"Indlela Engayithola Ngayo Ekuhlukunyezweni Erectile Ehlobene Nezicansi" (2010)

AMAKHAYA: Ukuze uthole ulwazi olwengeziwe, bheka i- Isigaba se-Porn & ED, bese uqala QALA LAPHA: Ukukhubazeka ngokocansi okubangelwa ucansi

I-ARTICLE: Umdala oneminyaka engu-28 uyaphilisa amandla akhe angapheli okuphefumula.

I-porn enkulu kakhulu ingabangela ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile"Njengoba i-Porn iyaqhubeka, ukusebenza kuyaqhubeka yini?”Ulandise ukuthi abesilisa babika ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile ngokuphathelene nokusetshenziswa kocansi lwe-Intanethi-ngisho noma sebeneminyaka engamashumi amabili. Impendulo yayimangalisa. Le nto ifundwe amashumi ezinkulungwane zezikhathi, futhi abasebenzisi abaningi be-porn abasindayo baqinisekisile ukuthi babhekene nokulahleka kwamandla e-erectile. Kubonakala sengathi ukushaya indlwabu “akusafani nakuqala.” Amavidiyo wamahhala, asakazwayo, akhuthaza kakhulu isimo sakamuva, futhi ngokumangazayo esinenkinga.

Udaba alukho ezithweni zababukeli ezinempilo ephelele, kepha emijikelezweni yemivuzo yobuchopho babo - futhi akukho lungisa ngokushesha. Ukuzwela okujwayelekile kwe-dopamine kumjikelezo womvuzo kubalulekile ekuphenduleni okuvamile kwezocansi, futhi ukukhuthazeka okukhulu kubonakala kunciphisa impendulo ye-dopamine yobuningi obuningi. Ukuze ubuyele evamile, ubuchopho badinga isikhathi sokuqala kabusha ngaphandle kokugqugquzela okukhulu.

Ngeshwa, iningi labasebenzisi be-porn alazi ukuthi kwenzekani kuze kube yilapho inkinga inzima kakhulu, ngoba ngokwemvelo bavame "ukuxazulula" noma yikuphi ubuvila be-erectile nge-porn eyedlulele kakhulu (ngaleyo ndlela kuphoqa ukukhishwa kwe-dopamine okudingekayo ukufeza ukwakhiwa, kepha futhi ukuqhubeka kunciphisa ukuzwela kwemvelo kobuchopho nokuphendula kwabo ngokocansi). Abanye abanesifo ngokwemvelo baphendukela ezidakamizweni eziyingozi zokuthuthukisa ezocansi, bengazi ukuthi bamane nje bafihla inkinga abangazilapha ngayo. Ukufanekisa, nansi imibono yendoda ngohambo lwayo lokubuyela empilweni ye-erectile:

[Iviki ezintathu ezingekho porn, ukushaya indlwabu noma i-orgasm] Sekuyiminyaka ngibheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi ngishaya indlwabu kuma-orgasms amaningi okungenani kanye ngosuku, ngiqala esikoleni esiphakeme. Eyunivesithi, ngangiyisidididi se-computer esinezibuko futhi ngangingenampilo yokuzijabulisa, yize ngangidlala imidlalo eminingi. Ngangihlala egumbini lami ngifunde, ngidlale isiginci noma ngishaye indlwabu. Ngikwazi kahle kuzo zonke lezi zinto.

Ngathola umsebenzi we-IT, futhi lapho sengikwazi ukuzitholela intambo yami yokuxhuma i-inthanethi, amasango ezikhukhula avuleka. Ngokufinyelela okungenamkhawulo kwe-porn ephezulu engu-24/7, ngingahlala kuze kube ngu-4 ekuseni bese ngivuka lapho kusemini. Kwezinye izinyanga ngangizibilisa kakhulu kangangokuthi ngeqa isilinganiso sami se-Inthanethi futhi ngathola izikweletu ze- $ 1000. Ngangivame ukuba namawindi we-5-10 wevidiyo yokusakaza evulekile ngasikhathi sinye, futhi ngishaye phakathi kwabo, okwakhuphula impela amazinga okuvuka. Leli phethini laqhubeka phakathi kweminyaka engamashumi amabili. Angizange ngijabule nakancane, futhi udokotela wami wangithola nginesifo sokucindezeleka.

