Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuyenza. Kodwa ukuba ikwenza uzive kakubi, lixesha lokuba wenze utshintsho.
Akukho nto ingalunganga ngayo ukuphonyula. Ukwakheka komntu kuyayingqina loo nto.
“Ukuba uThixo ebengafuni ukuba siphulule amalungu esini, ebengayi kuvumela izandla zethu ukuba zifikelele kumalungu ethu esini,” uGqr. David Greenfield, umseki nomlawuli wezonyango wesebe Iziko le-Intanethi kunye neTekhnoloji yokulutha kunye noMncedisi weNjingalwazi yeKlinikhi yengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseConnecticut School of Medicine uthi. "Inyaniso kukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini mhlawumbi yinto yendalo njengokutya."
Kodwa xa udibanisa i-masturbation kunye nomlingo we-pornography ye-intanethi, umphumo uyityhefu kunye nomkhwa onzima wokuqhawula. Ukufunda indlela yokuyeka ukuphulula amaphambili kunokuba nzima njengokufunda ukungatshayi.
Apho izizukulwana zangaphambili zamadoda ziye zakhuthaza ukonwaba ngooziko, iifilimu, kunye neevidiyo, i- onanists yanamhlanje inokufikelela ngoko nangoko kwiiyure zomxholo wasimahla wephonografi. I umkhukula wokuvuselela I-Supercharges kwi-neural pathways kwindlela ye-mesolimbic yengqondo. "Ngokwenyani uvelisa i-post-synaptic receptors ye-dopamine," utshilo uGreenfield.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, oko kuvuselela kuvuselela ingqondo yakho. Ukuphulula amalungu esini kuyeka ukuzonwabisa okungenabungozi kwaye kuba yingxaki enokukhokelela kwiziphumo ukusuka ekuziphatheni okunyanzelekileyo ukuya I-erectile dysfunction.
Akukho mithetho inzima kwaye ikhawulezayo malunga nokuba xa ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn kuyingxaki, kodwa kukho iiflegi ezibomvu. Olona phawu lubalulekileyo luxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo kwiphonografi. Ngaphambi kokuba uyeke i-porn ngokulungileyo, umbhali kunye nomcebisi Icawa kaNowa wazifumana ephethukela kuyo ukuze afumane iimfuno ezingokweemvakalelo, kungekuphela nje inkanuko yesini. Kwikhoboka le-porn elilulamayo (nceda uqaphele ukuba umsebenzi wezempilo yengqondo awunayo i-porn eyaziwa ngokusemthethweni njengomlutha) i-porn yayiyi-stim crutch exhomekeke kuyo xa ejongene nesizungu, ukugatywa, uxinzelelo okanye isithukuthezi - ukuziphatha wathi kuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu abaneengxaki ze-porn kunye ne-masturbation.
“Leyo yipateni endiyibonayo lonke ikhoboka endisebenza nalo liwele kulo: ukuthembela kumanyala ngokweemvakalelo,” utshilo uCawe. “Kwaye loo nto ayikhe isombulule iingxaki zabo. Ayisoze isenze sizive bhetele ekuhambeni kwexesha. Kodwa ngalo mzuzu siyisebenzisayo, inyanzelise ngokwaneleyo kangangokuba isivumela ukuba silibale ngazo zonke iimvakalelo ezingalunganga esinokuba nazo. ”
UGary Wilson's Ted Talk "Uvavanyo olukhulu lwePonografi" ibukelwe amaxesha angaphezu kwezigidi ezili-12 ukusukela oko yafakwa kuYouTube ngo-2012.
Kumboniso wemizuzu eli-16, i-anatomy, i-physiology kunye ne-pathology esele isidla umhlala-phantsi, iqinisekisa ukuba ukunyuka kweenjini zokukhangela kunye neesayithi ze-porn tube zinike amadoda ukufikelela ngakumbi kwimifanekiso yesondo kunanini na ngaphambili kwimbali. Ukufumaneka ngokulungeleyo kwezinto ezintsha ukusuka kwimiboniso emitsha ukuya kubadlali abatsha be-porn ukuya kwimifanekiso emitsha kwenza ukunyuka okuthe gqolo kokubonwayo.
"Ngoko ke baya kubukela i-lesbian porn, ngoko ngequbuliso baya kuba kwi-BDSM, baze badikwe," kusho uWilson. "Kwaye konke oku kwiseshoni enye."
Ukuphulula amaphambili kwiphonografi kukhanyisa iziko lokuvuza kwengqondo. Kodwa, ngaphandle kokukhuthazwa, awenzi nantoni na eqinisekisa umvuzo. Enyanisweni, kubandakanya iindleko ezininzi zamathuba, njengoko kunokukushiya udiniwe kwaye uhlazekile ungenanto ngaphandle komnqweno ophakamileyo wokufumana iphonografi.
UWilson uthi amadoda asoloko engayazi ukuba indlela yokuphulula amalungu esini eyingxaki de abe sele emgama ukusuka kubo. Ukufumana loo mgama kunokuba nzima, nangona kunjalo. UWilson uthi: “Abafana bayayixhathisa ingcamango yokuba kukho umntu othatha iphonografi yam. Ndihlala ndisithi, 'hayi, i-porn iya kubakho. Ndithembe. Ungabuyela nanini na. Thatha ikhefu uze ubone ukuba akuchaphazeli kusini na kwaye mhlawumbi ubomi bakho bunokuba bhetele uze emva koko ujonge izinto ngokufundileyo.’”
