'Iingcamango eziNgendawo eziBhiliyidi' Kuphela sisifinyezo: Izifundo ezide kufuneka siveze ukuthanda okungamanyala kwi-porn (2012)

Izifundo ezinde ziyafuneka ukuveza ukuthanda kwe-porn morphing

Singathanda ukuqala impendulo yethu kwisithuba sakho esingasentla ngokucacisa amanqaku athile ongawaqondanga kwiposi yethu.

1. Uphoswe ngokupheleleyo ingcinga ephambili yeposi yethu

Ngenxa yoko, uninzi lwento oyibhalileyo ayinanto yakwenza nenqaku lethu eliphambili: phonografi iincasa eziye zaguquka njengesiphumo sento enxulumene nokukhotyokiswa ngengqondo Iinguqu zisixelela okuncinci malunga nezinto ezithandwa ngabantu ngokwesondo. Ngaphandle kokuba uphando lulandelela i-intanethi ye-porn yezinto ezithandwa ngabasebenzisi ngabanye ngaphezu kweminyaka, ayinako ukuphikisa ingongoma esiyenzileyo kwiposi yethu. Eyakho ayizange.

Utshintsho lwengqondo olunxulumene nokulutha lwenzeka ngokuhamba kwexesha. Umzekelo, uninzi lwamadoda ozixelayo sihlalutya bakwiminyaka yabo yamashumi amabini kwaye bebesebenzisa i-porn iminyaka eyi-8-12.

The Iimbali zeenyanga ezi-3 Uhlalutyiweyo ngekhe uveze into eyenzekileyo iposti yethu ejongiwe kuba iimbali ezimfutshane azinakwanela ukukhetha uhlobo lokutshintsha kwencasa abasebenzisi abaxelayo. Ke ngoko, abo baxhomekeke kuhlalutyo lwakho abakuthatheli ngqalelo into ebalulekileyo enokubakho: ukunyuka kwiintlobo ezintsha ngenxa yotshintsho olunxulumene nobuchopho. 

Ukucacisa nje, asizange sicebise ukuba amadoda amaninzi ajonge iindidi ezininzi ezahlukeneyo kwi iseshoni enye (nangona abanye besenza, njengoko usitsho). Inqaku lethu lelokuba uninzi lwabasebenzisi be-porn abathandwayo alusameli utyekelo lwabo lwezesondo olusisiseko.

Asithandabuzi ukuba xa abasebenzisi be-porn bevula iithebhu ezininzi ngexesha leseshoni, ezo tabs zihlala zihambelana ne-fetish-du-jour yazo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokombono wethu kufuneka ube mathidala ukugqiba ukuba i-porn tastes ngoko izinzile ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Ngenzeka, uninzi lwazo zonke uphendlo lwe-porn kukukhangela into entsha. Ukuba oku bekungenjalo, abasebenzisi bebeya kuqhubeka nokubukela izinto abazithandayo eziphawulweyo/ezigcinwe ngononophelo. Amadoda amaninzi anika ingxelo yokuhlanganisa iingqokelela ezinkulu zephonografi… kwaye ungaze uzibukele kuba umtsalane wobutsha unamandla kakhulu. Ukusetyenziswa kwe-web-cam enzima ngumzekelo ogqibeleleyo wokulungiswa kwezinto ezintsha-nangona singabonisa ukuba amadoda asasebenzisana nezikrini, kungekhona abantu.

Khumbula ukuba xa likhoboka ubamba umsebenzisi we-porn kwi-Intanethi kukho iindlela ezimbini ezahlukeneyo zokunyuka: 1) ukujonga ngakumbi uhlobo olukhethwa ngumntu kunye 2) nokubukela iintlobo zenoveli. Ukufuna (ukukhangela), ubutsha kunye nokumangalisa konke khulula i-dopamine, ngaphandle kakhulu dopamine ikhutshwe ukuphendula kwimixholo evuselela inkanuko.

