Ukufumana uncedo kwimiba enxulumene nokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn ngumbono olungileyo. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabanyangi abanambono wokuba umlutha wanamhlanje ukonyusa amanyala e-Intanethi. Uninzi lwaqeqeshwa xa luhleli, luthambile playboy yayingumntu ongamanyala, nangaphambi kokuba isayensi yezobuchopho esandul ukufana okufutshane phakathi kwezinto ezivuselela kakhulu kunye nokuziphatha-zombini ezinokuvelisa iziyobisi. Olunye uqeqesho lwabacebisi lubonisa ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn njengesixhobo sonyango!
Wathi ilungu lomntu:
Xa ndandwendwela ugqirha ndamthumela amakhonkco kwimisonto emibini kunye namaphepha ewebhu malunga ne-ED enxulumene ne-porn, ukuze aqonde ukuba kwakungekho nje engqondweni yam kodwa yayiyingxaki yokwenyani. Wayemangalisiwe linani labafana abahamba noku. Uninzi lwabanyangi bebesenza imisebenzi yabo iminyaka, kwaye isiseko seengcebiso zabo kuqeqesho / kumava amabali empumelelo ngaphambi kwexesha lokusasaza iphonografi kwakufumaneka ngokulula. Ngapha koko i-'skool 'yakudala i-Therapists yayihlala i-PRESCRIBE porn kunokuba icebise ukuyeka. Ndizifumene ndifundisa i-Therapist yam ngaphezu kokuba ibindifundisa ... kwaye inguye ohlawulelweyo. Icela inkolelo!
Okwangoku, wayelinenekazi elilungileyo kwaye ke andinangxaki kakhulu. Ngaphezu koko, i-intanethi ye-intanethi yinto entsha. Ngokwam ndingacebisa ukuba ubone enye, banokwenza njengomcebisi olungileyo ongagwebi.
Ndincoma ukufundisa ugqirha wakho ngaphambi kotyelelo. Njengoko ungumthengi, ugqirha akufuneki asihoye isicelo sakho. Usenokuzimisela ukuwuthatha nzulu lo mbandela xa kubonakala ukuba uphandile kwaye wanxulumene nemiba leyo. Ndicinga ukuba amakhonkco endimthumele wona andincedile. Kwakungothuswa yindlela ababenomsindo ngayo uninzi lwabafana abancinci ukuba 'bamfumene'.
Ngokombono wam, ukuhambisa le ngxaki ngumbhali nge-imeyile kusengaphambili kufuneka kuncede ukususa nayiphi na ukuphika / ukunyaniseka kokuqala malunga nokuxhatshazwa koonobumba kunye neempawu ezihambelanayo.
Umtshato kunye nonyango losapho
A Uphando lwe-2008 umtshato kunye neentsapho zonyango ziye zabonisa ukuba abaqeqeshelwa ukujongana nokuxhatshazwa koonwabo.
Abaninzi abasabelayo babika ukuba izifundo zabo ezifunekayo zeekholeji zazingabancedi ekuzilungiseleleni ukuxilonga nokuphatha iingxaki ze-intanethi.
Ngokuchanekileyo. Endaweni yokuba bafundiswe iphonografi ayinabungozi. Ingcebiso enjalo ilungile kwiingqondo ezingakabikho kwimali eseleyo ngenxa yokugqitha. Ukuba bekungekho into efana ne-intanethi ye-intanethi, abaninzi abantu abanakuze bahlakulele umlutha wokuhlambalaza. Oku kuthetha ukuba "yenza unothanda xa unomdla" ingcebiso iya kuba sengqiqweni.
Ukoziphatha ngokwesondo okunyanzelekileyo
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ugqirha wakho uqhelekile, imfundo yabo yobukhoboka isemva kwamaxesha. Akazange afunde ukuba i-intanethi ye-intanethi inamandla okugqithisa ukuthanda kwakho kwendalo kunye nokwenza umlutha. Basenokucinga ukuba iziyobisi zinokwenzeka kuphela ngezinto, kwaye ukuphulula amalungu esini akunakuba likhoboka “ngaphandle kokuba umntu uneentloni ngokwenkolo.” Ukongeza, abanokungazi malunga nokuchongwa okuzayo “yokuziphatha ngokwesondo”Kwi-ICD-11 yoMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi.
