November 19, 2014 by Andrew Smiler
U-Andrew Smiler uxoxa ngesixazululo esiqondile nesivame ukusebenza ngempumelelo sezinkinga zabantu abadala ezibangelwa yividiyo.
I-NSFW: Lesi sihloko siqukethe izingqikithi ezindala kanye nezingxoxo ezingenangqondo mayelana nobulili bomuntu kanye nempilo. *
UJim weza kimi ngenxa yokwelashwa ngoba wayenenkinga yokuyikhulisa ngesikhathi socansi. Ngambuza ukuthi ucabangani ukuthi ubangela inkinga, futhi wathi kwakuyi-pornography. Wangitshela ukuthi wayezohamba ngezindawo ezingcolile ze-intanethi cishe ngonyaka, ngoba ubuhlobo bakhe bokugcina buphelile. UJim wayengacabangi ukuthi ubheka lokho okuningi i-porn, kodwa ayikwazi ukuthola ukuthi yini enye engase ibe nayo. Wayazi ukuthi kwakungeyona utshwala noma imbiza, ngoba naye uthola izinkinga lapho ehlushwa.
UJim wayengayithola ngesikhathi socansi, kepha imvamisa kwakudinga umzamo omkhulu kuye nakumlingani wakhe. Kwakuqabukela ukuthi “abe lukhuni” ngendlela ayejwayele ngayo. Manje, ubedinga imizuzu embalwa “yokukhuthaza i-penile ngqo” njengoba ibizwa kanjalo embizeni. Lokho kusho ukuthi umlingani wakhe uzodinga ukudlala noma ukuncela iqhude lakhe ngaphambi kokuthi abe nzima. Futhi asikhulumi nje ngobusuku obubi njalo kaninginingi, kepha cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho eya ocansini Akekho uJim noma umlingani wakhe wamanje ababejabule ngakho. Ube futhi abe nezinkinga lapho exhuma nabantu angabazi.
Mina noJim sasebenza ngezinyathelo ezintathu ezilandelayo. Alula, kepha okokuqala kungaba nzima kakhulu. Lokhu kuba enye yezokwelapha ezivamile kubafana abanobunzima bokuthola ukulungiswa ngoba babheka izithombe ezingcolile kakhulu.
Ake ngicacise ngezinto ezimbili ngaphambi kokuba siqale. Esinye sukuthi inkinga esibhekene nayo ayikho ukubukela izithombe ezingcolile kakhulu, inkinga ikhona ukuzulazula ku-porn njalo njalo. Angisho ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zilungile noma azizinkinga; lokho okuhlukile ingxoxo. Esizobhekana nakho lapha ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile ngenxa yokujwayela ukuya ocansini kaningi isikhathi eside, yisho okungenani ama-5 ngesonto ezinyangeni zokugcina ze-6. Umphumela uba ukuthi uqeqeshe kabusha uhlelo lwakho futhi wakha isethi ethile yememori yemisipha yalokho okubangela ukwakhiwa. Ngamafuphi, lokhu kungukuqeqeshwa okufanayo okusiza i-quarterback ukuphonsa kahle njalo, kuvumela umbazi ukuthi abone umugqa oqondile onemivimbo ejwayelekile, futhi avumele umpheki ukuthi enze ama-veggies okusika ngokushesha abe yizicucu.
Ngenza ucabange ukuthi awunazo izinkinga zezempilo ezingase zibe nomthelela enkingeni ye-erectile. Lokhu kuvamile kakhulu kunalokho ongalindela abesilisa phakathi naphakathi nangaphezulu, kepha akuvamile kakhulu phakathi kwama-20- ngisho nama-30-somethings. Izimo ezinomthelela ekungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile zifaka noma yini efaka umfutho wegazi, njenge-hypertension nezinkinga zenhliziyo, ukuphazamiseka okuningi okwenza kube nzima ukuphefumula, njenge-COPD nezinkinga zamaphaphu (kepha hhayi izinhlobo eziningi ze-asthma), nokukhuluphala. Uma uhlushwa esinye salezi zimo, noma noma ngabe awukabi nawo umzimba eminyakeni, kufanele uhlolwe udokotela wakho.
