“Funa inkululeko uze uthimbe iminqweno yakho. Funa uqeqesho ukuze ufumane inkululeko. ” -UFrank Herbert
Iingxoxo zengxoxo ekusebenziseni ubulili
Sivame ukuva malunga nendlela inkcubeko yethu eba ngayo "amanyala" kubonga kubasebenzisi be-intanethi banomdla kunye nababoneleli babo. Okwangoku abo bayeka iifoto nazo ziqala ukuloba yethu inkcubeko. Njengamasosha abuyele phambili, anika ezinye zeengcamango ezinzulu kunye nezona zihamba phambili kwizinto zokuphila kunye kunye, nangaphandle, ukugqithisa i-pornography.
Njengemikhosi ye-www.yourbrainonporn.com sibona ezininzi iiwebhusayithi apho amadoda (ngokuyinhloko) bathethe ngokukhululekile omnye nomnye malunga namava abo-nangaphezulu kwe-pornography. Umzekelo, kukho abahloli bama-35,000 + Reddit.com iyodwa, uninzi lwabo lusebancinci ngokwaneleyo ukuba banokusika amazinyo namhlanje ngokugqithiseleyo ukuvuselela i-pornography ephakamileyo.
Inkcubeko ye-post-porn isephantsi kwe-radar ngalo mzuzu-kuba uninzi lwabo bachaphazelekayo bakhetha ukuhlala bengaziwa-kodwa nantsi imbonakalo yento egciniweyo njengoko aba bafana besiya kwizikhundla zempembelelo kubuchwephesha bexesha elizayo:
Ezinye iinqununu zicaphuno ezivela kubafana abahlukeneyo:
Kuyabonakala nje ukuba iphonografi ikuchaphazela njani xa uqala ukubuyela kwimeko yakho kwaye ufumanise ukuba ungumntu onamandla kwaye ozithembileyo kunokuba ubucinga.
Iyaphambana indlela esasuka ngayo ekubeni ngabantu abanyanzelwe ngokupheleleyo ukuba babe ngoo-puritanical, saya kuluntu olonakele ngokupheleleyo oluthi, "Ukuba luziva lulungile, lwenze." Iphi ibhalansi ??? Ndicinga ukuba kwiminyaka eyi-10-20 iya kuba lulwazi oluphambili lokuba i-wanking egqithisileyo, ngakumbi iphonografi iyingozi kwimpilo yomntu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, i-porno ibisoloko ikho ixesha elide… kodwa zange de kube yiminyaka yokugqibela ye-10-15 sivelisiwe kwi-porn. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uye kwi-seedy "book store" ukuze ufumane ukulungiswa kwakho. Awunakuze uyihlawule, kwaye unokufikelela kwibhola lakho kweso ngokukhawuleza. Asiyonto yendalo leyo. ”
"(iminyaka eyi-17 ukuya kwi-13 ubudala) Ngokubhekiselele kubantu abaya kukuxelela ukuba kufuneka uphulule amalungu esini ukuze ufumane isini sakho, ungabavumeli ukuba baphembelele ukhetho lwakho. Ukuba uye wafakela kanye, ngoku uyayazi indlela esebenza ngayo, kwaye ukwenza amaxesha amaninzi akuyi kukufundisa nantoni na. "
"Kwakunzima, kodwa [ukuphinda ndiqalise kwakhona] kundincedile ndatshintsha ubomi bam, ndade ndayeka nokuba ndingaziqapheli ukuba ndingakhuselekanga, ndisoyika pr ** k endandikade ndinayo."
"Ihlabathi kufuneka liqonde ukuba xa uthatha umntu osempilweni ngokugqibeleleyo, kwaye umyeke abukele i-intanethi ekhawulezayo mihla le kangangeminyaka eli-10, maninzi amathuba okuba ungasayi kuba nomfana ophilileyo ngokugqibeleleyo. Ilula ngoluhlobo. ”
Oku kuye kwaba yingxaki kakhulu abaninzi bethu kakhulu elide. Yiba nomsindo. Fumana ngokwenene. Lo mzabalazo uyasixhaphaza ixesha, eyona nto inqabileyo kwaye inqabileyo yezibonelelo, kunye amandla, into esiyisebenzisayo ukulisebenzisa kakuhle elo xesha. Obu bubomi bethu, kwaye buchithelwa kwisidenge njengobundenge. Kumntu ongekhoyo. Akukho zibonelelo kwi-PMO. Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo.
Ngaba ubuya kuba nomsindo xa umntu enokuphanga iakhawunti yakho yebhanki? Le kwiligi eyahlukileyo ye-bullshit. Ayisiyo imali yakho ephangiweyo, yeyakho ixesha, kwaye yeyakho amandla. Ungayibuyisa imali, into ongakwaziyo ukuyifumana yile ixesha. Amandla angabuya, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukuwuzalisa. Yonke into oyenzayo xa ufap uzifaka ngokwakho. Ayikwenzi umsindo lonto? Iyandicaphukisa kakhulu.
Ngexesha elizayo xa uphethe i-dick esandleni sakho, yiba nomsindo. Ngomsindo ukuba uyayihlutha njengohlobo oluthile lweemfene ezinesidima, ngelixa kukho umntu ehlabathini othatha ithuba lokungabikho kwentshukumo kwilizwe lokwenyani. Ngomsindo ukuba le ikho. Inomsindo wokuba kufuneka uqale emhlabeni. Ngomsindo ukuba awusokuze ulifumane elinye ithuba lokwenza la mathuba uphosiweyo owawunokuba nawo. Unomsindo wokuba awusoze uphinde ufumane loo maxesha exabisekileyo anokuchithwa usenza ubuninzi bezinye izinto umntu anokuzenza kwiplanethi yomhlaba ezixabiseke ngokungaphezulu kunokugungqisa inyama yakho.
“Utatomkhulu wam oneminyaka engama-86 ubudala ukhohlakele, kodwa unyanisekile kwaye ulumkile. Ngasihlandlo sithile, wandibona ndibukele iphonografi wathi kum, “Oku akwenzi kuthandana nomntu obhinqileyo. Bubudenge obu. Ukuba uyayijonga le nto, uyakuyenza i___y kwaye isandla sakho sibe sisidenge. ” Nda."
“Ingqondo yam itshintshile ngokuqinisekileyo. Andizange ndicinge ukuba iphonografi ingazibangela iingxaki kodwa ndiyenzile kwaye ndiyeke ukusebenzisa iphonografi kuyakuqinisekisa oku. ”
"Iphonografi ingcolise iqula leengcinga zabantu."
"Abantu babonakala ngathi bahlala becebisa ukuba i-porn inkanuko eyimfama yibhayoloji yendalo, kodwa ndicinga ukuba bayasilela ukuqonda ukuba akukho nto yendalo malunga nokuba nesoftware yakho yokwenza izigqibo ezichatshazelwe yiphonografi kunye nemidiya yeshishini iminyaka emininzi. Kwinqanaba lentanda-bulumko kuhla ekwamkeleni ukuqonda kwethu okusengqiqweni kunye neemvakalelo zethu zokuziphatha 'njengezendalo' nazo, hayi njengento eyahlukileyo kwiminqweno yethu esisiseko kunye nehlabathi elisingqongileyo.
"Kwabo banengxaki yokugula gwenxa: Kholelwa kwinto oyibonayo ngaphandle kongenelelo lomntu wesithathu. Asizikhathaleli iimaphu zobuxoki esizinikiweyo zommandla, endaweni yoko sizenzele ezethu iimephu. ”
"Ndiyazibuza ukuba bangaphi abantu abajonga iphonografi mihla le kwaye bangacingi nto ngayo, bahlala benomsindo ngendlela abaxakeke ngayo ekuhlaleni, njl njl. Ndifunga ukuba ndiyababona aba bantu ngamanye amaxesha; Amehlo ajonge phantsi, bengazi ukuba mabenze ntoni ngezandla zabo okanye ukuba beme phi. Ubhubhane wabantu abanezithintelo engqondweni. ”
"Iphonografi ithatha kuwe into oyifunayo ukuze ungazidlulisi: ukuzithemba."
“Imifanekiso engamanyala ayisithunzi emqolombeni, kwaye ndidiniwe yiyo. Kuye nakubani na ocinga ukusebenzisa: Ayifanele loo nto. ”
“Abafana baya kuba ngamakhwenkwe” akusasebenzi ncam. Abazali kufuneka baqonde ukuba kunje "Amakhwenkwe ayakuba ngabantu abangathandekiyo, bazicaphukele, babe ngoonothwal 'impahlana abangasoze bavelisele umzukulwana wam."
“Andisokuze ndibuyele kumkhwa wam wakudala, kuba ngoku ndiyayazi inyani eyoyikisayo: Ungayifihla ngokukhawuleza i-wank stash yakho kwi-labyrinth yeefolda ngaphakathi kweefolda ezifihliweyo njengeefayile ezingaziwayo; unokwenza ngokufihlakeleyo; kodwa xa uphuma uyonxibelelana nabanye abantu imikhwa yakho iyabonakala. TL; DR: Ukuba ukhupha iplagi kwimatriki, ungabona ikhowudi. ”
"Bonke ubomi obuhle babenalo ukulahlwa okukhulu." -Ukuhamba kweZan
Khawufane ucinge ukuba sonke singazalwa ngexesha loBukhosi baseRoma, sinezinto ezingamanyala kwiifresco kunye nobumba. Sonke sinamatye alukhuni kwaye asinakubeka ngxaki.
