Yintoni ekhangeleka ngayo i-post-pornographic emotion?
Abasebenzisi abaqhelekileyo abanikezela i-porn bahlala bexela utshintsho olungalindelekanga, njenga ukuphucula ukusebenza kwesondo kunye nokwaneliseka, ukuzithemba ngakumbi kunye nomnqweno wobudlelwane, ingxinano engcono, ulwalamano oluthandayo olwanelisayo kwaye nakanjalo. Sekunjalo nabo bahlala bethetha ngelinye utshintsho: Bavakalelwa ngakumbi imvakalelo. Oku kudla ngokubamkelekileyo kwaye kungabikho ntoyiyo ekuqaleni. Nazi ezinye iingxelo ezivela kubafana abazama ukuyeka i-porn:
Guy: "Khange ndicinge nokucinga ngezinto ezinje ngosizi ndide ndiqale eli linge. Ezi mvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezivela ekumiseni iphonografi zindibonisile ukuba ndingumntu odibeneyo kunye novakalelo kunokuba ndicinga. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana ezi mvakalelo. ”
Utshintsho lunokudibanisa kwaye lucelomngeni:
Omnye umfana: "Ukusuka kulonwabo olungachazekiyo kwintlungu ekhubazekileyo, ngoku ndifumana iimvakalelo ezingakaze zibonwe ngaphambili. Ukuphulula amaphambili kwimifanekiso engamanyala kuye kwawandisa la manyala, endishiya ndonwabile kwaye ndonwabile. ”
Omnye umfana: "Into uninzi lwabantu ebonakala ngathi ayamkeli, kukuba uya kudibana neemvakalelo ongakhange uzive kangangeminyaka, mhlawumbi ngekhe. Amantombazana angabalulekanga kuwe ngaphambili ngequbuliso aya kuba yinto ephambili kubomi bakho-bukumkani. Olo vavanyo usilele kulo? Awuyikhupheli ngaphandle; uzikhathaza ngebanga lakho; uzikhathaza ngokuza okokugqibela kwiiveki ezimbini. Kwaye oku kulungile; isihogo kulungile.
Oku kukubandezeleka ofunda kuko, okukhulayo njengomntu. Kodwa kuya kubuhlungu. Kumanqaku uya kuziva ulusizi, udidekile mhlawumbi udandathekile. Kodwa musa ukuwela kuloo mgibe. Ukudlula kweemvakalelo, iinkumbulo ziyaphela, kwaye uya kuphuma womelele ngenxa yoko. Khumbula, uneminyaka yokukhula ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokukhula okuza kubakho. Kusenokungabi lula, ungaziva ungakhululekanga, kodwa kufanelekile. ”
Olu tshintsho alwenzeki ngobusuku, njengoko lo mfo wafumanisa:
"Bendihlala ndinemvakalelo kwaye ndithanda umntu ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale iphonografi. Kwiminyaka ye-3, kude kube yinyanga ephelileyo, bendibetha inyama yam kwi-2 iiyure ezi-3 ngokomndilili. Indenze ndangakhathali ngothando nakwiimvakalelo. Ndiziva njenge zombie ndingenazimvakalelo! Ndiye kwiintsuku ezingama-20 ubuninzi ngaphandle kokuhlaziya i-pornography. Ngoku, uninzi lwamantombazana lusondela kum. Kodwa eyona nto indixhalabisayo kukuba andiva luthando (amabhabhathane esiswini) kuwo. Yiyo loo nto, kufuneka ndibuye umva, kuba ndiziva ngathi andizokwazi ukubanika uthando. Ndiya kuqala nini ukuziva uthando kwakhona? Nceda undincede kule nto !!! Andiva nto. ”
Kuqhubekani?
Omnye umntu wathi:
“Iphonografi, embindini wayo, ifana nayo nayiphi na into ekukhobokisayo okanye isimilo. INGABUPHI intlungu yakho, kodwa yiyo apho ingxaki ikhona. Uyabona, awunakukhetha ukuphazamisa imvakalelo okanye imvakalelo ngaphandle kokuphazamisa zonke ezinye iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo. Nangona ezi zinto zibenza buthathaka ubuzaza, isizungu, usizi, ukuphoxeka kunye noloyiko, zikwathomalalisa uluhlu lweemvakalelo ezinje ngolonwabo, ithemba, uvuyo nothando. ”
Ngokuchanekileyo iphazamisa njani iimvakalelo zakho? Iingqondo zethu zavela ukuze zizabalazele i-homeostasis. Ukuba sihlaselwe kukuvuselelwa okukhulu bayalungelelanisa. Umzekelo, bathulisa imiqondiso ye-neural ngokutshintsha amanqanaba e-receptor yeseli ye-neurotransmitters ephambili. Ukunyamezelwa okungapheliyo kunokukhokelela kubundindisholo, okanye impendulo engacacanga kwisikhuthazo, kubandakanya inkuthazo ebikade ibhalisiwe njengomvuzo.
Ngomqondiso ofanayo, ukususa ukugqithisela kukuziva kubolile ekuqaleni (kuba ubomi bemihla ngemihla bubonakala bubuhlungu kwaye buba nenjongo), kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo i-numbness ishintshe ngokwayo. Imibala iyabuya kwaye inzondelelo iyanda.
UDoug Lisle uchaza ngokucacileyo kwintetho yakhe yeTEDx: Umgibe Wenjabulo. Unika imizekelo yendlela abadla ngokutya kakhulu abanokuthi babuye umva ngayo kwiminqweno yokutya kunye nexesha lokuzila okanye lejusi kuphela. Umgaqo ofanayo wokunyusa ubuntununtunu ngokuphepha ukuthoba ngaphezulu kusebenza kuyo yonke imbuyekezo yendalo, kubandakanya ukuphulula amalungu esini kwi-Intanethi. (Ukunikezela ngamanyala ku-porn ukuze ufumane olu phuculo kubizwa ngokuba "kuqaliswa kwakhona. ")
Iwebhusayithi ebalaseleyo, echaza ngokucacileyo imigaqo-nkqubo kunye nobuchule obusemva “kokutshintsha indawo osetwe kuyo” ukuze uzive ulunge ngakumbi kwaye wanelisekile, yile www.gettingstronger.org kaTodd Becker. Mamela kwi udliwano-ndlebe noTatd.
Uphando loxinzelelo lukwasikhanyisela kule meko yeemvakalelo ezibuthathaka ezibangelwa kukugqithisa kokukhuthaza, kwaye sizakujonga oku ngokunzulu ngakumbi kwisithuba esizayo. Okwangoku, siza kubonisa ukuba uphando lutyhila oko i-dopamine inika inkxaso Ukuphendula kuzo zonke izinto ezikhuthazayo, ke xa iphantsi, kuya kulindeleka iimpendulo ezingalunganga kwaye ezintle kwiimvakalelo- kuba nto uvakalelwa ufanelekile ukukhathazeka.
Uphando ngamanye amaxesha uphoswa uphawu
Abaphandi sele benze ubungqina "bokungafuneki" (ukusetyenziswa kwamanani okujikeleza kwengqondo) kubasebenzisi bezesono / izilonda zesini: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, kunye nakulo addicts internet, izilwanyana zokutya kwaye ngcakazo. Enyanisweni, zonke izilingo zokuziphatha zibandakanya utshintsho olusisiseko lweengqondo, apho ukungafuneki nto kuphela.
Nangona kunjalo, ukungazihoxisi ezo ziphumo, I-SPAN Lab, ekhokelwa nguKinsey grad (owayesakuba ngu-UCLA ngesondo kwezesondo uNicole Prause), kuvavanywa abasebenzisi be-porn abanengxaki ngokusebenzisa iingxelo zabo zokuphendula ngokweemvakalelo kuzo zombini iifilimu zesondo ezi-3 kunye nenye ifilimu. Akumangalisi ukuba, izifundo ngaphandle kweengxaki zokulawula ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn zichaze uluhlu olubanzi lweemvakalelo ezifanayo kunalezo zinzima ukulawula ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn. Okumangalisayo kukuba, abaphandi ababonisanga ngcaciso ngomahluko. Endaweni yokuba bathi iziyobisi ezingamanyala bekufanele ukuba zibonise ukubanzi "kokusebenzisana" kweemvakalelo (ngaphandle kwesiseko sethiyori yale hypothesis), kwaye bathetha ukuba ukwehla kwabo kuluhlu lweemvakalelo kwakububungqina bokuba abasebenzisi be-porn babengezoziyobisi. (Huh?)
Ubunyani bokuba iibinki ezinobunzima Ngaphantsi ukuphendula kwisikhuthazo-ngaphandle kokuba, ewe, ezo zinto zishukumisayo zichanekile ngokujonga iziyobisi ezithile zababukeli (ezaziwa ngoochwephesha bezenzululwazi njengeziyobisi ku khuthazwa). Yaye inyaniso ibonisa ngoku zifundo ezininzi: Izifundo ezidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwezesondo / ukulala ngesondo kwiingxaki zesondo, ukusetyenziswa kwengqondo engaphantsi kwisistim sezesondo, nokwaneliseka ngokwesini
- Uhlaziyo. Izifundo ezininzi zidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo kwiziphumo ezingenangqondo ezingqondweni: Izifundo ezidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo kwimpilo ehluphekileyo yengqondo-yeemvakalelo kunye neziphumo ezihlwempuzekileyo zokuqonda.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumntu? Ukuba yindoda?
Ngokuqinisekileyo umntu ngamnye ngokwendalo uchaza amanqanaba ohlukeneyo ovakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, kuyabonakala kwakhona kubugcisa obukhulu begama lokuba amadoda angamadoda avele ukuba abe noluhlu olubanzi lweemvakalelo.
Ngaba imbono yethu yangoku "yempilo yesiqhelo yamadoda" iphosakele yinto yokuba ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-Intanethi kuyinto eqhelekileyo kumadoda amaninzi? Ngaba abafana banamhlanje basibonisa into engaphantsi koluhlu lweemvakalelo zabo ngenxa nje yokuba ubuchopho babo buye "balawulwa" ukuphendula ii-smörgåsbords ezikwi-intanethi zanamhlanje? (Abafazi ukunika ingxelo efanayo, kunjalo nje.)
Omnye umfana: "Ngesiquphe ndineminyaka engama-24 ubudala, ndihlala ndedwa, kodwa andonwabanga, ayisiyi kusilela kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayisiyiyo mpumelelo. Ubomi bam babutofotofo ngeyona ndlela — kwaye ndandingenanto kwaphela. Akhonto ibindishiya. Xa iingcinga zaziqala ukundingxala ngokubhala le noveli bendiyipheka ngasemva kwengqondo yam, malunga nokubaleka loo marathoni bendihlala ndifuna ukuyiqhuba, malunga nazo zonke iincwadi endifuna ukuzifunda, abantu ekufuneka ndihlangane nabo, ngokufutshane, ubomi phila-ndiza fap. “Ndiza kuqala ngomso; okwangoku ndiza kufota. ” Nonke niyayazi ukuba ihamba njani.
Yindlela emfutshane, emnandi, kwaye elula yokugcwalisa le ndebe ingenanto ngaphakathi kwakho…. ndaziva phantse ndingenanto. Bendihlala kwidolophu enkulu, esencinci nenomdla — kwaye khange ndinike nyani- k. Ngamaxesha athile bendiziva ndinexhala okanye ndisoyika (xa ukufakelwa kwam kuqala kube negalelo ekungafezekisweni komsebenzi), kwaye ngamanye amaxesha luhlobo lokonwaba. Kodwa ndandisele ndisisigaqa. Yonke into indonwabisile xa kuthelekiswa nokufota. Okothusayo kukuba, isini ngamanye amaxesha sasisiba sesiphantsi kunokwanda. ”
Nazi amazwana avela kumadoda amaninzi afunyenweyo:
Umntu wokuqala: "Ukujonga iphonografi okugqithisileyo kunye nokuphulula amalungu esini kunciphisa amandla am okuziva ndinemvakalelo ngokupheleleyo. Ndibe nokulila kwam kokuqala kwiminyaka eliqela emva kweentsuku ezilishumi kwiindlela zam zokuqala. Ukusukela ngoko, ndikhale kaninzi- ngelixa ndiphulaphule umculo, ndifunda ibali, ndicinga ngabantu ebomini bam, nezimvo ezintle zinokundenza ndonwabe. Kwakungekho njalo ngaphambili. Ngalo lonke ixesha ndikhumbula, bendinonxunguphalo kwaye ndingafane ndichaphazeleke lihlabathi elandingqongileyo.
Izinto ezithile zazinamandla ngokwaneleyo ukusika inkungu endandihlala kuyo, kodwa ubukhulu becala ndadada. Ndandingonwabanga kakuhle. Ukubuyiselwa umva koku kuye kwaba lolunye lotshintsho olunzulu endikhe ndabona ukushiya kwam, kwaye kuye kwaba nomvuzo omkhulu. Uvakalelo ngokweemvakalelo lubangele ukwanda kokuqhambuka kobuchule. Ukushukunyiswa yinto oyenzileyo kunomvuzo ngokwenene, kwaye kuyomeleza ngokumangalisayo. Ndibhale umculo omninzi endizingcayo ngawo kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zidlulileyo kunokuba bendinjalo kule minyaka mine idlulileyo. ”
Umntu wesibini: "UPhakathi kwezinto ezininzi eziphucukileyo ebomini bam okoko ukuyeka iphonografi kuye kwaba kukunyuka okungalindelekanga kovelwano lwam kwabanye. Njengomgaqo jikelele, ndiyabakhathalela abanye abantu kodwa andinalo uvelwano okanye amandla okuqonda okanye okwabelana nabanye ngendlela abanye abantu abavakalelwa ngayo. Xa into embi isenzeka komnye umntu, ndiyakwazi ukwamkela ukuba basenokuba baziva kakubi ngayo kodwa andiziva ndingonwabanga. Kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zidlulileyo, nangona kunjalo, ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba ndinolwazelelelo ngakumbi ngemizabalazo yabanye abantu kwaye ndiye ndaziva iintlungu zabo ngendlela endingazange ndibenayo ngaphambili. Ndizifumene ndikhathazekile nabanye, kwaye ndikwazile ukuveza inkxalabo yam ngendlela endingazange ndibenayo ngaphambili. ”
Umntu wesithathu: "Xa ndandibukela iphonografi, ndandililungu elisebenzayo eluntwini. Khange ndinike ii-hoots ezi-2 malunga noku kulandelayo: Umsebenzi, usapho, ityala, iimvakalelo zabaseTyhini, ithemba lokukhulisa umntwana (bekubonakala ngathi yinto ehlekisayo kum- kutheni umntu enokuba nabantwana?). Ingozi yeziyobisi ezikhobokisayo, Ukuvota kunye nezopolitiko, Indawo endihlala kuyo, ukuthanda ilizwe. Ndiyathetha, ndiza kuba nakho ukubhala izithuba ezide zeReddit zokuba kutheni into ilungile okanye ingalunganga, kwaye nefilosofi ngokungapheliyo. Kodwa xa kufikwa kwisenzo, ndandingummeli ofileyo.
