NguRichard Simmons III-Sep 27, 2016- umtshato UkuKhutshwa koBuntu ubudlelwane
Kukho umfazi owabelana naye ibali lesibini esazi ngaye. Babesandul 'ukutshata, zombini iintombi ngosuku lwabo lomtshato. Sekunjalo, ngobusuku bokuqala bentsapho yabo yokuzalwa, indoda ayikwazanga ukwenza ngesondo. Watsho ngokukrakra ukuba wayenobungozi obuninzi obunemifanekiso engamanyala iminyaka. Ngaba unokucinga ukuba unomqobo onjalo ophonswa kumtshato wakho ngosuku lwakho lokuqala njengendoda nomfazi? Akufuneki ukuthetha, umtshato wesibini wawungekho ekuqaleni kwabo babenethemba.
Kwimeko enye, sifumana i-supermodel uChristie Brinkley, ebonwa ngabaninzi ukuba ngowomnye wabasetyhini abanomdla kakhulu kwihlabathi namhlanje kwaye ibe nezihlandlo ezintathu kwi-Cover Illustrated Swimsuit Edition. U-Brinkley oqashisayo ongumklami uPeter Cook, owayengumlutha we-3,000-month-month-habit habit, enokuthi okanye engenakuncedisa kwintsebenziswano yakhe nentombazana. UCheka wayetshatile omnye wesifazane obalaseleyo kwihlabathi kodwa wayesejonga kwi-pornography ukuze anelise iiminqweno zakhe zesondo, awonakalise umtshato wakhe.
Umcebisi onokuzibonela, onokuthandelwa kakuhle, utshilo nje ukuba i-pornography yi-gorilla ye-500-pound kwihlabathi lokulutha. Wathetha ukuba kulula ukufihla kwabanye, kunzima kakhulu ukunqoba, kwaye kunokuba nemiphumo emibi kwimibutho yakho kunye nobomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo. Amadoda amancinci amaninzi, kunye nabasetyhini abathile, abaphumelela kwiikholejini abanomlutha kakhulu wezokwelapha. Sifanele siqale ukuqonda indlela uonografi echaphazela ngayo abasebenzisi abaqhelekileyo, ingakumbi abo bawujonga iminyaka emininzi.
Kukho abo bancedisayo abachaza ukuba i-pornography ayinayo impembelelo kubantu abayidlayo, kodwa oko kuthetha ngathi abantu abachaphazelekanga koko bakubonayo. Icandelo lokuthengisa liya kukuxelela ngokuvuyisa, ngaphandle kokungabaza, ukuba oko ubona kungena engqondweni yakho nasentliziyweni yakho, kukuchaphazela ukuba ungubani kunye nento oyenzayo.
Abathandabuli bezesondo kunye nootitshala uWendy noLarry Maltz babhala incwadi ebhalwe kakuhle, "I-Trap Trap. "Imibhalo ibelana nendlela abantu bayothuka ngayo xa beqala ukuva malunga nomonakalo owonakalisayo wezoonografi. Abaninzi babona ukuba kungonwabi; akusiyo isiza, isiselo esinxilisayo okanye nokuba namava okwenene ngokwesondo. Ngoko, ingaba njani yingozi kangaka? I-Maltzes ikubeka ngale ndlela:
Inyaniso kukuba, ukusebenzisa iinthombe zoononografi kunokukwenza ube yimfama-ungaboni kakuhle amandla kunye nokulawula oko ekugqibeleni kunokubakho ngaphezu kobomi bakho.
Iifoto zoonografi zenza impembelelo enkulu kwi-chemistry yengqondo. Ivuselela indawo yengqondo, eyaziwa ngokuthi "umzila omkhulu, "Apho imichiza dopamine ikhutshwe xa umntu ephakanyiswa ngesondo. Iifoto zoonografi zenza i-spike enkulu yokuvelisa i-dopamine kwingqondo. Abaphengululi abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukwanda kokwanda kwe-dopamine obangelwa kukujonga iifotofolifana kufana nokuphakamileyo komntu othile xa esebenzisa i-crack cocaine.
I-Maltzes idibanisa kwakhona:
Amagqabantsha okuvelisa amava okuzonwabisa, ukuphumula nokuphunyuka entlungu ayenze umlutha. Ngokuhamba kwexesha unokuxhomekeke kuyo ukuba uzive ulungile kwaye uyifunayo ukuze ungaziva ubi. Iminqweno, ukukhathazeka kunye nokuziphatha okungaphandle kokulawula ngokuyisebenzisa ingaba kwindawo eqhelekileyo. I-Sexual Porn ingaba yimfuno yakho enkulu. Ukuba uye wasebenzisa i-porn rhoqo rhoqo ukuba "uphakamise," ukuhoxiswa kweefostile kunokufana nokuphazamiseka, ukudandatheka nokungalali, njengokuba utywala utywala, i-cocaine nezinye iziyobisi ezinzima. Enyanisweni, abantu ekuhlambuleni i-porno bathatha inqanaba leenyanga eziyi-18 ukuphilisa kumonakalo kwi-dopamine receptors yedwa.