Ke ndibethe nje unyaka wam wokukhumbula. Ndagcina i-masturbated ngo-Oktobha 22, 2012. Ndazithembisa ukuba ndiza kuba ne-orgasm kuphela phambi komfazi wam, kwaye ndigcinile eso sithembiso. Ndifuna ukunika abanye abantu abatshatileyo iingcebiso. Iinkalo ezininzi zobomi bam ziphuculwe kunyaka odlulileyo, kodwa ngoku ndiza kuthetha ngesondo. Ndineminyaka engama-48, kwaye sitshatile iminyaka engama-20. Ingcebiso yam: Yeka ukubukela abanye abantu besabelana ngesondo ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Kulusizi oko, ayisiyiyo leyo, ndoda, eyayenzelwe ukuba uyenze. Yiya kwigumbi lakho lokulala, kumfazi ongakhonzwanga kakuhle, kwaye ube neentlobano zesini sakho.
“[Kumfana omncinci] Le yifestile yakho encinci enamaxesha apho uninzi lwababhinqileyo abangabakhathalelanga kangako kubudlelwane obuzinzileyo, bokugcina ubudlelwane. Bazokuhlola. Kwaye uhleli ekhaya, ukrwitshe inyoka yakho ide ingakwazi nokubohlwaya? ”
Ndifuna ukubuyela emva kwaye ndizitshitshise ngenxa yokucinga ukuba ubulili bam bukhuselekile kwi-pornography.
Andikaze ndibenangxaki ngezinto, kwaye ndizamile yonke into endinokuyenza ('cept heroin… nangona ndinomdla wokwazi). La machiza edijithali anokuba mbi nangakumbi kunako konke oko. Ayifumaneki kuyo yonke indawo, simahla. Iiveki ezimbini zokugqibela bezizezona zibi kakhulu, apho ndihleli endaweni enye esofeni kangangeeyure ezili-14 ngosuku, yonke imihla, ndidlala imidlalo, ndibukele umabonwakude kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ndiyayifaka. Kuya kufuneka ndizinyanzele ukuba ndiye kuzilolonga okanye ndidibane nabahlobo ukugcina impilo yam isempilweni. Khange ndiyithathe incwadi kwaye ndifunde ngaphezulu kwephepha kwiiveki. Kutheni nina baqhaqhaqhayisayoyikekile
“Okukhona uphumelela ngokwentlalo nangobuqu, kokukhona uya uyiqonda indlela ongafuniyo ukubuyela ngayo kwindlela izinto ebeziyiyo. Xa ufumana oko kunconywa, okanye olo ncumo luvela kwintombazana oyidlula ngendlela, ngumlingo. Ukhula kakhulu ukuba ungabuyela kwesi situlo sekhompyuter. ”
"Akukho mdla wezoqoqosho ekwenzeni isifundo malunga nokuyeka iphonografi. Akukho mveliso inokuthengiswa kwaye akukho nkonzo iya kubonelelwa. Uluntu ngokubanzi aluwazi umba osondeleyo (ijoliswe ekujoliswe kuyo) kwaye awunakukwazi ukuwuqonda ngaphezulu kwemigaqo yokuziphatha. Oku kuthetha ukuba akunakulindeleka ukuba kubekho isifundo ngalo mbandela kungekudala, kwaye abo bafuna "ubungqina besayensi" ngaphambi kokuyeka babeka indlela elula yokubheja. "
Ngokukrakra- ukuba ungabeka "i-porn" kwipilisi, uya kwenza iibhiliyoni zeedola.
“Wonke umntu. Intombazana. Endikunye naye kuye kwadutyulwa umthwalo kuye ngam. Ngoba? Kuba kujongeka ngathi uyayenza. Kutheni bandivumela? Kuba kujongeka ngathi ndiyayenza. Ndinike amantombazana ngokungafaniyo ngokungqongqo ngenxa yemidlalo yeqonga, nangona ibingathandeki KUNYE nathi. Uninzi lwethu, iphonografi lwenze ukuba ukulala ngesondo kube malunga namava, xa kufanelekile ukuba ibe yenye indlela. ”
“Andisazicingeli njengomatshini ekufuneka 'elungiselelwe' ukuze ndikwazi ukuvelisa ubomi bam bonke, kodwa njengesixhobo esiphilayo, esizele ziihormoni ezinokusetyenziswa njengesithuthi ekunyamekeleni abo bandingqongileyo. ”
“Kufuneka siqale iphulo lokufundisa abantu ngale nto. Ngokukrakra. Ukudakumba noxinzelelo endinalo ngaphezulu kweminyaka eyi-7 sele ihambile iveki ephelileyo. Ndivakalelwa njengomntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Ndizithembile, ndiyaphuma, inkumbulo yam kunye noxinzelelo lubuyile, ndiyakwazi ukuthetha namantombazana kwaye andiyikunika nto. NDIFUNA UKUKHANGELA OKU KUSUKA KWI-F ** UKUPHAKATHI KWAKUMKANI!
Izikolo kufuneka zenze iiklasi zokufundisa ngesondo kwiingozi zokubukela iphonografi nakwisayensi yokulutha. Kwaye siyazidinga ngoku, phambi kokuba nabani na ayokungena kwesi sihogo ndibalekileyo kuso. ”
"Xa ndandibukela iphonografi, ndandililungu elingasebenziyo ekuhlaleni. Khange ndinike ii-hoots ezi-2 malunga noku kulandelayo: Umsebenzi, usapho, ityala, iimvakalelo zabaseTyhini, ithemba lokukhulisa abantwana (bekubonakala ngathi yinto ehlekisayo kum- kutheni umntu enokuba nabantwana?). Ingozi yeziyobisi ezikhobokisayo, Ukuvota kunye nezopolitiko, Indawo endihlala kuyo, ukuthanda ilizwe. Ndiyathetha, ndiza kuba nakho ukubhala izithuba ezide zeReddit zokuba kutheni into ilungile okanye ingalunganga, kwaye nefilosofi ngokungapheliyo. Kodwa xa kufikwa kwisenzo, ndandingummeli ofileyo. Ukuba naliphi na inani elifanelekileyo labafana linento enjengam, ke thina, njengempucuko, sisengxakini enkulu. Kukho intsomi yembali yokuba uBukhosi baseRoma bawa ngenxa yeziphumo ezifihlakeleyo zetyhefu yelothe-isiphumo esisecaleni sobuchwephesha babo obunomdla bokukhokelela kwimibhobho yamanzi. Nokuba oku kuyinyani okanye akunjalo akuchaphazeli inqaku. Eyona nto ifanelekileyo kukufaniswa kwabahloli beekhompyuter banamhlanje, abathe bangena kuwo onke amakhaya nakwigumbi lokulala, bempompa i-Intanethi. ”
Kwixesha elizayo siza kujonga iphonografi njengakwicuba lethu - soo ixesha elincinci (umzuzu omnye). Ixesha elide elibi (iminyaka engama-1, okanye nayiphi na into oyilindeleyo ebomini). Ke, yiba ngumamkeli kwangoko. Yenza into ngoku enokwenziwa ngumntu wonke kwisithuba seminyaka engama-80. ”
Kumnandi kakhulu ukuba ungavuki ngentsimbi ye-11: 00, ngelixa usapho lwam lusalele, lusukela lo mnqweno ungapheliyo. ”
"(Iveki yokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo) Ndijonge kwihlabathi nangona ulwahlulo olungamanyala lwe-porn. Kwaye mandikuxelele, ndithetha nomntu obuso bakhe bugqume ubufazi buyaphazamisa. ”
"Iphonografi inika 'ikota pounder ngeshizi'. Ifumaneka ngokulula. Yenziwe ukuba ibonakale intle kwaye siyilangazelela ngokuzenzekelayo, kodwa sakuba siyifumene asiziva ngathi 'sihluthi' kwaye siyazisola… de kube lixesha elizayo xa sinaloo ndlala. ”
"Ukuba andinakukwazi ukufikelela kwi-Intanethi, ngekhe ndibenamanyala."
NdiseBangkok ngoku, kodwa kuphela iintsuku ezimbalwa. Ungacinga ukuba uhlala kwisixeko esiqhutywa ngokwesini ngolu hlobo, endaweni yokufota, intombi encinci yam endala iyakukhangela eyona nto iyiyo. Ndimele ukuba ndifumene izibonelelo ezili-10 zokuhamba nje esitratweni, nditsho nakwisithili sokukhanya esibomvu. Ewe, ndide ndahamba ngeSoyi Cowboy, kodwa ngenxa yokufuna ukwazi okuqinisekileyo kunye nokuzula kwaye kungenzanga ezinye izizathu.
Oku kukuqinisekisa ukuba injongo yam ayiyiyo ngesondo. Ukuba bekunjalo, bendiya kuba nayo. Kodwa andithandi ubudlelwane obuphezulu. Andiyithandi into ebubuxoki.
Kukho into apha e-SE Asia malunga nokubonisa ubuso obahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo ngokusekwe kwindima. Amantombazana eBar abonisa ubuso bomfazi onenkathalo, onothando, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba oko kukwenza umboniso. Nje ukuba imali ihambe, abasakuthandi, ayisiyiyo eyabo wenza ekuqaleni. Le yinto endiyibona rhoqo ngoku kwezi ndawo –amadoda asentshona awela emigibeni kwaye ayithiyile inkcubeko nangona ingabo ababezizisela inkathazo kwasekuqaleni.
I-NoFap indifundisa ukuba ndibone ngaphaya kweengcinga. Andijonganga icing kwikhekhe. Andikhangeli neqebengwana kuba siyazi ukuba bubuxoki obo. Ndizungeze nabantu bokwenyani. Okwangoku umntu xa eqala ukwenza into okanye ukungathembeki ngokuthe ngqo, banqunyulwe.
I-NoFap ikuguqula ube ngumntu wokwenene onobuntu. Iphonografi kunye neshishini lokwabelana ngesondo akwenzanga ukuba ube ngumntu kodwa isilwanyana esiqeqeshelwe ukuphendula kuphela kwigama elithi "fuck". Sinokwenza ngcono kakhulu.
