28 yosh - Uylangan: hayotning ajoyib yaxshilanishi

Men 90 kunlik nishonga tushdim va hayotimda ko'rgan ba'zi afzalliklar haqida xabar bermoqchi edim:

  • Men o'zimni yaxshi his qilyapman. Men o'zimga ishonchni sezilarli darajada oshirmadim, chunki men allaqachon boshlash uchun juda ishonchli yigit edim, lekin buning o'rniga men o'zimni juda yaxshi his qilayotganimni, aslida har doim o'zimni yaxshi his qilayotganimni ko'rdim. Mening odatimni doimo yashirishning sharmandaligi yo'qoldi. Bu nihoyatda ozod.
  • Xotinim bilan bo'lgan munosabatim yaxshilandi. Nofap boshlashdan oldin, allaqachon juda kuchli munosabatlarga erishdik. Biz har kuni ko'p vaqt o'tkazdik va biz juda kuchli muloqotga kirishdik. Men halol deb aytmaymiz, chunki biz hech qachon jang qilmaymiz, chunki biz baqirishdan bosh tortamiz va biz bir narsaga rozi bo'lmasak ham, biz har doim bir-birimizni tinglayapmiz. Xotinim bilan oldingisiga qaraganda ko'proq vaqt sarflayman va bizning samimiy vaqtlarimiz birgalikda (bizning nikohimizdagi katta zaif nuqtalardan oldin) bizdan ko'ra ko'proq va qoniqarli.
  • Xavfsizlik hissi. Men har doim brauzer tarixini tozalaganimga aminman va agar biror narsani yuklab olsam (kamdan-kam hollarda, men shunchaki narsalarni qidirib topsam), uni hech kim topa olmasligi uchun yashirin papkalarga joylashtirardim. Endi mening brauzerim toza va HDD-larim toza bo'lsa, men hech kimni ko'rishi uchun kompyuterimni qulfsiz qoldirishda hech qanday muammo yo'q.

Umuman olganda, bu men uchun juda foydali tajriba bo'ldi va yaqin orada to'xtash niyatim yo'q. Porno - bu axlat va hech qachon mening hayotimga qaytmaydi. Bu haqiqat. Fapping odatda vaqtni behuda sarflaydi va men buni takroran takrorlashga imkon beradigan yagona vaqt, agar xotinim bir muddat ketgan bo'lsa, va qoida shundaki, fapping paytida mening fikrlarim u bilan bog'liq: faqat. Mening nofapni boshlashimning bir sababi shundaki, men jinsiy zavqni xotinim va faqat xotinim bilan bog'lashni xohladim. O'ylaymanki, men bunga ko'p jihatdan erishdim.

Bu uzoq va qiyin yo'l edi. Menda o'n yildan ko'proq vaqt davomida PMO odat bor edi. Endi men nihoyat bundan mamnunman va ozod bo'laman.

Donolarga bir so'z: hech qachon o'zingizni PMO narkomaniyasidan davolang deb hisoblamang. Men o'zimni o'ylayman, bu o'zimni qayta tiklaydigan pank-odatchi kabi. Men yana tuzoqqa tushib qolishimga olib keladigan har qanday xavotirlikdan qochmoqchiman. Hayotimning qolgan qismi men toza bo'lishga va to'la hayot kechirishga harakat qiladigan poraxo'rlikni tiklaydigan bo'lajak bo'laman.

Hammani qo'llab-quvvatlashi uchun va borishga harakat qilayotganlar uchun tashakkur: davom eting! Agar kimdir poklikni saqlash uchun foydali deb topgan usullarim bo'yicha aniq maslahatlarni istasa, iltimos so'rang. Men bu erda asosiy yozuvda batafsil ma'lumot bermayman, chunki u allaqachon ulkan matn devori.

TLDR: Men 90 kun toza edim, o'zimni juda ajoyib his qilyapman, hayot oldingisiga qaraganda 100% ajoyibroq.

90 kun - hayotning ajoyib yaxshilanishi

by Aeveras


 

60 kunlik hisobot (self.NoFap)

by Aeveras

Qisqacha aytmoqchimanki, mening hayotim juda yaxshi. Men o'zimni inson kabi his qilyapman. Men baxtliman. Xotinim baxtli. Men xotinimga yaqinroq bo'lib qoldim. Xotinim bilan ko'proq vaqt o'tkazaman (amaldagi ham, normal vaqtlar ham). Hayot oddiygina hayotga to'la.

<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“>I have had some struggles recently. The temptations seem to be coming back and trying to trick me into viewing stuff that would probably be considered super softcore. On second thought, it probably wouldn’t even be considered porn, just sexy pictures.</p><p>It’s been a struggle but I’m saying no and even in the moments where I looked at some stuff that I know wasn’t good for me I kept my hands out of my pants. That right there is a huge victory in my mind. When I started on nofap one of the rules I set for myself that I would only touch myself for pleasure in conjunction with activities with my wife. In the past anytime I had an erection I felt like I HAD to MO. Now I seem to have the self control to not touch myself that way.</p><p>My goal is simple: no more porn for the rest of my life, and probably no fapping for the rest of my life. I want my sexual pleasure and excitement to be tied to my wife. It seems to be working, because my wife excites me so much more than before now. Even the hint of a striptease gets me super hard.</p><p>For anyone who might be struggling with constant relapse know that there IS hope. I was trapped in the PMO cycle for over a decade until I finally broke free.</p><p>The best advice I can give anyone struggling is to consider, seriously, how important being free of this addiction is to you. What sacrifices are you willing to make?</p><p>In my case, the sacrifice that has helped the most was choosing to block all social media and all image databases via K9 (my wife holds the password for me so I cannot change the settings without her help). This severely limits what I can access and makes it easier to stay clean because I know if I do want to find junk to look at it’s going to take a lot of work. Making access to porn difficult has made staying clean much easier.</p><p>TLDR: staying clean of porn and fapping has improved my life dramatically.</p></div></div><p> </p></div><footer class=