Amacatshulwa: “Siphakathi kwenguqu kwezesondo kunye nokuthanda izinto ezingafaniyo nezinye ezembali, ulingelo lwentlalo lwenziwa ebantwaneni nakwishumi elivisayo… Oko oogqirha abangakwaziyo kangako ngako, kodwa, yindlela esiza kubanceda ngayo abakwishumi elivisayo, Ukuthanda izinto kuchatshazelwa luononophala, kuba eli nqanaba lokuvezwa kwe-porn intsha kakhulu. Ngaba ezi mpembelelo kunye nezinto ezithandwayo ziya kujika zibengaphezulu? Okanye ngaba le mifanekiso mitsha yamanyala iya kuzinzisa ngokunzulu ngenxa yokuba iminyaka yeshumi elivisayo iselixesha lokukhula? ”
6 Julayi 2014 - Qhagamshela kwinqaku lejenali yokuqala ngoNorman Doidge
Siphila phakathi kwenguqu yezocalulo zesondo kunye nokuthandana okungafani nenye na kwimbali, uvavanyo lwentlalo olwenziwa kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo, lubanjwe kwimeko esomeleleyo, ebunzima kwiincwadi zonyaka zaseBrithani InRealLife, malunga nemiphumo ye-intanethi kubaselula, eyalelwe nguBaroness Beeban Kidron.
Kule filimu, inkwenkwezi ye-15 eneminyaka emininzi yokuzikhethela ingqungquthela ibonisa inkqubo eqhubekayo kwimpilo yezigidi zamakhwenkwe ezishumi ezishumi, ezithandwa yizo zesondo ziyinxalenye enkulu kwi-24 / 7 ukufikelela kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi. Uchaza indlela iimifanekiso ezingamanyala ezenze ngayo "ubomi boqobo"
"Uya kuzama intombazana kwaye ufumane umfanekiso ocacileyo wento oyibukeleyo kwi-intanethi ... ufuna ukuba abe njengowona ubona kwi-intanethi ... Ndiyabulela kakhulu nabani na owenza le website , kwaye zikhululekile, kodwa kwezinye iinjongo zonakalisa lonke uthando. Ndibuhlungu kuba ndifumanisa ngoku kunzima kum ukuba ndifumane uxhulumaniso nentombazana. "
Yintoni ebunzima malunga nomdlalo, yindlela ayenayo esemncinci efumanisa ukuba ukuthanda kwakhe ngokwesondo kunye nokulangazelela kwakhe okuthandanayo kuye kwahlukana komnye nomnye. Okwangoku, sifunda kule nto nakwezinye iifrimu ezenziwa ngamantombazana asemandleni abo makhwenkwe, baye "bakhupha" kubo ukuba balindele "iindima" ezibhalwe ngabaselula beefoto.
Ukuxinzezeleka kwentombazana imele enye yezinto eziphathekayo zoononophala. Kutheni kufuneka kube nzima ukuba avule intombazana, kwaye kungekhona lula? Ngesinye isikhathi, i-porn yasetyenziswa ngabaselula ukuba bahlolisise, balungiselele kwaye banciphise ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, ngokulindela ubudlelwane bokwenene zesondo. Namhlanje, kukho into entsha, ifom ye-intanethi esekelwe kwi-intanethi ebangela ukuba ubulili bezingabonisi umntu ngobudlelwane bezesondo, kodwa kunokuba uyisondeza. Amadoda amancinci amaninzi athi athetha ukulala kunye nobudlelwane nabantu, kunye nazo zonke iindawo zabo. Mhlawumbi oku kukugubungela kwamakhwenkwe, okuphantsi kolawulo oluphezulu, ongenakukwazi "ukufumana" intombazana. Kodwa abanye, njengomntwana osemtsha kwifilimu, fumana ukuba nangona bafumana "intombazana, xa besenza, ubulili babo" abusebenzi kakuhle ".
Isikhalazo salo mfana sasinomdla oqhelekileyo, nangona i-twist. Phakathi kwe-1990s I, kunye nezinye izifo zengqondo, saqala ukuqaphela iphethini elilandelayo. Umzekelo oqhelekileyo uya kuba ngumntu omdala, olwalamano oluvuyoleyo, owathi uchaza ukwazi malunga neentlanzi kwi-intanethi. Uninzi lwamasayithi afunyanisayo, kodwa ngokukhawuleza waphawula amaninzi amkhathaza kangangokuba waqala ukuwafuna. Xa esetyenziselwa i-pornography, wayefuna ngakumbi. Ingxaki yayingeyona nje ixesha elichithwe kwi-intanethi. Wayefumana ulungelelaniso oluthile loonotygriso ukuba, ngokugqithiseleyo okanye kuncinci, ekugqibeleni wathintela ulwalamano lwakhe kunye nesondo. Le ndoda yayingasayi kuba yintsholongwane, inzululwazi, okanye ihoxiswe kwihlabathi ibe yintlanganiso enkulu yokuqokelela iinthombe zoononophelo ezithatha indawo esikhundleni sobuhlobo kunye nabasetyhini bokwenene. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda anjalo ayenomdla, ngokuqhelekileyo acingisisa, kunye nobudlelwane obuphumelelayo okanye imitshato. Abazange banamakhoboka. Ngokuqhelekileyo, le ndoda yayiza kubika ngokuthetha kakubi, ukuba yazifumana ichitha ixesha elininzi kwi-intanethi, ikhangele iifoto zoonografi kunye nokuhlaziya i-masturbating.
Kodwa iindawo ezibethe kakhulu ziingxelo zabo, phantse ekudluleni, kokunyuka kwabo ubunzima bokutshintshwa ngabaxhatshazi babo bezesondo, abaqabane okanye intombi, nakuba bebakhangela ukuba bayathandeka ngokufanelekileyo. Xa ndabuza ukuba le nto yayinobunye ubuhlobo bokubukela iphonografi, baphendula ngokuthi ekuqaleni babancedisa ukuba bajabule ngakumbi ngexesha lesondo kodwa ke emva kwexesha kwaba nempembelelo eyahlukileyo. Ngoku, endaweni yokusebenzisa zabo iingqondo ukuba banandiphe ekulala, ngoku, kunye namaqabane abo, ukuthanda uthando kubenza bafune ukuba baqikelele ukuba babeyingxenye yeskripthi se-porn. Abanye - njengomfana osemtsha InRealLife - wazama ukuphoyisa abathandi babo ukuba benze njengeenkwenkwezi zoononopopayi, kwaye bebanomdla kakhulu "ekuthandeni" ngokuchasene "nokwenza uthando". Ubomi babo bendoda yesondo buye belawulwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwimiba ababebenayo, ngokubhekisele, bakhululwa ebuchosheni babo, kwaye ezi zincwadi zeempendulo zazivame ukuba zizinzileyo kwaye zinobudlova kunokuba zithandana. Ndabona ukuba naluphi na ubugcisa bobulili aba bantu babesifa kwaye bokuba banomlutha kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi. Kodwa ngokungafani namakhwenkwe atsha, abathandana nabo ngokwesondo, aba bantu babephila ngamava amandulo. Amakhwenkwe angamabhinqa anamhlanje ayenjalo, kwaye le yintlalo yoluntu le ncoko iya kuzama ukukhawuleza.
