emisa.

Letsatsi leo e ne e le matsatsi a 82 a fetileng mme ke motlotlo ho re ha ke na ho ipholla litho tsa botona kapa botšehali ebile ha ke na bothata. Ha ke motlotlo ho bolela hore ke khutlela litšoantšong tsa bootsoa matsatsi a seng makae a seng makae ho bonahala - hangata ke metsotso e seng mekae feela ea bikini / konokono empa kea tseba hore e ntse e fosahetse. Ena ke ntoa eo ke ntseng ke e loana.

Leha ho le joalo, bonyane ho 'na, ho bonahala eka nofap ke eona konokono ea tharollo, hobane bothata boo ke neng ke e-na le bona e ne e le ts'oaetso ka lebaka la lefu la lefu - ha ke utloe letho ho tsoa ho PIV kapa BJ kapa eng kapa eng ntle le letsoho la ka. Ka ho tlosa letsoho la ka ka botlalo nka ikutloa butle (butle haholo, empa ka 'nete).

Hoo e ka bang matsatsi a 45 ho 'na ka sebele ke ne ke utloa eka PIED e ea fela, empa e ne e ntse e sa phethahala. Ke ile ka bolella GF ea ka ka bothata ba ka ka nako eo, e leng ntho e 'ngoe e ka buisanoang mona; bonyane boemong ba ka ho thusitse haholo ho mo joetsa hore a utloisise lintho tseo a tlamehang ho li etsa ho nthusa hore ke fole.

Le ho ea leseling qetellong ea kotopo - eo ka tšepo e leng lebone la PELE feela - hoseng hona ke khonne ho e boloka nakong ea PIV ka lekhetlo la pele bophelong ba ka (mme ke se ke fetile lilemo tse 30 ) Ke ile ka fa ngoanana ngoanana ho tloha moo. Ke ile ka boela ka ikutloa haholo ho feta (ho hlakile hore ho tloha ha ke khona ho kena le ho tsoelapele) empa ke ntse ke na le mekhoa ea ho ea pele ke qala bocha ka botlalo.

Ee, hona ke mofuta oa poso ea boithoriso, empa ke natefetsoe ke ho bala melaetsa ea batho ba bang ba ithorisang hobane katleho ea bona e mphile tšepo ea katleho ea ka. Ke ntse ke na le mekhoa eo nka e etsang, empa haeba nka akaretsa lintlha tsa leeto la ka:

  • Nako e telele tlhekefetso ea PMO e lumellang lenyalo ho bola ho tsoa kahare ka lebaka la eona
  • Qetellong ke ile ka tobana le temallo ea ka hoo e ka bang likhoeling tse tharo tse fetileng mme ke ne ke le 100% ntle ho nofap (ha ho na bohale kapa ho ipholla litho) empa ha ho joalo haholo ka porno (e fokotsoe haholo, empa eseng porno)
  • O arolelane lintlha tsohle le kharebe e ncha. Kahoo ke maemong a 'bonolo' rewiring ka nako e ts'oanang le ho qala bocha.
  • Boholo bo fokotsoe PIED (e fetotsoe ke matšoenyeho a ts'ebetso) mabapi le matsatsi a 45 ho
  • Ke khona ho qeta matsatsi a PIV 82 ho
  • Ke se ke qetile matsatsi a 90 ke se na bothata ba ka, 'me nke ke ka phatloha - ka hona ha ho hlokahale ho bashanyana bohle

tl; Dr PMO lekhoba le neng le sa khone ho qeta PIV le ile la khona ho etsa kamora matsatsi a 82 NOFAP. Reboot ha e hlile ha e felle empa e tsoetse-pele haholo ebile e lokeloa ke boitelo bo entsoeng

LINK - Setsi sa matsatsi a 82 - ho na le leseli qetellong ea kotopo!

by yetanotheranon1

 

NTSHA - Ka mor'a likhoeli tse ka bang nne, ke qala ho ba motho ea tloaelehileng

Ke hopola matsatsi a mane a nofap ke matsatsi a 'maloa a fetileng. Ke khoeli e le 'ngoe ka mor'a hore ke kopane le kharebe ea ka ea hona joale, eo e neng e le lehlokoa le ileng la roba likamele kamorao ho nna la roba potoloho ea PMO. O ne a le monate haholo a bile a utloisisa 'me ke ne ke mo batla hampe haholo empa a sa khone ho etsa,' me ka lekhetlo la pele bophelong ba ka, ke ile ka re ke batla ho ba molemong oa hae, eseng nna. Ebe ke bala, ka bala, ka bala mme ka etsa qeto ea ho etsa lenaneo.