Ukuba naliphi na inani elifanelekileyo labafana linento enjengam, ke thina, njengempucuko, sisengxakini enkulu. Kukho intsomi yembali yokuba uBukhosi baseRoma bawa ngenxa yeziphumo ezifihlakeleyo zetyhefu yelothe-isiphumo esisecaleni sobuchwephesha babo obunomdla obunomdla. Nokuba oku kuyinyani okanye akunjalo akuchaphazeli inqaku. Eyona nto ifanelekileyo kukufaniswa kwabahloli beekhompyuter banamhlanje, abathe bangena kuwo onke amakhaya nakwigumbi lokulala, bempompa i-Intanethi. ”
Umntu wesine: "Ukuqalisa kwakhona (ukuyeka iphonografi) kusizisa kulungelelwaniso olungcono ngeendlela ezingaphezulu kokukwazi ukudlala imidlalo yebhoner. Idibanisa abantu kwinqanaba elinzulu, kwaye ndiza kude ndiye kuthi xa yonke into yokuqalisa ngokutsha iqokelela amandla, kuyakubakho utshintsho kutshintsho olwenzekayo ngenxa yalo. ”
Kufuphi, ukuba ngaba abantu abathile ngokungathandabuzekiyo bayaziphazamisa iimvakalelo zabo ngokujongela phantsi ubuchopho babo, bekungayi kuba kuhle ukuba oku kube lulwazi oluqhelekileyo? Iya kuvumela ukhetho olunolwazi ngakumbi, kwaye mhlawumbi ikhuthaze ulingelo olufike ngexesha. Umntu unokukhetha, athi, yeka i-Intanethi kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ukuze ubone indlela ubomi obujonga ngayo kwindawo eyahlukileyo ye-neural "set point". Yabona "Lungiselela iimvakalelo ezinamandla ngakumbi."
Iziphumo zolu vavanyo lwalumangalisa le ndoda:
"Oko ndivakalelwa ngaphambi nangemva kokuyeka:
- Ubomi buthuntu, akukho ndawo yokuya kwaye ubomi buyinkcitho.
- I-Porn yiyona yam yehlabathi, amantombazana asemasontweni nje.
- Akukho nto ibizwa ngokuba luThando; Inye inyani kwindalo iphela, okt.
- Bonke ubudlelwane kunye nokudibanisa buxoki.
- Wonke umntu uyaphuka ke yintoni ingxaki ukuba nam ndenza njalo?!
- I-Porn Porn i-SEX EDUCATION
Emva:
- Ubomi abugcini nje ngemibala kodwa loo mibala icacile ngaphezu kwesikrini se-HD; zonke izikhokelo zakho, zithatha isinyathelo; Ubomi buye buyichitha ngokutsha xa uphahla
- Iphonografi lilizwe labo bangaze bafune ukuba yinxalenye yehlabathi "lokwenyani" kwaye amantombazana zizidalwa ezintle ezinokukhanyisa umhlaba wakho.
- Inye kuphela inyani kwindalo iphela… UTHANDO, UTHANDO NOTHANDO NJE.
- Ubudlelwane kunye nokubambisana kwahlula abantu kwizilwanyana ezininzi.
- I-LOL kwakhona, ukuba imfesane imfundo yobulili ngokwenene ndifanele ndifumane i-doctorate ngoku.
Ndithembe bafo, ezi ntsuku zingama-90 zinamahla ndinyuka, kodwa andizange ndicinge ukuba kungakho iintsuku ezimangalisayo nezimnandi ebomini bam. ”
Ngenxa yobuninzi bokusebenzisa i-intanethi eyi-intanethi, ubunako obungenakulinganiswa bobudlelwane obusondeleyo obunelisayo kunye nobomi obugcweleyo bunokuba lukhulu. Khangela oko ucinga ngako xa ufunda ezi zilandelayo iingxelo:
Nawuphi na umntu uvakalelwa ngathi iintsuku zokuqala kwiNoFap ifana ne-detox?
Ngomhla wesihlanu (akukho O), kunye nosuku lwesithathu ukuba awubali i-PMO. Ngelixa ndiziva ngathi andifaki okwangoku, iimvakalelo ezindala ziye zavela. Ndijongana neemvakalelo zam zokuba nesithukuthezi kunye noloyiko, kwaye kuyandikhathaza, kodwa kufuneka ndijongane nabo. Ukufakela iinkumbulo ezicinezelekileyo, ngoku kufuneka ndijongane nazo kube kanye, kodwa kubuhlungu. Okwangoku kukho i-batte yeemvakalelo engqondweni yam; indala ndihlala ndisithi iyaphoswa yile kwaye intshontsho, lifuna ubudlelwane, kodwa i-spartan kum iyazi ukuba ayisiyonyani.
Ngaba omnye umntu unento enje?
Omnye umfana: “[Usuku 36] Ngokuqinisekileyo ndiziva ndivakalelwa kukuba andizange ndive kwiminyaka. Kwakufana noonobumba obunomdla obunomdla obuninzi ebomini bam. Ndaphinda ndaqala ndaziva kwakhona. Ukunyuswa kwam kunzima kakhulu…. Ndiziva ndinendalo ngakumbi xa ndithetha nabantu, kwaye ndinokutshintsha kwemood okumbalwa. Ndiyawaxabisa amantombazana kakhulu, kwaye ndiziva ndinesidingo sokuthetha nabo ngaphezulu kwesondo. Into endenze ukuba nditshintshe kukuba ukubukela iphonografi kunokundithintela ekubekweni kubomi bokwenyani. Inokundenza ndingahlali nabantu. Kunomvuzo kwindlela yokuziphatha engafanelekanga. ”
Kuba i-11 / 12, ngamanye amaxesha bendiye ndikhale kakhulu kwaye ndingakwazi. Ndisebenzise i-PMO kunye neevidiyo ezikhulu kakhulu ukuze ndizihlambe.
Ekuphela kwento eyandityhafisayo ngokwaneleyo ukuba indenze ndikhale iesile yam kukusweleka kuka makhulu, xa ndandineminyaka eyi-18. Phambi koko, andizange ndilile ebomini bam bonke.
Ngoku ekubeni ndiyeke i-pmo yonke into iza emhlabeni, kwaye ndinemvakalelo ephezulu. Izolo ebusuku ndifunde iposti malunga nokufa kwezinja ezindala kwaye ndalila i-45 yemizuzu ndicinga ngabantu bam abadala.
Ngaba kubi? Ewe kuvakala ngathi kukungcola. Kodwa kungcono kakhulu ukuziva ngathi yonke into iyaqhekeka ngaphandle kokungaziva nantoni na.
Omnye umfana: “[Ubudala 17] Ndaqala ukuhlaziya i-masturbating xa ndandineminyaka eyi-13 ubudala kwaye andizange ndijonge emva. Ndiza kuthi ndifake ubuncinci kanye ngemini kule minyaka i-4 idlulileyo. Undiphange ndaziva uthando, umonde, ulonwabo, kunye nokubulawa kweemvakalelo. Ngoku ndiyakwazi ukuthetha namantombazana ngokulula kwaye ndixhalabele abafazi ngokubanzi. Ekugqibeleni iyavakala indlela esebenza ngayo yonke le nto yolwalamano, ekubeni ndingazange ngaphambili ndibenomnqweno wokuba ne-SO. ”
Omnye umntu: "UXa ufap ixesha elide, awuziva uvelwano ngayo nantoni na, okanye mandiyitsho ngale ndlela: Kukho kuphela esi sicwangciso simnyama / esimhlophe seemvakalelo. Uqhelekile okanye ulusizi ngokwenene. Ubuncinci yayinjalo imeko kum. Kwakhona, ndaye ndaphelelwa ngamandla ziimvakalelo ngokubanzi. Undibethile njengetoni yezitena xa zonke ezi mvakalelo zabuyela ebomini bam! Umzekelo okhawulezayo: Ngamanye amaxesha bendimane ndime apho embindini wendlela kwaye ndijonge phezulu esibhakabhakeni ndincume okomntu ophambeneyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bendihlala egumbini lam ndilile okweenjakazi kuba ndive ingoma elusizi. ”
Omnye umfana: "Ndivakalelwa ngakumbiNgaphambili, nanini na xa ndisebenzisa i-porno ndiza kuba ndikhathazekile ngokweemvakalelo. Andikaze ndizive ndonwabile kunale veki. Ndaziva umsindo, intlungu, uthando, ukukhululeka, ulonwabo. Ndalila kakhulu ndancuma kakhulu. Ndivile ukuba umntu ufanelekile ukuba azive njani. ”
Omnye umntu: "(Usuku lwe-90) Ndingu-45, ndinomkhwa we-PMO oneminyaka eli-15… Phakathi kwezona zizathu ziphambili zokwahlukana kwam yayingu-ED oqhubekayo kwicala lam, ubunzima obugqithisileyo ekuboniseni nasekuvakaliseni iimvakalelo, kunye nokuzithemba nokuzithemba kwemicimbi. Ngosuku lwe-35 bendinokudibana kwakhona ngokwesondo kunye ne-ex yam, ngobusuku nje obunye, kwaye ndakwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuba ingxaki yam ye-ED ibingcono kakhulu, kwaye bendinemvakalelo ngakumbi kunangaphambili ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo.
Zonke iimeko zam zeemvakalelo [ziye zaba] lulwelo oluninzi, kwaye [ndiva] isibonelelo esithe ngqo ekunxibelelaneni nabantu kuba ndinxibelelana neemvakalelo zam kwaye ndizibeka ngamagama ngokulula. Ewe, ekuphela kwesizathu esasebenza kwasekuqaleni yayikukuba [ukuyeka] kundisusa kwimeko yokuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo apho ndandineminyaka ndikhona. Ngomhla wama-75, ndadibana nomfazi kwitheko lokuzalwa lomhlobo wakhe - wayenomtsalane kakhulu, kunye nomntu oqhawule umtshato kutshanje. Andizange ndizive ndithembele ngokukodwa, kodwa andikaze ndihlupheke nakuphi na ukungazithembi njengangaphambili. Ndaziva nje kamnandi ukuba kulusu lwam. Ndaziva ndikwazi ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zam, ngokunxulumene nemeko yam nangokunxulumene naye. ”
Omnye umfana: “[Usuku 18] Emva kokuchitha iminyaka eyi-12 edlulileyo kwimeko yokunqongophala kwamandla kunye noxinzelelo, ndiziva ndinamandla kunamadoda amaninzi endibaziyo. Amanqanaba amandla alungile, kwaye ndiziva ndizele bubomi, kwaye ndiziva ndomelele ngakumbi njengayo nayiphi na indoda yokwenyani ekufanele ukuba yiyo. Ndinovakalelo, kodwa andiloxhoba leemvakalelo zam. Ndiyinto eqinileyo exhomekeke kuyo. ”
Omnye umntu: "UEkuphakameni kokusetyenziswa kwam i-porno bendijonge kwenye f -— ed up sh-t kwiiwebhusayithi ukwenza nemilo, unyaka, ukufa..sisiseko zonke izinto f -— zaphakanyiswa. Ndandijonge iividiyo ezingama-20 ngosuku, ngekhe nditshitshise ukuba ndibone ividiyo yomntu owaphula umlenze njl.njl. Oko ndayeka ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn kunye nezi vidiyo, ndabona umfanekiso webhola yomnyazi onomlenze owaphukileyo ndaza ndaqala ndaziva ndilula kwaye ndigula. Kuphantse ukuba ngathi ingqondo yam iqala ukufumana iimpendulo eziqhelekileyo kwakhona. Xa ndijonga ngasemva, inokuba intloko yam yayi-f -— ed up. Ngaba ukho omnye umntu onokunxibelelana nale nto nangayiphi na indlela? ”
Umntu wesibini: "Ewe, ndiyazi ukuba uthetha ukuthini. Xa ndibukele iphonografi okwethutyana, akukho nto ibonakala imbi kakhulu okanye icacile kum. Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa ngaphandle koononophala, andikwazi nje ukujonga i-porn [transgender] ngaphandle kwesisu. Kodwa emva kweeveki ezimbalwa ndiphantsi kwe-porn ndingatya ngelixa ndibukele loo nto, okanye ezinye izinto ezothusayo endingazukuzibiza ngegama. ”
Umntu wesithathu: “Iyahlekisa into oyithethayo. Xa ndandingumsebenzisi we-porn okhutheleyo bendihlala ndibukela iifilimu ezoyikisayo ngaphandle kokuphamba okanye ukucinga oku kwaye kwagula. Kodwa ke khawufike uyicinge, ngoku ndiyazoyikisa kwezinye iindawo… iyothusa ngokwenene. ”
Omnye umfana: "Enye into endiyiqapheleyo yayiyimvakalelo encinci "yokukhulula". Ukukwazi ukuziva umqala kunye nesifuba xa ujikeleze umfazi (nangona womelele njengoko ndikhumbula) ubeke ezinye zeemvakalelo zam emgceni. Ndiyazisola kakhulu, kwaye ndiyalila, uthando lwangaphambili, kwaye bendibhidekile iminyaka ukuba kutheni ndingakwazi "ukuziva" kakuhle.
Omnye umfana: "[Usuku lwe-63] Ndicinga ukuba ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn kukhokelela ekuphulukaneni nokunxibelelana neemvakalelo zabo. Ndiziva ndiqinisekile ngale nto njengoko ndizibonele ngokwam. Ndiyathetha, if-ks iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ibulala ukutshintshiselana ngokukhawuleza ngokweemvakalelo nabanye. Ngoku ndidibanisa neemvakalelo zam. Olu tshintsho luya ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye luya kuba ngcono veki nganye. Kufana nokuziva ndiphila kwakhona :). ”
Ekugqibeleni ndingakhala kwakhona!
Ingavakala ingaqhelekanga, kodwa ndiphulaphule. Ukususela ekubeni ndandinomlutha woonografi, ndandichukumisa iimvakalelo zam. Yonke into ikhe yaziva ngathi icabalele okanye iyinyumba. Ndibe nexesha elinzima lokuziva ndonwabile, okanye ndibuhlungu ngento ethile. Ndicinga ukuba i-porn yinxalenye yesizathu soku. Kutshanje ndiye ndaqala ukuncipha kancinci kwi-porn, kwaye andinasidingo sinye njengangaphambili. Kwaye oko sele kuqalile, ndiye ndaqala ukukhala xa ndibukele imovie ebuhlungu. Kwaye gcinani engqondweni, andikaze ndilile xa ndibukele imovie ngaphambili. Kuyamangalisa, kodwa ndonwabile kuba ndinokuba lusizi!
Ukwazi ukuziva uvakalelo kwakhona sisipho esihle sokuba iphonografi.
Ndiyayiva le nto. Yinto engaqhelekanga. Inja yam yafunyaniswa ukuba ine-lymphoma malunga ne-2 kwiinyanga ezidlulileyo kwaye okwethutyana, ngelixa ndandicaphukile, andizange ndikhale malunga nayo. okoko ndayekayo kutshanje, bendikhalela oko. Kuyamangalisa, ndinemvakalelo ngakumbi ngoku. Ukumjonga nje elele phantsi kundenza ukuba ndilile.
sstsebiggestfan [lo msebenzisi ucime iakhawunti yakhe ngoJuni 2021]
Ndiyakhumbula xa oku kwakuqala ukwenzeka kum, kulula kakhulu ukuba uqaphele xa ubukele imovie ebuhlungu. Ndiyakhala kakhulu ngexesha lemiboniso bhanyabhanya ebuhlungu.
Iimvakalelo ziza zomelela ngakumbi nangokwenyani kanye xa ezo zixhobo zokwenza dopamine zingaphandle komzimba wakho.
Izinto ezivuyayo ziyabuya kuwe mntu wam. Ndizilolonge ngokwam kwaye ndazicima izimvo zam zangaphambili .. Ndiyathemba ukuba awukhathalelanga… andinamanyala kwaye iimvakalelo zam zibonakala ngathi ZONKE zikhona! Ndidinga ukuphinda ndilawule, ke, ndiyaqikelela ukuba ndinenzondo ngenxa yoloyiso lwabanye abantu! Wenze kakuhle kuwe!
Ndingaziva kanye ukuba uthetha ngantoni, ndaziva ndingenazimvakalelo xa ndingene nzulu kwi-porn. Btw ucinga ngoluphi usuku?
