Lungiselela abafundi ukubhekana ne-porn; bafundise ngobuchopho babo
Isihloko esikhulu sakamuva sase-UK: “Othisha kufanele bafundise ngezithombe zocansi futhi batshele abafundi ukuthi 'akukubi konke', kusho ochwepheshe.” Imfundo esiza izingane zibhekane nenkinga yanamuhla yocansi lwe-inthanethi ingumqondo omuhle. Kodwa masingamoshi ithuba lemfundo elihle ngokuzama ukuhlunga izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile ezingcolile. Umzamo onjalo wawuyohlakazeka ube izimpi zezombangazwe ezingapheli ezingaletha ukushisa okukhulu kunokukhanya.
Okubaluleke nakakhulu, izikole zingaphuthelwa ithuba lokufundisa elicebile. Izibonelo zokudla okungenamsoco kanye ne-porn ye-intanethi inikeza i-pad ephelele yokuqalisa izingane ukuze zifunde izindlela zokudla zesibindi zabo, ndawonye umjikelezo womvuzo. Ingxenye eyinhloko yobuchopho inezwi elikhulu futhi izinto eziza kuqala zibekwe ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo: ukuqhubekisela phambili kwethu ukusinda nokuphumelela kwezakhi zofuzo. Akudingeki ukuthi, izinguqulo ezihehayo zokudla nocansi ziwusebenze ngamandla.
Lezi zindawo zasendulo nazo zikhona isikhungo sekhampasi yethu yangaphakathi. Sithembele kukho ngokwenza zonke izinhlobo zokukhetha kuzo zonke izimpilo, kuhlanganise nezigwebo zokuziphatha kanye nokukhetha umsebenzi. Ukuqonda ukuthi isebenza kanjani nokuthi yikuphi okukuphonsa ngaphandle kwe-kilter kulungiselele kakhulu impilo ku-Planet Earth.
Ubuchopho obuyingqayizivele obusha
Isihloko se ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwentsha futhi inikeza ithuba elihle lokufundisa abafundi mayelana nokuthuthukiswa kobuchopho bomuntu kanye ne-hyper-plasticity yengqondo yengane. Ukukhulelwa kwentsha kuqala ukuqhuma kwama-neurons amasha. Lokhu kusiza kokubili ukufunda ngokuhlangenwe nakho okusha (kufaka phakathi ubulili) nokuzihlanganisa ukuze zikhulile. Kodwa-ke, kusukela eminyakeni eyi-20 yokuqala, izifundazwe ezingasetshenzisiwe ezingasetshenziswanga zizokwehliswa futhi izigungu ze-neural ezigcinwe ziyokhula kakhulu (ukwenza ukuziphatha okufundiwe ngesikhathi sobusha kunzima ukushintsha).
Abafundi bangafunda ukuthi isimo sengqondo socansi sisebenza kanjani, futhi kulula kangakanani ukuthi singathonywa imisebenzi ephezulu yokuvusa. Yimuphi ingane ngeke ujabulise ukufunda ukuthi ososayensi bangabangela ngisho nezinja zamadoda ukuba zithande abalingani bobulili obufanayo ngokubeka isimo sabo sobulili nezidakamizwa ezilingisa ukuvusa ucansi?
Izingane zidinga ukwazi ukuthi ubusha nezimo zobulili zihambisana ndawonye… um… umthondo nekhondomu. Silungile noma cha, bona kuthanda bahambise ubulili babo emzimbeni wabo. Khona-ke, lapho bekhulile, ubuchopho babo buphelele kuthanda ukubuyisela emuva ukujikeleza okungasetshenzisiwe, ukuvimbela ukuhlanzeka kokuthanda kwabo ngokobulili.
Ukwazi ukuthi le nqubo isebenza kanjani kunganikeza ukubona kusengaphambili okudingeka kakhulu kwabasakhulayo, ama-cortex abo angaphambili (ikhaya le- "Ake sicabange ngalokhu") azohlala esakhiwa kuze kube yiminyaka engamashumi amabili. Izinketho ezibona kude zibucayi ngokumangazayo ngesikhathi se- iwindi lesitjha lokuthuthukiswa kobuchopho.
