I-TL; i-DR: Ukuba i-ADHD kunye nexhala, yaqala i-NoFap, ixhala phantse ladlula, i-ADHD isekhona kodwa yancitshiswa. Ubomi obungcono. Feelsgoodman.
Okokuqala, ulwimi lwam lokuqala alusisiNgesi ngoko ke kulula kum ukuba ndenza naziphi na iimpazamo zegrama. Okwesibini, ndiza kuzama ukuphuma kum kangangoko kunokwenzeka kumava am eNoFap kwimeko yam ngoku. Okwangoku ndikolunye lweentsuku ezimbi, ezincinci zokudandatheka, kodwa ndiziva ngathi kufuneka ndibelane ngeengcinga zam kunye namava kuluntu njengoko olu luntu lundinike okuninzi.
Ndiza kuqala ngokuchaza ngokufutshane ngemvelaphi yam. Ndandingumntwana okrelekrele ekukhuleni kwam. Usoloko ufumana amanqaku kwiimviwo, uyile kakhulu, udlala kakhulu. Ke, xa ndandikwishumi elivisayo, ndaqala ukuphazamiseka ngokulula, ndingagxili, ndilala eziklasini, andizange ndigqibe imisebenzi yam yesikolo kwaye ndathunyelwa kwi-ofisi katitshala izihlandlo ezininzi ngenxa yoku. Oku mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba ndaqala ukufakela rhoqo. Nangona kunjalo, okumangalisayo kukuba, ndisafumana amanqaku kwiimviwo zam. Into endiyiqapheleyo ngoku kukuba, bendihlala ndimisa i-PMO inyanga okanye ezimbini ngaphambi koviwo olukhulu. Andizukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo kwaye ndigcina ikatala yam kwigumbi lokugcina. Ndazenza ezi zinto kuba ndandiyinkolelo. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba kufuneka uncame iziyolo ukuze ufumane ulonwabo olukhulu emva koko ekufumaneni amanqaku amahle kuviwo olukhulu. Kodwa le nkolelo iyaphela emva kokuba ndiye ekholejini. Ndandihlala ndihlala ekholejini nakwi-Uni.
Ukukhawuleza ukuya malunga neenyanga ezintathu okanye ezine ezidlulileyo. Ndandikwilizwe langaphandle (i-UK), bendisenza isidanga sam sobunjineli (endibe nethamsanqa lokufikelela apha). Ndiphumelele kuvavanyo lwam lonyaka wokugqibela, bendingenakwenza nawuphi na umsebenzi ngokufanelekileyo, bendinexhala ngokubanzi, kwaye ndinetyala elinesifo esinzulu se-ADHD. Ndandikwimeko yam embi. Ndaziva ngathi ubomi bam buphelile, kwaye ndandingazi ukuba yintoni ephosakeleyo ngam. Emva koko ndakhubeka kwiTED Talk, emva koko uluntu lwaseNoFap kwaye konke oko kwakuqondakala kum. Ukusukela ngoko ukuya phambili, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndiyeke ukubanda ikhephu njengoko ndandikwinqanaba eliphantsi ebomini bam kwaye ndandisazi ukuba kufuneka nditshintshe. Ndibe nethamsanqa lokuphinda ndinikwe ithuba lokuzama iimviwo zam, kodwa ngenxa yoku kuye kwafuneka ndilinde unyaka, ndiphinde ndenze iimviwo.
Khange ndiyenze le nto ukufumana amantombazana (nangona ngokucacileyo njengamadoda, ukulunga nabafazi kuhlala kukudibanisa), kodwa ndiyenzile le nto ukuze ndibuyise intloko yam kwakhona. Andazi ukuba ndiwahlela njani amava am eentsuku ze-100 njengoko ndingakhange ndiwungenise, kodwa ndiza kunika nje umfanekiso ombi kuni bafo.
