Ingabe imboni ye-porn gotcha?
Izibuyekezo:
- Leli khasi libala Ucwaningo lwe-52 lwe-neuroscience (I-MRI, i-fMRI, i-EEG, i-neuropsychological, i-hormonal). Bonke bahlinzeka ngokusekelwa okuqinile kwemodeli yokulutha njengoba abakutholayo bebonisa okutholwe yi-neurological ocwaningweni olubhekiswe kwizidakamizwa.
- Imibono yangempela yezobuchwepheshe ekubhekaneni nocansi / ucansi? Lolu hlu luqukethe Ukubuyekezwa kwezincwadi ezingama-27 zakamuva ze-neuroscience & imibono ngezinye zezazi eziphezulu zezinzwa emhlabeni. Bonke basekela imodeli yokulutha.
- Izimpawu zokulutha umlutha nokukhula kwezinto ezimbi kakhulu? Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-55 ezibika okutholakele zihambisana nokukhula kokusetshenziswa kocansi (ukubekezela), ukujwayela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ngisho nezimpawu zokuhoxiswa (zonke izimpawu nezimpawu ezihambisana nokulutha). Ikhasi elengeziwe nge Izifundo eziyi-12 ezibika izimpawu zokuhoxiswa kwabasebenzisi be-porn.
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Cishe njalo ngenyanga, ucwaningo olusha luqinisekisa ukuthi ukulutha kokudla kungadala izinguquko zobuchopho ezilingisa lezo ezitholakala ekuluthweni yizidakamizwa. Ukudla nobulili kwaziwa ngokuthi "iziqinisi zemvelo." Lokho wukuthi, akuzona izidakamizwa, kepha ubuchopho bethu buyazikhanyisela ngakho-ke sifinyelela okuningi ngaphandle kokucabanga.
Noma kunjalo, umqondo wokuthi “ukudla kungadala ukukhuluphala ngoba kufana nomuthi” uyaxaka. Ngemuva kwakho konke, okhokho bethu ababedla kakhulu badla kakhulu, futhi ngokusobala babenomdlandla ngocansi. Kodwa-ke ukubanjwa okuyingozi akubonakali kuyingozi enkulu. Awuzange zabo ubuchopho bukhanyisela ukudla nezocansi? Yebo kunjalo. Umehluko ukuthi bebengazungeziwe ukuphakamisa, izinguqulo zokwenziwa kokudla kanye nobulili. Singabantu, futhi kuyingozi nje yamuva.
Cabanga ngakho. Bangaki okhokho bakho ababenokufinyelela okulula kuminchies enhle kakhulu ebeyilungele ukudla, etholakala kalula ezinhlobonhlobo ezingapheli, futhi egciniwe ngamafutha, ushukela nosawoti ukuze bahlale bebuya ngokunye? Bangaki abanobuchwepheshe bama-computer abengaqhafaza kuwo wonke ama-video avuselela ama-hyper-stimulating, ahambisana nabalingani bangempela, abanoveli, behlukunyezwa ngesifiso (okubonwe yingxenye yokuqala yobuchopho njengamathuba obufuzo) -njengokuthi, uma ukudla kuhlatshwa umkhosi, i-cornucopia yamavidiyo anyinikikiki?
Izithombe Zobulili Ezingcolile? Kuyindlela entsha ye-synaptic. Uvuka ekuseni, uvule ikhasi lesithonjana, futhi liholele ebhokisini lezithombe zikaPandora. Cishe kube nezinsuku lapho ngabona khona izitho zangasese ezingama-300 ngaphambi kokuba ngivuke embhedeni.—UJohn Mayer, umculi
Ukuvuselelwa okwedlulele kokuyenga kwanamuhla kungaduna ubuchopho bethu. Ayikho indlela uJohn Mayer abengabuka ngayo esifanayo ubulili izikhathi ezingu-300 ngaphambi kokuphakama uma, ethi, wayenawo umagazini we-porn, noma owesifazane kuphela. I-novelty-plus-erotica iyisidingo. Ubuchopho bakhe bukhulula i-dopamine engaphezulu ngesithombe ngasinye esisha, njengoba sigwema phansi i-key nerve cell receptors (ukuze imqhubekele ekudleni). Ukhohliselwe ekuhloliseni i-pussy panorama ngisho nangaphezulu kwe-3-D.