Omnye umfana: "Ndandisele ndikhathazekile xa ndisebenzisa i-porno, kodwa ngandlela thile bendinemvakalelo ngoku. Njengokuba, xa ndibona abantwana bonwabile, ndifumana konke ukufudumala ngaphakathi. Ndiye ndizive iimvakalelo zabantu kakhulu. ”
I-porn yandenza ndazamkela izinto ebomini bam ezingafane ndihlale
Ngokuphosa inombolo ye-alamu yengqondo yam (iintlungu zokomoya) ngephonografi, ndalithabatha ithuba lam ukufumana ukuba zeziphi ezi mvakalelo bezizama ukundixelela: ukukhupha esihogweni kwaye Yenze into eyahlukileyo kunaleyo bendiyenza ngelo xesha.
Kodwa ukusukela oko bendihlala ndizikhathaza nge-porn, khange ndiphume ndayohlala kwimeko eyayinesihogo kwaye igcwele ukuphelelwa lithemba kwiminyaka eyadlulayo. Elo xesha lobomi bam liyilelisile impilo yam yengqondo kunye nolwalamano kunye nam. Iphantse yalonakalisa ithuba lam lobomi obonelisekileyo.
Kuphela kungoku xa ndizikhulula ekuzihlaziyeni okutshabalalisayo kwe-porn, xa ndiqala ukubona lo monakalo sele wenze. Kwaye yonke imihla ndiqaphela ngokunzulu ukuba ubuninzi bobomi bam busephambi kwam kwaye ndonwabile kakhulu ngaloo nto. Kwaye andiyi kuchitha naliphi na ixesha elixabisekileyo nge-porn!
MUSA UKUBA NOMBULELO WAKHO NGE-PORN, nceda <3 Ufanelwe FAR ngcono kunoko!
Omnye umfana: “[Umhla wama-36] Iimvakalelo ezibuyela ebomini. Oku kunokuba buhlungu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuphume ngokulinganayo, kodwa ndiziva ndiphila. Umntu othile ubhale impumelelo ngokuyinxenye malunga nokuhlala ungonwabanga. Ndiyaqala ukukuqonda oko. Enye indlela yokubulala imvakalelo (okanye ungaze uqaphele ukuba unemvakalelo) ngeyure ezintlanu. Ndiziva ngcono ngam nangobomi bam. Umama uthe izolo ebecinga ukuba ndibonakala ndonwabile kunokuba bendinayo kwithuba elide. Konwabele ukuziva ubuthathaka kwaye, ukuba imeko iyakuvumela, wonwabele ukudlala ngothando ngokukhululeka, ngendlela engenzi nto. Abantu abanjalo kwaye bayaphendula. Nokuba uhamba esitratweni yinto evuselela inkanuko okwangoku. ”
Namhlanje bendibhala i-asayinimenti (ngakumbi isincoko) somhlobo wam odinga uncedo. Kwaye ngelixa ndibhalayo ndeva amazwi evela emazantsi engqondo yam endingazi ukuba akhona. Kwakumangalisa ukuba ngelixa ndibhala isincoko nje ndibeka imvakalelo kuyo kwaye yajika yaba yile nto yobugcisa bendiyonelisekile yiyo, yonke ngaphakathi kweyure enye.
Andikwazi ukuyenza loo nto ngaphambi kokuba ndibambe ixesha lokuba ndicinge ngezona zinto zintle, ngoku ukucinga kwam kunye namaphupha am acacile kwaye ndiziva ndonwabile. Yonke imibulelo kuNoFap ubomi bam butshintshile. Unokuthi ibiyimali encinci kwaye ndiyayibaxa kakhulu. Kodwa lo mahluko mncinci wenza ukuba kufaneleke ngakumbi. Ndikhetha indlela yokuphila esempilweni ngoku. Ndiya kubaleka, ndenze intwana yokuzivocavoca endaweni yokulala ngokungakhathali ebhedini.
Omnye umfana: "Ndihambelana ngakumbi neemvakalelo zam. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ndifihle icala lam elibuthathaka. Ndiyakwazi ukuvula iingxaki zam kwaye ndivumele abantu bangene. Ukuxhatshazwa kwakuyinkinga enkulu kum, ngakumbi kuyo yonke into endiyifihlayo. Ngoku ukuba ndiyibeke elubala, andinangxaki ekuthetheni nabahlobo okanye abo basondele kum malunga nento esengqondweni yam okanye ngale nto ndijamelana nayo. Ndiyayiqonda imeko endikuyo, kwaye ndiyaqonda ukuba yinto enokulawulwa. Ngaba ucatshukisiwe yiloo ndoda ikusikayo? Thatha umoya omninzi kwaye uxabise okuhle ebomini bakho.
Ndivulekile ngakumbi malunga nokubonisa iimvakalelo ngokunjalo. Ngaba wonwabe nyhani? Yikhuphe. Hleka ngokungathi akukho ngomso; yenza wonke umntu azive kamnandi. Bendihlala ndonwaba nyani ngento kwaye ndiziva ngathi kufuneka ndiyifihle. Ndaziva ndikhuselekile ukuba ndonwabile ngokwenene. Ngoba? Andinaluvo. Ukonwaba nabanye yenye yeemvakalelo onazo. Apho bendihlala ndikwala uthando, ngoku ndilulangazelela. Andifuni kuphinda ndityhale abantu kude. Ndifuna ukubasondeza. ”
Ke ukuba isetyenziselwe ukuba yi-zombie enesingqala ngenxa ye-pmo, ukuziva iimvakalelo kwakhona kunqabile ukuba nditsho okuncinci. Ngaba kumakhulu wam kule mpelaveki ukubhiyozela usuku lokuzalwa kwakhe lwe-75th kwaye kwakumnandi kakhulu, simmemele saya kwindawo yokutyela kwichibi elincinci elalizolileyo nelinoxolo kwaye limnandi kakhulu. Ukucinga ngayo namhlanje kwaye ndiziva ndonwabile.
Ke ndimamele ipodcast kuloliwe esendleleni egodukayo kwaye ndaphantse ndothuka kuba ndiye ndangena ezantsi elalini.
Emva koko ndinike umkhombandlela wenenekazi kwaye wandibulela kwaye ndaziva ndonwabile kwakhona.
Iimvakalelo ziyaxakaniseka kodwa ndiyaqikelela ukuba kulungile ukuziva kwakhona
Omnye umfana: "Ndifumanisa ukuba iimvakalelo zam zinokuvuselelwa ngokulula zizinto ezinomdla endizibonayo ebomini okanye kwiifilimu. Ndinxibelelana ngakumbi neemvakalelo. ”
Omnye umfana: "Andizange ndiqonde ukuba kutheni abantu behlala bethetha ngeemvakalelo ezimbi, kuba kunqabile ukuba ndibonakale ndizifumana. Kodwa inyani kukuba andifumani mvakalelo, kuba ngentsingiselo yemvakalelo, ngakumbi into engalunganga, ndiza kuyikhohlisa inkqubo ngokuyiyeka [ukuphulula amalungu esini kwi-Intanethi]. Akukho kwakhona nangona kunjalo. Lixesha lokujongana, lixesha lokwamkela imiceli mngeni. Kuyothusa kakhulu, kwaye ngoku ndiyaqala ukuyamkela ngokwam into yokuba ubomi ayizizo zonke iimvakalelo ezilungileyo. ”
Omnye umfana: "[Usuku lwe-104] Ngesizathu esithile, bendinxibelelana kakhulu neemvakalelo zam kunangaphambili, kwaye bendiqala ukuziva izinto ixesha elide kangaka. "
Omnye umfana: "Izizathu zokuyeka: Qalisa ukuziva unoluvo olunamandla ngalo lonke ixesha, endaweni yokuba ube mfiliba kwilizwe elihle elikungqongileyo. Akusekho Abahamba Ukuhamba. ”
Omnye umfana: "Iintsuku ezingama-280 - Ingqondo yam yokukhanga kubafazi bokwenene benyuka. Ndaziva ndinxibelelana ngakumbi neemvakalelo zam kwaye iimvakalelo zam ziziva zityebile. ”
Omnye umfana: "Ingxelo yeentsuku ezingama-30-Uya kuthi bazive izinto: Ndisebenzisa i-porn njengendlela yokujongana nazo zonke izinto kunye neemvakalelo endandingafuni ukujongana nazo. Uninzi loxinzelelo, unxunguphalo kunye neemvakalelo zokungoneliseki. Nje ukuba uthathe iphonografi ngaphandle kwe-equation uya kuziva izinto owawufihle kuzo. Kwimeko yam yayi, kwaye isekhona, ibuhlungu kwaye ingonwabisi. Kodwa kulungile. Uya kukhula womelele ngenxa yayo. Ngokwenyani, ngenene, ndiziva ndomelele kwaye ndiyazingca ngokujamelana noloyiko lwam (idabi alikapheli). ”
Omnye umfana: "Xa ndandiphonografi andikaze ndibenemvakalelo efudumeleyo esiswini sam malunga namantombazana. Ngoku, ndandifumana i-erection-hard erection xa ndabona intombazana enhle idansa. Ndiva le ndlala yokuphuma kwaye ndinxibelelane namantombazana, kuba ndiqala ukuziva uthando kunye noxinzelelo ngokwesondo kubo. Andinakulinda ukuba ndiphinde ndibenentombi kwakhona ukuze ndiphumeze uthando nothando. ”
Kulungile, ndinendaba yeentsuku ezingama-69. Mhlawumbi ayisiyonto yakho, ndicinga ukuba ndingangomdala kuwe!
Ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale NoFap iimvakalelo zam zivaliwe. Ndandiziva yonke into, kodwa yayiphelile kwaye ilula ukuyisebenzisa. Kwiintsuku ze-30 ndaziva ukuba iimvakalelo zomelele, ngamanye amaxesha zazingenamandla kodwa ndafunda ukuziphatha. Ndacinga ukuba konke kwakukho kuyo.
Namhlanje ndatshitshiswa ngothando lwam osapho lwalunamandla kangangokuba ndandicinga ukuba ndiza kubhidliza ezimbini. Kwakunamandla kakhulu, kodwa kwakungeyomvakalelo omhle.
Ndingumlutha kwi-PMO ukususela ngonaphakade, andizange ndikwazi ukuba iimvakalelo zinjalo. Uqikelelo lwam kukuba banokomelela ngakumbi. Oku akunamandla amakhulu, oku kuyimvakalelo eqhelekileyo yomntu, kodwa andizange ndive. Ngubani owaziyo ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo ezinokuyenza kukuzimisela kwendoda / komfazi kunye nenkuthazo. Inye kuphela indlela yokufumanisa.
Ngaba i-NoFap ivelisa imvakalelo engaphezulu?
Ndivakalelwa kukuba ndinomvakalelo ngakumbi njengomntu ngelixa ndenza iNoFap, kwaye ndinyamekela ngezinto engingayikhathaleli ngazo ngaphandle kweNoFap. Ngaba oku kuqhelekileyo?
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Ewe.
Yep xa usiya kwi-nofap i-dopamine receptors yakho yokulungisa ibangela ukuba uzive ngokulula izinto kwaye ube novakalelo kwiimvakalelo ngokubanzi nokuba lusizi okanye ulonwabo. Kuyafana nokucoca inkungu yengqondo
Ewe ndaphawula oku. Njengoko unesihawu esininzi.
Mna ngokwalo ndiza kuthi, Ndiyakhathalela ngabantu abaninzi xa ndingenaye i-nofap, kodwa ngokufanayo ndinayo "inganikezeli". Njengomzekelo ogqibeleleyo, ndandigqiba ulwalamano lwam kunye ne-ex, eyayiye iveki edlulileyo, kwaye andizange ndive ndidabuke okanye ndibe netyala. Kuze kube ngoku, andisayi kunika umonakalo, apho ndingathi ndihamba khona imihla ngemihla ndiya kulila njengeesilwanyana ezibuhlungu kwaye ndicinga ngokuzibulala.
Unokucinga ukuba ndenza i-shit up, i-overexaggerate okanye nantoni na. Andikhathali.
Ndigqibe kwelokuba ndibethwe ngumoya kumbindi wedolophu (oqhele ukwenzeka, ngaphandle kokuba ndidibana nomntu) ukuze ndenze enye into kunokuhlala ndedwa ekhaya.
Ngokukhawuleza xa ndaphuma ngaphandle ndabona amantombazana amabini asekuhlaleni. Omnye wabo waqala ukukhangela mna ngoko ndenza okufanayo. Njengoko sasidlulela omnye nomnye waqhubeka ekhangela ngamehlo wam kunye nentloko yam (kungekhona mna, intloko yam) yajika ukuze sikwazi ukubamba iqhagamshelwano kweso sesibini.
Ok, akukho nto ngaphandle kwesiqhelo ukude. Nanku apho izinto eziqathayo ziqala. Ndandiziva ndiziva ngathi ndihamba ngezitrato. Njengemiphumo kagesi. Kwenzeke kanye okanye kabini ngaphambili kodwa kungekhona ixesha elide. Ndandibambene kunye neentombi kunye nabasetyhini ngokukhululekile kodwa ndandisazi ukuba ndiyakwenza oko. Xa ndihamba phambili, ndikhululekile ngakumbi.
Njengoko ndangena kwisitalato esona sikhulu (sinomntu omkhulu apha ohamba nje ngokuba ngabahamba ngeenyawo, ezele iikofu kunye nantoni) ndibethe. Ndabona yonke into. Ukubona kwam kwacaca ngakumbi kunangaphambili, umbono wam wendlela ukwanda. Zonke izivamvo zam zazibukhali kakhulu - ubungakanani bolwazi lweemvakalelo lwalungaphezu kwamandla. Andiyiqhelanga le nto kuba ndihlala entlokweni yam kakhulu kwaye andikhathali. Ngokwesiqhelo andizikhathaleli ziinkcukacha xa ndingaphandle kodwa ngeli xesha ndiyeke konke ukuhamba. Kwakungaphezulu.
Ngokwesiqhelo xa ndihamba kwesi sitrato ndiye kwelinye lamacala kuba baninzi abantu, uhlala uhlala ungqubana. Hayi, hayi ngeli xesha. Ndahamba ndaya ngqo kwiziko lokuntywila. Ndaziva ndizithembile kwaye ndikhululekile. Vumela nje iinyawo zam zenze umsebenzi wazo kwaye ndincome indawo engqongileyo. Ingathi bekukho le aura enkulu yamandla indijikeleze kwaye abantu baqaphela. Ndandifumana ukubonakala kumantombazana ... nabafana nabo. Ngokwenene baya kundenzela ixesha elininzi xa ihlala ichasene. Ngaphandle koko, ndicinga okokuqala ebomini bam ndaziva ngathi ngabantu. Ndaziva iimvakalelo zabo, amandla, i-vibe. Ikaka engcwele.
Ukuxinezeleka kuye. I-Autopilot.
Ngoku ndibuyile ekhaya kwaye ndiziva ndiphakamile. Ngaphandle kokuba nditshaya imbiza ndiye ndihlale ndikhathazekile. Ixesha lijijile kwaye ungene phakathi kwamaxesha. Ngoku yonke into iguquka ngokutyibilikayo, njengolwandle olwandle oluhle.
Ndikhe ndaphuma kakhulu kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo kodwa eli lixesha lokuqala ukuba kwenzeke into enje. Kwaye kunjalo ngaphandle kweblue. Ngoku, abanye abantu kwiNoFap abanakuze bayifumane le nto, kwabanye inokuba yinto eqhelekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ndizimisele ngokupheleleyo xa ndisithi Oku. Shit. Ngaba. Yinyani.
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Omnye umfana: Indlela i-nofap eyenza ngayo i-extrovert
Ithiyori yam ihamba ngolu hlobo: okoko ndaqala i-nofap ndaye ndonyusa uvakalelo lwam kwiimvakalelo. Okubaluleke ngakumbi kukuba ndibonisa kwaye ndabelana ngeemvakalelo nabazali bam nabahlobo. Ndicinga ukuba kwenzeka into efanayo xa ndikunye nabantu endibathandayo (abahlobo babahlobo okanye abantu endingabaziyo). Ndiyavumelana nendlela endiziva ngayo kwaye ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo zam zomelele ngoku ndiyakwazi ukuzichaza ngaphandle koloyiko lomgwebo.
