Triggers (compiled by rebooters)

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Yes - No fulcrumOver the past days, several fapstronauts compiled the list of triggers/behaviors of risk - with the hopes that it may help others identify some of their own as-yet-undetected triggers.

Please note that both the categories and solutions are arbitrary. This is a work in progress and you are welcome to help improve it.

Biological/physical:

  • insufficient or irregular sleep. Solution: try to give sleep more importance.
  • having a full bladder. Solution: pee as soon as you have the need to.
  • shaving one's genitals (the itchiness from the stubble makes our hands wander). Solution: if possible, avoid shaving during the more critical periods of your PMO-free efforts (e.g., the first week).
  • Missing a meal or eating fast food. Solution: pay more attention to how you eat.

Behavioral:

  • taking the phone or computer in the room at night. Solution: don't go to bed with either phone or computer.
  • being alone in the house for too long. Solution: find excuses to go outside or to interact with other people in your home.
  • going down a slippery slope by saying "oh I'll just read a couple of sexy stories" or "look at a couple of sexy pictures" and next thing I know I've PMO'd. Solution: DON'T START.
  • using computer alone in the room. Solution: only use the computer with other people around you.
  • long sessions of work which make the mind weak. Solution: take breaks and maybe exercise for 5 minutes every few hours of work.
  • smoking pot. Solution: don't, lol.
  • during the shower, touching oneself extensively or playing. Solution: DON'T. In more critical times maybe have a rule where you can only wash yourself with the sponge, not with your hands. Also, consider cold showers.
  • taking the phone into the bathroom. Solution: don't take the phone into the bathroom.
  • spending too much time in the bathroom. Solution: limit yourself to a quick bathroom break.

Websites/online content:

  • Reddit in general
  • 9gag
  • Deviantart
  • Certain anime
  • Youtube
  • Music videos
  • Twitter
  • Tumblr
  • Any sort of image based forum or website that contains image searching features.

Thoughts/Psychological/Emotional:

  • thinking "I'm so horny right now, I'll just quickly masturbate now and keep trying to be PMO free for the rest of the week/month/whatever". Solution: remember the chaser effect and CONTROL your thoughts.
  • thinking of X girlfriend. Solution: catch yourself doing that and actively think of something else or busy yourself with something else.
  • Thinking about partying etc, getting ecstatic about the girls that I will meet. Solution: catch yourself doing that and actively think of something else or busy yourself with something else.
  • feeling unwanted emotions (anger, boredom, sadness). Solution: become more aware of the emotions (maybe through mindful meditation), accept that it's a temporary emotion, and patiently work on making it pass. Sometimes it's just about surviving that particular day and hopefully feeling differently in the morning.
  • thinking too much about how you're not going to think about porn - it means you're thinking quite a bit about porn... Solution: think about something else! Find ways to keep yourself (and your mind!) busy.

Social:

  • "after a successful day at work or school or in a social situation i rationalise that im ok and its ok to fap". Solution: catch yourself in that process and demonstrate its falsehood to yourself.
  • stress. Solution: find other ways to deal with stress (exercise, meditation, etc.)
  • Being hungover and feeling like death on a Sunday morning. Solution: avoid drinking to the point of hangovers.
  • Waking up / morning wood. Solution: get out of bed stat and remember to not have your phone near you.
  • Talking to a girl revealing a lot. Solution: after that particular interaction, quickly find a moment to mindfully explain to yourself that you were just exposed to an attractive girl, and that's OK, and you need to go back to consciously think about other things.

LINK - You might benefit from this compilation of triggers