I-2 kwiminyaka eyadlulayo namhlanje ndiqalile i-NF yam endiyigqibileyo, yenzeka phantse ngokungacwangciswanga kwaye yatshintsha ubomi bam phantsi kwamanqaku amaninzi kwaye sesinye sezizathu zokuba namhlanje ndenze amanani amathandathu, ndinayo i-gf, kwaye ndibone umhlaba ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lam, ngethemba lokuba linganceda ukukhuthaza umntu onokuba nobunzima bokubona ukukhanya. Ndikhokele izikhokelo ezithile ngokusekelwe kumava am nasekuqapheleni ekugqibeleni. Iposti iphume ixesha elide (malunga namaphepha e-7 amagama) kwaye akukho mfuneko yokufunda yonke into ukuba awufuni, kodwa ibali elipheleleyo liyanceda ukuqonda ukuba ndivelaphi, zazithini iingxaki zam, kwaye bazilungisa njani ngokwabo xa usakha amandla akho, ngexesha nasemva kwe-NF. IsiNgesi ayilolwimi lwam lwendabuko- nceda uxolelwe naziphi na iimpazamo okanye ukhetho olungenantlonelo lwamagama.
Isithuba sakhiwe ngolu hlobo:
intshayelelo
Isishwankathelo sokuphuculwa kwezinto ndinokubopha ngokuthe ngqo kwi-NF, ndikhankanya ukuba kuthathe ixesha elingakanani ukubabona
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Umntu endandinguye ngaphambili
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Izikhokelo zempumelelo
Ndisebenzisa ukulahla oku-andinguye umsebenzisi osebenzayo okanye nantoni na kodwa le yeyona nto yabucala kakhulu endiya kuyivelisa kwi-intanethi ukuze ndingazukuthatha mngcipheko. Ndiza kuyibeka esweni le akhawunti rhoqo (ubuncinci kanye ngeveki) ukuba iyasebenza, ukulungiselela iimpendulo kunye nee-DM.
Esi sithuba asizukuphelela kwi-NF, iya kuba libali elibanzi lokubuyiselwa kobomi bam iNF ebundinike amandla kunye nenkuthazo ngayo. Esi sithuba sijolise kumadoda kwii-20s zawo, kwaye abanye banokufumana iinxalenye zawo ziyakhubekisa. Ibandakanya izihloko ezinxulumene ngokuthe ngqo ezinjengokuphuculwa komntu kunye nokusebenzisana (ingakumbi okujolise kwabasetyhini). Ndiyayazi i-FAQ cebisa ngokuchaseneyo kodwa ziyinxalenye yebali lam kunye nento endivumela ekugqibeleni ukuba ndibanga impumelelo.
Ngethulo
Ke, isizathu sokuba ndifuna ukulixelela ibali lam, kukuba namhlanje sisikhumbuzo sesibini se “rock-ezantsi” sam, okanye usuku endaqala ngalo uhambo lwam lwe-NF. Ndiyijonga ngoku njengowona msitho ubalulekileyo wokukhula kwam. Le minyaka mibini idlulileyo yandiguqula kwiindlela endingenakuze ndicinge ukuba zinokwenzeka, kwaye ngelixa ndingabinayo i100% yokuphumelela kwi-NF (enye inkqutyana yokuziphucula idlale indima enkulu kunye neemeko), ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, "into engashukumiyo" ukuba ufuna ukuyibeka kwifilosofi.
Ndifuna ukuthetha ukuba ndiye ndaphinda ndabuya kwakhona kwi-porn kwiminyaka emva kwe-NF yam. Khange ndiyeke ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokuhle, kwaye andiphindanga ndihlale kwakhona ixesha elide ngaphandle kokushaya indlwabu kude kube namhlanje. Kodwa emva kokuba "leyo inkulu" isemva, ukuba ungaphumelela kuyo uzakubeka ngaphakathi uthotho lwengqonqo olukuvumela ukuba ulawule ukuphinda kubuye, kwaye, ngelixa ingenguye umcimbi olungileyo, uya kubaphatha njengento nje isivinini kunye neeveki ezimbini ze-mini-NF i-mini-NF iya kuba yanele ukukuseta. Khumbula ukuba Ukuphulula amalungu esini kuyinto yendalo kwaye ayisiyongozi ngokukodwa ukuba akuhlukunyezwa, iintshaba zokwenyani ziyinto engamanyala kunye nokuzanelisa kwangoko.
Le izakuba sisithuba esinde njengoko ndifuna ukubalisa ibali lam ngokupheleleyo. Ndiza kuqinisekisa ukubandakanya i-tl; dr kunye nengcebiso yam yokuphumelela kolu hambo.
Iziphumo zeNF
Okokuqala, impumelelo endinokuthi ndiyibalule iNF (kuthathe ixesha elingakanani ukusuka ekuqaleni kwe-NF yam):
A) Wasinda kwi-Friendzone (engaphantsi kwenyanga kwi-NF ngokuvusa umdla wakhe, iinyanga ezimbini zokuqala (kwaye kuphela) ukwanga - ihlazo wayefudukela kwelinye ilizwe. Konke oku kweza emva kwe1 kunye nesiqingatha sonyaka wokujikeleza kuye Ukuba ngumhlobo wakhe othandana naye .Angathandani nale ntombazana kodwa wayenamandla amakhulu kum kwaye ndiphupha ngaye kakhulu .. Ubusuku kunye naye ngeyona nto ibangele ukuba i-NF ifundelwe ibali Iinkcukacha ezithe vetshe).
B) Inani elihle leentsuku kunye ne-hook-ups, uninzi luyekisa ukusebenza ngokuthandana (kwiinyanga ngokuthe ngqo emva kwe-NF, enyanisweni ndiyiphelisile i-NF kuba ndisoyika ukuba ndiza kudibana nemicimbi yokusebenza ngokuzama ukulala nentombazana ngqo emva I-3 + iinyanga ezingenanto, ke iintsuku ezimbalwa ngaphambi komhla ophambili ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndiyiphelise i-NF emva kweentsuku ze-93. Bona ibali ngendlela engaqhelekanga endiyenzileyo ngayo.