Imalunga nommiselo wehomoni (dys). Emva kweeveki ezintathu kungekho noonopopayi / i-masturbation uziva ucacile kwaye ulungile. Emva kokubuyela umva, umhlaba uyawa phantsi. Inomdla wokwenyani ukubona indlela oziva ngayo ukusuka-ESIHOGWENI IM GONNA ROCK ”uye" Uxolo ngokuphefumla umoya; Ndoyisile. ”
"Imikhwa yam ye-13 yeminyaka yamanyala yayifana nokuphefumla, isithethe semihla ngemihla endingazange ndiphoswe, ndigula okanye ndenzakale, ndinethwa yimvula okanye kukhanya. Ukuba ndophule izandla zam zozibini kwaye ndazisonga ngomzimba opheleleyo ndingafumana indlela. Ukuba ndinokuphinda ndiqalise ngokutsha, ndiza kuthiya isitalato ngegama lam ndize ndibhengeze iholide yesizwe ngembeko yam. ”
"Ukuba likhoboka lamanyala: ukungakwazi ukuyifumana, into oyifunayo ebomini kuba uneendlela ezithile zokuba ndindisholo."
“Ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokumodareyitha kulungile ok I-intanethi ye-intanethi ayikho emfanekisweni. Amanqaku ophulula amalungu esini ahlala ephoswa lelo nqaku. ”
Ndikhubekile kwesi sicatshulwa xa ndifunda incwadi ethi "Iindlela ezingama-40 zokujonga uChurchill" nguGretchin Rubin, incwadi endingenakuze ndiyifumane ndifunda i-pre nofap: "Isizathu sokuba ndibhale kakhulu kukuba andiyichithi kwigumbi lokulala ” Inqaku likaWinston Churchill malunga nokugcinwa kwezilwanyana
“Owu, kudala, xa ubona isiketi sentombazana kwizinyuko bekungakunika ipetroli enenyanga.”
“Enkosi nge-porn… ubungumntakwenu omdala ogqwethekileyo endingazange ndibanaye!
“Ndineminyaka engamashumi amabini ubudala kwaye ndinengxaki yale ntsholongwane yenkulungwane yama-21, ebonakala ngathi ibubuxhakaxhaka be-ED. Ndinamathuba amathathu okuphulukana nobuntombi bam ndinabafazi bokwenyani nabanegazi kwaye ndiye ndasilela ngalo lonke ixesha (njengakulo, aba bafazi babesebhedini yam kwaye bekulungele ukuhamba, iimpahla, kodwa andinakuyenza. Ndinamanye amathuba, kwaye namanye amantombazana alala ebhedini yam, kodwa andikhange ndishukume kuba bendisazi ukuba andizokwazi ukuyenza… naphakathi kweminyaka eli-18 ukuya kwengama-22). Ngalo lonke ixesha ndiziva ndihlazekile, ndidandathekile kwaye ndicutheka. Ndiyindoda enobungqingili, kodwa andinakulala ngesondo kunye naba bafazi. Ukuba ndingakhetha igama elinye ukuchaza ukuba kwakunjani xa ndizama ukulala nabo, ndingasebenzisa igama elithi 'umfokazi.' Yayiziva ingenabuntu kwaye ingekho kum. Kufana nokuba ndifumene imeko yokuhlala phantsi kwesikrini kwaye ndiyigubungela ngokufa yonke le minyaka ukuba ingqondo yam ithathela ingqalelo ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo ngokwesondo endaweni yokwenene, isini sokwenyani. Ndingazifumana nzima kwi-porn, ndingenangxaki, kodwa hayi ngobomi bam ndingamfumana nzima umfazi wokwenyani. "
"Zininzi iimeko ze-ED kunanini na ngaphambili, ayisiyibafana nje abadala kodwa abafana BAKHO ubudala (ndineminyaka engama-23). Ngethuba lokuqala kwimbali yomhlaba. Kwaye abantu bakhathazekile malunga noko kungcono .. i-i-Ifowuni 5 okanye i-Galaxy s3? Kwenzeke ntoni kuthi? Ndiyazi ukuba utata notatam omkhulu bebengenje. Bebekhuthazwa ngabantu abaqhutywa kukufezekisa oko bafuna ebomini. ”
"[Ubudala 22] Benza ntoni abantu xa befumana into abayithandayo? Bafuna ukuyenza iphindaphindwe. Yiloo nto umlutha. Bendingazi ngcono njengomntu ofikisayo. Kodwa ngoku ndiyakwenza! Kuthiwani malunga nesibhengezo kunye ne-porn esithi: Hayi, khawucinge ukuba yintoni mfondini? Oku kuyakuqhekeza kakhulu ngobomi bakho. Uza kubaleka kakhulu kwaye usenokukhula nemiba ethile ephathelele kwezesondo. ”
"Nje ukuba ndibuyiselwe kwi-100%, ndiza kukhusela isondo lam njengeFort Knox."
“Kukho izinto ezincumisayo apha phandle ezithi ukupeyinta amalungu esini ngendlela evumayo kakhulu-sisiphumo senkcubeko ekhululwe ngoku ekhululekileyo. Uninzi lwayo luvela kwimithombo efanayo eya kuthi ikhuthaze abafundi ukuba bakhulise abantwana ngaphandle kwesini, babakhuthaze ukuba babelane ngesondo kwangoko kwaye rhoqo kwaye nabani na, banelise naziphi na iingcinga zabo ezothusayo abanazo, njl. le nto, nabani na kufuneka abe nakho ukuqonda ukuzilawula kubalulekile kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi. Ndiyayicaphukela le mpucuko ikukhuthaza ngokungqongqo ukungathintelwa kwesini. ”
“Kuyamangalisa ukucinga ngobomi bam kwinyanga ephelileyo. I-PMO yayiyinxalenye yobomi bam kangangokuba kukuqonda ukuba kuphantse kwafana nokuba wawunentombi eyintombazana eyoyikekayo ekugqibeleni ethi iphume ebomini bakho. ”
"Ndifumene ngeli thuba lokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo ukuba amantombazana endiya kuwabeka njengamacala amane aqinileyo ngeentsuku zam zoononophala sele esiba sithandathu kunye nesisixhenxe. Ngapha koko, onke mahle. ”
Ndandiqinisekile ukuba kufuneka ndisoloko ndikhululwa ngokwesondo kangangoko ndinako; ukuba “akupholisi” ukungabinayo; kwaye woyisiwe ukuba awuyifumani. Leyo yimiyalezo ethunyelwa yinkcubeko ethandwayo ngelishwa. Eyona nto indicaphukisayo kukuba bendingazi ukuba iphonografi iyingxaki KONKE. ”
Ndandicinga ukuba ndinethemba, kodwa ngokwenene ndandilikhoboka nje. ”
“Ndalala nentombazana endithandana nayo ndaza ndamphuza kancinci nangokuthambileyo kangangexesha elide. Kwakumnandi kakhulu. Umhle kanjani! Oku kuyinyani, yile nto siyifunayo. Iphonografi isisidenge, iyahlekisa! Iphonografi iyanya; besicinga ntoni emhlabeni? Iphonografi imalunga nokuxhaphaza isini samadoda, singasivumeli. Ekugqibeleni yiyo loo nto ndaye ndemka kuyo. ”
“Kumnandi ukuba iziyolo ezindala zihlala zibuya, nje ukuba umntu ehle kuloliwe we-gravy.”
"Ndiyakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo kwimifanekiso engamanyala kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje ukusukela oko inkqubela phambili yokufota kunye nokufota / ukufotwa kwevidiyo kude kudala phaya kwiminyaka yoo-1960 kuye konakalisa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwezesondo kunye nobudlelwane kubandakanya isoka / intombi kunye nomtshato.
Ukukhululeka kokufikelela kwi-Intanethi ukusukela ubuncinci phakathi kwe-90's xa yayidumile kubangele ukusetyenziswa gabalala. Imifanekiso engamanyala iyintlekele enokubakho kwezentlalo nangokwasengqondweni, kodwa akukho nto sinokuyenza ukunqanda oku ngokomthetho (okt uhanahaniso lokuziphatha oluhanahanisa inkululeko yenkululeko yokukhetha ukukhuthaza indlela yokuziphatha eluntwini).
Kukurhoxa ngokuzithandela kuphela nokuzithiba ngenjongo yokwandisa isimilo esinokukhokelela kubomi besondo obonelisayo obwenza umtshato uphelele, olona lonwabo lukhulu (imeko yolonwabo) ngokuhambelana ngokupheleleyo kubuntu nakubudlelwane bezesondo. ”
Umzi-mveliso we-porn ococekileyo uzoyisile iingqondo zabantwana. Ndingacinga ukuba iminyaka eyi-10 ukusukela ngoku baya kunika abantwana incwadi enemibala yeenkwenkwezi ezingamanyala kwiindawo ezishushu.
