Ngaba Iidemon Zigqithise Ubungqina Bethu? Intshukumo "yeNoFap" icinga njalo

NoFappers bathi ubuchopho babo buye betshutshiswa ngoononophala, ngenxa yobudlelwane bokwenene.

Kudla ngokuba njalo Iphonografi inceda ukuqhuba iteknoloji. Xa iiprojekithi eziphezulu ze-8 ziphuma, ukugqithiswa koononophelo kwakuphakathi kokuqala ukuboniswa. I-VHS yakwazi ukuphosa kwiinkqubo zokhuphiswano ezifana ne-Betamax ngokuyininzi ngenxa yokuba ivumelene neelayisti yeelayisensi. Kwaye iiDVD zenza kube lula ukuxhamla kwiindawo ezingcolileyo zefilimu ezizithandayo.

Izinto ziqhubeka kuloo ndlela. Ngoku singathumela iifoto ezingcolileyo ezizitshabalalisa kumasekhondi e-10 okanye ngaphantsi. Ukubukela abantu abazithembele kwi-webcam ikwi- ibhiliyoni-dollar shishini. Yaye i-kinky ibonakaliso ye-anal kunye ne-double anal, i-fisting kunye ne-double-stisting nje kuphela. Kuyamangalisa ukuba baninzi abasebenzisi bezononografi abanakho kwiinto zabo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuhlolisiswa kwiimifanekiso ezingcolileyo ze-intanethi. Ezinye zezinto ezibalaseleyo zifumaneka kwimisebenzi ye-Marquis de Sade. Ngoko yintoni utshintsho xa ezi ziganeko zisuka kwiphepha ukuya kwisikrini?

Abanye baqhelana nolutsha olutsha olutsha lwe-pornography-ukuxhaswa ngokukhenkceza: Ukubamba. Ilizwi kuqala wabonakala malunga ne-1999, xa isetyenziswe kwi-comic web ebizwayo Abantu abalahlekelwa yimpumelelo. Emva kweminyaka elishumi kamva, eli gama liye lavela kwi Uluhlu lweReddit apho abasebenzisi baxubusha khona ngeenzuzo zokuphepha uonografi kunye nokuyeka ukugcoba. Ukusuka apho, "uFap" waba "i-NoFap" kwaye intshukumo yazalwa. Uluntu lwayo ngoku lubalelwa kwisigidi esisodwa kwisigidi samadoda.

Ngokutsho kwentshukumo website esemthethweni, "I-NoFap ibinzima kwimingeni apho abathathi-nxaxheba banqanda i-pornography okanye i-masturbation ixesha elithile." Kuyabangela abo bavakalelwa kakhulu ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kwizonxepheko kubangele iingxaki ezinzulu ebomini babo. 

Elinye lamagama athetha ngokugqithiseleyo kwintambo ye-NoFap nguGary Wilson, inkokheli kwinkuthazo ye-porn. Wahlolisisa ingxaki yokuxhatshazwa koonwabo kwiTed Talk, "I-Big Porn. "Uphinde ugijime isayithi yourbrainonporn.com kwaye usanda kubhala i-e-ncwadi yohlobo olubizwa ngokuba yi-Kindle e-book Ubuchopho Bakho Kwi-Porn: I-Internet Yezoonografi kunye neSayensi Ephuthumayo YokuLungisa. 

Ingxabano kaWilson yinto encinci, kodwa yinyamezela: uyatsho ukuba ubuchopho bethu bobuzingeli abazi indlela yokwenza umthwalo ogqithiseleyo wezinto eziphathekayo zoononophala ezikhoyo kwi-intanethi namhlanje. Udibanisa ingcamango yesiqhelo kunye nokukhetha ngokwesondo. Ehlabathini lendalo, uchaza, yonke imisebenzi yebhinqa njengethuba lokuvelisa. Ngoko xa umntu ebeka amehlo kuye kwintombazana, ingqondo yakhe iyamxelela ukuba amfumane, amncede aze amkhulelwe. Ingqondo ikhupha i-dopamine yokuncedisa loo njongo.

Indlela entsha yokuzibonakalisa kwi-intanethi kukucofa. UWilson uthi amanyala akhohlisa ingqondo yamadoda ekucingeni ukuba “babethe i-jackpot yendaleko.” Unqakrazo ngalunye luzisa kwintombazana entsha, kwaye ngenxa yoko “lithuba” elitsha. Lihlabathi elingenamda. Ke amadoda aqhubeka ekhangela. Kungekudala, ubuchopho babo buyekiswa kwiimvakalelo zesondo eziqhelekileyo bafuna izinto ezothusayo kunye nezinto zenoveli ukugcina ukuqhuba ngokwesondo okuqhelekileyo.