C) Intombi (malunga ne-6 iinyanga emva kokuphela kwe-NF nasemva kokulala ngeenxa zonke ngecala B-sisesekunye ukuza kuthi ga namhlanje).
D) Kukhulisa ukuzithemba kunye nezakhono zentlalontle (okokuqala ndaye ndaphawula ukuba yimalunga nenyanga kwi-NF, nangona yayiloluhlobo lwe fake-til-you-it-it uhlobo lwento kwaye ubukhulu becala iqhutywa kukufunda kwam enye sub-reddit).
E) Ukumiswa kuvumela iimvakalelo ukuba zihambisane nomzimba kunye nengqondo yam, yaya ikhula ngakumbi (le nto yokubulela ngokukhula kwakhona kodwa umahluko wangaphambi kwe-NF wawunobuhlakani).
F) Ndiqalise ukusebenza ngendlela enobuzaza kwaye engaguquguquki (ukulunga ndaqala malunga nenyanga ngaphambi kwe-NF kodwa ngaphandle kokutyhala kakhulu. Ngexesha le-NF ndamisa inkqubo kwaye okunene ndaqala ukubona inkqubela phambili).
G) Uphuculo olukhulu kwintsebenzo yam emsebenzini, ethe yakhokelela ekukhuthazeni ukuphela konyaka kunye nokutsibela kwinqanaba lomsebenzi kwangaphantsi konyaka owandinika umsebenzi wam wokuqala wamanani amathandathu (ndandisele ndingumsebenzi olungileyo kodwa Ngokuqinisekileyo ibimdala kakhulu ukuba ingenza into yamathuba omsebenzi endiwunikiweyo. Zonke ezi zinto zingentla zandivumela ukuba ndijonge kwaye ndihambise ubomi bam kwicala elililo, ekugqibeleni ndikhokelela kuthotho lwempumelelo).
Ndiyazi ukuba kuvakala ngathi kuninzi kwaye ukhululekile kakhulu ukuba ndicinge ukuba ndiyabulala - kwaye kuba ngumnqweno wam ukuhlala ungaziwa ngendlela endinokuthi ngayo andisoze ndizame ukubonisa ubungqina bento endiyithethayo - kodwa qaphela ukuba andifumani mali. okanye imeko kule - into endiyifunayo kuphela kukuphembelela umntu ukuba athathe amanyathelo kwicala kwinto endiyithathela ingqalelo yobunye bobomi bam abadala. Ndiyaqonda ukuba bendinethamsanqa kwaye izinto ezininzi zenzekile ngexesha elifanelekileyo zokundivumela ukuba ndenze imali ngeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo kwiNF, kodwa isiseko yayikukuba iNF yandivumela ukuba ndibone kwaye ndisebenzise amathuba endiwanikwa kunokuba ujonge enye indlela (enokwenzeka kwindawo ye-porn).
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I-pissing 10 + hr / veki ukuya kwi-porn, ndingayiboni ingxaki kuba ayiphazamisi kakhulu nobomi bam
Ndibethile elityeni kwaye ndaziva njengowona mntu uvelisayo emhlabeni emva kokuqonda ukuba ndikwindawo engenathemba
into kwakufuneka itshintshile, iqalile iNF kunye nokufunda indlela yokunxibelelana nabasetyhini bokwenyani
uqalile ukuthatha inyathelo, ukuthatha amanyathelo aphuma kwindawo yentuthuzelo kwaye wonwabe kakhulu ukuyenza
waqala ukwakha ukuzithemba, wayeka ukucinga ngokungaphezulu, wayeka ukuziva ngathi ufanelekile lonke ixesha ngenxa ye-porn / fap
ndaqala ukuqonda indlela yokunxibelelana namantombazana ngenene, enkosi kwintembeko entsha evela kwi-NF
yathi intombazana yenza i-180 kwaye saye sagqibela ukwanga ingaphantsi kweenyanga ezimbini kwi-NF yam
I-NF iyaphela kwaye ndiyazalwa ngokutsha, ndiziva ndinemfuno yokuba neentlobano zesini kwakhona, ndiya kwispirit-spree kwaye andikakholelwa iinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba ndingabakhathalelanga ababhinqileyo kwaye ngendingazange ndibenalo ulwalamano kwakhona (I-PIED yinto encinci kwaye iyinyani)
ukuphinda ubuye kwi-porn amaxesha ambalwa ngeentsuku ezimbalwa, uqonde ukuba kuthatha kancinci ukuba ubuye kulayini emva kokuba ngaphakathi wenze lonke utshintsho oluzayo nge-NF
I-NF yayingunobangela wokuyibulala emsebenzini nayo, ukunyuselwa, ukutshintsha kwemisebenzi, amanani amathandathu, iyonke kuba ingqondo yam ibingasenabukrelekrele
akufanelanga uyeke ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokuthenga izinto ezilungileyo- i-porn lutshaba lokwenyani apha
Imvelaphi - ndingubani
Ukuhamba kwexesha kwe-20s guy, umsebenzi odibeneyo, ngazo zonke iinkcazo ngumngeneleli (ongenazintloni kwaye uhlala enabahlobo kodwa uhlala enemicimbi emininzi ngokuvulelwa abantu abatsha njl.nokuthatha ixesha elide ukwenza izihlobo naphi na apho ndingaya khona), ndifudukele kwenye entsha ilizwe malunga ne-1 kunye nesiqingatha seminyaka ngaphambili apho ndandazi intombazana (oku kungakhethwanga, andizange ndimhambele). Khange ndibenabahlobo kweli lizwe ngaphandle kokuba kutshiwo intombazana (masiyibize ngokuba ngu-A) ngoko ndiye ndaqala ukuzula-zula ngakuye, wayeyintombazana eqhelekileyo ezakubonisa ubuntu obomeleleyo kodwa ezantsi njengabafana abomeleleyo. Wayengengombani okanye nantoni na, wayehlala engumhlobo olungileyo (kwaye nangoku nangona singadibani kakhulu). Ndaye ndacinga ukuba xa ndimngqongile kwaye ndiyindoda elungileyo kwaye ndimyeke athathe inyathelo mhlawumbi inokwenzeka - inkwenkwe bendiyiphosile kwaye ngoku ndicinga ukubuyela kwelo xesha kunye nokuncipha. Khange ndibathandane okanye nantoni na, ndingayibiza ngokuba kukutyhoboza, kodwa inyani kukuba wayenempembelelo enkulu kum kwaye bendiziva ndingonwabanga xa ndibona ukuba ixesha lethu kunye siliphazamisa. Ndiqinisekile oku kubetha ngasekhaya kakhulu kunani nina bafana.
