U-Alexandra Katehakis, MFT Umsunguli kunye nomphathi weklinikhi, iZiko leMpilo eliSokolayo
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Lo uyaqala ukuba ngumbuzo odiniweyo, kodwa ndiqinisekile ukuba wena nabahlobo bakho nithethile malunga nokuba ngaphezulu nangaphezulu kwabafana kwi-20s kunye ne-30s yabo bakhalaza ngokungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile, okanye ubukwiphepha lokufumana into engathandekiyo Ilungu lobudoda. Kubonakala ngathi ubhubhane omtsha usondele, ngokuthetha, ukusuka ekusetyenzisweni ngokubanzi kwe-masturbation kwi-Intanethi yamanyala. Kwaye ama-skeptics aqhubeka egxininisa ukuba umlutha woononophala awunakwenzeka, ngelixa uphando oluninzi lubonisa ukuba kuyo yonke imisebenzi ye-intanethi, i-porn iyona umlutha kakhulu. Fumana ukuphumla! Cinga ngoku: Ukusetyenziswa kwephonografi konke malunga nokuba wedwa kwaye uzimele wedwa, kuyinkcazo yento oyichazayo, kwaye malunga nokukhangela okungalindelekanga, izinto ezintsha, kunye nokothuka ngamanye amaxesha. Ukuthandana nomnye umntu ngenxa yokufuna ukunxibelelana ngokwesondo kufuna ukuhlangana kwabantu, ukubamba, ukuvumba, ukujonga emehlweni omntu, kwaye uzenze ube sesichengeni. Ngubani ofuna oko?!
Kwividiyo yeTEDx "I-Big Porn, "UGary Wilson usixelela ukuba amakhwenkwe amaninzi aqala ukufuna iphonografi eneminyaka eyi-10, ngenxa yengqondo ekwinqanaba lokukhula okukhulu. Cinga ngendlela abantwana abakwishumi elivisayo abafuna ukuhlala benobutsha ngayo ukuze bazive banelisekile kwaye badikwa lula. Oku kuyimfuneko yendalo. Singabazingeli-babaqokeleli, ke ukufuna izinto ezintsha ngendlela yeqabane elilandelayo kuyimfuneko yemfuzo, kwaye ikhupha i-dopamine. Oku kunzima kubantu. Xa i-dopamine ikhutshwa ikakhulu ngokunxulumene nemifanekiso engamanyala, nangona kunjalo, emva koko ingqondo iphinda iziphinde ngokoqobo, kwaye zonke izinto ezinxulumene ne-porn zifunwa: ukuba wedwa, ukuba wedwa, kunye ne-voyeuristic; ukumangala, ukubuka izinto ezintsha, kunyeothuka; Ungakhankanyi ngokungapheliyo ucofa imouse.
UWilson ucacisa ukuba inkqubo yomvuzo wobuchopho bethu yenzelwe ukusishukumisela kwimivuzo esinika uyolo, njengokutya kunye nokwabelana ngesondo. Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa kuninzi kakhulu kwi-dopamine kwinkqubo? Cinga ngexesha lokugqibela lokutya kakhulu. Kweneke ntoni? Ngaba ukhe wazityisa ngesidlo sangokuhlwa esikhulu emva koko emva koko waba neqhekeza elikhulu le dessert emva koko? Ukuba kunjalo, i-dopamine yayisakha kwingqondo yakho ukuze ungakwazi ukufunda umqondiso we-satiation othi, "Yima, wonele." Endaweni yoko, ungene kumjikelo wokufuna ngakumbi, okukukhokelela ekubeni utye yonke intlango. Ukuba kufuneka uqokelele ukutya okuninzi ixesha elide lekhefu ebusika, kuya kufuneka ugqithise umqondiso wokuhlutha, okanye ukuba ixesha lokukhwelana liza kube kanye ngonyaka, kungcono ube uxakekile. Kuba kuthiwe sisidalwa esiphucukileyo, kutheni le nto siqhubeka nokugqobhoza inkqubo yokuhlutha? Ngokuyinxenye, kuba sinakho, kwaye xa sisenza, umlutha uqhubeka. Xa kuninzi kakhulu okwakhiwa kwe-dopamine kwingqondo, ikhemikhali ebizwa ngokuba yiDelta Fos B iqokelela kwisekethe yomvuzo. Olu lwakhiwo lutshintsha ingqondo kwaye lukhuthaze umjikelo wokubamba kunye nokunqwenela, kwaye yiyo loo nto ekugqibeleni ikhokelela kutshintsho lobuchopho kwizikhoboka. Imilutha ye-porn equation kukuba ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn kulingana nokuveliswa okungaphezulu kwe-dopamine-yokudala i-Delta Fos B, ekhokelela kutshintsho lobuchopho.
Onke amaGuy jonga kwi-Porn… Ke ngoku?