Umzekelo: Ndihlala ndijonga ixesha elide kwaye ndincume kubafazi kuba ndiyabathanda. Ngaphambi kokuba ndikhawuleze ndijonge kude ndicinge "shit, undibonile ukuba ndimqaphele?" Ngoku iingcinga zam zihamba, "Ndifuna ukuba abone kwaye azi ukuba ndimqwalasele kuba ndimfumana enomtsalane".
Omnye umzekelo kukuba ngaphandle edolophini. Kwibar okanye ukuhamba-hamba edolophini, ndibona abantu basetyhini, bendithi "molo" okanye ndibancedise.
Kuyo yomibini le mizekelo, iimvakalelo zam ziyagcwalisa kwaye zifikelele kwinqanaba lokuphosa xa kufuneka ndizichazile. Andifuni kuvunywa okanye ndinethemba lokuba ndiza kubalanda. Ndifuna nje ukuba bazi ukuba ndiziva njani. Ndizenzela ngokwam, kuba ndiziva ndikhululekile ukuzibonakalisa kwaye ndingagcini iimvakalelo zam ngaphakathi.
tl; dr extrovert = nofap ngenxa ye: ukwandisa isimo sengqondo + ukuqhuba imvakalelo yam
Ubonakala wonwabile. ” "Kutheni na sohlukana."
Ke bendinempelaveki emangalisayo, kwaye ndiyabulela kuNoFap ngayo .. Ndonwabe kakhulu, kwaye ndinomdla wokuphuma kunokuba bendinjalo kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, kwaye ndiziintsuku nje eziyi-18.
NgoLwesihlanu ebusuku ndiye ekhaya ndibuya esikolweni, ndaphuma ndaya ebharini nabanye abahlobo. Ndigqibele ndifuna ukukhwela kummelwane wam owayekunye nomntu wam wam wokuqala kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo (omabini amantombazana). Ke bandifunqula kwaye xa sibuya sahamba nje sijikeleza ubumelwane ukusuka ngo-2-4 ekuseni kwaye bekumnandi nje. Ndiziva ndonwabe ngakumbi malunga neplpl mva nje.
Ngomso u-ex wam kunye nam besithumela imiyalezo kwaye wayemhle kakhulu ngobusuku obudlulileyo, nangokubhaliweyo. Uye wathumela umyalezo, "Kutheni sahlukana?" Eyona nto ndicinga ukuba iyenzeka ngenxa yokuzithemba kwam okutsha. Kananjalo ngala mini ndandixakekile kwaye ndancokola nomama kangangeeyure, endivuyayo kukuba ndingavuleka naye. Ndandihlala ndingumntwana owayehleli egumbini lakhe, kwaye kunqabile ukuba ndixhonywe nosapho lwam (nangona bendifuna). Ndandihlala ndixakiwe ngenxa yenkungu yengqondo… Undixelele, “Ubonakala wonwabile.” kwaye ndathi ndinguye.
Ngokwenene bendinjalo. Ayisiyiyo kuphela kwi-dopamine ephezulu yokuphamba. Kodwa ndonwabile ngokwenene kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, ndicinga ukuba ndijongane nesizungu kunye noxinzelelo. Ngalemini ndiphuma kwi shower bendicinga nje kwaye ndizikrazule kulento ithethwe ngumama. Eli lixesha lokuqala endikhe ndalila kulo ukonwaba. Kukhukula nje kweemvakalelo kwaye kwakumangalisa.
Kananjalo ngaloo mini, izolo, ndaphuma kunye nentombazana endikhe ndayithumela imiyalezo kaninzi. Siye saphuma sayotya, ndithe xa ndizokumshiya we hugged and ended up kissing. Eli lixesha lokuqala ndamanga intombazana phantse unyaka. Ndandisoyika kakhulu ukusondela emntwini ngenxa yengxaki yam ye-ED ngenxa ye-porn, kodwa, nangona ingekangcono okwangoku, ndiyatsho ukuba kuya kuba ngcono.
Andicwangcisi ukubuyela umva. Akukho-ngaphandle kokuncipha bendinokuzithemba kokuzama. Uza kundityelela esikolweni kwimpelaveki ezayo, nokuba ndingafumana i-ED, ndicinga ukuba ndiza kuba nokuzithemba ukumxelela ukuba yintoni ingxaki, endaweni yokuza nesizathu esisidenge njengakudala .. , enkosi ngokumamela.
Ndiyathemba ibali lam leveki-ntshukumo inokukhuthaza abanye benu ukuba baqhubeke, njengoko ndiyathemba, sinethemba! lol loluntu, kwaye wonke umntu kuloyo uyamangalisa. Qhubeka!
Usuku lwe-9 lokuqwalaselwa: Kuyabonakala ukuba ndineemvakalelo…
Ngethuba lexesha elide le-fake nsuku zonke, ndaqonda ukuba akukho nto ibonakala iyandikholisa okanye ingenza ndonwabe.
Nangona kunjalo iintsuku ze-9 zingena kwi-nofap, ndaqaphela ukuba ukutshintsha kwimeko yamava. Izinto ezivame ukuzisa uvuyo ziyacinywa okanye zibulewe.
Ukuzithemba kwam kuye kwanda ngokumangalisayo, ukuxhoma kunye nabahlobo bam kumnandi ngakumbi kunangaphambili, ukutya kunencasa ngakumbi, abafazi bahle kakhulu kunangaphambili, kwaye umculo uvakala ngcono ezindlebeni zam.
Kodwa kuninzi, ndiziva kwakhona. Uvakalelwa kukuba uvuyo luya kuphucula, kwaye ndihleka kakhulu. Yonke into ibangele impendulo engakumbi kunokuba isetyenziswe.
Ngamafutshane, ngoku ndiqala ukuvakalelwa njengendoda endifanele ukuba nayo. Esikhundleni segobolondo engenanto, engenangqondo engadalwa yi-pmo eqhubekayo.
Ndiyakwazi ukudibana nale nto inzima kakhulu. Ukuhleka kwam kuye kwatshintsha emva kweveki yokuqala, kuninzi kakhulu. Ndikhale izihlandlo ezibini, nto leyo ekwenza uzive umhle kwaye uzithembile emva koko. Iimvakalelo zifuna indawo ethile.
Ukuhambelana ngokugqibeleleyo nendlela endiziva ngayo ngoku. Ndonwabile ukuba sobabini siyakwazi ukufumana ukukhanya.
Vu melwano. Ndivakalelwa kukuba ukutyalwa kuye kwaba nzima.
Ezinye izinto eziqhelekileyo ezingabonakaliyo
Ekubeni ndaqala nge-nofap, enye yezinto endizibonayo kukuba amaphupha ami abuyele. Nje amaphupha aqhelekileyo, akukho nto okanye ngaphantsi ..
Ukunyaniseka, xa ndandizula ngathi ndiyaphambana kule minyaka ili-10 idlulileyo, ngokunyanisekileyo andinalo iphupha elinye, okanye bambalwa kuphela. Kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo ndibenamaphupha aliqela endisawakhumbulayo.
Enye into engaqhelekanga kukuba andikaziva ndigula ngexesha leminyaka eyi-10 yokufota okukhulu kunye nokubukela iphonografi. Isenokuvakala ingenakwenzeka kwaphela kuwe, kodwa yinyani (kwaye ewe ndaphuma endlwini njengaye wonke umntu yonke imihla). Ngapha koko, andikaze ndive amabhabhathane esiswini sam okoko ndiqale ngokuqina kakhulu (zange ndathandana nentombazana). Okokugqibela sisiphumo sokungakhathali, ukungakhathali ngamantombazana okwenyani…
Ngaba ukhona omnye umntu onamava afanayo 'angaqhelekanga'?
ndiyazi ukuba uthetha ukuthini. okoko ndiqalileyo ndiye ndabona amabhabhathane esiswini sam ekubeni luhlobo loloyiko. kodwa hayi ukuxhalaba, andikulindi ukuba ndiyigqibe ngoxinzelelo, ayonwabisi linda ibhabhathane luvalo. Kuyamangalisa ukuba ungaphila kangakanani
Ndivele ndadanisa okokuqala kwiminyaka elishumi… Wow! I-PMO ngokwenene indenze i-zombie.
Ndandidlala umculo xa ndandifundela iimviwo zam zobugcisa kwaye ndandiziva ndifuna ukuvuka nokudansa ngoko ndenze kwaye ndivakalelwa kakhulu. Ngexesha lokudansa ndaqaphela ukuba ixesha lokugqibela ndivakalelwa ngale ndlela ngelixa ngidlala malunga ne-10 kwiminyaka edluleyo ngaphambi kokuba ndithenge ikhompyutheni yam, ndiswe kwikholeji ndafumana i-PMO.
Ndiceba ukubalisa ibali lam elipheleleyo ngosuku lwe-90 kodwa okwangoku yazi nje ukuba lonke eli lungu loluntu nokuba uneentsuku ezili-1000 okanye usuku olu-1 lunegalelo ekundincedeni ndibuyise ubomi bam. Ndiyanihlonipha nonke. Ndonwabile ukuba ndifumene iNoFap. Enkosi.
Ndiphantse ndilibale, indlela evakalelwa ngayo ukuthanda
Luvakalelo olukhulu. Khange ndiyive iminyaka. Enkosi kuNofap. Indenze ndabujonga ubomi bam ngaphandle kweglasi emfusa kwaye yandenza ndatshintsha ezinye izinto.
Eli lihlandlo lesibini ngeli veki ndikhala ukuphulaphula umculo
Bantloko, kulunge. Zama uxhumano nokuba kungumculo, incwadi, ifilimu, okanye omnye umntu. Kufuneka uphile ubomi obutsha, ushiye umdala, uvumelane noshintsho.
Bendingayazi ukuba uyintoni uLuthando de ndicoceke.
Ngaphambi kokuba ndisuse i-masturbation kunye noononophelo ebomini bam, andinayo into yokuba uthando luni. Andikaze ndiyive imvakalelo, ndingazange ndiyiqonde ukuba ingamandla, andikhathali nokuba kuthetha ntoni konke oko. I-Porn yandifundisa ukuba uthando lwalufana ngesondo. Kodwa hayi. Emva konyaka we-1 wokutsala nzima, impumelelo kunye nokusilela okuthile, ndiyazi ukuba uthando kunye ne-porn azifani. Iphonografi ngowona mzekelo uphambili wenkohlakalo yokuzingca. Iya kubulala umphefumlo wakho iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde Khetha uthando, khetha ubomi.
Ndikumhla we-45 ngoku kwaye ubukhulu becala ebomini bam andikwazi ukuhleka phambi kwakhe nabani na, nditsho nosapho. Nangona kwenzeka into ehlekisayo, andinakukwazi ukuhleka, ukumomotheka okungalawulekiyo.
Kwinyanga ephelileyo ndiye ndakwazi ukuhleka nto nangaliphi na ixesha, iphantse yaphambana. Ndivele ndihleke ngaphandle kwesizathu xa ndifuna kwaye ndiziva ndonwabile. Ubambekile kumcaba othe tyaba ubuncinci iiveki ezi-2 ngoku kodwa ayikayeki.
Ndiye ndiqala ukuhleka phambi kwabantu ngoku, ukuhleka okuthulileyo kodwa ubuncinane ndivula umlomo wam.
enye yezona zinto ezingabikho mntu uthetha ngazo ..
Ngaba uphinde udibanise nemvakalelo yakho. Ndikhumbule emva xa ndandisoloko ndibukela imifanekiso engamanyala ndandingenakukwazi ukukhala. Ndandizibamba ngokuzibamba kuloo mvakalelo ngexesha le-movie elibuhlungu okanye into ethile. Ngoku ndiyakwazi ukuphinda ndizwe. Kukho into embi apho abantu bacinga ukuba kubi ukukhala. Akunomntu uzive ulungile. Iibhayisikobho zembini ezedlule ndibonayo ndiye ndazibona ndandila okanye ndakhala. Yimvakalelo enqabileyo yokuba uonobumba buba kuwe ngokukukhathaza. Ukuphuma kwiipikseli zabasetyhini ongaziyo zibuhlungu; Ndiza kuthatha inxaxheba yangempela. Yeka xa unako. Kukulungele wena kunye nabasetyhini bayakuxabisa.
Kwixesha elidlulileyo ngekhe ndive nto, kodwa phezolo kwaye ngale ntsasa ndaziva ndibuhlungu kwaye ndililolo, kodwa ndiyazi, ngandlela thile, luphawu olulungileyo. Ndandibona intombazana, ndamxelela malunga neengxaki zam zoononophala, wathi zilungile kodwa zanyamalala ngokukhawuleza. Ndambona kwiklabhu phezolo, ndaya kuye ndathi molo, uthe izinto ezimbalwa emva koko wathi uzakubuya kwangoko kodwa akazange abuye.
Kubuhlungu, kodwa iintlungu zingcono kunokuba ndindisholo, ixesha elininzi kunjalo. Ndiyaziva ukuba iihomoni zihamba ngesisu sam ngoku, ngamanye amaxesha kukho uvuyo, ngamanye amaxesha lukrwitshiwe ziintlungu, kodwa kulungile.
Ndikhala ngenxa yokuba ndiphila ubomi bam kwakhona.
Ngoku kwangoko nje ndivakalelwa kakhulu. Ndibuhlungu kakhulu ngoku kwaye ndiziva ndidimazekile. Umculo ulwa ndivakalelwa kukuba umzimba wam unxweme. PHAMBILI, ndiyakuziva kwakhona! Ulonwabo lukhawuleza ngaphantsi kokudabuka kwam. Ndiya kulima kuze kube yilapho ndifika kuyo yonke ingqondo yam amandla. Ndiyakholwa!
Andizange ndibuthandabuze ubuzaza bengxaki yam kodwa esi siganeko endlini yabazali bam siqinisekisile nje. Ndilahlekelwe yingqondo yam kwaye ndingazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kum. Yayinoxinzelelo olugqithisileyo kwaye bendicinga ukuba ndinokulunga okanye isifo sentliziyo okanye into. Abazali bam bebesazi ukuba ndiyarhoxa kwaye ukuba bendinguwe ndingabhalela owakho okanye ndixelele usapho lwakho ngandlela thile. Umama wam ebesazi ukuba ndiyarhoxa kwaye oku kuyanceda. Ngaphandle koko ngewayephumile nangakumbi. Iphume kwaphela ngombala oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngendlela. Ndifundile ukuba abanye abantu baye banamava afanayo okanye bangena ngomsindo / bakhala iiyure. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba yiminyaka yoxinzelelo lweemvakalelo zonke eziza kwaye zisoyikisa ngokupheleleyo….
Ingxelo yeentsuku ezingama-60- Oku kuluncedo Ngokwenene!
Iintsuku ezisi-60 zokugqibela zibandakanye ixesha lokuvuyisa, iintlungu ezininzi, ukuqhuma okukhulu, ubanda obubandayo, ukuxinezeleka nokuthetha-ness.
Okokuqala off - nofap ibe lolunye kuphela lotshintsho endilwenzileyo. Ndayeka nomabonakude, uFacebook nemidlalo yevidiyo, ndaqala ukutya ngcono. Ndisela kancinci.
Ndicinga ukuba ndisebenzisa i-fapping, i-porn, imidlalo yevidiyo, njl ukugcina imizimba yam izinzile-ukunqanda ukuziva. Oko bendizishiyile ezizinto ndiziva ngathi ndivulile kwaye zonke iimvakalelo zam ziyaphuma. Ingoma emnandi ingayophula intliziyo yam ngoku.