2. Uthembela kakhulu kuphando oluphelelwe lixesha

Ukhankanya uphando oluninzi oluxhasa izigqibo zakho zokuba izinto ezithandayo aziguquki. Ngaba nayiphi na kuyo iphande nge-highspeed abasebenzisi be-porn kwi-Intanethi? Silandelela uphando kule ndawo kwaye asikaboni nto yangoku ngokwaneleyo ukuba ifaneleke, kuba i-Intanethi ibonakalisa ukuba likhoboka (kubasebenzisi abathile) ngendlela i-porn yexesha elidlulileyo. (Izifundo ezifanelekileyo zokulutha kwi-Intanethi zi qo kelelwe apha. Ezinye zibandakanya ukusebenzisa iphonografi.) Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ngaba ulubonile naluphi na uphando olulandela iinkanuko zesini zabasebenzisi be-Intanethi ngokuhamba kwexesha?

Unyanisile ukuba siyakuvuma UNorman Doidge MD's imbono yokuba ukunyamezela kudlala indima ekusetyenzisweni kwamanyala namhlanje. Amava abaxumi bakhe ahambelana ngokugqibeleleyo neengxelo zobuqu eziphuma kuyo yonke iWebhu. Ibuhlungu into yokuba abaphandi bazithembe ngokugqithisileyo malunga nembono yokuba "iminqweno yesondo ayiguquki (ubuncinci emadodeni)" kangangokuba abakayifumani into eguqukayo esiyibonileyo thina noDoidge.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ungathanda ukwenza uphando oluyimfuneko, singakuvuyela ukukuthumela kulo iiforam kwiWebhu iphela kumazwe amaninzi apho amadoda achaza le morphing-incasa ngokuthe rhoqo ngendlela eyothusayo. Olu phando, nangona kunjalo, luya kufuna amaphepha emibuzo kunye nocazululo ngaphandle kwe zikhethile iimbono zangaphambili.

Inyaniso, reddit / nofap velise a uphando lwelungu, eye yafumanisa ukuba ngaphezulu kwe-60% yamalungu ayo athanda ngokwesondo aye anyuka kakhulu, ngokusebenzisa iintlobo ezininzi ze-porn.

Umbuzo: Ngaba ukuthanda kwakho izinto zoonografi kwatshintsha?

  • Ukuthanda kwam akuzange kutshintshe kakhulu - 29%
  • Ukuthanda kwam kuye kwagqithisa okanye ndaphambuka kwaye oku kwandenza ndaziva lihlazo or uxinzelelo - 36%
  • Ukuthanda kwam kwanda kakhulu okanye kungaphambuki kwaye oko kwenzeka hayi bangela ndive neentloni okanye uxinzelelo - 27%

3. Izifinyezo zinemida enzima apho uvuselelo olungaphaya kwesiqhelo lubandakanyekayo

Ingxoxo yakho ngabasetyhini sesinye nje isifinyezo. Kwakhona, asibhali malunga nokuba ngubani ofuna izinto ezintsha Ngaphakathi iseshoni, okanye nakwixesha elifutshane. Sithetha ngenkqubo yokukhobokisa ebizwa ngokuba kukunyamezelana, eyenzeka ngokuhamba kwexesha njengesiphumo sotshintsho olunxulumene nobuchopho.

Ukuthambeka okumtyibilizi kokunyamezelwa okunxulumene nokulutha kunxulumene nolawulo-phantsi lokubonakaliswa kwe-dopamine engqondweni kunye nokukhangela uvuselelo olungakumbi. Akumangalisi ukuba abafazi bafune ukulungiswa kwabo. Kwaye akumangalisi ukuba bakhetha umxube owahlukileyo wokuvuselela. Abanye sele bexele ukuba ukusebenzisa kwabo iphonografi kuye kwabenza badambisa.

Imodeli yakho ye-snapshot ayikuchazi ukuba amadoda amaninzi achaza ntoni: Ukungakwazi ukuya kuhlobo lwangoku lwe-porn kunye nesidingo sokufudukela kwinto engaqhelekanga ukuya kwi-climax ... hlambulula kwaye uphinde. Incwadi yakho iyakhanyela ukuba inokwenzeka-kwaye okwangoku iyenzeka. Njengoko sisazi, yimodeli yeplastiki yobuchopho kuphela echaza le pateni eqhelekileyo ngoku.

Uyawuchitha uluvo lokungakhathali, kodwa uphando sele lubonisile ukuba luyenzeka kwiziyobisi ze-Intanethi. 'Yabona I-Dopamine yama-Dopamine e-Reduced Dopamine Abamukeli be-D2 kubantu abane-Addiction Internet kwaye AbaTshintshisi beDopamine eStriam eyancitshiswa kubantu abane-Disorder Addiction Disorder Nceda ujonge esi sithuba solunye utshintsho olunxulumene nokulutha kwengqondo olufumaneka kwiziyobisi ze-Intanethi: Izifundo zamva nje zokulutha kwi-Intanethi zibandakanya i-Porn.