Kwakusoloko kucingwa ukuba isondo kunye nokutya akunakubangela iziyobisi. Siyicinge le nto kuba ubuchwephesha bendalo beendlela zokwenza ukuba zilawule ukusetyenziswa kwazo. Oko kukuthi, bekucingelwa ukuba abantu bayayeka xa "banele". Akunjalo, nangona kunjalo, namhlanje i-intanethi ephezulu kakhulu-okanye ukutya okungenamsoco. Sele ama-30% abantu baseMelika betyebile (likhoboka lokutya). Into efanayo iyenzeka kuninzi lwabadlali bevidiyo abadumileyo. Amanqanaba okulutha kwimidlalo eHungary nase China phakathi kolutsha yi-18% kunye ne-14% ngokwahlukeneyo.
Uphando olutsha
Ke amathuba kukuba ugqirha wakho ukhumbula ukuba zithini iincwadi zakhe zezifundo. Okanye uhamba ngamava akhe njengomntu ongeyomlutha. Ucinga ukuba umngcipheko omkhulu ojamelana nawo kukucinezelwa ngokwesondo. Ayiyo. Kukungumlutha: utshintsho oluthembekileyo kuthixo kwingqondo yakho olunokuthi lutshintshe impendulo yengqondo yakho kunye nolawulo oluphezulu.
Uphando olutsha luye lwabonisa oku. Enyanisweni, kwi-2011 i-American Society of Addiction Medicine (oogqirha be-3000) babala ingxelo kawonkewonke kuchaza oku kwaye uchaza ngokuthe ngqo ukuba isondo unako ube likhoboka. Kwi-2018, incwadi esetyenziswa kakhulu kwezonyango yokuqonda isifo, Ulwahlulo lwaMazwe ngamazwe (ICD-11), wadala i-diagnostic entsha ezifanele ukuxhatshazwa koonwabo: "Ukuxhatshazwa kwezesondo ngokunyanisekileyo. "
Inzululwazi yeziyobisi
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ugqirha wakho akakhange aqeqeshwe ngokuthe ngqo kwingqondo yesayensi yokulutha, kuya kufuneka ukulungele ukufumana umntu okwaziyo. Nantsi amava omntu omnye:
Ndaya kunyangi owathi wayeyingcali kumlutha we-intanethi. Ndamxelela ke ngengxaki yam kwaye wanika le ntetho ngendlela eqhelekileyo kwaye sonke singabantu besini. Uqhubeke nokuthetha ngendlela amaxabiso alondolozayo andenza ndizive ndineentloni ngokujonga iphonografi kwaye wazama ukundenza ndiqiniseke ukuba andinamlutha. Okona kubi kakhulu wathetha kakubi ngam ngathi ndineminyaka eli-12 ubudala! Ndamxelela ingxaki yam kukuba ndichithe ixesha elininzi kakhulu kwi-porn, kwaye uyazi ukuba uthini? Undixelele ukuba ndisebenzise isibali maxesha kwaye ndisete iyure yonke! Andizange ndimbone emva koko.
Kusenokufuneka ufundise ugqirha wakho:
Ukufika kwam kugqirha wam kuqala ngokubhekisele kwi-ED yam engachazekiyo, uxinzelelo olugqithisileyo lwezesondo, kunye nokusilela ngokupheleleyo kwe-libido, waqala wayalela uvavanyo lwe testosterone. Xa oku kubuya kuqhelekile, wandibeka kumayeza oxinzelelo. Yonke le nto isentloko yakho, kufuneka uzikhumbuze ngaloo nto, kwaye oku kunganceda. ” Ngelixa konke oko kwakusentloko yam, kwaye iipilisi zazinokunceda, azange zifike kwingcambu yomcimbi. Kwaphela iinyanga kuqhubeka ngokuqhubeka kwe-ED kunye nokusilela kwimizamo yokwabelana ngesondo, kwaye zonke ezo zinto zongezwa kwisimo sengqondo esibi kakhulu.
Ngapha koko, i-NoFap ibincedile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kwaye ukusuka kumabali empumelelo endiwafundileyo (kunye nomthamo wazo), ndinethemba lokuba iya kuqhubeka ilunge kwaye iyilungise le nto. Ke, xa bendizolala izolo, ndinike ugqirha wam ikhonkco Intetho yeTEDx Ndathetha naye kancinci malunga nomxholo. Wayebonakala enomdla kakhulu, kwaye ndicinga ukuba uza kuyinika iwotshi. Ndiyathemba ukuba uyayenza, angakhomba enye indoda esokolayo kwicala elifanelekileyo.
