Ingabe ubuchopho obuthandana buzwela kakhulu?
In Ama-Brain Abantu Awakhiwe Ukuze Awele Othandweni sibheke iqiniso le-neurochemical elisemuva kwemvelo yethu yokuwela (nangaphandle kothando). Sibonile ukuthi okhokho bethu kungenzeka ukuthi bebengama-pair bonders isikhathi eside kakhulu, okusho ukuthi ukuhlanganiswa ngababili kusiza izinjongo ezibalulekile zezinhlobo zethu. Sikubonile okufanayo ukuziphatha okuzibophezelayo ukuthi ngokuzikhandla kuqinisa izibopho zethu zombili ziyanciphisa ukucindezeleka nokwandisa inhlalakahle.
Kulesi sihloko sizobheka ukuba sengozini okufihliwe kwe-pair-bonder okubangela usizi ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala. Okungukuthi, ukuthambekela kokuphishekela ngokweqile. Le ngozi yavela lapho ososayensi behlinzeka ngama-amphetamine ezinhlotsheni ezimbili ze-vole. Lezi zinhlobo ngokusobala ziyefana kodwa ngesici esisodwa. Ukubhangqa okukodwa, kanti omunye uziphethe kahle. (Cabanga womuntu futhi bonobo. Ubuchopho bethu be-limbic buphethe "igiya" lokubhangqa ngababili ngenkathi i-bonobo ingenayo.)
Yiziphi izinhlobo ezisebenzise kakhulu izidakamizwa futhi zabonisa amazinga aphezulu obuchopho e-dopamine (the "I gotta have it" neurochemical)? Izinhlobo ezimbili ezibophayo. (Nakhu okunye isihloko sakamuva mayelana nokucwaninga okubonisa indlela okuvezwa ngayo izinhlobo zezimbhangqwana ezihlanganisa ukuphuza utshwala.)
Ngokusobala, banezinhlobo eziningi ezithile zedopamine receptor ebizwa nge- "D2" kumasekethe womvuzo wobuchopho bawo. Cabanga nge-D2 njenge-receptor "yokulangazelela".
Ngokuphambene nalokho, ama-bond-non-pair-bond anezamukeli eziningi ze- "D1". Ama-D1 adlala indima engaqondakali ku kunciphisa izifiso zokuvuselela okukhulu. Lapho kugcwala i-dopamine eyanele, lawa ma-receptor e-D1 aletha umyalezo, “Kulungile, senginele lo muthi, lolu tshwala, noma leli gundane elihlanyayo lingihuqa. Cabanga ukuthi ngizoqhubeka nosuku lwami. ” *
Ubulili bungaba mnandi kuma-chimps, kepha ukuthandana (isifiso sokubhangqa isibopho) kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphumeleleni kofuzo kwezinhlobo zethu, kuthi thina, lesi simo singaphikisana ukuhamba kwezidakamizwa. Okuhlangenwe nakho kuye kwaziwa ukuqala imikhumbi eyinkulungwane, ukubhubhisa imisebenzi yezombangazwe, nokwenza abapristi baphule izifungo. Ngomfanekiso ofanayo, lapho isibopho sesibili siqeda, singashukumisela umlingani oshiyekile ukuthi athathe ukucacisa futhi ahlasele i-appendage.
Masingalubukeli phansi uhlelo lwethu lokubhangqa. Ngemuva kwakho konke, mhlawumbe kungukuxhwilwa kwe- a far Uhlelo lwama-mammalian endala, lowo obopha izinsana nabanakekeli. Abazali nabo bahamba ngezibhamu lapho kusinda (isibopho) nenzalo yabo isengozini.
Ama-soap opera kanye nemiboniso yangempela akuzona nje kuphela ezinye izifo ezivela ngenxa yendlela yokwenza ubuchopho obunamandla. Kanjalo kunjalo Ukuba umlutha wezithombe. Okungavamile njengoba kubonakala sengathi isifiso sokuthandana (kanye nomlingani kuze kube yilapho uhlala khona) kungase kube ngemuva kokukhulula lapho sikhathaza khona ubuchopho bethu ngokusebenzisa izidakamizwa ezihlukahlukene eziyingozi. Umjikelezo wethu omncintiswaneni wokuvuza, okhiqiza leyo mizwa egcweleyo uma sithandana, nguJehova esifanayo Indlela ekhiqiza imizwa eqothula abasebenzisi abaningi ababhekana nayo lapho befaka izidakamizwa zokuhlukumeza, utshwala, i-porn eyeqile, ukugembula, imidlalo evumayo yevidiyo, njalonjalo.
Ngokusobala, lesi sifundazwe esibucayi kakhulu sashintsha ukuze sisisinde sidlule noma yikuphi ukuvikela futhi usenze sibheke ezithandweni kubathandi-Ngenani isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukuba uthandane nezingane zethu. Akuzange kuguquke ukugqugquzela ukulutha komunye kwemisebenzi nezinto. Abantu kuphela abangasebenzisa njalo le ndlela ngezindlela ezinama-dicey.