Iingcamango zokuthi izinto ezithandwayo zesondo zingaba zihamba, kubanye, ekubhekeleni kwengqiqo, kunye neengxabano ezenziwa ngabangcali beengqondo, ezibonisa ukuba isondo sobuntu siyimveliso yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ingatshintshi ngamakhulu amawaka eminyaka, ngokuchanekileyo kuba ubuchopho, kunye nesakhiwo kunye nomsebenzi walo - "i-wiring" yayo-ayitshintshiyo yonke loo xesha. Nangona kunjalo, sifunde ukuba kungekuphela nje ubuchopho buya kutshintsha, kodwa lusebenza ngokutshintsha. Ixesha lepropathi evumela ukuba ingqondo iguqule isakhiwo sayo kunye nomsebenzi "yi-neuroplasticity", kwaye iyatshintsha ekuphenduleni amava engqondo. "I-Neuro" yinto ye-neuron, kwaye "iplastiki" ithetha iplastiki ngokubhekiselele kwintlekele, eguqukayo, eguquguqukayo. Izazi zezinto eziphilayo ezichanileyo zichanekileyo ukuba iinjongo eziphambili zobomi bethu zinjengezokhokho ezide; kodwa baye bahlala beshiya eso sipho esikhulu kunazo zonke okhokho bethu, ipropati ekhethekileyo yobomi beengqondo, ubukhulu beplastiki.
Utshintsho lwe-Neuroplastic luqhubeka kwinqanaba elincinane, ngaphakathi kwengqondo, kwi-neurons. Kodwa nangona ngaphambi kokuba kutholakale i-neuroplasticity, abantu abaqaphelisayo baqonda abantu bebonisa iplastiki yezesondo ngokungaqhelekanga xa kuthelekiswa nezinye izidalwa. Sitshintsha kwinto esithanda ukuyenza kunye namaqabane ethu kwisenzo sesondo. Sitshintshana apho emzimbeni wethu sinovuyo lwezesondo kunye nokwaneliseka. Kodwa ininzi yethu sonke siyahluka kuye okanye yintoni esithandwayo. Abantu baninzi bathi bafumana "uhlobo" oluthile olukhangayo, okanye "ukujika", kwaye ezi ntlobo ziyahluka kakhulu kumntu kumntu.
Kweminye, iintlobo zitshintsha njengoko zihamba ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo kwaye zinamava amatsha. Omnye umntu ongqingili wayenebudlelwane obuhambelanayo namadoda avela kulunye uhlanga okanye uhlanga, ngoko kunye nalawo aphuma kwelinye, kwaye kwixesha ngalinye angatsalwa ngabantu kuphela kwiqela elithile "elitshisa" ngoku. Emva kwexesha elide, wayengenakukhangwa kumntu ovela kwiqela elidala kwakhona. Ufumene intsingiselo yale "iindidi" ngokulandelelana ngokukhawuleza kwaye yabonakala ehlatywe yintlobo yomntu okanye uhlobo (oko kukuthi "amaAsia" okanye "amaAfrika-Amerika") kunokuba ngumntu ngamnye. I-plasticity yendoda yesini yongqingili ixubusha inyaniso epheleleyo: ukuba i-libido yomntu ayikho inzima, ingenakunqwenelekayo ye-biological kodwa ingaba yinto enqabileyo, ishintshwe ngokulula yingqondo yethu kunye nembali yeziganeko zethu zesondo. Kwaye i-libido yethu inokuba yinto efanelekileyo. Ukubhala okuninzi kwenzululwazi kubonisa ngenye indlela kwaye kuchaza isiseko sobuthathaka njengokwenza izinto eziphilayo, ezixhalabileyo, ezihlala zilambileyo, zisoloko zifuna ukwaneliseka - i-glutton, kungeyi-gourmet. Kodwa abantu bafana nezigunta kwaye batyelelwa kwiintlobo kwaye banokukhetha okunamandla; ukuba "uhlobo" lusenza sikwazi ukwaneliseka size sithole oko sikufunayo, kuba ukukhanga kumhlobo kuyimfuneko: umntu "oguqulwe yi-blondes" unokuthi asebenze ngokukhawuleza amabhonununu kunye nokuhlaziywa.
Kodwa iplastiki yesini iyaqhubeka ngakumbi. Ama-Fetishists anqwenela izinto ezingaphiliyo. Indoda engumfazi inokuba nemincili ngakumbi ngesihlangu esinezihlangu eziphakamileyo esinoboya obunqatyisiweyo, okanye iimpahla zangaphantsi zowasetyhini, kunokuba ngumfazi wokwenene. Abanye abantu babonakala bengenamtsalane kangako ebantwini njengakwizikripthi ezintsonkothileyo zesini, apho amaqabane adlala indima, ebandakanya iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokugqwetha, ukudibanisa ubuhlanga, isochism, voyeurism kunye nomboniso. Xa bebeka intengiso kubuntu, inkcazo yento abayifunayo kwisithandwa ihlala ivakala ngakumbi njengenkcazo yomsebenzi kunaleyo yomntu abangathanda ukumazi. Kusengqiqweni ukubuza ukuba ngaba iplastiki yethu yesini kunye neyothando inxulumene ne-neuroplasticity. Uphando lubonakalisile ukuba i-neuroplasticity ikhona kuyo yonke ingqondo. Ubume bengqondo obulawula isimilo sokuziphatha, kubandakanya isondo, esibizwa ngokuba yihypothalamus, yiplastiki, njengoko kunjalo nge-amygdala, ulwakhiwo olwenza uxinzelelo. I-Neuroplasticity ayisiyo, njengokucinga kokuqala, ukuqiniswa kwiindawo ezithile "eziphakamileyo" zobuchopho ezisetyenziselwa iinkqubo zengqondo ezinzima. Ewe, ukuba enye inkqubo yengqondo iyatshintsha, iinkqubo ezinxulumene nayo kufuneka zitshintshe ngokunjalo. Ingqondo ifana kakhulu nesihlunu kunokuba besicinga: kukusebenzisa-okanye-okanye ukulahleka kwengqondo. Ukuba asisebenzisi isekethe yethu ukwenza umsebenzi omnye wengqondo, kuba lo msebenzi awusasebenzi, isekethe ebesiyisebenzisela yona iya kugqibela ngokujongana nemisebenzi yengqondo esiyenzayo. Olunye uphononongo olukhulu kukuba xa sifunda senza unxibelelwano olutsha phakathi kwee-neurons, ngokusekwe kwixesha. "I-Neurons ezitshisa kunye ziqhagamshelene ngocingo." Yiyo loo nto ukuthatha imeko elula yokufunda kwePavlovian, ukuba siyakhala intsimbi amatyeli aliqela ngaphambi kokuba inyama inikwe inja, kungekudala ii-neurons ezibhalisa isandi sentsimbi zinxibelelana ne-neurons ezibangela ukugcwala. Into elandelayo siyayazi, ukukhala kwentsimbi kukhokelela ngqo kwi-salivation, inyama okanye akukho nyama. Ukuba ixesha ngalinye umfana uyangena kwi-Intanethi, wenza iisampulu kwimifanekiso yesondo, kungekudala, ikhompyuter ngokwayo inokuba "yeyokwabelana ngesondo", erotic, njengoko siza kubona, njengezinto zesini. "Iminqweno yesondo", wabhala uFreud, "iyabonakala thina ngenxa yeplastikhi yabo, amandla abo okutshintsha iinjongo zabo. ” UFreud wayengengowokuqala ukuphikisa ukuba isini sasiyiplastikhi-uPlato, kwincoko yakhe yothando, wathi u-Eros wabantu uthathe iindlela ezininzi-kodwa uFreud wabeka iziseko zokuqonda inzululwazi ngeplastikhi yesondo kunye neyothando.