Iiveki zokuqala ezimbalwa zazinzima kwaye andothukanga, kodwa ndaziva ndilungile kuba bendiqala ukuphucula ixabiso lam kunye nokuxabiseka kwam. Ndaziva ndingonwabanga. Kuba bendinenjongo yokucaca kwengqondo, ndenze nezinye izinto ezininzi ukuphucula ingqondo yam. Ndinciphisile ukwenza imisebenzi emininzi, abantu kule mihla bayathanda ukuyenza ngalo lonke ixesha. Kukho izifundo ezibonisa ukuba ukwenza imisebenzi emininzi akulunganga kwingqondo yethu. Ndizama ukungamameli umculo ngelixa ndisenza umsebenzi, ndizama ukungatyi ngelixa ndibukele itv, kwaye ndizama ukungabinazo iithebhu ezininzi kwisikhangeli sam. Ndifumanise ukuba ukwenza ezi zinto kundincedile ukuphucula ixesha lam lokujonga. Enye into elungileyo ukuyenza, kukwahlula ulwazi okanye amanqaku kwiichunks ezincinci. Ingqondo yethu ikhetha ukucola iiseti ezincinci zolwazi kunokuxinana okukhulu. Kwakhona, ndizamile ukungacingi kakhulu ngekamva okanye elidlulileyo, kwaye ndijolise kwangoku, izinto onokuziphumeza ngalo mzuzu. Inceda ukuba wenze i-shit yenziwe, kwaye unciphise amaxhala.
Emva kweeveki ezi-4-5 kamva, ndaziva ndibhetele. Ukugxininiswa kwam kuphuculwe, kwaye uxinzelelo lwancitshiswa ngokumangalisayo kodwa kusekho unanamhla, iintsuku endiziva ngathi zintle kakhulu. Ingqondo yam ikuyo yonke indawo, andikwazi ukugxila. Ngokwesiqhelo xa ndifumana amaphupha amanzi, usuku olulandelayo, ndiziva ngathi ndonwabile. Ukuqala kwam ukuqala iNoFap, bendijonge phambili ekufumaneni amaphupha manzi, andichasananga noko, kodwa ngamava am, andikaze ndizive kamnandi kusuku olulandelayo. Ndizamile ukufunda ngayo kwi-YBOP, kodwa inqaku aligqibekanga. Andazi nokuba amaphupha amanzi alungile okanye mabi, kodwa kum, ngamava am, ndikhetha ukungabinawo.
Ukucaca kwengqondo yam kuphuculwe kakhulu kwiintsuku zam ze-100, kodwa ndijolise kwiintsuku ze-150 njengoko bendiqala ukubukela iphonografi ndisemncinci kakhulu. Nangona kuncitshisiwe, ndine-ADHD. Andiqondi ukuba ingqondo yam ifikelele kuloo ndawo “yokuseta” okwangoku, kodwa ndiyakholelwa ukuba ukuba ndiyaqhubeka, ndizakufikelela ekugqibeleni.
I-NoFap ibenze ngcono ubomi bam, kwaye ndizixabisile kakhulu ngoku. Kwabo basokolayo, ndiyathemba ukuba awuzukuzibetha kakhulu. Utshintsho yinkqubo, uya kuba ngcono kuyo njengoko uqhubeka. Ungaziqhayisa ngokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala.
Yiyo yonke le nto ngoku yeNoFappers, jolisa esibhakabhakeni!
I-TL; i-DR: Ukuba i-ADHD kunye nexhala, yaqala i-NoFap, ixhala phantse ladlula, i-ADHD isekhona kodwa yancitshiswa. Ubomi obungcono. Feelsgoodman.
LINK - Ingxelo yeentsuku ze-100. Ukusuka kumntu ojolise "ukucaca kwengqondo" isibonelelo seNoFap.
Ingxelo yeentsuku ze-100-Icandelo 2 (Inkalo yentlalo)
Oku kukulandela kwesinye isithuba endisibhalileyo.
Ungayijonga apha: http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1v2wuu/100_days_report_from_a_person_who_is_aiming_for/
Injongo yam ephambili xa ndiqala iNoFap yayingekokufumana abafazi, kodwa ukufumana "ukucaca kwengqondo" inzuzo yeNoFap (inqaku lekhonkco ngasentla), kodwa njengabantu abaninzi apha, ndaqala ukuqonda ukuba ubomi bam bentlalo buye buphucula ngelixa ukwenza lo mngeni. Esi sithuba siza kugxila kwinqanaba loluntu kuhambo lwam.
Okokuqala, ndiyindoda yase-Mpuma ye-Asia (hayi amaTshayina), 23, ndifunda phesheya e-UK. Molo, ulusu, ndikhangeleka ngathi yinkwenkwe eneminyaka eyi-16 (ubuso boyish), ngumbono walapha.
Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kweNoFap, ndayivuthela nale ntombazana yesiNgesi-eIreland endandiyithanda kakhulu. Waye ngenene kum ekuqaleni, kodwa ndandingumntu wasemzini ongaqhelekanga, ndinxunguphalo, ndingazithembi, kwaye ndimile nje. Andizange ndibe nentombi ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-6 edlulileyo. Emva kweNoFap, kuphela malunga neeveki ze-3, intombazana eshushu kakhulu endadibana nayo kumsitho yathi amehlo am ayenomdla kwaye wayedlala nam kakhulu. Kwakuyinto engaqhelekanga, kuba le nto ayizange yenzeke ngaphambili. Umnyhadala wawuneentsuku ezi-3 ubude, kwaye onke amantombazana apho ayendingqonge. Kwakukho abafana abambalwa abandinika iipropu kwaye bathi ndingumdlali. Emva kwaloo mava iyaqhubeka. Ndinamantombazana amaninzi kwisangqa sam ngoku akukho mfuneko yokuba ndenze lukhulu, kodwa ndisenawo lo mqondo wokukhetha mhlawumbi ngenxa yokubukela iphonografi kuyo yonke loo minyaka.
Ngosuku lwam lwe-88th, bendiseCyprus kunye nabahlobo abambalwa ngeholide kwaye bekukho le ntombazana intle ikhangeleka imodeli yaseLithuania kwigumbi lokuhlala ehotele esasihlala kuyo. Ndaya kuye ndaza ndancokola ngokufutshane. Ngomso emva koko, sahambahamba elunxwemeni kunye. Wayonwabile nyani, kwaye yayinguye owacela ukuba sitshintshane ngonxibelelwano. Andiqondi ukuba ndiya kuze ndikwazi ukuthetha nentombazana entle kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo.
Usuku lwam-90 lwalulungile kuba lwalungumhla woNyaka oMtsha. Ukubhiyozela eLondon kunye nabahlobo abambalwa. Ukubukela umlilo, kwakumangalisa. Endleleni egodukayo, intombazana entle yesiNgesi yalapha, inxilile, yandimisa yathi ndikhangeleka “ndilungile” ('fit' means Hot in England). Ngokucacileyo wayenxilile, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile ndandisendonwabile.
Ekugqibeleni kusuku olungaphambi kokuba ndibhale le nto, ndaya kwiklabhu nomhlobo wam. Kwakungokumiliselwa kweklabhu entsha eyaziwayo ye-indie. Kwakukho le ntombazana yesiNgesi intle ngokwenene kwaye imangalisayo endiye ndakwazi ukufumana inombolo yayo. Wenza kunye nam ngaphambi kokuba ahambe. Ndiyabona ukuba wayenganxilanga kuba sancokola ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ukumanga kwaba ngathi kuyamangalisa.
Okwangoku, ndicinga ukuba andikafiki kwinqanaba lam lentlalontle. Andiqinisekanga ukuba ndiza kufumana intombi ngoku. Ndisagxile ekufumaneni i-shit kunye kodwa njengendoda, andinakuxoka, kuya kuba kuhle ukuba nentombazana entle ecaleni kwakho.
Andikho nangayiphi na indlela, umntu oshushu oshushu ngoku, kodwa ndiqaphele ukuba ungakanani umahluko kwindlela endandingayo ngaphambili. Andikwazi ukufumana nayiphi na intombazana endiyifunayo, makunyaniseke apha. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ndinokuthetha namantombazana anomtsalane ngokulula kwaye ndizolile ngoku.
Kwakhona, ngokobuqu, injongo yam ephambili yeNoFap yayingekokufumana abantu basetyhini kodwa ndiyakholelwa ukuba ukufumana okuhle nabantu basetyhini kunye nabantu ngokubanzi kunokuba sisizathu esomeleleyo sokugqibezela umngeni. Kodwa lumka, ukuba neenjongo ezingenaxabiso kufana nokuhamba kwibhulorho eyakhelwe kakubi. Ingawa nangaliphi na ixesha. Gxila ekuzuzeni elungileyo ebomini ngokubanzi, hayi ngabafazi kuphela.
Yiyo yonke into endinokuyenza ukuze ndibelane ngayo ngoku kubahlobo bam beNoFap. Uhambo olukhuselekileyo ukuya encotsheni!
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