Emva kweminyaka eyi-30 ye-PMO-ndagcina i-erection ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo okokuqala ebomini bam

Iintsuku ezingama-82 linani elingaqhelekanga lokuthumela malunga nalo, kodwa ndibethe inqanaba elikhulu namhlanje. Imvelaphi ekhawulezayo. Ndiqhawule umtshato kwaye ndatshata nentombi yam yokuqala (kunye neqabane lokuqala lezesondo). Oko kwathatha iminyaka engaphezu kweshumi kwaye ndineentloni ukuvuma ukuba i-PMO ibangele ukuba ndingabinabo ubomi besondo.

Uqhawulo-mtshato aluzange lube ngenxa ye-PMO kuphela kodwa ndinokuxelela ukuba ubudlelwane obungenabo ubomi besondo bubudlelwane obubi, ixesha.

Emva kokuba uqhawulo-mtshato luzinzile, ndahamba ngeenguqu ezininzi, kuquka ukunciphisa umzimba, ukutshintsha umsebenzi wam, imoto, isimo sengqondo, yonke into. Kodwa andizange nditshintshe i-PMO, nangona umcebisi womtshato wandixelela ngokuchanekileyo ukuba ndilikhoboka le-porn (andizange ndibone isizathu sokuyeka - andinayo i-GF kwaye yayithuthuzela kakhulu).

Ngokukhawuleza emva konyaka emva koqhawulo-mtshato kwaye ndidibana nentombazana entle enenkathalo kwaye unokuthelekelela ibali — andikwazanga ukuliphakamisa. And just like during my marriage ndaqala ndacinga hayke ndonakele nje and le ntombi kuzofuneka ihlale nayo into yoba ndiyi boyfriend enkulu NGAPHANDLE kwe sex.

Uye wandixhasa kakhulu kwaye wathi 'sizoyilungisa' imiba yam - kwaye loo nto indenze ndacinga ngenene malunga nokuba yintoni ingxaki yam. Kwaye oko bendinikwe umboniso wokuba yintoni ingxaki malunga nonyaka odlulileyo, ndaqala ukufunda ngayo, ndafumana le forum, YBOP, kunye nezinye iisayithi. Kwaye ngenye imini xa ndisekhefini kwaye endaweni yokuphuma ngaphandle ndiza kujonga i-porn kwi-laptop yam kwaye ndonwabe, yandibetha-le ngxaki. Kwakufuneka ndiyeke.

Olo suku lwaluziintsuku ezingama-82 ezidlulileyo kwaye ndiyazingca ngokuthi ndigqibelele ekuphululeni amalungu esini kwaye akukho ne-orgasm. Andizingcanga ngokutsho ukuba ndibuyela kumanyala rhoqo emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa kubonakala ngathi - ihlala nje yimizuzu embalwa ye-bikini / i-soft core kodwa ndiyazi ukuba isaphosakele. Eli dabi ndisalwa nalo.

Nangona kunjalo, ubuncinci kum, kubonakala ngathi i-nofap ingundoqo wesisombululo, kuba ingxaki endandinayo yayiyi-desensitization ngenxa yokufa - andizange ndive nto kwi-PIV okanye i-BJ okanye nantoni na ngaphandle kwesandla sam. Ngokusisusa ngokupheleleyo isandla sam ndingacotha (ngokucotha kakhulu, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo) ndizive kwakhona.

Malunga neentsuku ezingama-45 ndaziva ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba i-PIED iyahamba, kodwa yayingekafezeki. Ndamxelela iGF yam ngengxaki yam ke, eyenye into eza kuxoxwa apha; noko kwimeko yam bekuluncedo kakhulu ukumxelela ukuze aqonde izinto ekufuneka ezenzile ukundinceda ndibengcono.

Kwaye ukufika ekukhanyeni ekupheleni kwetonela - ngethemba nje ukukhanya LOKUQALA - ngale ntsasa ndiye ndakwazi ukuyigcina ngexesha le-PIV ngokokuqala ngqa ebomini bam (kwaye ndikwi-30s yam yokugqibela ) Ndinike intombazana i-orgasm ukusuka apho. Ndiphinde ndaziva kakhulu (ngokucacileyo kuba ndikwazile ukungena kwaye ndiqhubeke) kodwa ndiseneendlela zokuhamba phambi kokuba ndiqaliswe ngokupheleleyo.

