Abelaphi bangadideka kancane uma kuziwa ekuhloleni ubungozi be-porn. Abanye bangasenza sikholelwe ukuthi yintsha kuphela enokukhubazeka okokwemvelo okuba yimilutha, noma ngabe ucwaningo lokulutha olukhombisa lokho ukuvezwa kokuqala kokuvuselela okungavamile, kukodwa, kwandisa ingozi yokuba umlutha. Ngifuna elinye iphuzu lokubuka, ngabuza umlobi uGary Wilson, onokuningi ukusho ngobungozi obuyingqayizivele bezithombe zocansi ze-Intanethi zanamuhla encwadini yakhe entsha, Ubuchopho bakho ku-Porn: Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi kanye neSayensi eVukayo yokuMlutha.
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Ucabangani ngamazwana anjengokuthi “Yini Eyisithombe Ezingcolile Zase-Inthanethi Ezenzela Abafana Bethu?”Ephetha ngokuthi ingozi yabafana yokuba umlutha wezocansi kwi-Intanethi incane?
Ngibona izinkinga eziningana ngayo. Okokuqala, ukuphawula okunjalo kusho ngephutha ukuthi ukulutha kungukuphela kwengozi engaba khona kubasebenzisi be-porn banamuhla. Eqinisweni, iningi lentsha elibika ukungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi aliyona imilutha kodwa lidinga izinyanga eziningi ukululama. Okwesibili, kushiwo ngephutha ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwe-Intanethi kufana nokuphuza utshwala noma ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa, kunganakwa umsebenzi oyinhloko wobusha. Okwesithathu, amanani okulutha kulokho okubizwa ngokuthi yizinguquko zemvelo (ukudla okungenamsoco, i-inthanethi ye-porn kanye nokusetshenziswa kwe-inthanethi ngokujwayelekile) kuphenduka kukhulu kunezidakamizwa. (Okuningi ngezansi)
Ungakwazi yini ukuchaza ukuthi kungani inkinga idlula ngokweqile?
Kunikezwe ukuthi abesilisa abasebasha bathola izithombe zabantu abenza ucansi luhehe. Kepha namuhla, esikhundleni sokushaya indlwabu ezithombeni ezimile, njengoba kungenzeka obaba babo bezenzile, abafana bangabuka amavidiyo angenamkhawulo okusakazwa kwabantu bangempela abenza ucansi lwangempela. Ngokungafani nezitobhi, amavidiyo angena esikhundleni somcabango; abafana bangama-voyeur ngokuphelele.
Ngesikhathi bethola ophathina bangempela, mhlawumbe emuva kweminyaka eyishumi, abanye abantu bathola ukuthi sebeziqeqeshele kakhulu… kwezemidlalo engafanele. Ngokwesibonelo, le nsizwa futhi lena babengeyona imilutha; bebemane bebeka impendulo yabo yezocansi ezikrinini, ukuzihlukanisa, ukungajwayelekile, ukushaqeka / ukumangala, i-fetish porn nokubuka abanye abantu abe nobulili. Izinkinga zabo zokulungiswa nabalingani bangempela zaxazulula izinyanga ezimbalwa ngemva kokuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
Le nhlekelele yukuthi, ngenxa yokwaziswa okungafani kahle, kokubili kokubili besaba ukuthi bephulwe impilo. Akekho umfana osemusha okufanele abhekane nalokho ukwesaba ngaphandle kokuxwayiswa, kodwa kubonakala sengathi baningi. Ucwaningo lwe-2014 lwezingane zaseCanada lithola lokho Amaphesenti angu-54 abesilisa abasha ocansini 16-21 kubika izinkinga zocansi: ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile (amaphesenti angu-27), isifiso esiphansi (amaphesenti angu-24) nezinkinga nge-orgasm (amaphesenti angu-11).
Okukhulu "ukuba sengozini okuyingqayizivele" ngemuva kwalezi zinkinga ezisakazekile kungenzeka kube ubuchopho bentsha obushayisana nezisusa zanamuhla ezinamandla kakhulu zocansi. Kuzo zonke izilwane ezincelisayo, ubuchopho bentsha busebenza kakhulu ezintweni ezintsha, ezifuna injabulo nezindlela zocansi. Lesi sici sandisa amathuba okuzala ngempumelelo futhi sinciphise namathuba okuzala. Kepha lokhu kusebenza kabusha kunika amandla nobuchopho bentsha ukuthi bucindezele umnikazi wabo ngocansi emvelweni yakhe, ikakhulukazi kwisikhuthazo esivusa amadlingozi esikhulu esenziwe saphoqeleka kakhulu kunesivumelwano sangempela. Isimo sakhe siyingozi kakhulu ngoba, lapho esekhulile, ubuchopho bakhe buzobe bususile ukuxhunywa kwezigidigidi zokuxhuma kwezinzwa okususelwa kunqubo yokusebenzisa-noma-noma yokulahlekelwa yiyo.