Izithombe ze-intanethi njengokuqeqeshwa kobuchopho
Izikole zingaphinde zifundise abafundi ngezingozi ezifihliwe ze-Internet. Lokhu kudlula okuqukethwe kwe-gonzo. Namuhla, bobabili ukulethwa futhi uqobo babe nezingozi. Kuyizinsuku zokuvakashelwa kwamaphephandaba ngezikhathi ezithile, amahhala angamahhala phakathi kwamabili amashaneli omdala we-satellite / cable, ama-movie angcolile e-2 am VHS egumbini lokuphumula, amahora okulinda ukuzulayela ukuze abone isithombe sezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, futhi akhokhe amasayithi we-porn ngezikhwama zekhadi lesikweletu esingathandeki.
Manje, kunamavidiyo aphezulu-definition wezenzo ezingakahlelwe ngaphambilini amashubhu lapho ukuhluka okungenamkhawulo kukhululekile. Lawa mavidiyo abuye asakaze, ngakho-ke umbukeli akudingeki ashiye ithrekhi kukhompyutha yakhe. Abasebenzisi bangavula amathebhu amaningi we-hardcore clips, ngakho injabulo ayifuni ukufaka isikhala isikhathi eside phakathi neseshini yokushaya indlwabu. Futhi ekugcineni, kukhona ama-smartphones (futhi manje i-Google Glass) ngakho abasebenzisi bangabuka noma kuphi, nganoma isiphi isikhathi, kuhlanganise nokulala kahle embhede. Akusekho ukulinda kwe-TV ebusuku, isikhathi sekhompiyutha ekhaya, noma ngemuva kwesikole.
Ukutholakala njalo kwezilingo ezibhalisa njengezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuziphendukela kwemvelo zihambisana nazo ingozi yokulutha umlutha, futhi ubuchopho bentsha busengozini enkulu yokuba umlutha kunobuchopho obudala. Kuyasabela ngokweqile ukuvuza, futhi kulungiselelwe ukufaka izintambo ezintweni ezijabulisayo-ikakhulukazi ukuvusa inkanuko yezocansi.
I-porn ye-Intanethi inamandla kakhulu ekuqeqesheni ubuchopho ngesizathu esifanayo sokuthi osikilidi balutha kakhulu kune-heroin. Noma i-heroin inikela ngesibhakela esikhudlwana se-neurochemical, osikilidi (njengokuchofoza kumavidiyo amasha we-porn) banikela ngamahithi ajwayelekile we-neurochemical (ikakhulukazi i-dopamine), ngokukhipha ngakunye (noma chofoza). Amandla wokukhulisa i-dopamine ngevidiyo ngayinye yenoveli yandisa ubungozi bokulutha, ngoba ukukhahlela okuphakeme okungapheli kwe-dopamine ekushintsheni kobuchopho okuhlobene nokulutha okuhlala njalo kubasebenzisi abaningi.
Umsebenzisi ongenayo i-porn echaza ukuthi i-porn ishintshile kanjani:
I-porn yesimanje ifana nokudla okukhululekile kokuphefumula. Ukukhula ngokweqile kwamazinga okuphindwe kabili eminyakeni engaphansi kwe-15 (1986-2000), okubonisa ukuthi ukuphakama kokudla okuphansi, okungenampilo kunemiphumela emibi. Ungase ukhuluphele ku-1950 kodwa kwakunzima kakhulu ukwenza kanjalo. Ngokufanayo, ukuhlinzekwa kocansi kuye kwavela ngisho nakakhulu kunalokho okutholakala kokudla okungenamsoco. Njengoba nje ungaba umlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ku-1990 kwakunzima kakhulu ukwenza lokhu kunalokho okwamanje ku-2013.
Isivinini se-intanethi asikhulanga nje kuphela kodwa ukunciphisa intengo ye-elekthronikhi kanye nokuphakama kwewebhu yeselula kusho ukuthi abantu abancane nabancane bafinyelela ukufinyelela kwe-24 / 7 kumandla okusebenza angenamkhawulo wokucubungula. Namuhla isilinganiso seminyaka engu-13 sinamandla amaningi okucubungula ephaketheni lakhe kunokuba wonke umndeni wenza ngasekupheleni kwe-90s. (Kungaba kuhle ukwenza isibalo senani le-porn kumama-megabytes abhekwa yi-capitta ngayinye ethi 1993 vs. 2003 vs. 2013.)