“Amaxesha ayehlukile kwiminyaka yoo-90. Sasisazulazula ngeenxa zonke ngeetheyiphu ze-VHS, sikrweca isikhumba esirhabaxa, kwaye sisiya esikolweni kwii-brachiosaurus. Ndicinga ukuba kwiminyaka eli-10 ukusukela ngoku sonke isizukulwana sinokuvuka ngendlela ebenze baziqonda ngayo iingqondo zabo. ”
“Ukumomotheka nje kukwenza ukwazi ukuthetha nabantu abafuna ukuthetha nawe. Kuyamangalisa indlela abantu abathembele ngayo ekuhlaleni. Kufana neyeza elifanelekileyo kwaye likhululekile kunoma ubani. Imifanekiso engamanyala kwi-Intanethi / ukuphulula amaphambili kwandenza ndazahlula kubomi bam. ”
“[Amawakawaka amadoda ayayeka] ngumqondiso olungileyo. Ndiyibona njengenguquko kwisini sabantu, okanye mandibuyele esiqhelweni. Ndicinga ukuba uluntu luyayihleka into yokuba iphonografi iyingxaki yokwenyani, eyenza ukuba ibe yingozi kakhulu. ”
“Ndiyazibuza, zingaphi iziyobisi ze-PMO ezazikho, ngaphambi kohlaziyo ngokwesondo? Ngaphambi kwamaphephancwadi okuqala? Singakanani isifo sentliziyo ngaphambi kokulungiswa kokutya? Lungakanani uxinzelelo ngaphambi kokususwa kwebala eliqhelekileyo, i-100% yomoya wendalo kunye nelanga? Zingaphi iintsholongwane zomhlaza ngaphambi kwemidiza? INTO kukuba uqaphele, ukuba umhlaba utshintsha ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Kule minyaka ili-100 idlulileyo sitshintshe ngaphezulu kakhulu kunakwiminyaka eyi-1000 + edlulileyo Nasi ischema:
I-1) Enomdla, kodwa embi kwixesha elide, ukuziphatha kuqaliswa ngemali
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I-3) Ukuchaneka, uphando lwezesayensi oluxhasa inkxaso kuthatha amashumi eminyaka ukukhaba
I-4) Abantu abaxhambileyo baqala ukufundiswa
5) Baqala ukuziphatha-ukupheliswa.
Ingxaki kukuba lo mjikelezo wonke uwonakalisa. Ii-cigarettes zazingeniswa (ekuqaleni) kwi-20 yekhulu leminyaka kwaye zathatha amashumi eminyaka ukulawula. Ngoku siyazi ukuba iintlobo ezithile zokutya ziyingozi. Sekunjalo, ngokutya sisasesigaba 2-3. Ucinga ukuba siphi na imifanekiso engamanyala? Uphando lwenzululwazi luncedo ndineminyaka nje embalwa ubudala. ”
“Ukuyeka i-PMO kunzima kakhulu kum kunotywala, inikotini, icaffeine, nantoni na! Ndiyazi ukuba ayikhuthazi, kodwa kulungile ukwazi iimbali, akunjalo? Yazisa nje abo bathandabuzayo: Le yingxaki yokwenene! ”
"Kuphela zizizukulwana ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo apho sonke singafana neVikings's n, s, sityumza iintloko zezinye iindwendwe zinezembe. Ngoku uninzi lwabantu alunakuya nakwibar yokugcwala kwaye bathi 'molo' kwintombazana. Kukho into engahambi kakuhle. ”
Utata womhlobo wam osenyongweni yayingumfana wasasazeni osasaza iphonografi ngaphambi kokuba ifumaneke. Ndandineminyaka esithoba ubudala xa ndandiboniswa i-vid yokuqala ye-porn. Kwaye nomhlobo wam kwaye sinako ukufikelela kwi-stash. Kwakulingana nokufikelela kwi-intanethi emva komhla kungekho mzali ukukunqanda. Iminyaka engama-30 kamva, andicingi ukuba yinto entle yokufikelela kwi-porn ngoku okanye ngoku. Eyona nto imbi kakhulu ngoku kuba ukuba unabantwana kunzima kakhulu ukubakhusela kuyo. Unokwenza okusemandleni akho ekhayeni lakho, kodwa ayizukuma nto. ”
"Le yinto endiziva ngayo emva kweentsuku nje ezingama-28: Umfazi wam unamacala amaninzi. Banjalo ke bonke abafazi abathandekayo endibabonayo, endithetha nabo nokunxibelelana nabo suku ngalunye. Iphonografi ayizange indiguqulele ekubeni yi-Neanderthal, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo yayindilungisile ukuze ndibone amava apheleleyo nabantu. ”
"Ndicinga ukuba yonke into eyindoda kwisizukulwana sethu ifuna umbono wokuba yintoni iphonografi eyenzayo kwingqondo yakho. Ukufumana loo mbono kuye kwavula amehlo. Ndiziva ndicacile entlokweni yam kunye nothando ngakumbi kwi-SO yam. Andiboni sizathu sokuma kwiintsuku ezingama-90. Andikwazi ukuthi ndive "amandla amakhulu" achazwe kwamanye amabali e-fapstronauts kuphela ukunyusa kwengqondo, uthando olungakumbi kwi-SO kunye nolonwabo ngokubanzi. Oko kukodwa kwanele ukuba ndikhuthaze ubomi obungenazo okanye ezingamanyala. ”
"Uyazi ukuba ubukele iphonografi kakhulu xa ..Uyakruquka yimifanekiso engamanyala ngokwesini oqala ukujonga ubufanasini kwaye emva koko ubukele iphonografi, yenza nje into entsha "
Owona mzekelo mkhulu weyona nyani iphambili iphonografi. Ukwabelana ngesondo, yenye yezona zinto zisenyongweni ebomini kunye neemvakalelo ezibandakanya isenzo, sincitshiswe ngokungapheliyo kumava angenanto yakwenza nokubona nangaphandle kwesandi. Awulali ngesondo neqabane okanye inkwenkwezi ye-porn, kwaye awuzolala nawe; Uqhuba imeko ekuhlaleni enesimo esifanelekileyo sesini, into engafumanekiyo yomnqweno onokuthi unamathele kuwo de waneliseke, emva koko uphinde ubuyiselwe kwinto "engonelisiyo" yokuba ze egumbini, ndedwa. ”
“Abazali bam babengandoyiki xa ndibanjwa, ngenxa yoko babefuna ukuphucula xa ndizifihla. Oko iba yinxalenye yovuyo —ukuziva inyathelo elinye phambi kwawo wonke umntu ”
“Khawuthelekelele onke amandla amatsha kunye namandla esiwenzayo [njengoko siphila]. Ukuba iyaqhubeka nokukhula njengokuba injalo kwaye andiyithandabuzi ukuba iza kukhula, kancinci kancinci kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo siza kudala umtsalane omkhulu wamadoda aziphethe kakuhle kwaye omelele. ”
“Izinto ezintle ebomini azinakuphepheka; ukuchacha kuthatha ixesha. ”
“Ubungakanani bezixhobo zam buhle ngokomndilili / abukho mkhulu kwaye bendihlala ndineentloni kwiindawo zokuzilolonga, njlnjl. Ngoku ndenza imidlalo kunye nabahlobo kunye neshawa emva koko, kwaye ndiyayamkela ngokupheleleyo. Ipatheni yam yokucinga sele isukile "Baza kuhleka kum encinci d ** k" ukuya "kubungakanani bePenisi ayisosithintelo kubomi obulungileyo" kuye "F-it, Not ukubukela isini esikhohlisayo esingenaluthando kunye nee-freaks ezinkulu, Ndiyakholelwa, kuluncedo ekwamkeleni imizimba yethu. ”
"Kunokubakho amatyala abantu abaqhelekileyo, abasempilweni ababanjwayo / abonakele zi-porn, abathi ukusetyenziswa kwabo ngoononophelo kubonisa 'umlutha,' ongunobangela weengxaki zabo ezahlukeneyo. Uninzi lwethu ukuba aluninzi, nangona kunjalo, ndicinga ukuba yinxalenye yomfanekiso omkhulu wesizukulwana sethu. Uninzi lwethu, luvunyelwe ukuba sandise ixesha lokufikisa, kude kube kumashumi amabini (okanye nangamashumi amathathu!) Ngokuvumela ngokubanzi inkcubeko yale mihla kunye nokuba ngumzali, kunye nokufumaneka kweziphazamiso ezahlukeneyo ezinikezwe yitekhnoloji yethu. Siye sithobeke kwaye senze izinto kuba asikaze silwisane nelungelo lokonwabela ubomi. Njengokunqunyanyiswa etankini kwaye sondliwe kwityhubhu, izihlunu zethu (zombini ezokwenyani, ezengqondo kunye neemvakalelo) ziyaliwa ukuvuselelwa okubalulekileyo ekufuneka zikwenzile. Ukuyeka i-porn linyathelo elinye elibaluleke kakhulu kubantu abanjengathi, kodwa linyathelo elinye kuphela. Kuya kufuneka siphinde sicingisise ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuphila, kwaye sizibuze ukuba senza njalo na. Ukuzazisa ngale ndlela kubuhlungu, kodwa kuyafuneka. ”
"Ndisebenza nabantwana bamabanga aphantsi, kwaye kuyacaca ukuba kulungile ukuba ndingabinayo imifanekiso yamanyala edlalayo engqondweni yam ngelixa ndibafundisa ngomxhuzulane okanye nantoni na… d khumbula iziqwengana ngexesha lokudikwa okanye uxinzelelo kwigumbi lokufundela. I-GROSSSSSS - lo nyaka wesikolo ubungcono kakhulu. Inxulumene: igumbi lam lokufundela lilawulwa ngcono kulo nyaka… unxibelelwano! ”
Ngokomntu, ndijonga i-porn njenge-allergies-njengabantu abangakwaziyo ukutya amandongomane okanye ingqolowa. Aboyiki kakhulu amandongomane nengqolowa, kodwa kulunge kubo ukubaphepha. Ndijonga iphonografi ngendlela efanayo. Ayibobubi obugqithileyo. Yinto nje engadibaniyo nayo. Yiyo yonke.
Ekugqibeleni ndiba ngumntu endandifuna ukuba njalo, umntu endinokuzidla ngaye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndisenemihla embi, kodwa ezintle zibala ngaphezu kwazo.