Enye yezinto zakhe ezibaluleke kakhulu ukufunyanwa kwakhe kwexesha elibalulekileyo kwi-plasticity yesini. UFrud wachaza ukuba umntu omdala uyakuthanda ngokusondeleyo kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesondo, ukuqala kokuqala kokuthandana kwabazali bakhe. Wafunda kwizigulane zakhe, kwaye ekuboneni abantwana, ukuba abantwana abaselula, kungengobutsha, bekuyixesha lokuqala lokuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kunye nobudlelwane obusondelene nabo, kwaye abantwana banokukwazi ukuthanda, ukuvalela, ukuvakalelwa, kunye neemeko zesini uvuyo. UFrud wafumanisa ukuba ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo kubangelwa ukuba kuthintela ixesha elibalulekileyo lobulili ebuntwaneni, ngamanye amaxesha luyilo olutsha kunye neengcamango zesondo. Ingcamango yexesha elibucayi yenziwe ngababungu beembryologists abaye babona ukuba kwi-embryo inkqubo ye-nervous ikhula kwiinqanaba, kwaye ukuba ukuba ezi zigaba ziphazamiseka, isilwanyana okanye umntu uya kuphazamiseka, ngokuqhelekileyo kube yingozi, ebomini. UFrud waphawula ukuba amanqanaba afaka isicelo emva kokuzalwa. Yintoni uFrud athi ngayo ngamanyathelo okuqala okuphuhliswa ngokwesondo ehambelana nento esiyayazi malunga namaxesha anzima. Iifestile zexesha elifutshane xa iinkqubo ezintsha zeengqondo kunye neemephu ziphuhliswa ngoncedo lokuvuselela abantu kwindawo.
Imizila yobomi bentwana ngokuthandana kwabantu abadala kunye nobulili ziyabonakala kwimilinganiselo yansuku zonke. Xa abantu abadala bekontsi zabo bebambezela ngothando, okanye bavakalisa ukuthandaza kwabo, bahlala bebizana ngokuthi "umntwana" okanye "umntwana". Basebenzisa imimiselo yothando oomama basebenzisana nabo njengabantwana, njengokuthi "u-honey" kunye "ne-sweetie pie", imigaqo ephakamisa inyanga yokuqala yokuphila xa umama ebonisa uthando lwakhe ngokutya, ukunyamezela nokuthetha kakuhle - yiyiphi iFrud eyayibiza ngokuthi isigaba somlomo, ixesha elibalulekileyo lokuziphatha ngokwesini, okubalulekileyo ekuthethwa ngabo ngamagama athi "uqinisekiso" kunye "nokunondla". Ukuthandwa, ukunyamekwa nokutya kudibanisa ngengqondo kwaye kuhlangene kunye nengqondo kwimeko yethu yokuqala yokuzalwa emva kokuzalwa,
Xa abantu abadala bethetha umntwana ukuba bathethe omnye nomnye, bahamba ngo-Freud, "ukuxubusha", besuka kwiimeko zengqondo ezivuthiweyo eziphathelele kwizigaba zangaphambili zobomi. Ngokweplastiki, ukuzithethelela okunjalo, ndiyakholelwa, kubandakanya ukukhupha iindlela ezindala ze-neuronal eziza kubangela yonke imibutho yeso sigaba sangaphambilini. Ukunyanzeliswa kunokuba mnandi kwaye kungabungozi, njengokuba kudala, okanye kungenokuba ingxaki, njengokuba xa umendo onobudlova ungashukunyiswa kwaye umntu omdala unomsindo.
Nokuba "ukuthetha okucolileyo" kubonisa imbonakalo yengqondo yomntwana ngezifo zobuncwane, kwaye ingcamango yokuba uMama avumela ubaba ukuba afake "ilungu" lakhe lokungcola emngxondeni osondelene nezantsi, esetyenziselwa ukuchasana, . Ekufikeni kwentombazana emva kwexesha elibalulekileyo le-plastic plasticity ubuchopho buya kuphinda buphinde buyeke, ukwenzela ukuba ukonwaba ngesondo kuya kuba namandla ngokwaneleyo ukugqitha.
UFrud wabonisa ukuba iimfihlelo ezininzi zesondo zingaqondwa njengezinto ezizimeleyo. Emva koFrud, asiyikumangaliswa kukuba le ntombazana eyayiyishiya uyise njengomntwana ilandela amadoda angenakundala ngokwaneleyo ukuba abe nguyise, okanye ukuba abantu abakhuliswa ngabaama-queen-queen bavame ukufuna abantu abanjalo njengabalingani, ngamanye amaxesha babe "njengeqhwa" ngokwabo, ngenxa yokuba, abazange babe novelwano kwixesha elibucayi, inxalenye yabo yobuchopho behlulekile ukukhula. Kwaye ezininzi iziphene zingachazwa ngokwepolitiki kunye nokuphikelela kweengxabano zabantwana. Ama-Mothers Ndiyakuthanda ama-F-ck okanye i-MILF (umzekelo, ngexesha lokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo umfana okhohliswa ngumama wakhe umhlobo ogqithiseleyo) U-Freud unokubango olufanelekileyo, yimimiselo abantu abaninzi abaye bahlaziywa i-Oedipus complexes - kwaye abaninzi abaselula banamathele ngakumbi kunina "unina" kunokuba baqaphela kakuhle. ("I-MILF" kunye ne "Teen" yimiqathango ephandwayo ephandwayo yoononongo olusetyenziswa kakhulu, ngokubhekiselele kwi-PornHub kunye nesifundo sikaLucia O'Sullivan waseYunivesithi yaseNew Brunswick.)
Kodwa ingongoma ephambili kukuba kwixesha lethu elibalulekileyo singakwazi ukufumana izinto zokuzonwabisa zesondo nezobubele kunye nokuthambekela okufakwe kwi-brains yethu kwaye sinokuba negalelo elinamandla kubo bonke ubomi bethu. Yaye inyaniso yokuba sinokukwazi ukufumana iintlobo zesini ezahlukeneyo zesini kunomthelela kwezinye iintlobo zesini ezahlukeneyo phakathi kwethu.
Ingcamango yokuba ixesha elibalulekileyo linceda ukubeka iminqweno yesondo kubantu abadala abaphikisana neengxoxo ezithandwayo njengokuba oko kusithandayo asiyiyo imveliso yembali yethu, kodwa kuphela umphumo we-biology yethu. Iimodeli kunye neenkwenkwezi ze-movie, ngokomzekelo - zibhekwa ngokubanzi njengento enhle okanye i-sexy. Inxalenye ethile ye-biology isifundisa ukuba abanye abantu banomdla kuba babonisa izibonakaliso ze-biological zokuqina, ezithembisa ukuzala kunye namandla: ukucaca okucacileyo kunye nemimandla ehambelana kuthetha ukuba umlingane angenakho izifo; isibalo se-hourglass sibonakaliso umfazi uvelisa; izihlunu zomntu ziqikelela ukuba uya kukwazi ukukhusela ibhinqa kunye nenzala yakhe.
Kodwa oku kwenza lula ukuba yiyiphi i-biology efundisa. Akuyena wonke umntu othandana nomzimba, njengokuba umfazi uthi, "Ndayazi, xa ndaliva okokuqala, ukuba wayenami", umculo welizwi mhlawumbi luphawu olungcono lomphefumlo womntu kunokuba umzimba wakhe phezulu. Yaye isondo sesondo sitshintshile ngaphezu kweenkulungwane. Ubuhle beRubens bukhulu ngemigangatho yangoku, kwaye emva kwemashumi eminyaka ubuninzi beenkcukacha zobalo playboy iindawo zokuhlala kunye nemifanekiso yefashini ziye zahlukahluka kwi-voluptuous torogynous. Ubunono bobulili bubonakala ngokushukumiseka yinkcubeko namava kwaye kaninzi lufunyanwa kwaye lufakwe kwi-brain.
