- Abantu abashadile banesisindo esingaphansi kwe-20% kunabo ababeneminyaka eyishumi edlule
- I-Wolf ixhuma lokhu ekukhuphukeni kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile
- I-Porn idala izinkinga zezempilo…
- Iqeda labo ababukeleyo futhi banezikhathi zesikhathi eside
- Ngenxa yalokho, kunomthelela omubi kwezocansi nobuhlobo
By Naomi Wolf
I-PUBLISHED: 19: 44 EST, 11 December 2013
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Umama osemncane othandekayo wabafana abathathu ubuze ngokudabukisayo ukuthi umyeni wakhe, emshadweni ojabule, futhi onelisekile ngokocansi, 'walahleka kanjani ezithombeni ezingcolile' kwaze kwaba seqophelweni lokuthi amshiye. Usezibuza manje ukuthi uzowavikela kanjani amadodana akhe.
Umfundi wasekolishi ogqamile, owesilisa uvumile ukuthi ukhathazekile ngalokho akubiza ngokuthi 'i-kink spiral' - igama alisebenzisayo ukuchaza umuzwa obhajwe yisidingo sakhe sokubona izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingaphezulu kakhulu ukuze zivuswe.
Imibhangqwana esevile eminyakeni eyishumi nambili ayitsheli ukuthi akekho umuntu ebaziyo ongaya ocansini ngaphandle kokudlala i-porn esikrinini. Umeluleki weseluleko esikoleni esizimele ubuza ukuthi angalutholaphi usizo lwabafundi bakhe - iningi labo elinomlutha kakhulu wezithombe ezingcolile zobulili kwi-intanethi ukuthi ukukhathazeka kuthinta umsebenzi wabo wesikole nentuthuko yezenhlalo.
Muva nje, ucwaningo olukhulu lwaseBrithani, iNational Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles, ebuza abantu abangaphezu kuka-15,000 abaneminyaka yobudala eyi-16 kuya kwengama-74, lukhombise ukuthi imibhangqwana inezocansi ezingamaphesenti angama-20 ezingaphansi ngenyanga ezenze ngayo eminyakeni eyishumi edlule.
- Okutholakele okusha: Incwadi entsha kaWolf Vagina: I-New Biography ixoxa ngokuthi i-neuroscience ikhombisa kanjani ukuthi izithombe zocansi zibuthinta kanjani kabi ubulili nobudlelwano
Njengomuntu osecwaninge kulo mkhakha iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-20, ngikholwa ukuthi kufanele sikuthathe ngokungathi sína ukukhuphuka kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Ucwaningo olusha lukhombisa ukuthi lunomthelela omubi ekuphenduleni kwezocansi kwabesilisa nabesifazane kanye nokulimaza ubudlelwano njengomphumela.
Incwadi yami yakamuva, i-Vagina: I-Biography entsha, mayelana nesifiso sobulili besifazane, inesahluko sokuthola okusha okusha kwe-neuroscience ebonisa ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zithinta kanjani kabi kokubili ubulili nobuhlobo.
Isiko elidumile libonisa lo mkhuba: ifilimu entsha iDon Jon igxila ekuluthweni kocansi. Leli qhawe lilele noScarlett Johansson kodwa linyonyobele ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile, ngoba alisho lutho nowesifazane wangempela (ngisho noJohansson!) Muhle. Okwamanje, izigcawu zobulili kumabhayisikobho ajwayelekile ziya ngokuya ziba nodlame kakhulu. Ku-The Kids Are All Right, ngethuka ngibona isimilo sikaJulianne Moore siqala ukushaya ubuso bomlingani wakhe njengoba esondela kwi-orgasm.
Abesifazane abasebasha bangitshela ukuthi ukudonsa izinwele, kanye nengcindezi entanyeni e-orgasm, kuyizinto ezijwayelekile zocansi lokuthandana kulezi zinsuku. Lawa 'ama-porn cliches', njengoba kusho enye intokazi. Angimangali ngalezi zinguquko ngoba sonke siyazi nge-pornization yomphakathi.