Iifoto zoonografi zenza lula umntu ukuba aphunyuke ubomi obubomi kunye nentlungu yayo, kodwa idala zonke iintlobo zeengxaki, ezininzi zazo ziguquka ngokukhawuleza, ngoko awuze uzibone ziza zize zenzeke. Isiphumo esibangelisayo kukuba kukuba kubangela ubunqweno bezesondo kunye nobunzima bokusebenza, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kubumba iimfuno zesondo kwiindlela ezonakalisayo.
Iphephancwadi leNew York yeWorld Wolf, "Iimfihlakalo zeNtsomi, "Izithuba ezi:
Ubungacinga ukuba imifanekiso engamanyala iya kwenza abantu bahlasele iilwanyana. Ngokuchasene noko, ukuxhatshazwa koononophelo kubangelwa ukubulawa kwabantu besilisa ngokubhekiselele kwabasetyhini bokwenene, kunye namadoda ahamba phambili ukuba babone abafazi abancinci nabancinci njengabalingani bezobisi. Abasetyhini akufanele bahlasele amadoda angamanyala angama-porn, kodwa banzima ukugcina ingqalelo yabo.
UDkt Ursula Ofman, onguchwepheshe wezesondo ngoManhattan, uye wabona abaninzi abaselula beza ukuxoxa ngezinto zabo ezinxulumene nezocwangco.
Kufikeleleke kakhulu kwaye ngoku, kunye nezinto ezinjengevidiyo yokuhanjiswa kunye ne-webcams, abafana bafumana ukunyanzelisa. Into eyayibuhlungu kakhulu kukuba iyakuthintela ubuhlobo nabasetyhini. Ndibonile abaselula abasandula ukuvuka kunye nabasetyhini, kodwa abanalo ingxaki yokusebenzisana ne-Intanethi.
Umlobi wencwadi uJoseph Paul, encwadini yakhe yophando, "I-Pornified, "Uthi:
Nangona abanye abantu bezama ukugcina imifanekiso engamanyala kunye nokwabelana ngokwabelana ngesondo ngokwasemakhanda abo, akulula; Uonografi ungena, ngamanye amaxesha ngeendlela ezingalindelekanga. Ukuzithengisa kungakhokelela kwiingxaki zesini, ezifana nokungaziphathi okanye ukulibazisa.
Uchwepheshe wezesondo kunye neengqondo zengqondo u-Aline Zoldbrod uyaqiniseka ukuba inani elincinci lamadoda aselula alungiselelwe ukuba abathandekayo ngenxa yecalografi. Amadoda amaninzi acinga ukuba abafazi baya kubaphendula njengoko iinkwenkwezi zeentlanzi zizenza kwiividiyo. UZoldbrod uthi basesikweni sokuvusa ihlazo kwaye baza kwenza abathandekayo abathandekayo kuba abazi ukuba baxhamle njani nomfazi okwenene.
Kwincwadi yakhe "Ingaba ulunde ntoni?, "Dannah Gresh iinkcukacha ezikhohlisayo eziqhelekileyo abantu abaninzi abaselula ngokuphathelele imifanekiso engamanyala: inkolelo yokuba imiba yabo kunye neengxaki ze-pornography ziya kupheliswa xa zitshatile. Abasetyhini abasetyhini abaxhatshazwayo ngoononophelo ngokuqinisekileyo bayathemba ukuba kunjalo. U-Gresh uthi lo ngumbuzo owodwa umbuzo awafumana kuwo kubantu abatsha.
"Kodwa, ukukhwabanisa koononophelo akuzange kugqitywe ngumntu wesini somtshato," u-Gresh uyanezela, "kuba iifostile ayinakuyenza nantoni na uthando lwangempela kunye nesondo sangempela. Kufana nokunyaniseka njengento yokukhohlisa. "
Ngendlela elula, umbhali uNate Larkin unikela ukuba iifotoli ezingcolileyo zidibanisa zonke ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini kuba ukukhanga kubulala uthando. Nantsi inkcazo echazayo evela kuLarkin:
Uthando lunika; kuthandwa. Uthando lubona umntu; Ukukhanukela kubona umzimba. Uthando lu malunga nawe; Ukukhanukela kum malunga nam kunye nokuzincoma kwam. Uthando lufuna ... luyazi ... ihlonipho. Ukukhanukela akunakukhathalela.
Umgca wezantsi: I-Porn iyanelisa ukukhanuka, kungekhona uthando. Ukukhanukela kum malunga nam kunye nokwaneliseka kwam. Ekugqibeleni, ukugqithiswa kobugqwetha kubonakalisa ubudlelwane kunye nothando. Igalelo layo lingonakalisa.
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