<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“>It has not been without its bumps. I’ve been completely free of fap — no edging, no masturbation — but not pornfree. I’ve learned that its not because I am not satisfied looking at my girl, but its because of the novelty of seeing something new.</p><p>My main symptom was terrible PIED; while I was married for over a decade (to my first girlfriend and only sexual partner ever) I can’t say I ever successfully had PIV sex. I just assumed I was ‘broken’ at sex and that the PMO cycle was not the problem.</p><p>During the divorce I saw a counselor who told me I was addicted to porn, but I was going through a LOT of things and chose to ignore it, thinking whats the problem with PMO when you don’t have anyone. Looking back it was so stupid, but in my own defence, I was able to lose a LOT of weight and change my attitude towards women even before I quit PMO.</p><p>At around the 30 day mark of the program I told my girlfriend what I was going through. She was supportive and I stuck with ‘easy’ mode in the sense I still had sexual activity, just didn’t O, and still had PIED issues. At around the 90 day mark I for the first time in my life had PIV sex where I gave her an orgasm, and a few days later, I actually had an O inside a woman for the first time EVER. It was such a different experience that I didn’t even know it was happening till it was done.</p><p>Suffice to say I felt pretty good (even though like any one who is having first time sex, it was sooo quick). Then I think I fell into a flatline, or something happened. For the next two weeks I couldn’t get it up at all, and I was despondent. I felt like I did in my first relationship, that I was broken. But unlike last time, I felt horrible because I wanted to be better, because I know myself and my girlfriend deserve a normal sex life.</p><p>If one thing I’ve learned as a side effect of giving up PMO is that your emotions pour out of you like no one’s business. And this weekend after some progress in the right direction a few things happened that led me down a deep, dark path of self doubt. I can say honestly I never thought about relapsing, but I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel.</p><p>I also read the forums and we all know that in addition to the success stories we have stories of struggle, and there was a post yesterday that was something like “I just want to cry”. And I’m a typical guy, was told never to cry, and then you add on PMO which masks our emotions, I never cried. But I just cried about where I am, and cried in front of my girlfriend, just because the emotions were pouring out and I wasn’t bottling it up anymore and I wasn’t resorting to fap either.</p><p>As someone who PMOed for 30+ years and didn’t cry for 30+ years I can say that both things are definitely wrong. I can only wish someone I trusted had told me this. I can’t say that crying on its own felt better, but confronting my emotions, my insecurities, my fears, with someone I trusted was a big step of the process.</p><p>So after being reassured that my girlfriend and I would work on it as a team, and us talking over some things that normal couples do (such as being more expressive during sex over what we like, etc) we tried again the next couple of days. The next day, I was able to have PIV sex and have an O (so yes, the second time in my life inside a woman). Since I was aware of the sensation I was able to actually delay the O for a few minutes, but still not enough for my GF to O. The day after, I can say that it was a normal (still brief) sexual encounter .. I brought my GF to O and then I O afterwards.</p><p>In any regular life this is not something to write home about, because the sex was just ‘normal’. But after all this time, being normal is all I want. I now have regular issues – having to time my and my GF O, different sexual libidos, etc. And I’m not completely out of the woods. I am still so insecure about this and know that doubt will come into my mind again.</p><p>But I only know one thing — PMO is no longer an option. I just can’t do it anymore. One last aside. A couple of days ago my GF and I watched the movie Thanks for Sharing. That movie is about sex addiction but there’s a LOT in common with our problems (as porn and masturbation addiction are often also problems of sex addicts). My GF told me after watching it she felt a lot more understanding of the journey I was going through. Since she was sitting next to me she also said I was sweating a lot through the movie. I believe that was because it was uncomfortably accurate. So we had some more serious and frank discussions about the addiction and the recovery process.</p><p>I told her that while I’ve been tempted to fap I didn’t do it because I didn’t want to fail you guys online, fail the fellow soldiers in the nofap war, fail her, or fail myself. I think about all of those folks I’d let down if I fap and then I don’t. I told her the truth that I’ve had much more difficulty with porn and that I want to give it up for good too. And then she asked me, very sweetly, to give that up for her too. And you know, I’m glad she asked me. Some guys might take it poorly (like the Don Jon character did in that movie) but I know she did it because she loves me and now every time I’m tempted to click a link I don’t want to let her down.</p><p>tl;dr After four months with some severe ups and downs, many of them emotional, am able to have normal sex with all the normal issues that normal people have. The reboot isn’t complete but the journey is the ONLY option I have.</p><hr><p> </p><p><strong>UPDATE2  <a class=- U ka khutla hape (u hlalane ka lebaka la litšoantšo tsa bootsoa)

Kahoo, ke bile le bothata bo boholo ba litšoantšo tsa bootsoa bophelo bohle ba ka. Motsoalle oa ka oa hlooho ea khomo o ile a ntsebisa eona ha ke le sekolong se phahameng mme ke ne ke le ngoana ea nang le methapo ea pelo, ke hopola hore ke qetile lihora tse ngata ke leka ho jarolla li-GIF ho modem ea ka ea 1200 baud le ho e patela ntate oa ka (lehlakoreng le leng: batsoali ba ka ba atamela ho mpolella feela. ho fosahetse ntle le ho hlalosa hore na hobaneng SE SEBETSE. U tlameha ho nahana hore bana ba hau ba bohlale ho u feta - haeba ba batla ho etsa ntho eo u sa e rateng, ba tla e etsa).