I-PLAYBOY: Uncamela ukuphuma uye entombini yakudala kunokuba uhlangane nomuntu omusha? IMEYA: Yebo…. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi zikushintshe ngokuphelele okulindelwe yisizukulwane sami. Ungahlala kanjani uhlanganisa i-orgasm ngokuya ngamashothi amaningi? Ufuna eyodwa… kokungu-100 ofunga ukuthi kuzoba yilowo oqeda kuye, kanti awukaqedi. Emizuzwaneni engu-XNUMX edlule ubucabanga ukuthi leso sithombe bekuyinto eshisa kunazo zonke owake wazibona, kodwa usiphonsa emuva bese uqhubeka nokuzingela kwakho ngokudutshulwa bese uqhubeka uzenza sekwephuzile emsebenzini. Lokho akuthinti kanjani i-psychology yokuba nobudlelwano nothile? Kufanele.
Yile ndlela ukudla kanye nobulili, okuyinto kuyo yonke into yokuziphendukela kwemvelo ngokujwayelekile kwaba nomthelela enhlalakahleni yethu futhi siholelwe ngokwemvelo emizweni efudumele yokusutha, i-morph ezintweni ezifana nezidakamizwa neziluthayo ezingasebenzi. Lapho singena, siwela ezilingweni ezingabalulekile kangako, futhi kwesinye isikhathi eziyingozi. Abagcini nje ngokusintshontshela ukunakwa kwethu uxhumano oluqabulayo nabantu bangempela (nokudla okunomsoco), bangakwazi ngempela sithinte.
Ngubani osemngciphekweni wokuba umlutha weziqinisi zemvelo?
Ucwaningo oluningi lokulutha lubheka ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa, hhayi ukuluthwa kweziqinisi zemvelo. Kwembula ukuthi yidlanzana lethu kuphela ("abafuna izinto ezintsha"Futhi"impulsives“) Zithinteka ngokwezakhi zofuzo ekusetshenzisweni kabi kwezidakamizwa, ngenxa yama-receptors amancane e-dopamine ezifundeni ezahlukahlukene zemijikelezo yomvuzo wobuchopho. (I-Dopamine yi- "Gotta get it!" Neurochemical, futhi i-circuitry yomvuzo iyindlela ephathelene nobuchopho eyenza zonke izifiso kanye nesisusa.)
Ngakho-ke, ingabe thina sonke siphephile ekuluthekeni? Uma kukhulunywa ngokusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa, mhlawumbe yebo. Kodwa-ke uma kukhulunywa ngokufinyelela okungavinjelwe kokuqina okuqinisa imvelo, impendulo ingahle ibe cha, yize ngokuqinisekile kungewona wonke umuntu abanjwa. Isizathu sokuthi izinhlobo zokudla nezocansi ezikhuthaza kakhulu zingasibamba-noma ngabe asinakuthambeka ngenye indlela-ukuthi umvuzo wethu wesekethe zashintsha ukusiholela ekubhekeni kokudla kanye nobulili, hhayi izidakamizwa.
Thatha ukudla. Uma ugxila ekudleni okuphefumula (kusho, amafutha agxilile kanye neshukela elicwengisisiwe) kungabangela ushintsho olufana noshintsho olubucayi obonakele kubantu abahlukumezayo. Lokhu kwenzeka kumakhompi, futhi, futhi hhayi nje ekufuneni okuvela enkambisweni, okuyingcosana. Cishe konke izilwane ezinikezwe ukufinyelela okungavinjelwe kuzinto ezinjengebhekeni, isoseji, ushizi, ikhekhe lephawundi, ama-Ding Dongs kanye nokuqhwaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhala.
Cishe ngokushesha, i-dopamine receptors yehlile ebuchosheni babo, okwenza izimbungulu zibheke ngokweqile, futhi ziqiniseke ukuthi kamuva zizobhekana nokuvuthwa okuncane kokudla okujwayelekile. Ezinye izinguquko, njenge-a ukulinganisa impendulo enjabulo, kubi kakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Amaviki amabili ngemuva kokuthi ososayensi bebabuyisele ku-rat chow, ubuchopho bamagundane bebungakatholakali. Eqinisweni, lapho bebhekene nokudla kwe-chow ejwayelekile, bakhethe ukulamba isikhashana kunokuyidla. (Isifundo esigcwele)
Kunengqondo ukuthi izilwane ezincelisayo zikwazi ukwenza izindlela ezakhelwe ngaphakathi ukwedlula imizwelo ye-satiety. Kumele "bakuthole ngenkathi ukuthola kukuhle": ukugcina amakhalori lapho izithelo zivuthiwe, zigaya ngaphambi kokulala, zigwinye ukubulala ngaphambi kokuncintisana, njalonjalo.
"Ayitholakali emvelweni"
Isimo sokuzitika ngokweqile, kepha, asibonisi ngaphandle kokuthi izilwane ezincelisayo, kufaka phakathi abantu, zishintshele ekudleni okungekho emvelweni: izitashi ezingavinjelwe noshukela.