Nansi enye indlela yokucabanga ngakho: Ngemizuzwana eyi-10 ngibona cishe noma iyiphi inhlanganisela yanoma yiziphi izinhlobo zabantu ezenza noma iluphi uhlobo lwesenzo socansi. Ngokuyisisekelo kungukufunwa okungama-24/7. Kepha kuyinjabulo eza nenani elikhulu lentengo kufaka phakathi ukonakalisa impilo yami yezocansi, ubudlelwano nomsebenzi we-erectile.
Uthi omunye uthola kabusha umsebenzisi:
Ngokuqinisekile ukufundisa abafana abancane ukuthi kungabavimbela kanjani ukuya ocansini langempela nokuthi kungadala ukuphazamiseka okuhlukahlukene ngenxa yokushintsha kobuchopho obuhlobene nokulutha ngokungangabazeki kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokufunda engeke iphelele, ukwehluleka ukunciphisa inkululeko 'njengempi yezidakamizwa'.
Ukungasho ukuthi bonke abafana bazoyeka ngokuzenzekelayo. Njengabantu abafundisiwe ngophuzo, ukubhema nezidakamizwa, bangaqhubeka nokuzibandakanya kulezo zenzo, kepha okungenani bazokwenza ngokuqapha okukhulu futhi bambalwa kakhulu babo abazokwenza. Ngiyagula ngakho konke lokhu 'ochwepheshe' abakhuluma ngezocansi lapho wonke umuntu evulekile i-nofap unolwazi oluthe xaxa ngalokhu okushiwo yi-porn kunabantu abangabhala emaphephandabeni abanzi.
"Okujwayelekile" kuqhathaniswa "nokujwayelekile"
Namuhla, ukubukwa kocansi kwe-Intanethi kujwayelekile kuze kufike lapho ukubukwa njalo kubonakala kungumsebenzi ojwayelekile. Lokhu kushiya izingane ziwucwasa ngaphandle kokucabanga ngokuhlolisisa. Kodwa-ke, ngoba "Wonke umuntu usebenzisa i-porn ye-Intanethi" akuqinisekisi ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi akulimazi. Cabanga indlela ukubhema okwakudume ngayo ngaphambi kokuba kubonakale izingozi zayo.
Abasebenzisi abangaqondi ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-Intanethi kubandakanya izingozi bavame ukungaboni ngaso linye uma beba nezimpawu ezihlobene nocansi, njengokungajwayeleki ukukhathazeka komphakathi, ukuhlushwa nokugqugquzela izinkinga, ukulahlekelwa ukukhangwa kwabalingani bangempela, Ukuthanda izinto ezingcolile zobulili, izinkinga zokusebenza ngocansi, njll. Ngaphandle kolwazi mayelana nokuthi ukucwiliswa kwe-porn inthanethi kungabangela kanjani izinkinga ezinjalo, izingane ezithuthukisa izimpawu ngezinye izikhathi zicabanga ukuthi ziphukile ukuze ziphile. Kudingeka uzwe ngontanga yabo osuse izithombe ze-porn kusukela ku-equation, ukukhishwa kwesibindi, futhi wabona ukuthuthukiswa okusheshayo.
Olunye ulwazi olubucayi ukuthi izingane azivamise ukuthola ukuthi ukuqeda ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe ezingcolile ze-intanethi kungabangela amasonto amabi kakhulu ukuhoxiswa izimpawu: ukulala, Ubuchopho inkungu, ukukhathazeka, ukudangala, ukucasuka, ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo ngokushesha, ukujuluka, izinhlungu — futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ukulahlekelwa okungazelelwe (okwesikhashana) kwayo yonke i-libido. Uma intsha ingazi ngalezi zimpawu, izimpawu ezinjalo zingazibuyisela emuva ku-porn ngokwesaba.
Ngolwazi oluqinile izingane zingaqaphela ukubaluleka kokufunda ukulawula ukudla kwabo futhi benze izivivinyo zabo siqu. Kunezinkambiso eziningi ezivame ukukhuthaza ukulinganisela, njengokuzivocavoca, isikhathi semvelo, ukuzijabulisa nabantu bangempela, nsuku zonke amakhaza abandayo, kanye namasu okuphumula-konke okungabandakanywa kunoma yiliphi ikharikhulamu ngaphandle kokucasula kunoma ubani. Abafundi bangafunda nokuthi yikuphi ukwesekwa okusemthethweni okutholakala ukubhekana nezimpawu zokudlula.
