By Mike Huynh
Iiyure ze-5,517,000,000 zoononophelo zazisetyenziswa kwi-2018 yedwa ... kwisayithi enye.
Ukuba awuzange unike itshoni phambi kokuba ungadinga ngoku. Ukuxhatshazwa koonobumba kukukhuphaza phakathi kwamadoda namhlanje. Okubi kakhulu, kunokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane bakho, umsebenzi wakho kunye nokuhlambalaza ngekhampasi yakho yokuziphatha.
Kuyenzeka kakhulu, ukuba ukholelwa izibalo. Ngokwe-2017 ingxelo evela IHotff Post, iisayithi zoononophelo zifumana izithuthi ezingaphezulu kweNetflix, i-Amazon ne-Twitter zidibaniswe ngenyanga. Yaye iiyure esichitha ukubukela iiduna? I-Analysis ye-Pornhub uyigxotha kwiiyure ze-5,517,000,000 kwi-2018 yedwa kwiindwendwe kwindawo yazo. Ngamanye amazwi landa.
Kunyaka ophelileyo safumana ithuba lokuhlola umlutha wezobisi kunye nomphathi we-10 wobudlelwano, uSamantha Jayne. Eli xesha sithatha indlela engokwengqondo (imiqondiso, iziphumo kunye nemiphumo) ngoncedo lweengqondo ULuka Vu ogqithiseleyo kwiimifanekiso engamanyala nakwi-intanethi.
"Ulutsha lwa namhlanje nangomso wamadoda luya kufunda ukuzisebenzisa ukuziphatha kwabo ngoononophelo ngenxa yokuba inyaniso yezoonononophelo ifikeleleka ngokukhawuleza."
Kutheni Ukuxhatshazwa Kokuxhatshazwa Ngokwemfihlelo Kuyinto Eyinyani
Ngokona buninzi, ukutshaywa kwezilonda zezobugqwetha kuye kwaba yi-product-product ye-intanethi kwaye ayinalo ifa ngokwemvelo. UVu uthi ukwanda kweengxaki zobunono boononografi kwi-intanethi kunzima ngenxa yobugcisa.
"Ukukhululeka kwayo, kufumaneka lula kwaye kukho ingcamango yokuba 'akukho mntu uyazi ukuba uyayisebenzisa'," uyachaza. Esi siqhelo esingenamkhawulo kunye nenkululeko yokuyihlolisisa kunye nenqakrazo yemouse yeso sizathu sokuba kutheni amadoda amaninzi aye axhomekeke kwi-porno yokuvusa.
"Iidemon kwi-1990 kunye ne-2000 yakuqala yayinzima kakhulu ukufumana - kufuneka uhambe kwivenkile yevidiyo okanye uthenge i-DVD - kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba uya kufuneka ukuphatha izibongozo zakho zesiganeko sezesondo."
Le mihla ibonakala ukuba iteknoloji yatshintshe indlela abantu abadla ngayo umxholo kunye noonografi, kodwa uVu uthi kukho ingxaki enkulu kunazo zonke.
"Ndicinga ukuba intsha yamhlanje namadoda omso aya kufunda ukuziphatha ngokuziphathekayo ngokusetyenziswa koonobumba ngenxa yokuba inyaniso yeyona nto (i-VR) yoonobumba ifikeleleka ngokukhawuleza."
Uyazi Njani Umlutha KuzoziThuthi?
UVu uchaza ukuba 'umlutha' unokuthi uthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kuluntu kunye nengcali yeengqondo. "Ukufumanisa ukuba unomlingo kufuna ukuhlolwa ngokusemthethweni ngengcali yezempilo yengqondo njengengcali yeengqondo okanye isifo sengqondo. Kwakhona kuba nengxabano kuba kusekhona indawo esebenzayo yophando. "
Nangona kunjalo, ezi ziimpawu ezine eziqhelekileyo ukuba unokuba ngumlutha wezocografi:
- Usilela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwimizamo yakho yokulawula ukusetyenziswa koononophelo
- Usebenzisa rhoqo i-pornography (okanye i-porno enzulu kakhulu) kunokuba ihloselwe
- Usebenzisa i-porn njengendlela yokuphepha iingxaki okanye iingxaki ezibi
- Ukusetyenziswa kwakho koononophelo kukuphazamisa ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, umsebenzi, ukufundisisa,
ubudlelwane kunye nempilo
Ukuba uphendule 'ewe' kwizinto ezimbalwa zezi, kunokufanelekile ukuthetha nengcali yezempilo yengqondo.
Kutheni Kukunzima Ukulawula Umlingo Wezonyanya?
Kulula nje ngokucima 'ukuyeka' kwaye ucima isikrini sakho akunjalo? Akunjalo.