Yize ukukhuluphala kuye kwanda phakathi kwabo bonke abantu baseMelika emashumini eminyaka amuva nje, kuye kwanda kakhulu ukubhuka kwamaNdiya kusukela ngawo-1960. Ukudla [okunesitashi] nokudla okusheshayo kuyaphikisana nalokho amaNdiya akudlayo kuze kube izizukulwane zakamuva:… [Ngokuphambene nalokho,] amaprotheni aphezulu nokudla okunamafutha okugcwele [inyathi, indololwane, inhlwathi, inyamazane, enamajikijolo athile, amantongomane nezimpande] kwakubonakala ukukhonza isizwe kahle.
Abomdabu baseMelika akubona bodwa ababhikayo, noma kunjalo. Cishe izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zabaningi Amazwe aseNtshonalanga ayedlula ngokweqile, futhi amaphesenti angu-30 + aseMelika akhuluphele. Lokhu kusho ngokukhethekile ngoba, ngokungafani namagundane, sikhathalela ngama-standist ethu, okwenza abanye bethu bahlole ngisho nalapho bebhekene nesilingo esinzima.
Izifunda zobuchopho eziguqukayo ekuphenduleni ukudla okunamandla nazo zilawula isifiso sobulili. Ngakho-ke, ingabe izinkolelo zanamuhla zocansi, njengokudla okungenamsoco kwanamuhla, kubangela ushintsho olufana nezidakamizwa kumjikelezo womvuzo wobuchopho? Ngokuqinisekile bakha ukudla kocansi okungatholakali emvelweni.
buyekeza: njengoba lesi sihloko sabhalwa, Izifundo ze-Brain Scan kubasebenzisi be-Porn, bathole ubufakazi bokungabi namuntu, ukukhuphuka kokusetshenziswa, nokuvusa kancane ezintweni ezivamile zocansi, kanye nokuzwela kanye nezinguquko ku-cortex yangaphambili. Njengoba sichazile, izimpawu abasebenzisi be-porn abasindayo abakhala ngazo zingachazwa ngokunengqondo ngokushintshwa kobuchopho obufanayo obonwe kumagundane anokufinyelela okungavinjelwe kuma-super-goodies. (Ngokusobala, amagundane nabantu bayizihlobo ezikude, futhi babelana ngezindlela ezifanayo zobuchopho zokuqala zokudla nokulutha.)
Njengoba nje amagundane adla ukudla okuthakazelisayo, abasebenzisi bezithombe zobulili ezingcolile bavame ukuzondla kwi-porn. Abasebenzisi abaningi babika ukuthi abakwazi ukumisa noma ukulawula ukubukwa kwabo, ngokungafani Ingulube ye-Guinea, ngubani "owuthole ngenkathi ukutholwa kukuhle" ngenkathi egqekeza ikheji eligcwele abesifazane.
Abasebenzisi futhi baqaphele njalo ukuzwela komfutho kumnandi (cishe kusuka i-dopamine receptors ephansi), okubonisa ukuthi i-libido ye-skyrocketing, okungukuthi, isidingo sokuvuselela okuvamile (i-dopamine engaphezulu) ekuziphenduleleni kokuzibulala noma ukukhathazeka. Ngokuvamile badinga izinto ezidlulele kakhulu ukuze bafinyelele umvuthwandaba, ukuthuthukisa ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, noma uthole ukuthi ucansi nomlingani ozimisele alubagculisi (okuholela ekubuyiseleni, noma mhlawumbe okukhethekile) ukusetshenziswa kocansi.
Abasebenzisi abakhulu futhi ngezinye izikhathi babika ukuziphatha okucindezelayo-ukucindezela, ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka okukhulu emcabangweni wokuzijabulisa, kanye nezinkinga zokuhlushwa. Futhi abasebenzisi abazama ukuyeka ukubuka umbiko we-porn izimpawu zokuyeka ukuyeka. Lezi zimpawu zisikisela ukuthi ubuchopho babo empeleni bulwa nezinguquko zobuchopho evamile ukulutha. Amasayithi okubuyisa ama-Porn aphuma kuwo wonke amaWebhu.
Nali iphuzu eliyisihluthulelo: Iningi labantu alizisebenzisi kabi izinto ngoba azizizamanga, azitholi i-buzz eningi, noma lithola imiphumela iphindisela. Kepha ngubani ongathandi amaswidi noma ukuvuswa kocansi? Futhi ngubani ongakuthandi ukwelashwa okulingayo noma okubukwayo okuvusa umfutho-ikakhulukazi uma impendulo yenjabulo yengqondo yakhe iba ndikindiki ngenxa yokuvuselelwa ngokweqile? Ubuchopho bethu busengozini kakhulu kunalokho esikukholelwayo njengamanje.