Kudala ndisebenzisa iphonografi kangangeminyaka engama-20, kwaye bekungekho malunga nokuvulwa emva koko nditshitshise. Kuye kwaba yintuthuzelo yam xa ndididekile, okanye ndidikiwe okanye ndibuhlungu ngento ethile. Bekuthembekile, ixesha lam labucala elihlala likho kum, alizange lisilele kum. Ngalo lonke ixesha ndisiya kuyo, ndifumene into endinokuzibambela yona-ayizange indiphoxe. Ngamanye amaxesha kwakumnandi, umceli mngeni wokuqhekeza amakhonkco angapheliyo, iindawo ezikhuphayo kunye nokuzama ukufumana ukubonwa kwemifanekiso. Ndaziva ngathi ndibaleka endle ngasentshona, ndifumana igolide, ndibulala. Nanini na xa ndinesithukuthezi, sasikhona. Ke ndiyabona ukuba ibubuhlobo, kwaye ngokulula inde kakhulu endinayo. Ukuba ingqondo yam ayinakuchaza umahluko phakathi kwemifanekiso ye-pixel yabasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini bokwenyani, ngekhe ikwazi ukwahlula phakathi kokufumana zonke ezinye iimvakalelo- ukuqinisekiswa, intuthuzelo, ukonwaba- ukuba iphonografi indinike yona kwiminyaka edlulileyo iimvakalelo ezivela kumfazi wokwenene. D'oh! Kukho njengobunzima entliziyweni yam ekunzima ukutshintsha. Ndiyazi ukuba kuyavakala ngathi kuyothusa. Kodwa ngokwenene ndicinga ukuba ubuchopho bam kwinqanaba elithile bacinga ukuba ndiphule ngoononophala, kwaye kubuhlungu ngako. Ndiza kukhaba ubuchopho bam kumasende ukuze yazi ukuba yomelele kwaye ingabi lusizi ngayo, kodwa kulungile ukuba uqaphele ukuba zivela phi na ezo mvakalelo.
Ndihlala eBrooklyn kunye nabantu abangenangqondo. Oku kwenzeka njani? I-NoFap iphakamisa abantu ngokukrazula abantu ngaphandle kwe-matrix trance.
“Cinga ngayo - iphonografi, eyayisakuba yinto elungileyo- uncedo lomtshato- ngoku lishishini elikhulu kuneNFL. Umbhobho ungene emakhayeni ethu. Kwaye ukuhlala unokhuphiswano kwaye unenzuzo, kutyhala imida ngalo lonke ixesha. Kodwa thatha uhambo kumatshini wexesha-masiye kwi-1992. I-1000 yabantu abadala. Babuze ukuba 'Yintoni ubuso?' Uninzi lwazo luya kubhekisa kubuhle. Ukukhawuleza phambili namhlanje. Umhlobo wam waseIndiya wayeseMelika kangangenyanga xa sasidlula kwisalon ethi "Ubuso." Uye wandijonga, wathi, "Andiyikholelwa into yokuba ungayenza apha!" Ndamkhomba ukuba kuthetha ntoni ngokukhawuleza kwaye ndahleka. Wayebukela iphonografi kakhulu eIndiya. Intsingiselo yelizwi itshintshe ngokupheleleyo ”
"Into enamanyala kukuba akufuneki nokuba ube ne-horny, ufuna nje ukuba ube nesithukuthezi. Iphonografi iyakwenza horny. ”
"(Ubudala 24) Ngokufikelela ngokulula kokutya okungenamsoco kunye noononophelo sihlala sisondla inkqubo yethu yeemvakalelo 'ngokuziva ulungile' Sifundisa imizimba yethu ukuba iphile ngokutya okukhawulezayo, kwaye sityhala kude ukungonwabi ngokwesini ngonqakrazo olulula lwempuku kunye nokuthambisa. Ngeli xesha uza kuqala ukuthatha ulawulo lobomi bakho kwaye ube ngamandla ashukumisayo kwindalo esingqongileyo? Ukwenza isenzo hayi ukusabela? Konke kuqala ngamandla okuxhathisa isimilo sokuziphatha. Awusayi kuzinzisa nantoni na engaphantsi kokufaneleyo. Ukufuna umfazi omhle, ophilayo endaweni yepikseli, i-airbrush, ubuqhetseba. Ukuchuma endaweni yokuphila ubomi bokuzimela. Andikhange ndibukele kwiintsuku ezili-157. Ngoku, andikaze ndicinge ngayo. Xa ndandikwiintsuku ze-85, ndibhale isishwankathelo sazo zonke izibonelelo endizifumeneyo ngokuyeka ukuphulula amalungu esini. Ndiyabuya namhlanje ukukwazisa ukuba isibonelelo sibaleka kakhulu kunoko ubona ebomini bakho. Ibalekela nzulu ngaphakathi kuwe eyintloko yamadoda. Ukuyeka i-porn yenye yezona zinto ziphambili ekubuyiseni ulawulo. Xa ungasalawulwa ngesondo, ilizwe elitsha liya kuvuleka kuwe. Unenkululeko ebomini obungazange wayifumana ngaphambili. ”
"Emva kokuba uvuthondaba kwaye iphonografi isadlala, oko xa uyibona ukuba iyintoni kanye kanye. ”
"Konke oku kubonakaliswa koononophala kunye nokuhlaziya i-masturbation kwangoko kwenze ukuba umzimba wam uhambelane nomnqweno wesondo w / ukubonwa kunye nokuvuselelwa kwengqondo. Xa kunjalo, UKULALA KAKUHLE, kumalunga nokuziva kwaye akunanto yakwenza nale mifanekiso yengqondo / ebonakalayo. Xa uzilambisa ngokweli nqanaba lefantasy, umzimba wakho uyaphuma. Ihamba ngamanqanaba okuziphatha okungaqhelekanga / okungalindelekanga. Nje ukuba idibane kwakhona nendalo yayo, yonke le nto kufanele ukuba ibe… ebomini, emhlabeni, kwigumbi lokulala. Ukuyeka akuyiyo ipilisi yomlingo. Ayizukuzisombulula zonke iingxaki zakho. Nangona kunjalo, ngokudityaniswa kunye nemikhwa embalwa esempilweni, inika isiseko esihle sobomi kuyilo lwakho. Ayikho into eyanelisa ngaphezu kovakalelo olufumanayo xa usonwabile kwaye ungasindi nje. ”
“Siyakhuthazwa (singaqondanga) ukuba sizilahle kude iingqondo zethu. Kwaye emva koko, akukho kubanelisa. Ekugqibeleni, kuphela yimincili ebonelela ngokonwaba kunye nayo yonke into ebonakala ngathi iyabhida kwaye iyadika. Ngolunye usuku, oku kuya kuba lulwazi oluqhelekileyo, kwaye sinokumisa zonke iingxoxo ezingenangqondo malunga nokuziphatha v. Inkululeko yesondo. Akukho nkululeko yokwenene ngokwesondo xa ingqondo ingasebenzi kakuhle. ”
"Siphila kwixesha apho ukuhlala ngaphakathi kwi-SSRIs, sisodwa, ukuba neetoni zokucinga ngesondo kunye nesongezo sakho esamkelekileyo kwamkelekile. Abantu babiza nje aba bantu "baneentloni" okanye "bangenisa", kodwa ndicinga ukuba sinobhubhane. Oku akufuneki kube eqhelekileyo. Ukuyeka i-masturbation kwi-pornography kuye kwaba yinto engekhoyo! Wonke umntu uqala ukwamkela ukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini kwiingxaki zakho kude nje "kukuzivelela" okanye into. Ndiyabazi abanye abantu abacinga ukuba ndisisidenge ngokuyeka, kodwa aba ikwangabantu abahleli ekhaya bedlala iiyure ngeeyure zeLigi yamaNqaku, bekhala ngendlela abayifuna ngayo intombi, kwaye bephendula ngenqindi eligcwele Uxinzelelo. Ndingakucaphukela ukubona oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa ndiziva ngathi kulapho konke kuya khona ukuba asenzi nto ngalo. Nangona ndifuna ukuzilazila, ukuhlala ekhaya, kwaye ndenze imisebenzi yam yodwa, ndiza kulwa nale nto. Singabo banethuba lokubona umbono ukusuka phezulu kwintaba kunakwikhamera evela kwinqwelomoya kwiscreen sokwenziwa. Okanye ukunceda intombi yethu eyinyani ye-intanethi. Siya kungcamla, sichukumise, sijoje, sibone, sive kwaye siphile ubomi ”
“Ukuya kuma-99% abantu abakhe baphila, iimeko zobomi bam zingathathwa njengobunewunewu obungenakulinganiswa kunye nelungelo (nangona ndikhulele kwikhaya eliphakathi e-UK). Ndinethamsanqa elimangalisayo kodwa likrele elintlangothi-mbini. Ukuba urhuma kumgaqo we I-Hormetism uyakuyamkela ke imbono yokuba umzimba webhayoloji uphendula kakuhle kuxinzelelo kunye nokuswela, kwaye ungaphantsi kulwaneliseko kunye nentuthuzelo. Amandla oqeqesho, ukuzila ukutya okhawulezileyo kunye nemvula ebandayo lonke uxinzelelo lomzimba, lubangela ukulungelelaniswa okuhle. Ukutya okungenamsoco, indlela yokuphila kunye neeyure ezi-5 ezinesiqingatha ze-CoD ngosuku ziya kukunciphisa kwaye zikujike ube yijellyfish engacofekiyo. Kwabaninzi kuthi, ukuyeka ngamava ethu okuqala okuswela. Uziva ungonwabanga ekuqaleni kodwa amaxesha amaninzi kunokuba njalo.
