Leli sonto uJennifer Lawrence wephule ukuthula kwakhe ngezithombe zakhe ezingabonakali zikhona emhlabeni jikelele, futhi kuphephile ukuthi uthi uthukuthele ngakho. Umdlali we-24 oneminyaka engu-20 ubudala ukhulume kudaba olusha lwe-Vanity Fair. Ukhulume isikhathi eside mayelana nokuvuza komagazini, kodwa ngifuna ukuveza amazwana abaluleke kakhulu akwenzayo abantu abaningi abangawunaki. Kulo mbuzo wachaza ukuthi kungani esithatha izithombe zakhe kuqala: "Kungenzeka isoka lakho lizobheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile noma lizokubuka."
Lesi sitatimende, kanye nesimo sonke, siyangidabukisa ngokudabuka ngenxa yezizathu ezimbalwa.
Okokuqala, ayikho intombazane okufanele izizwe iphoqelekile ukuthumela izithombe zabantu abanqunu ngomzamo wokugcina umfana wayo engazibuki izithombe ezingcolile. Ukusuka kuJennifer Lawrence nowayengumlingani wakhe uNicholos Hoult, futhi ngikhuluma nje njengomuntu ojwayelekile owakhula “ebuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile”, ngibhekane nemiphumela eyehlisa isithunzi nehlisa isithunzi ukutholakala kocansi olungapheli namuhla, futhi mina ' Sibonile ubuhlungu benhliziyo nokungavikeleki kungaletha umlingani onomfana odinga i-porn ukuthi asuke. Ngangingomunye walabo bafana.
Ngangingomunye walabo bafana abathi - ngisho nasebudlelwaneni obunothando - baphendukele ku-porn, futhi ngilimazile abanye besifazane abaqotho empilweni yami ngenxa yalokho. Ngibona lokhu ngokusobala manje njengoba ngiyekile izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi ngathola amandla kabusha okuthi “ngizizwe” ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba futhi. Inkinga ukuthi abafana namuhla banezithombe eziphakeme ngokungazi nangokungenhloso zabesifazane esingakaze sihlangane nabo ngaphezu kwabesifazane bangempela abasithandayo nabasikhathalelayo. Sivikela ukusebenzisa kwethu i-porn njengokungathi kunesidingo, lapho empeleni indoda encane, enempilo kufanele ikwazi ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kosizo lwe-porn.
Ayikho inani lamaphikseli angakuthanda
Abesifazane emhlabeni wonke, ngicela niqonde lokhu: uma uzama "ukuncintisana" ne-porn, uzolahlekelwa njalo, noma ngabe uyisidlamlilo futhi unothando kangakanani. Iningi labantu alikuboni lokhu, kepha izingwegwe ezingcolile zobulili kubafana ngoba linikeza ubusha, ukushaqeka nokumangala - konke okwandisa ikhemikhali ebuchosheni ngemuva kokuvuka okubizwa nge-dopamine. Iningi labafana alibuki nje i-porn ngokuheha kwabadlali. I-porn ye-Intanethi inikeza inani elingenamkhawulo lokukhuthaza okwenziwe okungekho muntu ongakwazi, noma okufanele abencintisane nalo.
Okwesibili, lapho kuqhuma okokuqala, abafana e-intanethi bekhamuluka ngenjabulo ngenkathi bephonsa amabhulukwe abo futhi basebenzisa eyebiwe, izithombe ezithandwayo zenzelwe omunye umuntu njengendlela yokuzifeza. Ngokuzwakalayo wakhathazeka ngalesi sigameko, uJennifer wathi, “Noma ngubani obuke lezo zithombe, uqhubekisa icala lokocansi. Kufanele wesabe ngamahloni. Ngisho nabantu engibaziyo futhi engibathandayo bathi, 'O, yebo, ngibuke izithombe.' Angifuni ukuthukuthela, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye ngicabanga, angikutshelanga ukuthi ungabheka umzimba wami onqunu. ”
Abanye babantu abafanayo, abafuna ubumfihlo kwi-intanethi, bashayela ihlombe umfana ohlasela ubumfihlo babantu futhi avuze izithombe zabo siqu kuyo yonke i-inthanethi. Umlayezo wami kulaba bantu: Donsela amabhulukwe akho phezulu emaqakaleni akho, futhi uyeke i-jackin 'uye ocansini. Lapho-ke mhlawumbe amantombazane ngeke asizwe isidingo sokuthatha izithombe ezinqunu kwasekuqaleni. Okunikezwa yi-porn yobumnandi akunakuqhathaniswa nobumnandi nothando ongakunikezwa yinyama yangempela yegazi. Angikuthembisi ukuthi alikho inani lamaphikseli elingaphinde likuthande.
Abesifazane: uma isizathu sokuthumela kwakho okuphawulekayo isithombe se-sexy ukuwagcina kude ne-porn, ungakwenzi.
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