Ngabe isisusa sisinikele engozini yokushiya ngokweqile?
Ingozi ihlala lapho kukhona okuthile:
- irejista njengenguqulo "ebaluleke kakhulu" yento okhokho bethu (nathi) evele ngayo ukuze sithole engenakuphikiswa,
- itholakale ngokuzenzekelayo ekunikezeni okungenamkhawulo (okungatholakali emvelweni),
- iza ngezinhlobo eziningi (ubuhle), futhi
- sidla ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuthi kubangela izinguquko zobuchopho.
Njengoba sibonile, ukudla okungenamsoco kufanelana nale modeli. Kanjalo futhi izithombe ze-intanethi zamahhala. Noma kunjalo i-porn ibeka izingozi ezihlukile. Ukudla kubeka imingcele ekusetshenzisweni: umthamo wesisu kanye nokwenyanya okungokwemvelo okukhahlela lapho singasakwazi ukubhekana nokulunywa okuthile. Kepha kukhona cha imingcele ebonakalayo ekusetshenzisweni kocansi kwe-Intanethi, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokulala nezindawo zokugezela. Umuntu angakwazi “ukunqumela” ukuya ocansini amahora amaningi ngaphandle kokuvuthwa ngaphandle kokukhathala noma ukuphika ukukhahlela… amahora wokugqugquzela okuphezulu kakhulu kwe-neurochemical kwezinqubo zokudla zobuchopho. Ukuchofoza ngakunye kuvidiyo yenoveli “iphula izilindelo zethu”Ngento entsha nejabulisayo, ikhipha i-dopamine eyengeziwe ebuchosheni.
Ukuvuswa okunamandla kukhiqiza i-buzz ethokozisayo ngokwengeziwe yamakhemikhali ezinzwa kunekhekhe le-khekhe-lelo eliqinisa kakhulu. Lokho wukuthi, izingcingo zihlanganisa ngokuphelele zonke izinkomba ezihambisanayo, okwenza ukuphindaphinda kwesipiliyoni ngokuzayo kube ngokuzenzakalelayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn esindayo kwesinye isikhathi kuyakudumaza okomsebenzisi ukuphishekela ukuxhumana okunobungane nabanye, okungasiza ukulawula ubuchopho ngokwemvelo. Okunye futhi okungekho yizinto ezake zavikela okhokho bethu ekuvuseleleni ngokweqile. Abekho abantu abashade nabo abanomona, abadala abahlakaniphile, noma ama-social taboos, futhi imvamisa abekho abalingani bobulili nemibono yabo. Ukusetshenziswa kocansi kubonakala kungeyona ingozi ngoba kuyimfihlo futhi kuyabonakala.
Maye, hhayi nje iningi lethu elingazi ukuthi izinto zanamuhla ezivuselela ucansi ezingabeka ubuchopho bethu engcupheni yezinguquko ezihambisana nokulutha, siphikisana nememe enamandla esikweni lanamuhla. Imemezela ukuthi, "Noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuziphatha okhuthaza i-orgasm ngokwemvelo lunempilo kangangoba kufanele sibuphike ngokuqinile ubufakazi obukhulayo bezingozi ezitholakala ekufinyeleleni okungenamkhawulo kuzinkolelo zanamuhla zocansi."
Ingabe lokhu ukucabanga okunengqondo? Uma ubuchopho bethu buguquke ukuze busiqhubele ekudleni nasebulilini, akufanele yini ukuthi siqaphele kakhulu ngokuzigcwalisa ngezinhlobo zazo ezikhuthaza kakhulu? Kakade, “cishe abantu abayi-17% ababuka izithombe ezingcolile kwi-Intanethi bahlangabezana nemibandela yokuphoqeleka ngokocansi. Lokho kuhumusha kubantu abaningi, uma kubhekwa ukuthi cishe u-12% wabo bonke abantu abasebenzisa i-Inthanethi bangama-porn futhi cishe ama-90% wabantu besilisa abasebasha (cishe ama-30% wabantu besifazane abasebasha) babuka izithombe zocansi, ”kusho UProfesa Steven C. Hayes.
Ubuchopho obusakhulayo buhambisana ne-Porns Highspeed Inthanethi (i-2013) (isigamu sehora-nesethulo ngesimo socansi kanye nengqondo yobudala)
Okushiwo okuvela emaforamu
Sika izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kodwa manje zibuka njalo i-OKcupid ne-Facebook izithombe
Konke kuyi-SFW, kepha ngiyabona ukuthi ngenza amaphethini afanayo. Ngizoba namathebhu angama-30 avulekile wamaphrofayela e-OKcupid. Kodwa-ke, angivuswanga ngisho nokuvuswa. Nginomlutha nje wobusha, ukujaha. Lokhu kunzima kunokuba bengicabanga.