I-Porn yathatha isifiso sami okwesikhashana, ngakho ngacabanga ukuthi kuyinto enhle, ingigcina "ngilinganisela." Ngangiziqhenya ngokuthi ngangikwazi ukubheka intombazane eshisayo emgwaqweni futhi ngingazizwa nokuncane ukuvusa inkanuko ngoba izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zazingikhungathekisile. Kwakuyindlela yokubuyisa amandla engangikholelwa ukuthi abesifazane babenawo phezu kwami. Kamuva kuphela lapho ngabona khona ukuthi lokhu kulimaza kangakanani.

Okuningi kwalokho engikufunde esikoleni, kwabezindaba nakwi-Intanethi kuthi ukushaya indlwabu, ngisho ne-porn, kunempilo. Bonke abantu engangibazi babengene kuwo, ngakho-ke angikaze ngicabange ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ngokungafani nokuphila kocansi ngokwemvelo. Ngokwazi kwami, ukushaya indlwabu akunangqondo, futhi ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwakuyinto nje eyenziwa yibo bonke abantu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abangane bami abaningi basenalo mbono.

Lapho ekugcineni ngilahla ubuntombi bami ngineminyaka engama-23, isikhathi sami sokuqala sasisibi. Nganginomzimba onzima, nginovalo futhi akukho okwakusebenza. Angizange ngikujabulele nhlobo, futhi nginesiqiniseko sokuthi owayeyintombi yami naye angasho okufanayo. Bengimthanda, kepha bengilolonga uhlelo lwami lwezinzwa ukuba luphendule ngenye indlela isikhathi eside, bekungathi umzimba wami ubungazi ukuthi ngenzeni. Impilo yethu yezocansi ibingenye yezizathu ezinkulu esahlukana ngayo ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa. Ngangibuka izithombe ezingcolile isikhathi sonke. Manje, ngiyabona ukuthi ngangonakalisa ubuhlobo bethu, kodwa ngaleso sikhathi ngangimsola. Ube nezinkinga ezakhe, kepha ubengafanele lonke icala. Ekuzivikeleni kwami, ngokweqiniso bengingazi okungcono.

Kusukela lapho, ngiye ocansini, kepha angikaze ngikwazi ukukhululeka futhi ngikujabulele. Ngihlala nginovalo, futhi kaningi ngiba nezinkinga zokuthola ukwakhiwa. I-orgasm yami yokugcina yayisesandleni sentombazane yokuhlikihla yamaShayina futhi nangaleso sikhathi, ngaba nenkinga yokugcoba. Wayemuhle futhi enomzimba okhangayo, kodwa kwangithatha isikhathi eside ukuba ngibe ne-orgasm, futhi wacishe wayeka. Lesi yisibonelo esisodwa nje sokuthi nginciphise kanjani ikhono lami lokuvuswa ngezindlela ezijwayelekile.

Intombazane eshisayo ingaba nqunu imilenze isakazeke embhedeni phambi kwami, futhi ngisazodinga uhlobo oluthile lokuvuselelwa ngesandla ukuze kube nzima. Lokhu kuyangethusa impela. Ngifuna i-libido yami ibuye. Ngifuna ukuzizwa ngivamile futhi. Ngifuna ukuxhunyaniswa nomhlaba wonke futhi ngijabulele impilo yami. Bengilokhu ngisebenzisa i-porn ukuze ngibaleke, futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi idlale indima enkulu ekubangeleni ukucindezeleka kwami ​​kwangaphambilini.