"Izinto ezithandwayo" zifundwa ngcaciso, ngokungafani "nezinto ezithandayo", ezizalwayo. Ingane ayifuni ukufumana intle yobisi, amanzi, okanye iilekese; Ezi zibonwa ngokukhawuleza zibe mnandi. Ukuthandwa okufunyenwe ekuqaleni kukufumana ukunganakwa okanye ukungathandi kodwa kamva kuba mnandi - izivumba zeentshizi, i-bitters zaseItaly, iwayini elomileyo, i-coffees, i-pâtés, i-urin kwi-kidney eyosiweyo. Izidlo ezininzi ezithandwa ngabantu, ukuba kufuneka "ziphuhlise intlekele", yizona zinto zokutya ezibacaphukisa njengabantwana.
E-Elizabethan amaxesha abathandana babethandwa kakhulu ngomzimba womnye ngomlilo ukuba kwakuqhelekile ukuba umfazi ahlale i-apula ehlutshiwe emlonyeni wakhe de ibe yifumene ukukhupha kwayo. Wayeza kunika lo "uthando lwamaapula" kumthandi wakhe ukuba athande xa engekhoyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, sisebenzise i-aromas zokwenziwa kweziqhamo kunye neentyatyambo ukusigcoba umzimba wethu ovuthayo kwiintanda zethu. Uninzi olunqwenelekayo olucinga ukuba "lwendalo" lufumaneka ngokufunda kwaye luba "luhlobo lwesibini" kuthi. Asikwazi ukwahlula "uhlobo lwesibini" lwethu "uhlobo lwangaphambili" ngenxa yokuba ubuchopho bethu be-neuroplastiki, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, buhlakulela uhlobo olutsha, yonke into njengebhaloji njengento yethu yokuqala.
Imifanekiso engamanyala ibonakala ngathi, ekuboneni kuqala, ukuba yinto engokwemvelo, kwaye kubonakala ngathi akukho nto ifunyenwe ngayo; imifanekiso ecacileyo ngokwesondo, yabantu abakwiimeko zabo zendalo, ubunqunu, bangela izimpendulo zangokwemvelo, eziyimveliso yezigidi zeminyaka yokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Ukongezelela, inzala yendoda yamamalia kumalingani ahlukeneyo, ebizwa ngokuba yi "Coolidge effect", ibonakala inxalenye yelifa lethu lokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Kodwa ukuba oko kwakunjalo kuwo, imifanekiso engamanyala iya kuba yinto engatshintshiyo, ngaphandle kwento yokuba amadoda afuna amaqabane amasha. Izinto ezinjalo ezibangelwayo, iinxalenye zomzimba kunye nobukhulu bazo, obubhenela ookhokho bethu ziya kuvuya. Yilokho abahlaziyi bezentlalo abaya kuthi sinokukholelwa, kuba bathi bayalwa nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, i-tab kunye noloyiko, kwaye injongo yabo kukukhulula imvelo yendalo yesondo.
Kodwa eqinisweni umxholo wezonografi ngumcimbi oqinileyo obonisa ngokucacileyo inkqubela yomntu ofumanekayo. Iminyaka engamashumi amathathu edlulileyo "i-hardcore" yoonografi ivame ukuthetha ngokucacileyo ukulala ngesondo phakathi kwamaqabane amabini avuselelekileyo, abonisa izifo zabo zobulili. "I-Softcore" yayithetha imifanekiso yabasetyhini, ngokuyininzi, ebhedini, kwindlu yangasese, okanye kwindawo ethile yokuthandana, kwimibandela eyahlukeneyo yokugodla, amabele abonisa.
Ngoku i-hardcore iguqukile kwaye iqhutywe ngokugqithiseleyo ngeengqungquthela ze-sadomasochistic zoxhatshazwa ngokwesini, ukunyuka kwamabhinqa ebusweni kunye nesondo esilumkileyo esilumkileyo, zonke ezibandakanya izikripthi ezenza isondo kunye nentlonipho. I-pornography ye-Hardcore ngoku ihlola ihlabathi lokuguquka, ngelixa i-softcore ngoku i-hardcore yayiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, ukuziphatha okubi ngokwesini phakathi kwabantu abadala, ngoku ikhona kwi-TV ye-cable. Imifanekiso efana ne-softcore yemifanekiso yexesha elide - abafazi kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zokugxotha-ngoku ba bonise kwiimidiya eziqhelekileyo yonke imini, ekugqithiseni konke okubandakanya i-TV, iividiyo ze-rock, i-soap operas, izikhangiso kunye njalo njalo.
Ukukhula koonografi kuye kwaba yinto engavamile; yiso yesine isizathu esivakalayo abantu banikela ngokuya kwi-intanethi. Ucwaningo lwe-MSNBC.com lwababukeli kwi-2001 lubone ukuba i-80 pesenti babecinga ukuba bachitha ixesha elininzi kwiindawo zoononografi ababeka ubuhlobo babo okanye imisebenzi engozini.
Utshintsho mna kunye nabanye abagula ngengqondo abazange baxhomekeke kubantu abambalwa kwiyeza. Ukutshintsha kwezenhlalakahle kwaqala ukuvela kwi-1990s, malunga nendlela i-"pornography" yaqondwa ngayo. Ngexesha elidlulileyo kunzima ukufumana ulwazi malunga neentlobano zesini esasesekwa ngasese, oku kwakungenjalo kwimibala engamanyala ngethuba lexesha, ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba i-porno yaphuma ekubeni yinto ethile yangasese, ukuya kwintlalo ephakamileyo.
Olu tshintsho luhambelana nokutshintshwa ekuthiwa "i-pornography" kwigama eliqhelekileyo elithi "i-pornography". Kwincwadi yakhe, Ndingum Charlotte Simmons, UTom Wolfe wathatha iminyaka emininzi ebona abafundi kwiimyuvesi zaseyunivesithi. Kwincwadi enye inkwenkwe, u-Ivy Peters, ifika kwindawo yokuhlala yindoda kwaye ithi, "Nabani na owonwabileyo?" Omnye wabafana uthi, "Zama umgangatho wesithathu. Bafumana amaphephancwadi ngesandla. "Kodwa uPeters uyaphendula," Ndakhele ukunyamezela kumaphephancwadi ... Ndifuna amavidiyo ... Ndifuna iifostile. Yintoni enkulu? "
Uyabona ukuba "uyanyamezela" njengomlutha weziyobisi ongenakukwazi ukuphakama kwimifanekiso eyake yajika. Kwaye ingozi kukuba ukunyamezela kuya kuthwala ubudlelwane, njengoko kwenzayo kwizigulane endazibonayo, ezikhokelela kwiingxaki zengxaki kunye neelitsha, ngamanye amaxesha, ezingavumelekanga. Xa ama-pornographers eqhayisa ukuba baqhube imvulophu ngokuzisa iindikimba ezintsha, ezinzima, into abangatshoyo kukuba kufuneka, kuba abathengi babo bayakha ukunyamezela kumxholo. Amaphepha omva wamaphephancwadi e-risque kunye nee-intanethi ze-intanethi zizaliswe ngeentengiso ze-Viagra-type drugs - unyango olwenzelwe amadoda amadala aneengxaki ze-erectile ezihlobene nokuguga kunye nemigodi yegazi ekhutshiwe kwi-penis. Namhlanje abaselula abanobuqhetseba obunqabileyo benoyikiyo kakhulu, okanye "i-erectile dysfunction" njengokuba kubizwe ngokugqithisileyo. Ixesha elilahlekayo lithetha ukuba aba bantu baneengxaki kwiipenise zabo, kodwa ingxaki isentloko zabo, kwiimephu zeengqondo zabo zesini. I-penis isebenza kakuhle xa zisebenzisa izithombe zoonografi. Akunakwenzeka ukuba kubakho ubuhlobo phakathi koonotygriso abayidlayo kunye nokungabi namandla. (Amadoda ambalwa, nangona kunjalo, achaza iiyure zabo kwiisayithi zoononophala zekhompuyutha njengoko ixesha lichithe "ukukhwabanisa ubuchopho bam".) Oku kungenxa yokuba, njengoko siza kubona, imifanekiso engamanyala, ekhutshwa yi-intanethi ye-intanethi ngokukhawuleza, inelisekisa nganye izinto ezifunekayo zokuguqulwa kwe-neuroplastic, kwaye ziyalutha.