Andizange ndibenemicimbi emininzi kakhulu kunye namantombazana, ngombono wokuba enye indlela okanye enye yayihlala ikhona intombazana ibona into apha kum - hayi nje amantombazana endikhathaleleyo. Kodwa ndiyalahleka ngoku, masiyigcine kwinto efanelekileyo. Khange ndibengumlutha we-porn ngokwenkcazo yayo- andizange ndilahle itheko lokuhlala ekhaya ukuze ndibukele iphonografi, kwaye bendiya kuba neeseshoni zokuphulula amalungu esini nge-2 / 3 ngeveki elinani eliqhelekileyo. Ingxaki kuphela kukuba zonke iiseshini ziya kubandakanya I-2 ukuya kwi-5 yeeyure zam xhuma kwi-porn ukuya kwi-porn, ubomvu, i-4chan, i-Pornhub, njl njl. ndingabeka amaxesha amaninzi kwaye kuya kufuneka ukuba ndijonge ngokuthe chu izinto ezijijekileyo ukuze uphume. Khange ndiyiqonde ukuba le yingxaki ngoba ibingaphazamisi kangako nobomi bam - ndizokuyenza xa ndinobusuku ngaphandle kwezicwangciso, ikakhulu ngeempelaveki apho bendizakuhlala khona kude kube sebusuku ukuyenza. Kodwa inyani yile yokuba bendiziva ndingonwabanga kwiintsuku emva kokuba ndiyenzile (kwaye nje ukuba ingqondo yam iqale ukungabinalo elinye ixesha lomjikelo), nje ngekhe ndikwazi ukudibanisa imvakalelo jikelele yokuba ubomi bam babumbethe umkhwa wam wokuphulula amalungu esini.
Kubo bonke ubomi bam yayingeyonto ikhethekileyo, ingeloncedo ngokwaneleyo lokuziva ngokungathi yimfuneko yotshintsho kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyi ndawo. Ndingachitha ixesha elininzi kunye (nabantu bam) ababhinqileyo endihlala nabo, ukufumana into engekhoyo kubomi bentlalo kunye nokunxibelelana okwaneleyo namantombazana ukuzenza ndiqiniseke ukuba ndenza kakuhle, ndichitha ixesha elininzi kunye no-A, kwaye ndiye nakwiintlanganiso zentlalontle eziququzelelwa malunga notshintshiselwano lolwimi isiqingatha sonyaka ebomini, kwaye bendingenamhlobo wokwenyani, okanye ndithethe ulwimi lwelizwe lam endilamkelayo) apho bendizothetha izinto ezifanayo ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye ndingaze ndizame ukubangela ubuhlobo bokwenyani, ukuze ube nokukhohlisa yobomi bentlalo. Kwakhona, ubomi abunanjongo ngokwaneleyo ukuziva isidingo sokwenza into ngayo ingakumbi ngenxa yokuzikhohlisa, ingqondo yam ibiphantsi kocwangco ngeeseshoni zokuphulula amalungu omzimba endandisilela ukufumanisa ukuba zinobungozi njengoko bechitha ixesha endinokulichitha kwi-videogames okanye iifilimu ngenye indlela.
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Iliwa elingaphantsi
Ukugqibela kwam ukuphulula amalungu am “obomi obudala” kwakungoMgqibelo, ngo-Epreli 8th 2017, kodwa ukuze siyiqonde into eyayibalisayo kufuneka sijonge kubusuku bangaphambili. Ndamenyelwa kwipati yendlu yomntu endimaziyo owayengabahlobo no-A. Andifuni kakhulu ukuya, kodwa uA wayehamba kwaye wazi kakuhle ngenye indlela ukuba ndandiyohlala ekhaya ndedwa ngolwesiHlanu, ndiye ndalunywa Imbumbulu ndaphuma ndaya. Lo mbutho ubugcwele amantombazana, uninzi lwawo lufumaneka kakhulu ukudibana nabafana abatsha (ngakumbi abangaphandle). Abanye babo bandinike isibonakaliso senzala ebonakalayo, ngakumbi xa utywala busuka kwiibhotile ubuya kubo (bethu). Kodwa hayi, bendingelohlobo lomfana. Khange ndibone sidingo sokulala nomntu obhinqileyo, andizukuthatha inyathelo- njalo, kwaye ndiyazi Andikwazanga ukuba nzima nakanjani na ngoba ezantsi kwengqondo yam bendisazi ukuba i-erection igcinelwe i-porn. Ingqondo-andingomzekelo kodwa andikwazi ukukhalaza ngenkangeleko yam kwaye ndicinga ukuba ndinobuntu obuthandekayo, into ebendiyilahleka yayiyintshukumisa. Amantombazana akhawuleze aqalisa ukungandihoyi ndithanda amadoda azokuhamba emva kwawo, kubandakanya amafutshane, amanqatha kunye nama balder. Oku kuyenzeka ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye andikwazanga ukugoba intloko yam ukuba kutheni bezondikhaba ngeentlobo ezinomtsalane ngokuqinisekileyo. Kodwa andikhathali, u-A wayelapho kwaye ndilityisiwe iesile lakhe. Yayingoyena mntu ndandimazi apho. Ukuphela komntu endiye ndachitha ixesha lokuthetha naye ngomnye umfo owayenexhala njengam. Ndabona u-A esiya esiba