Ukungabi namandla kuyanda-Ngu-Arnab Ganguly, Mirror eMumbai | Nge-28 kaMeyi, ngo-2020
U-Lalit sele ekwiinyanga ezintathu ngoku. Kubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakhe kule minyaka mithathu idlulileyo, lo mntu uneminyaka engama-25 ubudala ufumanise ukuba kunzima ukufumana isondo kunye neqabane lakhe kwezi zinyanga zidlulileyo. Ekuqaleni, akakwazanga ukwenza ebhedini, kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe, uLalit wayeka ukuziva unqwenela ukusondelelana, nangona wayesathandana kakhulu neqabane lakhe. Kutheni le nto ukuba umfana osempilweni, kwincoko yakhe yesini, azifumane esebenzisana ne-erectile dysfunction (ED)? Impendulo, ngokutsho kwengcali yakhe, yayikumkhwa awayewenziwe ngu-Lalit kwiminyaka edlulileyo, ukusuka kuninzi ngaphambi kokuba ahlangane nentombi yakhe yangoku. U-Lalit wayenomdla wokutya iphonografi; Wayechitha iiyure ezibukele, xa intombi yakhe yayingekho.
Ngokweklinikhi, abo banegalelo eliphambili kwi-ED impilo enkenenkene, ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunye neemeko zempilo yengqondo ezifana noxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, ukudinwa kunye noxinzelelo Kodwa, isikolo esitsha sengcinga sakha ikhonkco phakathi kokubhengeza kakhulu iphonografi kunye ne-ED. Ndiyabulela kwi-intanethi boom ye-intanethi, imeko ayisavunyelwa kumadoda aphakathi kweminyaka ene-zero yokuzivocavoca kunye nobomi boxinzelelo olunobunzima. Ngelixa iimeko ezifana nokungalingani ebomini, ukukhuluphala, iimeko zonyango ezinje ngesifo seswekile kunye neminye imiba yendlela yokuphila zinendima
dlala, iphonografi ngokuthe ngcembe ifumana ukuqaqamba njengesizathu.
I-psychotherapist esekwe eMumbai-Alaokika Bharwani ifikelele kwizigulana apho izixhobo zezobisi zingabekwa tyala. “Iphonografi ngamava amanyani xa umntu esenza into yangaphandle,” utshilo uBalwani. Ngelixa ubukele iphonografi kunye nokushaya indlwabu, indoda iyaziva ikulawula. Kodwa kwiqabane, kuyafana, kwaye kuyamcaphukisa, ”utshilo, wongeza ukuba inyani yokuba iphonografi ifumaneka ngokulula yandise umda wengxaki.
Ukungasebenzi kubonakaliswa ngexesha lokunxibelelana neqabane kunye nokungaboni ngelixa ubukele iphonografi. Abo basebenzisa iphonografi ngokugqithileyo, bafumana unxibelelwano lwengqondo kunye nolwalamano phakathi kwabantu abathandana nabo. Baqala ukufumana ubunzima ekuphenduleni kumaqabane abo kwiimfuno zesondo, okanye isenzo sokwenene asiphili malunga nolindelo lomlutha we-porn, simshiye engonelisekanga. Kukho abanye abaneminqweno yokufumana ama-erections njengoko abonwa kwiwebhu, kwaye eba nexhala xa beyithelekisa nale nto iyinyani.
“Ndifumene amadoda abelana ngesondo nabafazi bawo ngelixa ebukele iphonografi, kungenjalo abafi bavuswe. Oku kuhlazisa kakhulu iqabane kwaye kunokubuphelisa ukuphela kobudlelwane, ”utshilo uPavan Sonar, ugqirha wengqondo ovela eMumbai kunye nesazi ngezesondo.
Akuncedi ukuba, njengoko izifundo zibonisile, ukubukela iphonografi, xa iba ngumkhwa onyanzelekileyo, kusebenze intsebenzo yobuchopho efanayo njengoko utywala kunye nezinye iziyobisi zisenza. "Ukubukela iphonografi kulonyusa amanqanaba e-dopamine, kwaye njengokuba i-dopamine iyinaropransmitter yokuziva ilungile, yenza umntu ukuba anqwenele loo mvakalelo iphindaphindwe. Kancinci, oku kudala umkhwa. Ingqondo iba kwimeko yayo. Ukulala ngesondo kubomi bokwenyani akuboneleli ngendlela efanayo yokwoneliseka, kwaye ke amadoda akufumana kunzima ukwenza kunye namaqabane awo, utshilo uSonar.
Ngelixa ubukele iphonografi kunye nokushaya indlwabu, indoda ivakalelwa kukuba ikulawulo. Kodwa kwiqabane, kuyafana akunjalo kwaye kuyamshiya
-Alaokika Bharwani, ugqirha wengqondo
Iinyanga ezilishumi elinesibhozo ezidlulileyo, uDhananjaya wenza isigqibo sokuba angayibukeli iphonografi kunye nokuhambisa amalungu esini, kwaye umntu oneminyaka engama-33 ubudala une
bambelela ngokuqinileyo kulo. “Ndikhe ndayibukela into enzima kakhulu ndisemncinci, kwakunzima ukuba kum
yaqala ebomini benene, ”utshilo. “Kwakungekho lula ukuncama. Kodwa bekufuneka ndilinganiselwe. Ibikukuhlawula ityala kum
ubomi bomtshato, umsebenzi wam kunye nayo yonke enye into, utshilo.
Ngaphandle kokufunga i-porn, uDhananjaya wenza iinguqu ezisempilweni kwindlela yakhe yokuphila. Ubetha kathathu umthambo ngeveki,
ingaba ubunzima, i-Cardio kunye nokucamngca, kwaye idla ngokulinganayo yafa. Uphuma ngakumbi kwaye achithe ixesha elincinci ngaphakathi
phambi kwesikrini.
U-Shyam Mithiya, ugqirha wezokwabelana ngesondo kunye nocebisi malunga nobudlelwane, uthi uninzi lwabo baneminyaka engaphaya kwengama-20 nama-30 kuye kuye kwinto abayibiza ngokuba, "ziimpawu ezibonakalayo zokungasebenzi kakuhle". “Abanayo i-ED, kodwa boyika ukuba banokuba nayo,” utshilo uMithiya. Amava abo asiphumo sokwenza izinto ezifana nokuzithelekisa nemodeli ebonwe kwiifilimu ezingamanyala. Kukho abo banxungupheleyo kwaye baziva bexhalabile malunga nokukwazi kwabo ukwanelisa amaqabane abo njengesiphumo sokubukela iphonografi. ”
Ukongeza, ukuzonwabisa kakhulu kwi-porn kunokupela ukuphela konxibelelwano lomzimba phakathi kwamaqabane. "Ngokufanelekileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba indoda iyalibala ubugcisa bokufunda ulwimi lomzimba weqabane layo," wongeza
Bharwani.
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