Ukunyanzeliswa kwe-intanethi ye-intanethi ayikho isimboli. Hayi zonke izilingo ezibangelwa iziyobisi okanye utywala. Abantu banokuxhatshazwa ngokugqithiseleyo kumdlalo wokugembula, nokuba baqhube. Zonke izilingo zibonisa ukulahleka kolawulo lomsebenzi, ukuzenzele ukunyanzelisa ngaphandle kwemiphumo emibi, ukuhlakulela ukunyamezela ukuze badinga amanqanaba aphakamileyo aphakamileyo ekuvuseleleni ukwaneliseka, kunye namava okuyeka xa bengenakukwazi ukugcina isenzo somlutha.
Zonke izilwanyana zibandakanya ixesha elide, ngezinye iixesha, impilo yonke, inguqu ye-neuroplastiki kwingqondo. Ngenxa yokulutha, ukulungelelanisa kuhlale kungenakwenzeka, kwaye kufuneka baphephe into okanye umsebenzi ngokupheleleyo xa befuna ukuphepha ukuziphatha kakubi. Utywala Ongaziwayo unxininisa ukuba akukho "utywala" kwaye wenza abantu abangazange batywe ngamashumi eminyaka bazibandakanya ngokwabo kwintlanganiso ngokuthi, "Igama lam nguYohane, kwaye ndingumlwala wotywala". Ngokubhekiselele kwiplastiki, zihlala zichanekile.
Ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuba umlutha wesigqirha sisitrato, ngabaphandi kwiiNational Institutes of Health (NIH) eMaryland baqeqesha i-rat ukuze batyelele ibha de kube yinto yokutshulwa kwesilwanyana. Unzima kakhulu isilwanyana sikulungele ukusebenza ukunyusa ibha, ukutsalisa ngakumbi isibisi. I-Cocaine, phantse zonke ezinye iziyobisi ezingekho mthethweni, kunye nezidakamizwa ezingekho mthethweni ezifana nokusebenza kwenza i-neurotransmitter i-dopamine isebenze ngakumbi kwingqondo. I-Dopamine ibizwa ngokuba ngumshicileli womvuzo, kuba xa sifeze into ethile - siqhube umncintiswano kwaye siphumelele - ingqondo yethu ibangela ukukhululwa kwayo. Nangona siphelelwe amandla, sithola amandla amakhulu, ukuzonwabisa kunye nokuzithemba, nokuba siphakamise izandla zethu size siphumelele. Abalahlekileyo, ngakolunye uhlangothi, abangenayo i-dopamine enyukayo, bawa phantsi komgca wokugqibela, bazive bebuhlungu ngabo. Ngokutshitshisa inkqubo yethu ye-dopamine, izinto eziluthayo zisinika injabulo ngaphandle kokuba siyisebenzele.
I-Dopamine ikwabandakanyeka kutshintsho lweplastiki. Ukunyuka okufanayo kwe-dopamine evuyisayo nathi idibanisa uxhulumaniso lwe-neuronal olujongene nokuziphatha okusikhokele ekufezeni injongo yethu. Xa i-neuroscientist uMichael Merzenich wasebenzisa i-electrode ukukhuthaza inkqubo ye-animal dopamine yomvuzo ngelixa edlala isandi, ukukhululwa kwe-dopamine kwatshintsha utshintsho lweplastiki, ukwandisa ukumelelwa kwesandi kwiprogram ephicothiweyo yezilwanyana. Ukubambisana okubalulekileyo kunye noonobumba kukuba i-dopamine iphinda ikhululwe ngovuyo lwezesondo, ukwandisa isondo ngesondo kwizinto zesini, ukuququzelela i-orgasm, kunye nokusebenza kwamaziko okuzonwabisa. Ngako oko amandla okulutha kumanyala. I-University of Cambridge i-neuropsychiatrist UDkt Valerie Voon uye wabonisa ukuba abantu abachaza ngokwabo njengelomnxeba woononophala (kwaye balahlekelwa ubudlelwane ngenxa yalo) bahlakulele utshintsho kwindawo enye yengqondo - isikhungo sokuvuza - esitshintshisayo kwizilonda zamachiza.
U-Eric Nestler, kwiDyunivesithi yaseTexas, ubonakalisile ukuba amakhoboka abangela njani utshintsho olusisigxina kwiingqondo zezilwanyana. Idosi enye yamachiza amakhoboka amaninzi iya kuvelisa iprotein, ebizwa ngokuba yi-delta-FosB, eqokelela kwii-neurons. Ngalo lonke ixesha ichiza lisetyenziswa, i-delta-FosB engaphezulu iyaqokelela, ide iphose utshintsho lwemfuza, ichaphazele ukuba zeziphi iintlobo zofuzo ezivuliweyo okanye ezivaliweyo. Ukutsiba olu tshintsho kubangela utshintsho oluqhubeka ixesha elide emva kokumiswa kweziyobisi, kukhokelela kumonakalo ongenakulungiseka kwinkqubo yengqondo ye-dopamine kunye nokunikezela isilwanyana ngakumbi ekuthambekeleni ekubeni likhoboka. Iziyobisi ezingekho kweziyobisi, njengokubaleka kunye nokusela isiselo, kusenokukhokelela kuqokelelo lwe-delta-FosB kunye notshintsho olufanayo olusisigxina kwinkqubo yedopamine. Iifoto zoonografi zithembisa ukuzonwabisa okunempilo kunye nokukhululeka kwintlungu yesondo, kodwa oko bahlala bekunika umlutha, ukunyamezela, kunye nokunciphisa ekugqibeleni ukuzonwabisa. Ngokudabukisayo, abaguli abangamadoda endandisebenza nabo babedla ngokunqwenela iphonografi kodwa babengayithandi. Umbono oqhelekileyo kukuba umlutha ubuyela umva ngakumbi kulungiso lwakhe kuba uyaluthanda ulonwabo alunikayo kwaye akayithandi intlungu yokurhoxa. Kodwa iziyobisi zithatha iziyobisi xa kungekho themba lokonwaba, xa zisazi ukuba azinayo idosi eyoneleyo yokuzenza ziphakamise, kwaye ziya kulangazelela ngakumbi nangaphambi kokuba ziqale ukurhoxa. Ukufuna nokuthanda zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo.