nesithukuthezi sokuba lapho, emva koko waqala wathetha nomnye umfana. Ndikhawuleze ndayingena intetho, kucacile ukuba ibindicaphukisa bobabini. Wayengenamdla wakhe kwaphela, kodwa ndiyaqonda ukuba wayefuna ukonwabela ixesha ngaphandle kwam. Ndazixhoma ixeshana ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ndizithethelele. Ndaye ndagoduka ewe, bendinenye yeeseshoni zam zokuphulula amalungu omzimba, ukuya kulala kwindawo ethile nge5 kusasa. Ngemini elandelayo ndaziva ngathi ndi-crap of course, kodwa okwangoku ndakwazi ukuphinda ndishaye indlwabu kwakhona- ngeli xesha akukho nto iphonografi kunye nezinto (ndandisendlini yangasese - ngoko ke ndiyayikhumbula) kodwa ndicinga ngo-A. Ndithe ndakuba ndigqibile yabetha. Njani. Ukuphola. Uvelwano. Bendi. I-Pathetic-le yeyona nkcazo ibalaseleyo ebomini bam kunye nomkhwa wam wokuphulula amalungu esini ikakhulu. Yaba kukuqhekezwa kwam, andisenakho ukuzikhohlisa. Le yayingeyondlela yokuphila. Ndagqiba kwelokuba kunjalo. Into kwakufuneka itshintshile. Bendingazi malunga ne-NoFap ngeloxesha, kwaye bendingahlelanga ngokuhamba iinyanga ezintathu ngaphandle nangayo nantoni na, ngoba Ndandiqinisekile ukuba ingxaki yam yayikukunqongophala kwezakhono zentlalo kunokuba ndikhuphe iiyure ngaphambi kwe-porn nokufumana yonke dopamine endiyifunayo apho. Khange ndibenamdla wokuphulula amalungu omzimba - khumbula amanani awothusanga- bendinomsindo kuba iiyure eziyi-12 ngaphambi kokuba ndingqongwe ngunxila i-20-into yamantombazana engafuni kwanto ngaphandle kokuqhelana ne-expat emnandi, kodwa ngandlela thile bendinayo ukwazile ukujikeleza i-A, enokuba imonakalise ubusuku bayo, kwaye ke kufike ekhaya esithi bendidiniwe kodwa bendichitha iiyure ndijonga iphonografi. Yayililitye elisezantsi kwam, Bendivakalelwa kukuba ndingaze ndiyindoda ukuba ndiqhubeka nokuziphatha ngoluhlobo.
Ithemba elitsha
Sele inesigidi amaxesha namaxesha esigidigidi ngaphezulu bendikhe ndazixelela ukuba "yile", ukuba "ndigqityiwe ngalonto", kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ndihamba enye, iiveki ezimbini max emva koko ndibuyele kwisikwere . Kodwa ngeli xesha yayahlukile. Ndayazi ukuba leyo yayingeyondlela yokuphila indoda, okanye nawuphina umntu ngezinto ezibalulekileyo kodwa inyani kukuba amadoda athatha ulawulo lobomi bawo ngaphezulu kunoko kusenziwa ngabasetyhini. Ke ucwangciso lwaqala. Azisekho into yokuba ulilolo, akusekho mfuneko yokulala kwaye uzinyanye, akusafuneki ukuba kwenzeke izinto kum. Hayi kwakhona. Izizathu. Obu bubomi bam, kwaye obam kuphela. Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bam luxanduva lwam. Ndiyabanjwa kuba ndihamba ezantsi engalunganga? Kubi kakhulu, bekufanele ukuba ndazi ngcono kwaye ndithathe iteksi. Amantombazana alala ubusuku kunye nabafana 20cm mfutshane kunye ne20kg fatter kunam? Kulungile kuba kusenzima ukuba bakhethe umntu othatha inyathelo kuqala (okt uxanduva lusemagxeni abo). Awunakuba nzima ukuba ngumfazi wokwenene? Akukho shiti, mhlawumbi iiyure ze-4 zeeseshoni ezinde ze-porn zidlala indima apha. Kwaye hayi, awuzilolongeli ukuba uqhubeke ixesha elide, uyeke ukuzibamba.
Ndiyazi ukuba eli xesha lahlukile. Emva kwesithuba esingaphantsi kweveki ndaqala ukuthatha amanyathelo okuphucula ubomi bam bentlalo. Kwakukho intombazana emsebenzini endandiza kuba nayo nekofu kunye nezinye, zonke ngendlela enobuntu- yayingenamdla kubuhlobo bothando obuvela komnye wethu - kodwa kuyacaca ukuba sikwimo efanayo. Ndikhe ndazama ukuzilungiselela into ngaphandle kweofisi? Hayi, ndiye ndacinga ukuba ndinganyanzelwa kakhulu, kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuyihlela. Wayengoyena ubengezelelweyo emva kwayo yonke. Ayikho indlela ebalekisayo, ngeli xesha ikum ke ngoko ndilahla umbono kwitafile - i-sushi kule veki? Ewe kunjalo. Kwakhona, akukho mntu uzama ukulala namntu apha- kwaye namhlanje ungomnye wabahlobo bam abasenyongweni (kwaye sobabini saxhasana ekuqaliseni ubudlelwane bethu bangoku). Kwakungekho nzima kangako, kwakungekho. Kulula kakhulu xa ingqondo yakho ingakhange ikhathazwe yile shiti.
