I-Porn Porn kakhulu kakhulu: I-SADD Effect
Ngu-Ian Kerner
Ukufinyelela okulula kwi-inthanethi ye-intanethi kanye nezinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zezinto ezintsha ezithintekayo kuye kwabathinta abafana abavamile abangazange babe nenkinga.
Njengomuthi wezocansi kanye nomsunguli we Kuhle kumbhede, Ngiye ngabona ukwanda okwedlulele kubantu abahlukunyezwa yi-syndrome entsha engiye ngayibiza ngokuthi "Ukuhlukunyezwa Ngokweqile Ngokwezocansi," noma i-SADD. Futhi umthombo wale nkinga nje ukuchofoza kude - kakhulu kakhulu porn porn.
Njengoba nje abantu abane-ADD bephazanyiswa kalula, abafana abane-SADD baye bajwayele amazinga aphezulu okubonakala okubukwayo nokuvuselela okuvela kwi-internet ye-porn abangakwazi ukugxila kwezocansi zangempela nowesifazane wangempela. Ngenxa yalokho, abafana abaneSADD bavame ukuthola kunzima ukukwenza gcina ukulungiswa ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini, noma abhekana nokujula okubambezelekile futhi kungagxila kuphela ngokugqugquzela okubhaliwe noma ngomlomo.
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Amadoda aphethe i-SADD athambekele ekutholeni ukuthukuthela noma ukubekezela ngesikhathi socansi. Kungenzeka ukuthi physiologically kuvuswe futhi kulungiswe, kodwa abangekho ekuphakameni kwengqondo. Abafana abane-SADD bangase bangabi namanje we-mojo wezocansi zangempela ngoba sebephelile wokushaya indlwabu. Awugijimi ithangi eligcwele, ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo.
Ngiyakholwa noma cha, ngaqala ukubona i-SADD ngezikhalazo zabesifazane abazibuza ukuthi kungani abafana babo behluleka ukuhlakulela (futhi bevame ukuzifakela) noma ngubani oqaphele ukuthi abalingani babo babonakala benqanyuliwe noma bengathandeki ngesikhathi socansi. Ngenkathi ngigubha kancane, noma ngikhuluma namadoda ngokwabo, ngabona ukuthi la madoda ayedlala ngokweqile kunokujwayelekile ngenxa yokufinyelela kwabo kalula kwi-inthanethi ye-inthanethi. Ngezinye izikhathi, babebenomzimba wokushaya indlwabu ngendlela efanayo njalo, kepha babengakaqapheli ukuthi isikhathi sabo sokuphikisa - isikhathi sokuphumula phakathi kwezikhathi zokuphumula - sanda njengoba sisekhulile.
Ungangitholi ngephutha, ngingumdlali omkhulu wokushaya indlwabu. Kuyasiza umfana aphule umusi othile futhi ufana nosuku lwe-spa lwe-30-yesibili. Kodwa ukufinyeleleka kalula kwe-porn ye-intanethi kanye nezinhlobonhlobo eziningi zezinto ezintsha ezithintekayo kuye kwabathinta abafana abavamile ababengeke babe nenkinga. Ngenxa yalokhu, la madoda avuselele ubuchopho bawo ukuze afise ukuthokozisa okusheshayo kwe-orgasm enikwe amandla ocansi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bakhulisa lokho okukhulunywe ngabo emtholampilo njengesitayela se-idiosyncratic style: Baye bazijwayele uhlobo olunamandla lokuvuselela ngokomzimba okungalingani ngesikhathi socansi langempela. Izinga labo eliphelele lesifiso sobulili kubalingani babo liphansi, futhi badinga ukucabanga ngesikhathi sokulala ngokoqobo ukuze kugcinwe ukulungiswa okugcwele.
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Okokuqala, zinikeze wokushaya indlwabu ukuphuka. Londoloza i-mojo yakho kumlingani wakho. Uma ungashadile, wehlisa imvamisa yakho yokushaya indlwabu. Uma wenza i-masturbate, zama ukusebenzisa isandla sakho esingenamandla. Isibonelo, uma ulungile, uthinte wena ngesokunxele sakho. Ngeke ukwazi ukusebenzisa amazinga afanayo wokuqina ngokomzimba ngangokunokwenzeka ngesandla sakho esiphezulu, ngakho-ke ngeke ube ngokomzimba wechungechunge locansi.
Okwesibili, beka eceleni porn. Uma ushaya indlwabu, sebenzisa ingqondo yakho ukwakha izithombe bese uzama ukukhumbula iziqephu ezingashadile zocansi. Cabanga nje ngokuthi umehluko phakathi kokufunda nokubuka i-TV. Sebenzisa leli thuba ukuze uphinde uxhumane nomlando wakho obukekayo kanye nekhasi lakho lezinkumbulo ezimnandi.
Ukwandisa ubuhle engqondo nomlingani wakho: Yabelana ngamafantasi bese uhlola indima. Ngaphambi kokuba ulale, zibophezele endaweni lapho ukhulule khona ngokomzimba futhi ukuvusa kwengqondo. I-SADD akudingeki idabukele wena noma umlingani wakho. Hamba kude kwikhomputha yakho futhi uye ekamelweni lakho, futhi ungabuyisa emuva lapho kungokwakho - empilweni yakho yangempela yobulili.
Ian Kerner, Ph.D, ngumeluleki wezocansi kanye I-New York Times umlobi odayisa kakhulu izincwadi eziningi zeHarper Collins, kufaka phakathi Ufika kuqala. Ungumsunguli we I-GoodInBed.com futhi osanda kubhala umqondisi ukunqoba i-ejaculation ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
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