Ngikholwa ukuthi amazwi amaningi ngabe akhuluma uma ucwaningo olusha ngale nkinga lungaqondwa kangcono. Lokho esingatshelwa khona - futhi lokhu kungumbono ososayensi abaningi abakuqinisekisayo manje, kepha bambalwa kakhulu abantu abajwayelekile abakuqondayo - ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kudala izinkinga zempilo.
Imayini ayiyona indawo yokuziphatha. Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu abadala kufanele bakwazi ukubona noma yini abayifunayo emakhaya abo (uma izithombe zingekelwe ebugebengu noma noma yikuphi ukuhlukumeza okwenziwe).
Kodwa i-neuroscience yezinyosi ezingcolile zobulili kucacile: ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kubangela ukuphambana okubukhali ekusebenziseni i-dopamine, i-neurotransmitter ebuchosheni, okwenza abantu bazizwe begxile, beqiniseka futhi behle.
Inkinga ukuthi lokhu kuvuswa kwesikhashana kwezinzwa kunemiphumela yesikhathi eside. Okokuqala, kungadala ukungafuneki kwesifo kwi-simuli efanayo evusa inkanuko evule wena muva nje futhi, esikhathini eside, kungadala amathuba amakhulu okukhubazeka ngokocansi.
Umsebenzisi ube esehalela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezedlulele ngokwedlulele - udlame nezithombe ezingavumelekile kusebenze uhlelo lokuzimela oluzimele, olubandakanyeka ekuvukeni - ukuze kufinyelele lelo zinga lesasasa.
- 'Abesifazane abasebasha bangitshela ukuthi ukudonsa izinwele, ngisho nengcindezi entanyeni, kuyizinto ezijwayelekile zocansi lokuqomisana kulezi zinsuku.'
Lokhu kukhishwa kwemibandela kanye ne-désensitisationdesensitisation kuchaza ukuthi kungani izithombe ezibonwa njenge-fetishistic, taboo noma ezinobudlova eminyakeni eyishumi eyedlule manje zihamba phambili kumasayithi we-porn.
Umphumela wesibili, oqinisekisiwe namadoda kanye ne-anecdotal nabesifazane, kunenkinga yokufinyelela i-orgasm. Odokotela manje babika isifo sezinsizwa ezincane ezinempilo eneminyaka eyishumi nambili, ezingenaso isifo noma inkinga yengqondo engachaza ubunzima babo, ababhekana nezinkinga zobulili ezifana nokungabi namandla noma ukulibaziseka ukuphumula ngenxa yalezi zinkantolo.
Inkinga yokugcina ehlobene nokukhishwa kwemisebenzi yukuthi amadoda aqala ukubona abalingani bawo njengababheka kancane, futhi abakwazi ukuvusa ngokuziphatha okuvamile ngokobulili.
Futhi-ke, owesifazane oyedwa akakwazi ukuhlinzeka ngobuciko obushintsha njalo, obuvuselela njalo ubuchopho obenziwa nge-porn ngokuchofoza igundane.
Kunezinye izindlela ukusetshenziswa kocansi okungathinta kabi ukuvusa abesifazane. Uma owesifazane ezizwa engakhululekile ngokusetshenziswa kocansi komlingani wakhe ukucindezeleka kwentukuthelo nentukuthelo yakhe kungathinta amandla akhe okuvuka.
Uma uqonda i-neuroscience yokuvuswa kwabesifazane, Abesifazane badinga ukuthi izinhlelo zabo zemizwa ezizimele (ukushaya kwenhliziyo, ukuphefumula, ukujikeleza kwegazi) kusebenze kakhulu ukuze kuvulwe. Imizwelo enjengokuxineka, intukuthelo, umuzwa wokusongela nentukuthelo ingasebenza njengokuphonsa ibhakede lamanzi aqandisa ohlelweni lwabesifazane.
- Ukuphazamiseka: Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile azifundisi amadoda amakhono ezocansi awusizo ekuvuseni abesifazane
Ngiphinde ngenza ucwaningo oluningi ngeqiniso lokuthi ucansi olukhonjiswa kwezocansi kakhulu alufundisi amadoda, ikakhulukazi izinsizwa, amakhono ezocansi awusizo ekuvuseni abesifazane. Njengoba uDkt Jim Pfaus, iphayona emkhakheni wesayensi yokuziphatha ngokocansi evela eConcordia University yaseCanada, ekubeka, ukusetshenziswa kocansi kungathinta imizwa ebuhlotsheni ngoba abesilisa abayisebenzisayo 'babopha ngokweqile' hhayi nabalingani babo, kodwa izithombe zocansi.
