Ukuze ubalekele umlutha we-porn kubalulekile ukuthi abasebenzisi be-porn baqonde ukuthi kungani bengathola i-porn kujabulise kakhulu kunezakwethu zangempela.
AMAKHAYA:
- Ukuze uthole olunye ulwazi bheka i Isigaba se-Porn & ED.
- Ngaphezulu kwezinguquko ze-75 ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ukuze kube nokwaneliseka okuncane ngokobulili nokuzwana.
- Okungenani izixhumanisi ze-40 zixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn / ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ezinkingeni zobulili nokuvusa okuphansi kwisenzo socansi. I Ucwaningo lokuqala lwe-7 ohlwini lubonise ibangela, njengoba abahlanganyeli beqede ukusetshenziswa kwezingcolile kanye nokuphulukisa okungavamile kocansi.
- Izifundo ezingaphezulu kwe-55 ukubika okutholakele okuhambisana nokwanda kokusetshenziswa kocansi (ukubekezelelana), ukujwayela i-porn, kanye nezimpawu zokuhoxa.
- Ngaphezu kwezifundo ezingenhla, Leli khasi liqukethe ama-athikili namavidiyo ngama-150 ochwepheshe (urology professors, urologists, psychiatrists, psychologists, sexologists, MDs) abavuma futhi baphumelela ngokuphatha i-porn-kuhoxiswa ED kanye nokulahlekelwa izithombe ezingcolile zobulili.
- Iphepha elibukezwe ngontanga ngabodokotela base-US Navy - Ingabe Izithombe Zobulili Ezingcolile Zase-Internet Zibangela Ukuhlukunyezwa Ngokocansi? Ukubukezwa Ngemibiko Yomtholampilo (2016) - Ukubuyekezwa kabanzi kwezincwadi ezithinta izinkinga zocansi ezibangelwa ucansi. Ukubuyekeza kuhlinzeka ngemininingwane yakamuva eveza ukukhuphuka okukhulu kwezinkinga zobulili ezisencane. Leli phepha libuye lihlolisise izifundo ze-neurological ezihlobene nokulutha kwezicabha kanye nokuziphatha ngokocansi. Odokotela banikeza imibiko ye-3 emitholampilo yamadoda athuthukise ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi okubangelwa ucansi.
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I-ARTICLE: I-neuroscience yembula ukuthi i-Internet ye-porn ingaxosha kanjani ngokobulili ngokoqobo
Kunzima impela ukuthola ama-erections lapho ngizama [ukuya ocansini]. Kuthatha cishe imizuzu engama-20 ukuyivusa. Ngempela kuyaphoxa. Kepha uma ngihleli ngibuka i-pornz yami, cishe iyashesha. — Umsebenzisi we-Porn oneminyaka engama-20
Ungumsebenzisi we-porn osindayo okuthi, ngesikhathi sokwenza uthando, ungakwazi ukukhiqiza / ukugcina njalo ukwakhiwa noma ungene kumlingani wangempela, uzizwe uzwela kakhulu, noma uvuthondaba (ngaphandle kobunzima)? Uma udokotela wakho enqabe izizathu ezingokwemvelo zomaye wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi akunikeze iphakethe lesilingo le-Viagra futhi akudlulisele ekwelulekeni "ngezinkinga zakho zocansi". Ukucabanga kwezokwelapha ukuthi inkinga yakho ingokwengqondo (ukukhathazeka kokusebenza) kunokusebenza komzimba. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma ungakuthola ukuthola izithombe ezingcolile, impilo yakho ye-penile ilungile.
Ubufakazi obukhulayo iphakamisa ukuthi inkinga impela ekhanda lakho, hhayi ipenisi yakho, kodwa ukuthi ikakhulukazi ngokomzimba. Ngokuqondile, ukunqwabelana ngokweqile kuye kwaveza izinguquko zeplastiki ebuchosheni bakho, okwenza ungaphenduli kahle ezintweni ezijabulisayo-kodwa ungaphenduli kahle kwi-inthanethi ye-porn. Lezi izinguquko ezihlobene nomlutha abizwa ukungafuneki futhi ukuzwela, ngokulandelana. Ngokubambisana, bachaza ukuthi kungani i-porn isebenza futhi ingane yakho eshisayo ingasebenzi.
Ngaphambi kokwesaba, yazi ukuthi lezi zinguquko zengqondo zibonakala ziguquke-kalula kakhulu kumadoda afinyeleleke ngokobulili wangempela ngaphambi I-intanethi ephezulu ifike. Abafana abayeka ukushaya indlwabu kumabhayisikobho ngokuvamile bavuselela ukuphendula kwabo ngesikhathi socansi ngaphakathi kwe-2-8 izinyanga (ngokuvamile emva a ukuhoxiswa okubi nokuphazamisa, okwesikhashana ukungabi khona kwe-libido):
(Ubudala 30, izinyanga ze-4) Ngokombono wokuqalisa kabusha, ngenza okumangazayo! Noma ngasiphi isikhathi lapho senza nentombi yami, siphumelela, njll, ngithola idwala kanzima futhi lihlala njalo. Angikhathazeki nje ngokusebenza kwe-penile.
Uma izinkinga zokusebenza zikuhlupha, thatha lokhu ukuhlolwa okulula. Ingabe izinkinga zakho zibonakala zihlobene nezithombe zocansi? Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufunde kabanzi mayelana noshintsho oluqhubekayo ebuchosheni bakho. Uma kungenjalo, ungase uphethe ngephutha ukuthi uma ungakwazi ukugqumisa izithombe ezingcolile, wena Awunankinga, nokuthi inkinga ilele ekuphuzeni kwakho utshwala noma ekuziphatheni noma ekubukeni komlingani wakho, noma kuphela emizweni yakho yokukhathazeka. Ungachitha izinkulungwane zamaRandi ukwelulekwa ngokomqondo, noma usebenzise izidakamizwa ezibiza kakhulu, futhi ezingasebenzi kangako, zokuqinisa ezocansi — bese usala nenkinga yakho:
Angikaze nginenkinga yokuzikhukhumeza izithombe ezingcolile, kepha lapho kwenzeka into yangempela, ngaqala ukuthatha i-Cialis. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngathatha okungaphezulu, futhi ngisho nangezikhathi lapho bekuyosebenza khona kuphela. WTH? Kodwa ngisengakwazi ukubhekana nobunzima bezocansi.