Ngale nto kuvulwe kuye kwafika amandla amaninzi- andazi nokuba ngamandla ombane okanye yintoni, kodwa ndifuna UKUHAMBA. Oko kuye kwenza ukuba umthambo ube lula ngakumbi, kwaye ukuzilolonga kuyandonwabisa njengesihogo. Ukubuyela kucamngco endandiqeqeshwe kuko kwandivumela ukuba ndingalahleki kwezinye zezinto ezimnyama zokudakumba, njl.
Inqaku eliphambili: Bendingazi ukuba andonwabanga kanjani ngendlela endiphila ngayo, okanye zingaphi iindlela endandizisebenzisa ukukhusela ubomi bam. Bendingayazi ukuba ndizibambe ngantoni de ndayeka idamu.
Xa ndabona iifoto ze-ex yam kunye nendoda entsha kutshanje ndalila amaxesha amaninzi - yandibetha kakhulu kunokuba yayiya kuba ekuqaleni kukaJanuwari. Kodwa kulungile. Ubomi busophula iintliziyo zethu. Khange ndiyifihle indlela endivakalelwa ngayo, kwaye bendigcina imikhwa yam esempilweni njengokuzilolonga kunye nokuzonwabisa. Ubomi buhamba. Iimvakalelo ziza kwaye zihambe. Ngamanye amaxesha ukophuka intliziyo kukuphela kwenyathelo lokwenyani ekufuneka ulenzile, kwaye ngendlela uziva ulungile nayo.
Iintsuku ezingamashumi amathathu ngaphezulu. Masibone ukuba yintoni inyikima.
Andikhalanga kwiminyaka eyi-6.
Intlungu yokuphulukana nomninawa wam, andizange ndiyiqonde indlela endandibuhlungu ngayo. Ndiva ngokwenene ukuba umlutha wobugqwetha obunomdla kum. Ngethuba lokuqala ndakhala phezu kwakhe, kwaye yimvakalelo entle enjalo.
Phezolo, bendimamele ingoma ye-90s kwaye ngequbuliso ndikhumbule ubuntwana bam xa ndandinguMntwana… ndikwamamela iDisney Soundtrack..kwaye xa ndiyonwabele ingoma kwaye ngequbuliso ngaphandle kokuba ndibone iinyembezi emehlweni am. okuninzi… Ubuntwana bam lixesha lam lokuba ndikhululeke kwi-PMO… andizange ndizive ndinje ngaphambili..Indoda ukuba ndingabuyela impelaveki okanye usuku nje olunye ... Ndikuthanda nyhani uku
Iimvumbo ziphazamisa iimvakalelo zakho
Xa ndandibukela iifostile rhoqo ndafumanisa ukuba, ngokomzwelo, ndifile ngaphakathi. Akukho nto indichaphazelayo ukuba ngaba yinkcazo ye-snide okanye ukuhlambalaza, oku kwandifumana nesiteketiso sengqondo. Ngokumangalisayo, nangemva kweentsuku ze-10 ndibonakala ndivakalelwa ngakumbi njengoko izinto ziqala ukuza kum ngoku ngokungafaniyo ngaphambili. Mhlawumbi enye yeemvakalelo ezinqabileyo kodwa uphawu lokuba ukuyeka uononophelo kuza kuphucula ubomi bakho.
Andikhalelanga nantoni na ubuncinci iminyaka emi-3 (ndineminyaka eyi-18) kodwa namhlanje ndiye ndabona eli bali lilusizi kakhulu kuYouTube (umfana waphulukana nomama wakhe ngenxa yomhlaza) ndaye ndaqala nje ukukhala njengomntwana omncinci.
Into endifuna ukuyithetha kukuba ndinemvakalelo zam, emva kweentsuku ezili-100. Kuqhelekile ukulila nokuziva, iphonografi kunye neMO zikwenza ube ndindisholo, usizi, ulonwabo nothando ngoku ziimvakalelo ezinamandla kakhulu. Ndididekile ngokupheleleyo yile nto uNofap andizisele yona.
Enkosi
Xa ndisebenzisa i-pornography kwaye ndiyifuma imihla ngemihla, ndandicinga ukuba nantoni na kubhinqa bam. Ngoku, emva kweminyaka engabonakali naluphi na uphonografi (ubukele i4 okanye amaxesha e-5) kunye ne-current streak yeentsuku ze-27 ngaphandle koononophala okanye ukungafani, ndivakalelwa ngathi ndiphinda ndibuye.
Ndityumza nzima kumantombazana amabini endiza kuya nawo ekholejini. Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba ndicinga ukuba bayathandeka, kodwa 'ndiyabathanda'… ndifuna ukuchitha ixesha nabo ndingabelani ngesondo. Unokucela enye ngokukhawuleza.
Uziva umntu olungileyo.
Ndiphantse ndatshiza iminyaka eyi-20, ndikhala ngamehlo am aphumileyo
Ndijonge nje ubukhwenkwe, ibali lokudlala 3, endle, ncwina…, ndiyayithanda kwaye ndiyayithiya imvakalelo ngaxeshanye. Fuck, ndicinga ukuba yile nto eyenzekayo xa ungaziniki kwiingcinga zesondo eh?
Iingcinga zam malunga noku kude kube kufanelekile kumava. Umbuzo omnye endinawo ngokubhekisele kwingqondo yokuba yiplastiki kunye nokubuyela kwimeko yayo yoqobo, umntu unokucinga nje ukuba ezinye iikhemikhali ezenziwa ngokuphulula amalungu esini / i-orgasm / isini / iphonografi ziphinde zabekwa kwisiseko. Enye yeekhemikhali endiziva ukuba ziyenziwa yiyo yonke le nto ayisiyiyo nje i-dopamine okanye i-serotonin, kodwa i-oxytocin ibonakala ngathi iyeza esiqhelweni .. njengoko ndizifumana ndidibana nabantu abandingqongileyo, ngokulula kwaye umbono woTHANDO ubonakala ungaphezulu yangoku kunangaphambili .. okanye kuba ndandisemncinci kakhulu.
Ziziphi na zonke-iingcamango kule nto?
Ke ngoononophala ebomini bam kwakubonakala ngathi kugcina imicimbi ndicinga ukuba andikaze ndifune ukujongana nayo, kubonakala ngathi ndinomsindo kakhulu kubazali bam ngokungayikhathaleli impilo yam yengqondo xa ndandisengumntwana. Oh kunye neentsuku ezingama-52 !!! Ndahamba malunga neentsuku ezingama-60 ngaphambili kwakanye. Ndizimisele ukophula irekhodi lam ndiyathemba! Nabani na omnye ufumanisa iimvakalelo ebezifihle iminyaka bevele xa beshiye iphonografi ngasemva. PS Ndisandul 'ukutya isidlo sam sasemini kwaye ndilambile!
Ndiyawuva umculo kwakhona. Ndiyakonwabela ukuncokola nabantu endingabaziyo. Ndiyiminyaka eyi-1.5.
Kumnxeba wam ke ayizukuthatha thuba lide kodwa ndifuna ukunika ithemba kwabo basokolayo zizigulo zengqondo ezinxulumene nale shit.
Oku kucacile ukuba yi-PAWS, okanye i-post acute syndrome. Ngokuqinisekileyo akuthandabuzeki. Ubume beempawu "zokuhla nokuhla" kweempawu zokubonisa ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo, kunye neempawu ngokwazo. Ngaphezu konyaka onesiqingatha, khange ndikwazi ukufumana uvuyo kwinto yonke. Ngoku, ndiqala ukuziva umculo ngendlela endandiqhele ukwenza ngayo, ndingonwabela incoko nomntu ongamaziyo endaweni yokuba ndizabalaze ngoxinzelelo lwentlalo olunxulumene nalo. Ukubeka ngokulula, isihogo esingaka esidlulileyo kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo, ndiyiphucula ngokwenene. Akukho mathandabuzo ngayo. Kwaye ndibethelela abo bathi ukuphindaphinda yeyona nto ibalulekileyo- ukuphilisa kwam ngokucacileyo kwandile ndakufudukela kwindawo enye nentombi yam, apho isondo esiqhelekileyo (kwaye esihlala siphumelela) sisisiqhelo.
Qhubeka uqhubeka phambili.
I-NoFap yandenza ndivale umculo kwakhona nangaphezulu (post post)
Nali ibali lam okwangoku. Ujoyine nje i-reddit, kodwa bendililungu elisebenzayo lesiza seforum yeNoFap. Ndize apha kuba benditsiba ngapha nangapha kwaye ndicinge ukuba kufuneka ndenze iakhawunti ukuze ndibekhona. Ndisuka kunxweme oluseMpuma eUSA kwaye ndineminyaka engama-21 ubudala. Ndiya kuyo yonke indlela - hardmode kwaye ndinenjongo yonyaka. Ndiqale ukuphela kuka-Okthobha, xa ndandiqala ukufumanisa i-NoFap. Ndandidla ngaphambi koko iminyaka.
Kwaye ke, le nto yajika ibe yithuba elide, kodwa lilungele ukulikhupha kwiqela elithile labantu.
Namhlanje lusuku lwam lwe-50, kwaye usuku lokugqibela luphelile. Ndifuna ukwabelana nani bantu ngento ekhethekileyo eyenzeke kum kutshanje. Usapho lwam lungumculo kakhulu, nam ngokunjalo. Andazi ukuba yaqala nini, kodwa ndiyekile ukuziva umculo. Ndiyayiva kwaye ndiyonwabele kancinci, kodwa andiwuva nje umculo (le yijazz, yeklasikhi, kunye nesandi sokubonisa).
Kodwa mhlawumbi enye okanye ezimbini iiveki edlulileyo into yanyuka kwaye yonke yabuyela kum. Ndiyakwazi ukuva umculo! Ndakhangela kwizinto eziye zatshintshile, kwaye bekuyi-PMO. Kwaye kwacaca, xa ndaqonda ukuba, ndaqonda ukuba ndilahlekelwe kwam amandla okuziva umculo xa ndiqala ukuqala ukutshintsha, ngoko nayiphi na iminyaka eyadlulayo. Kwandibonisa ukuba yiyeso sizathu sokuba ndiyeke ipiyano ndize ndiyidlale kwi-orchestra yesikolo. Ndiya kucula, kodwa ivakalelwa ngokupheleleyo ngoku. Ndifuna ngokwenene ukuthatha izifundo zepiyano kwakhona. Ndifuna ukuyibuyisela konke.
Kwaye ukuphuculwa akupheleli apho. Ndifuna ukufeza ezinye izinto ngoku. Ndiziphose kwizifundo zam ezinzima, ndenza izinto ezongezelelekileyo kwicala lokuzonwabisa-izinto endingazange ndicinge ukuzenza kuba bendisoloko ndifaka lonke ixesha. Ndifuna ukwenza izinto endinokuzingca ngazo, njengokupheka, ukufunda, ukubhala, ukhuseleko kunye nokwakha izinto ezipholileyo (ndifundela ukuba yinjineli / umphandi).
Kuphela ziintsuku ze-50 kwaye ke ndiyazi ukuba ndisenokubuyisa okuninzi, kodwa ukubuyisa loo nto kuthetha lukhulu kum. Nanini na xa izibongozo zindixelela ukuba akukho nto iya kutshintsha xa ndithe fap, ndiyazi ukuxoka kwam kum. Ingavakala ngathi yinto encinci, kodwa ndiziva ndiphila ngonaphakade. Ndiza kulahlekelwa yile nto ukuba ndaphinda ndaphinda ndaphinda ndaphinda ndazenza kum amaxesha amaninzi ngaphambili. Kwaye ngoku, ngogqibela kankqoyi, kufuneka ndizigade ukuze ndinganikezeli ekukruqulweni ngexesha lekhefu lasebusika, ke umzabalazo uya kuba nzima kunakuqala.
Ndiyathemba ukuba oku kuyabakhuthaza abanye abantu. Ndicinga ukuba ukuthatha apha ku… Yomelela wonke umntu! Ukuba uqhubeka noku, unokuba ngumntu kwakhona!
Namhlanje ndibukele uthotho lokuphela kweWhite Collar kwaye ndakhala kanye ngexesha elinye. Umboniso weTV AKUKHO wandenza ndakhala ngaphambili. Yayivakalelwa njalo… ngumntu. Andikhumbuli okokugqibela ndilile, kwaye namathuba okuba awukwenzi oko. I-PMO isiguqula sibe zizilwanyana. Ndisaziva imiphumo yokulila njengoko ndichwetheza oku kwaye andinakucinga nokucinga nge-PMOing ngoku. Ngexesha elizayo into ekulilisayo, qaphela indlela ekwenza uzive ngayo kwaye uqaphele indlela i-PMO ethatha ngayo kuwe.
Ndandimemeza okokuqala ngethuba elide kakhulu
Ngoku ndibambe irekhodi ye-nofap yobuqu yeeveki ze-3 kule minyaka ili-10 idlulileyo yobomi bam (Ndiyi-20 ngoku). Kwaye ngengqondo yam ingaphantsi kwamafu kunakuqala ngenxa yeziphumo zokuphulula amalungu esini, bendinexesha elininzi lokuzibonakalisa. Kwaye kubuhlungu. Xa ndijonga ngasemva, ndiziva ngathi iminyaka yam eyadlulayo ye-10 ibinokuba ngcono kakhulu, kodwa endaweni yoko ndibachithe kude nokuzikhupha yonke imihla kunye nokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo. Anditsho ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo kwimidlalo, kodwa kuyacaca ngoku ukuba kundinciphisile kwinqanaba lokuchitha LONKE ixesha lam lokudlala imidlalo, ngaphandle kokushiya igumbi lempilo yam okanye ukuphuculwa.
Kwaye ukwazi ukuba bendinokwenza ngcono kakhulu kuye kwandenza ndaqala ukukhala. Le ngcamango ayizange iphinde iwele engqondweni yam xa ndandidla, ndandicinga ukuba iphilile kwaye bonke abantwana bayenzile. Kodwa nokuba ingcinga elusizi ibifikile engqondweni yam, mancinci amathuba okuba bendiya kulila. Ngendivele ndayicinezela le ngcinga ndizama ukuqhubekeka. Kodwa kwakumnandi ukulila. Ndaziva ndiphila kwaye ndihlaziyekile emva koko.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela imizimba yam yokuziva ndibhetele kunangaphambili emva kokuqala i-nofap, kodwa ndiziva ndinamandla okuphulukana neemvakalelo ngokunjalo. Ukusuka kumava am, ukufota akuthethi nje ukukhupha amandla emzimbeni- kuyayikhathaza ingqondo. Kwaye yile ngqondo inesidima kakhulu esenza ukuba iphonografi siyibone ngokwenyani eyenza ubuhlobo, ubudlelwane, kunye nokukhula ngokwakho kube nzima kakhulu ekufumaneni nasekugcineni.
Andazi ukuba mandithini .. Ndixakiwe. Ngethuba lokuqala ebomini bam ndiziva ndizithembile kwaye ndizithanda. Inamandla kwaye intle! Namhlanje ndingumhla wama-52 kwaye ndifuna ukwenza iintsuku ezingama-180! Kwaye intliziyo yam ivula ngakumbi nangakumbi. Ndingaziva iintlungu zovakalelo kunye novuyo endingalubonanga kangangeminyaka. Enkosi nofap-yoluntu
Indoda ndihamba nge-rollercoaster yemvakalelo. Namhlanje ndakhala phambi kwintombazana kuba iindawo ezidlulileyo zandile kakhulu (zaqalisa iintsuku ze-2 ezedlule) kwaye zandixabela: andiyikhumbula xa ndakhala ngelixesha lokugqibela! Ndandingenakunzima ngokomoya, ngoku ndivakalelwa intlungu kunye nobomi kwakhona. i-itird yayo, i-fuckin nzima, kodwa ndiyazi kakuhle! mbulelo ngokufunda!