Ke ewe, le yinto yokuqhayisa, kodwa bendikonwabela ukufunda iiposti zabanye abantu kuba impumelelo yabo ibindinika ithemba lempumelelo yam. Ndisenazo iindlela zokuhamba, kodwa ukuba ndingashwankathela amanqaku ohambo lwam:

  • Ixesha elide likhoboka le-PMO elivumela ukuba umtshato ubole ngaphakathi ngenxa yawo
  • Ekugqibeleni ndajongana nomlutha wam malunga neenyanga ezintathu ezidlulileyo kwaye i-100% ilungile kwi-nofap (akukho mda okanye i-masturbation) kodwa ingekho kakhulu kwi-porn (incitshiswe kakhulu, kodwa ingekho i-pornfree)
  • Wabelane ngazo zonke iinkcukacha nentombi entsha. Ke ndikwimowudi 'elula' yokudibanisa kwakhona ngaxeshanye nokuqalisa kwakhona.
  • Incitshiswe kakhulu i-PIED (ithathelwe indawo ngoxinzelelo oluthile lokusebenza) malunga neentsuku ezingama-45
  • Ikwazile ukugqiba iPIV 82 iintsuku ngaphakathi
  • Ingaphezulu kweentsuku ezingama-90 ngaphandle kwe-orgasm yam, kwaye andizukuqhushumba-ke akuyomfuneko kubo bonke abafana.

tl; dr PMO umlutha ongazange akwazi ukugqiba i-PIV wakwazi ukwenza emva kwe-82 iintsuku ze-NOFAP. Ukuqalisa kwakhona akuphelelanga kodwa kuninzi kuyaqhubeka kwaye kufanelekile ukuzincama okwenziwayo

LINK - Isithuba seentsuku ezingama-82 - kukho ukukhanya ekupheleni kwetonela!

by yetanotheranon1

 

UHLAZIYO - Emva kweenyanga eziphantse zibe zine, ndiqalisa ukuba ngumntu oqhelekileyo

Isikhumbuzo sam seenyanga ezine se-nofap ziintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo. Yinyanga enye kanye emva kokuba ndidibene nentombi yam yangoku, eyayiyi-straw eyaphule iinkamela kum ekugqibeleni ndaphula umjikelo we-PMO. Wayemnandi kwaye eqonda kwaye ndandimfuna kakubi kakhulu kodwa ndingakwazi ukwenza kwaye okokuqala ebomini bam ndathi ndifuna ukuba ngcono, kungekhona nje kuye, kodwa kum. Kwaye ke ndafunda, ndafunda, ndafunda kwaye ndagqiba ekubeni ndiqhube inkqubo.

