Lapho porn iba inkinga (Irish Times). Ochwepheshe bezocansi uThish Murphy, uTeresa Bergin, Tony Duffy (2015)

URachel wacabanga ukuthi "unombono onempilo ngocansi kanye nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile", ngaphambi kokuba umngane wakhe abe umlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile. "Wangidonsela ebumnyameni obangenza ngizizwe ngingcolile futhi ngangingasoze ngizihlambalaze."

Lapho ebona umlingani wakhe ehamba ekusebenziseni amahora amahora nsuku zonke ezingosini zocansi ukuze asebenzise izifebe, manje ukholelwa ukuthi "izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziwumkhakha wobugebengu owadalwa futhi wenziwa ngabantu; lapho abesifazane baphathwa khona njengezinyosi zenyama. . . abanalo izwi futhi nathi asinabesifazane. Futhi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zikhona ezindlini zonke zokulala kuleli lizwe - eLuas, endlini yokulala. I-cyber curb-ukugwasa. "

Abahlengikazi bathi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile azilimazi kuphela abesifazane. Abaningi bamadoda ababukeleyo nabo banqatshelwe ubuhlobo bobulili obuhle.

Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile azikho ngempela njengoba usakazeke njengoba abanye abantu becabanga (kuthiwa kuthiwa yakha ingxenye eyodwa kwezintathu ze-intanethi, nakuba i-4 ngamaphesenti iyinombolo engokoqobo). Noma kunjalo, kufinyeleleke manje kunanoma yisiphi isikhathi emlandweni: etholakalayo kunoma ubani onesi-smartphone, ithebhulethi noma ikhompyutha.

Igama elibanzi elithi "i-porno" lisukela kumavidiyo avelayo, izithombe nama-akhawunti wezocansi, kokuqukethwe okumnyama, okuhlukumeza futhi "ukuhlukumeza i-porn".

Kulesi sigaba sokugcina, "izisulu" zivame ukuba ngabadlali, kodwa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zihlanganisa nezinto abathintekayo abaye baphoqeleka ukuba bazibandakanye kuzo: izindawo zaseMpumalanga zaseYurophu zinomlando obi kakhulu kulokhu, ngokusho kwesazi semvelo uLaura Agustin.

'Ukudlwengula'

Ngokuphambene nalokho, okuthiwa yi-"ethical" ye-porn, lapho abadlali abanemibandela efanelekayo, esebenzayo impilo iyatholakala kwezinye izindawo zaseCalien ezikhokhelwayo. "Ama-Amateur" - ama-home-made - amavidiyo angenye ifomu ethandwayo, nakuba "amateurs" kungenzeka ukuba abalingisi futhi.

Yize ezinye izingosi ze-porn zishaya ukufinyeleleka, akukho okuncane noma okunamandla kunzima ukuthola mahhala. Ukuseshwa kwe-intanethi "ukudlwengula izithombe" kunikeza amakhasi wemiphumela. Lezi zinto zisekupheleni komnyama wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kodwa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zithatha izinhlobo eziningi futhi ngokuvamile ziqala ngokungenacala.

Ngesitimeleni ngiya emsebenzini, ngifakazela iminyaka emibili yokuqala-esikoleni lapho ngihamba ekhaya ngisuka e-hockey practice - umfana nentombazane emasokisi asetsheni.

Njengoba bebukeka e-iPhone yomfana, uchungechunge lwe-nude yakhe luye lwavela. Le ntombazane ithatha ifoni, idonsa ngezithombe bese isongela ukubathumela kubangani bayo. Uzama ukulwa nalo. Ukusabela kwentombazane ye-blasé kusikisela ukuthi ubonile lokhu ngaphambili. Lawa yizingane ezihambisa lokho abangaziqapheli isinyathelo esisodwa kusuka ezingcolile zobulili ezinganeni.

"Uma abantu abasha bebona, kuqhubeka ngokwengeziwe," kusho uTeresa Bergin, onguchwepheshe osebenza nezinsizwa ezinomlutha ocansini. "Ubuchopho bentsha ikakhulukazi epulasitiki," esho.

U-Bergin uphatha amadoda asetshenziseni eminyakeni eyishumi nambili kanye ne-20 yokuqala ekuqaleni kokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile okubangelwa ukuhlaselwa kwezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile. Abakwazanga ukukhuluma ngokuziqhenya kwabesifazane bangempela, bafuna "ubuhle" obukhulu ukuba bavuke, okungenakuqhathaniswa nokuphila kwangempela, uthi.