Kungani uMnu. Happy uyalahla ukushisa?
Ngocansi lwe-intanethi kulula ukudlula ngaphezulu ubuchopho bakho ukuze uthole porn kujabulise ngokwengeziwe. Ukusesha ngakunye, isithombe ngasinye senoveli, ukubuka ngakunye okumangazayo, uhlobo ngalunye olusha, kanye nokuzivuselela ngokocansi konke kukhipha i-dopamine kokukodwa umjikelezo womvuzo. I-Dopamine yi-gas eyenza umjikelezi wokuvuza futhi ulingana nesifiso, ukulangazelela, ukuthanda, nokufuna okuthile ngokukhethekile.
Ngeshwa, izimbangela ezinkulu kakhulu abanye ubuchopho ukuzivikela ngokwabo ukunciphisa ukuzwela kwabo kwi-dopamine, futhi kanjalo nasenjabulweni, isikhashana. Ngokusobala, uma ubuchopho bakho bukwenza lokhu futhi usebenzisa i-porn kaningi futhi kakhulu, ubuchopho bakho abunalo ithuba lokubuyela ekuzweleni okujwayelekile. Ungazithola uchofoza kokuqukethwe okwedlulele ukuvusa isikhungo sakho senjabulo esikhungathekile somvuzo.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ubuchopho bakho buvumelana nalesi simo ngokunciphisa okulinganiselwe ekudaleni i-dopamine. Wena ufuna okungaphezulu, kepha isipiliyoni sinciphisa ukwaneliseka. Lena inqubo yokulutha umuthi ebizwa ngokuthi ukungafuneki. (Bheka Izidakamizwa ezidakayo: 300 Vaginas = I-Dopamine.) Ucwaningo lwakamuva luqinisekisa ukuthi lwenzeka emilonyeni yokuziphatha njengalezi ukugembula, ukudla, ukudlala ividiyo, Futhi Ukulutha kwe-intanethi (okubandakanya ukubheja kwe-cyber eerotica). Lapho ungasenamandla, uthola impendulo ebandayo kukho konke okubizwa ngokuthi "imivuzo yemvelo" -kubandakanya ucansi nezindawo ezishisayo.
Umjikelezo womvuzo wakho yi-barometer ye- “Kujabulisa kangakanani lokhu?” ngakho-ke uma ukusayinda kwe-dopamine (isifiso) kuphansi, ama-erections avilapha. Izinguquko zivela kuphela lapho izibonakaliso ze-dopamine zigeleza ukusuka kumjikelezi wokuvuza kwi-hypothalamus.
Kungani uMnu Happy Happy ethanda i-porn?
Ukube ukungafuneki kwaba yindaba yonke, ama-erections abengaba buthaka noma ngabe isisusa bekuyintombazane, umcabango wakho, noma i-porn. Kepha kusobala ukuthi akuyona yonke indaba, ngoba i-porn isasebenza. Eqinisweni, njengoba uzama ukuyeka ukusebenzisa, umthelela we-porn okwesikhashana ukwanda. Lapha imizila ye-neural eqinisekisiwe Ngena.
Qaphela: Itemu yokulutha iyadida. Ukungahlehlisi Kusho ukudayela okujwayelekile phansi kokuphendula kwakho kuyo yonke injabulo… ushintsho oluyisisekelo. Ukukwazisa ibhekisela ku-hyper-reactivity / injabulo-kodwa kuphela ekuphenduleni izici ezithile ezihlotshaniswa nobuchopho bakho.
Uma lezi zinguquko ezimbili ze-neuroplastiki zingakhuluma, ukungafuneki Ngangikhala, "Angikwazi ukuthola ukwaneliseka" (ukusayinwa okuphansi kwe-dopamine), ngenkathi ukuzwela Ngabe ngikupheka ezimbanjeni ngithi, "Heyi mfowethu, ngikutholile nje okudingayo"… okwenzeka kube yiyo kanye le nto edale ukungafuneki. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, le ndlela esika nhlangothi zombili inemivuzo yakho yokujikeleza izwakala ekusetshenzisweni kocansi, kepha ingaphansi kokuthakazelisa lapho yethulwa ngesivumelwano sangempela.
Ngibuyele ku-porn kanye, futhi noma ngingazange ngime ngokuphelele, angikholwanga ukuqina kokushesha engikutholile lapho ngichofoza kusayithi! Injabulo enamandla kakhulu - ukuhayiza, umlomo owomile, ngisho nokuthuthumela. Ngangingakaze ngizwe lokho kushesha ngoba ngangisencane ekukhuleni futhi ngathola umbono ongalindelekile uphakamise isiketi sentombazane!
Ubuchopho bakho obuphakeme buyakha i-loop yempendulo
Ngakho-ke kuvela kanjani ukuzwela? Ngamazwi alula, ukusondeza kuhilela izindlela ezimbili ezijwayelekile kakhulu zobuchopho ezithathwe kakhulu: amandla esikhathi eside (LTP), okuyi- ukuqinisa ama-synapses, Futhi ukucindezeleka isikhathi eside (LTD), okuwukuncipha kwama-synapses.
Amandla esikhathi eside (LTP) isisekelo ukufunda kanye nenkumbulo. Kungafingqwa ngokuthi “amangqamuzana omzimba afutha ndawonye, ucingo ndawonye.”Izinkumbulo ziphakama ngezinyathelo ezimbili. Okokuqala, amasiginali wakho wesekethe womvuzo wokuthi ulwazi lubalulekile ngokuthumela i-dopamine ku- i-prefrontal cortex (PFC). Ukusebenzisa i-dopamine ngokubaluleke kakhulu ubuchopho bakho buhambisana nesipiliyoni.
