Kuzongithatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi ngiphinde ngilulame ngumbuzo wokuqala esiwuthola kubafana abaphethwe i-ED eyenziwe ngocansi. Kodwa-ke, asikwazi ukubikezela ukuthi kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi impilo yakho ye-erectile ibuye. Phakathi kwalabo abanamathela kukho, ukuqhubeka kuyafana ngokumangazayo — lapho abafana beyeka ngokuphelele izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, imicabango yezocansi nokushaya indlwabu. Izimpawu nempendulo kukhombisa ukuthi ukuqeda noma ukunciphisa kakhulu ukushaya indlwabu kuveza ukuhoxa okujulile nesikhathi esifushane sokuqalisa kabusha. Nayi i-akhawunti yomfana oyedwa njengoba eqala ukululama:
Ngisondelene kakhulu nezinsuku ze-90 futhi ngifuna ukwabelana ngemicabango yami. Kafushane, kukhona ukukhanya ekugcineni komhubhe, kepha kungaba nenyanga enhle ka- flatline [akukho libido] ngaphambi kokuthi ufike lapho. Ngokwalokho engikufundile, i-flatline ibonakala ibeka abantu eceleni. Bahamba izinsuku eziyi-7 futhi bazizwe bengathi superman. Lapho-ke kubukeka sengathi kuyafa. Ngikholwa ukuthi ukuqala kabusha kwesikhashana kuzoletha izinzuzo zesikhashana. (okungukuthi, i-testosterone-spike yezinsuku eziyi-7, okuwukunambitha nje kwezinto ezisezayo).
Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa manje sengiqale ukuzwa izinzuzo zesikhathi eside. Ngemuva kwezinsuku ezingama-70, ngangizizwa kamnandi sonke isikhathi se-f ** king! Ukukhathazeka kwami sekuphelile; ukucindezeleka kwami sekuphelile; Ngiyimiqemane, ngiwumqemane, futhi angisona isigqila sabobulili obuhlukile. Angisababoni abesifazane njengonkulunkulukazi ngoba angikufisi ukuqala.
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Yize inqubo yokululama ingekho emgqeni (izinsuku ezinhle zilandelwa izinsuku ezimbi futhi okuphambene nalokho), nakhu okungenzeka:
- Izimpawu zokukhishwa kanye nezifiso ngokuvamile kwenzeka ngokushesha. Kodwa-ke, abanye abantu babona ukubuya okusheshayo kwe-libido nokuzethemba isonto elilodwa noma amabili… kulandelwa i-flatline eqhubeka amasonto. Bona inombolo 3 ngezansi.
- Ukungabikho kwe-libido kanye nokukhethwa, ukwanda kwe-flaccidity ("ukuncipha noma ipipi elingaphili"): Kuvame ukuqala ngasekupheleni kwesonto elilodwa, kodwa lingashintsha kakhulu. Iyaqhubeka amasonto ama-2-8, kuya ngeminyaka yokuqala eqalile nobukhali bokusetshenziswa kocansi. Kodwa-ke, abanye abantu bathatha isikhathi eside bese bephuma, bese bengena kabusha isikhathi somugqa oyisicaba,
- Ukubuyiselwa kancane kancane kokuphakanyiswa kwasekuseni, i-libido kanye nokuvama okuzenzekelayo ngezikhathi ezithile kwezinye izikhathi (kusenezinsuku "eziflethi" ezifakiwe). Akuwona wonke umuntu ozwa ukubuyiselwa kokuhlelwa okuzenzakalelayo.
- Akusekho "ukuvuza kwesidoda" ngesikhathi sokuhamba kwamathumbu, njll.
- Ukubuyiswa kwemisebenzi emihle, isifiso sobulili sabalingani bangempela, imibiko yezocansi ezithokozisa kakhulu, ukusetshenziswa kokukhondomu okwanelisayo ngisho noma kube yinkinga.
- Kungenzeka kube nokuthuthukiswa okuqhubekayo ekukhwalweni kwekhwalithi, i-libido nokuthokozisa ngokocansi ezinyangeni ezilandela ukubuyiswa kwemikhawulo yekhwalithi.