Lolu lwazi luzokwenza futhi abasha ukuba benze umsebenzi onolwazi wokukhulisa izingane ezizayo.
Kungani ukufundisa "i-porn enhle" kanye "ne-porn engalungile" kungasebenzi
Intsha ayineminyaka engu-30 ubudala. Ubuchopho babo buyabenza abafunayo abavusa amadlingozi futhi ikakhulukazi abanolukuluku ngokuphathelene nobuhle nobulili. Lezi zindlela ezingenangqondo ukuthi kungani okhokho bethu bashiya izinhlanga zabo ngesikhathi sokukhula, ngaleyo ndlela bagwema ukubola.
Izingane ngeke zinamathele kumawebhusayithi othisha abasikisela ukuthi “ngoba kunempilo kubo.” Inqubomgomo enjalo engenamqondo ingafana nokubashiya endaweni yokudlela yezintandokazi abayithandayo ngethiphu ethi, "Izinduku zesanqante kungaba ukukhetha okuhle." Kwesokudla.
Noma ngabe banamathele ezithombeni ezingcolile ze- “carrot-stick”, basazoqhubeka nokufaka ubuchopho babo bentsha obuthambile kumaphikseli, hhayi abalingani bangempela. Lokhu kungaholela osizini kamuva njengoba lokhu okungamashumi amabili-okuthile kwafunda:
(20-okuthile) Lapho ngihamba nabesifazane empilweni yangempela, angizwanga lutho. Ngangingeyona i-horny nhlobo. Angiyena ungqingili nakancane (empeleni ngingumuntu ocasukile ocansini), kodwa angikwazi ukulala nalaba besifazane. Uma bengingakhetha igama elilodwa ukuchaza ukuthi kunjani lapho ngizama ukulala nabo, ngisebenzisa igama elithi 'umfokazi.' Kwazizwa kungumbumbulu futhi kungaziwa kimi. Phakathi naleso sikhathi ngingahlala phansi ne-laptop yami futhi ngokushesha ngizwe i-horny noma ngabe angizange ngilayishe noma iyiphi i-porn. I-Porn izizwa ikhululekile ngokuphelele futhi ingokwemvelo kimi. Kukhiphe ngokuphelele lokho okufanele ngizizwe ngokwemvelo nabesifazane! Ngibona amantombazane futhi ngicabanga ukuthi amanye awo abukeka emuhle kakhulu. Ngingumfana kinda othandana ngenhliziyo, kepha angikwazi ukwenza lutho ngakho. Ukuheha kukhona, kepha hhayi isifiso sobulili.
Ngesinye isikhathi, ochwepheshe abathile bathi kufanele sifundise intsha ukuthi ukuvota ngocansi kuyayithokozisa. Lokhu kufana nokuphikisana ukuthi kumele sifundise izingane ukuba zithande ushukela. Isikhalo sokuvusa ngocansi, njengoshukela, singenasisekelo. Akukho ukufundisa okudingekayo.
Khumbula ukuthi ngesikhathi sobusha ingxenye yobuchopho ebhalisa ukuvusa inkanuko isemsebenzini ngokweqile — empeleni intsha ingaphuthelwa yiziqondiso ezibalulekile zokuzala. Okungenzeka ukuthi kushoda yi-counterweight ukuthi ulwazi oluqinile nabantu abadala abanobuchopho obuthuthuke ngokuphelele bangakunikeza. Ngamanye amagama, “I-Accelerator iyasebenza; lungisa amabhuleki! ”
Ekugcineni, i-intanethi izinkinga zobulili kukhona okuningi mayelana nokujabula kuka Intsha kunokuqukethwe, noma ngisho nesikhathi osichithe ubukele. Eqinisweni, abanye abantu babika ukuthuthuka kokuheha kozakwethu bangempela ngisho nezinkinga zokusebenza ngokocansi ngokumane nje ubheke amakhulu amamodeli wokubhukuda ngeseshini yokushaya indlwabu. Lokhu akumangazi neze. Ingxenye yokuqala yobuchopho ivutha umlilo kubalingani bomshado, noma ngabe ubuchopho obunengqondo abuzange buchaze izithombe njenge "porn." Ngamafuphi, ubuchopho obuzivumelanisa ngokushesha bungalungiswa, noma bube “yicingo” kulo, noma yini umsebenzisi osemusha azihlanganisa kaningi nokuvuka kwakhe okuqinisayo, noma ngabe kuyi "porn enhle" noma "yi-porn engalungile."
