Ndiziva ndithandabuza xa ndibhala phantsi kwecandelo lamabali empumelelo- ngokuyinxalenye umnqweno wam wokungajongwa njengeqhayiya, kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuthandabuza kwam ukubhengeza uloyiso ngaphambi kwexesha. Ndiyathemba ukuba awuyiboni iposti yam nokuba yeyiphi na, endaweni yoko ingumnqophiso kumandla wokuzingisa (kundithathile ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-20 ukuya kweli nqanaba) kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu ngamandla eli qonga, elileli bali lokwenyani kwaye ngaphandle kwesithunzi sokuthandabuza yayiliqhekeza lejigsaw ebendilahlekile kuyo yonke loo minyaka bendisokola kwaye ndiqhubeka ndisiwa. Ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo kubo bonke apha ngokwabelana ngobulumko babo, ukuthobeka kunye nobudlelwane kunye nokundixhasa.
Inkuthazo yam ekubhaleni oku iphindwe kabini- ukubonelela ngethemba kunye neengcebiso ezisebenzayo kwabo batsha kwiforum okanye abasokolayo - ndizamile ukuphazamisa izifundo eziphambili ezindenze ukuba ndifike kwiintsuku ezingama-90 zicocekile, uninzi lwazo ukufundwa apha. Okwesibini, kukubhala kwaye ndenze njengesikhumbuzo kum ngenkqubela endiyenzileyo- ikratshi mhlawumbi ngexesha lemfuno yam yexesha elizayo.
Endaweni yokuba ndikunike iinkcukacha zembali malunga nohambo lwam apha, ukuba ufuna ukufumana okungakumbi malunga nemeko ethile, nceda uzive ukhululekile ukujonga indawo yokuqala kwincwadi yam:
http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=18284.0
Iindaba ezimnandi endinokwabelana ngazo nawe nokuba uphi kuhambo lwakho, nokuba ungazama kangakanani, nokuba imeko ingabonakala ngathi ayinathemba, ndiyakholelwa ukuba utshintsho kunye nempumelelo zinokwenzeka (zichazwa njenge ukukhutshwa kumlutha we-PMO-I-Orgasm ye-Masturbation Orgasm yayo nayiphi na into entsha). Asizalwanga sinale ngxaki… ifundiwe… kwaye ke ayinako ukufundwa.
Isiqendu sesibini seendaba ezilungileyo kukuba ngokusekwe kwiintsuku zokugqibela ze-90, ndinokuxelela ukuba ubomi ngaphandle kwe-PMO bumnandi kakhulu kwaye bunomvuzo ngaphandle kwayo. Isimo esingcono, ukulala okungcono, ukuzinza okungcono kweemvakalelo, isimilo esingcono- ukuzilolonga ngakumbi, ukutya okungcono, umsindo ongaphantsi kunye nokudana. Ndibe ngumyeni ongcono, umzali kunye nomntu. Kwiintsuku ezingama-90 zokugqibela ndiphinde ndatyala into endinokuqikelela ukuba ziiveki ze-13 x iiyure ezili-10 ngeveki = iiyure eziyi-130 okanye i-5 DAY IINTSUKU EZIPHELELEYO zokuhlela, ukuncokola, ukuphulula amalungu esini… ixesha apho bendihlala ndifihlwe khona ndingazihluphi ngumfazi wam , zintombi nabahlobo… .suka kum. Ndineminyaka engama-47 ubudala. Ukuba ndiphila kwiminyaka engama-90 kwaye ndiyigcina le nto, ndiza kube ndibuyise ezinye iintsuku ezingama-932 okanye IMIBINI NESIQINISEKA SOBOMI (Ungayicinga na into yokuba u-PMOing iminyaka emibini enesiqingatha… uqinile?!… Yongeza iiyure ezisi-8 yonke imihla ulale kwakhona kwaye usondele kwiminyaka eyi-4!). Kwaye ndibuphucule kakhulu umgangatho wexesha elingachithwanga kwi-PMOing, kodwa xa ngenye indlela bendikhe ndaneengxaki emva kwemiphumo ye-PMO eyaziwa kakhulu. [Iingcinga zam nge kutheni ukuncokola yingxaki ethile.]