Umlutha unomdla ngenxa yokuba ubuchopho bakhe beplastiki buye lwaphuhliswa kwiziyobisi okanye ngamava. Ukwahlula ukwahlukileyo kuyahluke nokunyamezela. Njengoko ukunyamezela kukhula, umlutha uyadinga ngaphezulu kwezinto okanye i-porn ukufumana umphumo omnandi; njengoko ukukhuthaza kukuphuhlisa, ufuna iimfuno ezingaphantsi kwezona zinto ukuba zikhange kakhulu. Ngoko ukukhuthaza ukukhokelela kukukhokelela ekufuneni, nangona kungabi nakuthandayo. Ukuqokelela kwe-delta-FosB, kubangelwa ukuchazwa kwento okanye umsebenzi wokulutha, okhokelela ekuvezeni.
Iifoto ezingcolileyo ziyanelisayo kunokuba ziyanelisekile ngenxa yokuba sinesistim sezinto ezimbini ezizincwisayo kwiibongo zethu, enye enxulumene nokuzonwabisa okuthakazelisayo kunye nomnye onelisayo. Inkqubo enomdla ihambelana nenjabulo "yesondlo" esiyifumana into esiyifunayo, njengesiza okanye isidlo esihle. I-neurochemistry yayo ininzi ihlobene ne-dopamine, kwaye iphakamisa izinga lethu lokuxhatshazwa.
Inkqubo yesibini yolonwabo inxulumene nokuzaneliseka, okanye ukuzonwabisa okugqibeleleyo, ehamba ngokwenene ukuya kwesondo okanye nokuba nesidlo, ukuthoba, ukuvuyisa. I-neurochemistry yayo ixhomekeke ekukhululweni kwe-endorphins, ehambelana ne-opiates kwaye inika uxolo, oluhle. I-Porn ikhupha isimiso soqhakamshelwano ngokunikezela ngezinto ezingasapheliyo zesini.
Amadoda kwiikhompyutheni zawo, mna kunye nabanye besiphatha kwi-1990s, ukujonga iifostile kwakungenasiphelo njengama-rats kumagumbi e-NIH, ukuchukumisa ibha ukufumana udonga lwe-dopamine okanye elilinganayo. Nangona bebengayazi, babekhohlisiwe kwiiseshoni zoqeqesho zoononografi ezidibanisa zonke iimeko ezifunekayo ekutshintsheni kweplastiki yeemephu zeengqondo. Ekubeni i-neurons etshaya kunye kunye nentambo kunye, aba bantu banamanani amaninzi ekusebenziseni iifowuni ezi ziko kwiindawo zokuzonwabisa zengqondo, kunye neengqwalasela ezifunekayo zokutshintsha kweplastiki. Baye bacinga le mifanekiso xa besuka kwiikhomputha zabo, okanye xa belalana neentombi zabo, beziqinisa. Ngamnye amaxesha abavakalelwa ngesondo kunye nokuba ne-orgasm xa bethweswa i-masturbated, "spritz ye-dopamine", i-neurotransmitter yomvuzo, idibanisa ukudibanisa okwenziwe kwingqondo ngexesha leeseshoni. Akuzange nje kuphela umvuzo uququzelele ukuziphatha; akuzange kubangele nayiphi na intloni abaye bavakalelwa ukuyithenga playboy evenkileni. Nantsi indlela yokuziphatha ngaphandle "kohlwaywa", kuphela umvuzo. Ngenxa yokuba iiplastikhi zinokhuphiswano, imephu yobuchopho yemifanekiso emitsha, enomdla inyuke ngeendleko zento ebitsalile ngaphambili-isizathu, ndiyakholelwa, baqala ukufumana iintombi zabo zingakhange zivulwe.
Ibali likaSean Thomas, lokuqala lipapashwe eNgilani Umbonisi, i-akhawunti ephawulekayo yendoda ehla emlonyeni wesilonda, kwaye ibonisa indlela amabala angamanyala aguqula ngayo iimodi zeengqondo kunye nokuguqula incamano yesondo, kwakunye nenxaxheba yenkcazo ye-plasticity kwinkqubo ebalulekileyo. UTomas wabhala wathi, "Andizange ndandithanda ukuthanda iifografi, kungekhona. Ewe, ebantwaneni bam e-Seventies ndandisoloko ndinekhophi engafanelekanga playboy phantsi kwam umlotha. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwam, andizange ndihambe ngesikhumba somhlaza okanye iifilimu zeblue.
Ndazifumana zixhala, ziphindaphinda, zingenangqondo kwaye zihlazo kakhulu ukuthenga. "Wayehlaselwa yintlungu yobungqina boononophala kunye nokugqithiswa kweengxowa ze-moustachioed ezazihlala kuyo. Kodwa ngo-2001, kungekudala emva kokuya kwi-intanethi, wafuna ukwazi ukuba wonke umntu owonwabileyo wathi uthatha i-intanethi. Zininzi zale ndawo zazikhululekile - ii-teasers, okanye "izitulo zamasango", ukuze abantu bangene kwizinto ezinzima. Kwakukho iindlovu zamantombazana athile, iintlobo eziqhelekileyo zesimo sengqondo sesondo kunye nezokhenketho, zenzelwe ukucofa iqhosha kwingqondo yengqungquthela, nokuba enye ayengazi ukuba nayo. UTomas wathola ukuba "bandidonsa ngandlela-thile ngolunye usuku olulandelayo. Kwaye okulandelayo. Kwaye ndelayo. "
Ngenye imini wadibana nesiza esasinemifanekiso eshushu. Okwamothusayo kukuba wonwaba kakhulu. Kungekudala uThomas wafumana zonke iintlobo zeziza ezinxulumene noko, ezinje nge "Bernie's Spanking Pages" kunye ne "Spanking College". Ubhale wathi, "Eli ibilixesha, ekuthi ngalo isiyobisi sangena. Umdla wam wokubetha wandenza ndacinga ukuba: Zeziphi ezinye izinto endandizigcina? Zeziphi ezinye iikona ezifihlakeleyo kunye nezivuzayo ezazisithele kwisini sam endiza kukwazi ukuphanda ngazo ngasese ekhayeni lam? Zininzi, njengoko kwavela. Ndifumene i-penchant enzulu, phakathi kwezinye izinto, i-gynecology yama-lesbian, i-hardcore yohlanga, kunye nemifanekiso yamantombazana aseJapan ekhulula iibhulukhwe zawo ezishushu. Ndikwabadlali bebhola yomnyazi bengenazo i-knickers, ndinxila amantombazana aseRussia eziveza, kunye neemeko ezithandekayo apho abadlali abathobekileyo baseDenmark babechetywa ngokusondeleyo ngamaqabane abo ababalaseleyo kwishower. Umnatha, ngamanye amazwi, undityhilele ukuba ndineentlobo ngeentlobo ezingathandabuzekiyo zeminqweno yesini kunye neminqweno kwaye inkqubo yokwanelisa le minqweno kwi-Intanethi ikhokelela kuphela kulomdla omkhulu.
Kuze kube yinto eyenzekayo kwimifanekiso yokugawula, mhlawumbi yathintela kumava abantwana okanye imfesane malunga nokuhlwaywa, imifanekiso ayibonayo inomdla kodwa ayizange imphoqe. Abanye abantu besithandana ngesondo. Amava kaTomas ayefana nezo zigulane zam: ngaphandle kokuqonda ngokucacileyo oko babekukhangela, bahlalutya amakhulu emifanekiso kunye neemeko baze bafikelele emfanekisweni okanye kwisicatshulwa sezesondo esithintele ingqungquthela engcwatywayo eyayibavuyisa ngokwenene.
Emva kokuba uTomas athole loo mfanekiso, watshintsha. Loo mfanekiso wecala wawugxininisekile, imeko yenguqu yeplastiki. Ngokungafani nomfazi oyinyaniso, le miifanekiso engamanyala yayisetyenziswa yonke imihla, imihla ngemihla kwikhompyutha.