Ukuboniswa kwevidiyo:
- Ubunjengebuntongo obuneminyaka engama-10 bubambisana noThishino lwe-intanethi ephakamileyo (2013)
- Ubunjani bakho kwiBonic Series (Powerpoint)
- I-Erectile Dysfunction kunye noTyhutho (Ipower Point)
- TEDx Talk
- Isiteshi se-YouTube UNowa abe yiCawa
- Isiteshi se-YouTube seGabe Deem: Isizwe sokubuyisela isizwe
Nika umgqirha wakho uluhlu lweenzululwazi kubasebenzisi bezonon:
- Umlingo woTywala / wesondo? Eli phepha liluhlu Izifundo ze-40 ze-neuroscience (I-MRI, i-FMRI, i-EEG, i-neuropsychological, i-hormonal). Banikela ngenkxaso enamandla kwimodeli yoxilongo njengoko iziphumo zabo zibonakalisa iziphumo zeengqondo ezichazwe kwizifundo zokuxhatshaliswa kweziyobisi.
- Iingcamango zangempela zeengcali zoononongo / isondo? Olu luhlu luqulethe 18 Ukuphononongwa koncwadi kwangoku kunye neenkcazo ngenye yezinzulu zenzululwazi kwihlabathi. Yonke inkxaso ngenkxaso yomzobo.
- Iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa kunye nokunyuka kwamanqaku angaphezulu? Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-30 zokunika ingxelo ezifunyenweyo ezihambelana nokwanda kokusetyenziswa kwe-porn (ukunyamezelana), ukuhlala kwi-porn, kunye neempawu zokurhoxa (zonke iimpawu kunye neempawu ezinxulumene nomlutha).
- Ukuxubusha ingongoma engathethiweyo yokuthetha "inqweno yesini ephakamileyo" ichaza ukuxhatshazwa koonobumba okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini: Ubuncinci izifundo ze-25 zikhohlisa ibango lokuba isini kunye neziyobisi ezingamanyala "banomnqweno ophezulu wesondo"
Iingxaki ze-porn nezesondo
- Iiduna kunye neengxaki zesondo? Olu luhlu luqulethe izifundo ze-26 + ezidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koonwabo / ukunxilwa koononophelo kwiingxaki zesondo kunye nokwenyuka kokunciphisa kwisini. The Izifundo zokuqala ze-5 kuluhlu lubonisa bangela, njengabathathi-nxaxheba baqhelise ukusetyenziswa koononophelo kunye nokuphulukisa izifo ezingasinikiyo zesondo.
- Imiphumo yeSigxina kwimibutho? Izifundo eziphantse ze-60 zidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo ukuya kwisini esincinci kunye nolwaneliseko lobuhlobo. (Ngokuba sifuna zonke Izifundo ezibandakanya abesilisa ziye zaxela ukusetyenziswa koononophelo olunxulumene nalo zihlwempu zesini okanye ukwaneliseka kobudlelwane.)
- Ukusetyenziswa koonobumba kunokuchaphazela impilo yengqondo nengqondo? Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-55 ezinxibelelanisa ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn nakwimpilo yengqondo-yeemvakalelo kunye neziphumo ezibi zokuqonda.
- Ukusetyenziswa koonobumba kunokuchaphazela iinkolelo, iingcinga kunye nokuziphatha? Hlola uphando lomntu ngamnye Izifundo ze-25 zidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo "kwiingcamango ezingafaniyo" malunga nabasetyhini kunye neengcamango zesondo - okanye isishwankathelo kule mvavanyo-meta ye-2016: Imidiya kunye nokuSondo: I-State of Research Empirical, 1995-2015.
Amaqela athile abasebenzisi
- Kuthiwani ngoxhatshazo ngokwesondo kunye nokusetyenziswa kwezilwanyana? Olunye uhlalutyo lweemeta: I-Meta-Uhlalutyo lweeNzame zoTywala kunye nezoNyathelo zeZenzo zoLwabizo ngokwesondo kwi-Studies General Population (2015).
