Nakuba abaningi bathi amadoda emazweni amaningi asentshonalanga aphila impilo enelungelo elihle, kodwa lokhu kuyishintsho esicacile futhi eqhubekayo emkhakheni wokuphila abafana abasha abahlala kuwo. Amadoda namuhla awafani noyise noma omkhulu: Abaningi kakhulu emphakathini nabanamahloni abesilisa besifazane, badla izithombe ezingcolile ezinganeni ezincane, bawela emuva kwabangane babo besifazane esikoleni, futhi bathola imfundo encane nje yobulili kubazali babo nasezikoleni.
Amadoda adla amahora amaningi emidlalweni yezokuxhumana kanye nemidlalo yevidiyo ngokulinganisa okuncane, futhi asebenza kancane futhi angaphezu kwesinye isizukulwane ngaphambi kwabo. Amadoda abe nesithakazelo esingaphansi kwempumelelo yezemfundo, yokuthandana, noma yomsebenzi kanye nezinkinga eziningi zomphakathi, izinkambiso nezomnotho zamadoda zizovela. Lezi zinkinga zidinga ukuxazululwa - ngokushesha kungcono.
UFiliphu Zimbardo, encwadini yakhe ethi "Man Interrupted," uchaza izinto ezikhona manje ezinkulungwaneni ezinkulungwane nabafana abancane ababhekana nazo njengoba bekhula ezweni lethu lanamuhla. Umsebenti wakhe uchaza "umlutha wokuvusa" othize, nakuba ukuvusa kungabi ngokobulili kuphela. Insizwa ikhula futhi ihlala ezindaweni ezahlukene kunezizukulwane ezidlule, kubangele ukuba baqede noma banganaki amaphutha abo, ukuntuleka kokuqondiswa kanye nolwazi. Isibonelo, inani elikhulayo lesahlukaniso eMelika lishiya abafana abaningi abanomzali ongenalutho noma ubuhlobo obungokomzwelo obukhulu naboyise. Lokhu kuye kwaxhunyaniswa ngokuqondile yi-US Bureau of Justice Statistics kanye noMnyango wezokuThutha waseTexas ukwandisa izinga lokuhlukumezeka kanye nomsebenzi wesenzo sobugebengu osemusha. Ukuntuleka kokuqala kokuqondisa empilweni yenkomba kungabangela ukulahlekelwa ngokomzwelo nakwezinye izifiso kuye nakwabanye, kungabangela ukuba ingane ibe yingxenye encane noma engekho ngokuphelele, futhi ingathinta ubuhlobo besikhathi esizayo.
Ekhuluma ngobuhlobo, insizwa eningi isuke inganyengwa kakhulu ngamathemba okusebenzelana ngothando ngenxa yobunzima babo ukuthola kanye nezibopho zomuntu siqu ezidingekayo ukuze kutholakale uxhumano oluhlala njalo. Ngenxa yalokho, izinsizwa zidla izithombe ezingcolile ezingaphezu kwanoma yimuphi omunye umuntu. Ukusetshenziswa kobulili kuye kwaba yinto evamile kangangokuthi uye wadala izidakamizwa zayo zobulili, ezifana ne-PIED - ukungasebenzi kwe-erectile okubangelwa ucansi. Ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kuyashintsha imithi yokwenza ubuchopho, ngokusho kukaGary Wilson, umbhali we-"Brain yakho ku-Porn." Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili nokushaya indlwabu kulungisa kabusha ama-neurons ebuchosheni kuze kufike lapho kuvuka khona noma yini enye-ngisho nokuhlangenwe nakho kwangempela kwezocansi - iba kunzima kakhudlwana. Okubaluleke kakhulu, ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungabangela ubunzima obungokomzwelo nobunzima ngokuxhumana okuhlala njalo. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyaziwa ngokudala ukumelela okungavamile kobulili nokusondelana, ukuvimbela izinsizwa ekufuneni okuhlangenwe nakho okuthandana nabo ngokobulili noma ngokocansi ngenxa yokukhululeka kokufinyelela. Kufanele kuqondwe yizo zonke izinsizwa nabantu abadala ukuthi i-pornzo ayinaso isisekelo empeleni futhi akufanele isetshenziselwe ukwakha ukungabi nesifiso sokuphila kwangempela kanye nesipiliyoni.
