NgoLwesibini, uJanuwari 17, 2017. Qhagamshelana nesicatshulwa
Amadoda asemncinci njenge-20 ane-erectile dysfunction, enqwenelekayo kukusetyenziswa kwabo kwe-porn, enokuthi ibe likhoboka ngokulula, utshilo uGwen Loughman
I-intanethi ebumnyama ye-intanethi yi-pornography. U-Nuala Deering uthi, "Uonografi uye waba yindlala ebantwini bethu," kusho u-Nuala Deering, ulwalamano kunye nodokotela wengqondo yengqondo kunye nobudlelwane base-Ireland. "Asiyikujongana nayo njengoko kufanelekile. Ayinakulawulwa kwaye ayifumaneka ngokukhululekile kunoma yiphi na ibakala elidala elinokufikelela kwi-intanethi. Asikwazi ukugxotha umzila wezonografi, kodwa sinokufundisa nokunceda iintsapho zilungiselele abantwana ukuba bajongane nehlabathi lenguqu engakaze yenziwe. "
Umlutha we-Cyber-sex predicted to be the next tsunami kwimpilo yengqondo. Amadoda ekupheleni kweminyaka engama-20 kunye nokuqala kweminyaka engama-20 ayakhumbula, ukuba kukho na, i-boy-covered boy-mags ephezulu kwiithala zeendaba. Ihlabathi elinobukrokra lisuka kumgca wecinco lweqhosha.
La madoda asemasontweni abonayo nantoni na eyayiyintlungu yomdala: i-erectile dysfunction. Lawa madoda asemzimbeni asemzimbeni, kungekho miba yezokwelapha, kodwa ukusetyenziswa kwabo koonografi, ngamaxesha amaxesha kuba ngumlutha, kuba nefuthe elijongene nobuhlobo bobulili.
UDkt June Clyne, wengqondo wengqondo kunye nobudlelwane bezobuhlobo (www.sextherapyireland.com), ubona inani elinyukayo lamadoda ekusebenzeni kwakhe ukubika ubunzima bokufumana, nokugcina, ukulungiswa, xa usondelene namaqabane abo.
"Amadoda kwi-20 yabo, i-30, i-40, njalonjalo, ikhona neengxaki kwi-erectile functioning. Kwabanye, abanalo ingxaki yokufumana ukulungiswa, kodwa kunzima ukugcina enye. "
UDkt Clyne uthi ubudlelwane obuninzi buphelile ngenxa yezocwangco. "Ukusetyenziswa koononografi kwe-intanethi kuqhubela phambili ngokwentlalo efanelekileyo, ngoko, mhlawumbi, esi sizathu sezizathu zokuba abantu bephuza ukudibanisa iifografi zabo ekuboneni ubunzima bezesondo. Emva koko, 'akubona wonke umntu obukeleyo'? Uthi i-intanethi ye-intanethi inikezela ukuzonwabisa okwexesha elifutshane, kodwa iziphumo ezinzima kwixesha elide, kubandakanywa ukungasebenzi kwe-erectile, okuyimfuneko yokusetyenziswa kweViagra kwangaphambili.
I-Nuala Deering ithi amadoda ase-19 kunye ne-20 afumana iingxaki ze-erectile baqaphela ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwabo koononophelo baye bawayeka kwaye abaninzi babo bafuna i-Viagra. "Basenokuqala ukufumana imithi evela kwi-GP yabo, kodwa bafumana rhoqo kwi-intanethi, engayilunganga. I-Erectile i-dysfunction ixakeke kakhulu kwixesha elimncinci kwaye i-Viagra ibonakala njengendlela yokulungisa ngokukhawuleza kwaye inokuzithemba kwixesha elifutshane. Nangona kunjalo, ukuxhomekeka kwexesha elide kwiViagra akusilondoloze kwaye kuyacetyiswa ukuba ufune uncedo lwezobuchwepheshe ukujongana nayo nayiphi na ingxaki. "
UDkt Clyne uyavuma. "Kufuneka sijonge izizathu zokuba kutheni abantu bebukela ubulili. Ingaba buhlungu, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, ukufumaneka lula / ukufikeleleka, ukuthintela imizwa? Ingaba sele sisetyenzisiwe ukuxhuma kwizikrini, kwaye ke sisodwa, ukuba asazi njani, okanye phi, ukuba sondele kumntu 'wangempela'? Kwaye abo sele bebudlelane, ukuxhoma? Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba uphando lubonisa amanqanaba e-dopamine kwingqondo abuyele kumanqanaba aqhelekileyo kwiinyanga ezincinane, emva kokuyeka ukujonga i-intanethi ye-intanethi. Ndiya kubonisa ukuba xa kukho umntu onobunzima bokuyeka i-porn, ukuba bafuna inkxaso yobuchwepheshe evela kumuntu onolwazi kule ndawo. "
Ngaba unonopopayi onokumodareyitha ingaba yimfundo yabaselula?