Okwesibili, i-PFC iyaphendula kuwe "Lokhu kubalulekile!" isiginali (1) ukunitha ndawonye yonke into ehlotshaniswa nomvuzo, kanye (2) nokwakha iluphu yempendulo ye-neural ebuyela emuva kumjikelezo womvuzo. Ngemuva kwalokho, noma imuphi umcabango, inkumbulo, noma umkhondo ohlotshaniswa nomvuzo othile wenza kusebenze indlela, futhi usethe ukujikeleza kwakho komvuzo i-buzzin '. Kungaba iphunga elihlotshaniswa nejoyinti lakho le-burger olithandayo. Kwi-tomcat kungaba umgodi ocingweni oholele kowesifazane oshisayo. Ngenyoni kungahle kube ukubona umfana ogcwalisa umncedi wezinyoni. Inhloso yokuziphendukela kwemvelo ukukusiza ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi ngubani, yini, kuphi, nini futhi kanjani ngezocansi, ukudla ne-rock 'n' roll.
Okubalulekile, i-loop yempendulo ayisebenzi ku-dopamine. Iyaqhubeka i-glutamate. Womabili la makhemikhali ezinzwa anamandla okwenza kusebenze "Hamba uyithole!" amasiginali kumasekethe wakho womvuzo. I-Glutamate stimulation yingakho i-porn isaqhubeka ishayela ama-chimes akho ngisho nalapho umjikelezi wakho wokuvuza uyeke ukuphendula ku-dopamine nabalingani bangempela. Isiklomelo sesifunda (i-dopamine) → PFC (izinhlangano ezakhiwe) → iluphu yempendulo (i-glutamate) ukuklomelisa umjikelezo.
Ukukwazisa: indalo ye-super-memory
Kuze kube manje, inqubo inqubo yebhizinisi njengenjwayelo. Ukuzwela, noma kunjalo, kuguqula le ndlela ejwayelekile ye-PFC
- Ngokuzwela, izinkumbulo ezicacile (ezinjengamaqiniso nezehlakalo) ziguquka zibe yimikhuba, eyaziwa ngokuthi sobala izinkumbulo. Isibonelo: ukwazi ukugibela ibhayisikili ngaphandle kokucabanga. Izinkumbulo ezisobala ezihlobene nokulutheka zifana nesimo sePavlovian kuma-steroids — okunzima kakhulu ukukuziba. Lapho umuntu ophuza utshwala esanda kudlula edlula endaweni yokucima ukoma, yonke imisindo yokuhleka nephunga likabhiya osezingeni eliphezulu ingabhebhethekisa lesi sifunda esishukumisayo sibe yisiyaluyalu, kususe izifiso ezinamandla… futhi mhlawumbe kuqede konke ukuxazululwa.
- I-LTP iqinisa indlela yokuphendula njengokuthi i-squirt encane ye-glutamate iyikho konke okudingayo ukuze ushise amaseli ezinzwa akhomba ukuthi, “Uthole lokhu manje!” Izindlela ezizwelayo ziyi-a indlela engeyona i-dopamine ngokwenza kusebenze imivuzo-ukujikeleza ama-neurons-eze esihogweni noma emanzini aphezulu. Lesi sici esinyonyobayo sibonakala singumongo wazo zonke izengezo. Ukuminyana kwethrafikhi emgwaqeni omkhulu we-dopamine okugcina ungazizwa ujabulile kusuka ocansini langempela? Ayikho inkinga. Unenye indlela yokufika ekhaya, kepha kuvumela kuphela uhlobo olulodwa lwemoto (ukukhuthaza): IPHorn.
- Ukusetshenziswa okuqhubekayo komlutha wakho kusebenze a wesithathu indlela yokwenza inqubo yokukhuthaza: ukucindezeleka kwesikhathi eside (LTD). Uhlelo lwe-braking system lwangaphakathi lokujikeleza (Gaba) yenza buthakathaka, iqhubeke ikhulise i- “Go for it!” amasiginali we-glutamate. Esikhundleni sokusebenza kobuchopho okujwayelekile, okufana nokushayela kwedolobha lapho uhlola khona ithrafikhi ezayo kuzo zonke izinqamula-mgwaqo, indlela yakho ye-porn ezwiswayo autobahn. Azikho izibani zethrafikhi kanye ne-porn yiyona kuphela i-BMW M-5 emgwaqweni.
I-autopilointo ejwayelekile kimi. Kufana nokuphathwa yidemoni elihlanyiswa yizithombe zocansi, bese kuthi lapho usuqedile, ubuyile uqobo lwakho futhi uzibuze ukuthi kwenzekeni esihogweni nokuthi kungani uchitha nje sonke lesi sikhathi ubuka amavidiyo anyanyekayo.
Inkosi efana nayo ishintshela ubulili / ukudla njengokudakwa kwezidakamizwa
Ukushintshwa kwenkosi okwenza lezi zinguquko ezihlobene nokulutha umlutha yi-protein DeltaFosB. Amazinga aphezulu okusetshenziswa kwe imivuzo yemvelo (sex, ushukela, amafutha amaningi) noma ukulawulwa okungapheli kwanoma imuphi umuthi wokuhlukunyezwa kubangelwa i-DeltaFosB (isici sokubhala) ukuqoqa esikhungweni sokuvuza, esithinta inkulumo yesiginali.
Qaphela ukuthi izidakamizwa eziluthayo zibangelwa ukulutha ngokweqile ngoba zikhulisa noma zivimbela izindlela kakade endaweni yokuthola imivuzo yemvelo. Yingakho i-American Society of Addiction Medicine kusho ngokungaqondile ukuthi ukudla nokulutha kobulili kuyizidakamizwa zangempela.
I-DeltaFosB Inhloso yokuziphendukela kwemvelo ukugqugquzela thina ukuthi "siyithole ngenkathi ukutholwa kulungile!" Kuyindlela yokuzilibazisa ye- ukudla futhi ukukhiqiza kabusha, esebenza kahle kwezinye izikhathi nezimo. Lezi zinsuku kwenza izidakamizwa zibe ukudla okungenamsoco futhi i-Internet ye-porn kulula njenge-1-2-3.