Ndibhabhela ekhaya iveki yonke ndisiya kuchitha i-Ista nosapho lwam, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha la asengozini yokufayilishwa ndinikwiholide-yemood kwaye ndibone abahlobo ebusuku ngelixa besenza kancinci kakhulu ngexesha losuku. Kodwa hayi ngeli xesha. Ndibetha umhlobo wam (ongumfazi) wakudala, masambize ngo-B. Ndadibana kakhulu kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, sasikunye kangangeeveki ezimbini ngaphambi kokuba sonakalise yonke into ngesimo sam sengqondo esidlulileyo / sendingeso sidingo. Unanamhla enye yeentombazana ezimbalwa endicinga ukuba zazinokwenza umphefumlo olungileyo, kodwa ubomi buyenzeka kwaye bu-shit. Ke, siphuma emva kweminyaka singaboni ngasonye kwaye sasela iibhiya, kwaye sifumana iingcebiso kwaye sonwabile. Kwakhona, akukho nto yenzekayo, akukho kisses okanye nantoni na. Okokuqala ngqa ukuba kungqonge owasetyhini ngaphandle, nditsho kwindawo enzulu yobuchopho bam, ndinethemba lokuba into enokwenzeka ingenzeka kufuneka ndijongane, ndogqitha yonke into engafanelekanga ukuba ingamcaphukisi. Ndikhululekile. Imeko yangoku ye2019 kukuba sithetha apha naphaya kwaye sidibana kanye / kabini ngonyaka xa sisobabini kwidolophu yethu (thina sobabini sihlala kwelinye ilizwe). Olunye ulwalamano luye lwaphelelwa lixesha akukho ndawo KUPHELA kuba ndiyekile ukuzikhohlisa? Ngaba le nto ukuzithemba kukwenza uzive unje? Kwaye konke endikwenzileyo yayikukuyeka ukuba ngunothisa? WOWU. Qaphela, ngeli xesha ndikulo Ukuphulula amalungu esini simahla ngokuchanekileyo Iveki enye. Akukho nto ingako. Inqaku kukuseta ingqondo yakho kuyo kwaye uqale ngokuthatha amanyathelo okuphucula ubomi bakho ngokukhawuleza. Ndihamba ngeholide yam ngalo moya, ndibiza wonke umhlobo wam wakudala endinokucinga ngaye. Ndiziva ndilungile
Ukubaleka kumhlobo ongumhlobo
Olona vavanyo lokwenyani, nangona kunjalo, ngu-A. Emva kwako konke ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ndikwazile ukuba ngumntu wam omtsha malunga nomntu endisebenza naye ongazange andazi kunye nabahlobo bakudala bandibona nge4 ngonyaka (okanye ndingazange ndimbone kwiminyaka Kwimeko ka-B). Sele ndikwi-cringey self yam ngaku-A ixesha elingaphezu konyaka ngoku. Yazi kakuhle, Ndibalekile ukuba ndiphume. Andisenguye umntu ozigxothileyo. Ithuba liza nempelaveki, ndiyibhalela ukuba yenze into kwaye yavela ukuba umhlobo wayo unike umnxeba isibini sayo esazi ukuba siyangena edolophini, ngoku bafuna ukudibana. Pholile, ndingafika. Okokuqala ngqa ndinomdla wokwenyani kwaba bantu batsha kunokuhambisa i-A ngononophelo. Uyinxalenye yeqela. Emva kokutya siye sisele ezinye iziselo, emva koko u-A kufuneka agoduke. Ngokwesiqhelo bendizakuhamba naye, kodwa sefana ne8pm ngolwe-Mgqibelo. Ke i-fuck it, ndihlala nabafana abatsha edolophini, ndibabonise ngeenxa zonke, bagqibela ngokusela ngakumbi kwenye ibha. Siyazonwabisa, kwaye u-A undibhalela eblowu ebuza ukuba ndisenabo na. Ewe. Ufuna ukujoyina kwakhona. Ngokuqinisekileyo into, sikwindawo ye-XXX. Uza kwaye ndibona ukuba kukho into etshintshileyo. Uhlala ecaleni kwam, uyandichukumisa, ufuna ingqalelo yam. Kungeli xesha, ndiyakwazi, aba bantu batsha kwaye bayonwabisa. Ulungiselela isidlo sangokuhlwa kwigumbi lakhe ngosuku olulandelayo. Ndizisa umntu endisebenza naye okhankanywe apha ngasentla- ngandlela thile uA akamthandi. Ndibuze ukuba kutheni. Ukusuka apho ukuya phambili, yayiyindlela yokunyuka. Bendihlala ndingasentla kumdlalo wam njengobo busuku kunjalo, ngakumbi xa abantu abaninzi kwiqela (bendawo) kwaye bengathethi, kungoko bethetha ulwimi lwabo. Kodwa umoya wawusitshintshile, kwaye waqala ngokucela ngakumbi ukuba achithe ixesha kunye nam, efuna ingcebiso yam kwaye ngokwenene ukundimamela njalo-njalo, kwelinye icala ndiqala ukwakha iqela elifanelekileyo labahlobo ngaphandle koogxa bam ukuze sukuhlala unexesha lakhe. Ndicenga u-A ukuba athathe umsebenzi azokuya phesheya, yeyona nto ilungileyo kuye. Njengoko ixesha lakhe esixekweni liqala ukuba nomhla wokuphelelwa, ixesha lethu kunye liba likhudlwana, kwaye ngoku sobabini siyonwabele. Ndisaziva ndingaqinisekanga kakhulu ukuba ndingatyhalela phambili nokuthile, uyahamba kwakamsinya kodwa izinto zam azikakaqinisekiswa kwaye umcimbi wokusebenza kunye naye uza kunditshabalalisa. Ngapha koko, iphela esiphelweni sophahla lwendlu yam. Kwaye yintoni leyo ... ulwakhiwo. Ingcwele shit, iyaphila. Ngapha koko, le ayisiyo imovie kwaye asinalo uthando lokwabelana ngesondo ngoko nangoko ayiphosi inqwelo moya yakhe kwaye asiqhubeki siphila ngolonwabo njalo emva koko. Ubuyela kwidolophu yakhe okwethutyana ukuze ayohlala nosapho, xa ebuyile ndiye kwitheko lakhe elilungileyo apho ndazi khona abantu abambalwa kwaye ndim kuphela ongaphandle - ongeyona meko ilungileyo ke ndiyasilela ukwenza impembelelo kwaye wemka xa bacebisa ukuba uye kwiklabhu, ngaphandle kokunxila ngokucacileyo Ukudibana nam malunga noko. Siza kudibana okokugqibela malunga nesidlo sakusasa ukuze sithi chu. Ukuza kuthi ga namhlanje, sidibene ngamanye amaxesha amabini, sincokola qho ngexesha. Kodwa ayisiyiyo ingongoma leyo. Inqaku lelo Yintoni ebonakala ingenakwenzeka kwiiveki nje ezimbalwa ngaphambili (simalunga ne1 kunye nesiqingatha seenyanga kwiNF ngoku), kwaye konke kuba ndenze umzamo omncinci wokuqonda ukuba basebenza njani abanye abantu. Kwaye ndilufumene phi uqeqesho kunye nokugxila koko? Ngokusika ezo 12 + iiyure zeveki zemifanekiso engamanyala. UFucking A.
