Ndaqala oku kuqalisa kwakhona xa ndandineminyaka eyi-19, malunga ne-11 okanye kwiinyanga ezidlulileyo. Mhlawumbi yenye yezona meko zimbi ze-PIED phaya, khange ndikwazi ukufumana ukwakhiwa ukusukela ekuqaleni kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. Kwisithuba esingangeveki edlulileyo, ndaphulukana nobuntombi bam kwintombi yam engakholelekiyo kwaye siye sabelana ngesondo kathathu ukusukela ngoko, into ebendiyoyika ngenyani ukuba andisoze ndikwazi ukuyenza. Ndiza kulithumela kamva ibali lam, kodwa nantsi indawo yam ethi “INDLELA YOKWENZA” kuye nabani na osokolayo.
IINGCEBISO NEPHLOSOPHI NGOKUBETHA I-PIED/UKUKHOHLWA:
1. ITHEMBA INGABA LUKHETHO
Eli lelona cebiso libalulekileyo endinokulinika. Into ebuhlungu malunga nokuqalisa kwakhona kukuba iziphumo zayo azikhethi kwaye awunanto ingaphezulu koqikelelo oluyimfama lokuba uphilisa nini. Ndikholelwa ukuba ndiza kwenziwa malunga nosuku lwe-180 (impazamo, ngakumbi kule kamva) kwaye andibanga njalo. Sebenzisa eli xesha ukuze ube nemincili kuwe kwaye uzingca ngokuba uthathe isigqibo sokwenza utshintsho oluhle ebomini bakho. Nokuba ukusilela okuzayo, njengokungayifumani kunye nentombazana oyithandayo ngexesha lokuqalisa, kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo njengempumelelo. Kwinqanaba elinzulu le-neurological: ufundise ingqondo yakho apho ifuna ukuya khona kwaye kufuneka ilungele ntoni. Oku kundikhokelela kwinqaku lam elilandelayo...
2. YIBHIBHISA IZINTO EZINCINANE
Ufikelele kwiiveki ezi-2 okokuqala? Wenze kakuhle! Ulwele umnqweno owawuza kubambelela kuwo ngaphambili? Yitya iqhekeza lelekese, uyizuzile. Ukuba unika ubuchopho bakho umvuzo wokuphepha i-PMO kunye neminye imikhwa emibi, kuya kunceda. Le nto uyenzayo isenokuba lelona dabi lengqondo wakha wadlula kulo. Yenza amandla ngaloo shit kwaye uzingce ngokuba kungakanani okwenzileyo.
3. PHUCULA UBOMI BAKHO
Ngelixa eli cebiso libonakala lisemva, linokunceda kakhulu ekuqaliseni kwakho inani leendlela ezahlukeneyo. Enye yezinto eyandinceda kakhulu ukuba ndidlule kobu bubi kuku-EXERCISE. Ndenziwa intlekisa ngokungayekiyo kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo ngenxa yokuba mde kwaye ndibhityile, kwaye kulo nyaka uphelileyo onesiqingatha sokuzilolonga ndiye ndaba yimodeli yokomelela ekhuphisanayo kumdyarho womgama omde. Ukuphepha i-PMO kuya kushiya isithuba ebomini bakho, eli lithuba elifanelekileyo lokuzalisa oko ngomkhwa osempilweni.
Kwinqaku lesibini, imikhwa efana nale idla ngokuba luphawu lwengxaki yobomi, hayi ingxaki ngokwayo. Xa izinto zisiba nzima ebomini bethu, ngakumbi izinto ezicinezelayo ezinjengoqhawulo-mtshato okanye ukulahlwa okanye ukungazi ukuba yintoni emasiyilandele ebomini, siye sithande ukufumana iindawo ezisenza sizive ngcono. Ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokwemvelo kukugcwalisa nge-dopamine ukuze uzive wanelisekile (ukhohlise ingqondo yakho ukuba icinge ukuba ivelisiwe). Oku kugcwala okungeyokwamvelo kweehomoni kuphazamisa iimvakalelo zakho kwezinye izinto ebomini ekufuneka zikuzisele uvuyo. Ukuba uphucula ezinye iinkalo zobomi bakho ngaphandle kwe-PMO ezinje: ubudlelwane bosapho, ukuziqhelanisa nokuzonwabisa, iindawo zokuhamba ofuna ukuya kuzo, ukujonga izinto ezikuluhlu lwakho lweebhakethi, awuyi kufuna uvuyo lokwenziwa kwe-PMO. Xa ubomi bakho buphucuka, kutheni unokuthi?
