AKUKHO nto yokucoca ulwimi xa uthetha nge-porn kunye noGabriel Deem, indoda ethi ukususela kwiminyaka ye-11 yayisoloko itya izinto ezibonisa amanyala ngokubaluleka kwamanyala.
Kwakuyinto enyanzelekileyo ekugqibeleni eyamphanga kuye nawuphi na umdla wokwenyani, ukulala ngesondo nomnye umntu. Ibali lakhe lisebenza njengesilumkiso kubazali abajongana nentsingiselo yesiqhelo eziswe bubuquity be-Intanethi. Akulona ibali elilula ukuliva, kodwa libalulekile nokuba kutheni.
Oko kwaqala njengesiqhelo, i-voyeurism yomntwana osesikolweni kunye nokuhlola bakhula baba ngumkhwa u-Deem, ngoku u-27, akanangxaki yokuchaza njengeziyobisi, yonke into engendawo njengesiyobisi.
Wayengumntu ophambili kwiskolo esithi akukho mzali, ukuba babefundile ingqondo yakhe, ngebebafuna ecaleni kwentombi yabo.
“Ndangena kumanyala abonisa ukuxhaphaza. Ekugqibeleni ndaye ndaqala ukunqwenela ukuba kulwalamano lwam olusenyongweni. Izinto ezinokwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo-ezinje ngomqala onzulu, ukubamba umqala-okanye isondo ezimpundwini, andinqwenanga kwasekuqaleni.
U-Deem uxinzelela ukuba wayengazange ahlukumeze, kodwa ukubekwa kwakukhona, inika ubunzima engqondweni yakhe kwaye igqwetha imbono yakhe ngamantombazana kunye nokusondelana.
Izinto eziphembelele ukungasebenzi kakuhle zifumaneka ngokulula kuye nawuphi na umntwana ngokufikelela kwi-Intanethi, utsho uDem, Texan edolophini namhlanje malunga nengxoxo yeBeyond Border yoBantwana Bethu.
Iyintoni le nyala? “Ukuxhatshazwa ebusweni - mbethe ngempama. Bayamlilisa ngelixa bethoba isitho sakhe sangasese kuye kangangoko banako. ”
Ndingathi ndimakishe isikhululo kule kholamu- jika iphepha ukuba uJunior uphulukanisa iCorn Flakes yakhe ekufuphi - kodwa uDem uthi ukuba umntwana wakho uyakwazi ukuhamba kwi-Intanethi, sele eyibonile le nto.
Ke siyakuthengisa ngezinto ezamkelekileyo eluntwini.
Kwaye ngumyalezo wakhe: Jonga ukuba yintoni abantwana bakho abayitsalelayo kwizixhobo zabo ze-elektroniki. Thetha nabo, ngokungafihlisiyo, malunga nento ebusweni babo.
Sasidla ngokubizwa ngokuba yi-hard-core. Inkcazo engcono kuyo iyityhefu. Kunobundlongondlongo, ukuthoba isidima kunye nokujonga izinto kwaye kuyabukeka, kufumaneka kwimivimbo embalwa ephambili. Iphonografi yayikhutshiwe, iphepha ngephepha, kwaye yafunyanwa phantsi komatrasi okanye kwindawo yokulahla idolophu. Namhlanje, akukho mda ekusebenziseni okungasetyenziswanga njengoko abantwana bechitha iiyure ezine, ezintlanu zexesha lesikrini, engalawulwa kwigumbi lokulala.
Kukho ubungqina bokuba umlutha we-porn ubangela i-hits yeekhemikhali kwingqondo efanayo neziyobisi, ukulingisa iimpembelelo kwii-receptors kunye ne-neurotransmitters. Ababukeli bayatyhafiswa kwaye baphakamise idayali, bayathetha. UDem uthi ukuxhatshazwa kwakhe, kunye nokwabanye abaninzi abajoyina amaqela oncedo kwi-Intanethi, kukhokelele ekungasebenzi kakuhle erectile.
Ukuhlawula i-porn warps umnqweno womntwana. Itshintsha indlela abafana abajonga ngayo amantombazana, uDeem uyalumkisa, indlela abathetha ngayo kwiiholo esikolweni.
"Khange sithethe ukuba ngawaphi amantombazana ancamisayo xa sineminyaka eli-14 ubudala, kodwa (malunga) nesini esiza kwenza esona sini simnandi somlomo okanye esivumela ezesondo."
Kwaye amantombazana abeka iimpahla zawo kukhuphiswano olukumgangatho ophezulu apho ukuthunyelwa kwemizobo yefowuni kulicebo lokulwa kunye neembangi zembali.
Utsho njalo uJennifer Lawrence: “umfana wakho uza kujonga iphonografi okanye uza kujonga.” Iifoto zakhe ezinganxibanga zatshutshiswa ngolwaphulo-mthetho ekukhanyeni kwemini.
Ekugqibeleni, uDemem akakwazanga ukuvuswa kukubona okanye ukuchukumisa ngokusondeleyo komzimba wabasetyhini. Wayekwindlela yokutya eqhubeka ecacisa ngakumbi, enogonyamelo. Ekugqibeleni, waya kubanda obandayo ukuze aphile, inguquko ende kunye enzima.
Kukho inkolelo, ngesiseko esithile, sokuba abaxhamli be-intanethi basebenzise i-porn njengelithi. Kodwa ibali likaDemem lisitshela ukuba kukho utshintsho olusemgangathweni kwimikhwa yentlalo kunye nobudlelwane obondla kuphuhliso lwezesondo, oluchaphazela impilo kunye nokhuseleko lwamakhwenkwe namantombazana ethu, indlela abayichaza ngayo imeko yabo yemizimba yabo, ngokwabo, indawo yabo emhlabeni. yenza ukuba umntu alangazelele iintsuku apho idolophu igqwethayo kunye ne-haunts yabo emnandi yayichongwa ngokulula kumantombazana e-pubescent. Bambalwa kuthi abasindileyo bangadyobhekanga ngookhetshe beenkuku abavumba ithuba lokuba msulwa. Sasinesibindi sokukhula kwamabhinqa phakathi kwendyikityha yokufa, kwaye sasijonga ngobuqhetseba kwisikrelemnqa esinokuthi sibakhusele abantwana bethu ngokufundisa ukukhwaza "ingozi engaziwayo."
I-Intanethi ibeka ezandleni zabo amakhwenkwe namantombazana ilizwe elikhulu, elihle nelimangalisayo. Kodwa olu hambo lugcwele ngamava amabi.
Abazali kufuneka babe nobulumko kwiingozi.
Qhubeka nokuthetha nabantwana bakho, thanda ngokungagungqiyo. Kunkqonkqozwa kwigumbi lokulala qho ngoku.
Beka amaxabiso, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ubudlelwane buzinzile ukuze xa unyana okanye intombi yakho ibuza - njengoko sonke sizenzile, kwaye bonke baya kuthi- kutheni le nto ingavakali ilungile, bayaliva ilizwi lakho, nabo, phakathi iimpembelelo ezimbi ezazibathwalisa nzima.
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