Ukugqitywa kwe-NF kunye nobudala begolide yeTinder
Kodwa ndisahleli phantsi kwamanqaku amaninzi okujonga. Ndinalo iqela labahlobo abalungileyo ngoku, nto leyo imangalisayo, kodwa andinawo amandla okwabelana ngesondo. Andinguye uhlobo lomfo ohamba aye kwintombazana engacacanga aze asondele kuye. Andizange ndibekhona kwaye andikabikho nanamhlanje. Kodwa mhlawumbi ndingasebenza ngeenxa zonke ngokudibana namantombazana endicinga ukuba anomdla. Njani? Molo Tinder umhlobo wam wakudala.
Ndijonga i-bio ebendinayo kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, ngoko kukhulula i-cringey. Ndilahla ekungcungcuthekeni nasebuntwaneni, ukuba abayithandi yingxaki yabo yokusebenza. Imatshana iqala ukuthulula. Ndibhalela phantse yonke intombazana engatshatanga. Uninzi lwazo ngokuqinisekileyo alupheli kwanto, kodwa ukulandela umthetho "lungisa umhla ngaphakathi kwemiyalezo ye-10" ndiyakuphepha ukuchitha ixesha ngenxa yeencoko ezinobugwenxa eziphelisa izizathu zokuba zingangxami. Umhla wokuqala endinawo ungoJuni 1st, ndisondela esiphelweni kwinyanga yesibini ye-NF. Ngeli nqanaba ndifumanise malunga nale nkqutyana kwaye Ndithathe isigqibo sokuba ndifuna ukuqhubeka ndigqibe umceli mngeni weenyanga ezintathu. Ndingayiphazamisa ngesondo, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, kodwa okwangoku ukuthandana kuphela ukuzithemba nokuzilolonga, ukuba kukho into eyenzekileyo siya kucinga ngayo. Akukho kucinga ngaphezulu, uyakhumbula? Umhla wokugqibela endikhe ndabuya ngawo ngoJanuwari, kwaye ndandixaki kakhulu. Ndilahluke ngokupheleleyo ngoku. Ngapha koko ndinemihla emibini nale ntombazana, isebenzisa yonke imigaqo endiyifundileyo (uninzi lwe-PUA crap, kodwa hey ezinye zazo ziyasebenza kwaye zisebenza kakuhle xa zibhanqa nokuzithemba) kwaye ndiyabona uyandithanda. Ingxaki andimthandi, akaqinisekanga kwaye uzama-nzima. Mhlawumbi andimthandi kuba ndibona isibonakaliso sendiyintoni kwi-10 kwiiveki ezidlulileyo. Ngapha koko, akukho mhla wesithathu. Ndiyigcina iphakathi ngenyanga yonke kaJuni, uninzi luphuma nabahlobo kunye nemihla ehleliweyo. Esithembisayo singena ngasekupheleni kwenyanga. Yintombazana yakudala ebenditya ngayo endala. Ukungavumelani nayo yonke into, kuvavanya i-shit yam rhoqo. Ewe, ndineendaba ezimbi (ezilungileyo), Ndixhobile kwaye ndiyingozi ngeli xesha. Umhla wokuqala konke kubi nokuhlekisa, kwaye esiphelweni sayo ucacisa ukuba ufuna owesibini. Kutheni kungenjalo, ndiza kujonga xa ndinexesha lakho. Ndicwangcisa ipic-nic kwimpelaveki yokuqala kaJulayi, ngoku sineveki enye ukugqiba i3 kwiinyanga zeNF. I-pic-nic ngumsebenzi wobugcisa (ndithetha ukuba, iiglasi zewayini enombala kunye ne-shit), kwaye siyaqabana ukuphela kwayo. Iya kuba yimibongo kakhulu ukumbona kwakhona ngoMgqibelo olandelayo, 8th kaJulayi-90th usuku lwe-NF yam ukuze ndiqalise ubomi bam obutsha kunye nexesha elithile le-sexy, kodwa ndikwilizwe lam lasekhaya kule mpelaveki. NgoMgqibelo ndiye kwipati emnandi evulekileyo, kwaye kwakhona ndigxile kakhulu ekuhlekiseni ngeenxa zonke nabahlobo bam abancinci kodwa hey kutheni ndingazenzi izakhono zabasetyhini. Akukho nto eyenzekayo kodwa ndifumana enye ukuzithemba okukhuthaza.
Ukubuyela emsebenzini, ndilungisa umhla olandelayo nge-naderella yangoLwesihlanu ozayo, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba kunjalo. Ndaphule i-LTR yam yokugqibela kwi-2014, kwaye ukusukela ngoko ndabelana ngesondo kabini, kube kanye kwi-2015 kwaye kwaba kanye kwi2016 (kunye nentombazana enye ngokudibeneyo, enye yeza emva kwam ngenkuthalo). Olunjani ilahleko. Izinto zimalunga notshintsho lwe-fucking apha.
Oku kuphakamise ingxaki nangona kunjalo ndiza emva kweenyanga ze-3 zomsebenzi we-zero ndandiqinisekile ukuba uJoe osele ekhulile uza kusebenza ngokufanelekileyo, ngoko ke ndithatha isigqibo "sokucoca imibhobho" kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ngaphambi komhla ukuze ndivuse unjingalwazi (kwindawo ethile ndiye ndafunda ukuba kuthatha ixesha elincinci ukuqala kwakhona i-injini emva kwexesha elide lokungasebenzi), kwaye andifuni kubeka mngcipheko uzinze kwisiqingatha somzuzu ngenxa yokudlula -Ingxaki yokwabelana ngesondo. Andifuni kwenza ifayile ngendlela elungileyo Nangona kunjalo, ndisoyika kakhulu malunga nokulahleka kokuziva njalo, ndiyazi into yexesha elinye ayizukuba yingxaki kodwa andithathi thuba - Ukuphambuka kungabulala yonke intembeko endakhe kuyo iinyanga. Ke le ndiyenza ngendlela exakileyo. Ndiya kuGoogle indlela yokwakha isixhobo esifana nesobumfazi, kwaye ndizinza kuleyo idinga iglavu yalax, isiponji ezimbini ekhitshini kunye nesiqingatha sebhotile yeplastiki, kunye nesepha yokuthambisa. Ndihleke ngayo, bendiya kuba ukuba ufunda le nto. Ndivakalelwa ngathi idiot iyonke kodwa isigqibo sithathiwe. Iintsuku ze-93 emva kokuba iliwa lam elingaphantsi lihleli phantsi kwindlu yangasese, ndizicengela ngebhotile e-fucking. Ndacinga ukuba iya kuba yinto engakholelekiyo kodwa eyokuqala ye-orgasm yinto endingenakuziva. Ndiyathemba ukuba andenzanga into endiya kuzisola ngayo. Ngemini elandelayo ndivuka ndine-erection enomsindo. Okokuqala ngqa ukucinga kwam kokuya kwi-porn kodwa kubafazi balapho. Idlulile. Yenziwe. Kwindawo yokuzivocavoca andinokwazi ukujonga amantombazana asebenza ngaphandle. Emsebenzini ndingoyena mntu wonwaba kakhulu kwaye ugxile kakhulu kwezoluleko. Ndide ndiphethe ukuphatha iprojekthi entsha kwaye ndiqalise ukusebenza kuphuculo lokuhamba komsebenzi kunye nokushiswa. Kuza uLwesihlanu. UTinderella uza kundixelela ukuba ucinga ukuba sifunela ikomityi yewaini kwaye akukho nto iyenye athi, hey, omnye wemithetho kukuba ujonga okwenziwa ngabantu endaweni yokuthemba into abayithethayo. Siya kwi wayini. Siya kusela okungakumbi. Uyandiqhatha. Iyaqhubeka. Ndilahla i "hey ndihlala kufutshane apha, ndinephepha lebhotile ye wayini kunye nophahla olumangalisayo". Ugoduka malunga neeyure ze-12 emva kwexesha, ekuseni kakhulu. Ndizelwe ngokutsha.
