Ukulandelwa kwekhondomu kungaba yinkinga yesofthiwe, hhayi i-hardware
Intuthuko iye yaqedwa ekusetshenzisweni kwamakhondomu entsheni ukuze kugwenywe ukubhebhetheka kwezifo zocansi. UBill Gates uqinisekile ukuthi amakhondomu angcono azokwandisa ukusetshenziswa kwamakhondomu ngokwenza ucansi lube mnandi. Kulokhu, “Isisekelo Sakhe uzonikeza isibonelelo se-$ 100,000 kunoma ngubani onezinhlelo ezinokwethenjelwa zokwenza ikhondomu 'ezwakala ukuthuthukisa injabulo.' ”Ngokusobala, ngemuva kwe- $ 100k yokuqala, ngamunye wabanikeli abangama-80 angafaka isicelo sesibonelelo sokulandelela esifinyelela ku- $ 1,000,000.
Uma kunepulani yekhondomu elingcono kuma-ether, lesi siqathe se-monster ngokuqinisekile sizoyikhohlisa sibe yifomu lezinto ezibonakalayo. Nokho…
Ingabe ukungqubuzana okungafani kuyisithiyo esikhulu ekusetshenzisweni kwekhondomu?
Uma kungenjalo, ukukhulisa amakhondomu ngeke kwenze lukhulu ekukhuliseni ukuthobela ikhondomu. Kungabonakala kungaqondakali ukubuza ukuthi ngabe ukungqubuzana kuyinkinga enikezwe ukuthi ukuvuswa kocansi kuvame ukwehliswa ngokunengqondo kube yifomula "Ukungqubuzana okuningi ne-eerotica = ucansi olungcono. Duh! ”
Kodwa-ke kukhona ezinye izimpawu ezesabekayo zokuthi le fomula ibheka into esemqoka ekusetshenzisweni kokuvilapha kwamakhondomu: ukuthambekela kobulili ngokwemvelo kokuncipha lapho kunesikhuthazo esiningi. Ngokudabukisayo, imiphumela yokweqisa ngokweqile ivela ngezindlela ezimbili:
- Izindleko ezengeziwe ze inkinga yokusebenza ngocansi, Futhi
- Ukuzizwa kwesifiso socansi, ukuziphatha kokuziphatha okuyingozi.
Inkinga yokusebenza ngokocansi
I-blogger evelele u-Andrew Sullivan yamuva okubhekiswe ekubhubhiseni 'wezinsizwa ezinezimbali ezishaywayo.' Ama-erections angathembekile anciphisa umdlandla wokusebenzisa ikhondomu. Yini ebucayi kakhulu bese uxega lapho sekuyisikhathi sokuba wena, noma umlingani wakho, nithandise ubudoda benu ngekhondomu?
A Ucwaningo lwe-2002 kubike ukuthi abakwa-32% abasebenzisi abakhondomu abancane babe nezinkinga zokulungisa ezibangelwa ukusetshenziswa okungaphephile. Ngu 2006, inani lafika ku-37% .Qaphela ukuthi amasayithi we-tube (mahhala, amavidiyo angcolile we-porn) avela inani le Amadoda abika izinkinga zokusebenza ngocansi, kanye nethubhu zivele kuphela kusukela ku-2006, omunye kufanele azibuze ukuthi yiziphi amaphesenti abasebenzisi abasha abasebenzisa ikhondomu abanenkinga manje?
Ukuzwela okuncane kumnandi kuyisimo impendulo yemvelo ebuchosheni ukugqugquzela okukhulu. Ngokusobala, ukwehla kokuzwela kuhamba kancane kancane, futhi akuwona wonke umuntu othinteka ngokufanayo. Labo abanjalo, bavame ukubamba (noma isikhathi eside) ukuvuselela okukhulu ukuze bafinyelele umvuthwandaba. Omunye umfana wathi,
I-ex ngikhulume ukuthi ngabe ngibonakale kude kangakanani phakathi kocansi. Ngichaza ukuthi kwakungewona ngoba ngangingenaso isithakazelo kuye ngokocansi kodwa ngoba ngangingaphezu kokuvuselelwa [nge-pornography] ukuthi wayezodinga ukugoqa ngezinyawo zakhe, ukuphuza ihhashi nokugubha i- [transwoman] ukuze ukuba ngishukunyiswe ngesikhathi sokulala naye.
Cabanga ngale mpendulo ku-poll ye-2012 yamakhulu wabasebenzisi be-porn ababezama ukuyeka. Phawula ukuthi bangaki ababhekana no-ED, ukungathandeki kocansi nobulili okhethwayo, noma ukungakwazi / ukubhekana nobudlova ngesikhathi sokulala. Iphesenti elingu-44 elitholayo kunciphisa ukuzwela ngokobulili noma injabulo yocansi. Kungabe kunengqondo ukulindela abantu abanjalo ukwamukela amakhondomu nganoma yiluphi uhlobo? (Chofoza ukuze ukhulise izithombe.)
