Indaba kaMarku
UMark ungumuntu oshadile, ongu-realtor oneminyaka engu-35. Umkakhe, uJanet, uyimpendulo yokudayisa imithi echitha izinsuku eziningana ngesonto emgwaqweni. Bobabili babika ukuthi impilo yabo yobulili yayinkulu kuze kube yiminyaka embalwa eyedlule, futhi uMark akaqiniseki ukuthi kwenzekani. Wayejwayele ukulangazelela izinsuku uJanet wayesekhaya ngoba wayazi ukuthi into yokuqala ababezoyenza yayiwulele embhedeni futhi enze uthando oluthandekayo. Ngisho nangemva kokuzalwa kwengane yabo yokuqala, laba bobabili bahlale bechitha isikhathi sekuseni sekusasa futhi bekusasa ngempelasonto yokuthanda uthando. Kodwa asisekho. Lezi zinsuku lapho bezocansi noJanet, uMarku uzama ukuthola i-orgasm. Uke waqala ngisho nokufakela ama-orgasms, ukuze nje uthole izinto. Lokho uMark akakwazi ukukuqonda ukuthi kungani ekulungele, ethanda, futhi ekwazi lapho efika ezingosini zakhe ezizithandayo zobulili ezingcolile-into ayenzayo njalo lapho uJanet esendleleni-kodwa akakwazi ukusebenza uma enenjongo yangempela lapho phambi kwakhe. UMarku usho ngokucacile ukuthi "akayithukuthezi" nomkakhe, futhi uyaqhubeka emthola "oshayayo, othakazelisayo, nokuvusa."
Ingabe Izithombe Ezibucayi Zenza Ukuhlukana?
UMarku uhlushwa yi-Ejaculation eDelayed (DE), inkinga evame kakhulu kunabantu abaningi abaqaphelayo. Izimpawu ze-DE zifaka: ukuthatha isikhathi eside kunokujwayelekile ukuthola i-orgasm; kuphela ukufinyelela i-orgasm ngokusebenzisa i-masturbation; futhi engakwazi ukufinyelela i-orgasm nhlobo. Ekuqaleni uMarku akazange acabangele ngoba "isikhathi eside" ngokuvamile kubhekwa njengesibonakaliso sempilo. Wabeka ukukhula njengomlingani, ecabanga ukuthi manje usengcono ekujabuliseni uJanet. Ngeshwa, njengoba yena nabanye abaningi bekutholile, kukhona into enjalo njengokuthi into eningi kakhulu.
Njengazo zonke izidakamizwa zobulili, kunezimbangela eziningi ezikhona ze-DE, kubandakanya: ukugula ngokomzimba / ukukhubazeka; ukusetshenziswa kwama-anti-depressants ase-SSRI asekelwe kwi-SSRI, eyaziwayo ukulibala futhi ezimweni eziningi aqeda i-orgasm; izici ezingokwengqondo ezinokucindezeleka ezifana nokukhathazeka kwezezimali noma ukungasebenzi komndeni-konke okungabaphazamisa ngokwengqondo amadoda ngesikhathi sokulala. Kodwa imbangela eyodwa ebhalwe phansi kokubili kokubambezeleka kokuphuza kanye nokusebenza kabi kwe-erectile kukubandakanya ngokweqile-kokunye, umlutha we-pornography nokushaya indlwabu njengento yokuqala yokucansi. Lokhu kubonakala kubangelwa yindoda enempilo enhle empilweni yokuphila njengoMarku.