I-Tinder (ndiza kongeza i-Bumble) iba sisiyobisi. Ndifikelela ekubeni nemihla ye5 kwiveki yonke kunye namantombazana awahlukeneyo.
Ukubuyela kwakhona (ukubuyela) kunye nokufikelela ngaphezulu (kunye nexesha lentombi)
Malunga nokuqala kuka-Agasti ndinomsebenzi-we-home-day apho ndingenakwenza nto. Ndidikwe. Akukho mihla imiselweyo kuloo veki. Ukufuna ukwaneliseka kwangoko. Ewe ngoba kutheni? Ndiphilisiwe ngoku, ixesha elinye porn, ngenxa yakudala. Ayizukulimaza, akunjalo? Ayilunganga. Kwiintsuku ezintlanu ndihamba kwispurbation. Ukutsala shit andikwazi ukuyeka. Elinye ilitye elingaphantsi, kwaye ndiziva ndilungile kunangaphambili. Ngaba yonke le nto ibingenamsebenzi? Ngaba ndilahlile iinyanga ze-5 zokugqibela? Impendulo iya kuba nguhayi. Emva kweveki ye-NF ndibuyile kwishishini phantsi kwawo onke amanqaku. Emva kokuba "enkulu" ihambile, kwaye utshintshile, ukuphinda ubuye kwakhona akusayi kubuhlungu kangako, kodwa kuya kufuneka uzive ngathi uyaphoxeka. Imigangatho yakho ngokwakho kufuneka ibe phezulu.
Ndiye ndicotha ngokuthandana njengokuba iintsuku ziba mnyama kwaye zibanda, ngoDisemba ndithandana kube kanye kwaye iyintombazana endiyithandayo (hayi evela kuTinder). Umhla usile, kubonakala ukuba yonke intembeko yam entsha isebenza kuphela kumantombazana andikhathalelanga. Aylunganga. Ndithatha isigqibo sokuhlalutya ingxaki ngexesha leseshoni zam zokucinga zasimahla. Ulibale ukukhankanya ukuba ngaxa lithile ngexesha lasehlotyeni ndiye ndahlutha kucamngca (nangona ingenguye umntu oqhelekileyo wokucamngca), endiya kuwucwangcisa yonke imihla ngoMvulo ukuya ngoMgqibelo, kodwa NgeCawa ndiza kuba neseshoni "yokucinga ngokukhululekileyo", ehleli kwisofa ebumnyameni enesiqingatha seglasi ye whisky emamele iMassive Attack kwaye ngokoqobo ndishiya ingqondo yam izula. (ngqo into yokucamngca ukuba unqwenela). Ngapha koko, ndithatha isigqibo sokuba indlela yam igxile kakhulu kuhlobo lwe-Tinder yeentsuku zokubetha nokubaleka apho kuya kufuneka ukuba ungabazi ungalali phakathi kwemihla emithathu, kwaye ayilungelanga abantu obaziyo esele kodwa ufuna ukuthatha amanyathelo. Ndithatha ixesha kude kwindawo yokuthandana (iiholide zeKrisimesi embindini) ukuyicinga kwakhona. ndine enye i-10-yeentsuku zokubuyela kwakhona, egqiba ubusuku nge-1st kaJanuwari. Ndidiniwe ukusuka ekuhlukaniseni ubusuku obudlulileyo kodwa andikwazi ukulala kwaye ndinokucinga nje nge-porn. Yintoni i-fuck engalunganga kum. Ndigqibela ukuvuka ezinzulwini zobusuku ndihambe ndiyokuhlamba umzimba kwigumbi lokuhlambela (bendibuyile ekhaya). Elinye ilitye elingaphantsi, elinye uvakalelo njengosuku lwe-shit, kunye nemvakalelo yokuba ndiqale unyaka ngendlela engalunganga. Ezinye iintsuku ze-20 ze-NF phakathi apho ndiqala ukuphuma nenye intombazana endikhe ndadibana nayo ebomini benene. Ngeli xesha yonke into ihamba kakuhle, kwaye ngexesha lokubhala oku sisekunye.
