Ucwaningo lukaKinsey / iTrojan kuma-vibrator luyekile umbuzo ophezulu wabathandi
Ukuhlola ngokocansi kuwumqondo omuhle, kodwa kudingeka sizethembe ngokweqile nathi ngokucwaninga imiphumela yaso, hleze singabheki izimpawu zokudlula.
Eminyakeni embalwa edlule, ngabhala Ama-vibrator nezinye izinjabulo: Lapho 'Ukulinganisela' Kwehluleka. Kubandakanya ukuzibika kwakho ngabesifazane okusetshenziswa isidlidlizi okwakwenza kube nzima kakhulu (noma kungenzeki) ukuvuthwa ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini nocansi ngaphandle kwamathoyizi. Muva nje, ngibheke amakhulu we okuthunyelwe ngabesifazane on a forum lapho izinkulungwane zabantu zizama ukunciphisa ngokweqile (ekubukeni kwabo) ukushaya indlwabu-ngokuvamile ku-intanethi ye-intanethi kodwa ngezinye izikhathi zisebenzisa ezinye izinsiza zobulili.
Isimo esifanayo siyavela phakathi kwalaba besifazane. Ucansi lwangempela, ngisho nokuthandana, kulahlekelwa yizimo ezimbaxa zamathoyizi e-inthanethi namathoyizi ocansi-futhi abanye besifazane abajabuli ngenkambo eqonde ngqo eyedwa impilo yabo yezocansi abayithathile:
Owesifazane wokuqala: “Inkinga yami enkulu bekuwukusebenzisa i-vibration ukwehla futhi konakalisa ukuzwela kwami. Ngalahla isidlidlizi sami ngokuphelele. Ngeshwa bekufanele ngilahle konke okusendlini okudlidlizelayo ngoba bengilokhu ngizama ukuthola umuntu ozongena esikhundleni sakhe. Ithuluzi lokuhlanza ubuso le-Goodbye Sonic-Care. Ubulili bungcono kakhulu. Akunambuzo. Ingquza yami ibifile kunoma yini engasebenzisi ibhethri. ”
Owesifazane wesibili: “Ngiyethemba ukuthi isipelingi esomile sizongenza ngibe nentshisekelo yokuthandana. Abesifazane abaneminyaka engu-18 akufanele bavalelwe emakamelweni abo abanezithombe zocansi namathoyizi. Ngingathanda ukuthola iziqu esikoleni esiphakeme ngesandla esomile. ”
Owesithathu owesifazane: "Ngiyafunda hentai kancane futhi ushaya indlwabu cishe nsuku zonke. Ngidinga ukuyeka. Ngiphelelwe ubuzwela ku-clitoris yami kusixuni sami. ”
Ukungqubuzana kwesithakazelo nokunciphisa umbuzo obalulekile
Ukufuna ukwazi ngalolu cwaningo kule ndawo, ngangiqondiswa kulolu cwaningo yi-Kinsey Institute: Ukuqhathaniswa Nezici Zokusetshenziswa KwamaVibrator Abesifazane E-United States: Imiphumela evela Esifundweni Sezimele Esizweni. Ngemuva kokuvota ngaphezu kwabesifazane abayi-1000, abacwaningi baphethe ngokuthi iningi labasebenzisi besidlidlizi “alitholanga imiphumela emibi ngokusetshenziswa kwesidlidlizi,” nokuthi “ukusetshenziswa kwesidlidlizi kuwumsebenzi ophephile.” [Kuyamangaza ukuthi lesi sixhumanisi nabanye kuleli khasi baqondiswe kabusha noma basuswa ngemuva kokuthi le ndatshana ithunyelwe. Hmmm…]
Ngihlatshwe yizinto ezimbili mayelana nalolu cwaningo lwesidlidlizi… um… ukunikela kwesayensi. Okokuqala, ixhaswe kuphela iThrojani, inkampani eneqembu lonke elizinikezele ekuthengiseni izidakamizwa. Nakhu Ikhasi lewebhu leTrojan esho lokhu “okungakaze kube khona, okubanzi Isidlidlizi Isifundo.” Ukungqubuzana okukhulu kwezintshisekelo lapho, bantu!
Okwesibili, kwakungeyona into ephelele. Yehlulekile ukubuza umbuzo wesithakazelo esikhulu kubathandi: Ingabe ukusetshenziswa kwe-vibrator kwenza ubulili obungenasithakazelo nomngane ongathandeki mnandi? Abacwaningi ngokwabo bavuma, futhi behluleka, lokhu kukhishwa okushiwo:
Njengoba kunikezwa inkolelo engokomlando yokuthi ukusetshenziswa kwe-vibrator kungase kuqhubekise abesifazane ezindleleni ezithile zokuphendula ngokocansi (okungukuthi, ukubhekana ne-orgasm kalula nangomdlandla futhi okungenani nomlingani wakho), ucwaningo lwesikhathi esizayo kufanele lucabangele ukuhlola ukuthi izinga labesifazane labesifazane liba khona kanjani-noma, ngaphandle kwalokho, okuthuthukisiwe-ngokuphathelene nokusetshenziswa kwesidlidliza.
