Uthando Amanothi: I-Porn Ingasiza Ubudlelwane, Kodwa Qhubeka Ngokuqapha
UTERESA M. PELHAM
Inkinga eyinhloko nge-pornography yukuthi idala ukulindela okungenangqondo. Yebo, nezinye izinto.
Emuva lapho izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zisho ukuthola ikhophi ye-Playboy esitolo esiseduze nomgwaqo, asizwanga okuningi ngabantu abanezidakamizwa ezingcolile noma ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile.
(Ngomzuzwana, sicela ucabange ukuthi umlando wosesho ku-laptop yami uzobukeka kanjani ngesikhathi ngiqedile ukubhala le kholomu. Yebo, kwakudingeka ngibheke. ushiye okuningi okufanele uyifune.)
Kepha namuhla, inani elingapheli lamavidyo kliphu angavela kukhompyutha yakho noma kwi-smartphone ngokuchofoza inkinobho. Futhi ngenkathi ukufinyelela okulula kukodwa kungaholela kwezinye zalezi zinkinga, ochwepheshe bathi yizigcawu zocansi ezihamba phambili ezingadala inkinga ekamelweni.
Abacwaningi bezocansi babika ukuthi uma ababukeli bezivumela ukuzidla ngokuqhubekayo kwabesifazane abathandekayo, abathandekayo kakhulu, bangadumazeka lapho bexhumana nomuntu ongeyena oqeqeshiwe.
"Kukhona ukuhlangana phakathi kwamadoda abukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nokwehluleka kwawo ukuvuswa nabantu empilweni yangempela," kusho u-Amanda Pasciucco, umelaphi oqinisekisiwe wezocansi eWest Hartford. “Baqala ukuphelelwa yithemba futhi nozakwabo akakwazi ukuncintisana. Izidumbu abazibonayo azisebenzi ngokoqobo. ”
Ngiyabona ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyiphupho futhi akufanele zibukeke njengobudlelwano obunothando phakathi kwabantu ababili abaneminyaka ephakathi nendawo abanezinwele zangemuva nezingxenye ezilengayo. Kepha uma iphupho lingumuntu ngamunye abonayo, kulula ukucabanga ngenkathazo ezayo ,.
Imibhangqwana yezincomo ze-Pasciucco yonyaka wonke, futhi ithi indlela ebuyela ebuhlotsheni obuhle bocansi ukudala amafantasy ndawonye.
Uthi: “Khuluma ngalokho ongakwenza ukuze ulethe ubudlelwano babo neminye imibono emihle. “Yenza ingqondo yakho ijabule ngomuntu onaye.”
Ingqondo yakho? Ngacabanga ukuthi sikhuluma, ezinye izitho zomzimba.
Kepha ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi kunomehluko omkhulu endleleni ubuchopho obusabela ngayo ekubukeni isithombe esimile nokubuka ividiyo. U-Pasciucco uphakamisa i-porn yezinsuku ezingama-90 ngokushesha ukuze "kusethwe kabusha ingxenye yobuchopho ebucayi."
Ngenxa yokutholakala kalula kwe-porn, ucwaningo olusha lilinganisela iminyaka yobudala lapho izinsizwa ziqala ukubuka i-porn zineminyaka eyi-12. (Kepha hhayi izingane zakho, futhi impela akuyona eyami.)
"Lapho abantu besebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengemfundo yabo yezocansi, lokho kungaholela enkingeni," kusho uPasciucco.
UWendy Haggerty, isazi sezocansi esiqinisekisiwe socansi esinamahhovisi eGlastonbury, eGuilford naseWest Hartford, uthi kukhona ukukhathazeka kwangempela mayelana nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezisetshenziswa abantu abasha.
"Ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile kuboniswe ukuthi kungaholela ekuhlukanisweni nomphakathi nasezintweni zokuziphatha ezingaba nomthelela omubi emandleni omuntu okwakha nokugcina ubudlelwano obuhle," esho. “Izingqinamba eziphathelene nokuhlanganiswa kothando nokuzibandakanya ocansini nenjabulo zingase zidlale. Isimo somzimba nezinkinga ezihlobene nokusebenza nakho kungaba nemiphumela engaba khona. ”
Kepha izithombe ezingcolile azizimbi kangako ngokwemishado nobudlelwano, kusho uHaggerty.
“Ngingacabanga ngezibonelo eziningi ezinhle lapho ngibonile ukuthi zisiza abantu kanye nobudlelwano. Ngike ngabona abanye abantu benokuphoqeleka okumele kubhekwane nakho, ”kusho uHaggerty. “Ngokulinganisela, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingakhuthaza futhi zivuse. Ukusetshenziswa okunempilo kwezinto ezivusa inkanuko kungasiza emikhubeni yokuzithanda kanye… nobudlelwano bezocansi. ”
Mina noBoyfriend sinqume ukuhlola umbono wakhe, futhi sabuka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezithambile ku-Showtime. Ngaphandle kwamabele azungezayo futhi angenakunyakaziswa, ababukeli abakhonjiswa noma yiziphi izingxenye zangasese futhi abalingisi empeleni abazibandakanyi nocansi. Siphazanyiswe ngumculo we-bow-chicka-wow-wow futhi sagcina sengxoxweni yokuthi ngabe abaculi abakha umculo wamafilimu ezocansi bathola hit eyodwa.
UHaggerty wanikeza izibonelo eziqondile zendlela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezingasiza ngayo.
"Umlingani onesifiso esiphakeme angathola ukuthi ukuzijabulisa ngosizo lwezinto ezibukwayo kuzanelisa kahle izidingo zakhe futhi kususe ingcindezi kumlingani onesifiso esiphansi sokubamba iqhaza," kusho uHaggerty. "Ngaphezu kwalokho, umlingani onesifiso esiphansi angakhetha ukusebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengendlela yokuvuselela ubulili bakhe futhi atholakale kakhulu ekusondeleni kozakwethu."
Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kokungahambi kahle kwezingubo ezingcolile zobulili, nezinkinga zokulutha umuthi, nezinto ezimbi ezingayenza ebuhlotsheni, futhi ngendlela eyadala ngayo isizukulwane sonke sabantu esisebenzisa imali eningi ekuxilweni komzimba, izithombe ezingcolile zingenzeka yiba nesidingo esihle ebuhlotsheni (hhayi kuphela kulabo abaphazamiseka kalula ngokubamba okubi, futhi nomculo ongafani).
UTeresa M. Pelham ungumbhali wezincwadi zezingane i- “Roxy's Forever Home.” Ukuze uthole okwengeziwe: www.roxysforeverhome.com.
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