Naxa ndinomntu we-gf kwaye ndisebenza kakuhle kwigumbi lokulala, malunga neenyanga ezimbini kubudlelwane bendizive ndibodwa ngeempelaveki, kwaye Ndiphinde ndenze ngathi "akusoze konakalise". Ayilunganga. Enye i-spree ende, egqiba kum ukungabi nzima emva kokuba ekhuphe i-lingerie ethandekayo. Uziva ngathi uyambona umntu ongendawo. Hayi kwakhona. Elinye ilitye elingaphantsi. Ezinye iintsuku ze-10 zokushiywa, ukumgubungela kwakhe kukuba ndandigula (endandinguye), kwaye izinto zibuyele kwesiqhelo. Ndigqiba kwelokuba Ndiyakwazi ukushaya indlwabu kodwa iphonografi isikelwe umda. Ukuba andikwazi kuyinceda ke kulungile, kodwa Ndiyenza nje ukukhupha amandla esondo, njalo akukho porn, akukho vidiyo, imifanekiso, nantoni na. Eyona nto ilunge kakhulu ayisiyonto imnandi kwaphela. Kuphela kungumfanekiso-ngqondweni ovunyelweyo ucinga malunga nexesha lokugqibela lokwabelana ngesondo naye, ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo. Iyasebenza. Kuyasebenza. Ukuba andikwazi ukuyinceda, nantsi indlela yokuhamba ngoku. Ndiza kuba namaxesha amancinci okuphinda ndibukele i-porn, ukusuka kumhla we-1 ukuya kwi-1 iveki, apho ukulandela ukungasebenzi kakuhle kuya kulandela. Kufana nezibalo ezikhululekayo kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ndiyakwazi ukuzenza ukuba ndingazi ukuba zenzakalise. Akuzange kube kanye. Ukuba uziva ufuna ukusihlutha, kwenze ngaphandle kwamanyala. Ukuba awukwazi nzima kuthetha ukuba umzimba wakho ufuna i-porn, hayi isiqabu sesondo. Yicumze.
Ezinye izibonelelo, okanye indlela ukuyeka i-porn indenze amanani-amathandathu
Ndigxile kwindawo yokulala ngesondo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, endikholelwa ukuba yeyona nto isengozini xa iflip / i-porn isezantsi isemsebenzini, kodwa ukuzithemba okutsha okundincedileyo kukungasebenzi kakuhle emsebenzini. Ndaba ngowona mdlali weqela lam, ndonyuselwa ukuphela kwe-2017 kunye nokunikezelwa kobomi ekupheleni kwehlobo elilandelayo, kwaye ngoku ndenza imali eninzi kunendlela ebendicinga ngayo, ngamathuba amakhulu okukhula macala onke mna. Konke ngenxa yokuba ndiyayeka ukubukela iphonografi. Ndiqinisekile ukuba iziphumo ezifanayo zinokuza ne-mini no-fap yeeveki ezimbini kwaye emva koko uqala ngokwenza masturbating kanye / kabini ngaphandle kwamanyala, kodwa ubuchwephesha bokusebenza kwengqondo busebenza ngcono kakhulu ukuba ungayikhulula loo nxalenye "yeprosesa".
Isikhokelo
Sukwenza umda. Ukuba uqala ukubhukuqa, ugqibezele. Ibalwa njengokuphinda ubuye, kwaye ujiye ii-fucks ngengqondo yakho kunye nokusebenza kwepenis. Kungcono ukuba ugqibe ukuphulula amalungu esini ngaphambi kokuba uphumeze, kunye nokuba ungaqala ngaphi na, nokuba ungazixelela ntoni (okt. "Ukuba andiyenzi ukubala").
Phambi kokuba uqale i-NF yakho, bonisa amandla akho okokugqibela. Oku kufuneka kungabikho ngaphandle kwe-porn, amehlo avulekile, angacingi nto.
Umthambo / sebenza. Oku kubuyisela amandla akho kwinto elungileyo. Ndiqaphele ukuba amaxesha axhaphakileyo ekuvuseleleni kwakhona ngamaxesha apho ndingayi kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ngesizathu esithile (ubuvila, ukugula, ukuphuma kwedolophu njl. Njl.).
I-NF iyinjini yotshintsho, kodwa ingqondo ngumqhubi. Kuya kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Kum yayikukuma ukucinga ukuba abantu bazokuza kum kwaye baqale ukuthatha i-kuqala.
Abafazi bathanda ukuzithemba kunye nejezi zomda. Iyasebenza. Sebenzisa ukuzithemba okufumana ngokwazi ukuba awuyongxaki yokuphinda ulahle kwakhona, ukuthandana ngokujikeleze ngaphandle kokumnika ukuba kwenzeke ntoni, kwaye akusayi kufuneka uphinde uphinde ungene ebomini bakho.
Ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokwalo asilulo utshaba. I-porn lutshaba. Ukuba kuyafuneka uyenze, yenze ngokwe ngongoma B. Oku kubalulekile. Nje ukuba "enkulu" iphele kwaye ingqondo yakho iphinde ibuyiselwe, iveki enye yokuyekiswa kuya kwanela ukukufumana kwizibonelelo eziphezulu zokungafakwanga ifayile, kodwa ukuphulula amalungu esini kufuneka kungabandakanyeki kwi-porn nangayiphi na indlela. Isingxi. Abafazi abahamba ze kuphela abavunyelweyo ukuba babone zezokwenyani. Ukuba awukwazi ukunceda kodwa uphuphe, cinga malunga nokudibana okwabelana ngesondo kwangaphambili. Okanye malunga nomntu omaziyo. Into yokwenyani. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba liqabane lakho, udade bomhlobo wakho, okanye umfazi wakho. Akukho ngcinga malunga neziganeko zamanyala ozibonileyo. Yigcine iyinyani.
Iphonografi sisiyobisi njengesiyobisi. Ayizukubulala ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa isoyikeka ngakumbi kunezinye iintlobo zokulutha. Ungayifumana iminyaka kwaye akukho mntu uyakuqaphela. Kukubulala ngokwasentlalweni kwaye abantu banokucinga ukuba unjalo. Ayisiyiyo ndoda leyo, ungcono kunoko. Isebenza ngaphakathi. Uyazi ukuba wenze into engeyiyo eyendalo, ngoko ulindele ukuba izinto zihambe kakubi. Intle porn. MKA. PORN.
Yakha ubufazi bakho ukuba kuya kufuneka. Kulungile oku kuvakala kububudenge, kodwa ukubambelela ekufeni kuyinyani kwaye kuya kubulala imvakalelo yakho. Ukuba awukwazi ukufikelela kweyona yokwenyani, eyokwenyani ingcono kunesandla sakho. Google indlela yokwenza i-DIY. Mna ngokwam andizisebenzisi kodwa ndinayo i-gf.
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