Abanye abantu abangajwayelekile bayalulama ngokushesha okukhulu, kungakapheli amasonto ambalwa. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi babe nezinguquko zobuchopho ezihlobene nokulutha. Abafana abambalwa bayalulama kungakapheli amasonto ama-4 - 6. Iningi labafana asebekhulile, abangakhulanga nge-Intanethi, bavame ukululama ngemuva kwamasonto e-8-12 angenazo izithombe ezingcolile, ukushaya indlwabu futhi akukho orgasm. Kodwa-ke, bazoqhubeka nokubona ukuthuthuka ngemuva kokubuya kokufakwa kwabo.
Abangaphansi kwambalwa bathatha izinyanga ze-3-6, noma ngaphezulu ukubuyisa impilo ye-erectile futhi alulame. Ama-akhawunti wokuvuselela amasha abonisa lokho abafana abasha abaqala nge-porn ejubane le-Internet esencane kungathatha izinyanga ze-9 noma ngaphezulu, futhi uzoqhubeka nokubona ukuthuthukiswa kwezinyanga emva kokubuya kwemishini ephilile.
Uhlu lwezinto ezingenzeka ezingathinta ubude besikhathi sokuphinda uzithole:
- Kanjani okunamunye ongenayo i-porn (futhi cishe akuyona into yokushaya indlwabu noma i-orgasm)
- Ubudala obuqala ngokuzikhethela ukusebenzisa i-porn. Intsha isho i-wiring eyinkimbinkimbi yokucubungula i-porn, ne-wiring ebuthakathaka ye-deal yangempela. Uma ukushaya indlwabu kuqale ngokusetshenziswa kwe-inthanethi ye-porn, izindlela zingaba zijulile kakhulu. Uma uqale ukushaya indlwabu kanye ne-Intanethi ngokocansi ebusheni (noma ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn ngaphambi kokushaya indlwabu), kungathatha izinyanga eziyi-3-6, or eside ukuze ululame. Sicela ube nesineke futhi ubone:
- 1) Ubuchopho obusakhulayo buhambisana ne-Porns Highspeed Inthanethi (i-2013)
- 2) Kwaqala nge-inthanethi ye-porn nokuvuselela kabusha kwami (ED) kuthatha isikhathi eside kakhulu;
- 3) Abasebenzisi abasha abasha abadinga usizo olude ukuze babuyisele uMojo wabo;
- 4) U-Gary noGabe baxoxisana ngokuthola i-ED ehlobene nocansi (i-#9)
- Ukuxhumana okuncane noma ukungabikho nhlobo nabalingani bangempela ngokuvamile kusho isikhathi eside. Abafana abaqale izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ekuqaleni, futhi baye bathola ukusondelana okuncane noma akukho nhlobo kocansi, badinga ukuvuselela ukuvusa kwabo ucansi kubalingani bangempela.
- Uma unomlingani, ingase isheshe inqubo. Isiza ukubuyisela impendulo yakho yezocansi kumuntu wangempela.
- Ubude bokusetshenziswa kocansi. Ukude kungase kusho ukusinda okude.
- Ziningi kangakanani izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezisetshenziselwa ukushaya indlwabu. Njalo noma ngezikhathi ezithile.
- Ukuvama kwamaseshini we-PMO (ngesonto, ngosuku)
- Izinkathi zangaphambili zokuziqeda ezithombeni ezingcolile. Izinkathi zamuva zokuziqeda kusho ukusinda ngokushesha.
- Izinhlobo ze-porn njengamanje ezisetshenziselwa ukushaya indlwabu. Ukwethusa noma ukuphazamisa okwedlulele kumsebenzisi, lapho ubuchopho buye bavumelana khona.
- Uma usuthuthukise izibungu ezibangelwa ucansi, kungathatha isikhathi eside ukuvuswa ngocansi "lwe-vanilla".
- Ukuzwela kokuqala kobuchopho ukulutha (izakhi zofuzo, izinkinga zobuntwana).
- Uhlobo lokushaya indlwabu olusetshenzisiwe. Kwakuyinto "yokubamba ukufa," ukunyakaza okusheshayo, noma isikhundla esifanelekile kuqashwe?