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/12fteg/pornography_and_libido/
Ngokweqiniso angizifaki kangako futhi ngingahamba amasonto ambalwa ngaphandle kokucabanga ngakho. Angikhathazi ngabesifazane, noma nginezinkinga ngokukhathazeka, kepha into engishaye kakhulu kwaba nomphumela ongaba khona ku-libido yami kanye nengozi ye-ED. Ngikhathazekile ngokweqile ku "porn" ... kuze kube seqophelweni lokuthi nginezinkinga zokukuchaza. yini i-porn? Ngiyayazi ividiyo yayo kodwa ngabe izithombe zisabalwa? akukho mzimba oye wazitholela izithombe kusukela ku-1993. Ngipheqa ama-nudes, ubuciko noma okunye, ku-reddit ne-tumblr njengama-imeyili amaningi kakhulu.
ngakho-ke ngicabanga ukuthi umbuzo wami wukuthi ukungafuni ukwenza izinto ezilula ukubona ama-nudes / izenzo zocansi kubulala i-libido yakho? noma ingabe ukusebenzisa lezozinto nsukuzonke njengendlela yokwenza iziphakamiso zakho kukulahlekelwa isithakazelo ezintweni zangempela? noma kunjalo ngicabange ukuthi ngizothatha isibhamu kungabikho inyanga ye-fap bese ngibona ukuthi kuhamba kanjani ..
Leli cala selike lenziwa phambilini ezinkundleni zokulalelwa kwamacala ezigele kanye nasezithangamini zobuKrestu futhi livame ukuqoqwa njengabantu abethusa kakhulu. Impikiswano eyinhloko engizwile ukuthi kungani i-porn ye-intanethi yimbi kakhulu kunezidakamizwa notshwala ukuthi ngokungafani nezinto ezingasuswa emzimbeni wakho, izithombe ezingcolile azishiyi ingqondo yakho. Kodwa-ke, ngikholelwa ukuthi i-porn ye-intanethi yimbi kakhulu ngezizathu ezingcono kune "kukunika izinkumbulo ezimbi". Ngakho-ke ngaphandle kokuqhubeka kwe-ado nazi izizathu zami zokuthi kungani ngicabanga ukuthi i-inthanethi ye-porn ibi kakhulu kunezidakamizwa noma utshwala.
1. ANONYMITY EPHELELE. Lapho umlutha wezidakamizwa ehlaselwa yisifiso esingenakunqandeka kunezinto eziningana okufanele azenze ukuze alungiselele ukuthi umlutha wezocansi we-intanethi akudingeki akwenze. Umlutha wezidakamizwa kufanele empeleni ashiye lapho ahlala khona athenge izidakamizwa noma utshwala kumthengisi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukuze kulungiswe umuntu othile kufanele ambone ekuzamela esidlangalaleni.
Kukhona ingozi yokuvezwa komphakathi ukuthi umlutha wotshwala nezidakamizwa ubhekene nomlutha wezocansi we-intanethi. Qaphela ngithe umlutha we-porn we-inthanethi. I-Porn ku-VHS noma i-DVD noma kumamagazini ayifani ne-porn yanamuhla ngoba kusamele uphumele emphakathini uyithenge. Lapho umlutha esekulungele ukukhahlela umkhuba wakhe, ukumasha okuyihlazo okuya kumthengisi, ingozi yokuchayeka emphakathini iba yisivikelo. Ngisho nokuthenga i-porn ngekhadi lesikweletu kunengozi yokuchayeka emphakathini okukhona namuhla okuyi-porn ye-inthanethi.2. IMALI. Uma ukhuluma ngokuthenga, umkhuba wakho mubi kakhulu njengoba neholo lakho lihle uma kukhulunywa ngezidakamizwa noma ngotshwala. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu imilutha yezidakamizwa aziwa ngokuthengisa imindeni yabo ebugqilini ukuze nje bathole lokho okulandelayo. I-porn ye-Intanethi kepha i-100% mahhala. Impela kukhona amasayithi akhokhelwayo laphaya, kepha ngawo wonke amasayithi amashubhu nezifufula kuphela isilima esizokhokha imali yokubuka i-porn kulezi zinsuku. Abanye bethu bangazizwa sinokulawula imikhuba yethu ukwedlula umlutha wezidakamizwa ngoba asenzi ubugebengu ukuze silungise. Kepha, ake ucabange ukuthi ngabe uhulumeni wenza i-porn ingekho emthethweni, futhi waxosha zonke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwi-intanethi. Bangaki kithi abangathengisa omama ifenisha yethu ukuze babone isigcawu esisodwa lapho leso sifiso ungafuni ukuthi sikushaye?
