Lilemo 33 - DE, matšoenyeho a sechaba, lehloeo le fetile, o rata bophelo

Ke qetile phephetso ea letsatsi la 90! Na ke ithutile ka nna le ho ba monna ea betere ho tsoa phihlelong ee? Ho joalo, empa eseng ka mabaka ao ke neng ke a nahana. Ntumelle ke hlalose. Ke 'na 33,' me ke bile setlatsi sa PMO ka lilemo tse fetang leshome.

Joalo ka ba bangata mona, ke h qoetse marang-rang, 'me ka ba mofuta oa "li-hacker" ke ne ke natefeloa ke litaba tsa litaba, liboto tsa ka tlas'a lefatše, 4Chan (pele e ka hloekisoa), TOR le lits'ebeletso tse ling tse neng li sa sebetse moo ho neng ho le bonolo ho fumana litaba tse sa lumellaneng. tla ka. Mekhoa ea ka ea ho shebella e ile ea hola le ho feta, hoo mosali ea hlobotseng a neng a se a sa tsosoe ke moea oa ka - ho ile ha nka boleng bo fetelletseng ba ho nkopa. Kamora seboka sa PMO ke ne ke khutla kelellong ebe ke soabisoa ke 'na. Ke ne ke tla nahana "Ha ke na ho batla ho ba le mofuta ona oa thobalano bophelong ba nnete, ke hobane ke eng seo ke lokelang ho se sebelisa ho theoha? Ke senyehile? ”

Nakong ea ts'ebeliso ea bokhoba ba ka, bophelo ba ka e ne e le khetla ea motho. Ke ile ka lula ke le mong ka lilemo tse ngata, ka hona, PMO e ne e le tloaelo bosiu bo bong le bo bong pele ho bethe. E ne e le "ntho ea tlhaho" joalo ka ho nka shiti - letsoalo le molato leo ke neng ke le utloa ha ke le monyane ke nkeloa sebaka ke khotsofalo e itseng ea hore ke monna ea mahlale ea neng a ka thatafalloa ho laeloa. Empa seo e ne e le 'nete,' me ka 'nete ke ne ke senyehile kelellong ho tloha lilemong tsa ka tsa ho sheba litšoantšo tse ferekanyang - ntho eo ke neng ke sa ikemisetsa ho e amohela ho nna kapa ho ba bang - esita le sethaleng sa marang-rang se sa tsejoeng sa NoFap. Ke ne ke qheleloa ka thoko ho ba lelapa le metsoalle, ke ikutloa eka ke lefatšeng lena feela. Ke ne ke phela le khatello ea maikutlo, 'me Filing e ne e le eona feela pheko ea ka ea dopamine.

Ke ne ke ikutloa ke sa tšoanele molekane oa basali, ka tšabo ka lekunutu hore ha ho mosali, ho sa tsotelehe kapa o motle hakae, ea ka phethisang litakatso tsa ka tse khelohileng. Ke ne ke sa tšoaneloe ke "ngoanana ea lokileng" ho fapana le moo ke ile ka tlohela mosebetsi ho lula ke bapala "white" e pholosang ngoanana ea khathatsehileng - mme ke bile le likamano tse ngata tse khutšoane tse sa kang tsa atleha bakeng sa boiteko ba ka. Litla-morao tsa bohloko ba kelello li batla li batla ho ba har'a batho. Ke hobane ho ne ho le thata sechabeng le ho tšoenyeha ho neng ho senya likamano tse 'maloa tseo ke neng ke e-na le tsona. Ke nakong eo ke ileng ka etsa qeto ea ho re: sena ha se 'na.

Ke ne ke hloka ho fumana mokhoa o mong oa ho phela bophelo, 'me joaloka mosebelisi ea chesehang oa Reddit ke tseba NoFap empa ke ne ke nahana hore ke booatla hore ho ila PMO ho tla tlisa liphetoho bophelong ba' nete. Leha ho le joalo, ke ile ka supa menahano e mebe e mabapi le nna ka lebaka la tšebeliso ea PMO, kahoo ke nkile qeto ea ho leka NoFap e le karolo ea ts'ebetso ea ho sebetsa ho nna. Ke ne ke maketse ...

Ha ke etsa qeto ea ho lahla matsatsi a seng makae a pele ke lihele. Mabolo a ka a ile a chesa ha ba ntse ba utloa bohloko ba ho lokolloa. Ke ile ka tlameha ho robala mokokotlong oa ka kaha esita le ho tšoaroa hanyane feela ho ne ho le bohloko 'meleng. Ho na le ho ne ho lula ho lakatsa 'me ke ne ke ts'oenyeha bekeng ea pele - ntho e ileng ea nkholisa le ho feta hore sena e ne e le litholoana tsa dopamine li haneloa' meleng. Ke e fihlile matsatsing a 32 ka teko ea ka ea pele. Nakong eo ke hlokometse "tse matla" tse ngata tse boletsoeng ke batho ba bang ka sehlohong sena. Ke ile ka khutlela morao makhetlo a 'maloa ka mor'a moo hoo e ka bang letšoao la beke ea 1, empa nakong ena ke motlotlo ho itlhahisa ho qala moetlo oa letsatsi la 90. Kamora libeke tse 'maloa tsa pele ho BONAHALA ho se bonolo. Ho supa hore: le ka mohla u se ke ua tela - hona ha ho thata ho ba thata…. Empa e bohlokoa haholo!