- Ukuhlela ngaphandle kwe-ejaculation ngenkathi kuvuselelwa kabusha. Umbono omubi ngempela.
Kuthiwani ngokucabanga nge-porn? Umqondo omubi, njengoba uqinisa izindlela zokulutha izidakamizwa. Kodwa ukucabanga ngokusebenza kwangempela kungase kulungile, ikakhulukazi kubafana abanokuhlangenwe nakho okuncane kobulili.
Kuthiwani ngokuya ocansini ngenkathi uzama ukuqala kabusha? Mhlawumbe into enhle. Uma ukhohlisa noma uhlanganyela ocansini futhi ugweme ngamabomu i-orgasm, kungahle kube kuhle, futhi kuzuze. Uma kusheshe kakhulu, i-orgasm nomlingani wakho ingakubuyisela emuva, noma ikuphonse ekubuyeleni emuva (bheka ngezansi). I-ED eyenziwe nge-Porn ubuchopho bakho busho ukuthi sebenele. Uma une-ED, uzama ukuphoqelela ukwakheka ngefantasy engamanyala noma ezinye izindlela, kubonakala kungaphazamisi ekutholeni kwakho.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ubuyele ebhalansi, kepha ungatholi ukuvinjelwa okuningi okuzenzakalelayo, ucansi nomlingani wakho luzokukhombisa kukhona, empeleni, ubuyele kokujwayelekile. Isibonelo, nakhu okushiwo yindoda eyodwa:
Ukuzikhethela okuzenzakalelayo kungaba yisibonakaliso, kepha angiqiniseki ukuthi ngabe kuyisibonakaliso sangempela yini. Awudingi ukuhambahamba ne-boner ukuze uzwe ukuthi izinto zizolunga. Ngesonto eledlule, ngokwesibonelo, bengingakaze ngiyibone intombi yami izinsuku ezimbalwa. Ngangingenakho ukuvinjelwa okuzenzakalelayo ngaleso sikhathi. Ngokunikwa izinkinga zami zakudala, ngaze ngakhathazeka kancane… Ngabe ngangilahlekelwa yikho futhi? Kodwa lapho ngimbona konke kuhamba kahle. Ukuthinta nephunga lakhe kungiphendulele ngokuphelele futhi nepipi lisebenza. Ngakho-ke izinto zizosebenza, lapho ubuchopho bakho bulinganisela, noma ngabe ungenayo i-boner engapheli (ukuvinjelwa okuzenzekelayo).
Okokugcina, kuza isikhathi lapho abafana abancane abaqeqeshe izimpendulo zabo zocansi ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile badinga ukubuyela kubalingani bangempela. Uma kungenjalo ngokocansi, khona-ke emphakathini. Udinga ukuxhumana nabanye. Ungahle udinge ukucabanga noma uqale ukuzikhuthaza. Bona - Kwaqala nge-inthanethi ye-porn nokuvuselela kabusha kwami (ED) kuthatha isikhathi eside kakhulu. Ngeshwa asikwazi ukukutshela ngaluphi iphuzu okudingayo ukuhlanganisa isenzo socansi.
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Njengoba abanye besho, kuyehluka kakhulu. Ngithole izinto ezilandelayo zishesha izinto:
1. Ukususa noma yiziphi izithombe ezishukumisayo, ngisho nezinto ezijwayelekile ezinhle njenge-Facebook ne-OkCupid. Ngiyaphila nabo manje, kepha kusizile ukuqala lapho ubuchopho bami buhlela izinto
I-2. Ukuvuza nomfazi. Thola umuntu ongayibamba, njalo ngangokunokwenzeka. Lokhu kuzokusheshisa kakhulu.