4. Uyichazile indlela esicinga ngayo

Sothukile kukufunda i-spin yakho ithetha ukuba isithuba sethu besisekwe ekuziphatheni kakuhle okanye ukubiza nayiphi na iphonografi “enxaxhileyo.” Yayililizwi likaSeltzer elo. Inqaku lethu yayikukuba i-porn tastes, eguqukayo ngenxa yenkqubo yokulutha, luphawu lwe i-pathologynokuba ivanilla, itshokolethi okanye iqunube. Emva koko, i-nucleus accumbens ibhalisa impembelelo ye-neurochemical, kungekhona umxholo.

Siyazi ukuba kuyonwabisa ukukholelwa ukuba ukhusela inkululeko yezesondo 'kubantu abaziphethe kakubi,' kodwa hleze nabaphi na abafundi balahlekiswe ngamazwi akho, nali elo candelo leposi yethu:

USeltzer ubhala:

"Enye yezona zinto ziluncedo eziphunyezwa yi-Billion Wicked Thoughts kukwenza izinto ezininzi ezithandwayo ngokwesondo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ekusenokwenzeka ukuba zikubethe (kwaye mhlawumbi uninzi lwabantu) njengokutenxa. Ngokucacileyo, okukhona kuxhaphake ngakumbi ukucingela kusengaphambili, kokukhona kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukuyigatya ‘njengokugula’—ingakumbi ukuba kukho oonobangela bengqondo nebhayoloji abakuchaza ngendlela eqinisekileyo.

Kuthekani ukuba ezinye zezi zinto zibizwa ngokuba 'zinxaxhileyo' zibangelwa kuphela kukukhobokisa kunye nokunyamezelana (imfuneko yovuselelo olunamandla)? Ukuba abantu aboneleyo bafumana ubungqina be-pathology [ukunyuka] inokuba yinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ukuziphatha kwabo "akuguli." [eyeyamene nobukhoboka]

Ubhubhani wokulutha wenzeke ngaphambili kwimbali yoluntu kwaye azizange zizenze iimpawu abantu abakhotyokisiweyo babandezeleke “ziqhelekile” ngengqiqo “yokukhululeka kwezifo.”

Akukho nelinye igama kwiposti yethu elaligweba umxholo othile. Kuphela luphawu lonyamezelo olwaluxoxwa kweli candelo.

Ngaba unokucacisa ukuba zeziphi "iimbono zokuziphatha malunga nokuba likhoboka"? Sihlala sijonga izithuba zethu kunye neengcali ezikhokelayo zokulutha, kwaye thina okanye bona abakhuthazwa ngumnqweno wokuziphatha ngokokwazi kwethu.

Ukwatsho ukuba sidibanisa yonke i-erotica kwaye ithi "ngokungathandabuzekiyo ixhokonxa 'ukunyukela kwiphonografi engaqhelekanga." Ibinzana elithi 'ukunyuka ukuya kwiphonografi engaqhelekanga' ibhekisa ngokucacileyo kwiphonografi amakhoboka, ayingabo bonke abasebenzisi be-porn. Ukunyuka ngumsebenzi we ingqondo iyatshintsha nokuba umntu utya i-vanilla okanye i-fetish erotica.

Ayizizo zonke iingqondo ezifumana utshintsho olunxulumene nokulutha kwengqondo, ewe, kwaye oku bekufanele ukuba kubonakale kwisithuba sethu. Sima kwisiphakamiso sethu sokuba kwabo bangena kumlutha, ukunyuka kwi-porn engaqhelekanga kunokuba luphawu lwe-pathology kunokuba luphawu lokuthandwa ngokwesondo.

Siyavuma ukuba, phambi kwesantya esiphezulu, iincasa zesini zamadoda zazizinze ngakumbi kunezabasetyhini. Sikholelwa ukuba uphando oluchanekileyo luya kubonisa ukuba i-intanethi ye-intanethi iyenze buthathaka loo ngcinga, ubuncinci apho i-porn tastes ichaphazelekayo.