Ukubuka okungahambi kahle ngokobulili "Ubuchopho obusakhulayo buyingxenye enkulu yokukhiqizwa kwe-dopamine kanye neuroplasticity," kusho uBergin. "Ukwenza ubuchopho bube buthakathaka kakhulu ekubhekaneni nokulutha. . . futhi lezi zinsizwa zidukisiwe ngesenzo socansi nazo zonke ukusondelana okuthathwe kuwo. "

“Abafana banukubezwa ngokocansi ngendlela ehluke kakhulu manje kunakuqala. Abanye bakhombisa ukungakwazi ukuya ocansini. Kubo, ukuqina kwalokho abakubona esikrinini akukwazi ukufaniswa. Bacindezela ezithombeni ezinamandla nezinamandla, baphambuke kokungokwesiko bese bengena ezindaweni ezifana ne-S & M. ”

Intsha ibeka inkinga ethile, kepha izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziyingxenye yezwe lethu lokucabangela ucansi futhi livamile phakathi kwabaneminyaka yonke.

I-Irish Times kusanda kuqhutshwa inhlolovo ye-inthanethi yemikhuba yobulili yabantu. Nakuba lokhu kwakuyinkinga yokuzithandela okumele kubonakale imiphumela yabo ibe yinkomba esikhundleni sokucacisa, i-83 per cent yalabo abaphendula kulolu cwaningo bathi babheke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kuhlanganise no-99 ngamaphesenti amadoda ase-17-34.

In I-Irish Times Ucwaningo lwezocansi, inani elincane labasilisa (17 per cent kubo abaneminyaka engu-17-24) bathi basebenzisa i-porn nsuku zonke. Owesithathu kwabaphenduli besifazane bebukele izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, futhi nje kuphela abesifazane abangu-1 babheka usuku ngalunye.

Kubasebenzisi abakhulu, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingalimaza kakhulu. "Kulabo abasebenzisa nsuku zonke, ukusetshenziswa kwabo kobulili kungabangela ubunzima obukhulu," kusho Trish Murphy, isazi sengqondo sengqondo kanye Irish Times ikholenda. "Ngokuvamile kuthatha imicabango yabo nempilo yabo futhi bangase bakuthole kunzima kakhulu ukuphula umkhuba."

UMargaret Dunne, onguchwepheshe wezocansi, uthi: "Izithombe ezingcolile zilimaza ubuhlobo bobulili bangempela ngokulimaza ukuthuthukiswa nesipiliyoni sobudlelwane obuseduze. Kuvame ukugxila kakhulu enjabulweni yesilisa. Ukubukela ngocansi ngokuvamile kuvame ukwenziwa ekusithekeni futhi ngaleyo ndlela kuholela ekuziphatheni lapho umlingani ezwa. "

UDunne usebenzelana nabasebenzisi bezithombe eziphuthumayo "abashayela phansi kakhulu ekubhebhethekiseni, okuholela kulo muntu obhekene nobunzima bokuthola umlingani nomlingani wakhe.

"Ngokusobala izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zihlala ziwukuphela komuntu siqu," kusho isazi sengqondo sezokwelapha uPrendan Madden. "Lokhu kubonisa isimo sezithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile lapho kubonisa ithuba lokucabanga futhi ucabange ukufinyelela kubalingani bocansi nokuzibandakanya emisebenzini yezocansi engase ingatholakali empilweni yangempela."

Ubulili kanye nobudlelwane bezobuchwepheshe uThans Duffy uye wabona ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ikhono lamadoda elimazayo lokuba nobulili ezweni langempela.

Labo abasebenza endaweni yokulutha ngokocansi kusobala ukuthi babhekene nezimo ezimbi kakhulu, kodwa bathi bababona ngokuqhubeka njalo.

"Umlutha wezocansi uzibonakalisa kakhudlwana futhi ngicabanga ukuthi iningi labachwepheshe bezocansi bazovuma. Amadoda amaningi asebenzisa isikhathi esiningi seskrini ehambisana ne-porno, futhi lokhu kuyinkinga ngokuziphatha kobulili, "kusho uDuffy.

Ingabe izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zihlale zingalungile? Hhayi ngempela. Ingxenye yalabo abaphendule inhlolovo yethu (bona ikhasi 2) bathi abazange bakholwe izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zithinta ubuhlobo bobulili wangempela.

Futhi uTeresa Bergin uthi nakuba izixhumo zocansi zibona ukwanda okukhulu kwezinkinga zocansi ezibangelwa yi-porn, akuzona neze ezilimazayo njalo. "Kunokubaluleka kokufundiswa kwabantu abangenayo imfundo yezocansi, njengabantu abaningi, futhi izinsizwa zithi ziye zafunda ukufaka izinto ezihlukahlukene ekuthandweni kwabo ngothando, kuyilapho imibhangqwana ebuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ndawonye ingasiza ekuthuthukiseni umqondo wokuzijabulisa, uma nje bobabili bevumelana. "

Uchwepheshe wezocansi u-Emily Power Smith uthi kungaba mnandi kwabesifazane nakwabesilisa. "Ngokomlando, abesifazane baye bathambekele kancane ekuziphatheni kabi ngocansi ngenxa yalokho okwakutholakala. I-pornography eyinhloko yayisenhla kanti ikakhulukazi ihloswe kakhulu kubantu abasha abaphakathi.