Kubonakala sengathi i-tsunami yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezifinyeleleka, ezingabizi futhi ezibonakalayo ezitholakala nge-computer ekhaya, ama-laptops, amafoni ahlakaniphile namanye amadivaysi eselula esiwaphethe manje emaphaketheni ethu, angabangela izinkinga ezingokomzwelo, ubuhlobo nezindleko kuphela , kodwa futhi sa nezinkinga zobulili. Ngandlela-thile, lokhu kufakazela ukuthi yikuphi okukuningi ukulutha ngokocansi Insimu yokwelashwa iye yaziwa isikhathi esithile-ukuthi phakathi kwamabonakaliso amaningi nemiphumela yokulala nocansi kanye umlutha wezocansi is ukuncishiswa noma ukunciphisa ngisho nokungaxhasi kokuxhumana kobulili, ngokomzimba, nangokomzwelo kanye nabashadile kanye / noma abalingani bezocansi isikhathi eside. Le nkinga ayikona nje ngenxa yemvamisa yokushaya indlwabu kanye ne-orgasm ngaphandle kobudlelwano bokuqala; kuhlobene kakhulu neqiniso lokuthi amadoda ngokubili bobubili babonakala bavuselelwe futhi bavuliwe ngesikhombiso esisha. Umuntu ochitha i-75% yokuphila kwakhe ngokobulili ngokushaya indlwabu nokucabangela izithombe ezingcolile (izithombe ezingenamkhawulo zabalingani abasha, ezithakazelisayo, abalingani abahlukene kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kobulili), ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kungenzeka ukuthi athole umngane wakhe osesikhathi eside ongathandeki ngokubonakalayo futhi engancani kakhulu kunokuba ukutholakala okungapheli kwezinto ezintsha nokuthakazelisayo ekhanda lakhe. Lokho esikubonayo manje kuyinto ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kanye nabalingani nabalingani ababonakalisa ngokomzimba njengokungasebenzi kahle ngokocansi, kube ngu-DE noma umzala wakhe owaziwa kangcono, ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile (ED). Izikhalazo ezijwayelekile ngamadoda abhekene nokuhlukumeza ngokocansi okubangelwa ucansi zihlanganisa:
- Abanaso inkinga ekufezeni ukulungiswa noma i-orgasm ngezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kodwa ngokwabo, nomlingani ozithandayo noma umlingani wezocansi, balwa nomunye noma kokubili.
- Bayakwazi ukulala ocansini futhi bafeze i-orgasm nabalingani babo noma umlingani wabo, kepha ukufika kwe-orgasm kuthatha isikhathi eside futhi abashade naye noma umlingani wakho ukhononda ukuthi babonakala bengenasidingo.
- Bangakwazi ukugcina i-erection nomngane womshado noma umlingani, kodwa bangathola i-orgasm kuphela ngokuphinda balayishe iziqeshana ze-porn inthanethi emakhanda abo.
- Bamema abashade nabalingani ukuba bajoyine ekubukeni izithombe ezingcolile-hhayi njengengxenye yokwengeza yokuphila kocansi okunempilo-kodwa njengethuluzi elidingekile ekwakheni nase-orgasm.
- Bese bekhetha "ubulili bobulili obucansi" ekubhekaneni ngokobulili wangempela, bekuthole kakhulu futhi behlanganyela.
- Banezimfihlo ezikhulayo ezivela kumlingani wabo (isikhathi esibheka izithombe ezingcolile, izithombe ezibonwayo, njll), okungaholela ekuzizwa ngecala kanye nebutho.
- Umlingani wabo noma umlingani wabo ubika ukuthi baqala ukuzwa sengathi "omunye wesifazane."
Lapho Abantu bedla kakhulu, Badla; Kuthiwani nge-Porn Too Much?
Akungabazeki ukuthi wonke umuntu obhekene ne-porn-eyenziwe i-DE ungumlutha we-porn ogcwele. Noma kunjalo, ukungasebenzi kahle ngokocansi okubangelwa ucansi kufanele kubhekwe njengokungathi kuyisandulela sokulutha kabi kocansi. Noma yimuphi umuntu osebenzisa i-porn futhi obhekene nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi nomlingani noma umlingani wesikhathi eside kufanele acabangele ukuphumula okuvela ku-porn nokushaya indlwabu kwezinsuku ze-30 ukuze ubone ukuthi inkinga ihlanzekile. Uma kunjalo, lokho kuhle. Uma lowo muntu ngemuva kwalokho eba kude nocansi nokushaya indlwabu, ukuphila kwakhe ngokobulili kufanele kube kuhle. Uma izinsuku ezingu-30 ze-porn nobugebengu bokushaya indlwabu engacacisi izinto, lowo muntu angase adinge ukubukeka ejulile ngenxa yalokho, okungenzeka ukuthi kungokomzimba noma kwengqondo ekuvela.