3. IZIMPAHLA. Akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi umlutha wezidakamizwa noma isidakwa kufanele abe nobuso ubuso nobuso ukuze alungise, futhi unenani elilinganiselwe labaphakeli. Uhlala ehlaselwa ngamaphoyisa eyodwa, noma ukuwohloka kwamaloli okulethwa kude ne-huffing glue, noma ukuphuza ubhavu wobhavu. Umlutha we-porn we-inthanethi kepha unokunikezwa okungenamkhawulo kwesidakamizwa asithandayo ngenxa yobuningi be-intanethi uqobo. I-porn ye-Intanethi ayithengisi, ayilokothi idinge umazisi (ukubheka ukuthi yebo noma cha uma uneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-18 kuyihlaya), futhi akudingeki uphume endlini uyokuthola. Ngokungafani nomlutha we-meth, umlutha wezidakamizwa ze-intanethi uhlala endlini yakhe futhi unokunikezwa okungenamkhawulo, kwamahhala kwesidakamizwa sakhe, oh futhi akabonakali. Futhi uyazibuza ukuthi kungani uqhubeka ubuyela emuva.
4. ALIKHO IPHUTHA. Ngenkathi iphunga lesitho sangasese esingahlanjululwa lingangena egumbini lesidakamizwa se-inthanethi esinukayo ukuthi iphunga akusona inkomba yokusetshenziswa kocansi. Izidakwa, abanye abasebenzisi bezidakamizwa, ngisho nezinto ezibhemayo zikagwayi zikhipha iphunga elihlukile ngokungangabazeki elivela kumkhiqizo wazo. Okusho ukuthi ukuthola ukushaya kwabo ngaphandle kwanoma ngubani obonayo ukuthi bakwenzile neminye imilutha yohlobo lwabo noma bagibela ngaphansi kwebhuloho noma okuthile. Izidakamizwa ze-intanethi zingasebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa zabo ezinduduzo zamakhaya abo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokuthi zizobatshela ngephunga. Ungazizwa sengathi unenkinga enkulu yokufihla ukusebenzisa kwakho i-porn.
Kepha, umehluko ukuthi uma usuqedile akudingeki ukuthi uphume iminti, ufafaze i-air freshener, noma ugeze iphunga le-porn ezingutsheni zakho. Akukho phunga ukusetshenziswa kwe-intanethi okuvumela abantu bazi ngaphandle kwesithunzi sokungabaza ukuthi uwe futhi enqoleni futhi. Bangaki kithi abahamba ngebhayisikili nge-inthanethi ye-porn kuma-smartphones ethu ngenkathi amakhosikazi ethu noma izintombi zethu zilele eduze kwethu embhedeni, zinganakile esikwenzayo. Lokho kuwubukhazikhazi umuthi wezidakamizwa notshwala ongasoze waba nawo.5. AKUKHO ZINYANGO ZOKWANDLA KOMZIMBA. Manje ngiyazi ukuthi abanye benu abahlushwa i-porn eyenze u-ED kungenzeka ukuthi bayamemeza "ngekhanda lakhe! ”Okwamanje kodwa ngizwe. Ngokungafani nezidakamizwa notshwala, i-porn ayitholakali egazini noma emchameni wakho. Ngenkathi umhlukumezi wezidakamizwa notshwala enokwesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi wakhe noma imoto ngenxa yomkhuba wakhe, umsebenzisi we-porn, ngaphandle kokuthi abanjwe ukuyibuka ngezikhathi zomsebenzi, akumele akhathazeke ngalokhu. Ukushayela ngephutha kungadalwa yinoma yiziphi izizathu.
Kungenzeka ukuthi umshayeli ukhathele, noma isibhakela silwa nomgibeli wakhe, noma uzama ukuthumela imiyalezo ngenkathi eshayela. Kepha, lapho amaphoyisa emdonsa, amvivinye, abone ukuthi une-BAC ngaphezulu komkhawulo osemthethweni lapho eyeka khona impunzi. Ungahle uhlupheke nge-porn eyenziwe ngu-ED, kepha ngitshele ukuthi udokotela wakho angahlola kuphi lapho ezobuya khona athi "kahle ndodana kubukeka sengathi unezithombe ezingcolile emzimbeni wakho". Lutho neze. Cabanga ukuthi impilo yakho ibingaba njani uma i-porn ingalandelwa emchameni wakho noma ekuphefumuleni kwakho.6. AKUKHO UKUKHUNJULWA. Akubona bonke abahlukumeza izidakamizwa notshwala ababukeka njengabaxhaphazi bezidakamizwa notshwala. Kepha uma oneminyaka engama-26 ezacile enamazinyo angekho namehlo acwile ekutshele ukuthi ungumlutha we-meth, maningi amathuba okuthi ungamangali. Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa notshwala isikhathi eside kuyaziwa kushintsha indlela umsebenzisi wayo abukeka ngayo. Bangaki izindlovukazi ezithembisayo ezishaye izikhwebu ozibonile ezikuthuse ngendlela ezibukeka zimbi ngayo uma iqhathaniswa nendlela ebezibukeka ngayo. Manje cabanga ukuthi bangaki abasebenzisi be-inthanethi abanendaba efanayo. Ungakwazi yini ukukhetha umsebenzisi we-porn esixukwini? Ukuntshontshwa kwakho kubukeke kahle kungenye indlela yokuvikela umsebenzisi wezidakamizwa ukuthi amsize akhahle umkhuba wakhe ongasebenzisi i-internet porn.