Kamano ea ka le litšoantšo tsa bootsoa e bile teng pele ho kamano efe kapa efe eo ke neng ke e-na le eona le basali. Ha ea ka ea ama tsela eo ke neng ke tšoara basali ka eona, empa e ile ea sebetsana le tsela eo ke neng ke tšoara BOPHELO ka eona. Taba ea mantlha ke hore ke ratile thobalano ntle le kahlolo le ka tlhokeho ho fapana le ho nyoloha le ho theoha ha thobalano ea 'nete.

Kahoo leha ke ne ke sena lipelaelo tsa ho etsa thobalano pele ho lenyalo ke hopola kamoo piss e neng e futsanehile kateng le kamoo ke ileng ka khutlela litšoantšong tsa bootsoa hanghang. Ha ke a ka ka etsa thobalano bosiung ba lechato, ebe ka lilemo tse leshome le metso e mene ke ne ke tšaba bosiu ba ka ba thobalano beke le beke le mosali oa ka (eo e seng e le molekane oa ka), ke ipehela mabaka a ho e qoba, ebe ke batla ho ea kamoreng e ngoe ebe ke fumana tse ling litšoantšo tse manyala tse hlephisang boitšoaro.

Le ha ena e ne e se bothata bo le bong feela kamanong ea ka, ka morao ke karolo e kholo ea eona - mohlomong 90%. Mme ebile ha se ho hloka thobalano, ehlile e ne e le khaello ea kamano e haufi. Mme ha ka nako eo ke ne ke maketse ha mosali oa ka (eo e neng e le khale a kopane) a kopa tlhalo, hajoale ke tla nahana hore na hobaneng lihele li ile tsa ema halelele hakana, hobaneng ke li lumelletse?

Kahoo nakong ea linyeoe tsa tlhalo ke ile ka bona moeletsi oa lenyalo ea ileng a fumana litaba tsa ka tsa bootsoa ka nepo. Empa ke ntse ke e hlokomolohile, haholo hobane ke ne ke sa tsoa nyaloa ka lekhetlo la pele ka lilemo tse mashome a mabeli, mme litšoantšo tsa bootsoa e ne e le ntho e ntle eo ke e tsebileng bophelo bohle ba ka.

Eaba ke kopana le ngoanana ea phethahetseng, 'me ra kopanela liphate. Mme ho ne ho nyahamisa haholo. Ha ea ka ea tsamaea hantle hape. Empa lekhetlong lena, ke ne nke ke ka nahana feela hore 'ke tsela eo ho leng ka eona'. Ke ne ke hloka ho tseba hore na ke eng e phoso, hobane ke ne ke nahana le mosali oa ka oa mehleng hore 'thobalano ha e hlokahale haeba u na le lerato' kapa poho e joalo. Joale ke ne ke tseba hore bophelo bo monate le bo khotsofatsang ba thobalano e ne e le tlhoko ea kamano e telele.

Ke nakong eo ke ileng ka kopana le liforomo tsa nofap le tsa litšoantšo tsa bootsoa 'me ka bala lipale tse ling ka batho ba tšoanang le nna. Ebile tsela e telele 'me e khutlela morao lipakeng, empa esale ke leka ho tlohela litšoantšo tsa bootsoa le ho fap nako e ka etsang selemo. Kharebe ea hajoale e tseba ka bothata ba ka mme esale e ntšehetsa.

Kaha esale ke leka ho tela bobeli ba bona, ke bile le thobalano e betere haholo (ke sa phethahala ka tsela efe kapa efe) mme ke khonne ho etsa thobalano le eena (ha ke so ka ka etsa joalo le mosali oa ka oa mehleng). Nako e telele le e khuts'oane ke hore ke kopane hape, ka nako ena bophelo bo botle ba thobalano ntle le litšoantšo tsa bootsoa ebile bo fap e le karolo ea morero.

tl; dr Kamano ea pele ea lilemo tse ka bang mashome a mabeli e ile ea bola ka hare ka lebaka la bokhoba ba PMO mme ea lebisa tlhalo. Ke khonne ho e fetola le ho aha kamano e ncha (** KE ENGAGED **) kamora ho tlohela PMO.

Kahoo batho ba ikutloang ba le boemong bo tlase, ba bangata ba rona re bile teng. U ka e fetola, ho sa tsotellehe hore na u hokae.