Ngonyaka odlule, ngibe nomzamo omuhle wokuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi ngabona ukuthuthuka. Kodwa ngangisashaya indlwabu futhi ngifunda i-erotica ngaleso sikhathi. Lo mzamo wamanje ngukokuqala ngqa ukuthi ngizame ukuhamba ngaphandle kwe-orgasm noma ukuvusa inkanuko yangaphandle, futhi ngizwa ukuthi lokhu kuyisihluthulelo. Kubukeka sengathi ukuzithiba ngokuphelele kuzosheshisa inqubo yokutakula. Ngingasho futhi ukuthi ngingu-28 futhi ngiwumqemane ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, futhi engikudlayo kuhlanzekile impela. Ngisebenza njalo. Angibhemi. Ngiphuza ngokweqile ngezimpelasonto nokho.

Ukubuyiswa kokungasebenzi okuhlobene ne-porn erectile kungaholela ekulahlekelweni okwesikhashana kwe-libidoInto exakayo ukuthi akubanga nzima ukuyeka, uma sengithathe isinqumo. Ngaphandle kwekhanda elincane nokulala okungaphumuli, angikaze ngibe nayo izimpawu zokuhoxiswa abantu abaningi bayasho. Kunalokho, angizwa lutho. Kufana nokuthi anginayo i-libido. Azikho izinkuni zasekuseni. Awekho amaphupho anamanzi. Akukho ukuvinjelwa okuzenzekelayo. Azikho izifiso. Awuzange ube yi-horny. Ngithole amathuba okuya ocansini kepha umzimba wami awuphenduli. Ngifunda amakilasi e-tango, ngakho-ke nginenhlalo efanelekile kepha anginalo uphawu lwe-libido yami. Ngingadansa nentombazane enhle futhi anginakho ukusabela ngokomzimba noma yini. Ngiyazi ebuchosheni ukuthi intombazane iyathandeka, kepha angiyizwa ngokomzimba.

Into engigcina ngiqhubeka nokuziyeka ukukholwa kwami ​​ukuthi ngizokwazi ukuqala kabusha ubuchopho bami futhi ngibuyele kokujwayelekile. Kepha kuyakhathaza.

[Amasonto ayisithupha kamuva] Leli sonto liphawula ushintsho enqubweni yami yokutakula. Ngaphambi kokuthi ngiqhubeke, ngidinga ukuchaza intombazane kusuka kudansa wethango. Mude, amehlo aluhlaza (ngithanda amehlo aluhlaza), umzimba omuhle, futhi upholile njengesihogo. Uhlakaniphe ngempela emgwaqweni futhi uphansi emhlabeni futhi angabamba ingxoxo mayelana nezinqwaba zezinto. Ufuna nje ukuzijabulisa, okuyilokho kanye engikudingayo njengamanje.

Ngicabanga ukuthi kuphephile ukusho ukuthi i-libido yami ibuyile, kepha kwakungamasonto ayisishiyagalombili angenayo i-porn, ukushaya indlwabu noma i-erotica, nefantasy encane. Inhloso yami bekuwukwenza iphupho elimanzi, njengesibonakaliso sokuthi umzimba wami ubuqala ukuphendula ngokujwayelekile. Angikaze ngiphumelele. Ngesonto eledlule, ngibe ne-orgasm evuselelwe ngaphandle nentombazane yokuthanjiswa yaseThai. Ingxenye yami ifisa ukuthi ngabe ngilindile, ngenxa nje yelukuluku ukubona ukuthi bekuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani. Kepha-ke inhloso yami ukuthi ngibe nempilo yezocansi enempilo futhi, hhayi amaphupho manzi.