7. UKWESABA UKUFA NGOKUSETSHENZISWA KWAKHO. Ngokungafani nomlutha wezidakamizwa noma wotshwala, ungazitika ngocansi lwe-intanethi ezinhlizweni zakho futhi ungalokothi ukhathazeke ngokufa ngokweqile. Ngisho ukuthi umuntu ophuza amanzi amaningi uzofa ngokushesha kunomlutha wezocansi ngosuku lonke lokuzitika. Ukwesaba ukufa kuyisisusa esihle kakhulu sokukhahlela umkhuba umsebenzisi wezidakamizwa notshwala lowo umsebenzisi we-porn angasoze abenawo. Impela abanye bazibulele noma abanye bafe ezingozini zemoto ngenxa yokubuka i-porn njengoba beshayela, kepha lezo yizimbangela zokufa ezingaqondile ngqo. Akekho umuntu oyoke athi “hhe wafika lapha mayelana noJohnny? Ushone ngokubuka amantombazane amaningi amakhulu ancancisiwe kukhompyutha yakhe. Ihlazo elingaka ”.
I-8. Akekho owaziyo okuphakeme kwakho. Ithiwa ukuthi i-dopamine egijimayo oyithola kwi-inthanethi ye-intanethi ifaniswa nokusebenzisa i-meth noma i-cocaine. Kodwa i-meth noma i-coke umlutha inesikhathi esithile lapho ngokusobala evuselelwe ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa zakhe. Okusho ukuthi umsebenzisi we-intanethi angayithola cishe noma ephezulu, futhi aqhubeke nokushayela i-forklift, afundise ekilasini, noma abe nengxoxo evamile ngaphandle kokuthola ukubukeka okubukeka. Ngokuqinisekile ungase ucindezeleke noma uhlasele, kodwa lokho kungabonakala kunoma iyiphi inombolo yezinto. Indoda ephuzile ayikwazi neze ukubiza ukudakwa kwayo ngenxa yokungalali ngokwanele, noma ngenxa yokuthi kukhona okuthile okudabukisayo.
Ngakho yilokho kuphela enginakho. Siyini isiphetho sakho konke lokhu? Yeka ukuzikhandla kanzima kuwe. Ubhekene nokulutha umlutha okungenazo noma yiziphi izivikelo zokukuvimba ekuqhubekeni ngokweqile njengezidakamizwa noma utshwala. Ngenkathi ungathola isikhuthazo kumuntu owayengumlutha wezidakamizwa ngokuthi ungawushaya kanjani umlutha, khumbula ukuthi usebenza ngendlela engaphezu kwalokho obekufanele akwenze. Njengemilutha ye-porn ye-inthanethi kufanele sisebenzise lezi zivikelo zemvelo ngokuziqambela. Futhi nakhona akufani. Ngakho-ke qhubeka ulwa, qhubeka uzama, futhi uyeke ukuzicabangela phansi.
Lapho ngifunda lokhu ngacabanga ukuthi: O nkosi yami, yilokho kanye engikwenzayo, futhi mhlawumbe lokho kuchaza ukuthi kungani ubuchopho bami buvalelwe kangaka engingabutholi noma ngibugcine ubudlelwane obuhle. Ngicabanga ukuthi ibha yami ibekwe phezulu ngokungenangqondo ngoba ngijwayele ukubona izinkulungwane zabesifazane abanqunu (futhi imvamisa beheha) njalo ngesonto! Ngingamthola kanjani owesifazane ongokoqobo onezingubo zokuthi ngubani ongaqhudelana (endaweni yamakhemikhali obuchopho) nomlutha wami wezocansi?!