Andazi ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kum. Ngaphandle koxinzelelo olukhulu iinyembezi zaqala ukuphuma. Khange ukhale kakhulu kwiminyaka, uziva ngathi ngumntu. Ngaba iqhelekile le ??
Ngaba omnye umntu akhala ngokulula emva kokuba uhambe kwi-nofap?
Ngenxa yoko ndenza kodwa ngendlela efanelekileyo. Njengoko ndiziva umntu kwakhona.
Ewe. Ndikhale kancinci. yimvakalelo efanayo ukwahlukana nentombi.
ewe kodwa kungenxa yedopamine esezantsi kwinkqubo .. ..emva kwethutyana uyancipha kwaye uxinezeleke kwaye wonwabe ngakumbi
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Ndiyakhumbula ukuba kwenzeka xa ndinexesha elide lenyanga. Njengokuba ndandingasekho robhothi kwakhona.
UPuked, Waziva egula esiswini sam emva kokubona imeko ye "Rape" kumdlalo weTV. Ubunono beNoFap.
I-Nofap igcine ingqondo yam. Emuva xa bendihlala ndibukela iphonografi kathathu (okanye nangaphezulu) ngemini. Ndingaba nesisu ndibukele umxholo othile ombi. Ukuboniswa ngesondo ngokunyanzelwa akuzange kundikhathaze konke konke. Kodwa emva kwemigca emininzi kwaye ngoku kwiintsuku ezingama-20 ngoku. Ndabona umbono odlwengulweyo kumdlalo weTV kwaye wawungasekho umzobo emva koko izinto endizibonileyo kwi-porn. Ngapha koko kwakungekho kufutshane noko ndikubonile kwi-porn. Kodwa, ngasizathu sithile, yandicaphukisa. Ndabuyela kwintombi yam njengomntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala.
Bendingazukujonga iTV ndibuze abantu bangayibukela njani lento? kwaye ndaziva ndigula kakhulu kwaye ndaya kwigumbi lokuhlambela ikakhulu ukuze ndiphume ndibukele kunye no-bam. Ndikhuphe lol. Intombi yam yayothukile kangangokuba yandicaphukisa kangangokuba ndasuka kuyo kwaye kwangaxeshanye ndafumanisa ukuba “Kumnandi ukuba umntu angaziva enamandla kakhulu ngokuchasene nokudlwengulwa kunye nolunye ulwaphulo-mthetho ngokwesondo, kangangokuba baphose nje ukusuka kwingcinga elula yalo ”Kodwa ekuqukumbeleni esi sihloko andikholelwa kwezinye zezinto endinokuzibukela kwaye ndiyavuya ukuba andizukuzibamba ngoku.
Ndiyabulela uluntu lwaseNofap 🙂
Ndiyakuhleka ngezinto kwakhona
Umama oyingcwele kaThixo, kuyaphambana ukuba ngeveki e-1 ndihleka izinto kwakhona.
Ngoku khathalela, bendihlala ndingumfana ohleka KUNINZI, KUNINZI, kunye nabahlobo, njengayo yonke imizuzwana. Kodwa xa ndindedwa, andizange ndihleke. Xa ndifunda elona lizwi limnandi ndinje 'ngamagqabantshintshi, nantsi inyani' kwaye ndiqhubeka. Ubukhulu becala akukho nokuhleka.
Kodwa ngezolo kwakukho into enkulu eyenzekayo. Ndabona isiqhelo se-3 seMad Men, kwaye kwakukho umcimbi ohlekisayo, kodwa ngokukhawuleza kwandula ndahleka imizuzu ye-2 ngqo. Akukho ukuyeka. Abazali bam bada ba ndijonga.
Emva koko, emva kweyure emva koko, ndiyichitha ikhofi phezu kwam ikhibhodi emva kokufunda i-Reddit, eyona nto yokuqala kwimeko yam ebomini.
Andizange ndikwazi ukuhleka ndedwa, ndedwa, kodwa ngoku ndicinga ukuba ndinako. Okokuqala.
[Iintsuku ezili-114 zokuhlaziya] Iimvakalelo ziyancanca. Kodwa ubuncinci ndiyaziva.
Ewe loo ntombi kunye nam sahlukana. Kwakungeyonto yokuqhekeka okungathandekiyo, sobabini sikhule ngokwaneleyo (bendingenguye kwiintsuku ezili-114 ezidlulileyo) ukuphinda sihlaziye kwaye sigcine ubuhlobo esakha saba nabo. Kodwa ukulunga kwam kuyabuhlungu, kubuhlungu kakhulu. Nantsi into nangona kunjalo, iinyanga ezi-3 okanye ezi-4 ezidlulileyo ngendandingonwabanga, ndangcwaba iintlungu kwaye ndaqhubeka nokujongana nemicimbi ngokuzikhupha. Kodwa ngokwenene ndakhala ngosuku olulandelayo, ndaphinda ndalila. Eneneni, kwakukhalwa kakhulu. Kodwa indoda iyaziva ilungile ukukhupha iimvakalelo zam ngokulila emva koko iyenze ngokuyingcwaba.
Ndizinikele ngoku hayi kwi-streak kuphela, kodwa ekuphuhliseni ngakumbi njengomntu. Le meko iyangxola, kodwa ayenzanga ukuba ndicinge nangaphantsi ngam ukuba sisikhundla esihle ukuba ndibekuso.
I-Porn Porn iphoxise iimvakalelo zam, ezibandakanya izinto ezimbi kunye ezilungileyo.
Njengoko ndisiya esiphelweni sale ndawo ikhoyo ngoku ebomini bam, lixesha lokuba ndithethe ngendlela i-PMOing endichaphazela ngayo njengoko ndichithe iveki kwi-PMOing kwinqanaba lam lokuqala. Ukuqala ukusuka kuma-2 ukuya kuma-5 ngamaxesha ngosuku.
Ukubeka ngokulula, iyaziphazamisa iimvakalelo zam. Kodwa endaweni yokwenza nje i-anhedonia (ukungabikho kolonwabo, ungayifumana ngexesha lokurhoxa / iflethi), engeyiyo i-anhedonia YONKE (ukukwazi kwam ukuziva ulonwabo lokwenyani mhlawumbi yi-10% yento ekufanele ukuba ikule meko ndikuyo ngoku , PMOing that is), ikwanciphisa iimvakalelo ezimbi. Oko ndiqalise i-PMOing kuyo yonke iveki ephelileyo, imeko yam yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye noxinzelelo lwamaqondo ziphantsi kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo ndiyayicaphukela indlela endiziva ngayo (i-post-orgasmic hangover iziva imbi, ndiqinisekile ukuba uninzi apha luyayazi, ayisiyonto imbi njengakum) kwaye ifuna ukuba iphele. Ukuxinwa kwam kunye nokukhuthazwa kwekhosi kuphantsi njengesiqhelo, kodwa kuya kulindeleka ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo ye-PMO yokulutha (hayi ukurhoxa, kwenzeka ngexesha le-PMO ukuze kungabikho mntu uchitha ixesha lokuthumela impendulo ephosa inqaku, uxolo isimo sam kodwa Ndiyayifumana iyacaphukisa).
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwam nomfazi wam buye buphucula kakhulu. Kwaye, ndabona into ebalulekileyo: ndinako bazive ngakumbi kunokuba ndandidla. Ndivakalelwa ngakumbi uthando kunye nomdla kumfazi wam, abantwana kunye nosapho kunokuba ndibe nako. Ndicinga ukuba oku kuvela kwingqiqo inkululeko endiyenayo, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba I-porno ayinakho ukulawula phezu kwam, kwaye ayiyi kubuya kwakhona. Ndikho ngokomoya ngakumbi kunangaphambili (ndibe uhlobo lwe-agnostic ye-closet), kodwa ndicinga ukuba kulungile ukuba ndibe nokholo kumandla aphakamileyo, kwaye imithandazo kunye nexesha ecaweni / kunqulo kuye kwaba nenjongo kunokuba ndikhumbule bebaninzi kwiminyaka emininzi. Ndiye ndizolile, ndingabi nomsindo, kwaye ndingaziqondi kakuhle izinto ezincinci ebomini
Ukuba iNoFap ikwenza ube nemvakalelo…
Sonke sinomlutha wokutshala. Into enomlutha kukuba, ilawula indlela umzimba wakho usebenzisa ngayo i-dopamine. Ke xa uyeka ukufota. Umzimba wakho uya "Yintoni i-fuck eyenzekayo, kuphi ukukhawuleza kwethu kwe-dopamine?". Kude kube kunyanzelekile ukuba iphinde isete ngendlela 'yesiqhelo'. Sisebenzise ukufota njengokubaleka kwinyani. Sukuyikhanyela, uninzi lwethu mhlawumbi lunesizungu njenge-fuck. Kwaye siyafap kuba kuphela kwendlela esinokugcwalisa ngayo isithuba esingaphakathi kuthi, iimvakalelo zokuba lilolo, ukunqunyulwa, konke oko.
Ke xa uyeka ukufota, uza kuba novakalelo ngakumbi, uya kukhathazeka, ucaphuke, ube ndlongondlongo, ube lilolo, ube lusizi… iyavakala le nto kutheni, kungenxa yokuba ubalekile kwezi zinto ngokuzala, njengawe kwaye le pornstar iyathandana, okanye ucinga ukuba imeko iyenzeka kuwe IRL. Kodwa kuya kufuneka unyanzelise ngelo xesha, kwaye xa umzimba wakho useta ngokutsha uya kuziva ngathi ungumntu owahlukileyo, kwaye ngokwendalo, uya kuba njalo.
Hlalani u-bros oqinileyo.
Yinyani enkulu.
Xa sishiya izinto zokuqala esizivelayo ngabo sizifihlile ixesha lonke.
Emva koko kuza inkuthazo, ukuqhuba, amandla - konke apho kusinceda ukuba siphume emqolombeni wethu kwaye sihlale nabantu, sihlangane nabantu, sazi iqabane elinokubakho kwaye ekugqibeleni sakha ubuhlobo obunentsingiselo kunye nobudlelwane.
Ukwazi inkqubo eyiyo yenza izinto zibe lula. Enkoso ngokwabelana!
Ndakhala kakhulu kule ngqungquthela ye-NoFap kunokuba ndakhala iminyaka eyi-10 yokugqibela
Ndandiqhekeza ukulila izolo. Ndandisoloko ndiyitshilela ekudakaleni okukhulu, njengazo zonke izinto. Ngeli xesha ngoku ndiza kuthetha ukungalingani kwam makemikhali ukuba ngaba zikhona ngaphezu kokudalwa kwam. Ndisoloko ndiba nobuntu bokulutha xa ndithanda into endiyithandayo ukuba ndihambe ngaphaya kwayo. Kuvakala ngathi izenzo zoononophala zifana nesilwanyana kwi-ingqondo yakho kunye neempendulo zamakhemikhali kunye nokwenqwenela into eyenzekayo. Oku kubeka ingqalelo kum ukuba kutheni ndijamelene neengxaki zokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi ngexesha elidlulileyo. Andiyiqondi indlela abanye abantu abaye bajonga ngayo le ngxaki. Akufuneki ukuba neengxaki ezifanayo endinayo.
U-bro ofanayo okokugqibela xa ndikwiintsuku ezingama-20..ndakhala njengesihogo ngaphandle kwesizathu…
Le yenye yezona ndawo zintle zeNoFap ndizibonileyo! Enkosi ngale nto
Ewe ndiyavumelana nale posi 101%. Emva kokuqala i-nofap ndaqala ukuba nomsindo ngakumbi xa izinto zifuna amandla aqhushumbo kwaye kuninzi, ndibuhlungu ngakumbi xa kwakudabukile, de kube ndilila. Kunqabile ukuba kwenzeke ngaphambili. Ngaphambi kwe-nofap ndandinomdla wokungakhathali kuyo yonke into eyayisenzeka kum, kuloo ndawo "nokuba yeyiphi na", eyona meko ingenampilo kwaye ifile engqondweni onokuzifumana ukuyo. Qhubeka womelele, lads.
Vumelana ne-90% yento oyibhalileyo. Ndindedwa kodwa andindedwa. Ndijolise kwiinjongo zam kwiinyanga ezi-6 ezizayo.
Ndakhala kakhulu emva kweentsuku ze-7 ze-nofap.
Iposi yakho iyavakala kum… Ndiyasiqonda nangakumbi ukuba kutheni ndiziva ndibuhlungu okanye ndindlongondlongo.
Lungisa !! Ngoku ndijamelene nosizi, ukuxhalabisa, ukungaxakekanga, njl njl. Xa kufika ixesha, ndicinga ngoononophelo kodwa ndinesizathu sokuyeka ukutshintsha kwaye ndenze i-nofap ngoko ndagcina kude neefostile nokuba nje ndibukela iividiyo (indlela eya kubuya ngokubi kakhulu) Ukuthemba yonke into iya kuba yinto enyanisekileyo kum kwaye wonke umntu owenza i-nofap kungekudala
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Siyabonga ngoku! I-NoFap ivumela umntu ukuba aphephe iimvakalelo zakhe zangempela ngokuziphazamisa ngefap.
Ndikhalile! Kubaluleke kakhulu!
Ngenxa ye-PMO, ukuzilazila bekukho ngamaxesha onke kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ndifunda into entsha, bendiziva ngathi kukho le block yengqondo, indithintela ekufundeni ngokwenyani. Ukuba ku-uni, ndacinga ukuba mhlawumbi ndibeke phezulu, le yeyona nto ikrelekrele endiya kuyifumana. Kwaye ngoku ndenza iindawo zokuhlala ehlotyeni.
Ufundile malunga ne-nofap, kwaye ukusukela ngoko ingqondo yam iye yafana nesiponji! Ndiva ngathi ndingu-15 kwakhona apho ndandiphezulu kwiklasi!
Inye into endiye ndayiqonda kukuba ngaphambi kokuba ibe yi-18 (22 ngoku) bendihlala ndizihleka ndikhala kanye ngemini, ndiyakhumbula ukuba luhlobo lwenjongo kum, kodwa ngenye imini ndayeka nje. Ndacinga ukuba mhlawumbi ndibukele izinto ezininzi ezihlekisayo kwaye ndikhule ndiqhele ukuhlekisa. Kutshanje ndiye ndafumanisa iziphumo ze-PMO.
Ndiphume kuvavanyo izolo ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndaphola kwi-reddit okomzuzwana kwaye ndabona umfanekiso kwi-sub ebizwa ngokuba yiminion intiyo kwaye ndabona umfanekiso endikhe ndawubona ngaphambili. Ngokwenene ndilile ngokuhleka kakhulu! Kudala kakhulu! Ndandinemvakalelo engxamisekileyo endandingaziva ngayo kudala!
Ndivakalelwa ngokwenene njengomntu wam omdala kwakhona !! Ndifuna ukubonga nonke kule ngqungquthela yokugcina ndihamba! Ndiya kutshintsha ubomi bam!
Ingaba yilokho ukuxhamla ngokwenene kwabantu?
Ibali elincinci emva, bendingu-PMO ukusukela malunga ne-11 ubuncinci kube kanye ngemini kwaye ngoku ndineminyaka engama-20. Ndihlala ndingakhathali kwaye ndingazange ndibenonxibelelwano olusondeleyo nabantu abaninzi. Ndineempawu zokudakumba kunye noxinzelelo olwandimisa ekuthetheni nabantu abatsha.
Ke izolo ndiye ndaya kwisidlo sasemini kunye nomhlobo oyintombazana kwaye ndinabahlobo naye malunga neminyaka eyi-2 kwaye ndaziva ndinonxibelelwano naye endingazange ndaziva naye nabani na. Ngaphambi kwe-nofap andikaze ndive nonxibelelwano olomeleleyo ebantwini nditsho nabahlobo bam abasenyongweni kodwa ngelixa bendikunye naye ndiziva ndonwabile (endiziva ndonwabe kakhulu ukusukela nge-nofap), ndandihleka ngokwenyani kwaye ndikwazi ukugcina ujongano lwamehlo. Ndifumene amabhabhathane ngelixa bendikunye naye endingazange ndibenayo nayiphi na intombazana ngaphambili.