Ngenhlanhla, ngaphezu kwamaphesenti angama-60 abike ukuthi ukuthanda kwabo kukhule ngokuya “ngokweqile” ngokusetshenziswa okuqhubekayo. Abanye babekhathazwa, abanye babengekho (kuze kube kuthinta ukusebenza kwabo kocansi):
Ukufuna ukuzwa ngocansi
Umphumela owodwa ovamile wokwehla kokuzwela enjabulweni yezocansi kunciphisa imizwa yokwaneliseka; ubuchopho bufuna ngokwengeziwe. Eqinisweni, ukugqugquzela okuphakeme kuzizwa kubaluleke kakhulu ebuchosheni obuphendula ngokuthokozisayo ekuzijabuliseni kocansi kwansuku zonke kangangokuba abanye abantu ngokwemvelo bafuna ukuxhashazwa kwezocansi. Izithombe ezingcolile ezingcolile ngokwanele azanele.
Ubungozi kanye nobusha kwandisa ukukhishwa kwamakhemikhali emizwa ethokozisayo futhi athokozisayo emjikelezweni womvuzo wobuchopho — imvamisa kamuva kulandelwa ukwehla okuqhubekayo kokuzwela enjabulweni, izifiso ezengeziwe, nomunye umjikelezo wokukhula.
Ochwepheshe babiza ukuphishekela inkanuko ngokuthi “ukufuna imizwa yezocansi.” Ngokumangazayo a ucwaningo lwamuva bathole ukuthi labo ababika izenzo zokuziphatha ngokobulili obuphephile kakhulu nabo babhekene nezinga eliphezulu ekufuneni kwesisondo.
Sithole ukuthi ukufuna imizwa yezocansi kwakuhambisana futhi kungahambisani neze nokuziphatha kwabantu abasha ngokocansi…. Olunye ucwaningo, ukuhlola ngokukhethekile imikhuba yezocansi ehlobene nezocansi kubantu abasha kanye nabantu abadala, ngokufanayo bathole ubudlelwane obuqinile phakathi kwalezi zindlela zokuziphatha nokufuna ukuzwa ngocansi.
Yikuphi ukuziphatha ngokocansi kwentsha?
- Ubulili obuyingozi: (i) okuhlangenwe nakho ngama-threesomes; (ii) ubulili nomlingani ofanayo wobulili; futhi (iii) ubulili beqiniso kanye nomlingani ohlangene naye;
- Ukwabelana kozakwethu: (i) yobudala ekuqaleni kokulala (eminyakeni); (ii) okuhlangenwe nakho ngesimo sebusuku esisodwa; futhi (iii) inombolo yokuphila yabalingani bobulili obuhlukene (1 = umlingani we-1; 7 = abalingani be-20 +).
- Ubulili obuthandanayo: (i) uke ukhokhelwe / wakhokhelwa ngokocansi (ngemali noma ngomusa).
Ngeshwa, abantu abanjwe ekufuneni izinzwa bafuna ukulungiswa okunamandla kunokuba iyiphi ikhondomu inganikeza.
Ubudedengu obudalwa ukufuna imizwa yezocansi buyaziwa emphakathini wezitabane lapho “ukusekela ngaphandle” (ucansi olungavikelekile) kujwayelekile naphezu kwezingozi zokutheleleka eziphakeme kakhulu. Njengoba indatshana ekhuluma ngeGates icashunwe ngenhla isho, “Naphezu kwemikhankaso eminingi yokuqwashisa nge-HIV nolwazi ngamakhondomu, Amaphesenti angu-50 wamadoda angama-gay awasebenzisi, futhi nezinga le-HIV phakathi kwabantu besilisa abayizitabane liyanda ngenxa yalo. … Ngokwe-Centre for Disease Control, ngo-2010, Amadoda alala nobulili abesilisa abamba amaphesenti angu-63 we-HIV. "
Ukufuna imizwa yezocansi, kunjalo, kuhlobene "nobhubhane lwe-flickpy dick" -kodwa hhayi emphakathini wezitabane. Kusho indoda ephawula ngebhulogi kaSullivan:
Ngiyakwazi ukukutshela okuhlangenwe nakho - njengomuntu we-gay oneminyaka engu-33 oneminyaka engu-7 ubudala, oye wanikezwa ithebulethi yami yokuqala kumuntu oneminyaka engu-30 owayencike kubo, onesandla esincane kanye nabangane abangama-gay "abakwazi ukuhlala kanzima ngamakhondomu", owazi abantu abalwa no-ED kuma-20 abo okuqala, futhi uyabazi abantu abangakwazi ukuza kuphela uma ebusweni bomuntu - kunokuthile okwenzeka kumadoda amasha kulezi zinsuku.
Ubuchopho abuyizo zobulili
Ikhondomu entsha ingakhulisa ukuzwa kwe-penile, kepha iningi lezinselelo zocansi oluphephile namuhla lingahle lisebenze kusoftware yobuchopho. Isipiliyoni sethu senjabulo senzeka phakathi kwezindlebe zethu, hhayi phakathi kwemilenze yethu. Ukwanda ngokweqile kwemijikelezo ebucayi yomvuzo wobuchopho bethu kungemuva kokuthokozisa okubabazekayo nokufuna ukuzwa okulandelayo. Ukukhulisa nje ukungqubuzana ezithweni zethu zobulili ngeke kwanele.