"Iidlwengulo zivuselela kakhulu. Yimvuselelo eyenza impendulo ibe namandla kunezinto abantu ababezilungiselele ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Iintlobo ezingapheliyo zamaqabane ezesondo, izenzo zesondo kunye nokuxhamla kwayo kwiimfuno zethu ezizodwa zifuna ngokusisiseko iinkqubo zethu zokuvuza kwaye zishukumise ukusebenzisa, "kuchaza uVu.
Kwaye kukho ukufikeleleka. Le mihla inonopopayi ikhululekile, ingapheli kwaye iyimfuneko, oku kuthetha ukuba kunamathuba amaninzi okuhlaziya kwimikhwa yamandulo nangona xa uzama ukuyeka. Isizathu sokugqibela kukuba i-porn ezonwabayo ukuyidla. Ivumela abasebenzisi ukuba bazibandakanye kwiingcamango zabo zesini kunye nombono wokwenza oko kudla kunzima.
Yintoni Eyenzekayo Ukuba Ushiya Ukungabonakali?
Njengawe nayiphi na ingxaki eshiywe ingakhange iphendulwe ingadala. Abo basebenzisa ubugqwetha ngokugqithiseleyo banokungayinaki ulwalamano lwabo lobuqu njengoko bexhasana nokuxhamla ngokwenene kwesondo. Ukunyamekelwa oko kukukhokelela ekuhlakaleni ubudlelwane okanye umtshato.
Kwi-front front, iVu ithi inokuchaphazela ukusebenza kwakho komsebenzi xa uchitha iiyure ezininzi nobusuku ekukhangekisweni kwe-clip ye-porn "ephelele" - ukuxothwa kwezilonda zoononophelo kunene ngokwenene kule mihla. Ngalunye uhlangothi kukuba ukusetyenziswa koonwabo ngokugqithiseleyo kunemiphumo ekhethekileyo. Kwabanye, iimfuno zabo zesondo zitshintsha. Akuyona into embi kodwa kuyingozi. UVu uthi unokufumana ukufunwa koononophelo okungahambisani nemilinganiselo yakho okanye ngaphezulu, oko kuthathwa ngokungekho mthethweni.
Iindlela ezininzi ezinobungozi Kwi-Porn Addiction
Enye yezinto ezixhalabisa kakhulu ukuxhatshazwa kwezocwiliso yinkampani ekhoyo ngokwenene. Izigulane zinokufumana ubunzima ngokuvuswa kwengqondo kunye nangokwenyama kunye nezobuhlobo babo zesini ngokoqobo - imeko edla ngokubhekiswa ngokuba yi-Ethostic Impact Erectile Dysfunction.
"Ngamanye amaxesha ukungaxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kubangelwa ukuxhalaba kwaye ukuthelekiswa kwengqondo rhoqo kunye neentlobo ezingamanyala abazidlayo. Kwabanye kubangelwa ukusilahla okungapheliyo kwiindlela zobugwenxa bokugaya i-masturbation - i-colloquially eyaziwa ngokuthi 'ukufa-grip syndrome'. "
Enye yezona nkalo ngokuphathelele kwimiba yimiba yezobuqhetseba iqhubela phambili ekudibaniseni ukuvuswa kwesondo kunye nezifundo ze-'ababoo '. "Abanye abathengi bayanyaniseka baze bazixineke ngokwabo emva kokucamngca into abayidlile."
Indlela Yokuqeqesha Ubunzima Bakho Ukuyeka Ukubukela Ubunono
Ukubuyiselwa kwi-addiction yoononono kuhlale kunokwenzeka ngoVu. Uthi: "Iipateni zobomi ziguqulwa kwaye unako ukuyeka imichilo emidala kwaye wenze iindlela ezintsha kunye nempilo."
Abo bachaphazelekayo ngemikhwa yabo yezobugwenxa bangasebenzisa le nyathelo ukucima ukusetyenziswa.
- Qaphela ukusetyenziswa kwakho - ingakumbi xa idlula iiyure ezimbalwa kwaye uqala ukubukela emsebenzini okanye ngexesha lokuphumula
- Qonda ukusetyenziswa kwakho kunye nezizathu zokuba ungayifuni ukuyisebenzisa
- Hlola ukuba yeyiphi imali efanelekileyo / ephathekayo
- Yenza ingcinga ngokusetyenziswa kwakho - setha ixesha, usethe iindidi ezikhuselekileyo uze uchaze oko kubomvu
iiflegi - Yamkela kwaye ufunde ukujongana nezibongozo njengoko uzama ukunciphisa - cinga ngemiphumo okanye usebenzise iziphazamiso ezifana nezemidlalo okanye ezinye izinto zokuzonwabisa ukuze ufake indawo