5. NGQONGILE UBUNINA BAKHO
Kuya kufuneka unyaniseke kuwe kwindlela yokuphatha umlutha wakho, kwaye akukho ntloni ukuya kumanyathelo aqatha ukukhaba le crap. Kwinqanaba lokuqala lokuqalisa kwam ndayeka ukumamela umculo wesondo, ndayeka ukubukela iifilimu eziRated R kunye nemiboniso ye-tv, ndayeka ukuhlala endlwini yam ndedwa, ndayeka ukulandela amaphepha athile kwi-instagram / facebook, kwaye ndibeke iliso elibukhali imo yam kunye nokusetyenziswa kwefowuni yam. Ndandisoloko ndisebenzisa ifowuni yam kwi-PMO, kwaye ngexesha lokukhuthaza ndandigijima ndibeke ifowuni yam kwigumbi lam lokulala kwaye ndihlale kwigumbi lokuhlala okanye ngaphandle ukuze ndiqinisekise ukuba andizange ndenze nantoni na. Ngamanye amaxesha i-ego yakho inokuthatha indawo kwaye ucinge ukuba "akufuneki ukuba ndihambe ngokugqithisileyo, oko kuya kuba kuninzi kakhulu", kodwa akukho ntloni ekulweni nalo mkhwa ngazo zonke izixhobo kwi-arsenal yakho.
Kwakhona, kuza inqanaba apho kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuzithemba kumanqanaba amva. Oko akuthethi ukuba uphinde ulandele loo maphepha e-instagram athandabuzekayo okanye ukujonga kwimagazini ethile ixesha elide, oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uthembele ukukhula kwakho ngomcimbi kwaye uhambe. Iinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala zokuqalisa kwam, bendikule webhusayithi amaxesha amaninzi ngemini ngenkxaso, eyancedayo. Kodwa oko kwandinyanzela ngokungangqalanga ukuba ndicinge ngendlela efunxa ngayo ukuba ne-PIED rhoqo, ndiye ndafunda ukuzimela kude nale ndawo ukuze ndigxile kwezinye iinkalo zobomi bam. Ukoyisa ukukhotyokiswa kukulibala ukuba iyeza likhona, malunga nokuqonda ukuba ichiza liyakwenza kwaye awufuni nanye inxalenye yalo.
6. YENZA IZIGQIBO ZAKHO ZILULE
Ungavumeli ingqondo yakho ikuxelele into eyifunayo ngexesha lomnqweno. Nangexesha lohlaselo lwam loxinzelelo olubi kakhulu ngeli xesha lokuqalisa, bendisazi ukuba ndineendlela ezimbini ezilula endinokuthi ndihambe nazo: bendinomqolomba kwaye ndizithiye ngoko nangoko emva koko, ndineveki emdaka okanye emva kokugcwala koxinzelelo kunye netyala. OKANYE ndingayilwa kangangemizuzu embalwa, ndizingce ngokubetha loo mnqweno, kwaye ndizityele iqhekezana leswiti. Yonke into imnyama namhlophe, nokuba imeko yakho yengqondo igubungele oko okwethutyana. Landela oku nasekupheleni kokuqalisa kwakho, okundikhokelela kwindawo yam yokugqibela…
7. THEMBA INKQUBO
Andinakugxininisa oku ngokwaneleyo: SUKUZINIKELA UMHLA. Ukuba ucinga ukuba uya kugqiba ukuqalisa kwakho emva kweentsuku ezingama-90, uya kucaphuka xa ungakwenzi oko. Ulibale ngama-90. Musa ukuyihoya. Ndandisiba nexhala emva kweentsuku ezili-180 xa kwakufuneka ndithembe indalo kwaye ndiphumle. Ngaphezulu kweentsuku ezingama-300 kwaye ndiyindoda ekhululekileyo, amagama endingazange ndicinge ukuba ndingawathetha. Kwaye yiba nenkxaso kule webhusayithi, amazwi akho enkuthazo anokugcina inkqubela yomntu kwaye akhuthaze owakho.