I-3. Ukungena noma i-orgasm. Ngathuthuka kakhulu lapho ngaya ezinsukwini ze-98 ngaphandle kwe-orgasm, ngenkathi ngifika kabusha. Ngangeze ama-orgasms uma ngine-100% erections
4. Shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngocansi. Uthi "angikwazi ukujabulisa umuntu wesifazane njengami", kodwa lokho kungamanga ngokuphelele. Ungenza lukhulu ukujabulisa abesifazane ngomlomo nangezandla zakho, imvamisa okungaphezu kwalokho ongakwenza ngepipi elisebenzayo.Abafana abaningi lapha bathumela "ucansi oluzamile, lwehlulekile, waaaaa", okukhombisa ukucabanga okungalungile. Ungaya ocansini, futhi ugonane, njll. Uma ukwenza lokho isikhashana, i-ED yakho kufanele inyamalale.
Amacala anzima lapha ngokuvamile awenzi ama-rewiring amaningi.
Namathela kukho. Kuzwakala kumnandi ukukwazi ukuya ocansini futhi, kufanelekile. Kuzobuyela nakuwe 🙂
Kubaluleke kakhulu kubafana abancane ukuthi baphinde baphendule impendulo yabo yezocansi kubantu bangempela, kusho lo mvuseleli ophumelelayo, Ukubuyisela kuye kwasula ukuqala kabusha kwami!
Sanibonani nonke! Ngakho-ke nginezinsuku ze-100 + kungekho PMO futhi ngichithe isikhathi esithile nentombazane enhle.
Cishe konke lokhu kuqaliswa kabusha ngibe ku-flatline - ngenkathi izinkuni zami zasekuseni zilokhu ziba nzima futhi zikhula kaningi, ngibe ne-libido encane kakhulu kanye ne-zero erections ezenzekelayo.
Cishe ezinsukwini eziyi-7 ezedlule ngichithe ubusuku obuntofontofo, obukhululekile nentombazane ebibukeka ngathi ivuse okuthile kuyo! Siqabule, sigonane senze okunye okuthinta konke ngezingubo. Kwakuwumuzwa omangazayo - bengilokhu ngizwa ukwanda kwe-libido nombono onempilo wezocansi kwabesifazane kusukela!
Angikakatholakali namanje - ukukhishwa kwami akukabi nzima ngokwanele okwamanje, futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi bengingeke ngibe nobulili obuphumelelayo, kepha bengifuna ukubhala ngoba ngempela, ngempela, ngempela ucabange ukuthi ukumanga, ukukhipha kanye nokuba nesondlo ngaphandle kwe-orgasming kungasheshisa ukuqala kabusha kwakho ngamazwi
"Umphumela Wokujaha"
Lapho abesilisa beqala ukuzwa ukuthi i-ED yabo ibangelwa ukusetshenziswa kocansi, bavame ukuba nomdlandla wokumisa zonke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ukushaya indlwabu kanye ne-orgasm. Abanye bayaphumelela, kepha babuyela emuva kaningi, noma bangeze ukushaya indlwabu ngezikhathi ezithile noma ukuya ocansini nomlingani wakho. Into eyinselele ngokubuyela emuva ngaphambi kokuthi uqalise kabusha ukuthi ingakhahlela ku "umphumela we-chaser”Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezilandelayo. Ukwazi ngalokhu kungakusindisela ukuzitika ngotshwala, lapho izinkanuko ezinamandla zikukhipha “ndawo.”
Noma yini oyenzayo, qaphela ukuthi kwakuyi-porn eyadala izinkinga zakho ze-erectile. Ukuziqhelelanisa nezocansi kuyiyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ngakho-ke uma unesifiso esingalawuleki sokushaya indlwabu ekujuleni, yenza kanjalo ngaphandle kocansi. Uma ungakwazi ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kocansi, akusona isifiso sangempela socansi. Esikhundleni salokho, isifiso sakho "kuphela" isici sokulutha umlutha esiye sabangelwa umcabango noma okubukwayo.
Kuyo yonke imibiko, amadoda abuyisa impilo yawo ye-erectile ashesha kakhulu ukugwema ukushaya indlwabu kanye ne-orgasm. Uma uvame ukushaya indlwabu kaningi, kuthatha isikhathi eside. Lokho kusho ukuthi yonke imizamo yakho iyaqoqeka ngandlela thile. Nakhu okushiwo omunye umfana ngemizamo yakhe yokuthola kabusha:
Ngiye emavikini e-6 futhi ngibuyele emuva kancane [ngibheka i-soft-core ukuhlola ukuvinjelwa - akunconyiwe] kanye njalo ezinsukwini ze-4 noma kunjalo. Lapho ekugcineni ngibuyela ekungashadi, angizange ngiqale kusuka ku-zero, ngaqala kusukela ngeviki lesithathu. Ngiyakwazi lokhu ngoba lapho ngiqala ukuqala angikwazi ukuba nzima ngokushaya indlwabu nje. Kepha ngemuva kokubuyela emuva angibuyelanga kuleso simo sokuqala.