<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“>It has not been without its bumps. I’ve been completely free of fap — no edging, no masturbation — but not pornfree. I’ve learned that its not because I am not satisfied looking at my girl, but its because of the novelty of seeing something new.</p><p>My main symptom was terrible PIED; while I was married for over a decade (to my first girlfriend and only sexual partner ever) I can’t say I ever successfully had PIV sex. I just assumed I was ‘broken’ at sex and that the PMO cycle was not the problem.</p><p>During the divorce I saw a counselor who told me I was addicted to porn, but I was going through a LOT of things and chose to ignore it, thinking whats the problem with PMO when you don’t have anyone. Looking back it was so stupid, but in my own defence, I was able to lose a LOT of weight and change my attitude towards women even before I quit PMO.</p><p>At around the 30 day mark of the program I told my girlfriend what I was going through. She was supportive and I stuck with ‘easy’ mode in the sense I still had sexual activity, just didn’t O, and still had PIED issues. At around the 90 day mark I for the first time in my life had PIV sex where I gave her an orgasm, and a few days later, I actually had an O inside a woman for the first time EVER. It was such a different experience that I didn’t even know it was happening till it was done.</p><p>Suffice to say I felt pretty good (even though like any one who is having first time sex, it was sooo quick). Then I think I fell into a flatline, or something happened. For the next two weeks I couldn’t get it up at all, and I was despondent. I felt like I did in my first relationship, that I was broken. But unlike last time, I felt horrible because I wanted to be better, because I know myself and my girlfriend deserve a normal sex life.</p><p>If one thing I’ve learned as a side effect of giving up PMO is that your emotions pour out of you like no one’s business. And this weekend after some progress in the right direction a few things happened that led me down a deep, dark path of self doubt. I can say honestly I never thought about relapsing, but I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel.</p><p>I also read the forums and we all know that in addition to the success stories we have stories of struggle, and there was a post yesterday that was something like “I just want to cry”. And I’m a typical guy, was told never to cry, and then you add on PMO which masks our emotions, I never cried. But I just cried about where I am, and cried in front of my girlfriend, just because the emotions were pouring out and I wasn’t bottling it up anymore and I wasn’t resorting to fap either.</p><p>As someone who PMOed for 30+ years and didn’t cry for 30+ years I can say that both things are definitely wrong. I can only wish someone I trusted had told me this. I can’t say that crying on its own felt better, but confronting my emotions, my insecurities, my fears, with someone I trusted was a big step of the process.</p><p>So after being reassured that my girlfriend and I would work on it as a team, and us talking over some things that normal couples do (such as being more expressive during sex over what we like, etc) we tried again the next couple of days. The next day, I was able to have PIV sex and have an O (so yes, the second time in my life inside a woman). Since I was aware of the sensation I was able to actually delay the O for a few minutes, but still not enough for my GF to O. The day after, I can say that it was a normal (still brief) sexual encounter .. I brought my GF to O and then I O afterwards.</p><p>In any regular life this is not something to write home about, because the sex was just ‘normal’. But after all this time, being normal is all I want. I now have regular issues – having to time my and my GF O, different sexual libidos, etc. And I’m not completely out of the woods. I am still so insecure about this and know that doubt will come into my mind again.</p><p>But I only know one thing — PMO is no longer an option. I just can’t do it anymore. One last aside. A couple of days ago my GF and I watched the movie Thanks for Sharing. That movie is about sex addiction but there’s a LOT in common with our problems (as porn and masturbation addiction are often also problems of sex addicts). My GF told me after watching it she felt a lot more understanding of the journey I was going through. Since she was sitting next to me she also said I was sweating a lot through the movie. I believe that was because it was uncomfortably accurate. So we had some more serious and frank discussions about the addiction and the recovery process.</p><p>I told her that while I’ve been tempted to fap I didn’t do it because I didn’t want to fail you guys online, fail the fellow soldiers in the nofap war, fail her, or fail myself. I think about all of those folks I’d let down if I fap and then I don’t. I told her the truth that I’ve had much more difficulty with porn and that I want to give it up for good too. And then she asked me, very sweetly, to give that up for her too. And you know, I’m glad she asked me. Some guys might take it poorly (like the Don Jon character did in that movie) but I know she did it because she loves me and now every time I’m tempted to click a link I don’t want to let her down.</p><p>tl;dr After four months with some severe ups and downs, many of them emotional, am able to have normal sex with all the normal issues that normal people have. The reboot isn’t complete but the journey is the ONLY option I have.</p><hr><p> </p><p><strong>UPDATE2  <a class=-Ungabuya kwakhona (uqhawule umtshato ngenxa yamanyala)

Ke, bendinengxaki enkulu ne-porn ubomi bam bonke. Umhlobo wam osenyongweni wandazisa apho ndibuyele kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo kwaye bendingu-geeky, nerdy kid ke ndiyakhumbula ndichitha iiyure ndizama ukukhuphela i-GIFs kwi-modem yam ye-baud eyi-1200 ndiyifihle kutata (inqaku elisecaleni: abazali bam basondela ukundixelela nje kubi ngaphandle kokuchaza ukuba kutheni kungasebenzi. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba abantwana bakho bakrelekrele kunawe - ukuba bafuna ukwenza into ongayamkeliyo, baya kuyenza).