I-GUY 2)
Lesi yisilinganiso esihle esivela kuMayer. Impela ngiyakuqonda lokho. Kuyethusa ukuthi ushesha kangakanani ukubhoreka ngentombazane eshisayo ongayithola ku-Intanethi, bese uzama ukuyithola ishisa ngisho nangaphezulu. Mhlawumbe ngichithe amasonto noma izinyanga zokuphila kwami ngifuna intombazane elandelayo eshisayo engizoqeda ngayo. Ngibambezeleke emsebenzini, ngiphuzile ukufika ezinsukwini, ngiphuze ukufika ngesikhathi ngithatha abantu lapho bengithembele kimi… ngoba nje bengifuna ukubona amantombazane ambalwa ashisayo.
I-GUY 3)
Kuyiqiniso. Kuyethusa impela ukuthi ngingaqala kanjani ukufafaza futhi kungazelelwe kudlule ihora noma amabili futhi ngisahleli lapho ngichofoza njengomuntu ohlanyayo.
I-GUY 4)
Siyabonga ngokucaphuna. Kusasa kuyoba ngesonto kimi futhi ngizizwa kangcono kakhulu.
I-GUY 5)
Ngiyakwazi ukukhuluma mina ngokwami, kodwa ngezinsuku ezingu-18 kuphela kule nselele engingakusho ukuthi i-PMO ingakwazi futhi izochitha ubudlelwane uma uyivumela. Nginenhlanhla yokuba nomfazi onjalo owedlula kakhulu, futhi ngisho nangemva kweminyaka engaphezu kwengu-10 yomshado kanye nezingane ezimbili uye wagcina lowo mzimba ofanayo, ubuningi, ingqondo ebukhali, nomoya ovuthayo engangiwuthanda kuqala eminyakeni eyishumi edlule.
Kodwa ukuhlukunyezwa kwami kwe-PMO kwakuqala ukungenza INkinga! Ngikhululekile, nginesivila, nginamahloni, futhi nginembile kakhulu ngokuqukethwe kwesikhashana ngasese ngedwa ne-PMO kunokuba ngibeke umzamo nokukhathalela yena nomndeni wami ngokufanele.
Ngenhlanhla, ngithole umthombo wenkinga YAMI ngaphambi kokuba kwenziwe umonakalo omkhulu ebuhlotsheni BETHU futhi manje sengiqala ukukulungisa kahle. Isibonelo le mpelasonto izosetshenziswa kususwe izingane thina sobabili ohambweni olufushane lwedolobha oluya eB & B yothando engiyitholile.
I-TL; i-DR; Ngiye ngaqala ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ye-MY shit futhi ngisebenza ngentshiseko ukuze ngikulungise!
I-GUY 6)
Wena usanda kuchaza mina, mfowethu. Lona uhlobo lwezinto ezingenayo ukungaqiniseki kwe-fap okudingeka zizwe: Amadoda langempela athatha umthwalo wemfanelo yengxenye yawo ezinkingeni zawo futhi abe ngumuntu okwanele ukwenza okuthile ngakho. Okuthunyelwe okumangalisayo.
(isiNgisi = isizwe)
Bengifuna ukuthumela lesi sipiliyoni. Bengilokhu ngifana ne-1/3 yonyaka (ngaphandle kokubuyela emuva kangako futhi uma, ngakho-ke kuvamile ukuba yisikhuthazo). Ngabe sengithola ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule ukusuka ku-ted (x).
Bengifuna ukufaka impikiswano engikubonile: Ngibonile ukuthi isekethe lomvuzo (i-RC) mhlawumbe libuye lenzelwe amandla yi-fap. Ngokuvuswa kocansi kusobala, okujule kakhulu = ukuzwela okuncane. Kepha, ukushaya indlwabu kukodwa (uma kuyi-PMO, kuyakhuliswa) (uma kukhulunywa kaningi bese kukhuliswa) imho ingashintsha ngandlela thile isekethe lomvuzo. Njengokuthi mhlawumbe kungafuneki. Isibonelo kusuka empilweni yangempela: izinto ezijwayelekile njengokulalela umculo wepiyano, ukudla amapentshisi noma ukuphuza itiye eliluhlaza - bengihlala ngibathanda. Kepha ngibonile, ukuthi ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule kutholakele ngandlela thile kakhulu kakhulu.
Namuhla sithole amapentshisi engadini yethu futhi ukuwadla bekufana 'ne-orgasm' (kusobala ukuthi ayiqine kangako) kepha ihlala isikhathi eside futhi ngokuqinisekile bekuyisenzo esingathandeki nje kepha sinikeze okuthile okwenziwa yi-orgasm. Noma ngithule kusihlwa - Bengihlala ngizazisa lezo zinto, kepha manje ngizwa ukuthi okuhle kakhulu phakathi kwabo.
TL; DR Imho lesi sizathu ngaphandle komhlangano wesifazane / ED / inkolo ye-nofap ekhokha ngempela.
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