Enye insizwa abasha abhekana nazo ukuhlukunyezwa kwabo nezwe elibazungezile ngenxa yokulimala kwezomnotho, ukungabi nokuxhumana kobulili, nokuntuleka komuntu siqu. Izinsizwa eziningi azizwa zifinyelelekile noma ziwusizo ngenxa yokungabi nabathengi noma ikhono lokwenza ngaphandle kwesikole noma emsebenzini. Amageyimu wevidiyo agcwalisa lokhu okungafaneleki - ahlose futhi afezeke ngokusekelwe, anikeze umqondo wokuvuza ngendlela engokoqobo ukuthi usebenze ama-neurons afanayo ebuchosheni obuhambisana nomvuzo, futhi wabeka isidlali esimweni sokuhluka okuhlukile. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukwanda kwamakhono okuxazulula izinkinga lapho imidlalo yevidiyo idlala njalo. Kodwa-ke, le ndlela yokuqeda ukufinyeleleka ingaba umlutha futhi, ube yindawo yokuphela yokudabuka komuntu wangempela. Njengokusetshenziswa ngokweqile kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ukuhlelwa kabusha kwama-neurons ebuchosheni - ikakhulukazi uma umdlali edlala yedwa - kudala ukuxhomeka "kokuvusa" ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lo mkhuba ungathatha isikhathi ekuthuthukiseni amakhono ezwe wangempela, ukuzilibazisa, ukuzijabulisa nokuthuthukisa ukuziphatha okuhle emsebenzini. Futhi nakuba ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile kwemidlalo yevidiyo kanye neminye imithombo yezindaba kungathinta kabi bobabili bobulili, kubonakala sengathi kuyinkinga evelele kwabesilisa abasha, abadlala ngobuningi kakhulu kunabalingani babo besifazane.
Into engavamile ukuxoxwa yimizamo yokuthi Ukuqwashisa Ukukhathazeka Kwezindleko Nokunakekelwa Kokukhathazeka Kwengqondo Kunamajoni nabafana abasha. Abafana banamathuba amaningi okuphindwe kabili okutholakala ukuthi banezinkinga futhi kungenzeka ukuthi banqunywe imithi, ngokusho kwengqondo yengane uVictoria Dunckley. Imithi ethile - kanye namanye ama-hormone manipulators afana ne-Bisphenol A - angathinta ukukhulelwa nokuthuthukiswa kwamadoda amancane ngokomzimba, okuholela e-testosterone ephansi, ukunciphisa ukuzala, ukunciphisa ukusebenza kocansi kanye nokuqina komzimba.
Amadoda amasha abhekana nezinselelo eziningi namuhla kunabantu abakholelwayo. Basuke bengathandeki ekutholeni umsebenzi, bethola umngane othandana nabo, baqala umndeni, futhi bafuna izintshisekelo zabo nezithakazelo ekuphileni. Esikhundleni salokho, baye baphazamiseka, baxilongwa ngokweqile, bafundela kancane kunabalingani babo besifazane, futhi babhekene nezinsongo eziyingqayizivele ezingokwengqondo nezingokwenyama. Kudingeka siqaphele ukubaluleka kwamadoda anempilo, aphelele futhi indima yabo emphakathini, futhi senze konke esingakwenza ukusiza lesi sizukulwane samanje sabantu abasha bavuselele ubukhulu bayo, ukuzethemba kwayo, kanye nokukwazi ukubuyisela emphakathini. Uma kungenjalo, isimo samanje izinsizwa ezibhekene nazo ngeke zibhekiselele kuphela kubo, kodwa nakwabanye bethu, futhi singathatha izizukulwane ukulungisa.
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