Akukona nje kuphela ukuqala ukulutha, kepha kuyasiza ekulondolozeni isikhathi eside. Eqinisweni, ixhomeke cishe inyanga noma amabili ngemuva kokuyeka ukusebenza, okwenza uphinde ubuyeke. Ngetulu kwaloko, emigwaqweni yekutfutfukisa emtsetfweni leyenta kutsi kube khona sikhatsi lesingaziwa. Ngamafuphi, izingcaphuno zobulili ezingcolile zingase zikufake isikhathi eside.
Umlutha we-neuroplasticity ungafingqwa kanje: ukusetshenziswa okuqhubekayo → DeltaFosB → ukuvuselelwa kwezakhi zofuzo → izinguquko ku-synapses → ukugqugquzela nokunciphisa amandla. (Bheka Ubuchopho Obumlutha ukuze uthole imininingwane eyengeziwe.) Kubonakala lokho ukuphelelwa amandla kwemizwa ekugcineni kuholele ekulahlekelweni kokulawula okuphezulu (ukungazenzisi), esinye isici esiyinhloko semilutha.
Izindlela ezizwelayo kanye nokuhoxa…ugh
Ake sithi uthatha isinqumo sokwenza umhlatshelo omkhulu futhi uyeke ukusebenzisa i-porn. Cishe uzozizwa ubolile isikhashana. Khumbula, ubuchopho bakho ekuqaleni babona ukusetshenziswa kwakho kwe-porn esindayo njenge-bonanza yofuzo. Bekucabanga ukuthi wenza izingane nge-ejaculation ngayinye. Kubeke phansi izinkumbulo ezinhle kakhulu kanjalo nawe ngeke shiya ubhontshisi wakho "obalulekile" wobuhle (noma noma yini owawufinyelela kuvuthondaba lakho).
Manje, njengoba ulahla ubuchopho bakho ngokuyeka, usuvele usuvele amaconsi aphansi e-dopamine okuqhubekayo. Futhi, i-libido-ecelching the brain stress stress I-CRF ne-norepinephrine dubula phezulu. Ukwehla kwesifiso sakho kungokweqile, ngakho-ke umlingani wangempela akabeki ethubeni. Akumangalisi ukuthi iningi labafana libhekana nalokhu izimpawu zokuhoxa ezinzima. Bayazizwa Ngaphansi injabulo kunanini ngaphambili ekuphenduleni imizwa evamile, umuzwa Okuningi ukukhathazeka, futhi ezama ukuyeka into eyodwa engakwazi ukuvuza umjikelezo wabo wesifunda. Kunezizathu eziqinile zokuthi izidakamizwa zinzima kakhulu ukushaya.
Okubi kakhulu, ngesikhathi sokudakwa izindlela ezikhuthazwa "zokuhamba" khula ngamandla. Kunjengokungathi isikhungo sakho senjabulo sikhala ngenjongo yokukhuthaza ... kepha umlutha kuphela ongaluzwa ucingo. Amagatsha (ama-dendrites) kumaseli ezinzwa acubungula amasiginali womvuzo ube "i-super spiny." Lokhu kukhuphuka kwama-nub amancane kuvumela ukuxhumeka okungaphezulu kwe-synaptic nokuthakazelisa okukhulu. Kufana nokukhulisa izindlebe ezine ezingeziwe ngenkathi ubhajwe ekhonsathini ethi "Spinal Tap". Lapho izinkomba noma imicabango (i-glutamate) isetha isifunda sakho somvuzo, isikali sokulangazelela sishaya ishumi nanye.
Ngithola ukuthi izithombe ezingahleliwe ezikhangisweni nasezintweni zisusa izifiso. Noma amamodeli agqoke ngokuphelele, ngifuna ukuvumela.
Ngesikhathi sokululama, kulula ukwenza iphutha ngendlela evuselelwe yokusebenza ye-libido yangempela. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma uhlangabezana nokuguquguquka okujwayelekile ukwehla kwe-libido ngesikhathi esithile ekululameni kwakho. Ngalesi sigaba se- "flatline", isithombe se-porn singahle sikudubule, futhi sibangele ukwakhiwa okuhle. Lokhu kungakukhohlisa ukuthi ucabange ukuthi i-porn iyona ukwelapha ngenxa ye-libido yakho evilaphayo. Ukwelashwa kwangempela ukulindela ngesineke izakhiwo ebuchosheni bakho ukuze ubambe isiqondiso sakho esisha. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, zonke ezinye izinkinga, kuhlanganise nomlingani wakho, zivusa kancane.
Ezinyangeni ezimbili ngilulame ngabona uhlaka olulula lwembongolo engenalutho esiteshini se-movie yabantu abadala. Ngokweqiniso kunkulunkulu, kwaba sengathi ngijovwe uhlobo oluthile lwesidakamizwa. Ngaze ngaqhanyelwa kakhulu umthondo nasemqondweni, ngawubuyisela. Nangempela ngagijima ngaya phezulu ngixubha amazinyo. Ukube ngahlala phansi, ngabe ngibuyele ku-100%. Ngezwa ingxenye ethile yami ihamba, “WHY THE HELL MAN? BUYELA PHANSI!!!!!!!!!”. Ngangiqhaqhazela ngihefuzela. Ngemva kwemizuzu engu-8 yokuxubha amazinyo ngingayeki, ngase ngibuyele esimeni esijwayelekile.
Ukubuyisela emuva kuphenduka izindlela ezizwelayo zibe ama-tiger wephepha
Naphezu kwamandla abo amakhulu, izindlela zokunakekelwa ekugcineni zilahlekelwa yibo uma ubuchopho bakho bubuyela ezijabulweni ezivamile futhi zansuku zonke ziyanelisa kakhulu. Ukuqala izinkanyezi ngamaphikseli kuqala ukubhalisa njengento yokuzivocavoca okungenalutho, futhi ekugcineni ubuchopho buvumela izindlela ezikhuthazwayo ukuba buthakathaka ngesikhathi esifanayo kuqinisa izindlela ezihlobene neminye imivuzo ethembisayo (njengabalingani bangempela).