- Kuthiwani malunga nokusetyenziswa koonwabo kunye nentsha? Khangela olu uluhlu lwangaphezulu Ucwaningo lwe-200 olutsha, okanye olu xwebhu lwe-2012 yophando - Impembelelo ye-intanethi ye-Internet kwi-Adolescents: Ukuphononongwa koPhando (2012). Ukususela kwisiphelo:
- Ukuze i-debunking malunga nantoni nganye yokuthetha kunye ne-cherry-picking study yibone oku kuluhlu olubanzi: Debunking "Kutheni Sisaxhalabe Ngokuphathelele Ukujonga Iidemon?? ", NguMarty Klein, Taylor Kohut, noNicole Prause (2018). Indlela yokuqaphela amanqaku afanelekileyo: Ba catshulwa Prause et al., I-2015 (ngokukholelwa ngokukhohlisa ukuba ikhupha umlutha we-pornography), ngelixa idibanisa ngaphezu kwe-3 izifundo ezili-12 ze-neurological support the drug addiction.
Imifanekiso engamanyala kwi-Intanethi ihlukile kwaye inokubangela umlutha
Iimpawu eziphambili zendlela i-intanethi ye-porn eyahlukileyo kunye nendlela ukusetyenziswa kunokubangela ukulutha kuchazwe apha. Ndicebisa ukuba ndizifunde ngokulandelelana:
- I-Porn, Intsingiselo, kunye ne-Coolidge
- I-Porn Now And Now: Siyakwamukela kwiBrain Training
- Kutheni akufanele ukuba uJohnyny Watch Porn xa ethanda?
- Unokumthemba uYohson wakho?
- I-Porn, i-Pseudoscience ne-DFF
- Izifundo zoTywala ze-Intanethi zikhoyo ziquka i-Porn
- Izilwanyana ezizithobileyo ziya kufakwa ngokukhawuleza zisebenzisa i-WHO Diagnostic Manual (ICD-11)
- Ngaba Unamathele kwiSono? Buza ASAM
- Ukucima iincwadi zakho zezifundo: Amadokhumenti aphinde ahlaziye iziLawuli zokuziphatha koTyala. I-American Society of Addiction Medicine iyavuma ukungavumelani ne-DSM
- Abaselula abasebenzisa izilwanyana badinga ixesha elide ukuze bafumane iMojo yabo
- I-Porn, i-Masturbation noMojo: I-Neuroscience Perspective
Ukudibanisa nayo yonke indawo kwindawo enye
- Ukuxhatshazwa kwezesondo ezixhatshazwa ngokwesondo
- Imibuzo ngokuphathelele iimpawu ezinxulumene nezocwangco
Ukuqhagamshelana neengcali kule ndawo
- Iingcali ezibona i-porn-induced dysfunctions, ezibandakanya i-PIED
- Isondo kwiBongo: Yiyiphi i-Brain Plasticity Teaching About Porn Internet (2014), Norman Doidge, MD
- Norman Doidge kwi-Pornography kunye neuroplasticity (isahluko esivela Ubungqina Obuguqula)
- I-ED-eyenziwe ngu-ED iboniswe kwiNgqungquthela Yombutho wase-American Urologic, ngoMeyi 6-10, 2016: Icandelo 1, Icandelo 2, Icandelo 3, Icandelo 4.
- "Inqunu eNtsha" ngu-urologist uHarry Fisch, MD (2014)
Imibutho kunye "nokuziphatha okunyanzelekileyo ngokwesondo"
- Ukuxilongwa ngokusemthethweni: Eyona ncwadi isetyenziswa kakhulu kwihlabathi yokuxilonga, Ulwahlulo lwaMazwe ngamazwe (ICD-11), iqulethe uvavanyo olutsha ezifanele ukuxhatshazwa koonwabo: "Ukuxhatshazwa kwezesondo ngokunyanisekileyo. "(2018)
- Iphepheni evuselelwe ngontanga UDLM-5 ilungu leqela lomsebenzi wezocansi uRichard Krueger MD: Ukuqondwa yokuziphatha ngokwesini okanye ukuziphatha ngokunyanzelekileyo ngokwesondo kungenziwa ngokusebenzisa i-ICD-10 kunye ne-DSM-5 nxamnye nokuchaswa kwesi sifo seMelika Umbutho Wezengqondo
- Iingcali eziPhambili zaseMelika (i-ASAM) zisandula ukukhupha iNkcazo eNtsha yokuThoba iziyobisi (ngo-2011)
- Umbutho waseMelika woNyango lweziyobisi: Inkcazo yoTywala -Inguqulelo ende (2011)
- Isiko seSizwe seMpilo yengqondo (i-NIMH): I-DSM ilahlekile kwaye iphelelwe yisikhathi (2013).
Nceda unxibelelane nathi ngezinye iingcebiso. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba bavele kule ndawo.
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