Uma ukhulile, uxhumane nabalingani bangempela bangabhalisa njengokudumazeka, futhi ukufuna ukuzwa, hhayi injabulo, kungabusa. Muva nje, abacwaningi bacabanga ukuthi bayabuza I-16- ku-18 oneminyaka engu-20 ubudala mayelana nobulili obudala futhi bamangala ukuthola ukuthi abesilisa noma abesifazane abakujabulelanga kepha bobabili bazizwa bephoqelekile ukukwenza. Abaphenyi bathi, “Izizathu eziyinhloko ezinikezwe abantu abasha abenza ucansi lwangemuva ukuthi amadoda afuna ukukopisha abakubonile ezithombeni ezingcolile, nokuthi 'kuqinile.'”
Ukukhathazeka okunjalo kwezingane zesifo socansi kungase kube yilapho umuntu ekhulile. Ucwaningo lwe-2014 lithole lokho ingxenye yesithathu yamadoda enempilo empi (21-40) manje ibika ukungasebenzi komzimba ngokocansi. Futhi ku-poll yamuva, Amaphesenti angu-33 wabavoti abangaphansi kweminyaka engama-40 bazizwe sengathi izithombe zocansi "zonakalisa impilo yabo yezocansi," namanye amaphesenti ayi-10 "engaqiniseki" ukuthi ngabe lokho kuphazamisa impilo yabo yezocansi.
Uthe futhi kunobufakazi obukhulayo bokuthi ingozi yokulutha umlutha inkulu kakhulu. Kungani?
Ukusakaza i-porn kufana nokudla okungenamsoco kwanamuhla: okuheha ngokungavamile. Lapho abacwaningi benikeza amagundane ukufinyelela okungenamkhawulo ekudleni okungenamsoco cishe bonke bakudla ukukhuluphala. Lawa magundane awanakho "ukuba sengozini okungokwemvelo" okubenza babe sengozini yokuba umlutha ngaphandle kobungozi obufanayo sonke esinabo: isifunda sokuqala somvuzo ebuchosheni esiphishekela ngokuxhamazela ukudla okunama-khalori aphezulu kanye nabalingani abathandanayo.
Ngaphezu kwengxenye yesithathu yabantu abadala baseMelika bakhuluphele, ngokusho kwe-CDC, futhi iningi lalabo abayimilutha yokudla okungenamsoco. Amanani entsha yaseFinns esebenzisa kabi i-Intanethi “ngokulingene noma ngokungathi sína” ingamaphesenti angama-24.2 ngokusho kocwaningo lwe-2014, Nge Japan futhi igalikuni kubika amanani afanayo afanayo kulo nyaka.
Akumangalisi ukuthi kunikezwe ukuthi i-Internet erotica yiyona uhlelo lokusebenza oluyingozi kakhulu lwe-intanethi, Futhi siqala ukubona amazinga akhathazayo wokuzihlola okweqile kwe-inthanethi kwabesilisa abancane. Isibonelo, ku-poll kazwelonke ka-2014 Amaphesenti angu-23 wabesilisa 18-30 babecabanga ukuthi bangaba umlutha wezithombe zocansi, kuthi amanye amaphesenti ayi-10 "angaqiniseki" uma bengumlutha.
Khumbula ukuthi lezi zindleko zemithi engekho izidakamizwa zonke ziphakeme kakhulu kunezinga lokulutha izidakamizwa. Isibonelo, i Uhulumeni wase-US wabika ukuthi, "Ngo-2012, abantu abalinganiselwa ezigidini ezingama-23.1 baseMelika (amaphesenti angu-8.9) badinga ukwelashwa ngenkinga ephathelene nezidakamizwa noma utshwala."
Amanani ezinsizwa ezibika ukuthi angaba umlutha we-porn ye-Intanethi aphezulu kunabasebenzisi abadala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izinsizwa ezinokukhubazeka kwe-erectile okubangelwa i-porn ngokuvamile zidinga isikhathi eside ukuthola umsebenzi wezocansi kunamadoda amadala angakhulanga ebuka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili. Lezi zimo ziphakamisa ukuthi sincane isisekelo sethemba likaWeiss lokuthi, “Abafana banamuhla kungenzeka bavele bagingqike ngezibhakela, bazivumelanise nobuchwepheshe obusha ngezindlela ezinempilo njengoba izingane bezilokhu zenza.”