Lapha, abafana bachaza ukuthi lolu shicilelo luyathanda yini. Khumbula ukuthi iningi labo liye labhekana nesigaba sokukhishwa kanzima nenyanga (noma izinyanga ezimbalwa) zokugwema ukucabangela ucansi / ukushaya indlwabu.
- Esikhathini esedlule bengingathola izifiso ezijulile zocansi ukubuka izigcawu ezicace ngokweqile, ezinzima. Kepha manje lezo zinhlobo zezifiso ziyancipha. Angisalwi ngokuvakashela isayithi lezithombe zocansi - kepha sengifuna ukubona owesimame omangalisayo, onamathoni, oshisayo… noma egqoke izingubo. Kufana nokuthi ngibuyela esimeni ngaphambi kokuqina - lapho izinkomba zocansi ezicashile zingangijabulisa. Lokhu kuhle futhi kujabulisa! Ngiyakhumbula lapho ngishiya iziphuzo ezinoshukela eminyakeni edlule - ngangivame ukuphuza iziphuzo ze-cola ezi-5 noma ngaphezulu ngosuku. Angikaze ngicabange ukuthi ngiyisigqila kodwa lapho ngibayeka ngangifuna i-coke kabi njalo ekudleni. Ukuba namanzi nje kuzwakala kungajwayelekile. Kepha ngemuva kokunamathela kuyo cishe izinyanga ze-2 ngase ngiyidlulise ngokuphelele. Ngisho noma iziphi izifiso. Ngake ngaba ne-coke kusukela lapho, futhi angizange ngiyithande ngempela - ngithole ukuthi empeleni ngithanda amanzi.
- Phakathi nokuphakama kokulutha kwami kocansi, angikaze ngibheke phambili kunoma yini enkulu: ngesaba ukuya emsebenzini, futhi angikaze ngibone ukuzijabulisa nabangane nomndeni njengakho konke lokho okuhle, ikakhulukazi uma kuqhathaniswa nemikhuba yami yezocansi, okwanginika injabulo enkulu nokukhuthaza kunanoma yini enye. Njengoba ukulutha kungasekho, izinto ezincane zingenza ngijabule ngempela. Ngizithola ngihleka kaningi, ngimomotheka ngaphandle kwesizathu sangempela, futhi ngimane ngibe nomoya omuhle nxazonke. Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngingenathemba, kodwa empeleni ngangimane nje ngingumlutha. Namuhla, ukulungiswa okuzenzakalelayo kudlule imizuzu engama-25. Angizange ngizizwe nginesifiso sokushaya indlwabu. Ngimane ngilale lapho futhi ngijabulele ukuzwa, futhi ngicabange ukuthi ngizofika kude kangakanani.
- Ngitholile njengoba ngithuthuka, amaphupho ami agxila kakhulu ocansini futhi angaphezulu kwe-surreal, esikhundleni sokuzibona ngishaya inkawu phambi kwekhompyutha yami. Futhi, ngizizwa ngifana nokushaya indlwabu lapho ngibona intombazane ekhangayo lapho ngiphumile — esikhundleni sokuzwa sengathi ngibuka izithombe ezingcolile. Ngaphambilini, angikaze ngizizwe sengathi "ngishaya indlwabu nje." Ngangihlala ngifuna i-porn.
- Ngisaqhubeka nokuthola ama-pornbacks: izinkanyezi ezingcolile noma izingxenye zezigcawu. Ekuqaleni kokuqalisa kabusha kwami, amasonto ambalwa okuqala, lawa ma-flashbacks angenza ngicabange ngokuqinile ngokushaya indlwabu noma ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile. Manje, lapho ngizithola, angizizwa nginesifiso sokwenza lezo zinto. Ngithola ukushesha okuncane ngokubona lezo zithombe ekhanda lami, kepha lokho kumayelana nakho. Ngiyakwazi ukuzisusa zisheshe futhi ngaphandle kwemiphumela. Amandla abo ayancipha.
- Izithombe nezinkumbulo ziyafa: Ngibonile inani lezithombe ezivela kubantu abathi abakwazi ukukhohlwa ezinye zezinto abazibonayo. Ngingasho lokho kusuka kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami, yebo, ezinye zazo ngeke ziphele ngokuphelele. Kodwa iningi lizokwenza. Ngine-stash ye-300GB futhi nginezikhathi lapho ngizochofoza khona isiphequluli Vala inkinobho bese ubona umlayezo othi "Unamathebhu we-130 avulekile. Uqinisekile ukuthi ufuna ukuvala iwindi? ". Angikhumbuli i-95% yalokho engikubonile. Kodwa, ngiyakhumbula i-5% futhi lokho kungaba okuningi kwabanye. Nansi into, ayinandaba manje. Ngikhumbula imininingwane ethile, futhi ngiyicime. Lezo zithombe azibambe kimi njengoba ngigcine ngishiyile amahloni, ukucindezelwa ngokocansi nokungazi lutho, okungaqondakali okwakungangenza ngibuyele emuva.
- Esikhathini esedlule ngibonile ubuhle, kunjalo, kepha angikaze ngifise UKUTHANDA ukuba nentombazane. Ngiqondise yonke i-sex drive yami kwezocansi. Yonke into yezocansi kimi yayiyi-porn. Angikaze ngicabange ngami, lo mfana onale d * ck, enza ucansi lwangempela nentombazane yangempela. Manje, ngizizwa sengathi ucansi yinto engokwemvelo kakhulu yokwenza. “Isihogo yebo kungenzeka ukuthi ngiye ocansini. Esihogweni yebo kunamantombazane amaningi laphaya afuna ukuba nami! ” Ngokungazelelwe, imicabango yokuzinqobisa ibonakala iwubuwula futhi ichitha isikhathi. Ekugcineni ngizwa ukuthi iningi labesilisa lizizwa kanjani. Futhi kuhle.