Ngaba yile nto bendiyilahlekile kule minyaka ili-10 idlulileyo? Ndiyirobhothi engenamvakalelo. Enkosi kakhulu ngokundinceda ngalo mkhwa, ndiyazi ukuba kuphela ngaphezulu kweveki kodwa sele ndiziva ndinomdla kakhulu ngobomi kunye nezinto ezinokubakho kunangaphambili.
Ndakhala ngenxa yokuqala ngethuba leminyaka.
Ke ndikwi-70 yemihla ngemihla ngoku kwaye ndalila okokuqala kwiminyaka. Kutshanje ndiye eFlorida nosapho lwam kwaye saba nexesha elimangalisayo. Ngelixa bendilapho bendihlala ndimamele ingoma ebizwa ngokuba ngumama othandekayo wetupac. Kwakuyinyanga ezi-2 ezidlulileyo. Kwaye kwimizuzu embalwa edlulileyo ndiyiphulaphule kwakhona kwaye ndaqala ukukhala. Utata usandula ukuba nomhlaza kwaye ngewasweleka kwangaxeshanye umama waphulukana nomsebenzi.
Ke bendinexinzelelo oluninzi ngelo xesha. Kodwa andizange ndibonise iimvakalelo zam. Kodwa ngoku ndiziva ngathi al kwiimvakalelo ezibanjisiweyo ziyaphuma. Ngelixa ndimamele le ngoma ndicinga nje usapho lwam, utata wam, umama kunye nomntakwethu kwaye ndicinga nje ngendlela endibathanda ngayo. Ndifuna ukuthumela oku kwaye wonke umntu ofunda oku kufuneka ngoku aye kwiintsapho zakhe aze abaxelele ukuba uyabathanda. Luxolo
Ndakhala emva kweminyaka eyi-4 yokuba ndingenangqondo
Kuwo wonke unyaka wam wokuzama iNoFap, ndiye ndaba ngumntu ongcono. Ndizamile izinto ebendingazukuzenza kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo. Eyona nto indibethileyo yayiyimvakalelo yokwenene yothando. Yonke le minyaka ijonge kubantu basetyhini ngenene yandenza ndaziva ndiziva. Kodwa ndilile namhlanje. Hayi kuba ndandibuhlungu, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ndiziva ndithandwa. Nangona ndingenayo i-streak enkulu, ngokuqinisekileyo ndiziva umahluko phakathi kwam kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo kunye nam ukususela ngoku. Ngethamsanqa kuwo wonke umntu!
Ndafumanisa ukuba ndaphila ngaphandle kwemvakalelo iminyaka.
Emva kokuba u-Nofap iimvakalelo zakho zifana ne-punch ebusweni. Kukhona iimvakalelo ezilungileyo kwaye ezimbi kwaye kufuneka uqale ukujamelana nazo kwakhona. Kwafika kum kweliveki. Kodwa okulungileyo. Ndatshitshise oko kwenza ukuba amantombazana alale nawe nguS9 lula, kodwa akusiyo injongo kaNofap kum. Ndifuna ukufumana intombi.
Ndiyaqala ukuziva kwakhona !!!!!
Ke, ibali elifutshane ngokusisiseko, kwiinyanga ezimbini ezidlulileyo, intombi yam (endandicinga ukuba ndiza kutshata nayo ngenye imini) yahlukana nam kunye nomama wam nje ngolunye usuku lwasekhohlo kwaye khange ndibone okanye ndive kuye ukusukela . Ubomi obumnandi andithi? Kodwa ndaye ndahluthwa kule nto, andinakukunceda ngaphandle kokuqhekeka ndilile yonke imihla. (Khange ndibenayo i-PMOd ukusukela ngaphambi kwehlobo kwaye ezi ziganeko zenzeke kancinci emva kwehlobo).
Kwaye ke ndibuyele kwimikhwa yam yakudala njengohlobo lokubaleka. Ndingathanda i-PMO kwaye ndiziva ngathi ndonwabile emva koko. Kodwa okuyingozi, ndayeka ukukhala kakhulu. Ndayeka ukucinga ngabantu ababalulekileyo ebomini bam, ndaye ndamphatha utata njengobubhanxa. Ndicinga ukuba ukukhala ngumqondiso olungileyo. Ubuncinci kum, indibonisa eyona nto ndiyikhathaleleyo. Ewe andicingi ukuba kufuneka silile ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye singenzi nto. Kodwa nangoku ukusilela kweemvakalelo kwaqala ukundoyikisa.
Ke ndifumene iNoFap kule veki iphelileyo kwaye bendisenza umceli mngeni kwiintsuku ze-5 ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Ndithe xandihlamba izitya, ndacinga ngomama. Khange ndikwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ndalila kakhulu, ndaye ndama nje ngathi sisidenge esibhidlizayo xa abaleka amanzi. Ndicinga ukuba xa uyeka i-PMO ingqondo yakho iqala ukucaca. Ngale ntsasa xa ndivuka ndabona umfanekiso we-ex yam eludongeni lwam lomthandazo (ndigcina udonga olunemifanekiso yabantu endifuna ukubathandazela) ndambona njengomntu kwakhona. Ndive uvuyo caba andazi kutheni. Khange sibe nesiphelo esibi ke ndiye ndaziva ndikhuthazeka ukuba ndimfowunele okanye ndimthumelele umyalezo ukuze ndibone ukuba uqhuba njani.
Kuhle kakhulu ukuba uphinde ukhale
Andikwazi ukuzenza ndikhala ngenxa yesikhathi eside kakhulu. Naliphi na i-movie ecasulayo ndibonayo okanye ndafumana into edidekileyo, andinakuyenza. Kuyinto enjalo ukukhulula ukukwazi ukukhala kwakhona, ivakalelwa kakhulu kumzimba wam.
Ngaba ulubonile utshintsho kwindlela ohlangabezana ngayo nemibala? Kwiintsuku ezimbini ngoku ndiwonwabele umsebenzi wam kuba yonke into ijongeka ngathi ikhanya kakhulu kwaye injengeelekese. phantse ngathi uphantsi kwempembelelo. kwaye khange nditshaye nogwayi okwethutyana.
Ndihleli kwindlu encinci iminyaka emashumi mabini. Kwaye kwigumbi elinye, ukuya, elijonge ngasentshona. Kodwa kutsha nje ndiye ndabona ukutshona kwelanga okuhle kubekwa phezu kweendlwana zedolophu yolwahlulo lwam. Iimaroons ezinzulu, iiorenji zomlilo, ubomvu oshushu, iipinki ezithobayo. Busuku ngabunye bandigcwalisa ngoluvo lokumangalisa kunye nobuhle. Kwaye bahlala belapho, kodwa andikaze ndibabone, kuba ndandingumlutha wezobisi.
Ukubuyiselwa ngokutsha kwenza ubomi bube buhle kunabo bonke.
Khumbula nokuba ukhona kwi-streak kwaye ubonakala ungafumani nzuzo kuyo yonke into, wazi nje ukuba ubuyisela ubuchule bakho bokukhalisa iinyembezi zangempela. Ezibandakanya iinyembezi zovuyo, okanye ubuncinane ukufumana i-misty. Iinyembezi zosizi nentlungu. Mhlawumbi ukhale ingoma encinci ingoma enomdla xa ibangela into enenjongo kuwe.
Kwi-pmo, uza kuza kwiimeko owaziyo ukuba kufuneka uzilile kodwa awukwazi ukuziva ukhale. Uyabona ukuba awukwazi ukuziva kwaye uyazi ukuba ungaphantsi kobuntu, ngaphandle kobuchule obuyisiseko abantu kufuneka bafumane. Kuyinto eqondakalayo. Ukukwazi ukukhala isisisodwa sodwa ukuqhubekisa i-streak yakho. Hlalani nibazalwana abanamandla.
Imvakalelo enamandla ngeveki yokuqala? Ukukhala okokuqala ngqa kwiminyaka.
Ndineentsuku eziyi-8. Ngeli xesha ndihlala kude nayo yonke imifanekiso engamanyala, imifanekiso engamanyala njl.njl. Kuzo zonke ezinye iinzame bendiya kuthi ndigqibe iintsuku ezininzi, rhoqo kwi-porn.
Iimvakalelo zam ziye zaqhuma. Ndikhale kaninzi kwiintsuku ezi-3 ezidlulileyo okokuqala kwiminyaka. Ndikhale ndicinga ngendlela endibathanda ngayo abazali bam notatomkhulu notatomdala kunye nenyani yokuba ngenye imini abayi kubakho. Ndikhale ndithetha nabahlobo bam abasondeleyo malunga nendlela endiziva ngayo mva nje .. Ndakhala (ngobuqili) emnxebeni ndithetha notata malunga nosizi kunye nezihlobo eziswelekileyo .. I-Shit, indawo yokuzivocavoca yayingenanto namhlanje kwaye ndalila ngamehlo ndicinga ngayo yonke le nto.
Ngaba kukho nawuphi na umntu oye wafumana nantoni na ukude njengale?
Ngosuku 8 Ndivakalelwa kukuba namhlanje
Ndiyilizwe elikhulu elibonayo. Ndayeka ukufakela kwaye umhlaba utshintshile. Ndiziva ndonwabile ngoku kwaye ndiziva ndithandana. Bendimthanda uyandithanda naye. Namhlanje uye wamanga
mna. Andikaze ndibenje ngaphambili - ndonwabile ngoku
Ndakhala nje ngeyokuqala ngeminyaka. Izithuba eziphambili.
Ngoku ndihamba ngeenxa zonke nge-30 okanye nge-streak yam. Ndandidla umlwelwe ode ndide ndifumene ingqondo yakho kwi-porno kwaye kule forum.
Kwibali nangona kunjalo, bendibukele imovie uMnu Nobody (fantastic film by the way), kwaye xa ifika kwindawo apho umntwana kuye kwafuneka akhethe ukuba uza kuhlala nomama okanye utata wakhe emva koqhawulo mtshato kwaye nini Umama ukhwela kuloliwe emva kokuba ekhethe utata wakhe, kuphela ukuze aqonde ukuba wenze impazamo kwaye wabaleka walandela umama wakhe. WOWU. Owu thixo wam andikhumbuli ndisiva ezi mvakalelo NGONYAKA.
Yinto engaqhelekanga kakhulu, entle ngokumangalisayo, kodwa amava alusizi okulila. Ndandicinga ukuba ndibukele lo mboniso wobudlelwane bam nabazali bam endibathandayo kakhulu kwaye ndandixhalabile ngamandla endikukhumbulayo.
Ezi zinto, sizikhulula ekulutha, nokuba yi-pmo, iziyobisi, ukungcakaza, nantoni na, zizinto ezinamandla kakhulu ezo. Nceda ufunde oku ngamaxesha okuphelelwa lithemba kwaye uqaphele ukuba eli bali libubungqina obuphilayo bokuba i-nofap iya kubuyisa impilo yakho yeemvakalelo kwakhona. Uphelelwe lixesha ngoku ukuba ulikhoboka, kuyo nantoni na! Awunakucinga nje ukuba uphulukana nantoni, kwaye yintoni? Iyure ngosuku lokonwaba okungcolileyo, ngelixa uncama ubomi bakho bonke kuzaliseka nobomi!
Nceda wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo lwe-fapstronauts. Ubomi bam buyatshintsha, kwaye ke unakho.
Hlela: Ukuba udibene ngamanzi. Ukukhala nokudabuka kunye nentlungu konke kukuhle kwaye kubuhlungu, kanyekanye.
Ngoko ndabukela i-Toy Story 3 kwakhona, ngenxa yokuba ndiyayithanda le movie. Ndikhumbule ukufumana amehlo amade ekupheleni xa ndandibukela kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo.
Ngoku, ngelixa kuNoFap, ndakhala. Ndakhala ngenxa ye ~ 2-3 imizuzu ngqo.
Uvakalelwa kakhulu. Kuvakalelwa ukuziva.
Abathandekayo bakho bangabantu.
Ndixinezelekile ngeli xesha lonke, ndize nje kule nto indenze ndafuna ukubhala oku. Ndarhaxisa imvakalelo yoxinzelelo kunye nesizungu ngemidlalo yevidiyo, ukutya, iphonografi kunye nokulala; ukuhlala egumbini lam uninzi lweentsuku zam. Kuyo yonke le minyaka ili-8 idlulileyo bendingazi ukuba abazali bam kunye nodade wethu baneemvakalelo, iingcinga, ukungazithembi. Ndababona njengamanani agunyazisayo, endixelela ukuba ndenze ntoni ngaphandle kokubuza imibuzo. Ngoku ndibabona njengabantu, kuya kwenzakalisa ngakumbi xa bemkile.
Ndiza kuphinda ndibuyele emva kumaxesha endandingumlingisi kubo, kwaye indlela ebenza bazive ngayo. Ukuthula kwam kwabonakala njani njengesalathiso sokungabinamdla kubukho babo, nangona bendihlala ndonwabile ukuba phakathi kwabo. Utata unama-71 noMhlaza wemiphunga, umama wam uneminyaka engama-59, udadewethu uneminyaka engama-33, mna ndineminyaka engama-21. Kuthetha ukuba ndichithe iminyaka esi-8 edlulileyo ndiphatha abathandekayo bam ngendelelo, ndingabonakalisi luthando, ndisebenzisa imali engeyomfuneko, ndibangela inkathazo enokuphepheka, lonke elixa ndizifihla ngokwam eqokobheni; ungaze ube nomzuzu wokwenyani wokudibanisa nazo.
Xa bemkile andizukukwazi ukwabelana nabo ngokwenyani, amaxesha endandiwathintele kuba ndandisoyika ukuba sesichengeni. Lithini inqaku lobomi xa sinokwabelana ngokwethu kunye nabo sibathandayo. Xa bonke abantu esibathandayo bemkile… Ndiyathemba ukuba sishiya ngasemva iinkumbulo ezimnandi esiza kuzixabisa.
Fuck porn.
Ndakhala ngelixa ndibhala le nto. Eli lixesha lesibini ndilila kule nyanga, omabini la maxesha aphathelene nalo mbandela. Kuvakala kulungile ukususa ezi zinto esifubeni sam. Ucinga ukuba i-porn ayinayo i-griphold kuzo zonke iimvakalelo zam.
Ndijonge iphonografi rhoqo kuba bendineminyaka eyi-13, kwaye ndingu-24 ngoku. Ndithathe isigqibo sokuyeka ngokupheleleyo iiveki ze-2 ezidlulileyo.
Kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo ngokuya ndikhula kwaye ndisiya ndisiqonda ngakumbi ukuhlangana kwabantu, ndiye ndabona ukuba bendiphantse ndaphelelwa yimvakalelo novelwano. Ngokuqinisekileyo ndayihleka amahlaya, kwaye ndaziva ndikhululekile xa ndikunye nabahlobo okanye intombi. Kodwa bekukho ubuze obunzulu kuyo yonke loo nto. Ndacinga ukuba ndingu-sociopath okanye enye into. Mhlawumbi yile ndlela ndiyiyo, umntu ongazaziyo iimvakalelo. Ndaye ndavumelana nayo.
Ngale ntsasa, emva kokucamngca, ndiye ndalila. Ndaziva ndonganyelwe ziimvakalelo endingazi ukuba ndingazichaza njani. Ngokwenene wandenza ndangaboni. Ndifunda amabali empumelelo angama-nofap ambalwa kwaye ndikrunekile kancinci, ukuqonda aba bantu ubunzima kwaye ndiziva ndonwabile babelana ngempumelelo yabo kuthi.