UWilson uthi lolu hlobo "lwesiphaluka" lufana noko kufunyanwa kwezinye izilonda ezifana nabaxhaphazi beziyobisi okanye izidakwa. Uthi, "Ukholo olusisigxina ngokukhawuleza lunokubangela umlutha," utsho. Ngethamsanqa, uthi, iziphumo ziyakwazi ukuguqula ngokwawo, ngoxa nje abo bachaphazelekayo bavuma ukuyeka ukufikelela kuzo zonke izinto ezimbi: iifoto zoonografi.

Abo bahlala kuluntu lweNoFap-abathi ngamanye amaxesha bazibize ngokuba "ziifapstronauts" -kuthi ukuyeka ukubukela iphonografi kunye nokuphulula amalungu esini kuvumela ingqondo ukuba "iqalise" kwaye ibuyele ekusebenzeni kwesiqhelo. Bathi xa umntu eyeka ukuzibandakanya kule misebenzi, uvuzwa ngokunyuka kokuzithemba, ukugxila kunye ne-libido, emva koko angafunda izakhono ezifunekayo ukugcina ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo, obusempilweni.

Enye yezona zinto zithetha kakhulu ngemicimbi kwi-NoFap yoluntu, ayikho into emangalisayo, i-penis ehlobene. Abaninzi ababengaphambili befappers bathi ukukhwabanisa kwabo kwabathintela ekufezeni ukulungiswa komntu; Ukuzimela kuncike ekuxhaseni kwabo noonografi. Bambiza le "ukungasebenzi kwe-erectile," okanye PIED. Umnqweno womsebenzisiYourHonor ubhala, "Ukungakwazi ukuba neentlobano zesini ukusuka ekukhuleni kakhulu kwiminyaka yam yobuncinci ukuza kuthi ga ngoku (ndineminyaka eyi-23) kubangele ukuba ndiphoswe bubudlelwane obukhulu kuba andinakukwazi ukuphuma ngexesha lokusondela. Ndiza kuziva ngathi ndi-shit kwaye emva koko fap, eyandigulisayo. Ndagqiba kwelokuba ndithathe ulawulo kwaye ndiqiniseke ukuba ubudlelwane obuzayo ndikubo, ndingazinikela ngokupheleleyo kulowo mfazi. Ndimncinci kakhulu ukuba ndingafuna iViagra. ”

Ingxabano inengqiqo. Amazwe ahlangeneyo kunye ne-B e-C, eguqulela ukungasebenzi kwezesondo. Kodwa, njengokuba abanye abafowuni baya kuvuma, kukho izikhewu kwisayensi. Kwaye abanye abafuni ukungawuboni loo nto.

UDkt David Ley, Umbhali we Inkolelo yokuLungiswa kwezesondo, uxelela ukuba, "Ukuvuselela ngokwesondo kusetyenziswa iinkqubo zobuchopho, kodwa iingxoxo ezichasayo zoononophelo zisekelwe kwiingcamango ezilula kunye nokunciphisa indlela ubuchopho busebenza ngayo, indlela ulwabelana ngayo ngesondo, kunye nantoni na i-pornography, njengevidiyo kunye nemifanekiso, Ukubhalwa kwendlela yokubambisana kunye nefilimu, i-hardcore kunye ne-softcore, njl. Kuninzi esingayazi ngalezi zinto kunye neenkcazelo ezininzi ezizimeleyo, ukuba bonke aba bantu bayaphikisana kakhulu, phambili phambili kwedata. Ngenxa yokuba bangena ingxabano kunye nezigqibo zokuziphatha, baxhomekeke kwimpembelelo yokulinda, kwaye baya kubona oko bafuna ukukubona, kwiphando elona lihle, lingabonakali. "

Uyaxwayisa, "Idatha embi, ukungabi nolwazi kunye nokunyanzelwa kwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha yikhokelela kubantu abanjengo [uJohn] Kellogg ephikisana nokutyunjwa, kunye nokusetyenziswa kwemimiselo yokuzikhusela, ukukhusela i-masturbation. Ezi ntlobo zengxabano zenza ukuba isini esingaba sisifo, kunye nabasetyhini ababizwa ngokuba yi-nymphomaniacs. "

Kukhuselekile ukuthetha ukuba ukungaphumeleli koluntu kwandisa ngokugqithiseleyo ngaphaya kweefografi. Oko akuthi ukuthini iifoto zoonografi ayifaki isicwangciso sayo seengxaki. Ukubonakaliswa kwazo kwabasetyhini bayeke ukuba banqwenele, kwaye abo baqhankqalazelayo kwishishini kwizizathu zobomi abanalo isizathu. Kwezinye iimeko ezigqithiseleyo, abantu baye badibanisa iipokethi zoshishino ukuthengiswa ngokwesini kunye nobugqwetha ngokwesini. Kodwa ezi ngxoxo ngokuqhelekileyo zithatha i-backseat kwimibandela ephambili yendoda efana ne-erectile dysfunction kwi-platforms ze-NoFapping. Uluntu luhlala lulolu hlobo "lweengxaki zobunono" njengento enxulumene nempilo yoluntu. Sisiphi isigidimi esiyithumelayo, ngoko ke, xa imiba yoluntu ephathelele kwabasetyhini ivela yesibini kumntu okwazi ukugcina ulungiso?