- Ekugcineni nginqume ukushaya indlwabu kwezinye izithombe ezingcolile. Into eyodwa yayixakile: Ngangibonakala ngingajabuli okufanayo ne-porn njengoba ngikhumbula. Ngisho nokuthola izigcawu eziyizintandokazi bekubonakala kungalethi. I-Porn yayiyisicefe ngandlela thile. Noma bekungekho "okuhle" njengoba ngikukhumbule, bengisadonsekela emuva kukho. Njengoba i-porn yayingacishe ibe nkulu njengoba ngangikhumbula, ukubuyela emuva kuzoba lula.
- Ngesikhathi sokuqala lapho ngiqala ukushaya indlwabu futhi, ngezwa ubuchopho bami bufuna izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Lokhu kuzoba nzima ukukuchaza… kwakukhona indawo ebuchosheni bami lapho i-junk porn yahamba khona (izinkumbulo, izifiso, njll). Lapho ngiphika izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ngezwa ngokoqobo ukuwa noma umuzwa ongenalutho kuleyo ngxenye yobuchopho bami. Njengokuthi nje kwakungasekho futhi ubuchopho bami bakuqonda. Kwakungathi lapho ushaya izandla zakho. Ingqondo yami yayilindele okuthile phakathi kwezandla, kepha yabe seyibona ukuthi akukho lutho phakathi ngaphandle komoya.
- Ngakho-ke ngilapha, izinsuku ezingama-75 ekuqaliseni kwami kabusha futhi ngizizwa ngimuhle. Kubukeka kungokwemvelo, manje, ukungafuni i-porn noma ukushaya indlwabu. Ngenkathi ngisesitolo sezidakamizwa ngathenga umagazini okhuluma ngokuhudula umjaho, ngendlela owawuyiyo kuma-60s naku-70s. Kwakunendatshana emayelana nomjaho wokuhudula futhi yayiveza, ngokugqamile, izithombe zentombi yakhe ethanda ukuphithizela. Ngikhumbula ngibona izithombe ezifanayo ngenkathi zishicilelwa okokuqala, emuva ekuqaleni kweminyaka yama-70s. Emuva ngaleso sikhathi babeshaya impahla, kulobubusuku angizange ngizwe ukujabula nhlobo. Ngicabanga ukuthi ekugcineni ngifunde ukubheka owesifazane ngaphandle kokumenza umuntu futhi ngivumele imicabango yami iqonde emseleni. Wayengowesifazane omuhle, ngokungangabazeki ngalokho, kodwa ungelinye nje ilungu lomndeni wesintu.
- Kwakuvame ukuthi ngangizizwa ngine-twinge yobubi lapho kufika umcabango wokubuka izithombe ezingcolile. Kwakungathi ngintshontsha okuthile. . . Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi empeleni kwakuwumuzwa wenjabulo owaqala ngaleyo twinge. Kwakuyisifunda esifushane sezifiso zami ezijwayelekile. Noma kunjalo, lelo twinge libukeka selinciphile. Ukukwazi ukusho lokho kungenza ngizizwe ngimuhle. Angiphumi ehlathini, kepha ngingcono kunanini ngaphambili empilweni yami, ngijabule kakhulu.
- Izikhathi ezimbalwa engizibonise kuzo izinto eziseduze-ezingcolile, ezinyangeni zokugcina ze-18, ngangivame ukusabela ngokuqinile (ekuqaleni). Ngicabanga ukuthi mhlawumbe kuyinto evikelayo, ngokuqondene nokuphuza ngokweqile okuwukuphela kokufa ekuphuzeni futhi uzobiza umuntu ukuba aphuze ngisho noma lowo muntu engenayo ngempela inkinga. Ukusabela kwami ezintweni ezinjalo kuyaba okuvamile kule ndawo. Ngangifuna okuthile ku-porno futhi angisenjalo. IMHO, lapho sifisa ukuya ocansini empeleni kungukuxhumana ngokomzwelo esikufisayo. Ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyachaza, i-BTW, kungani izilwane ziya enkingeni yokufuna umngane womshado esikhundleni sokuzivuselela ngokwazo. Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngisho endaweni yezilwane kunengxenye engokomzwelo yokuzalela, yize iyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho eyenzelwe abantu.
- Isihluthulelo sokuqonda kwami le nkinga kulapho ngabona khona ukuthi angifuni ubulili obungenanjongo. [Indoda efanayo ngonyaka olandelayo] Ngihlala ngimangazwa indlela lokhu okwenzeke ngayo. Bengingathumeli izinkundla kamuva nje futhi ngizizwa sengathi ngiqhubekile nempilo yami manje. Angisho ukuthi ngivikelekile, lokho kungaba yinto ewubuwula ukuphetha, kepha ngifinyelele lapho ngingazizwa nginesilingo sokushaya indlwabu nokuheha izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nakho sekuphelile. Lokho kungaba yinto emangalisa kakhulu, kubonakala sengathi i-porn ilahlekelwe amandla phezu kwami. Yonke impilo yami, kuze kube yiminyaka emibili edlule, i-porn ingaba nomthelela omkhulu kimi. Ukuhlala nje ethembeni lokubona izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungangifaka esimweni esiguquliwe. Akusenamandla lawo. Kungumsebenzi oshintshayo engiwuthola umangalisa.
- Kufana nokuthi nginokusabela okuhluke ngokuphelele kukho. Akungithandi, angikutholi kuyinto efiselekayo, ithemba lokubuka izithombe ezingcolile libukeka lingathandeki ngokuphelele. Kufana nalokhu; impilo yami yonke ngangibheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi kwakunganele. Manje angibheki i-porn nhlobo futhi ingaphezu kokwanele. Noma ngabe yini ebengiyifuna ku-porn angisayifuni.
Ngamafuphi, ama-cues angase avuselele umuzwa onamandla ukulindela. Kodwa-ke njengoba usabela kakhudlwana ezinjabulweni zangempela, ukushaya indlwabu kumaphikseli kubonakala kungabi nalutho futhi kungagcwalisi. Vele, uma ubuyela ekusebenziseni i-porn okukhethekile, uvutha inqubo yokukhuthaza futhi. Ngamanye amagama, ukuvuselelwa komsebenzi wezocansi akukuvikeleli ekudluleleni okuzayo.