Wazama ukuzilawula kodwa wayichitha ubuncinane iiyure ezintlanu ngosuku, ngokulala ngeeyure ezintathu nje ebusuku. Intombi yakhe, eyazi ukuba uyadinwa, wayezibuza ukuba ubona umntu. Waba ngumntu obuthongo kangangokuthi impilo yakhe yahlupheka, kwaye wafumana uluhlu lwezonyango ezambeka esibhedlele esiphuthumayo waza wambangela ukuba athabathe. Waqala ukubuza phakathi kwabahlobo bakhe abahlobo waza wafumanisa ukuba abaninzi babo babenobungozi.
Kucacile ukuba kukho into malunga noTomas ngesini, ngaphandle kokwazisa kwakhe, okwenzeka ngokukhawuleza. Ingaba umnatha unokwakheka nje ukutyhila ii-quirks kunye nekinks, okanye ngaba kunokubanceda ukudala? Ndicinga ukuba kudala imiba emitsha kwizinto zobunqunu eziye zangaphandle kwenkcazo yolwazi lwengqungquthela, ukuzisa ezi zinto ukuze zenze amanethiwekhi amaninzi. Akunakwenzeka ukuba amadoda amaninzi afakazele, okanye acinga, athobela abalingisi baseDanish ukuba bahlanjululwe ngokugqithiseleyo ngamalingani abo abesifazana esilalini. UFrud wafumanisa ukuba iingcamango ezinjalo zibamba ingqondo ngenxa yezinto ezithile kuzo. Ngokomzekelo, amadoda athile angamadoda angamaqabane anomdla kwiimeko zoononophelo apho abantu abadala, abasetyhini baqala abafazi abasebancinini ukuba balala ngesondo. Oku kunokwenzeka kuba abafana abasebuntwaneni babesoloko beziva belawulwa ngunina, ngubani "umphathi", kunye nokugqoka, ukuphazamisa nokuhlamba. Ukususela ebusheni abanye abafana banokudlula ixesha xa bechonga kakhulu oomama baze bazive 'njengentombazana', kwaye umdla wabo wesibini ngokuzibandakanya ngokwesondo ungabonakalisa ukuhlala kwabo bengabonakali. I-Porncore i-Hardcore ichaza ezinye zee-network zangasese zangasese ezenziwe ngamaxesha amaninzi okuphuhliswa ngokwesondo kwaye zizisa zonke ezi zinto zakuqala, ezilibalekileyo okanye ezixinzelelekileyo ukudibanisa ukwakha inethiwekhi entsha, apho zonke izixhobo zihlangene kunye. Iisayithi ze-Porn zivelisa ikhathalogu yeekinks eziqhelekileyo kwaye zidibanise kunye kwimifanekiso. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva i-surfer ifumana inhlanganisela yokubulala eyenza iqhosha leenqanawa zakhe zesondo ngexesha elilodwa. Emva koko ugxininisa intanethi ngokubukela imifanekiso ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukuhlaziya i-masturbating, ukukhulula i-dopamine nokuqinisa ezo manxeba. Udale uhlobo "lwezesini", i-libido eyakhiwe kwakhona eneengcambu ezinzulu kwiingcambu zakhe zokulala ngokwesondo. Ngenxa yokuba udla ngokunyamezela, ukonwaba kokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kufuneka kuhlonywe ngokukhululeka kokukhululwa, kwaye imifanekiso yesondo kunye nobudlova iyaxubana ngokugqithiseleyo - ngoko ke ukwanda kwimixholo ye-sadomasochistic kwi-hardcore porn.
Ukuphinda kuhlaziywa kweenkqubo zethu zokuzonwabisa, kunye nendlela esithatha ngayo izinto zesondo ezifumanekayo, kubonakala ngokugqithiseleyo kwizinto eziphambukayo njenge-masochism yezesondo, ezenza ubuhlungu benyama buvuyiswe ngesondo. Ukwenza oku, ingqondo kufuneka yenze imnandi into engavumelekiyo, kwaye iimvakalelo ezivakalayo zenza inkqubo yethu yentlungu ibuyiselwe kwiiplastiki kwisimo sethu sokuzonwabisa.
Abantu abaneziphambeko bahlala beququzelele ubomi babo malunga nemisebenzi edibanisa ulwaphulo kunye nesondo, kwaye bahlala bebhiyozela kwaye baqhelise ukuhlaziswa, ubundlobongela, ukunyaniseka, ukungavunyelwa, ukukhwabanisa, isono esinomdla kunye nokuqhekeka kweentsimbi; baziziva bekhethekileyo ngokuba "bengabantu" nje. Ezi zengqondo "eziphambukayo" okanye ezingcolileyo ziyabalulekile ekunandiseni ukuguquka.
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kubonisa i-plasticity kuba ifakela ukuthambekela ezimbini eziqhelekileyo, isondo kunye nobudlova, ngasinye sinokubangela ukunandipha ngokwahlukileyo, kwaye sibahlanganise ngoko xa bekhutshwa, ukuzonwabisa kuya kuphinda kabini. Kodwa i-masochism-ibonakala ibonakala kubantu abaye baphathwa kakubi kakhulu - kuqhubeka ngakumbi kuba kuthatha into engavumelekanga, intlungu, kwaye ijika ibe yinto yolonwabo, iguqula isondo soxhatshazo ngokubhekiselele kwaye ngokucacileyo, kubonisa i-plasticity yethu yolonwabo kunye nentlungu iinkqubo.
Inkolelo yaseCanada yaseNtanethi, uMarshall McLuhan, isoloko ibonisa ukuba umyalezo ungumyalezo. Ngelixesha apho i-media gurus ikhona kuyo yonke indawo, bambalwa abayiqonda ngokwenene, njengokuba yenzayo, ukuba abeendaba basitshintshe, siyisebenzise, kwaye asikho enye indlela. I-media gurus yethu icinga ukuba nguwe ophetheyo.
Ndiye ndathi izigulane kwi-1990s eziphakathi kokuqala ukusebenzisa i-intanethi ye-intanethi (kwaye ngoko iyakulinganisa impembelelo yayo, njengoko uTomas yenzayo, kumaphephancwadi angaphambili e-girlie) bavame ukuvula njengoko begqitywa ngeekhompyutha zabo, nokuba bebekho. I-libidos yabo yaqhotyoshelana nephakathi.
Kwincwadi yakhe, Iingqungquthela zeBunny: KwiiVala eziValayo kwi-Playboy Mansion, U-Izabella St James, owayengomnye wabalingane be-Hugh Hefner "abasemthethweni," ochazwe ngesondo kunye noHef. Hef, ekupheleni kwe70s, wayeza kulala ngesibini ngeveki, ngamanye amaxesha kunye neentombi zakhe ezine okanye ngaphezulu, uSt James phakathi kwabo. Wayenemveli, iindidi, ininzi kunye nabasetyhini abazimisele ukwenza oko akuthandayo. Ekupheleni kobuchule obonwabileyo, wabhala uSt James, wafika "isiphephelo esikhulu.