Ngaphandle kwalesi sigameko, bekungukuzilahla okuqondile. [Lapho ekugcineni ngilala nentombazane engihlangane nayo ekilasini le-tango], kwakungekho ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile (ED). Nganginzima ngaphandle kokuthi angithinte ezansi. Senza ucansi kaningi, ngakho ngokwesibili nangokwesithathu ngangidinga "usizo" oluncane, kepha kwakungekho i-ED enjalo. Okwesine besilinde amahora ambalwa, futhi ngathola ubunzima ngaphandle kosizo, ngokuvulwa kuphela. Ngakho-ke ngicabanga ukuthi kuphephile ukusho ukuthi ngithola ukuvinjelwa okusemthethweni, okungasiziwe manje.

Ngiphinde ngabona ukuthi ucansi akusilo ukwenza… kumayelana nabantu ababili abaxhuma futhi bajabule. Ngicabanga ukuthi kuzothatha isikhashana ukungafundi konke ukungcola engikungenile ekubukeni izithombe ezingcolile, okungeyona eyezocansi nhlobo. Ngiyazi ukuthi yini okufanele ngigxile kuyo manje; Ngizamile impela ukwenza ukuthi iseshini ihambe kancane futhi ivuse inkanuko ngangokunokwenzeka, ngokucindezela okuningi nokuthinta. Ngakho-ke, ngicabanga ukuthi kuyindaba yesikhathi nje nokwenza ucansi lwangempela nabesifazane bangempela.

abalingani bedansaNgicabanga ukuthi sengiziqonda kangcono izinto manje: Uma ungadlanga isikhashana, ubuchopho bakho buqala ukukhipha i-dopamine, okwenza ufise ukudla. Le yimpendulo yokusinda ukukukhuthaza ukuthi ufune ukudla, ngakho-ke umzimba awubulawa yindlala. Uma usuthi, ubuchopho bakho buyakuvala lokhu futhi awusakulangazeleli ukudla. Uma uhlala usebenzisa kabi le ndlela ngokubhaka ekudleni, ubuchopho bakho bunciphisa ukuzwela kwayo ku-dopamine kanye nezimbangela ezihambisanayo. Lokhu empeleni kukukhuthaza ukuthi uzidle ngokweqile ukuthola umuzwa ofanayo. I-Porn isebenza ngendlela efanayo. Ukudla nobulili akukubi, kepha uma uzitika ngokweqile, uzothukuthelisa amazinga emvelo obuchopho bakho be-dopamine kanye nesibalo se-receptor, futhi yilokho okubangela ukulutha. Manje sengicabanga ngezocansi "njengokudla okungenamsoco kobuchopho". I-Porn kanye nokudla okungenamsoco kubonakala kunemiphumela efanayo yobuchopho.

[Lawa mazwi alandelayo abhalwe yile ndoda ephendula isicelo sendoda yeseluleko esithile.] Ngicabanga ukuthi isivinini sokululama siyahlukahluka ngenxa yezici ezithile:

  • ubude ubuke ubulili / ukushaya indlwabu isikhathi esingakanani (kokubili amahora ngosuku, neminyaka).
  • ukuthi ucansi lwakho / ukushaya indlwabu kuphela kuqhathaniswa neminye imisebenzi (isib. ubulili nabalingani bangempela).
  • ukuthi ukubuka kwakho izithombe ze-porn kwakuningi kangakanani ngokuhambisana nokuqukethwe okunamandla nakwe-gonzo.
  • ukusetshenziswa kwezinye izinsiza ukukhulisa umuzwa we-orgasm (isib. amathoyizi, imikhuba efana ne-auto-erotic asphyxiation, njll).
  • ezinye izici ezithinta amazinga e-dopamine (ukuzivocavoca, ukudla, izithako, ukucindezeleka, izidakamizwa njll).
  • ukuthi "kuhlazeka" kanjani ukubona izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zisengqondweni yakho (lapho "kuyihlazo" ngokwengeziwe, kukhishwa i-dopamine eyengeziwe, ehlanganisa inkinga).