Yimuphi umcimbi oye waqeqesha?
Ngokudabukisayo, abafana abancane abafika esizeni sethu benokukhubazeka ngokocansi okubangelwa ucansi kaningi banesikhathi esinzima kunazo zonke ukuvuselela ubuchopho babo (bona - Abasebenzisi abasha abasha abadinga usizo olude ukuze babuyisele uMojo wabo). Nasi isimo esijwayelekile:
Lapho ngilahlekelwa ubuntombi bami empeleni kwakungazizwa kuhle. Ngangithukuthele empeleni. Ngilahlekelwa ukulungiswa ngemuva kwamaminithi ayishumi. Wayefuna ubulili obuningi, kepha ngase ngikwenzile. Ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho ngizama ukulala nowesifazane kwakuyinhlekelele. Ngangiqala ukulungiswa, kodwa ngilahlekelwa ngaphambi kokuba ngingene. Ukusetshenziswa kwekhondomu kwakungaphandle kombuzo-hhayi ukulungiswa okwanele.
Imvamisa abafana abanjengaye baqala ngokusetshenziswa kocansi olunzima kwe-Intanethi eneminyaka eyi-11 noma kunjalo, futhi akazange azame ukulala nomlingani wakhe eminye iminyaka eyishumi. Bafake izintambo ku-octane uphethiloli ophakeme kakhulu ngendlela yezithombe ezingcolile zobulili ze-inthanethi, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ubuchopho obubekwe emuva amanye amasekethe abo “okukhwelana” angasetshenziswanga njengoba befika ebudaleni.
Sekuyisikhathi ngemuva kokuba bashintshele kumlingani wangempela (uphethiloli ovamile), baqhubekile futhi bavame ukuphuma ngaphandle. Abanye kufanele benze umzamo ohlanganyelwe wokuchitha isikhathi esiseduze nabangashadile abashadile, futhi ube nesineke njengoba ubuchopho babo bubamba isiqondiso sabo esisha. Ngezinye izikhathi badinga izinyanga ezingu-4 noma ngaphezulu ukuba baphendule ngokuvamile kubalingani abangaba khona. A cuddle buddy kusiza.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, abafana abafakela izintambo kwabashade nabo bangempela ngaphambi kwe-Internet esinejubane banazo lezo "izindlela zomlingani wangempela" ezithuthukisiwe. Iningi alizibonanga izinkinga zokusebenza kuze kube yilapho zikhungathekisa izingqondo zazo ukuvuselela okwenziwa nge-broadband. Lapho beka izithombe ezingcolile, umjikelezo wabo wesifundazwe uvuselela emuva. Abalingani abangenzekayo baqale ukuqala ukushisa futhi. Iningi ludinga izinyanga ezimbili, kepha umnyaka owodwa we-50 ubike ukuthi ngemuva kweminyaka emithathu yokuhlukumezeka okuhlobene ne-porn erectile, kwakudingeka kuphela i-8 izinsuku ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile ukuze zibuyele esikhwameni.
Uma i-porn ukuphela kwendlela ongafinyelela ngayo umvuthwandaba, kusho ukuthi uthinte ubuchopho bakho kulokho okungafanele. Akukona ukuthi ukugigitheka kwangempela nama-wiggles akukuthandi. Kunjalo. Kepha ngenkathi isekethe lakho lomvuzo likhona unqatshelwe ezinjabulweni ezijwayelekile, impendulo yakho yezinga lamathumbu (empeleni, izinga lobuchopho) kwabalingani abangaba khona ngokweqiniso…mina. Isizathu kuphela sokuthi izimpawu zobulili ezingcolile zisawenza lo msebenzi yingoba udale i-neural sledgehammer enamandla ngokwanele ukukhuphuka kumjikelezo wakho womvuzo oshonile — okungenani ngenkathi empeleni ubuka i-porn.
Ubulili beqiniso budlala ngothando, ukuthinta, ukuthinteka, ukuhogela, ama-pheromones, ukuxhuma nokuxhumana nomuntu. I-porn ye-intanethi yi-2D voyeurism, ngokuchofoza igundane, ukusesha, amathebhu amaningi, ukuhlukaniswa, isenzo esivamile, i-harem, nokuxhumana kuphela ngesandla sakho.
Ukuze usebenzise isifaniso sezemidlalo, ubuphi ubuchopho obukade uqeqeshelwa bona? Uma ufuna ukudubula ama-hoops njengochwepheshe, awusebenzisi isikhathi sakho ushova iklabhu yegalufu. Ingabe iminyaka eminingi yokusebenzisa i-intanethi ye-intanethi idale ukungafani phakathi kwalokho okulindelwe ubuchopho bakho nokuthi kwenzekani empeleni ngesikhathi sokuqoma kwangempela? Isikhathi se-rewire.
- Umyeni wami wayenomlutha kakhulu wezocansi wayengakwazi ukuya ocansini empilweni yangempela
- Ukufaka okuningi? nguRobert Taibbi, uLCSW
- Ukukhubazeka ngokocansi: Inani elikhulayo lokusebenzisa kabi i-Porn
- "Umlutha we-Viagra: Kufanele babe sezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu, kepha inani elikhulayo lezinsizwa alikwazi ukubhekana ngaphandle kwalawo maphilisi amancane aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka"
- Ingabe I-Porn Igalela ED? nguTyger Latham, i-Psy.D. kuTherapy Matters
- Udokotela waseMiddleburry College ubona ukwanda kwe-ED - kusolwa i-porn
- Akayena Lokho Kunoma ubani, Ngu-Davy Rothbart
- Yiziphi izazi ezitshela abafana abahluphekayo kusuka ED
- Inkulumo ye-TEDX mayelana ne-ED eyenziwe ngocansi nokubuyisa ubulili bakho: "Ungaba Kanjani UNkulunkulu Wocansi" nguGregor Schmidinger
ISIFUNDO: Indima Ye-Dopamine Ngokubaluleka-Okusekelwe Ekuqapheliseni Ukuma (2016) Lolu cwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi izinkomba ezake zahlotshaniswa "nomvuzo" ziyaqhubeka nokuthola ukunakwa okuningi kobuchopho kunezinto ezingekho - ngisho "ngokungabi khona komvuzo okucacile." Abaphenyi bangeze bathi, "Lokhu okutholakele kuphinde kukhanyise nesisekelo semithambo yegazi yokuthambekela komuntu ekubanjweni okubanjelwe enanini, okwaziwa ukuthi kudlala indima ekuluthweni."