Ngicabanga nokuthi ngesinye isikhathi, ikhono lakho lokuvula futhi usetshenziselwe ukusebenza kahle nomunye umuntu ophilayo, noma okungenani umcabango wakho nesandla sakho. Uma ubulokhu ushaya indlwabu ocansini kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuthola ukuqina, ungadinga ukwelashwa okungathi sína nomelaphi ogxile ekuphazamisekeni kwezocansi. Lokhu engikutusa lapha kungahle kungakusebenzeli ngoba kuzama ukukubuyisela endaweni ongakaze ufike kuyo.
Njenganoma isiphi iseluleko sezokwelapha otholayo ku-intanethi, lokhu ukwelashwa kungase kungasebenzi kuwe noma kuphumelele kuwe. Ukuze uthole ukwelashwa okungcono kakhulu, kufanele uthintane nochwepheshe wezocansi noma omunye ochwepheshe bezokwelapha.
Nalu uhlelo. Kuzothatha cishe izinyanga ezintathu ngaphambi kokuthi uphinde uthole ukusebenza okujwayelekile.
Isinyathelo 1. Yeka ukubuka nokugxila ku-porn. Yebo, ngempela. Wena - umzimba wakho - udinga ukuthola lokho owawukufundisa nsuku zonke okwedlule isikhathi eside. Futhi ubheke ubuso, awubukeli i-porn yecebo, ingxoxo, noma i-cinematography, uyibheka njengesizo sosizo lwe-masturbatory. Thola okunye okumele ukwenze kulokho, yini, 20? I-30? I-60? imizuzu yesikhathi sakho. Into ebalulekile lapha ukuthi uqala ukuphula uxhumano phakathi kokubona yonke leyo mizimba ehamba ze futhi uthola kanzima.
Ngifuna futhi ukuthi ungapheli inyanga yonke. Yebo, inyanga. Ngempela. Futhi, le yingxenye yokwephula ukuxhumana nokusetha kabusha uhlelo lwakho. Empeleni, unikeza uhlelo lwakho lokuvusa ucansi inyanga yonke kusuka ekushaya indlwabu. Uma ulala nomunye umuntu, ungaqhubeka, ungalali nawe.
Isinyathelo 2. Ngemuva kokuhamba inyanga ngaphandle kwe-porn futhi ngaphandle kokukhipha (ikakhulukazi ngaphandle kokudonsa i-pud yakho ku-porn), ungaqala ukushaya indlwabu futhi. Ungakwenzi nsuku zonke, zama ukuhamba izinsuku ezintathu noma ezine phakathi kweseshini. Udinga ukuqala kancane, njengomdlali obuyele ekulimazeni.
Sebenzisa umcabango wakho futhi udlale nomzimba wakho wonke, ngendlela efanayo nomlingani ongase akuthinte.
Ungaqali ukubuka izithombe ze-porn futhi. Ungadluli, hamba ukuqoqa i-$ 200. Esikhundleni salokho, sebenzisa umcabango wakho futhi udlale nomzimba wakho wonke, ngendlela efanayo umlingani angase akuthinte. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuvuleka kungaphezulu kokungena kwakho. Awudingi ukuthatha ibhuku lokushisa, ukhanyisa ikhandlela lamakhandlela, futhi udlale i-Barry White, kodwa uma lokho kuyinto yakho, hamba. Lena "isikhathi sami" ngemva kwakho konke.
Kuzo zonke izinto ezingathí sina, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungagcini ku-porn kule ndawo. Lapho ubukela izithombe ezingcolile, konke okwakubonwe esikrinini nokuthi yini isandla sakho esasenza emathangeni akho. Ngomlingani ophilayo, ungase - noma ungenakho - gcina amehlo akho evuliwe futhi ngokuqinisekile uzothinteka. Ngokuvala amehlo akho futhi ucabange ubulili, futhi ikakhulukazi ngokuthinta izingxenye ezihlukahlukene zomzimba wakho, ungasiza ukubuyisela umzimba wakho uzizwe uvuswa ngomqondo wakho wokuthinta esikhundleni sokubona kwakho.