Phawula ukuthi wona kanye umcabango wezinkinga ezibangelwa amathoyizi ezocansi phakathi kocansi oluhlukanisiwe olwehlukanisiwe unciphisiwe waba “inkolelo nje” yomlando. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abafundi kungenzeka bangaboni ukuthi abacwaningi bebengakaze babuze lo mbuzo obalulekile ngale "nkolelo yomlando" ngaphandle kokuthi bafunde kuze kube sekupheleni kocwaningo, ngoba isifundo wenza buza mayelana nesimangalo sangasese (kanye nokucasula, ubuhlungu, izinyembezi nokusikeka, nokuvuvukala).
Ngakho-ke, umfundi ojwayelekile angahle acabange ukuthi ukwehla kokuphendula ngesikhathi socansi bekukhulunywe ngakho esigabeni esithi "numbness". Akunjalo.
Yize abacwaningi behlulekile ukungenela embuzweni oyinhloko ophenyweni lwabo olwenziwe ngobuciko, "ukuba ndikindiki" bekuseyimiphumela emibi kakhulu ebikiwe yokusetshenziswa kwesidlidlizi. Eqinisweni, i-16.5% yabasebenzisi ethusayo ibike ukuba ndikindiki njengomphumela oseceleni wokusetshenziswa kwesidlidlizi.
Ngakho, enza Ukusebenzisa isidlidlizi kuphazamisa ukuphendula ngokocansi?
Akekho owaziyo okwamanje. Ngaphansi kwezimo, mhlawumbe kufanele sikholele ngokucophelela ama-akhawunti anecdotal yabesifazane abamele baphoqe izidakamizwa zabo ukuze babuyele ekuphenduleni okujwayelekile ngokocansi.
Kukhona nezinye izimpawu ezimbi, futhi. Nini abacwaningi baphenywa nge-19 Abasebenzisi be-vibrator abasha, “Abesifazane bakhulume lukhulu ngoshintsho ekuphenduleni kwabo nasekuvuseleleni i-orgasmic lapho beqala ukusebenzisa isidlidlizi. … Ngokuphawulekile, abesifazane abayisishiyagalombili basho ngqo ukuthi babekhathazekile ngokuncika kusixukuzi. … Abesifazane abathathu kuphela abakhulume ngqo ngezimpilo zabo zobulili obuhlukanisiwe ezithuthukiswa isidlidlizi. ”
Ngenhlanhla, njengabaningi banamuhla abasebenzisi besilisa abasha be-porn, abesifazane, futhi, babika ukuthi i-Inthanethi-i-porn eyabangela ukushaya indlwabu ukunciphisa ukuphendula kwabo ngokocansi ngesikhathi sokuhlangana okuhlangene (ngethemba ngesikhashana kuphela). Impendulo enenkani enomdla ebuchosheni ingaba yinto engafaneleki futhi ikhubaza njengoba kuphele ukuguga kwezinzwa.
Ngesinye isikhathi, kusukela ucwaningo lwe-Kinsey vibrator oluphumayo, olunye abacwaningi bathole lokho, "Ukunamathisela okukhathazayo kwakuhlotshaniswa nokungaguquguquki okuncane kwesitho sowesifazane sangasese, kepha kunemvamisa ephezulu ye-vibrator ne-orgasms yezocansi. Ukunamathisela okugwemayo kwakuhlotshaniswa nemvamisa ephezulu yama-vibrator orgasms. ”
Ngamafuphi, kungaba ukuhlakanipha ukunciphisa ukuzwela ubulili nokuxilonga okungapheli kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo.
Ngezansi: Ukusetshenziswa kwe-vibrator okungapheli kungase kube yindlela eyodwa yokusebenza kwabanye abasebenzisi. Kudingeka babuze uma kuthatha ukuya endaweni abayifunayo. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, abacwaningi kudingeka basebenzise ubuqotho obuphelele ocwaningweni lwabo ukuze basize abasebenzisi bezocansi bahlele isifundo sabo esisekelwe enembile-hhayi ezithengiwe-iziphetho.
Buka ukufundiswa okunamandla okuhle kakhulu ukuthi kungabi yiqiniso
Uke wabheka kangaki emigqeni embalwa yokugcina yocwaningo futhi wacabanga ukuthi abacwaningi bafinyelele esiphethweni esisemthethweni? Lokhu kwenzeka, ngokwengxenye, ngoba sibeka ukholo olwedlulele kunqubo yokubukeza ontanga. "Okungafanele" ngoba i inani elimangalisayo labacwaningi usike amakhona, upheke idatha, futhi uqambe amanga ngemiphumela. "I-Clinical psychology igcwele ikakhulukazi ukungaziphathi kahle."
Oyedwa kwabathathu ososayensi babika besebenzisa izindlela ezingaqondakali zocwaningo, njengokushintsha ukwakheka kwesifundo noma imiphumela ngenxa yengcindezi evela kumthombo woxhaso. Hmmm….