Kungase kudingeke sikhumbuze omunye nomunye ukuthi singathinta kanjani ukuzwela kwethu enjabulweni uma sifuna ukuthuthukisa ukuphepha kobulili. Lokhu kubonakala kube yindaba elula: Vala ukuvuselela okukhulu kuze kube yilapho ubuzwe obuvamile bumnandi bubuyela emuva. Lokhu kungathatha izinyanga, kodwa izindaba ezinhle ukuthi ubuchopho buyiplastiki. Omunye umfana osemusha wathi,
Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngizokukhumbula ukukufaka ezithombeni ezingcolile, futhi ngangivame ukucabanga ukuthi abafana ababengeyona nje eyinqaba noma izinkolo zezinkolo. Mhlawumbe ngiyinqaba, kodwa ubulili buzwa kangcono futhi ama-erections ami aqinile. Ngingahlala isikhathi eside / esifushane ngendlela engifuna ngayo, futhi ngijabulela nocansi nekhondomu. Akudingeki ukuthi ngenze iseshini ngayinye ibe yisiwindi esibi, sokuklinya, sokushaya, f-k.
Njengoba izithelo nemifino kuyisicefe ebuchosheni ama-chip amazambane aseyiphendulele de rigueur, Ubulili bansuku zonke abuyibuhlungu ngenkathi ubuchopho bunqatshelwe enjabulweni. Ukuze uthole okuningi, bukela lokhu Inkulumo ye-TEDx ngu-psychologist Douglas Lisle umbhali we Umculi Wokuthakazelisa.
Uma uqonda ukuthi ubuchopho busebenza kanjani, kubonakala ukuthi kunezindlela ezimbili zokuthuthukisa injabulo yocansi. Inketho eyodwa: Ungakwazi ukulinganisa ukuzwela kocansi-futhi usebenzise ingozi yokuphindaphindiwe kokunganeliseki okukhulu (izinkanuko). Option Two: Ungavimba ubuzwe bobuchopho bakho ekujabuliseni ngokocansi ngokufunda ukuhlala ne-horniness njalo. Inzuzo yalesi sifundo ukuthi imisebenzi yansuku zonke yocansi iqhubeka nokunikeza ukuzwa okwanele ukubhalisa njengenjabulo.
Ngesikhathi eside sokuziphendukela kwemvelo, izindawo zethu zivame ukusishukumisela ukuba sibheke ekukhetheni kokubili. Ukwehlukana kwabashade kwenza kube nzima ukugcizelela ukugqugquzela ngokocansi. (Ukuze uthole okwengeziwe, bheka lokhu ukuxoxisana nabalobi of IsiGenesis esivelayo nguprofesa we-biology we-UCLA Jay Phelan noTerry Burnham PhD.)
Kodwa-ke, namuhla imvelo yethu isisunduzela ngaseNketho Yokuqala. "Kuzwakala" ngesikhathi esifushane ngoba ubuchopho bethu buguquke ngaphansi kwezimo zokushoda futhi bathanda ukuvuka ngocansi kanye nomvuthwandaba kakhulu. Noma kunjalo imiphumela yokweqisa ngokweqile iholela kancane kancane Ngaphansi injabulo yezocansi kumfana abasha abancane, okwenza ikhondomu isebenzise i-chancy.
Noma kunjalo iphoqelela i-nirvana evusa inkanuko yokuzwa okungapheli kocansi, ikushaya indiva ukuthambekela kwemvelo kobuchopho bokubamba impendulo yayo ekweqisweni okungapheli. Ngamanye amagama, ifomula "lokukhuthaza okwengeziwe = ubumnandi obuningi" ngeshwa liphenduka libe nethemba ngokweqile njengendaba ye-neuroscience. Eshu.
Inhloso yokusiza kaGates inhle. Manje, udinga ukuthatha isinyathelo esilandelayo futhi athole umngani wakhe uWarren Buffet ukuthi axhase ucwaningo oluhlose imiphumela yesikhathi eside yomzimba yokwedlula ngokweqile kwezisusa zocansi. Lokho utshalomali luzokhokha izinzuzo eziningi: Abantu abaningi bazofunda ukuthi bangayithola kanjani injabulo eqhubekayo yezocansi. Amakhondomu azophinde aveze izithiyo ezincane kuphela ekuzijabuliseni ngokocansi. Futhi "ubhubhane lwe-flickpy dick" kungekudala lube yimemori embi.
Lapho ngiqala ukuya ocansini ngineminyaka engu-19, udokotela wezifo zabesifazane wangikhuthaza ukuthi ngithembele enhlanganisweni yokubulala isidoda (kimi) namakhondomu (kuye). Lapho ngimbuza, “Ingabe lokho kuzojabulisa isoka lami?” Uthe, "Kungaba njalo uma umhlelela yona." Wayeqinisile.
Ukuzijabulisa ngokocansi akudingeki kube nzima ukukufeza njengoba sizikholisa thina ukuthi kunjalo. Cabanga ubuchopho, hhayi amakhondomu.
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