Lesi sici somzimba womzimba yingakho intsha kudingeka ifunde ngobuchopho bayo, kunokugxila kokuhlukanisa okuqukethwe.
Ngamafuphi
Isimo sanamuhla se-porn esinejubane elikhulu yisikhathi esihle sokuchazela intsha ukuthi inqubo yokudla yobuchopho isebenza kanjani. Bafundise ama-ajenda alo angokwemvelo nokuthi ukudla kwanamuhla okungenamsoco kanye ne-porn ye-Intanethi kudlala kanjani kulezi zinto eziseqhulwini zakudala.
Bafundise mayelana nesimo socansi. Intsha ithwebula kalula izingqinamba zocansi. Uma behlanganisa izintambo zamaphikseli kuphela, ngakho-ke ababonisi izintambo ekuziphatheni kokuthandana nezinkomba ezibalungiselela ucansi lwangempela. Lapho usumdala, ubuchopho buzobuyisela emuva amasekethe angasetshenziswanga, ngakho-ke intsha isefasiteleni eliyingqayizivele lethuba lokuhambisa izintshisekelo zazo, amakhono nemikhuba yazo.
Bafundise ukuthi ukukhushulwa okukhulu kungabangela ushintsho lobuchopho olwehlisa injabulo enkulu emisebenzini yansuku zonke (okungase ikhule ngokumangalisayo ngokuqhathaniswa), futhi iqhube ukufuna ukuzwa-kanye nokulutha.
Bafundise indlela yokulawula izifiso zabo ngokwemvelo, kanye nezimpawu zokuqhathaniswa, indlela yokuhoxiswa ngayo, nokuthi kuphi ukuthola usizo uma kudingeka.
Ukuqonda okungcono kokuthi ukweqisa okungapheli kokuvuselelwa okungajwayelekile kuthinta ubuchopho kungasiza izingane ukuthi zibhekane nemvelo yanamuhla yokudla okuvuselela i-hyper kanye nezinsiza zocansi.
Okokugcina, njengalokhu kunomzamo wokufundisa ngezocansi, impilo yezocansi yabantu abadala abenza imfundiso ibalulekile. Njengoba ilunga lesithangami saseCanada lathi,
Njengoba kunikezwe ukuthi impilo yezocansi ezingeni le-psycho-emotional is rare in culture yethu, ngibona imfundo yezocansi njengethuba lokuhlukunyezwa kanye nethuba lokuqhubeka. Umuntu ongenampilo noma ophethe i-ajenda yezopolitiki ngokweqile kungase kungabi umthombo onempilo wolwazi.
Resources
Lezi zibonisi ze-slides ziyizibonelo zalokho okungenziwa ukuze kusize izingane ziqonde kabanzi mayelana nobuchopho bazo:
Le enye yezingane ezindala:
Lokhu kungenxa yezingane ezincane:
UKUQUKELA KWE-REDDIT
Nayi eyodwa ngokwesibonelo http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2013/jun/19/state-wont-protect-children-porn
Ngeke ngiphawule ngokuthi kufanele sikhawulele ukufinyelela ku-porn noma cha, kepha ngokuqinisekile nginezela ku-equation ukufundisa abafana abancane ukuthi kungabavimbela kanjani ukuya ocansini langempela nokuthi kungadala izifo ezinhlobonhlobo zengqondo njenge Umphumela wokushintshwa kobuchopho obuhlobene nokulutha ngokungangabazeki indlela engcono kakhulu yokuvimba ukubheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile engingacabanga ukuthi lokho ngeke kuphele, inkululeko inciphisa ukwehluleka njenge 'mpi yezidakamizwa'.
Ukungasho ukuthi bonke abafana bazoyeka ngokuzenzakalela, abantu abafundiswe ngophuzo, ukubhema nezidakamizwa bangaqhubeka nokuzibandakanya kuleyo misebenzi, kepha okungenani bazokwenza ngokuqapha okukhulu futhi iningi labo lizokwenza. Ngiyagula ngakho konke lokhu 'ochwepheshe' abakhuluma ngezocansi lapho wonke umuntu ku-nofap enolwazi oluningi kakhulu ngalokho i-porn ekwenzayo kuwe kunabantu ababhala emaphephandabeni abanzi.
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