Isazi sezobudlelwano nomeluleki wabashadikazi uMichael Kallenbach uthi: 'Imibhangqwana yazi kakhulu ngezocansi manje kunangaphambili. Njengoba wonke umuntu ephethe ama-iPhones namaphilisi futhi ehlaselwa njalo ngezikhangiso nemifanekiso emihle, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyavuza ezimpilweni zethu futhi zithinta nobudlelwano bethu.
'Lapho omunye umlingani ebuka ngokuzithoba, kuyindlela eyingozi kakhulu ukwehla. Umcabango wabo, nobudlelwano babo, kuzobekwa emseni wamaphupho. Lokhu kuvame ukuholela ezindabeni. '
Ucwaningo olusanda kutholakala eNyuvesi yaseSydney, lapho amaprofesa amabili ahlolisisa khona amadoda angaphezu kwe-800, athola ukuthi ukubhekwa ngokweqile kwezingcolile kwabikwa cishe yingxenye yabaphenduli (abangama-85 abangashadile noma abahloliseni), futhi belimaza impumelelo yabo yobuchwepheshe ubudlelwano.
Lezi zinombolo zaziyinkimbinkimbi: I-47 per cent yezifundo zesilisa ezibuke phakathi kwemizuzu engu-30 kuya kumahora amathathu we-porn ngosuku, owesinye kwabayisithathu wathi kulimaza imizamo yabo yomsebenzi, kanti omunye kwabahlanu angathanda ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kunokuba abe nobulili nabalingani babo.
Ngiyaqonda ukuthi kungani imboni yezocansi ifuna ukugcina umlutha wemikhiqizo yayo ithule futhi ikhuthaze umbono we-libertarian wokuthi ayikho imiphumela. Imboni yomhlaba wonke efisa ukuguqula amadoda, futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe abesifazane, baba izidakamizwa ngezizathu zezezimali.
Isimo sifana kakhulu nokumaketha ugwayi ngaphandle kwezixwayiso zezempilo ku-Sixties.
Ngakho-ke kungani ukudalulwa okugunyazwe nguhulumeni ngobungozi kuyimpoqo, njengoba manje kunogwayi?
Impendulo osopolitiki bethu abakawuqondi ngokugcwele umonakalo owenziwayo.
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Muva nje, i-Daily Mail inqobe ukunqoba lapho uHulumeni avumile ukuthi yonke imindeni kufanele ikhethe uma ifuna ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kwi-intanethi.
Ngikholwa ukuthi ngolwazi oluhle lwezempilo, abantu bangenza izinqumo ezengeziwe mayelana nendlela, nini, futhi uma befuna ukusebenzisa i-porn, ngisho nokukhetha okungcono mayelana nhlobo luni lwezithombe abangase bafune noma bagweme.
Labo abafisa ukuqeda ukulutheka kwabo - njengokuqeda noma imuphi umlutha - bangakwenza lokho ngomzamo.
Abesilisa abenze kanjalo - okungukuthi esinedatha yabo - babika umuzwa omuhle wokuthola kabusha ukulawula kwengqondo, futhi bavusa inkanuko nabafazi babo noma izintombi zabo. Kakhulu bakhululekile ekutheni bangabi nesihe sento abaningi balabo abangibhalela abazizwa ukuthi bayayidinga - kepha abangayithandi ikakhulukazi.
Ngabe 'sikhululwe ngokocansi' uma i-porn ithatha izinqubo zethu zokucabanga futhi yonakalisa ikhono lethu lokugcina ubudlelwane obunenjongo? Ngicabanga ukuthi asikhululekile ngokocansi.
Imboni enamandla iyasixhaphaza - futhi ixhaphaze ngonya abanye abasebenza kanzima ebuchosheni besilisa - ukusiguqula ngokwengeziwe sibe amarobhothi ezocansi nawokomzwelo, kuphela akwazi ukufeza ukwaneliseka ngokocansi egumbini elinekhompyutha, lilodwa.
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