"Lol, yinto entle engenangqondo ukuba umntu ebenokundibuza ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto ndiyifezileyo ebomini bam, kungafuneka ndiphendule ngokunyanisekileyo," Ndiyekile ukubukela iphonografi nokuphulula amaphambili. ” 🙂
“Kumnandi ngokwenene ukuba nabahlobo ababhinqileyo ngoku kwaye ungacingi ngokulala nabo rhoqo. Ndiye ndaqonda ukuba andisayi kujolisa kubafazi njengangaphambili. Ndive amabali othusayo wokuba uTata akasakhululekanga ukunika iintombi zabo kwishumi elivisayo kuba zibenza bazive bengcolile. Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, umbono wokujonga abahlobo bam beentombi yindlela yokundoyikisa. Ndiyabulela kakhulu ukuba andizukujongana nayo. Uluvo lwakho olupheleleyo nge-porn luyatshintsha wakuba unentombi. ”
“Kuya kufuneka babonise i-TEDx vid kwizifundo zamabanga aphakamileyo ezesondo nge-PSE. Ndiyazi mna kunye nabalingane bam abakwishumi elivisayo babesengozini yokufumana iziyobisi ezingamanyala kunokuba babambe i-STD
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[Umfazi oqala ngokutsha] bendifunda nje inqaku lonyango lwengqondo namhlanje ebethetha malunga nendlela entsha yokuba abazali bazame ukusombulula zonke iingxaki zabantwana babo. Oku kubi, kuba abantwana kufuneka beve ukungakhululeki ukuze bafunde indlela yokujongana neengxaki zabo ngokufanelekileyo. Ndicinga ukuba oku kuyinyani nakubantu abadala. Ukuba sihlala sisetyenziselwa ukwaneliseka kwangoko, siya kunqanyulwa ekujonganeni nokungonwabi kwethu ngokufanelekileyo.
Esikolweni bandifundise ukugawula iinkuni, ukuthunga itawuli nokwenza imbiza yodongwe…. Okonwabisayo kukuba andizidingi ezi zakhono NGAYINYE indlela kubomi bam bemihla ngemihla. Bekuya kuba mnandi ukuba neklasi enye okanye ezimbini kwi-neuroscience apho ndingafunda khona ukukhulisa ubuchopho bam kunye namandla engqondo. Mka. Oko bekuya kuba namandla nge-13.
Usuku lwe-4: Iifoto zifana ne-American Dream.
Into esithengiselwe yona yindlu esezweni enendawo eninzi kunye nomoya omtsha, okhululekileyo kubo bonke ubumdaka besixeko. Sikhululekile kwizihlwele, abaphathi beepani, iigrifters, izitrato ezimdaka, umsi, ukugcwala, ubundlobongela, ukungalingani. Indawo apho singasebenza khona kwi-Mustang endala kwaye vumela inja yethu kunye nabantwana bethu ukubaleka ngokukhululekileyo eyadini. Umhlala-phantsi oya kusibonelela njengakwiminyaka yobudala okoko nje besigcina ngokuthembekileyo.
Kunoko, sinezindlu ezincinci kunye neeMcMansion ezingabizi kwiindawo ezixhomekeke emotweni ezikufuphi. Sineenqanawa ezincinci ukuhlala. Sineenkqubo zesikolo ezingasetyenziswa phantsi kweemali ezixhaswa yi-ADHD, ukuxhalabisa nokuxinezeleka. Sinokutya okucutshungulwayo kunye nokutya okukhawulezayo kunye noshukela oluninzi kunye nokuzivocavoca kakhulu. Siphinde sabuyisela i-patties efana neyona nxalenye yesilwanyana esiyilibele ukuba siyidla. Ukuthatha umhlala-phantsi wethu mali-mali kunye nathi, kwaye salahlekelwa yimikhono zethu xa iimarike zibona i-suburbia malunga noko, ukuxelisa into eyinyani.
Oko sikulibala kukuba yonke into ekufanele ukuba nayo yiphumo lomsebenzi onzima.
Ngendlela efanayo, i-porn yathengiswa kuthi njengephupha laseMelika. Into esiyithengileyo yayiyindlela elula yokuphuma. Sasifuna ukwaneliseka kunye noononophala kwakulula. Kulula kunokuba uthethe nentombazana, intombazana ephume kwiligi yakho (kwaye inyani, ayizizo zonke?) Ngubani onokukuqhushumba ngephanyazo okanye onokuba nesithandwa esikhulu kunawe. Intombazana enokuthi, nangasiphi na isizathu, yaphule intliziyo yakho. Intombazana enokuthi xa ixabisa nantoni na iyakwenza ukuba ulinde isibini okanye ezimbini ngenxa yokuba isazi ukuba kuya kuba ngcono ngokulinda.
Endaweni yoko, saneliseka kwangoko. Sine-sedation, kunye nokubekwa kunye nento evakala iyinto yokwenyani-into esakha sayazi okanye into esicinga ngayo. Kwakuye kwangoko kukhulu kwaye kubhetele kunokuba amaphupha ethu amabi kakhulu angakhulelwa, kwaye kwangaxeshanye kungabinantsingiselo kwaye kungonwabisi nje kunegama elihlebelwayo endlebeni yethu, ukusuka kwimilebe yomfazi olungileyo. Sekunjalo, sayithenga kwaye sehla. Kwaye emva kwethutyana izinto zaqala ukwenzeka. Ngesiquphe, yayingalunganga okanye yayingonelanga. Kwaye sisebenzise ngaphezulu. Ngaphambi kokuba sazi ukuba sasivumela abafazi bethu okanye amantombazana ukuba azibhijele ebhedini ecaleni kwethu ngenxa ye-PE okanye i-ED okanye ngenxa yokuba sasidlala okanye sibukele umabonwakude ukusiphazamisa kwinto eyenzekayo. Sibayeka balibale ukuba ulwalamano lokwenyani lwalunjani kwaye, nathi ke, saqala ukuzilibala. Umsebenzi wethu wabandezeleka, iintsapho zethu zasokola, iingqondo zethu zaphazamiseka. Saqala ukuphosa ityala. Ekugqibeleni, sakhutshwa.
Kwakhona, silibale ukuba yonke into ekufanele ukuba nayo sisiphumo sokusebenza nzima.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba abanye basakhumbula. Kwaye ebumnyameni obungaphakathi ngaphakathi kwethu-indawo apho sihlala sisoyika ukujonga into esinokuyifumana-nathi siyayenza. Siyazi ukuba imvakalelo yokuwa kukudinwa emva kokuzilolonga iyanelisa ukodlula nasiphi na isiyobisi. Siyayazi ukuba kunjani ukuya emva kwayo emsebenzini kwaye uvune umvuzo womsebenzi owenziwe kakuhle. Siyazi ukuba ukutyala imali kwimfundo yethu kubaluleke ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na imoto esinokuyiqhuba. Siyazi ukuba uthando kunye nokuzinza kunokusenza sisityebi kunayo nayiphi na into egqithisileyo. Siyazi ukuba incwadi elungileyo ibhetele kakhulu kunethelevishini. Siyazi ukuba iphonografi ayisoze yathetha kangako njengokujonga abanye ngokungakhathali kwiliso.
Kwaye noononophala-ogqithisileyo phakathi kwethu uyazi okanye ubuncinane ithemba lokuba naluphi na unkulunkulu onokuthi ukuba xa efa uya kuthatha kunye nenkumbulo yokwanelisa umfazi, ukumbamba njengoko ekhala ngokukhawuleza, engakwazi ukuphefumula . Ukulala nje eceleni kwakhe. Ukugijima iminwe yakhe ngeenwele zakhe.
Oko, nkosikazi, okokushiya kungenxa yam.
TL, DR; Njengazo izinto eziphathekayo ze-American Dream, i-Porn i-lowest, iminyanya yokulingisa into eyinyani kwaye eyona nto ifanelekile ukuba nayo.
Ukuba lonke uluntu aluzange ludinge ukuntywila kwi-Porn kude kube li-15 kwiminyaka eyadlulayo-ngokuqinisekileyo, asiyidingi nathi.
"Ndiyazi ukuba ezinye izibini zisebenzisa iphonografi ngokukhuselekileyo, oko akuthethi ukuba akuyongozi kakhulu kwezi ntsuku- ngokunganikezeli nge-porn yasimahla, yangoko nangoko. Ngokuqinisekileyo abanye abantu banokusebenzisa iphonografi ngaphandle kokuba ubomi babo bungahlukani, abanye abantu banokusebenzisa icocaine ngaphandle kobomi babo, kodwa ke ndisazolumkisa wonke umntu ngobungozi bokuyisebenzisa. Izizukulwana ezidlulileyo zezibini zazinokuthi ngaphambili zisebenzise iphonografi ukuze "zi-spice izinto phezulu" kodwa kunye nerhamncwa elitsha eliyi-Intanethi, abantu abatshatileyo ngoku basebenzisa iphonografi "ukwenza izinto phezulu".
Luhlobo lwengxaki yokuqala yehlabathi ukuba ucinga ngayo. Ngenxa yesantya esiphezulu kwi-intanethi kwimbali yehlabathi, yile nto siyifumanayo.
Khawucinge nje ngabo bonke abantu abaye baphumelela ngenxa yeNofap. Uyawubona umxholo? Kungenxa yokuba bahlala behlala benemveliso kwaye bengcono abantu xa becocekile kwikhoboka leziyobisi. Ngaba ayisiyonto inomdla leyo? Khawufane ucinge indlela oluya kuvelisa ngayo uluntu lwethu, cinga ukuba luqine kangakanani uqoqosho lwethu, ukuba ama-95% abantu abangamadoda babengekho kumakhoboka oonografi kwaye ke bekwazi ukufikelela kubuchule babo.
Oku kufaneleke ngakumbi ngokubhekisele kwimfundo. Abantu bahlala betyhola imfundo yethu eyoyikisayo "ngokusilela kwenkcitho" okanye "ukungabikho kokhuphiswano lwesikolo." Ngaba ukhona umntu omaziyo ongakhange enze bhetele esikolweni emva kokuba beqalisile i-NoFap? Hayi Wonke umntu wenza ngcono esikolweni xa echitha umlutha. Ke khawufane ucinge ukuba ziziphi na izikolo zethu ukuba i-95% yabafundi bethu ibingakhange ifry ubuchopho babo kwimifanekiso engamanyala?