UJuni Clyne akacingi njalo. "Eneneni, le nto ayimfuneko imfundo abayidingayo. Kukho ezinye iindawo zokufundisa ngezocansi ezingenayo i-pornography. Andiyonto 'inxamnye' neentlanzi, kodwa nangona ndibona umonakalo obangela ukuba kuphinde ibuye ibuze ukuba ngaba kukho nayiphi na ixabiso kuyo, ngaphandle kwengeniso yemali kwinombolo ekhethiweyo. "
I-Nuala Deering ithi: "Ngabantu abancinci, isicatshulwa sabo malunga nobulili, ukuzonwabisa kunye nolwalamano oluthile lukhutshwe lunyana. Oku kunzima ukutshintsha. Ngaphandle kolwazi olufanelekileyo noluntu olufanelekileyo lokuziphatha ngokwesondo, abantu abancinci bangakwazi ukukhubeka ngokugqithiseleyo kwizinto zesondo, ukuxhatshazwa kweengxaki, kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo. "
Sifundisa njani ulutsha lwethu malunga neengozi zoononografi kunye nokukwazi ukuxhatshazwa?
UDeirdre Seery, i-CEO yeZiko lezeMpilo lezesondo, i-Peters Street, iKork, ithi i-clinic ye-drop-in inika imfundo yabasetyhini kubantu abatsha. Baya kubuza imibuzo kwaye baphendule ngabaqeqeshi. Uthi ukuthetha nabaselula abatsha akuyiyo i-rocket yesayensi. "Banobunqwenela bemvelo ngesondo kwaye abaninzi be-13- kunye ne-14-ubudala basebenzisa i-intanethi ngokungafihla ngokupheleleyo."
Yingakho abazali befanele bathethe nabaselula babo ngesondo.
Iintsholongwane zinzima ukuchaphazela kunabantwana abaselula. Akunakwenzeka ukunyanzelisa yonke intshukumo, ngoko ke ukufikelela kwabo kwiimifanekiso engamanyala. Umntwana osekhulile kufuneka akwazi ukuva, kwaye uyazi, malunga nobumnyama obunobunono obunobunono boonografi. Umzali unokunikela njani le ngcaciso ngendlela evelisayo?
Ngubani na onokukwazi ukuba abazali bafikeleleke xa zonke izinto zingaphumeleli kwaye abantwana babo behlala besetyenziselwa, kwaye bayamangaliswa yi-pornography?
UCatherine Hallisey, imfundo kunye neengqondo zezingane, uthi xa ulutsha lufuna ukujonga imifanekiso engamanyala, baya kufumana indlela. Uthi ngumsebenzi omkhulu kunye nokuba, nangemida ekhoyo, abazali abanakukwazi ukubamba into engabonwa ngaphandle kwekhaya. Ukhankanyile icebo lesenzo kubazali kunye nentsha ngokufanayo.
1. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nolwabelana ngesondo akusiyo inkulumo yesikhathi esisodwa. Vula, kwaye uqale incoko ngokukhawuleza, kunye 'nesigxina' ixesha, kunokuba unogumbe wolwazi kwiseshoni enye kunye nangemva kweminyaka.
2. Kuqiqile ukuba nemida. Nangona kunjalo, ingqwalaselo ephambili kufuneka ibe ngokwakha ubuhlobo bakho nomntwana wakho, ngoko banako ubunzima beemvakalelo kunye nokuzimisela ukuhlangabezana nokukhula kwabo ngokwesini njengoko bekhula.
3. Khumbula, inzondo yesondo iyinto evamile kwaye inempilo kunye noononografi enye, nokuba yinkathazo, indlela yokwanelisa loo nqwenela. Iintsholongwane zihlala zixhatshazwa yiloo nto ihlangabezana nazo. Xa oko kwenzeka, ufuna ukuba bazive beza kuwe.
4. Ingxoxo yakho ayifanele igxininiswe kwi "pornography engalungile". Hlola oko umntwana wakho acinga kwaye uzive malunga ne-pornography. Batshele iingozi ngeendlela ezingafanelekanga.
5. Xa uthetha ngale miba, sebenzisa ilizwi elizolile, elingathathi hlangothi. Akukho zifundo, akukho gwetyala, akukho ntloni. Musa ukubandakanyeka kwiimfazwe zamandla. Yenza inkulumo yakho kwangaphambili! Yenza okusemandleni akho ukuba ungabonakali. Oku kuya kwandisa amathuba okuba umntwana wakho uya kuqhubeka ekuthetha nawe.
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