Apha, indoda enokuthi iphile ngokugqithiseleyo, ibe neenkwenkwezi zezobuqhetseba, kunoko ziphenduke inyama yazo yangempela kunye nomnxeba, kumfanekiso kwiskrini. Abanye banokuthi, "Mnike umntu okhulileyo ikhefu", wayeneminyaka engama-70 ubudala, mhlawumbi wayefuna uncedo oluncinane kwi-orgasm. Kodwa eso sichaso silahlekelwa ngongoma, nto leyo eyamnceda yayingeyona inkwenkwezi enononopopayi, kodwa imifanekiso ye-celluloid yayo, isusiwe kanye. Kwakukho, ndiyasikisela, umzekelo onamandla wokuba isantya sesini somntu onyanisekileyo sithatyathwa ngumgangatho omela lowo mntu ekususeni.
Ngokubhekisele kwizigulane ezathi zibandakanyeke kwi-pornography, abaninzi banakho ukuhamba bebandayo xa beqonda ingxaki kunye nendlela ababeyixhasa ngayo iplastiki. Bafumanisa ekugqibeleni ukuba bakhangwa kwakhona kubayeni babo. Akukho namnye kula madoda ayenomntu ogqirha umlingo okanye ubunzima obunzima bebuntwaneni, kwaye xa beqonda ukuba kwenzekani kubo, bayeka ukusebenzisa iikhompyutheni zabo ithuba lokunciphisa amanxeba abo engxaki ye-neuronal, kwaye ukuthanda kwabo ngoononophelo kwancipha. Abanye babo babesenokuba nobudlelwane obunzima, oboniswa ngumbono wezinto eziphilayo: oko kuthiwa yi-coolidge yempembelelo, apho izilwanyana ezisemlonyeni, esele zanelisekile ngokwesondo, zinomdla wokwabelana ngesondo ngokukhawuleza zivuselele umlingane omtsha. Oku kunokwakhiwa kwindoda, ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukukhulisa amathuba abo okuzala. Ngokungazisebenzisi iikhompyutheni zabo kwixesha elide, bobabini banqumla isilingo baze baqhuba omnye umthetho we-neuroplastic: i-neurons etshaya ngaphandle kwecingo, engasetyenziselwa ukuphula umkhuba ongafunekiyo.
Ukuba umntu ochaphazelekayo kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi ngumntu oye waba neqabane, okanye amaqabane, kodwa naye unomdla wokulutha, angafuneki nje ulwazi malunga nendlela umjikelezo ongezelelweyo ngayo usebenza ngayo, kodwa uncedo oluninzi oluye luncedo kwezinye izilingo.
Ukufumana kwakhona ukulawulwa kunokuba nzima kwizigulane, ngexesha labo elibucayi, zifumene ukhetho lweentlobo zesini ezinengxaki, kwaye zifumene le mibalelo yenziwe ngokutsha, ngokubangela ukuba i-pornography. (Cinga ngo "ukuphala" njengento enokubangela, ukukhathazeka kwabantwana.) Amadoda anjalo, xa athe unyango, akwazi ukuhlalutya intsingiselo yezinto ezintsha zokubangela, ukuba afunde ukuba kutheni ababenokubambisana nabo, nokuyikhulula loo nto . (Akuqhelekanga xa abantu benengxaki engaphendulwanga, ukuba, ukuba baqonde iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu abazenzayo, bafumane indlela yokubenza babe "mnandi." Njengoko ukuxhaswa ngokwesondo kunye nokukhupha kumnandi, ukucinga ngeengxaki zidla " "." Kodwa ke ezinye zala madoda zakwazi ukutshintsha uhlobo lwabo lwesini, kwindlela yokwelapha, ngenxa yemithetho efanayo ye-neuroplasticity evumela ukuba sibe neengcamango ezinengxaki ivumela ukuba unyango olunzulu, ukufumana abantu abatsha, abaphilileyo kunye nakwezinye iimeko baze balahlekelwa bethu abadala, abakhathazayo. Siqala ukufunda, kwenzululwazi, indlela yokufumana izidakamizwa ezenzeka ngayo. Ngokwenene, ixesha lokuzilahla elifunekayo lifuneka ukuba isikhungo somvuzo sengqondo sibuyele phambili qhe lekile xa ebusweni bokuba ngumlutha, Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba ulwaphulo oluthile luhlala, njengoko kwimeko ye-delta-FosB ichazwe ngasentla. Ekubeni umdlalo wesondo ngokwawo uyinto eqhelekileyo, kungekhona isichengisi, de sibe nezifundo zokubuyisela izilonda zoononophelo, asiyi kukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo.
Yimeko ehluke kakhulu xa usebenzisana nomntu obesondeleyo ngokwesondo kwaye uhlala eboshwe kwi-sadomasochism, kwaye ngubani ongaboni ukuba unengxaki. Umntu onjalo akafumani isilathiso sesondo xa usebenzisa iifostile, kodwa ukuqiniswa okukhoyo. Kubalulekile ukugcina engqondweni kungekuphela nje ukuziphatha komlutha, kodwa ngubani na ogcina. Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba banamathuba ambalwa kumncintiswano kubalingani abakhayo nabanobuchule. Mhlawumbi zibona zijongene nomsebenzi, isimo sezenhlalakahle okanye impilo, zikholelwa "zimbi". Bakholelwa ukuba "baphantsi kolawulo oluphezulu", kwaye oku kubenza bangabonakali njengabalingani kwabanye. Basenokurhoxisa ukudibana, ngokuphelelwa lithemba. Kubo, ubomi bobugqwetha buba lula ngokuthatha indawo yesondo kubuhlobo. Ivakalelwa kubo, "into engcono kakhulu yokuyenza". Ukubanceda kufuna ukubanceda bafunde ukujongana nemiba eyenza bave ngathi "balahlekile".
Akufuneki ukuba, abatsha abaselula, ngenxa yokungakwazi kwabo, bahlala becinga ukuba baphantsi kolawulo oluphezulu, njengoko bekhulelwe, ngabafazi abathandekayo. Ziziphi iikliniki ezingayazi ngokubanzi, kodwa kunjalo, sinokubanceda njani abatsha, abanomdla wokuziphatha ngokwesini bachatshazelwa ngoononophelo, kuba le nqanaba lokutshatyalaliswa koononophelo lutsha. Ngaba ezi mpembelelo kunye nezinto ezithandayo ziya kuvela ngaphandle? Okanye ngaba iziganeko ezitsha zoononophelo ziza kuzingca ngenxa yokuba le minyaka ishumi elivisayo isisithuba sokufunda?
Abantu, njengenkwenkwe InRealLife, akuzona nje iingoma ezigumbini, njengemifanekiso kwiiNational Institutes of Health. Le nkwenkwe yabonisa ukuxakeka kwizinto ezenziwa kuye. Sithemba, njengoko intsha ixoxa ngoku ngakumbi, njengoko le nkwenkwe yenza, ukuba baya kuthatha inyathelo. Namhlanje, kukho iindiza zewebhsayithi ezisuka kwintsholongwane kunye namadoda amancinci, abika ingxelo yokuba kubakho ubusika obandayo kubonakala kubasebenza. Akunjalo zonke izilingo ezilinganayo; kwaye ezinye zibonakala zibuyiselwa. Ingqondo-okanye-yokulahlekelwa ingqondo, nokuba yintoni apho umnqweno wesondo kunye noluthando oluchaphazelekayo. Oku kuthetha ukuba izigqibo zala makhwenkwe aziyilo kuphela izenzo ezithathayo, ngexesha elithile, kodwa umlo kunye nesakhiwo sobulumko babo, ngaphezu kwexesha elide. Ukuba ukuqonda, yedwa, kunokwaneleyo ukubenza bachithe ixesha elide bacinga ngeyona ndlela ekholisayo.
Ukugqitywa kwinqanaba ukusuka Ubungqina Obuguqula, 2007, copyright © Norman Doidge, 2007.
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