Uma kubonakala ukuthi inkinga iwumlutha wezocansi, umuntu kuzodingeka aqonde ukuthi, njengamanye ukulutha, ukulutha kocansi "kuvuselela" ubuchopho ngezindlela ezenza kube nzima kakhulu ukujabulela injabulo "yemvelo", kufaka phakathi injabulo kusuka ocansini ngokuzimisela oshade naye noma ozakwethu. Njengalokhu, akufanele alindele ukuthi inkinga ikwazi ukuzilungisa ngobusuku bonke. Empeleni, i-neuroscience isitshela lokho kungathatha unyaka noma ngaphezulu ngokuba izindlela ze-dopaminergic noma zokuthakazelisa ebuchosheni, lapho ziguqulwa ukuziphatha okuluthayo, ukwenza kube lula.
Izimpawu ezibonakalayo zokuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi sekuye kwaba yizigqila zihlanganisa:
- Ukusetshenziswa kocansi okuqhubekayo naphezu kwemiphumela kanye / noma izithembiso ezenziwe ngabanye noma kwabanye ukuyeka
- Ukulinganisa isikhathi esichithwa ekusetshenzisweni kocansi
- Amahora, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nezinsuku, alahlekelwe ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile
- Ukubuka okunye okuvusayo, okunamandla noma okungaqondakali ngokobulili
- Ukuqamba amanga, ukugcina izimfihlo, nokuhlanganisa isimo nesilinganiso sokusetshenziswa kocansi
- Intukuthelo noma ukucasula uma kuceliwe ukuyeka
- Intshisekelo yokunciphisa noma engekho ekuxhumaneni ngokobulili, ngokomzimba, nangokomzwelo nabashade noma abalingani
- Imizwa ejulile yedwa, nesonto elivela kwabanye abantu
- Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa / utshwala noma ukulutha kwezidakamizwa / utshwala kubuya ngokuhambisana nokusetshenziswa kocansi
- Ukwandisa ukuphikisana kwabantu abangabazi, ukubheka njengezingxenye zomzimba kunabantu
- Ukukhuphuka kokubuka izithombe ezimbili-ntathu ukusebenzisa i-intanethi ye-hook-ups engaziwa nokuthola ubufebe
Ngokudabukisayo, izilonda ezingcolile zivame ukufuna ukucela usizo ngenxa yokuthi aziboni ukuziphatha kwabo ngokocansi okuyisisekelo sokungathokozi kwabo kanye / noma ukungakwazi ukwenza ucansi. Abanye bazizwa benamahloni. Futhi uma laba bantu befuna usizo, bavame ukufuna usizo ngezibonakaliso zabo ezihlobene nomlutha hhayi inkinga ngokwayo-ukuvakashela udokotela ukubuza ngezimbangela ezingokwenyama ezingokwemvelo ngokobulili, ukucasula i-penile, noma ukufuna ukwelulekwa "ngezinkinga zobudlelwane. "Ngokudabukisayo, abaningi abanomlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile bavakashela odokotela bezokwelapha bese beya kwengqondo enkulu ngaphandle kokuxoxa (noma ngisho nokucatshangwa) ngokusebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye / noma ukushaya indlwabu. Ngakho-ke, inkinga yabo eyinhloko ingahlala ngaphansi komhlaba futhi ingaphathwa kabi.
Bonke abaqeqeshiwe abaphatha amadoda ngokukhathazeka okufisayo / okufisa-ekuthandeni kwengqondo, ukwelashwa ngokocansi, kanye nezinsizakalo zezokwelapha-kufanele balungele ukubuza imibuzo mayelana nokusetshenziswa kocansi nokushaya indlwabu. Uma umlutha wezocansi ungatholakali, ukululekwa okujulile ngososayensi wezokwelapha ukuqeqeshwa kwezidakamizwa eziqeqeshwe futhi ezilayisensiwe kuyadingeka, ngokuvamile kukhonsathini nemithi yokwenza imibhangqwana, umsebenzi weqembu, futhi, uma kuwusebenza, ukubandakanya uhlelo lwe-12-Retro yokutakula. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukubheja kocansi okuvame ukuba yisifo sezinto ezingokomzwelo ezihlobene nomzwelo kanye nobudlelwane obuzodinga isikhathi eside sengqondo nokusekela ukunqoba, kepha lokhu kwengqondo nokusekela kungaphumelela kuphela emva kokuba umbuzo wokuziphatha oveziwe uphinde ususwe .