Kunjengokungathi sibhangqa ama-bonders anenye “imbobo encane” ebuchosheni bethu ehlebeza, “Ngigcwalise.”Kwavela ezindaweni lapho inketho yethu eyinhloko yokuyigcwalisa kwakuyizithandani zocansi ezenziwa ngezikhathi ezithile (okuvame ukulandelwa" ukuphumula "njengokujwayela ukufakwa). Okwenziwe abathintekayo babengekho. Ngokudabukisayo, lo "mgodi" awusoze wagcwaliswa yiziqubu zanamuhla zokuzitika kobuchopho. Ukukhuthaza kakhulu ihlupha le ngxenye yobuchopho. Lokhu kubangela izinkinga ezilandelayo ze-neurochemical ngenkathi izinhliziyo zethu ezivuselelekile zilulama. I-lows, nayo, ingakwazi ukushayela isifiso esikhulu nakakhulu ekuziphatheni ngemithi. lapha! Ngaphambi kokuthi sazi, sabelana ngendaba yethu eqenjini elinezinyathelo eziyi-12.
Lesi sici esibucayi sobuchopho bethu singahle size sichaze ukuthi kungani, njengomphakathi, sivame ukufuna ukulungiswa okulandelayo. Okuningi intsha. Okuningi ukugqugquzela. Eqinisweni, asikutholi ukukhuthazeka; siphelelwe ibhalansi.
Ingqinamba yethu ibuyele kuNgxenye 1 yalesi sihloko, esho ukuthi ukuziphatha okubambisana kunciphisa ukucindezeleka ngesikhathi esifanayo baqinisa izibopho. Kubonakala sengathi bayasebenza ngoba bakhiqiza amazinga e-oxytocin aduduzayo ama-receptors afanele. U-Oxytocin ubonisiwe ukunciphisa izifiso ushukela futhi izidakamizwa, ngisho nokunciphisa izimpawu zokuhoxa. Ngabe lokhu kungasiza ukuchaza ukuthi kungani abathandi bebona ukuziphatha kwansuku zonke kokuzibophezela kunganciphisa ukukhungatheka ngokobulili (izifiso) nokuvimbela ukujwayela phakathi kwabo ngendlela yokuphishekela ukukhuthazwa kocansi okungakwazi?
Ngisho noma abantu bengenza njenge-bonobos, singase sibe nokuningi uma sibheka izinketho zethu eziyingqayizivele zokudala ibhalansi njengezigqila zombili.
Noma ngabe umuntu othile ukhetha ukunqanda umdlalo omningi wokumatanisa ngokuhlala engashadile, ahlangane impilo yonke, noma enze impova izimbali eziningi ngaphandle kwezibopho ezizinzile, uvame ukubambeka ebuchosheni be-bonder. Le wiring ingaba nomthelela omkhulu ezindaweni zokuphila ezingahlobene ngqo nezothando. Isibonelo, ngaphakathi noma ngaphandle kobuhlobo, ukuxhumana okuncane kakhulu kwansuku zonke kokuthandana nabanye, nokugqugquzela okuningi kakhulu ukwandisa ukucindezeleka ngaphandle kokuqaphela kwethu.
Ingqondo yomuntu iguqukele ukuthandana… kaninginingi, uma ithuba lingqongqoza. Umjikelezo wokubhanqa ngababili, ukukhwelana ngokweqile (okweqile), ukujwayela, nokubhangqa futhi kuphinde kusebenze izakhi zethu zofuzo, phakathi kwabantu, ngokuhlukahluka kwamasiko amaningi-noma ngabe kudala izinxushunxushu nentela kumandla ethu okuxolela.
Ngokwazi imijikelezo ebucayi yobuchopho bethu obubophelelayo kanye nomthelela wayo ezimpilweni zethu, singakwazi ukukala kalula izinzuzo ezihlobene (1) zokuvumela izinkanuko zethu ezihleliwe kanye (2) nokufunda ukuzenza lula ngokusebenzisa amasu emvelo njengokuzindla , ukuzivocavoca, i-yoga, isimilo sokuzibophezela, nokulima ngokucophelela kwe amandla ezocansi. Mhlawumbe uhlelo lwethu lokubhangqa okubili luyisikhuthazo esikhulu emikhubeni eminingi yabantu “yokomoya” eqinisa ukulingana kwangaphakathi.
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* Lapho abacwaningi be-vole befaka into efana ne-dopamine ekhanyisa ama-D2 (craving) receptors, kepha hhayi ama-D1 (satiety) receptors, ama-voles ezwa ama-rhapsodies futhi abone izinkanyezi-noma ngabe uPyramis Vole noLebebe Vole bengayi ocansini ngoba base amakheji ahlukene ngaleso sikhathi. Ngokuphambene nalokho, lapho ososayensi bevimbela ukwenziwa kwama-receptors e-D2 (ngaphandle kokuthinta ama-D1s), awekho ama-valentines ashintshaniswa, ama-gametes nje. Ngamafuphi, izifiso ezibangelwa i-dopamine, ezibangelwa izindlela ezisebuchosheni, zibalulekile ekubhangiseni ukubopha. Ngaphandle kwalezi zinqubo, ngisho ne-oxytocin, "i-hormone ebophayo," ngeke ibangele ukuthi ama-voles athandane.
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