Ngokuya ngesipiliyoni sami, ngicabanga ukuthi okulandelayo kuyizindlela zokuthola kabusha okusohlwini ngokulandelana kokusebenza:

  1. Ayikho i-porn, ayikho i-masturbation, ayikho i-orgasm.
  2. Ayikho i-porn, i-masturbation kodwa ayikho i-orgasm
  3. Ayikho i-porn, ayikho i-masturbation, noma i-orgasm ngezinye izindlela (isb. Nomlingani)
  4. Ayikho i-porn, ukushaya indlwabu ku-orgasm.
  5. Ukuthinta i-porn, akukho ukushaya indlwabu, akukho i-orgasm.
  6. Ukuxosha izithombe ze-porn, ukushaya indlwabu kodwa akukho i-orgasm
  7. Ukuthinta i-porn, akukho ukushaya indlwabu, i-orgasm ngezinye izindlela (isb. Nomlingani)
  8. Ukuqeda izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ukushaya indlwabu ku-orgasm.

Ngingacabanga ukuthi umehluko phakathi kwezindlela zokuqala nezokugcina ngokwezinga lokuphumula okujwayelekile lingaba izinyanga ezingu-2-3 phakathi kwe-2-3 iminyaka.

Kungenzeka ukuthi kuthathe iminyaka embalwa kuphela ye-porn evusa inkanuko ye-Intanethi yanamuhla ukudala ukungabi namandla komlingani- noma ukukopisha kwamanye amadoda. Ukukhuluma ngokuqinile inkinga akuyona i-porn; kuyinto ukuvuselela okukhulu obangela i-dopamine dysregulation. Omunye u-ED ogulayo wabhala:

Ngithola ukuxoxa ngevidiyo kuyinkinga enkulu. Ngicabanga ukuthi i-dopamine "hit" inamandla kakhulukazi nomlingani ozohlangana naye ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngoba ubonakala efana nesivumelwano sangempela kunevidiyo. Ekugcineni, ngaba nezinkinga ezifanayo zokwenza ikhamera enginazo nomlingani wangempela.

Eziningi zezinsizwa ezibika manje izinkinga zikwazile ukuthola ikhebula le-Intanethi ngaphambi kwesixuku, okungasho ukuthi bangabokuqala beqembu elikhulu kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, abasebenzisi bayo yonke iminyaka basengozini. Babika ukuthi bangakwazi njalo ukwakha i-erection uma "benciphisa" i-porn eyanele, kepha abasakwazi ukulandela abalingani bangempela. "Ukuhlela," njengokubuka amafasitela avulekile we-porn ayisishiyagalombili kuya kwayishumi, kudala ukukhuthazeka okukhulu, okudlula kude noma yini okhokho bethu abake babhekana nayo ngokuqhubekayo-okungahle kuchaze ukuthi kungani kubangela ukuthi ubuchopho obungafuneki buguquke ngaphansi kwamandla abo.

Kunoma yikuphi, lokhu kwenzeka ngempela, uma kunikezwe umbiko. Indoda eyodwa yathi:

Ngobunye ubusuku ngangibuke uhlelo mayelana nezifebe; Ngabona amanye amantombazane avela kumabhayisikobho e-porn. Ngesinye isikhathi bathi bangatshela ukuthi obani abashaya indlwabu ezingapheli ngoba akukho abangakwenza "okungagqugquzela" le ndoda ukuthi ivuke. Cabanga ngakho, ngisho namantombazane aqeqeshelwe ukufeza iphupho lobulili labesilisa ahluleka ukufana nokugqugquzela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kufaka phakathi amanye amantombazane empeleni atholakala ezithombeni ezingcolile. Abesifazane “abajwayelekile” abafuna nje ukuthanda kwethu abami ithuba.

Futhi emsebenzini kulezi zenzakalo yiyona Inganekwane yokuthi ukushaya indlwabu njalo kubalulekile ngempilo yokuzala. Abesilisa bavame ukubona ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwabo kocansi akusalawuleki futhi kudala izimpawu ezingafuneki, kepha badukisiwe ukuthi bona kumele i-ejaculate njalo njalo. Ukukhetha kwabo kuphela kubonakala sengathi kwandisa ukukhushulwa okukhulu.