KODWA… ayilulo uhambo olulula. Olu likhoboka, kwaye uhlobo lwenkqubo yokulutha lubenza kube nzima kakhulu ukwahlukana nalo. Kodwa akunakwenzeka. Into yokuba silapha ibonisa ukuba siqondile ukuba sinomcimbi kwaye sifuna ukwenza into ngawo. Oko kukodwa kuyiphucula kakhulu impumelelo yethu yeenkcukacha-manani. Uninzi lwabafana ngelishwa bahlupheka ngolu hlobo bathule kwaye banqabile, ngaphandle kokuqaphela umcimbi, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo alukho uncedo kunye nenkxaso yabanye evulelekileyo kuthi apha. Sinethamsanqa.
Ke, kuthekani ngokufunda? Apha ngezantsi, ndizamile ukushwankathela ukuba zeziphi na izifundo zam endizifumene kule minyaka idlulileyo (kwaye ngakumbi kwiintsuku ezingama-90 ezidlulileyo) eziye zandinceda:
1) UKWAMKELA. Kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba unengxaki, umlutha, kwaye kwimeko yakho yangoku, awunamandla okuyoyisa. Ngaphandle kokuthobeka kolu lwamkelo, utshintsho alunakwenzeka.
2) UKUQHUBA. Kuya kufuneka uyenzele le wena, kwaye nguwe wedwa. Inkuthazo yakho yokutshintsha ayinakusekelwa kwabanye, okanye ukukholisa abanye ngento elula yokuba xa ubudlelwane bakho nabo bantu buphantsi koxinzelelo, inkuthazo yakho ichaphazeleka ngokuthe ngqo. Oku akuthethi ukuba inxenye yenkuthazo yakho ayinakuba kukuba ngumyeni / utata ongcono (eyam ngokuqinisekileyo yayinjalo), kodwa yeyakho ukuba ube ngumyeni okanye utata ongcono ukuze uxhamle kuwe ikakhulu. Kum, ndafika kwinqanaba apho ndaye ndagula mpela kukuphila ubomi obungenampazamo, kunye nokungaqondi kakuhle ukuba oku kwakundibangela kwakutshabalalisa ukuqonda kwam. Ingaphandle lam alingqinelani nam ngaphakathi. Ndandikhohlisa. Ndayazi, kwaye yayingumthwalo omkhulu ukuba ndiwuthwale. Indenze ndadandatheka, ndineentloni, ndaziva ndinetyala, ndingazithembi.
3) UKUFUNDA NOKUQONDA Nje ukuba wamkelwe yingxaki kunye nenkuthazo yokutshintsha, ukufunda okuninzi malunga nesayensi yokulutha kubalulekile. Awuyiyo inkqubo yobuchopho bakho. Ingqondo yakho kunye neenkqubo zayo sisixhobo osinike sona. Xa bengakukhonzi njengoko kufanele, ukuqonda ukuba kutheni inyathelo lokuqala lokubalungisa. Oku kuqonda kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekunciphiseni ihlazo. Bukela iividiyo apha (Intetho kaGary Wilsons Ted yimpazamo yam), tyala imali ekuphulukaneni kwakho. Ukuqonda kunye nokukhanya kwesibane kwinto eyenzekayo kwingqondo yakho kunokuba namandla.
4) INKXASO YABANYE. Nditshilo ngaphambili ukuba le foram ibibonelele ngesiqwenga esilahlekileyo kum kwaye andinakugqithisa eli nqaku. Ukuhlala uxoka emfihlekweni kubangela iintloni. Okufanayo kubangela iintlungu. Intlungu (yam ubuncinci) ibangela i-PMO njengomsebenzi wokubaleka opholileyo. Nabaphi na abafikayo, funda iijenali ezihlaziywa rhoqo kwinqanaba lakho leminyaka (uya kufumana umxholo ofanelekileyo apha), qala eyakho ijenali. Yabelana ngebali lakho, ubonise umdla kwabanye, wakhe ubudlelwane. Ziyatyebisa ngokwenene. Ukuza apha kubonelele ngezi zibonelelo zilandelayo kum:
a. Ndafunda ukuba andindedwa emzabalazweni wam, okanye imeko yomntu ekhokelela ekuziphatheni okuluthayo kwaye yanciphisa ihlazo lam.
b. Ndifunde kumava abanye, kwaye oko kwandinceda ndakha isicwangciso sam sokuhlasela.
c. Ndiye ndakwazi ukufumana uncedo ndize ndikhuthaze abanye, kwaye loo nto yakha ukuzithemba kwam.
d. Ukuza apha ekuqaleni kosuku ngalunye ndifumene usuku kwindawo elungileyo, ukwakha imikhwa elungileyo kunye nokugxila kwithemba kunokuba ndilibale ngokuzibophelela kwam ekutshintsheni.