Ngaba ukunyamezeka kwam ngenxa yesikhungo sam yolonwabo sinxulumene ngokugqithiseleyo kunye noonwabo kunye nokuxhaswa ngokukhawuleza kwimithombo yedijithali?
Ukuba kunjalo, sinye esinye isizathu sokugcina oku.
Ndiqale uhambo lwam, kwaye ndinethemba lokuluguqula lube lutshintsho lobomi bonke. Enkosi nonke ngenkuthazo.
Ndiqalise iNoFap emva koNovemba kunyaka ophelileyo, ndenze ii-2 streaks zeentsuku ze-40, okwangoku ndikwiintsuku ze-14 kwaye ndilila, Intliziyo yam yaphukile kwaye ndinemvakalelo, andinakutsho kutheni ndilila, luthando kodwa bendikhe ndaluva ngaphambili kwaye belungekho ngoluhlobo, I am nostalgic and sensitive. Kodwa uyazi into enye? Kuvakala ukuba kulungile, sekuyiminyaka oko ndilile kwaye ndibengulo "mntu". Ndicinga ukuba ukukhala kukunceda ukuba ususe yonke loo nto engqondweni yakho, kwaye kuyavakala ukunyaniseka. Akukho Fap ikwenza ube ngumntu kwakhona kwaye ikuvuse ebuthongweni bakho bokuzonwabisa, ikwenza ukuba usebenze kwaye ikwenze ulandele eyona nto ilungileyo ekugqibeleni, nceda ungafaki kwaye ukhale njengamadoda
Ukukhalela okokuqala ngethuba elide
Ndindwendwele umama wam izolo, kwaye ukwiminyaka yama-80s kwaye uyehla. Uhlala malunga neeyure ezisixhenxe kude. Andimbonanga malunga neenyanga ezintandathu. Ndithathe umfazi wam kunye nabantwana bam ukuba ndibatyelele ngelixa esenengqondo ephilileyo. Emva koko, kuye kwafuneka ndihambe ndedwa kwaye ndiye ndalila. Kuyadabukisa, kuba uyaphela kwaye kunzima ukubukela umzali akushiye ngolu hlobo, kwaye ngenxa yovuyo, kuba bendiyi-PMO simahla kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ngoku kwaye ndaziva ngathi bendilapho ngenene.
Andizange ndibe neentloni ngasemva kwengqondo yam, akukho siphazamiso kwaye ndidinisa ukuba i-PMO indizisele-bendilapho kunye naye iiyure ezimbalwa. Kwaye ndiyazi ukuba uyaziqhenya ngenene nosapho endincedileyo ukukhulisa, kunye nendawo endikuyo ebomini. Andikwazi ukuyichaza ngokufanelekileyo ngokwaneleyo indlela ekuvakala ngayo ukuba khona nabantu kwaye ndingenaso esi siyobisi sikhohlakeleyo. Ndisalwa nayo, kodwa ndihamba phambili kwaye ndiyibulala-usuku ngalunye.
Bendiqhuba ngenye imini xa kufika ikatala yodwa, kuye kwafuneka ndiyikrokrise kwaye ndaziva ndinento efana nolonwabo olusulungekileyo…. Ngaba iyavakala loo nto komnye umntu? Yonwabela izinto ezincinci abantu !!
Namhlanje ndalila ngokungalawulekiyo
Umama useholideyini nodadewethu iiveki ezimbini, elona xesha lide kuye. Ndandihamba ngokuzolileyo endlwini yam, ndithoba imfama kwigumbi ngalinye. Ndithe ndingena kwigumbi lomzali wam, wabeka umfanekiso womama wam okwiminyaka ye-20 ngaphezulu kwebhedi. Andikwazi ukuyichaza le mvakalelo, andikaze ndibenayo ngaphambili, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ndiyazi, iinyembezi zaziziqengqeleka phantsi kwamehlo am ndaza ndaqala ukukhala. Iinkumbulo zikamama zazigobhoza engqondweni yam, iinkumbulo ezintle ngaphambi kokuba i-PMOing ihlasele ubomi bam. Zininzi iinkumbulo ezinokubakho zonke zichithwe ekuziphatheni ngokuhambisa amaphambili kwiipixels. Ndiyazithembisa ukusukela namhlanje, nayiphi na inkcaso endihlangabezana nayo iya kuthunyelwa ekuchitheni ixesha elisemgangathweni nabazali bam. Bazakulishiya eli lizwe ngenye imini, kufuneka ndenze ixesha abalijikelezayo.
Ndandilila phambi koodadewethu
Saya endlwini kadadewethu ukuya kubona ukuba unjani, siyayikhaba, sithetha ngezinto eziqhubekayo ebomini bethu. Yazi, andinancoko zininzi KUNYE nodadewethu omdala; zizidenge ukuba kukho nantoni na. Kwaye ndaziva ndifuneka ukuba ndimxelele malunga nohambo lwam lweNOFAP!
Ndathetha naye malunga namava / izibonelelo zam. Umntu endandinguye kwaye ndingubani ngoku / ndiba ngubani. Ngelixa bendixelela udadewethu yonke le nto bendinayo le NGQONDO YOKUTHANDA "entliziyweni yam ngelixa ndithetha nodadewethu ngalento, ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba IINYEMBEZI ZIQHUBEKE ZIQHUBEKA ZIQHUBEKA ZIQHUBEKA, kwaye udadewethu wayejonge kum UHLANYA NGENXA YAM NAYE SIBONA INTO ENGEKE YENZEKE KUM NGOBA ANDIKHO UMNTU OTHANDEKAYO !!! Kwaye into ebendingayilindelanga ngaphakathi kukuba bendingenazintloni ngendlela endiziva ngayo, bendinelunda ngayo! Ndiye ndancuma xa ndizosula iinyembezi wabe usisi wam ebaleka weza kum wandinika esona hug sikhulu bendisenza kudala.
Wahleka ezama ukungakhali wathi "Ubomi buyenzeka kwaye ndiyazi ukuba umntakwethu omncinci uzotshintsha njengoko ekhula kwaye bendisazi ukuba kukho into eyahlukileyo ngawe endingenakuyibeka ngomnwe wam! Ndinebhongo ngawe! ”
Kwaye oko kwandikhokelela kum ukwabelana naye ngolwazi, wayengazi ukuba yintoni eyingozi ngayo thina madoda ukuba sihlale sibukela i-pornography + sihlaziye i-masturbate kwaye sichitha imbewu yethu!
Indlela endandiziva ngayo entliziyweni yam yayingumntu ongenomdla wokuthokoza / lonwabe, kwaye ndivuyiswa kukuba ndakwazi ukuthetha nabo nodadewethu. Amava endingaze ndiyibale.
Iintsuku ezingama-226 - ndingahleka kwakhona.
Hello Fapstronauts!
Uza ngezibonelelo kunye namantshontsho, kodwa uhlala ngenxa yokuba iNoFap izakukujonga kakuhle kuzo zonke iingxaki onazo. Ndikhe ndahlala kuluntu ixesha elingaphezulu konyaka kwaye emva kokuphinda ndibuyele umva, ngoku le yeyona ndlela yam inde (isaya yomelela). Ndiyazi ukuba le ayizukuyenza iposti yam ukuba ithandwe, kodwa kuya kufuneka ndiyophule kuwe: izibonelelo kunzima ukuzibona, zincinci, kwaye zithatha ixesha elide ukuvela. Kodwa ndoda, kufanelekile.
- Ndiyakwazi ukusebenzisana namantombazana njengokuba ndiyakwazi ukusebenzisana naye nawuphi na umntu ngoku. Oko akuthethi ukuba ndingumazibuthe wenkukhu, kodwa ndinokuba nencoko elungileyo naye nabani na nokuba banomtsalane kangakanani. Kukhulu kakhulu kuba ngaphambili bendisoloko ndinobunzima obukhulu ngale nto.
- Ndihlala ndizifumana ndihleka iesile lam kwizinto… Ngokwenyani ukuba neemvakalelo ezisemthethweni yinto enkulu bafo. Ubundindisholo beemvakalelo obuza nokufota abufanelanga. Ikwenza ukuba ukusebenzisana kwezentlalo kube lula ngakumbi njengoko kungasekhohlekisi okanye ukuphoxeka.
- Andinalo ixhala eluntwini. Andisaziva ngathi ndiyakhwela kwindawo yokuzivocavoca okanye naphina. Nayo intle leyo.
Khange ndibufumane ubuchule ekuhlaleni ebendingenabo ngaphambili. Nangona kunjalo uxinzelelo olwehlisiweyo ngokuqinisekileyo luncede ukwenza unxibelelwano lusebenze ngakumbi kwaye lunganciphisi. Ndiyathanda ukuba ndikwazi ukunxibelelana nabasetyhini ngaphandle kokubuyela umva okugqwethekileyo okanye iingcinga ezingena entlokweni yam okanye amabinzana obuxoki. Iziva ihlonipheke ngakumbi kwaye ndicinga ukuba wonke umntu angabona.
Andikulindelanga nanye kwale mivuzo, kodwa ndalindela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Ukuziyeka ixesha elingaphezu kwesigama sonyaka kwandibonisa ukuba indlela yam yokugcoba yayinzima ngakumbi kunokuba ndandicinga ukuba ndiyicinga kwaye kwandichukumisa kumgangatho ophantsi ongenakuze ndikulindele. Izibonelelo zibonisa ukuba.
Ndikude ekubeni ne-GF, ekubeni libhabhathane ekuhlaleni, ekubeni ndonwabe rhoqo kwaye ndigxile. Kodwa uyazi ntoni? Ndenza amaxesha angamawaka ngcono kunokuba ndenzayo xa ndingu-PMO'd. Zonke ezi zinto bezingenakwenzeka ukuba zifezekiswe ngelixa kusenziwa i-PMOing; ngoku ziinjongo ezifikelelekayo. Kude kude, kodwa emehlweni.
Ndiyabulela ngokungazibandakanyi ne-porn oko kundenza ndonwabe ngamanye amaxesha
Andizukuxoka, mva nje bendiziva ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo ukuba ndiyifumene le mpumelelo intsha kuhambo lwam, ngakumbi kuba ndiyazi ukuba okukhona ndiziva ndinombulelo ngakumbi, kokukhona indifaka ngaphakathi kum ingqiqo enzulu yokuziphatha kwam nokomoya, esona sixhobo sinesona siluncedo ekulweni isilingo. Kuziva kumnandi ukuhlala apha ndedwa nge-11: 00 pm kwilaptop yam, ndisazi ukuba ngaphambili bendinokuziva ngokulula isilingo sokubuyela umva, kodwa okwangoku, ingqondo yam ayinakuba kude kakhulu nokuba naloo mnqweno.
Enye yezinto endinombulelo ngazo kukuba ekunyamezeleni kwam, kundinika inkululeko yokuba nengqondo ecacileyo yokujonga abantu basetyhini njengezifundo ezihlonelwayo ezabelana kwihlabathi elinye njengam, endaweni yezinto ezingaphantsi komntu Iphonografi ibumba ukuqonda kwengqondo ukubabona njenge. Olu lwazi lundinika ulonwabo lokwenyani, kwaye luyonwabisa ngokungaphaya kunalo naluphi na uhlobo lwezinto ezibonisa amanyala.
Ngapha koko, bendifuna ukwabelana. Ndiyavuya ukuba kukho abanye abantu abafana nawe abakolu hambo kunye nam. Ndiyathemba ukuba unokufumana uvuyo olufanayo endinalo kumava akho okuba simahla.
Ndandimemeza amehlo. Enye yezona zihlandlo ezinamandla zobomi bam
Ndimamele ingoma yam endiyithandayo andizange ndiyive ethubeni emva kokucamngca kangangesiqingatha seyure.
Andikubeli mntwana, ndawangxolisa amehlo am ngaphandle. Zonke iingoma ezizodwa zathetha nam entliziyweni ngeli xesha. Ndihleli ndiyithanda lengoma. Kodwa ngeli xesha kwakungathi imvumi yayithetha nam kwaye ibeke iingalo zayo ecaleni kwam. Ndiyaziva ngokwenene imfesane, uvelwano, ukunyaniseka, zonke ezi mvakalelo zazindidikile kule minyaka idlulileyo ngenxa ye-porn fucking. Ndaziva uthando lwam lubuya, olo thando kunye nokwamkelwa endikushiyileyo kuthixo uyazi ukuba mingaphi iminyaka. Ibuyile.
Andisoze ndibuyele kweli qhekeza lomlutha. Ndiyakucela sukuncama fam. Iintsuku ezingama-43 singenza oku! Siya kuphila kwakhona.
I-Nofap yandenza umntu onesilonda esiswini
Ndiziva zonke iintlobo zezinto kwezi ntsuku. Kwaye kulungile, ndingumntu.
Emva kwethutyana kwiNoFap bendiqala ukuziva ngathi ndenzile ngaphambi kokuba ndibeneziyobisi. Iimvakalelo ziziva ziphinde kabini kunamandla, ngakumbi ezi zilusizi. Namhlanje ndilile ngokungalawulekiyo kwaye ndaziva ndisoyikeka ngokwenene, kodwa ndicinga ukuba zonke ezinye izibonelelo zeNoFap zenza ukuba kufanelekile.
Xa i-PMOing ndiba ngumntu ongobugovu. Isiqendu sokugqibela se pizza? Ndiza kuthatha. Ngaba umntu undicela ukuba ndibenzele into? Kutheni ndi fanele.
Ndibe ngumntu ongcono kubahlobo bam kunye nosapho kwaye ndiye ndayiqaphela nje.
Iintsuku ze-90: Yintoni etshintshileyo?
Ukuqala ukususela kwi-21, ndaqala ukubandezeleka
- ukuxhalaba kakhulu kweentlalo kunye nokuhlaselwa yinto yokutya
- ukudangala
- ukulahleka kwamandla kunye nokukhuthaza
- Inkohlakalo yengqondo ebuhlungu kunye nokungabikho kokugxininisa nokukhumbula
- ukuhlaziywa
- Uxhumano lwe-0 nabantu kwaye ngaphantsi kwemizwa ye-0
- Iingcamango zesini zengqingili zatshintshile zaba ziintsholongwane
- PIED
- ukulahleka kwesifiso kunye nethemba lekamva
- akukho nxaxheba kubasetyhini ndibukele P ngexesha lonke lam ixesha elincinane, kwanabanye ngamanye amaxesha.
Ngoko, iintsuku ezingama-90 ezedlulileyo, ndaqala i-streak entsha, kwaye ngeli xesha ndagqiba ekubeni ndingaboni iP okanye MO. Ndiza kuphinda ndizise MO xa ndiziva ndilungile. Andazi ukuba i-streak yokuqala incede ukufezekisa izibonelelo endizifumeneyo kwesesibini, kodwa emva kwezi ntsuku ze-90 ndiziva ndingumntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Ndiqaphele olu phuculo lulandelayo:
- uxhala lwentlalo luye lwahla kakhulu kwaye luyancipha yonke imihla. Ngoku ndiyakwazi ukuthetha nabangaphandle ngaphandle kweengxaki
- Ndiziva ndithembele kwaye ilizwi lam linamandla xa uthetha.
- Ndiba novelwano oluninzi ngoku: Ndicinga ngakumbi ngabanye kwaye ngaphantsi kwam
- Ndiva isidingo sokunxibelelana nabantu kwaye andithandi ukuba ndedwa kwakhona
- Imoya yam ibhetele kangangoko kwiintsuku ezininzi. Ndimomotheka ngakumbi kwaye ndithanda ukwenza abantu bamomotheka, ingakumbi amantombazana
- Ndiqhuba kakuhle emsebenzini
- Ndinamandla okwenza izinto ezininzi ngexesha losuku
- Inkohlakalo yengqondo iyancipha kwaye iyancipha. Inkumbulo yam iyaphucuka.
- Ndiziva ndivakalelwa ngakumbi kunaphambili. Iimvakalelo ezilungileyo nezimbi.
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