Uma ukholelwa noma cha, ukuxosha ngale ndlela kungase kube yinselele ekuqaleni. Ungase uthole ukuthi ungakwenza kuphela kwezinye izikhundla noma ukuthi ezinye zezifiso zakho zivusa. Isibonelo, ungathola ukuthi indlela elula-noma eyedwa kuphela yokuthola kanzima ukuhlala endaweni efanayo lapho ubuke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile: uhlezi edeskini noma mhlawumbe ulele embhedeni wakho. Kulungile. Lokhu kukuqeqesha, emva kwakho konke, futhi kubalulekile ukuthola izinto eziyisisekelo ngokufanele.
Uma izinto zihamba kahle ngemva kwamasonto amabili okushaya indlwabu, shintsha ukuhamba kwakho. Ukwakha ku-orgasm kuvela ku-motion. Ukubheja ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile ngokuvamile kuvame ukuhamba kwesandla sakho, kodwa ubulili nomlingani ngokuvamile ngokuphathelene nokunyakaza kwezinyimba zakho. Esikhundleni sokuhambisa isandla sakho emuva nangaphandle nxazonke zakho, qalisa ukusebenzisa izintambo zakho ukuze uphonse ipeni lakho esandleni sakho.
Enye into ukuqala ukuzama ngemuva kwamasonto amabili wokushaya indlwabu ngempumelelo ukuma kancane. Yiba nzima, ubale kancane uye ku-10 ususe iqhude lakho, bese uqhubeka. Uma uhlala unzima, khona-ke ubale ufike ku-15 noma naku-20 ngokuzayo. Uma ulahlekelwa kanzima ngokushesha, bese ubala uye ko-5 ngokuzayo. Lokhu kubalulekile ngoba uma unomlingani, udinga ukwazi ukuhlala kanzima isikhathi esanele gqoka ikhondomu noma ushintshe izikhundla.
Isinyathelo i-2 singathatha cishe amasonto e-3 futhi nje kuphela amasonto e-6. Kufanele uchithe okungenani amasonto e-3 ngesinyathelo 2; lokhu ukuqeqeshwa nokuqeqeshwa kuthatha isikhathi. Uma ungaphumelelanga ngemuva kwamasonto e-6, thintana nomsebenzi wezobuchwepheshe. Uma izinto ziqala ukusebenza kahle ngemva kwamasonto e-6, qhubekela phambili kwisinyathelo esilandelayo.
Isinyathelo 3. Ngemuva kokuba ugijimise izikhathi ezimbili kuya kathathu ngesonto, futhi ungakaboni i-porn, yisikhathi sokungeza ezinye ezihlukahlukene. Ukuhlukahluka yi-spice yokuphila, emva kwakho konke, futhi ngokuqinisekile kusiza ukwenza impilo ejabulisayo yesondo. Sekuyisikhathi sokuyishintsha.
Uma uke waba yisigqebhezana kuphela endaweni eyodwa, zama enye into. Hlala, ume, ulale (emuva noma isisu), ufike kuzo zonke ezine, noma yini. Yenza kanzima, ume, thola ikhondomu futhi yibeke, bese uqhubeka, njengokungathi uzophila empilweni yangempela.
Ukushaya indlwabu yakho - noma kunalokho, ukuzijwayeza - kufanele kufane nokulala ngokobulili wangempela futhi kungathi ukuhlala phambi kwesikrini.
Lapha enyangeni yesithathu, ukushaya indlwabu yakho - noma kunalokho, ukuziphatha - kufanele kufane nokulala ngokobulili wangempela futhi kungathi uhlezi phambi kwesikrini futhi ufune inyoka yakho.
Yilokho bafo. Uma lokhu kungasebenzi, futhi uma ulusebenze ngempela lolu hlelo, kuzodingeka ubheke amanye amathuba. Okokuqala ukuthi unesimo somzimba futhi udinga ukubona udokotela. Okunye okungenzeka ukuthi udinga ukubona umelaphi ngamunye ukuze asebenze ngezinkinga ezithile eziphathelene nezocansi. Okwesithathu kungenzeka ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho ningadinga ukubona owelapha imibhangqwana ngoba awukwazi ukwenza kanzima nalo mlingani.
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