Emuva esitokisini
Uma wenza ucansi futhi, kungaba umqondo omuhle ukusondela kulo ngomqondo omusha-ongagxile ekusebenzeni ngokocansi. Ukwesaba ngenxa yokwehluleka kwangaphambilini kuvamile futhi kungathatha imizamo embalwa ukunqoba ukukhathazeka Nazi izeluleko ezivela kwamanye amadoda abene-ED, aqala kabusha, abese enza ucansi.
- Ezikhathini zami ze-3 "zokuxhuma nokubopha" nomkami selokhu ngiqale kabusha, bekungekho okulindelwe kocansi. Saqala ukudlala ngamehlo nje sidlala, sijabulelana ngemizimba yethu, siphululana futhi siqabulana, futhi okulandelayo… WHAM !!! Konke bekukhululeke kakhulu.
- Ngangazi ukuthi nganginenkinga lapho sengineminyaka eyishumi nambili ubudala. Ekugcineni ngaba nobuhlobo bobulili obuphumelelayo kuma-20 ami okuqala, kepha angizange ngizicabange ngiphulukisiwe, ngakho-ke nganginokukhathazeka kokusebenza, futhi izikhathi ezingu-9 kwezingu-10, zazingakwazi ukwenza. Ngakho-ke ngicabanga ukuthi ukucabanga kwami manje ukuthi uma izinsuku ezi-4 zokuya ocansini zilandelana zingangikholisi ukuthi i-libido yami ilungile, kuzokwenzekani? Ngingahle ngilindele okuningi kakhulu esikhathini esedlule. Ngacabanga ukuthi kufanele ngivuke futhi ngilungele ukuhamba ngesaziso semizuzwana, noma ngabe ngangicindezeleke kangakanani. Futhi bengilindele ukuthola i-boner njalo lapho ngibheka owesifazane omuhle. Manje ukulindela kwami ukuthi ekugcineni ngibe nokuma uma ngikhululekile phambi kowesifazane engimthandayo (ie umkami). Ngakho-ke ukuhlanganiswa kwesizathu kanye noshintsho oluncane kokulindelekile engikucabangayo. Ngizosho ukuthi angikaze ngiphuphe ukuyeka ukushaya indlwabu izinsuku ezingama-90 ukube bekungekhona kwaleli sayithi. Futhi le sayithi ingikholisile ukuthi isici sokuxhuma sibaluleke kakhulu.
- Ukukhathazeka kokusebenza kuyinto enzima ukushaya. Noma kunini lapho ulele embhedeni nowesifazane bese uqala ukuzibheka, ukwakheka kungenzeka kungenzeki. Ngiyazi kahle kamnandi ukuthi akumnandi ukungena kwezocansi ukhathazeka ngokusebenza. Ukhiye ukungena kuwo ungakhathazeki nge-iota eyodwa mayelana nokwakhiwa. Kulula ukushiwo kunokukwenza, kepha leyo yinselelo amadoda amaningi abhekana nayo. Ngibhekane nakho, futhi ngiyamangala ukuthi ngiphumelele kukho.
Ngamanye amagama, khohlwa ucansi lwesitayela sezocansi bese udlala nje. Ukuphumula empeleni kuthuthukisa ukuvinjelwa. Eqinisweni, i-oxytocin ("i-cuddle hormone") ibalulekile ekwenziweni, futhi ukhiqiza i-oxytocin lapho ubamba isandla sothando, nesandla esivulekile. Hamba uyobala!
Bona futhi ama-akhawunti wokutakula lapha futhi lapha, Futhi Ngazi kanjani ukuthi sengibuyele kokujwayelekile?
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