Nantsi into uninzi lwethu olunqongophele kuyo yonke imihla yobomi: umlo, umzabalazo, ukonwaba koloyiso lobomi. Ulambile? Bamba ezinye izinto ezinqabileyo ezenziweyo kwi-drive-thru. Udiniwe? Lala phantsi kwindlu yakho enesiphatho-moya kwimatrasi yakho yenkumbulo. Horny? Tsibela kwiwebhu kwaye ukhuphe enye ngaphandle.
Asizange senziwe kule bomi.
“Ukubona umhlaba ngamehlo abonisa amanyala Okwangoku, ebomini bokwenyani, ngenxa yokuba ingqondo yam ixhaphake ngokwesondo, andiphenduli njengomntu kubo bonke ubuhle bokwenene bezesondo endihlangana nabo rhoqo. Ubomi bokwenyani amantombazana amnandi ayizizo izinto zesondo. Izinto eziqhelekileyo zesondo ezifana nesikhundla sezithunywa zevangeli kunye nentombazana enhle (izinto ezazisetyenziselwa ukuba ndizenzele nzima nje ngokucinga ngayo) akuzona izinto endicinga ngazo. Inje ngale ngqondo intle uthixo andinike yona ukuba ndicinge ubudlelwane obusempilweni obunothando ngesondo buye babulawa zi-porn. ... Akukho mntu ngaphandle phaya ushumayela indlela yokuphila engamanyala, kwaye nokuba impilo yakho yezesondo ixhomekeke njani kuyo. Iyandiphoxa lonto. Ndiyazi ngoku ukuba ukonwaba kunye nokuzaliseka ngokwesondo ngekhe kwenzeke phambi kwescreen sekhompyuter. Ndiyathemba amava am amva nje kwaye olu luntu luza kundinceda ndifumane amandla okuphila ubomi endibaziyo ukuba ndifuna ukubuphila. ”
Maxa wambi ndiye ndinikezele kumgibe we-intanethi. Yintoni engalunganga ngayo? Ungathi. Wonke umntu udinga ukusinda okuncane. Ukucatshulwa nokukhwabanisa kuyimvelo. Udinga ukukhululwa kwesinye isikhathi.
Ewe, andiphikisani naloo mvakalelo, kodwa andikholelwa ukuba ukuwela kwi-dope-add daze ngeeyure ekugqibeleni, ngelixa ndibukele izinto ezingathandabuzekiyo ukuze uphume, luhlobo lokukhululwa ngamanye amaxesha Ndifuna ebomini bam. ”
“Ekugqibeleni, yonke into yenzeka ngesizathu kwaye oku kuphazamiseka kundenze buhlungu, kodwa kwandinceda nembono yam kwabanye nakubomi! Ukwabelana ngesondo yinto ekufanele ukuba ube nesipho ngayo…. Kwaye ndiyifundile ngendlela enzima. ”
Oku kubi kakhulu! Kuyadandathekisa ukucinga malunga kuba abantu abanako ukuziva izibonelelo zokumisa iphonografi okwethutyana emva kokuyeka. Ivakala ngathi yingxaki engenakujikwa. Ndingamashumi amabini anethoba, kwaye ndiziva ndingenakuzinceda ukucinga ngako, kwaye ndibuhlungu kakhulu kubafana abancinci phaya abangenayo imiyalezo evela kwinkcubeko ebasusa kule ntlekele iqhubekayo. ”
Iingcamango zam malunga nendlela enzulu ngayo ..
Njengoko ubona ukuba ndikumhla we-10 kodwa sekulixesha elide ndisendleleni ye-nofap. Lonke eli xesha lindenze ndacinga ngendlela abasabela ngayo abantu nge-porn.
Kwaye ndiyifumene le: Njengokuba uninzi lwethu lusazi, eyona njongo iphambili yomntu kukuphucula ukuze akwazi ukuzala kwakhona. Kodwa ukufika kwe-intanethi kuye kwatshintsha yonke into, ngoku, nabani na onokuqhatha yingqondo ke loo nto ikholelwa ekubeni uyazala kwakhona.
Owona mngcipheko wokwenyani we-PMO ukuba ungafumana eyona njongo iphambili uhleli phambi kwekhompyuter yakho kwaye nokuba unobomi obuzolileyo kutheni uziphucula? Kutheni ubalulekile? Kutheni uyila, uyila?
Ngokuqinisekileyo ndandifumana kwiimfono zoononophelo njengoko nje amandla am ngamandla aya kuphumelela! Inhlanhla yefapstronaut, Sinokutshabalalisa i-porn ebomini bethu !!
I-ps: isiNgesi ayilulo ulwimi lwam lokuqala, ungakhathazeki ukundilungisa
I-Nofap njengenguqulelo / ukuvukela
Ndiye ndacinga ukuba uonografi (kunye nesini esingathandabuzekiyo) lusebenza njengendlela yokuxhaphaza isondo kunye nobungqingili bomntu, okukhokelela ekudakaleni nasekunyameni.
Andigxeki mntu ngokukodwa kwesi siphumo, kodwa kubonakala kum ngokucacileyo ukuba iphonografi iyabathoba ubume bendalo ngendlela ebaluleke ngakumbi kunokubukela umabonwakude, okanye ukusebenzisa iziyobisi. Zonke ezi ziphumo zingancumisiyo zoluntu zikhokelela kubantu abonwabileyo, ekusebenziseni iimveliso ezongezelelekileyo, ukungakhathali koosopolitiki (abanokuthi emva koko babonise ukungabi namsebenzi emsebenzini, njengoko beba abanye).
Ndicinga ukuba ukungabinamsebenzi kukhokelela esiphelweni sokuziphatha kwezentlalo, okanye ekubanjweni kwayo kwimithetho engumfuziselo eguqula uxanduva lomntu kunye nokuzimela- siziva ngathi siyasebenzisana, kodwa mhlawumbi asenzi njalo.
Ukuhlaziya isintu somntu wesini ngokubhekiselele kwi-pornography esandululweyo ingaba yindlela enye ongayivukela ngayo, ngokuchasene, ukulwa nexhala, ngokuchasene nokungapheliyo okuphazamisa ubomi bethu obuhle kunye nezimangalisa.
Okokugqibela, kubavakalisi ababini bakawonkewonke kunye neYouTube: ”
“Ingqondo eyilelwe ukujamelana nokuhendwa kokuziphatha okubi ngokwesondo njengokubona nje umntu ongumfazi wesizwe ngaphesheya kwe-savanna ayincedi nganto xa ehlaselwa zizimemo eziqhubekayo zokuthabatha inxaxheba kwizimo ezingamanyala ezodlula lee naziphi na iingqondo ezigulayo zaseMarquis de Sade. Akukho nto yomelele ngokwaneleyo kulwakhiwo lwethu lwengqondo ukuhlawulela ukukhula kwezinto zethu zobuchwephesha, akukho nto inokubambisa umnqweno wethu wokulahla zonke izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kweminye imizuzu (enokuthi ibe ziiyure ezine) iindawo ezimnyama zewebhu. Iphonografi ikhawuleze kwaye inamandla, itshabalalisa amandla ethu okuzibandakanya kwezoluntu kunye neshishini eliphantsi kwezesini. [Iphonografi iyinto entle kwabanye, kodwa ngendlela etshabalalisa izinto ezingaphezulu kokumnandi nje; ezo zinto zibalulekile ebomini. ” -Alain de Botton
"Iphonografi yanamhlanje lilizwe elitsha elinesibindi, elinemida ehlala ixesha elide ukuba kuthatha i-dopamine receptor ukuthotywa." -DL Hilton, MD
Ngaba i-NoFap iya kuhlala ihamba phambili? (Ingxoxo yeReddit)
Usuku lomhlaba luye lwayeka ukuhlaziya umzimba (i-trailer ye-movie)
Umqhathaniswa uChrist Rock uyeka uononophala (i-clip show)
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Iingcamango: I-Dopamine yinto engumlutha woqobo, kungekhona ukutshintsha
Kusuka kwenye iforum
Ingxelo yosuku lwe-90:
YBR
Umnikazi wesitifiketi sefestile yomntwana okhulayo
Okunye okuvela ku-Alain de Botton
Isishwankathelo somntu omnye:
Kusuka kwenye iforum
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/162and/the_uk_contributes_85_new_fapstronauts/
ushiya lo myalelo. Nanku owona mbhalo mhle ndiwuqokeleleyo.
Ndabuya kwakhona kwaye ngenxa yoko ndishiya lo myalelo. Nanku owona mbhalo mhle ndiwuqokeleleyo.
Iimvumbo zintlungu
Ukufumana umsebenzisi:
Ingcinga yomfana omncinci
Omnye umntu oxhasa abanye
kwi intambo emangalisayo:
UGuy ulahla ukungabikho komntu
Omnye umfana:
Phakathi kwe30s
Kusuka kwenye iforum
Andicingi ukuba uluntu luyazi ukuba yeyiphi i-intanethi eyenzayo kwindoda !! Yonke into edibanisa i-porn kunye ne-ED. Iphonografi ijika indoda ibe yinkwenkwe eyoyika !! Ukuxhalaba kwakho kuluntu, uxinezelekile, Akukho nto ikhuthazayo, Awunakho ukugxila, Ungakhuselekanga kakhulu, ulahlekelwe sisandi semisipha, lenze ukuba ilizwi lakho libe buthathaka, Ungabi nakulawula ubomi bakho. Amadoda aya koogqirha Ukufumana ukumiselwa kwazo zonke i-kinda meds, xa iyinyani yonke into iphantsi koononophelo kunye nento eyenzayo kwingqondo yakho nasemzimbeni.
Ngaphezu kwabalandeli be-100 bathi kutheni bayeka ukulahla
ngasinye ngesigwebo ngasinye:
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/17578k/why_are_you_doing_this_wrap_it_up_in_one_sentence/
(Usuku 27) Ubudala 19
I-Funny comment kwenye iforamu
Ingxelo yomntu onomtsalane womntwana
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1bivpl/fetishes_getting_way_out_of_control/
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Kutheni kufuneka uphinde ubuyeke namhlanje
ithunyelwe kwi-hourago ye-13 dota2nub
I-NoFap ithetha ntoni kum ngoku xa ndiqala.