Ndiyathemba ukuba oku kuyanceda nabani na kulo mzabalazo, thumela apha kuyo nayiphi na imibuzo kwaye ndiza kube ndithumela ibali lam lokuqalisa ngokutsha kwiiveki ezizayo!
Ukukhwaza okukhethekileyo kwi-Rec101 kunye ne-Hextonix ngokuba yenye yezona dudes ezixhasayo ngexesha lokuchacha kwam, intlonipho ephambeneyo kuni bafana ababini!
Kwakhona: khwaza umfo wam uGabe Deem ngokumisela yonke le nto kwaye uncede abantu abaninzi ngobutshantliziyo bakhe, qhubeka njalo bhuti!
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Ixhala leNtsebenzo yangemva kokuDityaniswa
Lo mbandela ngokusisiseko xa ungasaziva umzobo onamandla we-PMO kodwa usazifumana usokola ukwenza neqabane lakho. Ndijongene nale nto kabukhali nentombi yam iiveki ezininzi de ndenze itoni yophando kwaye ndafumana amacebo andincedayo:
1. Akunangxaki ukuzicingela apha
Kusengqiqweni kuphela ukufuna ukonwabisa iqabane lakho kwaye "ibe yiyo yonke into abayilindeleyo". Ngelishwa, oku kunokukhokelela kunxunguphalo lokuzibekela ulindelo malunga nendlela ekufuneka wenze ngayo, kwaye udale umoya ombi wokungazithembi. Ngelixa kulungile ukuqiniseka ukuba iqabane lakho liyakhathalelwa, gxininisa kwinto OYITHANDAYO. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokwenza into kuba ivakala ilungile kuwe, kwaye uzama ukuyonwabela ngokungaboniyo ukuba ususe uxinzelelo emagxeni akho.
2. Phefumla kwaye ucothise
Ukuba uziva ingqondo yakho ibaleka ngelixa ufumana umzimba, thatha umoya onzulu kwaye ucinge ngezinto ezilungileyo ezenzekayo. Ivakala njani? Uthanda ntoni ngayo? Ivakala ilula kodwa iyamangalisa indlela ekulula ngayo ukwenza lula izinto. Ukucinga ngenkuthalo malunga nokuba ungayiphakamisa na okanye hayi, ukuba iqabane lakho liyayonwabela, okanye into onokuthi uzixhalabise ngayo kukubhuqa-boner-killing kwaye ezo ngcinga azifanelanga ixesha lakho.
3. Ukusilela kulungile
Ukungakwazi ukwenza izinto ezimbi, ndiyazi. Inokukushiya uneentloni, uphoxekile, kwaye uzibuza ukuba ukuqalisa kwakhona kuya kuze kusebenze ngokwenene na.
IZA KU.
Ekuphela kwento onokuyenza kukuqhubekeka kwaye ube nesimo sengqondo esihle. “Oh khange iphumelele eli xesha? Owu, bekuvakala kukuhle okwethutyana kwaye ubuyisele ingqondo yakho okwethutyana. Freakin' impumelelo. " I-Positivity sesona sixhobo sakho sikhulu kulo mzabalazo, kwaye kufuneka uqhubeke, wenze into oyonwabelayo (ukuzivocavoca, ukubona imuvi, njl njl), coca intloko yakho kwaye uzame kwakhona kamva ngethemba elithile.
Ndiyathemba ukuba oku kuyanceda abanye abantu phaya! Ndazise ukuba unemibuzo!
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