Umri wa 28 - Kuolewa: maboresho mazuri ya maisha

Nilipiga alama ya siku 90 na nilitaka kuripoti juu ya faida kadhaa ambazo nimeona katika maisha yangu:

  • Ninajisikia vizuri juu yangu. Sikuwa na ongezeko kubwa la kujiamini kwani nilikuwa tayari mtu mwenye ujasiri wa kuanza, lakini kile nilichogundua badala yake ni kwamba ninajisikia tu, KWELI ni mzuri juu yangu, haswa wakati wote. Aibu ya kuficha tabia yangu kila wakati imeondoka. Inakomboa sana.
  • Uhusiano wangu na mke wangu umeboreshwa sana. Tulikuwa na uhusiano mzuri sana kabla sijaanza nofap. Tulitumia muda mwingi kila siku na tulikuwa na mawasiliano mazuri sana. Ninaweza kusema kwa uaminifu kwamba hatuwezi kupigana, kwa sababu tunakataa kulia na sisi daima tunasikiliza, hata kama hatukubaliani juu ya kitu fulani. Sasa ninatumia wakati zaidi na mke wangu kuliko kabla na wakati wetu wa karibu (kabla ya hatua kubwa dhaifu katika ndoa yetu) inatimiza zaidi na kufurahisha kwa kila mmoja wetu.
  • Hisia ya usalama. Kabla nilikuwa ninahakikisha kila wakati nilikuwa nikisafisha historia yangu ya kuvinjari na ikiwa ningepakua chochote (mara chache, niliangalia vitu juu) ningeiweka kwenye folda zilizofichwa ili hakuna mtu anayeweza kuipata. Sasa kwa kuwa kivinjari changu ni safi na HDD zangu ni safi sina shida kuacha kompyuta yangu kufunguliwa kwa mtu yeyote kuiangalia.

Kwa ujumla hii imekuwa uzoefu wa faida sana kwangu na sina mpango wa kuacha wakati wowote hivi karibuni. Porn ni shit na haitarudi tena maishani mwangu. Huu ni ukweli. Kupanda kwa ujumla ni kupoteza muda na wakati pekee ambao ningeweza kujiruhusu kuifanya tena ni ikiwa mke wangu alikuwa ameenda kwa muda, na sheria ni kwamba wakati fap mawazo yangu ni yake: peke yake. Sehemu ya sababu yangu ya kuanza nofap ni kwa sababu nilitaka kuhusisha raha ya kijinsia na mke wangu na mke wangu tu. Nadhani nimefanikiwa kwa kiasi kikubwa katika hilo.

Imekuwa barabara ndefu na ngumu. Nilikuwa na tabia ya PMO kwa zaidi ya muongo mmoja. Sasa kwa kuwa mimi hatimaye niko huru kutoka kwa hiyo inaridhisha sana na inakomboa.

Neno kwa wenye hekima: usijidhani kuwa wewe mwenyewe huponyiwa na madawa ya kulevya ya PMO. Njia ambayo mimi hufikiria mimi ni kama kurejesha addict porn. Nataka kuepuka aina yoyote ya kulalamika ambayo inaweza kusababisha mimi kuanguka katika mtego tena. Kwa mapumziko ya maisha yangu nitawahi kurejesha addict porn kujitahidi kukaa safi na kuishi maisha kamili.

Asante kwa msaada wa kila mtu na kwa mtu yeyote anayejitahidi kuendelea: endelea nayo! Ikiwa mtu yeyote anataka vidokezo maalum juu ya njia nilizoona zinafaa katika kukaa safi jisikie huru kuuliza. Sitaenda kwa maelezo hapa kwenye chapisho kuu kwa sababu tayari ni ukuta mkubwa wa maandishi.

TLDR: Nimekuwa safi kwa siku 90, najisikia kushangaza, maisha ni ya kutisha zaidi ya 100% kuliko ilivyokuwa hapo awali.

Siku 90 - maboresho ya ajabu ya maisha

by Kila kitu


 

Ripoti ya siku ya 60 (binafsi.NoFap)

by Kila kitu

Kuweka tu: maisha yangu ni bora zaidi. Ninahisi kama mtu. Nina furaha zaidi. Mke wangu ana furaha zaidi. Ninahisi karibu na mke wangu. Ninafurahia muda wangu na mke wangu zaidi (mara mbili za nyakati na nyakati za kawaida). Maisha, tu, ni kamili zaidi ya LIFE.

<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“>I have had some struggles recently. The temptations seem to be coming back and trying to trick me into viewing stuff that would probably be considered super softcore. On second thought, it probably wouldn’t even be considered porn, just sexy pictures.</p><p>It’s been a struggle but I’m saying no and even in the moments where I looked at some stuff that I know wasn’t good for me I kept my hands out of my pants. That right there is a huge victory in my mind. When I started on nofap one of the rules I set for myself that I would only touch myself for pleasure in conjunction with activities with my wife. In the past anytime I had an erection I felt like I HAD to MO. Now I seem to have the self control to not touch myself that way.</p><p>My goal is simple: no more porn for the rest of my life, and probably no fapping for the rest of my life. I want my sexual pleasure and excitement to be tied to my wife. It seems to be working, because my wife excites me so much more than before now. Even the hint of a striptease gets me super hard.</p><p>For anyone who might be struggling with constant relapse know that there IS hope. I was trapped in the PMO cycle for over a decade until I finally broke free.</p><p>The best advice I can give anyone struggling is to consider, seriously, how important being free of this addiction is to you. What sacrifices are you willing to make?</p><p>In my case, the sacrifice that has helped the most was choosing to block all social media and all image databases via K9 (my wife holds the password for me so I cannot change the settings without her help). This severely limits what I can access and makes it easier to stay clean because I know if I do want to find junk to look at it’s going to take a lot of work. Making access to porn difficult has made staying clean much easier.</p><p>TLDR: staying clean of porn and fapping has improved my life dramatically.</p></div></div><p> </p></div><footer class=