Umphandi waseCanada wazama ukufunda ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn phakathi kwamadoda asekholejini kwaye akazange afumane iqela lolawulo-elithetha iqela labafana abangakhange basebenzise iphonografi. Ke, kuyinyani, bonke abantu bajonge iphonografi! Ukuba onke amadoda asekholejini ajonge iphonografi, emva koko ukujonga iphonografi kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ngenxa yokuba uninzi lwaba bafana bebejonge iphonografi ubuncinci ishumi leminyaka, bekungekho ndlela yokufumanisa ukuba ukujonga iphonografi kubuchaphazele njani ubomi babo bezesondo okanye akunjalo. Ingqondo iyatshintsha abo basebenzisa i-porn ngokunyanzelekileyo ukuba bangazazi, kuba bafana nesele lesaci eliza kuphekwa libhubhe. Ukuba ubeka isele emanzini abilayo, siyaphuma. Ukuba uyifaka emanzini apholileyo kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe ubunyusa ubushushu, ayisayi kuze ive ukuphela kwayo. Sebenzisa i-porn eyoneleyo kwaye, njengotywala ngokuhamba kwexesha, uya kuphelelwa kukuziva wonwabile kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Utshintsho kwingqondo yakho luya kuba nemincili kwaye uvuswe xa ubona ilaptop yakho, flip vula isiciko, ucofe iphedi yakho yemouse, kwaye uqalise ukukhangela umfanekiso wenoveli wokugqibela. Khumbula, ayibhekiseli kwisini; imalunga nezinto ezintsha. Njengoko usiba namandla ngaphezulu kwesiyobisi sakho, utshintsho lwakho lwangaphambili lwecortex, yiyo loo nto ungasenakufumana ulwakhiwo ngomntu ophilayo. Undwendwela ugqirha wezonyango ngokunyusa iziyobisi, kwaye zisebenza okwethutyana okanye hayi kwaphela, emva koko uphela ungenile unyango ngemiba yezesondo. Ugqirha ukuxelela ukuba awunayo nayiphi na imiba enzulu yengqondo kodwa ukuba ingqondo yakho ibuthathaka kwimpilo yokwenyani yokwabelana ngesondo ngenxa yokugculelwa yimifanekiso engamanyala, ngenxa yoko ayikwazi ukuthumela imiqondiso kwilungu lakho lobudoda ukuze ime. Unyango kuphela kukuya kwizidlo ezingamanyala ixesha elide.
'Gcina iPenis,' okanye uvuko lwePenile
Iiwebhusayithi ziyavela kwi-Intanethi zinceda abafana ukuba bayeke "ukufakela." Ukutshiza kuthetha ukuphulula amalungu esini kwi-Intanethi, kunye nokuchasana nokufota kuyinxalenye yentshukumo yamadoda eqokelela ngokukhawuleza umphunga. Iindawo ezinje Reddit bongeza amalungu ngamawaka. Ngenxa yokuba uninzi lwabafana luqale ukujonga iphonografi kwangoko kwiminyaka eyi-8, kuyabathatha ixesha elide ukubuyisela i-neurochemistry yabo kunamadoda amadala. Ukuqala iphonografi kwi-Intanethi usemncinci kuyingozi, kuba ingqondo ikwimeko ephezulu yemveliso ye-dopamine. Imijikelezo esetyenziswayo iyomelezwa, kwaye abanye bayathenwa. Ezi ndlela zixinene ngokudibeneyo ngelixa umntu ekwiminyaka ye-20 okanye ye-30s, ke ukurhoxa ekusebenziseni iphonografi kunokuba nzima. Kodwa hlala apho kwaye ungalahli ithemba. Emva kweenyanga ezine okanye ezintlanu, ulwakhiwo lwakho luya kubuyiselwa.
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Ukufumana inkxaso ukuyeka ukusebenzisa i-intanethi yinto efanelekileyo, kuba uya kuphuma yedwa kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, uhlazo. Iintlanganiso ezilishumi elinambini ezinje SAA, I-SCA, yaye ISLAA inokuba luncedo kakhulu. Ukubeka icebo lokucoca ulwelo kwikhompyuter yakho, ungayisebenzisi xa uwedwa ekhaya okanye kwigumbi apho abanye bengayiboniyo ikhusi kwaye into oze kuyo ikwalicebo elilungileyo. Ukuba unengxaki yokwenene, cinga ukufumana uncedo olukhethekileyo kwiingcali zokulutha ngesondo (unokukhangela SASH or IITAP.)
Ixesha elingaphezulu, ipenisi yakho iya kuma kwakhona ngokunxulumene nendoda okanye intombazana enegazi elipheleleyo kunye nenegazi. Ngexesha elithile phantsi komgca ungaziva ufuna ukuphulula amaphambili. Ukuba kunjalo, cinga ngokuya kwisikolo esidala kwaye usebenzise ifoto yeqabane lakho okanye umfanekiso wemagazini, kodwa nyathela kancinci, kuba ingqondo yakho iye yahamba nge-wringer. Xa ungathandabuzeki, ungayenzi. Khumbula, hlala kude neetopties ezinamacala amabini, kuba ziipikseli, kwaye zilapho hayi malunga nezesondo.
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