Ingxoxo mayelana nezinkinga eziduduzayo phakathi kwama-sexologist ezifundiswayo
I-Sexologist A: Ngabe lukhona ucwaningo olubhekane nesimangalo esivele sibikwa (inganekwane?) Ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwesidlidlizi okuvamile kwabesifazane kunciphisa amandla abo okugcoba ngezinye izindlela? Izifundo ekusetshenzisweni kwesidlidlizi engingazithola azisho imiphumela yesikhathi eside.
I-Sexologist B: Kungaba okuthokozisayo ukubona ukuthi ngabe ikhona ngempela imininingwane kulokhu. Ngokuhlelekile, kunengqondo… kucatshangwa ukuthi umuntu 'ujwayela' uhlobo oluthile lokukhuthaza. Akungabazeki ukuthi umuntu angakwazi ukuphindaphinda ukukhuthazwa kokudlidliza. Kuhle kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, uma umuntu 'enqume' ukuthi adinga ukukhuthazwa okukhulu, kungahle kube nomphumela wokulindela.
I-Sexologist C: Angazi nganoma iyiphi idatha (ngicela wabelane esidlangalaleni uma wenza), kepha ngokuqinisekile uyasizwa leso sikhalazo esivela kwabesifazane abaningi abavame ukusebenzisa izidlidliza. Ngesonto eledlule kuphela ngithole lokhu okuthunyelwe ngivela kwi-blogger yezocansi yase-UK mayelana nesifiso sakhe sezinyanga ezi-2 sokuhlala kude nama-vibrator (futhi ngine-orgasms kuphela nge-manual noma nge-stimulation yabalingani) http://carasutra.co.uk/2013/
I-Sexologist D: Nakuba sinemininingwane eminingi ekusetshenzisweni kwezidakamizwa, asinayo into eqondisa ngqo lo mbuzo (isib., Ukuthi uhlola ukwethulwa kwesidlidliza bese kwenzeka okuhlangenwe nakho kocansi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi).
Angicabangi ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwesidlidlizi kugcina abesifazane ekutholeni ama-orgasms avela kwezinye izinhlobo zocansi. Ngokwe-anecdotally ngiyazi ngabesifazane abaningi, abaningi abathola i-orgasm emithonjeni eminingana, kufaka phakathi ukusetshenziswa kwesidlidlizi. Nginedatha ethile evela kusampula elula ekhombisa abesifazane abathola i-orgasm emithonjeni ehlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi ukusetshenziswa kwesidlidlizi.
Ngiyacabanga * kepha ngicabanga - kepha angikwazi ukufakazela - ukuthi noma nini lapho abantu bethembela kumthombo owodwa wokukhishwa kwe-orgasmic ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuze bajwayele leyo ndlela yokukhuthaza. Lokhu kungasho ukuthi, uma bevezwa ngesikhuthazi esisha (noma esidala abangazange bathembele kuso isikhathi esithile) ukuthi kufanele babuyele kuleso sigqi ukuze bezwe i-orgasm kuso. Impendulo ingahle ihambe kancane ngesikhuthazi esisha (noma esidala, esingasetshenziswanga) kepha akusho ukuthi asisekho. Angicabangi ukuthi lokhu kukhawulelwe ekusetshenzisweni kwesidlidlizi. Futhi, ngokungakhethi, sengikubone kaningi lokhu nabesifazane noma abesilisa okuthi, ngokwesibonelo, babe nama-orgasms aqhamuka ocansini lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane njalo kepha bengakatholi ucansi lomlomo noma, noma sekuyiminyaka, bese kuthi imizimba noma izingqondo zabo zifunde noma “zifunde kabusha ”Indlela yokuzwa i-orgasm evela ngomlomo uma beqala ukuhlanganyela kuyo. Angicabangi ukuthi ucansi lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane luye lwabakhubaza kwamanye ama-orgasms. Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu kwesinye isikhathi bavele bajwayele izindlela ezithile zokuziphatha kanye nezimpendulo zabo ezihlobene.
I-Sexologist E: Nginike ama-workshops futhi ngihlangana namaqembu ambalwa wabesifazane abanjengami asebenzise isidlidlizi esingu-120v iminyaka. Siseza ngokushesha futhi kalula nabalingani bethu. Kepha ngeke unikele ngama-vibrator ethu nganoma yini! Ikakhulukazi ngabesifazane abaningi be-multiorgasmic ukusetshenziswa kwesidlidliza isikhathi eside akubonakali kudala izinkinga. Kepha-ke nathi siyayithokozela i-porn ngakho-ke kukhona okumele ngabe akulungile ngathi.
I-Sexologist F: I-Hypothesis: Impela umqondo ofanayo usebenza ekusetshenzisweni kwezithombe zocansi ezisindayo phakathi kwamadoda. Abesilisa abahlale besebenzisa uhlobo olulodwa kuphela lokukhuthaza ukufinyelela i-orgasm isikhathi eside, okusho ukuthi isandla esisodwa, endaweni eyodwa, ngejubane elingaguquguquki kanye nesigqi, ngenani elingaguquguquki lokuthambisa, bazokwazi ukuthola ibanga elithile ukungasebenzi ngokocansi lapho uzama ukufinyelela ku-orgasm ngezinye izindlela.
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