Kuyinyaniso ukuba amaqela amaninzi aseNoFap asebenza ngokufanelekileyo. Inhlangano ye-XXX yeCawa yaqala ukuhambisa iiBhayibhile kwiimifanekiso ebonakalayo kwi-2006. Injongo yabo kukunikela Ii-100,000 iiBhayibhile eSexpos kwihlabathi liphela. Bathi bakhuphe iiBhayibhile ezingama-75,000 ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Iwebsite Isiphumo seSigxina uvakalisa esithi, "Kulo mfazwe ngokumelene noonwabo, ukuthandaza nokuzila ukutya kunezixhobo ezinamandla."

Le ntshukumo yenza ukuba abantu bakwazi ukuzenza "iingcali." Into engamashumi amabini ananye yeNoFap enomdla uGabe Deem wenza isiteshi seYouTube Ukuqalisa kwakhona isizwe ukwabelana ngebali lakhe lokuxhatshazwa kwezesondo. Ngenye ihlelwe ngokukhawuleza yokuzonwabisa, Iingcamango zihamba ngababukeli nge "ingqondo yesayensi indlela u-pornography echaphazela ngayo." Kwolwazi lwam, Iingcamango azibeki iinqanaba kwizonyango zonyango. 

Oku akuyi kuphazamisa iinkxalabo ezijongene noonografi. Umphandi waseCanada uSimon Lajeunesse wafumanisa ukuba abaninzi abafana bafuna eziphathekayo zobulili Ngeminyaka eyi-10. Kwaye uninzi luxhalabile malunga nekhonkco phakathi kokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn kunye nokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo ngokwesini. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ube nenqanaba lokulwa malunga nabantu abanokuzama ukwenza ezi nkxalabo 

Umnqophiso ikhuthaza abasebenzisi ukuba "benze izigqibo zobulumko malunga nokusetyenziswa kwe-Intanethi" ngokudwelisa zonke iiwebhusayithi ezityelelweyo, amagama asetyenziswayo kunye nazo zonke iividiyo ezibukelweyo kwiNgxelo yoXanduva lwe-Intanethi. Inkampani inethemba lokunciphisa "isilingo sokucofa amakhonkco angalunganga kunye namanyala." UChris Haven, oqale iwebhusayithi Yeka i-Porn Get Girls, kutshanje ubhale incwadi Indlela yokuLahla kwiTinder. UJay Anthony ungumbhali we Iziyobisi ezingamanyala: Ukutshabalalisa umkhwa kunye nokwaphula uMjikelo, maneka kwi-Amazon.

Abo bahlala kuluntu lweNoFap baya kuphakamisa ukuba akukho nto injengokubukela iphonografi, ukuba yonke into engamanyala iyingozi, kwaye uluntu kufuneka lusebenze ekupheliseni ibango le-porn. Abantu abaninzi bayavuma ukuba ukudibana okwenyani nobomi kukhethwa kwimibono yescreen, kodwa ngaba kubi kakhulu ukuba abantu bonwabise okokugqibela? Kwaye kufuneka kangakanani ukuba iinkcazo zamanyala zithintele inkanuko yethu yesini? Ukwabelana ngesondo ngesini phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo, umzekelo, kuye kwaqhelaniswa kwakude kudala ngaphambi kwe-Intanethi. Ke kutheni ubukele kangaka? Abanye balatha kumzi-mveliso we-porn ngokuya usiba nobundlobongela kunye nokuzithoba kwabafazi. Yimpikiswano ebalulekileyo, kwaye ebonakala ngokufuthi kwimisonto yeNoFap, apho imiba efana nokubuyisa ulungelelwaniso kunye nokubekwa kubonakala ngathi ifumana ingqalelo engakumbi. 

Umbutho Melana neDrams entsha isebenza phantsi kwengcamango yokuba "Iifostile zibulala uthando." Omnye wabalingani-mbumbulu wachaza ukuba abaninzi abantu bayazi ukutshaya ugwayi kubabi phambi kokuba bavule. Uthemba ngelinye ilanga abantu baya kubona imifanekiso engamanyala ngendlela efanayo.

Umlutha woonobumba unesihloko esinzima. Uphando oluninzi lufuneka luqhutywe ngaphambi kokuba sifike nasiphi na isigqibo. Kodwa into esinokuyifumana kukuba ukunyangwa koononophelo kukhona apho ukuxhatshazwa koonwabo unako zikhoyo. Mhlawumbi simele sithathe umzuzwana ukuqonda indawo esivumela ukuba sizenzele kuqala.