Eqinisweni, isikhathi eside, esingaqala kahle, isikhathi sokuphuma singase sibe yilokho okudingayo ngempela ukubuyisela ukuzwela kwengqondo evamile futhi ngaleyo ndlela umsebenzi ovamile.

(Bona isibuyekezo sezinyanga ezinhlanu salomfana ngezansi.)

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Lokhu kwakuseforamu lapho lesi sihloko sahlanganiswa khona.

Mina nomyeni wami sishadile iminyaka engu-10. Ukuphila kwethu kobulili kwaqala kakhulu. Senza ucansi nsuku zonke, izikhathi ezingu-3 ngosuku. Wazama umhlaba wami njengomdala we-19yr! (Wayengu-25.)

Kodwa izinyanga ezimbalwa emshadweni wethu ngazithola mayelana nokulutha kwakhe kocansi (ngoba wayengu-10), nesidingo sakhe sokubuka i-cable ye-cable ne-porn kwi-intanethi.

Impilo yethu yezocansi yaqala ukonakala kancane kancane. Wayethola kuphela ama-erections aqinile (kude nedwala elinzima lomthondo engangiqala ukulazi). Ngamcela ukuthi ayeke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngoba nganginganelisekile ngokugcwele ngalokho ayenginika khona (ngangizizwa ngiphuciwe konke). Ubeyeke izinyanga ezimbalwa, lapho impilo yethu yocansi izophinde inyakaze.

Eminyakeni eyi-10 ubethembekile kimi mayelana nokungena nokuphuma kocansi. Uzokwenza kahle izinyanga ezimbalwa, kwesinye isikhathi ngisho nezinyanga ezintathu. Kepha bengikwazi njalo ukusho ukuthi uzobe ebheka (wacking) futhi, ngaphandle kokuthi angitshele yena ngoba uzoba yingxenye yesigamu futhi kwesinye isikhathi angabi ne-ejaculate.

Ngakho-ke besicabanga ukuthi mhlawumbe uma sibuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ndawonye ukuze simkhuthaze kuzosiza… kepha lapho-ke lapho ngizoqala nje ukuvuka bese engena ngaphakathi kimi ngaphambi kokuvuthwa!

I-Porn akuyona inkinga yamadoda kuphela. Ngizitholela, uma ngishaya indlwabu, ngilahlekelwa yizo zonke iziphuzo zami ezigelezayo zemvelo… ngakho-ke uma IKULUNGELE ukuba nayo, ANGIYONA! Kumele aqoqe ku-LUBE njengohlanya futhi kufanele ngiqhubeke ngime ukufaka iLube ngaphezulu. Uyakhungatheka ngami. Ngisho nangakho konke okokugcoba ngaphandle, ubulili abuzange bube mnandi — futhi babujabulisa kakhulu ngoba ngangicabanga ukuthi, “Ngingathanda ukubheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kunokuba ngome bese ngiya ocansini.”

Ngangazi ukuthi ipipi lakhe lalingaba kanjani, futhi wayazi ukuthi ngingaba njani naturaIly WET. Sasike sakubona lokho kaningi ngaphambili, lapho wayezosusa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Ngakho-ke sakuxoxa ngokusobala futhi ngabelana naye ngokuthi i-porn yenza kanjani ukushaya indlwabu nokudla u-Anus kubukeke kumnandi lapho empilweni yangempela akunjalo. (Wayecabanga ukuthi lokho kwakuhlekisa.)

Kusukela lapho sinqume ukuthi sobabili sizoya turkey ebandayo futhi size komunye nomunye ukuze sihlangane nezidingo zethu zocansi esikhundleni sokushaya indlwabu. Akekho kithi oye washaya indlwabu isikhathi esingaphezu kwenyanga manje. Amajusi ageleza phakathi kwethu futhi futhi futhi ubuyele ekuthatheni ubulili kwengane eyi-19! Senza ucansi 2, kwesinye isikhathi izikhathi ezi-3 ngosuku futhi siyayithanda (futhi sithandana).