"Kodwa lokhu kuguquka ngegagasi elisha le-'sex feminist porn ', ne-storyline, kanye nobulili okubandakanya abesifazane abanama-reallygasms wangempela. Amafilimu ayenziwa ngokomthetho, okusho ukuthi wonke umuntu ukhokhelwe kahle, enempilo hhayi kulo ngenxa yokuphoqelela noma ukuphoqa. Abesifazane nabesifazane abaningi bafuna lolu hlobo lwe-porn ukuze bakwazi ukukujabulela ngaphandle kokukhathazeka noma icala. "

Umbhangqwana ngokuvumelana angawubheka ndawonye ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bawo (i Irish Times Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi yase-Ireland esekhulile isebenzisa ngale ndlela).

Akuwona wonke umbhangqwana ongenza lo msebenzi, kusho uBergin. "Imiphumela yokuzijabulisa esondelene nayo yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ingase igcinwe kumabhangqwana asevele avumelanisiwe kahle ekuthandweni kwabo ngokobulili. Uma bobabili abalingani bengavumelani ngokufanayo nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi omunye wabo uzizwa kungase kube yingozi, khona-ke umphumela ungaba nombi. "

U-Dunne uyanezela: "Ukusebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukuze uhlakulele ubudlelwane lapho i-libido iphansi khona kungaba ngcono uma abantu ababili befuna ukuyibuka [kodwa] lapho ehamba futhi ebukela yedwa, kukhona isigqubu sokufihla nokuhlazeka."

I-Secrecy Dermod Moore, isazi sengqondo sokusebenza kwengqondo esisebenza nabantu abahlukunyezwa ngokobulili, uyavuma ukuthi ukufihla kuyinkinga ebalulekile. Ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kungaba yinto ejabulisayo, uma nje kuxoxwa ngakho.

"Iphuzu lami ukuthi akusilo ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zisesimweni esingenampilo; kungukuthi noma yini engaphumeleli ukuxoxwa ingabi yingozi. Kunezimpikiswano eziningi mayelana nalo kwezombusazwe, ikakhulukazi ezivela kwabesifazane; kodwa lokho okushiwo yizo ziko zomculo ezidumile futhi ebuhlotsheni bethu obuseduze kungukuthi [ingxoxo] yethonya lomzwelo onalo kithi. "

URaheli - ozwa sengathi akekho umuntu ongakwazi ngempela ukuqonda ngaphandle uma besesimweni sakhe sokuhlala nomlutha wesigqila socansi - walahlekelwa ngumlingani wakhe, ikhaya lakhe futhi wasala engenamntwana nengane ngemuva kokuchitha amashumi ezinkulungwane ze-euro ezindleko zomthetho ukuze aziqede kusukela emiphumeleni yokulutha kobulili umlingani wakhe okwenqabayo. Ungabaza ukuthi uzoke athembele noma ubani okwanele ukuba athande futhi.

"Bakwenza kahle ngaphansi kwekhala lakho kuma-laptops abo namafoni. Kuyinto yokuqamba amanga - ngisho nalapho kutholakala, ayikho intukuthelo, ayinalo uzwela ngaleso sikhathi.

"Futhi likhula njengoba lingena ezikhungweni ezimbi kakhulu, bese liphendukela ekuthengeni kwabesifazane ngokocansi."

URaheli wathola ukusebenzisa komlingani wakhe izifebe ngemuva kokumnika izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi. Hers yindaba eyodwa, kodwa okufanayo kuye kwaphindaphindiwe kimi izikhathi eziningana lapho kuxoxwa nabacwaningi bezocansi zalesi sihloko. Bathi akuyona into engavamile ukuba izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zibe yindlela yokudayisa ubufebe.

"Ngemva kokuqala nge-porn efonini, uphetha ngokuphendula izikhangiso ezihambisanayo zokuthi 'ukusilalisa ngokuphela kokujabula'," kusho uDunne.

"Ekusebenziseni ukwelashwa, amadoda azokutshela ukuthi angeke alindele ukuhamba ngaleyo ndlela," kusho uDunne. "Uma ungabakhombisa isithombe ngosuku abaqala ngalo ngale ndlela, izithombe ezingcolile zobulili nokuziphatha okubi abazokuphela ngazo ngosuku abazokwelapha ngalo, bazobe besaba."