5) YIBA NESICWANGCISO UQHUBELE UKUPHUCULA. Ukuchacha akuyi kwenzeka ngengozi. Yinkqubo ephindaphindayo. Uya kusilela amaxesha amaninzi ngaphambi kokuba uphumelele. Nokuba sele uphumelele, usenokusilela kwixesha elizayo. Kubalulekile ukuba ube nesicwangciso, kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ukhubeka uyachonga ukufunda kolo kuwa. Ukusilela ayonto imbi. Lithuba lokuphucula. Yinto embi kuphela ukuba uyasilela ukukhupha ukufunda kwixesha elizayo.
6) BAQONDE ABAKHOBI BAKHOYO. Oku kungundoqo kwisicwangciso sakho. Ziziphi izinto ezibangela ukuba uqhubeke u-PMOing? Ukugxila kwizinto ezibonakalayo (jonga umfazi onomtsalane) kuphela kwincam yomkhenkce. Zithini iimeko zeemvakalelo ezikhokelela ekuziphatheni okungathandekiyo? Okwam kubandakanya isizungu, isithukuthezi, uxinzelelo, ungquzulwano (ukuphikisana nenkosikazi = PMO ngokuqinisekileyo), ukusilela (ukuzithuthuzela), ngamanye amaxesha impumelelo (umvuzo wakho). Ndiyazi ukuba xa ndidiniwe, hungover ndisengozini. Amandla okuchonga ezi zinto zibangela ulwazi. Impixano enye nomfazi wam yathatha iminyaka ukuyichonga, kodwa ndakuba ndiyenzile kwaye ndiyazi, yaqala ukuphulukana namandla ayo… ndayibona isiza. Qinisekisa ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha usiwa, uchonga into ebangele ukuba ibange. Gumba ngaphakathi ngaphakathi-yiya kwinyaniso yokwenyani. Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho.
7) KHETHA APHO UKUYAKHA KHONA INDAWO YAKHO YOKUHLALA. Kwiminyaka ndingazibophelela nge-PMO. Ndacacisa i-PMO njengokuya kwi-porn okanye kwindawo yokuncokola. Ke ngoko kulapho bendichaze khona (okanye ndazakhela) udonga lwam lokumelana. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyasebenza, ngengqondo yokuba andizange ndivuke kwaye ndacinga 'Hayi, ndiza kuya kwi-porn okanye kwindawo yokuncokola'. KODWA, kwaye nantsi kodwa… ingqondo yam, ekhangela i-dopamine ihlala iza nezinto ezikwinqanaba elisezantsi ukuze ndizonwabise ngokuba ndilungile (okanye bendingaqondanga). Ezi zibandakanya imfesane (iingcinga zam-rhoqo ebusuku, bendiya kukhetha ukucinga iingcinga zesondo ngelixa ndisiya kulala), ngosuku olulandelayo ndiza kuzifumana ndindwendwela iisayithi 'ezingenabungozi' kodwa apho bendisazi ukuba kukho umxholo oza kundivusa (FB, Insta… nantoni na). Umcimbi kukuba, nje ukuba ingqondo yam ifumane i-dopamine ngale misebenzi 'yamanqanaba asezantsi', bendikhe ndahamba… .NDIYA KUQHUBEKA ndiphelela kwindawo yamanyala okanye yengxoxo endandifuna ukuyiphepha. Isigqibo sam sasithotywe 'zizinto ezithambileyo'. Ukufunda kwam?… .Ngoku ndakha udonga lokuchasana kwindawo efanelekileyo. Kum, oko kuphambi kwamaphupha. Ukuba ndingayeka loo nto yenzekayo, ndinamathuba angama-90% ukuya kwindawo engenabungozi. Ukuba andiyi kwindawo engenabungozi, ke ndingomnye 90% amathuba okuba ndiye kwi-porn / engxoxweni. Iyasebenza. Yizame.