Eqinisweni, kungenangqondo ukulindela ukuthi ubuchopho bomuntu buzokwazi ukuzivumelanisa ngokushesha nomphumela ongavamile wemivuzo yemvelo efana nocansi noma ukudla. Imisindo engavamile kakhulu inomphumela onjengezidakamizwa kwezinye ubuchopho. Ucwaningo lwamuva ku ubuchopho bezilahla ezingcolile kukhombisa ukuthi ubuchopho babo bukhanyisela amavidyo kliphu kakhulu njengoba ubuchopho babasebenzisi be-cocaine bukhanyisela impuphu emhlophe. (Ngesinye isikhathi, ngaphezu kwengxenye yezifundo, isilinganiso seminyaka engu-25, kubike ubunzima bokuvuswa nabalingani bangempela kepha hhayi ne-porn.)
Ominously, a Ucwaningo lwakamuva ongeyona imilutha ithole ukuthi amahora aphakeme ngesonto kanye neminyaka eminingi yokubukwa kocansi kuhambisana nokuncipha kwendaba empunga emjikelezweni womvuzo wobuchopho. Umbhali oholayo USimone Kühn uthe, "Lokho kungasho ukuthi ukusetshenziswa njalo kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kunciphisa uhlelo lwakho lomvuzo." Lolu cwaningo luphakamisa nokuthi ubuchopho babantu, ngisho nobuchopho babangewona imilutha, abuzivumelanisi ngempumelelo ne-porn yanamuhla ye-Intanethi.
Ukuze ufinyelele phezulu, uma ufaka amaMelika engxenyeni yokuzingela-umqoqo wezinyosi ezinamazinyo kanye nezimpande eziphekiwe, zingaki zazo ziyobe zikhuluphele? Mhlawumbe akekho. Ngendlela efanayo, uma unciphisa abafana abasha abasezingeni le-1960 Ama-Playboys bangaki babo abaziyobe bebika ubunzima bokulutha izidakamizwa ezingcolile, ukuphazamiseka nokuvusa? Mhlawumbe akekho.
Kuthiwani ngesimangalo sikaWeiss sokuthi isayithi lakho www.yourbrainonporn.com likhombisa iqembu elizikhethayo labasebenzisi be-porn?
Okokuqala, u-Weiss ngokwakhe ubona kuphela iqembu labantu abazikhethelayo abalwa nokulutha kocansi nezocansi. Bangabantu abazimisele ukukhokhela ukwelashwa kwezidakamizwa, futhi bambalwa abasebasha. Abaningi benza ucansi ngaphezu kokulwa nokusetshenziswa kocansi okuyinkinga. Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi abaningi banobuthakathaka bemvelo obabenza bathambekele ekubeni umlutha futhi ngenxa yalokho bazimisele ukufuna ukwelashwa okwandisiwe.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, iningi lala madoda engiwaqoqa izindaba akuzona ezincane kuphela kodwa izintombi. Bakhula becabanga ukuthi izithombe zocansi kanye nokushaya indlwabu zazifana. Abaningi abanikezi ubufakazi bokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa kwengane noma ezinye izinkinga futhi bavutha umlilo ngemuva kokuyeka ukusetshenziswa kocansi.
Ukucacisa, angiqhubi isithangami. Ngilandelela futhi ngihlaziye ucwaningo olufanele, ikakhulukazi ekuluthweni kokuziphatha nasekukhuleni komzimba. Ngiphinde ngiqoqe imibiko yakho evela kumasayithi ahlukahlukene. Konke kungabafana abayeke ukuguquguquka okukodwa: Ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwe-Intanethi. Angizenzi izimangalo mayelana nephesenti labafana abathintekile. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abaningi balaba bantu abayona imilutha kodwa babike izinzuzo ngokuyeka.
Izinhloso zami ukumane ngikwazisa abasebenzisi be-porn banamuhla ngezingozi ezingaba khona nokucacisa imbangela nomphumela ukuze kukhuthazwe ukuqhubeka kokufunda. Kuze kube manje Ucwaningo olulodwa lucele abasebenzisi be-porn ukuyeka izithombe ezingcolile - amasonto amathathu kuphela. Ngisho nangaleso sikhathi esifushane, abacwaningi babona izinguquko kulabo abasebenzisa isikhathi eside abadinga ubudlelwane obuzinikele (umphumela kuphela abawulinganisayo).
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