Ukubakho kwe-Intanethi kwenza ukuba ukuyeka iphonografi kunye nokuphulula amaphambili kube ngumngeni onzima. Asiqhelekanga ubude bengalo ukusuka kwilaptop, ithebhulethi okanye i-smartphone, okuthetha ukuba asikho ngaphezu kocofa okanye siswayipha kude kumanyala. “Ukuchacha kubukhoboka bephonografi kweli xesha lezobugcisa kufana nokuchacha ekukhotyokisweni kotywala ngeflaski yotywala esoloko isepokothweni,” watsho uChurch.
Kodwa unxibelelwano, uxanduva, kunye noncedo lwetekhnoloji lunokwenza ukuba uyeke. Ukuphulula amalungu esini kunobubi obubhakiweyo kwimodeli. Ayifane ibhengezwe - akukho mntu uvimba ixesha layo kwikhalenda kaGoogle ekwabelwana ngayo okanye ubhengeza ukuba sele eza kuyenza. Kwelinye icala, ukuthetha phandle ngeengxaki zakho zokuphulula amalungu esini kunokukunceda ukoyise.
ICawe ithi: “Ukukhotyokiswa sisifo sokuzahlula nokuba nemfihlo. "Kwaye ke eyona nxalenye inkulu yokuchacha ivuleleka kwabo babathandayo, becela uncedo, ukufumana inkxaso kunye nokuba noluntu olubangqongileyo."
Intetho yakudala yokuba izandla ezingasebenziyo ziyinto yokudlala kasathana inokuba yinyaniso engxamisekileyo kubantu abajonge ukuthintela imikhwa engafanelekanga yokuphulula amalungu esini. Ukuba uneebhloko ezinkulu zexesha lasimahla onokuthi ulichithe wedwa, kulula ukuhendeka.
“Ndidla ngokucebisa ukuba ukuba abantu abakabi nalo ucwangciso oluluqilima ebomini babo baqalise ukulwenza,” utsho uChurch.
Kukho inkxaso esele ilungile kwi-intanethi ye-porn kunye ne-masturbation detox enkosi kwi-NoFap, indawo ye-intanethi ebizwa ngokuba yi-masturbation slang term "fapping." Kuyo iwebhusayithi yegama kwaye i I-NoFap i-subreddit "I-fapstronauts" yabelana ngeengcebiso, izithuba ezikhuthazayo, amabali omntu, ukulila malunga nokuphindaphinda kunye neminye imixholo enxulumene nokuyeka i-PMO (i-porn / i-masturbation / orgasm). Baluluntu oluxhasayo olunezibonelelo ezinkulu. Kodwa bathambekele kubafana abancinci abachitha iminyaka yabo yokukhula bekwimo engapheliyo yokunyanzeliswa kokuphulula amalungu esini okubashiya ubomi babo kunye nemifanekiso yabo bekwi tatters ezilusizi. Ukuba ungaphezulu kweminyaka engama-30, iNoFap inokubonakala ngathi ngamanye amaxesha ithembisa ngaphezulu kunokuba inikezela - oko kukuthi, ukuzikhwebula ekuphululeni amalungu esini kunokunika "amandla amakhulu."
"Abafana abaninzi kunye nabakwishumi elivisayo baphelela kwiNoFap okanye kwenye indawo kwaye babejonge ukufumana amandla abo amakhulu," utshilo uWilson. “Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo amagunya amakhulu akakho, kodwa into ayenzayo kukuzama ukuziva wonwabile kwakhona. Njengokukwazi ukumilisela ingqondo yayingamandla amakhulu. Ukukhuthazwa, ukuba namandla. Ukulala kakuhle, ukwandisa ubuchule, ukungoyiki ukusondela kubafazi. "
IiFapstronauts zikhuthazana ukuba zihlale zizinikele kwiNoFap egameni lokuziphucula. Ukubeka izinto zakho kwinjongo ephezulu kunokunceda abanye abantu baphephe iphonografi. Ngokunjalo unokufumana into yokuzonwabisa ukuze uvale isithuba. Kodwa, uGreenfield walumkisa, ayizukusebenzela wonke umntu. Uthi: “Ezo ziindlela eziluncedo. “Kodwa uthetha ngeendlela zakudala zokusinda ebuchotsheni. Kwaye bomelele kakhulu kwaye bazimisele kunye nenkuthazo. ”
UGreenfield ugxininisa ukuba ngelixa ukuyeka kunzima, kunokwenzeka. “ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuyeka ukuyisebenzisa, unako,” utshilo. "Kodwa uya kufuna inkxaso nokuba liqela lenkxaso kunye / okanye usetyenziso olunokuthintela ukufikelela kwakho kumanyala."
Ukuqaphela ukuba kudla ngokuba lula ukunqanda ii-apps kunye neenkqubo zokuthintela iphonografi, iCawe ihlala icebisa ukuba abathengi bakhe basebenzise iinkqubo zokuphendula ngamanyala njenge. Umnqophiso I-Covenant Eyes ayivali nje iisayithi zamanyala. Ibeka iliso kwi-intanethi yababhalisi kwaye ilumkise "ihlakani elithembekileyo," njengomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho, ukuba umrhumi ufikelele kuphonografi ngokuthumela izikrini eziluzizi kwindawo endwendwelwe ngumrhumi.
Kwaye oko kunokubonakala ngathi linyathelo eligqithileyo ngoku, cinga ngayo kwakhona kwixesha elizayo xa uvala iithebhu ze-incognito ezingama-36 zeevidiyo zePornhub endaweni yokucoca igaraji. Isoyikiso sokuba nee-screenshots ezingama-36 zisiwe kwi-inbox yomfazi wakho zinokubonakala zisengqiqweni.
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