ISICWANGCISO SE-6 AMANQAKU (ISIXHOBO SONXIBELELWANO). Kukho umntu obalaseleyo apha obizwa ngokuba ngu-ShadeTrenicin othumela kwi-Ages 30-39. Ungomnye wabantu abanobubele kakhulu endikhe ndadibana nabo. Umthunzi uhlengahlengisiwe kwaye wakhiwa kubulumko obuvela kuTraveler32 ngokuza nesicwangciso esineenqaku ezi-6. Ukusetyenziselwa imeko engxamisekileyo xa iminqweno yomelele. Iyazithetha:
1. Yiqonde inkanuko
2. Vumela ukuba umnqweno ukhona (ngekhe uwulahle, makube njalo kwaye uwuhlalutye)
3. Phanda ukuba kutheni umnqweno ukhona (ngaba ikhona into engaphakathi kuwe ebangela ukuba ubhenele kwi-PMO?)
4. Qaphela ukuba inkanuko yeyokwexeshana
5. Khumbula imvakalelo yokuziva ulilize emva kweseshoni ye-PMO
6. (ngokuzikhethela ukuba umnqweno unamandla ngokwenyani) Irhweba kwimisebenzi engxamisekileyo njengokuza kwiforum, ezemidlalo, imisebenzi echasene nesondo, nezinye izinto ozithandayo.
9) YIBA NOBUBELE KUWE. Ubomi abukho lula. Sinotyekelo lokuthelekisa indlela esizijonga ngayo (esihlala singalunganga) kunye nembono yethu yelizwe liphela (elihlala libonisa umfanekiso olungileyo). Olu luthelekiso oluchanekileyo. Ndiqaphele kumabali amaninzi abafana ukuba i-PMO idlala indima ekuzonwabiseni nasekubalekeni kuthi, okanye indlela esizijonga ngayo-ayifanelekanga, iyasilela, ayonelanga. Ngokuqinisekileyo bendilapho, kwaye ndisaya apho. Ukulwa i-PMO ngaphandle kokujongana nale micimbi iya kuba yimpumelelo kuphela. Andinguye ugqirha wengqondo kwaye ngekhe ndizenze ngathi ndineempendulo zonke. Kumzabalazo woyisa eyam imiceli mngeni nangona kunjalo, ububele kum buyeyona nto iphambili. Oku kuqala ngokubukela iinkqubo zethu zokucinga. Ukuba uyasokola kwiindlela zokucinga ezingalunganga, funda 'Yeka Ukucinga, Qalisa Ukuphila' NguRichard Carslon. Kulungile kakhulu ukusindisa ubomi bam. Ndifumene ukukhumbula ukuba luncedo kakhulu kwaye ukongeza kunceda kakhulu kwizinto ezinje ngokuqonda izinto ezinokubangela iimvakalelo (inqaku 6 ngasentla).
10) FUMANA IINKCUKACHA ZAKHO 10! Ezinye zezi zinto zingasentla zinokubaluleka kuwe, ezinye zincinci kangako. Kuninzi endingakhange ndikugubungele. Le yinkqubo yokufunda ngokwakho-into entle kukuba kukho ubulumko obuninzi kunye nomnqweno wokunceda kule ndawo. Nokuba yingcebiso esebenzayo malunga neefilitha ze-intanethi, okanye ekwabelaneni ngento yakho ehambelana nabanye abafana abathi bakuncede uphuhlise umbono wakho, le yindawo ebalaseleyo. Yisebenzise, yenza igalelo kuyo, kwaye uzijonge ukhula, unceda abanye endleleni.
Enkosi kuye nabani na oyenzileyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, nceda uzive ukhululekile ukwakha kuyo, ugxeke okanye ubuze oku kungasentla. Ukuthumela lonke uthando lobuzalwana kunye neengcinga ezilungileyo njengoko uhlahlela iindlela zakho kokubuyiselwa kwe-PMO kunye nobomi uqobo. Ziphathe kakuhle.
I-PS: Enkosi kakhulu kuGabe, Ite, PursuitOfUnFAPiness, Gracie, rainforth13, Androg, Charlie Marcotte, malando, Spangler naye nabani na ongomnye osindayo, omodareyitha, kwaye uxhasa ukusebenza kwesi siza. Kubulelwa kakhulu.
LINK - Ukucinga, iingcebiso, kunye nokubulela kwiintsuku ezingama-90 zicocekile.
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