Ingxoxo evulekile Amaphesenti angu-11 wabesilisa abasebenzisa i-porn zonke nsuku zonke kufanele azibuze. Ukusetshenziswa kwansuku zonke kusho ukuthi ungumlutha wezocansi noma endleleni yokuba umlutha wezocansi, "kusho esinye isazi esisebenza esibhedlela esikhulu.

Phakathi kwezinkinga aziphatha ngayo ukungabi namuntu ngenxa yokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile okubangelwa yi-pornography, nokucindezeleka kwabesifazane abathandana nabo ababenqatshelwe ukuxhumene nocansi lwe-intanethi. Uye waba namakhasimende alahlekelwe yimisebenzi ngenxa yokuthi ayengcolile-abacabangela ukuthi abahluleka "ukucacisa ukwahlulela".

"Bahlala ezweni lesibili labo bese behlukaniswa kakhulu empilweni yangempela kangangokuthi balahlekelwa izindlu, imisebenzi namakhaya. Akusiyo inhlanzi enkulu ukuqala ukusebenzisa izifebe, amaqembu aguqulwayo nama-chatline abizayo. Ukujula okukhulu kunalokho okujabulisayo kanti abanye banezindaba ezine noma emihlanu ngesikhathi esifanayo ekhadini lesikweletu lenkampani, "usho kanje.

"Abalingani babo besifazane bahlukumezeke ngokuphelele. Ungaba umlutha wotshwala noma umgembula futhi kukhona ukwamukelwa okuthile kwalokho, kepha ukulutha kobulili / ngokocansi kuhluke kakhulu emahlathini amakhulu okubamba iqhaza ukuze kungabikho okhuluma ngakho, okwenza ukuba indoda kanye nowesifazane behlukaniswe. "

"Ukuhlambalaza nokuhlukumeza" ukuveza abesifazane, kunika abafana namadoda "umbono ongalungile wokuthi yikuphi ubulili kanye nokuthandana okufanele kube", kusho uDunne.

"Ngizwile amantombazane esikoleni samabanga aphansi athi izakhamuzi zabo zibi kakhulu. Bakuthola lokho ngenkathi befuna uxhumano lomzwelo nobudlelwane obuseduze, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zithinta izinkanuko zabo zesoka zobulili. "

The Irish Times Ucwaningo lwezocansi lubonisa ukuthi insizwa eningi manje isebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukuze zifunde ngezinqubo zocansi. Amashumi ayisishiyagalolunye nane ekhulwini lamadoda ase-17-24 aneminyaka engu-25 ubudala athi athole "ukufundiswa" kocansi, okutholakala ngokukhethekile kuMargaret Dunne.

Lokhu, uthi, kuphakamisa "umqondo odidekile kakhulu wokuthi ubuhlobo obuseduze nobulili bukuphi. Kukhona ingozi yangempela manje ukuthi izikripthi zesilisa zabesilisa abasebasha zizobe zithonywa kakhulu, futhi zihlanekezwe, ukusetshenziswa kocansi ngokweqile. "

I-Porn ifundisa abantu ngezocansi, kodwa hhayi njalo ngendlela enhle, kusho uMadden. "Abantu bafunda okuningi ngokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi kuhileleka kakhulu kunesifundo sokufundisa ngesondo ngokobulili. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ku-intanethi ziveza imikhuba yobulili engacabangeki emikhubeni yezocansi edukisa kakhulu futhi ekukhuthazeni kakhulu ukuziphatha okuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Kubantu abasha, ikakhulukazi, kungaba nzima ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwabo. "

U-Moore uthi: "Ngenkululeko yonke i-intanethi eyenzile eminyakeni embalwa edlule, angiqiniseki ukuthi thina e-Ireland siseduze nesiteji lapho singakhuluma khona ngobulili kanye / noma izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngendlela enempilo.

"Siyakugwema ukukhuluma ngesiko lase-Ireland esithinta ubulili; okuyinto engisho ngokuthembeka nangokuqondile. Yebo kunokuningi ngakho; ku-media, kodwa kubonakala kunzima kakhulu ukuveza isihloko sobulili ngendlela engavamile, noma egcwele amahlazo, noma okudinga isibindi saseDutch ukubhekana nayo. Ngokuvamile bonke abantu baye basebenzisa i-porn; Bangaki abaye bakhuluma ngakho, ngokusobala? "

Ukufuna izindaba

UKate Holmquist ufuna ama-akhawunti ezithombe zocansi ezisetshenziswa abantu base-Ireland. Yabelana ngolwazi lwakho ngokuyimfihlo ngokuthumela i-imeyili tellkate@irish times.com