“Boholo ba matla” ao ke ileng ka ipona ke le ho ona:

  • Matšoenyeho a sechaba a felile - Pele NoFap ke ne ke le mothating oa ho fumana Xanax kapa moriana o mong ho nthusa ho ba sechabeng. Ke ne ke "pata" lapeng ka mafelo-beke ka li-PMO. Ha ke tsoa ke ne ke utloa eka motho e mong le e mong o tseba lekunutu la ka 'me ka lekunutu ke batla ho ba mong. Joale? Ke khutletse mekhoeng ea ka ea khale ea bophelo - ho etsa metlae le ho nka maeto a ho ea lebopong / lifiliming / ho tants'a / joalo-joalo le metsoalle - phetoho ea 180 ho tloha likhoeling tse 'maloa tse fetileng.
  • Ho itšepa haholoanyane - Pele ke qoba ho fana ka maikutlo a ka haeba a ka khopisa motho e mong ka phoso. Ke ne ke sa bue 'nete litšebelisanong tsa ka le batho kaha ke ne ke lula ke lumellana le bona ho etsa hore ba nthate. Joale? Ke tsamaea ka boits'epo libaka, ho sheba mahlo le banna le basali, lentsoe le tebileng le ho phutholoha liketsong tsa ka tsa letsatsi le letsatsi. Hona joale ke utloa eka maikutlo le liketso tsa ka li bohlokoa / li bohlokoa (kapa ho feta) ho feta mang kapa mang - boitšepo ba ka ho nna ha bo tšoane le lilemo.
  • Kamano e phetseng hantle - Ke motho ea shebahalang hantle 'me ke etsa chelete e ntle, empa ke ne ke lula ke le likamanong tse seng monate moo ke neng ke le beta. Ke bile ka nahana hore ke matekatse hore feela ke khotsofale ntle le litšebelisano tsohle tsa kamano (eo ke neng ke ikutloa eka ha ke tšoanelehe ho ba le eona). Joale? Kamora hoo e ka bang likhoeli tsa 3 tsa NoFap (ke hlophisitse makhetlo a 'maloa likhoeling tse' maloa tsa pele) ke kopane le ngoanana moketjaneng oa kamora mokete. Ha ke kopana le eena beji ea ka e ne e le ka letsatsi la 2 - empa ke ile ka nka qeto ea hore o lokela ho leka ka matla ho tlohela mokhoa ona o holofatsang. Nako eo ke neng ke tloaetse ho e qeta ke batla litšoantšo tse manyala tse hlephisang boitšoaro ebe PMO ke ne ke tloaetse ho ratana le ngoanana enoa. Joale matsatsi a 90 hamorao o lula le nna mme re bua ka lenyalo / bana.
  • Ho ba le thobalano - Ho tloha lilemong tsa PMO ke ne ke fositse takatso ea tlhaho ea ho kopanela thobalanong e lumellang tloaelo e tloaelehileng nakong ea thobalano. Ke ne ke ka thatafalloa empa ka ba le DE (ea lieha ho emisoa) ho fihlela moo ke neng ke le lihlong ho kopanela liphate kaha ke ne nke ke ka khona ho cum le mosali. Joale? E ne e le phetoho e thata ho ba le kharebe e tsitsitseng, empa o ne a nthata a bile a sa fele pelo - ntho eo ke neng ke se na eona. DE ea ka e ntlafala haholo, mme mekhoa ea ho lieha e se e sebelisoa ho mo etsa hore a qete makhetlo a mangata. Takatso ea ka ea thobalano hona joale e na le sethala se sebetsang mme ke ikutloa e le ntho e ntle ho ba sebopuoa seo ke ileng ka tsoalloa ho se na maikutlo a molato ka morao ho moo.
  • Mehopolo e phetseng hantle - Ke ne ke tla itlhoea. Ke ne ke tla nyenyefatsa mohopolo. Ke ne ke nahana ho ipolaea. Ke lakatsa eka nka robala ka ho sa feleng. Joale? Ke rata bophelo. Ke bophelo bo ts'oanang (mosebetsi o tšoanang, koloi e le 'ngoe, mathata a tšoanang) leha ho le joalo batho ba bophelong ba ka le maemo a macha a etsa hore ke be le thabo ea ho tsoha. Ho sithabela maikutlo ke ntho e mpe mme kelello ea hau e hlile e theha 'nete ea hau. Kelello e phetseng hantle = bophelo bo botle. Kelello e sa pheleng = bophelo bo se nang bophelo.