Isifiso sakho sobulili yilokho ogcwalisa amehlo akho ngakho. Sitholile lapho sobabili sigcwalisa amehlo ethu kuphela komunye nomunye (konke ukunyakaza okuncane, konke ukuqhaqhaza okuncane, yonke ingxenyana yesikhumba) kuvusa inkanuko yethu yezocansi. SIPHENDUKA OKWENGEZIWE ngokufunda omunye nomunye futhi asisakwazi ukulinda ukuklebhula izingubo zomunye nomunye!

Ngamtshela ukuthi ngangifunda le ndatshana, futhi uthi, “Ukungasebenzi Kwe-Erectile? uyangixosha! ” Kepha ngibe sengimtshela ukuthi umbono wami ubulungile ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi wavuma. Ngangihlala ngazi ukuthi lapho u-**** wakhe enzima noma ekhubazekile, lokho kungenxa yezocansi futhi wayehlala azi ukuthi ngizoshaya indlwabu ngoba ngizoma.

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Isihloko: Inkinga yangempela… futhi ingadlanga kakhulu kunalokho esikulindele

Le ndatshana nempendulo yakho ize njengesibusiso empilweni yami. Ngingowesilisa oneminyaka engama-27 ubudala, futhi ngingavuma ngobuqotho ukuthi indaba yale ndatshana ingumbono onembile we-99% wempilo yami. Njengoba uMeander ebeka, "thina abayimilutha yezocansi / yokushaya indlwabu" sisebenzise uhlu olubanzi lwezaba zokulinganisa ukungabi namandla kwethu, futhi lokhu kube yingozi ebudlelwaneni bethu. Ngokwengxenye lokhu kungumphumela wendlela yokuzivikela yengqondo engokwemvelo, kepha ngicabanga ukuthi ukungabi nalwazi yikhona okunikela kakhulu. Besimane nje asazi ukuthi yini ebangela izinkinga zethu nokuthi singazilungisa kanjani. Umphakathi usikholelwa ukuthi kwamukeleka ngokuphelele ukuba yi-horny, futhi amadoda abuka i-porn, ngokweqile. Futhi akusizuzisi lapho ochwepheshe bezocansi abanjengo-Alfred Kinsey noMasters noJohnson beqinisa umqondo wokushaya indlwabu ungahoxi futhi ungokwemvelo ngokuphelele.

Nginenhlanhla manje ukuthi ngithole intombi empilweni yami ukuthi isineke, iqondisisa futhi iyisekela. Sesihlangene iminyaka emibili manje, futhi impilo yobulane isondele. Sihambe ngaphandle kocansi ngonyaka odlule.

Ngesikhathi sezinyanga zokuqala ze-6 ebuhlotsheni bethu, senze izingxabano eziningi mayelana nekhono lami lobulili; Ngangiyinduna yokuqala ayenaye nale nkinga. Nakuba sasingakhulumi lutho ngalonyaka odlule, ngikholelwa ukuthi ubuqinisile ubuhlobo bethu. Ngiyakwazi ukuxhumana nokuhlanganyela naye mayelana nalesi sihloko. Manje sinokuqonda okunye ukugula kwalenkinga. Sizosebenza ndawonye esikoleni seviki le-8.

Kuwo wonke umuntu onokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo, awunedwa. Siyisizukulwane sokuthola inhlanhla, kodwa ngesikhathi esisodwa siqalekisiwe, sibhekane ne-intanethi ebanzi ye-intanethi eminyakeni yethu yentsha. Ngicishe ngiqiniseke ukuthi olunye ucwaningo luzokwenziwa kulokhu okushiwo ngaphansi kwenkinga ebikiwe.