OKUSHA: Ubuchopho obusakhulayo buhambisana ne-Porn Highspeed Inthanethi (isigamu sehora-nesethulo ngesimo socansi kanye nengqondo yobudala)
Amazwana afinyelele esinye isithangami
Sizwa lokhu okuningi
Ukuboniswa kwemvelo kubonakala kuguqula ngokwakho kusukela ekuthandeni okutholakala kakhulu, njengoba ilungu lesigungu libike:
Amazwana avela ku-Psychology Today
Ongaziwa ubeke amazwana ku: "I-Sky Awuwi"
ukuphawula okuvela ku-Reddit okuchaza ngokucacile ukuzwela
Intambo - Umlutha Weqiniso.
Kusuka ku-reddit.com
I-pmo / ed yami yayimbi kakhulu ngacabanga ukuthi ngiyi-asexual iminyaka eminingana
Uma ngiphuza kakhulu, angifuni ukuya ocansini
izinto eziyinqaba zenzeka
kusuka ku-reddit nofap -
Noma ubani othola i-P ye-PMO
Ngineminyaka engu-30 ngakho-ke nami ngisesigabeni esidala
Usuku 28 - Usuku oluhle
inkungu iye yaphakamisa.
Izamile ukukhula ngaphandle kwezithombe zocansi… ngokucindezela ngendlela emangalisayo. izimbangela,
uhlobo olusezingeni eliphansi lobulili langempela yilokhu okuye kwangiphindela emuva
Ubulili bangempela abuzange buhambisane nokuhlangenwe nakho kwami njengomfana we-porn
Angikwazi ukujabulela ukuya ocansini nomkami ngoba ingqondo yami igcwala amanzi
Ukuqala Ngaphezu Nokuyeka
incazelo enhle yokukhuthaza
Imiphumela emibi kakhulu yakho
I-orgasm evamile ayifanele?
Ngicabanga ukuthi yingxenye yesithombe esikhulu esikhulwini sethu.
Ngingowesilisa oneminyaka engama-24 ubudala lokho
Nokufanayo lapha
Ngiliqonda kahle udaba lwakho, futhi lubukeka lufana nolwami… Ngikufisela inhlanhla!
Ngifuna isikhumbuzo sokuphila kwami kuqhathaniswa nokuqala kabusha
I-GUY 2)
Awukwazi ukuqeda ukulala nami, kufanele abanjwe ukufa
Awukwazi ukuqeda ukulala nami, kufanele abanjwe ukufa
Fapism
Mayelana ne-ED yakho ..
Umfazi onesizungu udinga amathiphu ekukhohliseni umyeni wakhe osondelene-phobic
Nginentombi eneminyaka emibili ebhema ishisa futhi ihlakaniphile
chofoza kude nefantasy yakho enkulu kunazo zonke.
ngoba ngifakele ubuchopho bami ukuthanda i-porn ngaphezu kocansi lwangempela
Lapho isihogo wonke umuntu ekhangayo kangaka?
nanoma ubani omunye ukuthola ukuthi banesisindo esiphakeme sezocansi
Awunasithakazelo sokulala naye
Ngesonto elilodwa, ngiqiniseka ngaphezu kwakho konke enginenkinga.
Ubuchopho bami bukhetha i-PMO ukuya ocansini langempela. | Sengiqedile nge-porn.
Kungcono ukuthi fap abe nezocansi, ubuqili kodwa kuyiqiniso
Izithombe ezingcolile zimbi: yisibonelo esifushane sokuthi i-porn ishicilelwe kanjani
Manje ngiyakwazi ukulala nobulili nabesifazane (akukho ed de noma pe)
Umuntu ongaziwa ubeke amazwana ku:
Ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile kwalesi sizukulwane kwe-inthanethi ye-porn kuyangethusa.
Ukukhathazeka okukhulu nokuqaphela ukulutha
I-PIED ijwayelekile phakathi kwama-gay abasha?
I-Porn iphazamise umbono wami wabesifazane bangempela
i-spurspackizinsuku 81
Ngikisela amaforamu okuvakashela
futhi ubuze leyo mibuzo - bheka ngaphansi kwethebhu yokusekela ukuthola izinkundla ezisebenzayo.
Ubulili ne-porn bukhulu kakhulu i-orgasm
ukuthi u-PMO wami we-bf wangazi kanjani wangifaka endaweni emnyama… futhi kungani
ukulungiswa okwengeziwe kwe-Pavlovian?
Umfana uchaza ukuthi uzizwa kanjani uma ukukhuthaza kuqhubeka:
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zithinta unembeza wami: Albeit kakhulu kancane. Izinkumbulo ngezigcawu engizithandayo zisekhona, kepha angicabangi ngazo njalo. Ithonya labo elinamandla kimi selinciphile. Izithombe zabesifazane bempilo yangempela engizifisayo zithathe indawo yalezi zigcawu (hhayi ngendlela "engcolile," kodwa ngendlela yemvelo nenhle). Ngempela kufana nezwi eliya ngokuqhela.
Ubudala 26 - ED cishe buhambile, ngingumuntu ojabule kakhulu futhi ozethembayo
Ngabe ubulili bangempela buzoba ngcono kunani?
Noma ubani omunye uqaphele ukuthi wabo
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2pxkna/anyone_else/
I-Porn yenza ubone ukusondelana njengento oyibhekayo, kunokuba
I-Porn yenza ubone ukusondelana njengento oyibhekayo, kunokuba into oyithandayo.
I-Porn yenza umsebenzi omkhulu ekukuphazamiseni kusuka ekungenakwenzeka