*TL / DR: NoFap e fetotse tsela eo ke italimang ka eona. E mphile ho hong hoo nka ithorisang ka hona. E nthutile ho itaea. E entse hore ke be betere ho feta kamoo ke neng ke le kateng pele. *

Kea le leboha ka lipehelo tsa hau ho sub-reddit ena, hoa thabisa ho tseba hore ha ke mong. Bophelo bo hlile bo ntlafala ntle le PMO, mme ka letsatsi le leng o tla utloisisa / o kholoe hore na hobaneng ke cho joalo (leha o sa ikutloe ka tsela eo). Ke ts'epa hore nka khothatsa bonyane motho a le mong ho khomarela phephetso le ho fetola bophelo ba bona - ka tsela e ts'oanang le eo ke ileng ka bululeloa ka eona ha ke ne ke ikemiselitse ho fetoha.

Matsatsi a 90 ho bophelo bo botle! Pale ea ka ea ho loana le ho hlola lilemo tse leshome tsa boits'oaro ba PMO 

by bohlasoa matsatsi 90

PUSELETSOENG 180 LETSATSI

Kea le lumelisa baeti-'moho le 'na, ke ne ke batla ho fana ka leseli mabapi le "ntho e tloaelehileng e ncha" hape le mantsoe a' maloa a khothatso ho ba leng leetong lena la ho intlafatsa. Kajeno ke letsatsi la ka la 180th la ho qoba PMO. Ke lilemo li 33 mme ha ke hetla morao mokhoeng oa ka oa bootsoa o fetileng ke hlajoa ke lihlong ka hore na ke sentse nako e kae.<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“></p><p>PMO was a habit for me, one where I would spend 2 to 4 hours a night searching for “just the right video” that was bizarre or degrading enough for my mind to feel satisfied. Like any habit the amount and intensity of the required material escalated to unhealthy levels. I was a slave to my mind. I rationalized away my self-destructive behavior, excusing myself again and again, all while feeling weak to my own urges. I viewed women as sexual beings only, and secretly hated myself and felt unworthy of love. If this is also your story fellow Fapstronaught… take heed: there is hope.</p><p>After finding out about NoFap (from 4chan of all places) I read up and watched the Your Brain On Porn videos. I then understood that part of my problem was willpower… the other part was addiction. When I understood my behavior as an addiction like any other (to cigarettes, drugs, etc) I resolved to take control of my life and wrestle my mind free from its addicted state.</p><p>It was not easy at first. I had physical pains and withdrawal symptoms in the fist week. There was a literal burning sensation in my groin that wanted release. I stuck with it. I relapsed a few times but now, after relapsing I understood that it was like a smoker wanting for “one more cigarette” – and I forgave myself. I saw my body as acting separate from my true desire and made peace with myself that although the flesh is week, my spirit was willing. I did not give up, and neither should you.</p><p>I started on “hard mode” (no gf) but after a few weeks I met this new and amazing girl who will become my wife in a few months (we are engaged!). It was difficult to transition into a relationship as years of self abuse using porn had desensitized me sexually with DE as well as mentally. There was a period of resetting to my “new normal” which is what I now live everyday. Here are some things I now enjoy that I did not before:</p><ul><li>Improved mental clarity – there is a mental fog that used to follow me around blurring and dulling my sight and other senses. I feel more alert and sensitive to the world now.</li><li>More productive time – I used to have a routine of coming home from work, eating food then spending the rest of the night torrenting porn or searching for the “right video” to get me off. Now, I have my fiancee with me in the evenings to talk to, to cook together, to play with the dog, to enjoy our time instead of waste it.</li><li>Self esteem – I used to avoid social situations and even going out with friends as my anxiety worsened. This social anxiety was rooted in feelings of unworthiness. I did not feel I had anything useful to contribute to conversations and my presence was a burden to others. Not anymore. I speak from my heart and am bold in my actions – I have re-discovered the man I was years ago.</li><li>More in control of emotions and life – Before I would feel like I had little control of my daily life and that my insular routine was keeping me “safe” – in fact my sheltered existence was wasting my life away in a daily grind that only served to fulfill my base animal desires (eat, sex, sleep). I have broken that cycle and you can too. Through meditation I now have more control over how I think and feel and use that control to choose positive things to dwell on. You are your own worst critic… learn to forgive yourself. Learn to love yourself… weaknesses and all.</li></ul><p>I hope others in this sub reddit stay on course and benefit themselves the way I did. I used NoFap as a starting point to bettering myself and my life. I have leaned that no one is a lost cause and we are all able to be better people. NoFap gives you a sense of self-pride which will carry over into other aspects of your daily life. Other people will notice a difference in your posture, attitude, mood and energy level.</p><p>My “success story” is just one of many. This 90 day challenge is a beneficial teaching tool – it teaches you about yourself. Learn your body. Learn your mind. When you do, you will figure out how to “hack your brain” and divert your negative energy into something more useful. Do it for yourself. Do it for others that are important in your life. You are worth it.</p><p>Peace.</p><p><strong>LINK – <a href=Matsatsi a 90 a imenne habeli = matsatsi a 180 a ho phela bophelo bo bocha (boikutlo ba hau.NoFap)

by bohlasoa