Ulwalamano lwam noononophelo lwandulela naluphi na ulwalamano lwangempela endinalo nabasetyhini. Khange ichaphazele indlela ebendibaphatha ngayo abantu basetyhini, kodwa iphathe indlela endiphathe ngayo i-SEX. Kwaye eyona nto iphambili kukuba ndikhetha ukulala ngesondo ngaphandle kwesigwebo nakwimfuno endaweni yokunyuka nokuhla kwezesondo zokwenyani.

Ke ngelixa bendingenakho ukuthandabuza malunga 'nokwabelana ngesondo' ngaphambi komtshato ndiyakhumbula indlela ebelihlwempu ngayo kwaye ndiphantse ndabuya njani kwi-porn. Khange ndibelane ngesondo ngobusuku bomtshato, emva koko iminyaka elishumi elinesine bendisoyika ubusuku bam beveki ngesondo kunye nomfazi wam (ngoku owayesakuba), ndenza izizathu zokuyiphepha, emva koko ndifuna ukuya kwelinye igumbi ndifumane ezinye Iphonografi ukuze uzikhuphe uye kuyo.

Ngelixa yayingenguye kuphela ingxaki kubudlelwane bam, ekuboneni inxalenye enkulu yayo- mhlawumbi iipesenti ezingama-90. Kwaye nokuba kukungabikho kwesondo, yayikukungabikho kolwalamano. Kwaye ngelixa ndandixakekile xa umfazi wam (ngoku ex) ecela uqhawulo mtshato, ngoku ndiza kucinga ukuba kutheni isihogo salinda ixesha elide, kwakutheni ukuze ndivumele?

Ke ngexesha lenkqubo yoqhawulo mtshato ndaye ndabona umcebisi womtshato oye wafumanisa ngokuchanekileyo imicimbi yam nge-porn. Kodwa andizange ndiyihoye, ngakumbi kuba ndandisandula ukutshata okokuqala kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini, kwaye iphonografi yayiyinto entle endiyaziyo ngobomi bam bonke.

Emva koko ndadibana nentombazana epheleleyo, kwaye salala ngesondo. Kwaye kwakukhathaza kakhulu. Ihambe kakubi kwakhona. Kodwa ngeli xesha, andizukucinga nje ukuba 'yile ndlela iyiyo'. Kwakufuneka ndifumanise ukuba yintoni na engalunganga, kuba bendicinga nomfazi wam wangaphambili ukuba 'ukwabelana ngesondo bekungafuneki ukuba unothando' okanye inkunzi enjalo. Ngoku bendisazi ukuba ukonwaba, ukwanelisa ubomi besondo kwakuyimfuneko kubudlelwane bexesha elide.

Kulapho ndabona i-nofap kunye neeforamu ezingamanyala kwaye ndafunda amabali ngabantu abafana nam. Kwaye bekuyindlela ende kwaye ndibuye ndibuyele phakathi, kodwa bendizama ukuyeka iphonografi kunye nefap phantse unyaka. Intombi endikuyo ngoku iyayazi ingxaki yam kwaye ibindixhasa.

Kuba bendizama ukuncama bobabini, bendinesondo esingcono kakhulu (esingagqibelelanga nangayiphi na indlela) kwaye ndikwazile ukwenza i-orgasm naye (andizange ndenze nomfazi wam wangaphambili). Kwaye ixesha elifutshane nelifutshane kukuba ndiphinde ndazibandakanya, ngeli xesha ubomi besondo obuphilileyo ngaphandle koononophala kunye nefap njengenxalenye yesicwangciso.

tl; dr Ubudlelwane bokuqala beminyaka ephantse ibe ngamashumi amabini bujikeleza ukusuka ngaphakathi ngenxa yokulutha kwe-PMO kwaye kwakhokelela kuqhawulo mtshato. Ndakwazi ukuyiguqula kwaye ndakhe ubudlelwane obutsha (** NDIKHULULEKILE **) emva kokuyeka i-PMO.

Ke kwabo bavakalelwa ngathi bakwindawo ephantsi, uninzi lwethu lukhona. Ungayijika, nokuba ungaphi.