Amakhwenkwe aneminyaka eli-15 ubudala akazukuya koogqirha ethetha nge-ED. Ngu t
Ngenxa yokuba i-PMO intle kamnandi? - ilungu leforum
Kwabo baqala nje ukuphuma, ngekhe nikuqonde oku ngoku. Ayizukuvakala kuwe. Kuya kubonakala ngathi kuyaxoka okanye ukubaxa. Kodwa into endiza kuyithetha yinyani: Abasetyhini bokwenyani, kunye nakho konke ukungafezeki, ukungafezeki, amanxeba ovakalelo kunye nobuhle zibhetele kakhulu kunayo nantoni na oya kuyifumana emva kwale khompyuter.
Oko ubona kweso sikrini akunjalo. Yintoni oyicingayo engqondweni yakho malunga nabasetyhini kunye nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo, yintoni imithwalo yabo efana ngayo, akukho nanye into enjalo. KUNYE KWENYE EYENYE !!!
Ingqondo yakho yaphukile. Uzakhele inqaba yokuxoka, kwaye iyintolongo yakho. Ubanjwe apha. Uyajonga ujonge izinto abanazo abanye abantu kwaye uzixelele, "ayisoze ibe ndim lo." Andisoze ndibenalo sana lushushu. Andiyi kuze ndibekwe. Ndiza kuhlala ndedwa. Ndimbi. Ndiyagula. Ndingumgqwetha. Andinakukhetha. Olu nyango lwam kuphela kwendlela yokuphuma.
Ngalo lonke elixesha intombazana ihleli ngapha kwegumbi kuwe. Intombazana ukuba uyamvumela-ingatshintsha iziseko zehlabathi lakho. Intombazana enokukuhlonela, intombazana enokukuvuyela ukuba kunye nawe, intombazana enokukuthanda. Kodwa intombazana ongasoze uhlangane nayo ngenxa yesifuba sayo esicaba, okanye imilenze etyebileyo. Intombazana eya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo isilele kumfanekiso wakho ojijekileyo wokugqibelela. Kwintloko yakho, loo ntombazana ngamalungu omzimba kuphela. Umboniso wenyama. Kwaye inyama ayikuthandi.
Yehova, nxamnye nam yonke into oyifunayo malunga nokuba uyabahlonela njani abasetyhini nendlela obabona ngayo njengabantu. Kodwa, nceda undixelele, bekuphi ixesha lokugqibela othe wathetha nentombazana ngaphandle kokulinganisa? Yintoni elula ukuyikhumbula, igama lakhe? Okanye usayizi wekhabe?
I-Porn ichukumisayo. Ukukhwabanisa kulula. I-Orgasm iyavuya.
Ukuhlonela kunobungozi. Isenzo sinzima. Ukulahlwa kuyabuhlungu.
Qhubeka. Jabulela yakho imifanekiso. Zichitha ubomi bakho bonke ujike kwisithambo. Ngenxa yokuba i-PMO imnandi kakhulu?
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1evzig/because_pmo_is_pretty_fun_right/
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Samawaka amaninzi sele sisebenzisana nazo zonke iifayili zethu ukuze siziphucule, sinyathele ebubini, size siqhubekele phambili kutshatsha.
Ingomso ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, ukusa kwelanga ngaphandle kokuzichukumisa okanye ukuzinyanya.
Ngumsoka ngaphandle kokuxhalaba, ukusa kwenkalipho.
Ingomso ngaphandle kobuthathaka, ukusa kwamandla.
Ingomso ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, ukusa kwexesha lokugxila.
Ingomso ngaphandle kokuhlaselwa, ukusa kwenkqubela.
Ngumsoka ngeentlungu. Kwaye intlungu ihamba phambili.
Kuqala ukuva, intsana engenamigca ehambayo.
Kungumso wobulumko obutsha, ukuntwela kokusa ngaphandle kokungacingi.
Kuyinto yokusa kwintshaba entsha, ukusa kwelanga kubo bonke abantu.
Ingomso ngaphandle kokwesaba, ngaphandle kobuhlungu.
Ingomso ngaphandle kwefap.
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1ao87h/standing_ovation_for_you_fapstronauts_on_behalf/
Ngendlela ecacileyo, i-pornography iyabulala umphefumlo wakho.
Izilumkiso zezeMpilo kwiindawo zoononondazi
Ukusuka kwelinye iqonga- "Bonke abantu abalungileyo balele"
I-Porn Distusion
Ingxelo ye fapstronaut
Iintsuku ezingama-60 - ukulungiswa okungcono, ukusebenzisana okulula, i-ADD ihambe
Miley kunye nokuhlonishwa koonografi kwiNkcubeko yaseMelika
Iingxowa / iingcambu zokuxubusha kwiforum
[Iingxelo ngumsunguli we http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com]
Kuvunyelwene ngokubanzi ukuba ukuze utshabalalise umlutha woonografi kufuneka ukuba, ubuncinci, kunciphisa kakhulu inani leexesha esizibetha ngayo.
Emva koko kuza umbuzo "Yintoni oyenzayo emva kokuqalisa kwakhona?"Okanye"Yintoni omele uyenze xa sele ubethe umlutha wobugqwetha?". Lo mbuzo uneziphene kuba ucinga ukuba uyakuphiliswa emva kweentsuku ezingama-XX. Ukuba nje bekulula. Sithetha nge-10, 15 okanye i-20 iminyaka yemeko yesondo apha.
Kodwa nokuba umbuzo ulungile, abantu baya kuqala ukuzibuza "Ewe ... ukuba ndahamba iintsuku ezingama-XX ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza ... ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo ndinokuqhubeka ngolu hlobo, kutheni i-masturbate nonke? Ngaba iyimfuneko ngokwenene?", Kwaye akukho nto iphosakeleyo kuloo ndlela yokucinga.
Undibuzile ukuba ndazi njani ukuba iphonografi kunye nokuhambisa amaphambili kunxibelelene ngokudibeneyo. Ewe, ndizifundile ngokwaneleyo izithuba ezivela kubafana ukuba ndiyazi ukuba yinyani. Kudala ndilapha kuluntu. Uninzi lweziyobisi ezingamanyala kule mihla alunanto yokuzihlambalaza ukuba akunjalo ngoonobumba Mhlawumbi nguwe wedwa ngaphandle kolawulo, kodwa ayiyisusi into yokuba iisayithi ze-tube kunye nee-smartphones zithandwa, amadoda azimisele ukuba asebenzise ezi zixhobo njengoncedo lokuphulula amalungu esini.
Akukho nto ithi “Ndiza kunyanga emva kweentsuku ezingama-XX". Ukuba inkcazo yakho yokunyanga iyasusa i-ED, ewe ewe, kodwa kungekudala uyakuqonda ukuba oku kuya kusiba nzulu kunoko. I-ED yinto nje yencam yomkhenkce.
Abaphela kuphela abafana abaphilisayo ngokupheleleyo abo bafumana utshintsho olupheleleyo kwifilosofi xa kuziwa ngesini kunye nokuphinga. Abafana njengoGABE kunye neWhirlwindTobias. Umzekelo wokugqibela ngomzekelo fumana ixabiso ekuthintela ukuxhamla ngokukhawuleza.
Isimo sengqondo esilungeleleneyo asikho nje malunga ne-dopamine receptors okanye uvelwano. Kumele ihambisane nembono enempilo ngesondo.
Ukuyeka iphonografi akuyi kwenza shit ukuba usacinga ngokwe "Ndifuna ukulahla i-ED yam ukuze ndihambe ndidibanise bonke abafazi endiyifunayo"Okanye"Ndifuna ukuya kumhla we-XX ngoko ndiyakwazi ukuhlambalaza xa ndifuna". Kodwa leyo yinto endiyifundileyo de ndade ndafumana intombi.
Umlutha woononophala oshiya kwi-hardcore porn kodwa usakhonkcoza amantombazana kwi-Facebook, ukuxoxa ngesondo kwi webcams, ukucinga ngokulala ngesondo, kunye nokuhlaziya umzimba ngokuqhelekileyo, ukwenza okungalunganga. Akenzi kwanto ukuba ajongane nomlutha wobutsha, inkanuko kunye nokuntywila.
Yiyo loo nto uninzi lwabantu lusilela. Akukho nto bayenzayo ngaphandle kokuzama ukuyeka ukubukela iphonografi. Ingqondo yabo malunga nesondo ihlala ifana. Ihlala "iphonografi".
Xa abantu bekuqonda oku ke kulapho bathatha isigqibo sokuyeka ukuphulula amalungu esini kunye nokuzanelisa kwangoko ngonaphakade. Bazama ukwenza utshintsho olunzulu ebomini babo.
Yiloo nto mna nabanye abaninzi sizama ukuyenza ngoku.
Akukho malunga nokuba yimonki. Ayisiyo malunga nokulwa ngesondo okanye ukuphulula amalungu esini. Imalunga nokufumana ulonwabo ngokungagxili kubomi bakho bonke “kumatshontsho ashushu”. Lo mbandela kufuneka uphathwe, kungenjalo awusoze ube nolwalamano olwanelisayo nolunempilo kunye nomntu obhinqileyo, kuba akukho mfazi ungatshatanga unokuze anelise ukutyeba kweziyobisi ezingamanyala kunye nokuthanda amantombazana amaninzi.
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Incwadi yecandelo lezonyango ngokubuyiselwa kwindoda
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2p0x8r/my_beautiful_letter_to_porn_and_porn_industry/
Banoyolo abaNewFappers, kuba baya kulidla ilifa lomhlaba
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2qm3su/blessed_are_the_nofappers_for_they_shall_inherit/
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