Makhe sifikelele ezantsi kweempawu ezigqithisileyo abasebenzisi abazixelayo ngoku

Uphando lwakho 'lwesnapsho' alukhange luveze isenzeko esikhomba kuso. Nangona kunjalo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ayizange isasazeke ngo-2006 xa wawuqokelela idatha yakho. Kuphela kule minyaka mihlanu idlulileyo besiva iingxelo zokuzichaza ngeempawu eziqatha esibhala ngazo: iingxaki zesondo, ukwenza izinto ezithanda ngokwesondo, ukungakhathali. uxhala loluntu, ukunqongophala komtsalane kwi-3-D enokuba ngamaqabane, njalo njalo.

Kubonakala ngathi ezi mpawu zinxulumene ubude besantya esiphezulu fi kelelo kunye njani ekuqaleni ebomini umntu uqala ukuyisebenzisa. Siyayicinga bulumko ukulumkisa abo, njengoSeltzer, abaxhomekeke kuhlalutyo lwakho, ukuba uhlalutyo lwakho lungonelanga kubasebenzisi banamhlanje abangamanyala kunye nabakhathaleli babo.

Ukuba sichanekile, kufanelekile ukuba sonke siyeke ukuxambulisana malunga namanqaku amahle ophando ngoku asele idlule iminyaka emithandathu kwaye asikhange sijongane nokuba kungenzeka ukuba unyamezelo lusemsebenzini, kwaye siqalise ukuphanda ngeempawu ezothusayo ngoku. ukuxelwa ngokubanzi nonobangela wazo osisiseko.

Indawo elungileyo ukuqala ngokucokisekileyo ukuqonda yeziphumo ze I-neuroscience yamva nje yokulutha kwiziphumo zonikezelo lwanamhlanje olunamandla ukuvuselela i-cyber. Umba wokwenyani apha unokungabinanto yakwenza ne-erotica kunye nayo yonke into enokwenza novelty-at-a-click. Nantsi i-akhawunti yomsebenzisi yembali ye-dynamic ephawulekayo ye-intanethi ye-porn. Ivele yavela namhlanje.

"Iphonografi" [yayikhe] ingaphezulu kwePlayboy, mhlawumbi ezinye izinto ezithambileyo ekufikeleleni kwintambo, kodwa uninzi lwamakhwenkwe ekuphela kwendlela yokufumana olo lonwabo [yayiku]nqumamisa iVCR yakho NGEXESHA ELIFANELEKILEYO (khumbula ukuba ?? Holy sh*t!! Yicinge nje ngelixa uchwetheza le). Iphonografi - emva kwesigqibo seNkundla ePhakamileyo esibaluleke kakhulu - [yayi]khuselwe ngokupheleleyo sisiHlomelo sokuQala, ngaphandle kokuba [yayikudlwengulwa okanye iphonografi okanye into ethile. Ngoku, unabantu abathiyileyo iphonografi, kodwa thatha "Andiyithandi into oyithethayo kodwa ndiya kukhusela ukufa ilungelo lakho lokuthetha" ingqondo, ukubona nayiphi na inzame yokwephula iphonografi njenge "Un-American" / i-regressive/repressive/reactionary. Isihogo, kunye nabasetyhini [baqala] ukuthetha ukuba i-porn ingabaxhobisa abafazi (kunye ne-pornstars).

Nangona kunjalo, akukho mntu ucinga kwangaphambili ukuya phakathi ukuya ekupheleni kwee-2000's, xa uJohnny noLisa bekwazi ukufikelela kuwo onke ama-fetish kunye ne-philia enyanyekayo kwi-High Definition kwi-nanosecond kunye nokufikelela kwi-intanethi yesantya esiphezulu (Oh ndoda ... ekupheleni kwe 5's??? Damn, ukubhala oku kundibuyisela EMVA!). Isihogo, namhlanje uninzi LWESIKOLO ESIPHAKATHI lunokufikelela kuwo onke amakhubalo ajijekileyo agulayo akhe akho ngemizuzwana ngesixhobo anokungena kwipokotho yawo ye-f-ing.

Iinjongo ezininzi “ezilungileyo” azihambanga kakuhle. Imigaqo ekhoyo kwi-vacuum ayisoloko inengqiqo kwihlabathi lenene, kwaye iteknoloji iguqula izinto.

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